STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE WIFE;THE HUSBAND AND THE BOSS
Please my BVs,help me Out.
I am a Mother of 3,i work with an Organisation, Hubby is Ok and does Uber once a while with his personal car.....
We recently got a New Boss and he invited I and Hubby 4 Dinner Friday Evening Hubby declined, saying he was going 2 be Busy and said i can go if i'm Up to it.
So i decided to ,let down my hair,Relax/ Wine/Dine.
Since it was Dinner(Evening Affair( i decided not 2 drive,so i went wit an Uber, Dinner was@ Eko Hotels/ Suites.
Honestly it was an Harmless Dinner, Guys remember he also invited Hubby Dearest.
During Dining we were gisting. Until i noticed it was pretty late,and took permission to leave, He told me not 2 book an Uber, that he met a Nice Uber driver/ he decided to keep the Uber driver as his personal Driver.
He sha called 4 his Uber ride and we went outside, we walked to the Car park,4 those who knows Eko hotel,the Carpark is a Distance from the Entrance,we were gisting and Laughing.
People Of God,wen we got 2 the Car,The UBER DRIVER IS HUBBY DEAREST!!!!!!
Hubby saw us when he stepped out from the Car to open the Door But HE ACTED as if he didnt know Me.was Dazed. Yes the Dinner was an Innocent Affair but how will You tell a Delta ,Benin Man that His Wife with another Man is Innocent.
While inside the Car,The Boss continued talking telling me How he enjoyed my Company and How i am quite different from the uptight person he knows from the Office.
I couldn't answer,in fact i Froze all thru and when we got 2 my Gate,he the Boss got down with me a good night Hug.
As i am typing this,since Friday night i have not spoken with Hubby,his phones are switched off.
As i am typing this,since Friday night i have not spoken with Hubby,his phones are switched off.
SHOULD I LEAVE THE HOUSE OR WAIT FOR HIM TO COME AND MEET ME AT HOME.
Shebi i should have kukuma stayed at home,when Hubby declined the Dinner invitation.
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Madam talk true,you gbensh your Boss? You gbensh am?????????
Madam talk true,you gbensh your Boss? You gbensh am?????????
Out of everyone for company na only you and your hubby new Boss see invite for Dinner?
Ya story get as e be oh..........
Ah....
Please pardon me if your chronicle was supposed to be posted today,i just had to post this one....
Stella if she gbenshed her boss she for talk nhaa...afterall she's anonymous. Anyway, how your hubby is acting is how most African men would react. Especially if your boss get money pass am. It's an ego thing...Just find a way and booste his ego when he eventually comes around. You can tell him your boss has body odour...etc. goodluck
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't you introduce your boss to your husband?
DeleteStella when I saw the dog I had to laugh........
DeletePoster na only you waka come?
If you are not guilty why the hell are you acting guilty?
Your story is not clear to me sha..............
You shouldn't have honoured that invite if your husband was not going to be there. If It was a gathering of all the staff, It is a different thing. Why would your boss single you out? You should have politely told him you have got plans with your family.
DeleteWhy will you be with your boss till that late? Does he not have a wife? That is how problems start o, go and explain to your husband, beg him and never make this mistake again. Let your boss leave you alone, nothing honest about his intentions. Do not use your hands to destroy your marriage.
To answer your question anon 15.51, she was ashamed of hubby.
DeletePoster shame on you, you know why you filled with guilt?because you were caught, otherwise you wouldn't be writing this stupid Chronicle.
Let me rest my case here..
You would have quickly settled this stuff there and there by greeting your hubby well.
DeleteYou see, your homefront where should be your sanctuary matters more o.
You would have flipped things instantly and screamed like you were happy to see your hubby and introduce them.
The squabble is left for them. At least the man won't be yarning trash in the car and hubby can't serve you any infidelity card else you flip it on him and change it for him.
But you see where your yeye playing along and acting you don't know him took you to?
Be wise women!
Every naija man will behave like him going by what you told up there.
Go back to that boss and tell him the truth. If it was really a harmless dinner, let him speak for you!
All the best
Hmmmmm office affair with married Nigeria women plenty pass single girls o.
DeleteHope u enjoyed d 4k? At least use that one hold body
How shocked can a married woman b to d point of skipping introducing her hubby? Where u ashemed of him?
Who knows,maybe Boss and Hubby had a bet on u,maybe and u fell with legs wild open 🤧🤧🤧🤧
Introduction or not ,madam what level of discussion did you have with your boss ?.
DeleteYour boss is a friend to his Uber driver your husband, did you know what your boss have told your husband?.
Sounds like set up to me. Boss is like a friend to Uber man, Boss most have mentioned his work place or could have gone to that office to pick Boss up
DeleteUber man could have said my wife works here, or my wife works with so so coy. It was so convenient for Uber husband to bail out on date but u quick change to brand new pant and matching bra to go let down your hair
Hunty Uncle Uber haf used your head to collect better money. 🤪
Anonymous 16.51, well said
DeleteThis babe made matters complicated by going alone when her hubby already declined the invite. Let's even assume she has to honour it bcos na her boss, she would have screamed out loud immediately she saw her hubby Uber driver and all those years talks in the car and the after hugs wouldn't have happened. There is definitely more to the story than she is telling us...
DeleteMadam, I have to say there’s something inherently wrong with your marital relationship. How does your husband become driver for your boss? Did you not tell him your new boss’s name? How could this kind of coincidence happen?
DeleteExcuse me oh, Ii don’t understand. How did This man get a job as a personal driver and not tell his wife? Giving her the impression that he’s doing regular Uber? .
He is the one that gave consent for you to go to the dinner.. you didn’t tel him where the dinner was gonna be? He didn’t tell you he was going to drive a personal passenger for the night?
Before we even start talking about the rest of the issues...
Madam if all what happened were to be reversed, would you believe your husband? Since your husband declined the offer, I don't know why you have to go to a dinner party that you're the only one invited among all your colleagues, I don't trust your chronicles
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
He kept your husband as his "personal driver" and your husband his boss is your boss too and two of una never mention the name of your boss..... Issa super story
DeleteWell I am not sure her family was the only one invited, if it is, she may be lying about her husband being invited too. I doubt someone interested in her would want her husband at a private dinner for two.
DeleteMadam, you did wrong by not acknowledging your husband. You made him sit through the flirting. I don’t know what will remind a man of his inadequacies faster than that. You may not have responded positively during the conversation with your boss in the car, but anyone could argue that that was only because you had company.
Ask your hubby for forgiveness, and don’t throw that line ‘but he invited you too’ at his face because that’s not the issue here.
Wait! He decided to keep hubby as his personal driver? I thought you said hubby works? Did hubby inform you that he's someone's personal driver and he'll be driving that someone that particular day/night to and fro to Eko Hotels?
DeleteIn my opinion You both need some questions and answers session.
I dont think your hubby will feel too bad if the discussion was professional and not... Come and tell us the truth, how will your hubby get so angry? If your hubby pretended not to know you. Why dint you say something? I cant see my hubby and form not knowing him, it cant even happen.
DeletePoster-you shouldn't have honoured the invite by your boss when your husband said he wasn't going.
DeletePoster- you allowed your husband sit through the flirting and praises from your boss to you whilst your husband drove you like a driver bah?
It's okay, you better pray that this👆👆 up here doesn't break your home because trust has been breached.
If I was the poster, immediately I saw the Uber guy is my husband, I’ll immediately introduce him to my boss at least that will help kill any negative thought your hubby had. You would have pumped your husband ego in front of your boss immediately. Your husband acted like he doesn’t know you and you also played along that not nice madam!
DeleteThis is the problem with being with someone who you're not proud of certain features. Many years back, someone l once dated mentioned adding Uber driving to his formal work and in this case using my own car oh. I didn't like the idea cos of circumstances like this. Will I be proud to still introduce him as my BF? Thank God the plan never saw the light of day. In life, there's a stage for everything... If this madam knew she wasn't really proud of Hubby's involvement in Uber driving, she should probably have supported him through other means like encouraging him to rather get a person who'd drive the car for Uber and not him. Don't get me wrong. All l'm saying is she didn't have to wait for this unpleasant reality check before taking a wiser decision. I doubt she cheated with her boss. What just played off was ego 'the unpleasant feeling of her boss having to discover that her hubby is a Uber driver' considering how dignified she must have carried herself at work. I feel for her though. May God give you and yours the wisdom to handle this situation. As for me, I make sure I don't extend friendships with potential guys that will tell me stuff like "they want to drive for Uber tomorrow..." There's dignity in labour but personally, as my man, I can't be proud of you in that line. At this stage, I expect you to be doing more tangible/strategic business deslings. Oil will find it's level so will water. My two cents...
DeleteGod bless you @10:13
Delete@Anon 10:13,you have said it all.
DeleteBut you masef, why didn't you introduce him as your hubby? It's now looking like you ashamed of him. Even your hubby too no try...You see person with your wife and you could not MAN up immediately and tell the man 'Oh! I see you've met my wife' you kept quiet like coward
ReplyDeleteYes she should have introduce him. Guess that was what he was waiting for. Madam that is the problem o
DeleteShe was obviously ashamed of the husband being an uber driver, had it been she and the boss met the husband in a different scenario she would have joyfully done an introduction.
DeleteOh wow 😱
ReplyDeleteYou were dazed? Why did you not introduce him to your boss as your husband? What were you scared of? Are you ashamed of your hubby? Seems so to me 🤷🏿♀️
You say there quietly while your boss kind of flirted with you and you call it an innocent thing?
If you didn’t have an ulterior motive, maybe guilt over something you’d done, you’d have respected your hubby by telling your boss about him.
So poster what stopped you from immediately introducing your boss to your hubby or vice versa?
ReplyDeleteHow do you even accept an invitation to a private dinner with your boss without your husband being there???
Maka how na!!!!
Na you sabi because I don't know how joining and to start convincing your hubby that nothing happened, you too put yourself in his shoes.
Oh the boss even hugged you sef.. smh for you.
Truth is when he invited you both, and your hubby could not make it, you should have declined. What is done is done tho. Keep calling your husband. You can also try and call his friends or family, if they know his whereabouts. When you meet him physically, try explaining everything. Hopefully he understands. I suspect his ego is greatly bruised. Goodluck, cos you will need it.
ReplyDeleteHehehehehe... Awkward
ReplyDeletesuch a wonderful husband with top notch temperament. He's my role model. exactly what I'd have done .
ReplyDeleteSo your boss invited you and your hubby for sinner, your hubby declined and you went ahead because you never drink wine before abi you never eat goat meat before. Pls answer Stella's question up there. Did you gbenah him or you are having an affair with him. This your tory get as e be. I just pity your poor husband cos na one chance he enter so
ReplyDeleteDinner*
DeleteIt's a new boss. Some bosses do like meeting employees personally to access them .And family. But she should have introduce them to each other. I guess she had something in her mind.
Delete@Modella
DeleteThat word "sinner" is apt, that is the description of what she was invited for.
*assess
DeleteIf the uber driver hasn't been ur hubby u wouldn't be sent dis story..if truly u re innocent u could have shown ur woman part by hugging ur hubby n doing a sharp intro to ur so call boss even wen ur hubby was shocked to see u..wen u decided to go to d dinner did u later inform ur hubby u will be going after he declined his offer?..If not...something is fishy...inside life
DeleteWhy were u invited for dinner in d first place? What’s special abt u and ur hubby? Is ur boss single or married? If married why is he not winning n dining with his family?
ReplyDeleteNow to d gist, u saw ur husband n didnt deem it fit to introduce him to ur boss? What happened to “ honey ure here? Ha, meet my boss i told u about. We just finished was about heading home”? Ok madam u see ur husband u still get mind sitdown bk sit dey gist wit ur boss? U well at all? U even tk hug join? Madam this ur story just show say u nor rate us at all.
Lol... Maybe she has been forming big madam in d office, boasting that her husband is a millionaire that's why she couldn't introduce him to her boss. Or maybe she even told her boss that she is a divorcee.
DeleteLol your second paragraph is true. She for collect kiss join. Nawa for her na she fuck up
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 @ she for collect kiss join.
DeleteHmmmm...I say hmmm
ReplyDeleteYour husband really tried by keeping his cool and not interfering in the discussions.
ReplyDeleteIF it was a "harmless" dinner like you said,you should have introduced your hubby to your boss the very moment you saw he was the uber driver.
If I was your husband I might not really be pained by the whole dinner stuff but the thing that would get to me is you not introducing me to him.
Yes not introducing her hubby says volume.
DeleteI thought you said he invited you two which means he had the intention of meeting your hubby that’s if you are saying the truth. So what’s the big deal of saying sir this is my husband.
Your husband was the Uber driver and you had mind to ignore him, sit at the back,be gisting and laughing with another man. Something is wrong with you.
I can’t meet my husband anywhere and I will ignore him no matter how he looks or the situation we met. Everybody must know we belong to each other. You are not proud of him if you were you would have been so excited immediately you saw him that you will rush to his side and tell your boss meet my husband and even say let you escort him to drop off your boss.
I have no advice for you. Just keep calling and texting if you are saying the truth because the way you behaved will leave him with no other conclusion other than you slept with your boss.
You're a very bad woman with a traits of cheating. You brought this on yourself. Why not introduced the Uber driver as your husband when you saw him ?
ReplyDeleteI will send you away and back to your parents house for that singular act because there was more to it.
So he's been inviting all of you at work for a dinner at the hotel but yours was different right ?
Both you and your boss will end up gbenshing soonest or later.
Ashewo woman, better pack out before he comes and pack you out of the house through the window.
Nonsense.
Innocent dinner ko, 2face Idibia ni 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteCan you imagine the yeye woman o
DeleteWhy do I even feel u fucked ur boss??? Seriously if ur husband is his personal Uber, this might be a set up and u are a very useless woman that couldn’t introduce ur husband to him! Like who does that ? U have not told us the truth , so continue calling ur husband since u want to lie say u no fuck .. ur husband knows d truth already
DeleteYeah Anon, the husband know the truth about her sexcapade already.
DeleteI 0ray he send you packing.
Loose woman.
Why not immediately introduced UR husband?
ReplyDeleteWell,stella i don't think she has already slept with her boss,but i am sure her boss likes her and didn't know how to invite her out,hence he invited the couple ,but he was in luck since her hubby declined...the only fault here is that she should have declined too and called her boss that her husband was going to be busy that day and they should reschedule another dinner ...thinking of it,didnt her husband know she would be going for the dinner,and if he knew, didnt he know the location? So y act as if he didn't know her movement
ReplyDeleteI have a lot of questions:
Delete*Are you the only employee in the organisation? Why did your boss leave other employees at the "dinner table" and accompany you alone home?
*How did your hubby become his personal driver? I thought you said the uber thing is his side hustle?
*Did hubby tell you he's now a full time driver and would be at Eko Hotels at that particular time?
You two need to communicate more often. I really hope everything works out well for you.
Sandra am watching you with side eyes.... Do you mean this anon is the poster?
DeleteI had to drop my comment efire reading Stella's red pen
ReplyDeleteStop lying woman, you're a disgrace o your hard working husband.
I dey find your comment😂😂😂😂
DeleteLook well, I have two comments on this matter o. This is just the second one.
DeleteYour conscience is judging yoh thats why you're thinking of leaving the house. Is it not too early to be having dinner with your new boss?
ReplyDeleteAnyway I love your Hubby's reaction tho. His maturity is top notch. Continue going on dates with married men o. Na you sabi
Stella no she didn't gbensh. I had same experience. My husband boss female choose to dine with her staff one at a time. Though it's top management but she invited everyone each day with spouse. Just to know them personally. Why would you conclude such. This woman is just caught off guard. If it was a man would you say the same thing. Madam poster calm down and get to hubby. If you are sure you are innocent there is no too much talk here. After all you know your husband people don't take cheating easily.
ReplyDeleteI hope you will say the same thing if table turned.
DeleteStella please int swallow my first comment on this matter.
DeleteThis woman disrespected her husband and she need to be taught a hard lesson.
@ ladybird, she should have simply introduced her husband now or were they holding hands ni? The husband has every right to be upset.
DeleteAnother angle
DeleteOh please!!!
Delete1: she shouldn’t ve gone out alone in the first place, now she did with hubby’s consent n decided to dine n wine until it was late(married woman).
2: she was supposed to take a cab n rush home but no she waited for boss’ driver to arrive n take her home( oshofree)
3: now hubby is here, happens to be d said driver, she froze??? Wetin dey freeze her? She didn’t introduce her man, she had d effrontery to still sit at d back n gist with her boss? Did they add weed to d food she ate? Upon getting home madam accepted a “harmless “ goodnight hug from her boss in front of her hubby n went inside to wait for who exactly?
Im so pained like d man is my bro. Poster how old are u again???
@Ladybird banks.birdlover God bless you oo.Forward thinking companies do this alot to get to familiarize themselves with their staff.I know a few organizations who do this.It is not new at all.
DeleteAbeg,she was caught off guard.Beg your husband.End of story.Except your husband has had trust issues with you all along.Na you know your husband.you dont need us .(to each his own)
Chai... I am so so feeling bad for your hubby right now.. I'm trying to imagine how he would be feeling. Madam you crushed his ego.. such humiliation. Biko, if you have to beg to appease him please do.. If possible explain to your boss everything telling him he's your husband let him try to explain to your hubby that it was just an innocent dinner. Yes I believe you, but no man will take that thing you did lightly Innocent dinner or not. Its all shades of wrong..
ReplyDeleteLol. Madam u wouldn't have gone in the first place since hubby said he will be busy. Ojukokoro is not good. It's good to have fun but you need to select the type of fun. Any man wouldn't be comfortable in that scenario. Apologise to him even if you think you are not at fault. A wise woman builds her home.
ReplyDeleteMake me too give you side eyes. Poster just prepare for the worst from your hubby.
ReplyDeletePoster poster poster! How many times have I called you? Come back and tell me is the whole story. There is more to what you've narrated up there.
ReplyDeletePoster this is what I think, your husband is a BV so you sent in this as a damage control knowing he would read. We are not stupid; there's more to this story. Come back and tell us the whole truth then we can collectively help you beg your husband. Stop playing on our intelligence here.
DeleteDon't mind her, there's more to this already.
Delete15:52, you get sense!
DeleteMarriage really has no manual, does it? Why did your hubby decline the dinner invite? This one he's phone has been switched off & he's not home, aren't you worried where he's sleeping? If he eventually comes home, what's the probability he'll listen to whatever you have to say? This matter get as e be.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand why you didn't introduce him as your husband
ReplyDeleteBut Madam you should have introduced your husband (the Uber driver) to your boss ASAP.
ReplyDeleteWhat was all that silence about?
Our men dey very difficult to convince on this kain matter especially after waiting this long before making attempts to address the issue.
You for do sharp intro for there, no time to say no time.
Well as e don be like this. This matter can only be fixed right from your office, by same boss. Let him tender his apology join. This is such an awkward situation.
Sometimes you may not know what your reaction will be, when you find yourself in a particular situation. So I won't blame you@poster. If he doesn't come home, go to his office and converse with him. If what you wrote here is the truth,I don't see any reason why you should feel guilty. Although you should have introduced him to your boss immediately. Please pray and God will direct you.
ReplyDeleteYou won't blame her but if you wouldn't be saying same if table turned.
DeleteNice try.
Judge I meant. Don blaming her won't change anything. She asked for solution not judgement.
DeleteEveryone please help me beg Stella to stop using this particular dog picture 😂. It makes me laugh too much.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, what stopped you from going over to hug your husband immediately after the moment of shock? You could have averted any impending trouble by hugging your hubby and introducing him to your Boss...
ReplyDeleteSo this woman want us to believe she does not know whom for and where the husband worked?
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of marriage is that one?
And you couldn't tell your boss that that man driving is your husband?
You were not proud to introduce your husband? Have you not denounce and denied your marriage?
Madam, if you do not resign from that job, you are going to have sex with your boss. And you will
end up not only lying to your husband but breaking your marriage.
Take this advice to the bank and cash it.
😏😏😏😏
Don't you think the husband knew this boss of his wife and wanted to find out something... Which was why he refused attending the dinner with the wife... Maybe he's been suspecting her and really wanted to find out the truth himself... And it could be the boss must have told him something also... We all know how most men behave... They can really talk😌😌😌 Ma'am if what you said up there is the truth... It is only God and that boss of yours that can save your marriage... This your story is a complicated one😟😟
ReplyDeleteYou have a point here.
DeleteYou should have said, oh boss, this is my husband!
ReplyDeleteWere u ashamed or what? Coz I'm still wondering why you didnt introduce them, dont tell me you were shocked into dumb mode, na lie.
Who knows what your boss will gist his "personal uber" aka your husband later on?
Maybe you dont respect your husband, else u could gave said ,"boss, my husband n I couldn't make it to d dinner" but no, gbazaqueen mode ti take over.
Thank you, who knows what the man discussed with the Uber driver fye4 dropping her off at home.
DeleteThe husband has gotten more information about her wife lifestyle at the office from the boss.
Ah!madam nawao!even if you’re innocent of gbenshing what abt introducing ur hubby to your oga and tell him ur hubby does Uber sometimes,e get as ur story be o
ReplyDeleteYou jst kept quiet,why?say ur oga go sack you or hubby will deny you,or what sef
If i were you, i would have jumped on my hubby and introduced him straight to my boos and explain the reason we couldnt come together and that your my hubby does Uber as a side job, so it will make you look transparent. but not talking or introducing your hubby looks akward to be honest. just tell your boss everything maybe he can talk to your hubby on your behalf
ReplyDeleteI need to understand why you couldn't introduce him to your hubby?
ReplyDeleteAre you ashamed of the man that you married?
He gave you a goodnight smoochy doochy hug because you are not as uptight as some people in the office??
Do you enjoy being married& living single?
Please do better next time..
Chizzy J...
The man never wanted to go,so she might not know how to introduce him since the husband was avoiding the invite,maybe she told the boss that her husband was busy or some other things to avoid making her boss feel that the invite didn't go well with them and then behold the man
ReplyDeleteThis is a stupid excuse..
DeleteWhat stop6her from introducing the man immediately ? There's more to this, this woman is wayward, God just want to revealed your true identity to your husband.
She was in the same car with him and the husband was driving but couldn't tell her boss anything.
Her waywardness is inbuilt.
DON please take it easy on the poster. The thing is paining you more than her husband 😂😂😂😂😂😂 sorry I have to laugh.
DeleteBut the husband was truly busy na, he was busy making money. Abi how else is one busy?
DeleteIt's really paining Don. Just be calm ok. The poster was so wrong not to have introduced her husband, I pray they sort themselves out. Abeg weather is so hot, that's my own concern.
DeleteMadam you made a big mistake by not introducing your husband to your boss immediately. It would seem to your hubby like you are ashamed of him because oga boss get money pass am. His ego is bruised badly
ReplyDeleteMadam posters na you do yourself, you should have introduced the UBER driver as your husband.
ReplyDeleteIt won't change anything and your boss will accord you both your respect and not even get into the car with you. If I were that is what I would have done and save myself issues especially if you had had nothing romantic with your boss.
Madam you should have introduced your husband to your boss immediately he came.
ReplyDeleteI put it up to you that you want to have many more dinner with your boss, that is the reason why you didn't say he is my husband.
Put yourself in your husband's shoe, if you are the one what will your reaction be after all the conversation without your introducing him as your husband? Why did you accepted the invitation without your it husband if you had no evil intentions?
This is a complicated issue. However, in an attempt to solve it you have to look for a way to getting your boss to get across to him since he's is personal driver like you said. Let him tell him the truth if you are innocent. If you are not innocent then, here comes reasons for him leaving the house. In such culture, like this sides he's from just as mine. The very day we know you have extra affairs and didn't take this step, and you cook with such money for us men, we are dead. So for his life he ran away. Period
ReplyDeletePut yourself in your husband's shoes . If na you,how will you feel?
ReplyDeleteNext time your husband cant make it to a dinner like this decline and reschedule ..Let your husband calm down then find a way to reach out to him lol apologise.
Please i think your boss has to know that was your husband,it would feel like deceit if he finds out
What sort of stupid story is this!! So you chose your boss over your husband !! Why didn’t you just say Sir this is my husband ! The moment you saw him !! Or introduced your husband to him inside the car! Madam you are a cheat please
ReplyDeleteThe truth is your boss have had a conversation with you husband after that event,in your own words your boss have a nice Uber driver as a friend.dont be surprised you may not be the first female your husband have picked up or drop off for you boss.
ReplyDeleteBasket mouth don open he mouth .if you know you know.
I really got upset reading your narrative which is usually uncharacteristic of me. Darling, have you no concept of boundaries? Are you that naive?
ReplyDeletePerception trumps reality, once a wrong notion is perceived, it really doesn't matter if it's true or not, it festers and forms a life of it's own. Sweetheart, do you even realise the impression you gave your boss, showing up in spite of your hubby's absence and acting that familiar? A boss who leans in to hug a married staff he barely knows, is a boss with zero respect for boundaries or a boss trying to see how far a potential "target" is willing to go. You shouldn't have accepted the hug either. Your boss saying he enjoyed your company unlike the other uptight person he knows from the office is so unprofessional. Were you hired for the pleasure of your company? Next thing you know, he will be asking you to meet him at his private hotel suite, just to hang out because he had a nice time with you the other night.
Since the original invitation was for you and hubby, your boss should understand if you call to cancel because hubby wouldn't be available. Rescheduling would have been a better option. Your subconscious mind knows you misstepped, hence the apprehension. Why should you be worried whether or not you should stay at home and wait for your man or leave the house? Where else are you supposed to be? Shouldn't you be the one waiting anxiously for him to return so you can ask him why he acted like you were a stranger? But your conscience wouldn't allow you, would it?Who do they say runs when nobody pursues? There you go!
When your hubby pulled up, the normal reaction, if no ulterior motives were already brewing in your mind, is for you to be like " baby(or whatever way you address him), what a coincidence! Apparently, you were meant to meet by boss after all" Then you introduce your boss to your hubby. You sit in front with your hubby and your boss sits behide while you all chat. If that had happened, something tells me the discussion would have taken a different route and he would have been more stingy with his ridiculous "goodnight hugs". As it were, you were chauffeur driven by your hubby while you and your boss sat comfortably behind, giggling amidst needless platitudes.
By now you should know how to push your hubby buttons the right way that will ease the anger and get you guys on the right track again. I would tread carefully with that boss of yours, if I were you.
e-hugs and kisses.
@Ronalda... you sabi something jare
DeletePoster, I think you have accessed the matter well enough by acknowledging you should have declined the invite in the first place if your husband wasn't available. Even after going and the events unfolded as it did, your greatest error was not introducing your husband immediately you saw him. Why? Shame? Confusion?
ReplyDeleteSo giving you the benefit of the doubt that you may have no impure intentions, and just made a genuine confused mistake, I suggest you continue trying to reach your husband, while at it, speak with your boss and explain everything, seek his assistance to speak with your husband (as they have a working relationship of sorts too) and explain no harm meant & that it was a foolish error on your part. I don't think you should involve family yet, for you've gnawed at his ego a bit too much already, so tread circumspectly. My thoughts.
You could have made an introduction there and then, you have to call those your husband respects and hold in high esteem, explain what happened to them and tell them to help beg and talk to your husband even if it means bringing your boss into the know too.
ReplyDeleteCommit his heart into God's hand too. Ire o
OMG! Who knows what your boss must have said to your hubby when they are alone, especially if he really wants an affair with you? You know how some men like to embellish their encounters with women so other men can see them like super studs. Honey, I pray this doesn't get more convoluted than it already is. We are here scolding you for your actions and inactions, who knows the tales your boss may be telling your hubby, not knowing his true identity?
ReplyDeleteThis has the potential to get really messy because your actions have just robbed you of any credibility. Your boss can even tell your hubby that you are his side piece and all the naughty intentions he has in mind for you and your hubby will believe him. A lot of men confide in their chauffeurs because they need them to cover their lascivious asses. Awww! Suddenly my anger has turned to pity. I feel bad for you now.😕😕😕😕😕
There's possibility that the Uber guy has been help the man picking and dropping several other women before now.
DeleteThis is what happens when you marry a woman that is olojukokoro, that can’t say no to freebies. Dear poster, do you think we are dumb? So even when you were in the car , you couldn’t say anything about your boss wife? and how you will like your boss and his wife to meet you and your husband? Just to send the right signal to your husband...talk true, you sef no go mind to chop your boss and clean mouth. Stop doing yeye innocent mind!
ReplyDeleteGoing without your hubby is a very wrong idea. Moreover u are a married woman and should keep some boundaries. Staying late with a man, being so free with him, is overly wrong. Abeg try to get some reservation.
ReplyDeleteStella this your dog action has summarize everything ooh
ReplyDeleteShe's my wife she knew I will declined.. That's why she acted as if I was invited too.. She was the only one invited.. I leave everything to God
ReplyDeleteLeave wetin to God, are you that stupid ??
DeleteThe husband is here ooo!
DeleteI'm very sorry for what you're going through.Please find a way to forgive her.
May God fix your marriage
Why are some people filled with blames back and forth how will it solve the situation??? Let’s move forward abeg. Why didn’t she do this or do that is she a spirit that knew that she would meet her husband and besides the guy invited her and the husband and the husband accepted that she can go alone because he want to work. Dear posted pls be patient send some messages telling him that is your boss we were talking about. But you messed up big time by not introducing both of them when you stepped out. It means you have probably developed feelings for your boss or you liked him already after that dinner. And it’s normal for your husband to react which is really bad. You messed up big time please remain in the house don’t make matters worse by leaving so that he won’t think you went back to that hotel. Please tell your boss you want to come with your husband and introduce both of them properly when he gets back it may be difficult at first but keep pleading with him and insisting that you’re Inncoent . That’s if really you’re Inncoent of what you explained to us. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteWelcome poster.
DeleteStella and BVs,Now You guys are making me feel SO Bad.
ReplyDeleteHONEST it was Harmless Dinner Date,
I was Shocked,I was Scared,I just Felt Guilty ,Why I Honestly cant say,Yes I should have Introduced Hubby to the Boss,I was Simply Scared,All i wanted to do was Disappear and Keeping Quiet was my Best Option.I didnt Think i will see Hubby there,
I have been Married for 15years and I HAVE never looked @ any Man Sexually.
For Why The Boss Invited Us,He is A new Boss and He has been inviting each Staff( Family) for Dinner/ when i said Uptight( He said " You are different tonight from the Uptight Person I normally see in the Office)
I Love and Respect my Husband.I was like" a Deer caught in a Speeding Car Headlight" I was Confused.
If People that do not Know me can Judge me wrongly,Now i have an idea Why my Husband is Upset.
I am not a Saint but I can Beat my Chest and Say I am not A CHEAT. I HONESTLY didnt have any intention to Cheat with my Boss or any Man,
Haven't any One been in a Very Confused State Before???
My Husband's Phones are still Switched off,i have called HR to get Permission to stay Home for a Week,
This Incidence and Reading Comments has Made me Sworn never to Assume,judge or talk about things i have no ideas about.
PS!! When i said should i move out,it is because i am Scared of whatever outcome and to think that I am an Introvert, i like my own Company and the 1st time i decided to come out of my Shell, My world feeling like its Crashing.
For the Love of God,i feel like im Drowning. Many thots are going through my Head,i am Innocent,Why is No one Listening to Me,Why am i been Judged for A single Mistake of going out Alone after 15years of been Married??
Pls guys Life has White,Black and shade of Grey.
I Wish with all My Heart that i didn't go out,I wish I can Turn back the Hands of Time. I wish My Husband will come Home,so we can talk. I wish this Incidence is a Dream that i can Wake up from.
Kiaaaaaaa if Someone had told me that on Friday 21st of February 2020,My Life that i had Known will change,i would have Rejected It and Called the Person a Witch.
I made a Mistake but The Mistake wasn't Cheating or Intention of Cheating!!!!!!
I am replying using my ID because I don't want people to assume the poster replied herself. I totally get you. Even before reading this comment of yours, I believed you. Unfortunately we live in a world that is so wicked and corrupt that is making almost everyone think the worse of you.
DeleteI have also been in situations where I have been stupefied and unable to react the way I should have.
Maybe you should consider sending an email to your husband explaining your side of the story. You should also consider explaining to your boss maybe he can reach out to your husband to clear things out. However, before doing any of these things, get on your knees and pray to Heavenly Father. He who sees our hearts and actions. He who is the righteous judge and our everlasting help. His love now surrounds and He will inspire you, direct you and help you out of this situation. Much love sis.
Everything's gon be alright. Just look for your husband, explain things to him and apologise.
DeleteHopefully, he'll understand and forgive. 🤗🤗
Poster, it is well. Don't mind all the accusing fingers. Find a way to reach out to your husband and pray. God sees your heart. Please don't let it affect your sanity and your job.
DeleteLol! Copy this link and send to him.
ReplyDeleteInclude an apology note and let him know you can swear by anything to prove your innocence
You had no business attending that dinner without your hubby. At the point you saw that your husband was the uber driver he called, you should have at least respected your hubby by introducing him.
ReplyDeleteYou have to apologise to him and find a way to make peace.
I would have introduced both of them there and then
ReplyDeleteLies but not to judge you some times we need to give people benefit of the doubt go and son no more
ReplyDeleteAccording to the book of Proverbs"My son, if sinners entice you, consent thou not" Flee from every appearance of evil!
ReplyDeleteYou guys had more than just dinner, hence the guilt. Nothing stopped you from introducing your husband if it was indeed an innocent dinner. I also believe your husband wasn’t invited but you only told him so he wouldn’t be suspicious 😒. Your husband knew what he was doing, that’s why he kept muted through out the drive, so he can confirm his suspicions. You were too surprised to introduce your husband, seriously 😒 story for the gods ni 😆 I hope your husband forgives you for the very selfish, evil, promiscuous and stupid act. If you’re Indeed innocent, why do you want to move out of the house? Ashawo kobo kobo, and you think your boss will take you serious, easy come, easy go .
ReplyDeleteLies not to judge you go and sin no more
ReplyDeletemadam your hands are not clean if not i see no reason why u wouldnt acknowledge ur husband on the spot. goodluck to u
ReplyDeleteI won’t be surprised if u didn’t sleep with the guy or he didn’t touch u, ur number one error is honouring the invitation when ur husband wasn’t going! How do u know this was not planned by ur boss nd husband??? Maybe they know each other and didn’t tell u! U stil pretended like u didn’t know ur husband inside the taxi, haba! Since ur husband is Benin, they have tradition ooo, u go beg
ReplyDeleteEverybody is asking why she didn't introduce them immediately. Why did her husband pretend like he didn't know her. He denied her first now. They both denied themselves. To me her offence is allowing the boss to ride back with her and maybe allowing him to hug her. Unless,this isn't the whole story. Poster, sha find your husband and sort it out.
ReplyDeleteAbi o. Why did the husband pretend not to know her too? Poster I believe you. May God help you make it right. May God also soften your husband's heart and help him see the truth.
DeleteWere you ashamed to introduce him to your boss/ his boss? Just maybe, he would have thought of you differently, but having not done that, even if you’re innocent, it could send a negative vibe. Best of luck though.
ReplyDeleteYour husband said he wasn't going, and you decided to go alone, without persuasion. You didn't act with wisdom madam. He set a trap for you, and you fell for it. May God teach you what to do oh. Na all these small small matter dey break home.
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