However,you find some couples coming back together after the deep hurt and betrayals dished out.....
What prompts these people to come back together (nothing like come back apart .lol)? love?pressure?understanding or material gain on one part?.or the kids (if there are any)
Are you one of those who came back together with an ex?Did it work out or did you both split again?
I know a couple who are divorced but they are still sleeping with each other and hiding like they are doing something wrong..
Tell us why you went back.....
Lets gist!!!
The Ex i dated back then in uniben called me just yesterday here, infact he practically call me everyday. this was someone that left me because i borrowed him 15k before going for nysc and when i told him to pay, oga blocked me everywhere. A guy i dated 4 years oo in school. he kept texting me that i am the best thing that have happened to him. after 5 years, oga is yet to get a calm cool and honest babe like me.
ReplyDeleteomo i told him am engaged. stupid guy. i know that he cnt get a lady that will swallow all those his big big lies. stella i have one believe, i cnt never go back to my vomit(ex). never. forward ever biko.
Stella they are divorced so it is wrong.
DeleteYou should have asked him to refund your money first before letting him know of your intention.
DeleteSweetie that man doesn't want you. He came back for more money or to see if he could still smash again just to boost his ego. No hard feelings. I'm happy you've moved on though. When an ex comes you must examine the way they left,why they left and why they are coming back to avoid falling into trap.
Deletepeople only go back to their EXS when they finally find out that the other side is not really greener.
ReplyDeletethey would want to come back.
It's not always true. My ex who upped and semi ghosted me, is back after 2 years. I said semi because he would take calls but what is the matter? He just kept saying nothing but was there when I needed him but never physically. He has this twisted idea of what happened which I find really funny. For me, I just want to be friends honestly because I have moved on or so I think.
DeleteIn the past, when I got tired of relationships I just became distant till the other person got the message. I would go back if the person comes back after a while just because I didn't want to deal with totally new persons. This has happened twice till I met this one. He told me to stop recycling relationships and that even if we broke up, I shouldn't accept him back. We are now here and he has forgotten his little advice. 😀😀😀
I don’t ever go back to my ex’s. I take my time, take a lot of shit.
ReplyDeleteI am very patient too as no one is perfect. The moment I make up my mind to leave, I am gone for good.
You and me both. I ve never gone back to an ex, being cordial is even a stretch for me but i'm trying now.
DeleteSimple, why go back to an ex? The very thing that caused the breakup will rear up its ugly head sooner or later.
DeleteIts only when u can't get someone better, you fall back.
So me
DeleteSame here @ slutty. I give quite a long rope and 2nd chances. When I’m done, I don’t look back.
DeleteFor most Nigerian women pitiably it is economic pressure and the kids. It is usually advisable not to make the breakup messy because you may come back to that mess. Do not insult and disgrace the father of your kids and vice versa.
ReplyDeleteI know one that just came back here in the States. She broke off, insulted the man, filed the case etc. with shared custody. She spend a whole year enjoying what she thought was life. I just met them yesterday, herself and husband chatting like teenagers on heat. Thank God we never took sides while the fracas and midnight fights and calling the cops were on. I made her understand that I will keep praying for them to come back together and thankfully they did.
A lot of Nigerian ladies here are deceived to divorce their husbands as a way to making it. I see a lot of them, 20s and 30s ladies looking 60s due to stress. Divorce is bad, no matter how they (Nigerian brand of "feminists") paint it.
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DeleteSo the women are stressed due to divorce? Na your type dey die on top man head. Peace of mind is priceless. If you are going to get that as a single, married or divorcee... by all means go for it!
14:44, I don't think 14:21 meant that women are entirely stressed because of divorce. Divorce can be really stressful and in the process of trying to punish your spouse (those who like to be vengeful) for causing you shame, people do a lot of things and say alot of nasty and thrashy things; that alone can stress one out.
DeleteThen trying to balance the sudden changes. When kids are involved, the stress triples.
And for the men and women who can't close their legs, rebounds can be another stress.
@14:44
DeleteAll the ladies I know that I mentioned that divorced and were stressed to old age were looking for that same peace of mind. No lady sets out in life to look for war of mind. In more cases than not that I know of, their motives for divorce is evil and greed. They get the house, the car etc. but still lack the peace. They don't have peace because they cheated a man out of his life toils by falsely accusing him usually of DV. you do not live in the States, you do not interact with these women. So do not jump into conclusions.
Another man I know became homeless due to this issue. The wife connived with her neighbor to testify that he was abusive. This her neighbor has not recovered from the guilt till date. And I happen to be her confidant. I won't go into details of how it is playing out.
Oh please shut it.
DeleteWhy shut someone up here. Why not make your own opinion. Everyone makes opinion on what she knows or experienced. If you are a divorce and want to defend it, this is not the forum.
DeleteAnon14:21, I refute your comments because this women who left according to you "divorced " does not know their bearing. If they know their worth and value the emotional and psychological health of their kids. They will not come back together because, according to you, "fracas and midnight fights and calling the cops", meaning the marriage was toxic.
DeleteAnon, before they can find the man guilty of DV and he became homeless, there must have been loads of police loggings, evidences and witnesses statement. They can not just find him guilty because of just one witness. Abeg!. Don't come and start saying them say,or someone said this and that here...
DeleteYou don't know legal system here.
As much as I love my ex,I know we can't be together. So I won't even try.
ReplyDeleteAS + AS things?
DeleteAbout my ex.. Hummmm, the break up wasn't a fight, she was done with nysc and wanted to marry asap, I pleaded with her to give me some time as am still building myself madam no gree oh she left and married a guy she was cheating on me with. Today they are seperated, while am married with a son. The last time we spoke I could feel the pain in her heart, I still love her though but cheating on my wife is not an option not even with her. According to her the domestic violence between then was bad to the point pastors were involved. I wish her all the best but a part of me is happy for what she is going through, stay with a guy with vision and grow with him NO they want already made.
ReplyDeleteStop conversing with her, bro!
DeleteI rarely use profanity but kindly FOH with your gloating over your ex. I dated a guy with the so called vision. He eventually married me, beat me, emotionally abused me. Even went as far as calling some random female friends he met 5 years into our marriage his family and choosing them over me when I fought him in bed with one of them.
DeleteThis is a man I loved and cherished before he had and Iron, before he had a TV not to talk of car. I married him without fanfare we had a child together. Hustled bought fridge, TV, car number 1 and cat number two. But that didn’t change the fact that he didn’t appreciate me.
Today I have bought a house me and our kid have dual citizenship and he’s telling me he is sorry.
All I can say is compatibility is key, if you think you bother better together than apart that means he or she must demonstrate they are sorry for whatever they did that made you walk away. I said demonstrate not use mouth or text message to beg cos talk is so cheap.
stay with a guy with vision yeh, yeh yeh. after staying u niggas will tell us to our faces that we were never your standard when the money start coming.
DeleteIf u don't stop entertaining her, you will slip up, mark my words, forget that "it's not an option talk", it's just a defense.
DeleteOya leave and go and marry already made na, no be by force haba.
DeletePerson wey go change to beast go change to beast,
With what you went through I can understand why you are bitter. She knew all the plans I had for us but she was not sure I'll achieve them because she couldn't see beyond her nose. Not every man will dump the woman that stood by him when he was struggling. I'm not in anyway in support of any man that puts his hand on a woman for whatever reason. You married a pig so you see all men as one, I'm sorry I can't help how you see men, that's your personal problem not mine.
Delete15:34 that last line was not necessary. Learn to season your words with some empathy. Anon 15:06 sorry you had to go through all that. Please and please actions not words, few people change. Keep your eyes open to know if his remorse is genuine. You sound like a good woman, who is still hurting. Peace
Delete@15:34 you were making sense until your last line. Loll. You may be old but you lack mental maturity. Pity.
DeleteAnony 15:34
DeleteDid you read her first two lines under my comment? She called for it.
@15:34...you seem like a gentleman but tone down a bit on the gloat. Yes you are right...not all men leave the women who stood by them...but it really hurts when they do.
DeleteWomen ooo when you are with a hustler pls continue to build, grow and beautiful yourselves...don't let yourself go, remain desirable, keep accepting attention.
And yes SOME MEN HAVE VISION AND ACTUALLY GROW THEM TO TANGIBLE OUTCOMES....
I'm not going anonymous on this. I got back with my husband after 10 months plus of separation.
ReplyDeleteBravo my dear. There's nothing to be ashamed of.
DeleteIf the issue can be resolved, resolve it and make peace.
I wish you peace and harmony in your home.
Mmmmkay, Nice one. If love is still then it is what it is. You re still anonymous tho. 😏
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteIs your name Anonymous? Nothing to be ashamed of though. People say hurtful things after breakup but that shouldn't stop your family b friends from understanding that you have feelings for your ex..I am sure they won't judge you we are all human
DeleteI have an ex I for still lik go back to....my friend says I have been dickmatized...the guy taught me the act of making love oooo...since we broke up I have not found anyone who will treat me like this guy...
ReplyDeletenot treat you like him????? u mean u hv not found who will gbesh u mad like him. no look for good quality in a man. they hustle for big big gbola wey go shift your womb and eyes. lmao
Deleteif u can't find a better food than your old food, that's when u go back n scrape bottom pot.
DeleteYou think its only big gbola that guarantees sweet sex? I sorry u
DeleteAnon15:12.....not mixing words the guy was a total package minus the love making....he understood everything about me n he made me love n get closer to God..
DeleteBlack berry I dey find the pot to scratch...u see I don use the guy set standard give others which one a wrong move. I use to tell him hs was my safe place...I really want to move on
How can someone bring you closer to God whilst fornicating..? Not sure I understand.
DeleteSo as per fornication, they shouldn't keep a relationship with God, bah?
DeleteCordial relationship because there's a child involved...
ReplyDeleteI am not one to thrash talk my ex, no matter how made they made me feel. And I don't break bridges but I will never be caught having sexual affair with my ex, never!
Divorce, breakups and homosexualities are part of the reason the spread of HIV and other deadly diseases have skyrocketed, according to the recent HIV/AIDs reports that was made public last year in this country.
My landlord and his wife came back together I guess cos of the children.His children needed that fatherly training cos their mum is so callous,pompous and promiscuous. They did omenala before they got back together.Anambra men,una dey try.
ReplyDeleteWhat is omenala?
DeleteHad one mad ex like that. If we dey straff you go think say na Royal Rumble, our break ups na World War 3.
ReplyDeleteWe broke up and made up more than ten times. Our friends taya for our matter. It got to a point that when we’re back together some of my friends would just avoid coming over because anything for happen anytime. It was a real passionate relationship. I kept it for the sex, and she was addicted to drama.
Na so one day we land for police station. Na day day o come reason my choices wella. I had foolishly given up my peace of mind for a piece of ass. Never again. We sha settled the matter somehow somehow.
One day she called that she’s missing me that she’s sorry. That she knows she’s at fault but I’m too stubborn etc etc. Say make we meet resolve the matter. I didn’t know where the curses came from. You would think I was a Yoruba movie actor. Na so she sef begin fire me back. It was such a stupid scene. I ended the call and blocked her soul.
After the call, I began to imagine myself locked up with the likes of Evans, and I thanked God for getting me out when my brain went on leave.
When you break up never go back. You are who you are, and they are who they are. No matter how much love you have for an ex, the cause of a breakup is likely to be intrinsic incompatibility issues rather than just certain events. So, we tend to lie to ourselves that perhaps we could have handled certain incidents better or that they were at fault when such and such happened. Na lie. If you were given a chance to handle that particular incident or similar incidents differently using the wisdom of hindsight, chances are dissimilar events would catch you blindsided and your decision-making would play out because you have trained yourself to react/respond to certain triggers in a certain way.
Now, trying to change yourself to accommodate another person’s quirks is a great disservice to yourself: spirit, soul and body. You are who you are and you love and hate what you do from a deep place. If it didn’t work the first time or second time, please let it go. It doesn’t matter how strong and veiny the D is or how succulent the tits are, don’t betray yourself.
Apologies for the length of this. It just flowed 🙏🏾
Don't worry, you made sense
DeleteAnd the SDK members say....Amen!
DeleteYou made sense 100% Rambo, I tried it once and realized that the grass only looked greener on the other side. I gave it a second chance and realised people are who they are, all the reasons for which I left were still there before I gave my self sense and discovered the reasons I left the first time was I wanted a different kind of man he was not and that had not changed.
DeleteI give ladies a lot of chances no matter what they do,I will always try and talk to them and make them see reason and beg because I know I am a sweet and wonderful guy,who is a rare breed.
ReplyDeletebut the moment you act like you don't give a damn after my apology i move on.
when they realised there mistake I already moved on,if you like call the president to beg me I won't accept you back.
one has being calling and sending text when she realised guyman is single, I have just been laughing at her like this.
she sent a text last week.
"oh babe I just past your house it brings back beautiful memories".
I no fit laugh as I told myself look at this one you dont know anything.
going back to my ex is a no no for me...
Will, I see you
DeleteYour head dey there jere. I was just randomly thinking about this today. About how it is better to be the one begging and doing your best to rekindle the romance. When you get rejected by the person then u will At least have no regrets. You will have peace of mind that you have done all you can to get them back. When that person finally realizes n wants to come back then it is always too late for them n they r the only ones who will have regrets.
Deletei have an ex like that I asked for break not break up o because the guy was doing somehow but pretending we are still good. Already I senses his mind was elsewhere So I freed him for some time . I changed my mind n asked to rekindle. The guy no gree. I asked n asked n asked, still nothing. The guy talk say na him own time to start break. Okayyy. Sha I still dey get hope. I dey beg, form overfiendly. No luck. Until when I saw that The guy was going out with different girls using them to spite me online. Omo na so I just hands off and went on with my life. The guy is using style to come back now. He can't come himself cus shame dey catch am. He really disappointed me n my parents worst of all. He will be sending his friends to use style and ask questions, he will be asking people to follow me online etc. I know for sure he's regretting because i doubt that any of those girls will be as loyal as i was. but my instinct tells me not to go back. He did so many hurtful things I can't even talk about here and God revealed to me in dreams that he is not The man for me. So what is the point in rekindling any thing?
I never had an ex. My husband was my first
ReplyDeleteLucky you
DeleteAnony 15.06
ReplyDeleteWith what you went through I can understand why you are bitter. She knew all the plans I had for us but she was not sure I'll achieve them because she couldn't see beyond her nose. Not every man will dump the woman that stood by him when he was struggling. I'm not in anyway in support of any man that puts his hand on a woman for whatever reason. You married a pig so you see all men as one, I'm sorry I can't help how you see men, that's your personal problem not mine
You seem like a good guy so no worries. Don't be annoyed sir.
DeleteYeah u sound like a good man thou.goodluck
DeleteOga go sleep jare
DeleteHe disvirgned me 2 years ago, became possessive about me, he couldn't give me breathing space, I just got fed up and blocked him everywhere,he got a good job in Halliburton in USA and started making huge cash, guy man bought a house on the island and several cars, he called me to come for his house warming, I ignored him, he couldn't moved on, he was dating other girls, bigger and finer than I am, while I also dated another guy too, but he makes sure he always calls me anytime he's in naija, but I won't listen to him, I kept seeing him in my dreams every day, and I don't even think about him oo, until he disturbed me over and over again, he said he couldn't find peace, he's not happy with other girls, and he wants us back, so finally after a year apart I agreed.
ReplyDeleteNow we are back stronger, he loves me deeply more than I love him sef, he gave me a huge amount of money for Christmas, sent stuffs to naija for me,we are planning our first vacation together in Paris, France. He's planning to see my parents after our vacay and we are fixing our wedding date. It's been beautiful I must confess, I wish, I and my boo all the best 😘😘😘😘.
As long as you are sure he is not playing you along, I wish you the best.
DeleteBabe keep quiet. If no be say guy man don hammam u fit go back??? Story. I am sure u were the one that called him and held on to him like super glue🙄🙄🙄🙄😜
Deleteburnt dodo
DeleteI tell you sexy hips
DeleteI'm sure the man is still cheating on her sleeping with different girls but his money will not allow aunty to see any fault in him. 😁😁😁😂
Yinmu. You're there for the money.
DeleteSee, I go reason you as man to man on this one. If you know wetin good for you, begin retrace your step or better yet, stick with your man. That Yankee guy has money and just want to suck out your juice and soul till you run dry. Leave all that he loves you matter, he is a smuv criminal and sleek as they come. But of course, greed no gree you see road. Enjoy jare
DeleteI can and never will go back to my ex.
ReplyDeleteDitto!
DeleteI have many exes but the last two dumped me when I helped them to get through in their time if difficulty. O was very bitter but God was on my side as I made up my mind and moved on, never looking back. They both came at different times to beg but I didn't take them back. The previous one even accused me of using jazz on him but God vindicated me as his wife called me from the blues to ask me what happened between us because she is being accused of same. Thank God am with a very same man although he is not perfect but we are weathering the storm together. He hinted on marriage this year and I pray his wish come to pass
ReplyDelete2019 I almost got back with an EX that I felt we had unfinished business but 🤷♀️
ReplyDeletesomeone I know went back to her ex of over 10 years,this is a man that abandoned and denied her when she'fell' pregnant and birthed a baby boy for him. No explanations,no support (financial and otherwise). She got married to someone else 10 years later don't know what happened in less than a year the marriage broke up.Before the family could reconcile them she already 'fell' pregnant for the baby daddy. They now have another son together.. meanwhile the baby daddy is married. story boku abeg make I stop here.But it is indeed very annoying.
ReplyDeleteI dated my husband when I was in 100 level and him in his final year.We went our separate ways after he graduated, he tried to woo me back when I was in my 3rd year but I told him I was seeing someone else🤷♀️. Few weeks to my graduation,I was going through emotional issues, we started talking again, he asked to get back together, proposed a few months later. We are happily married five years and counting!
ReplyDeleteMy story !!!!!... We are 3 years
DeleteBeautiful stories. May you never break up again
ReplyDeleteMy ex that claimed he loved me so much but was reluctant to come here and marry me. I married another man that I am building our life with.
ReplyDeleteA year later he started disturbing me to please divorce my husband so that we can get married.
I blocked him on my social media handles, refused answering calls which he uses different numbers to call. He has opened more than ten Facebook account to connect with me, I jump am pass. He said he will not marry any other woman except me that he is still waiting for me divorce my husband, even after birthing my baby. I said get behind me satan. He will wait forever
Ex kwa? Exes should remain in the past, in fact dead and buried.
ReplyDeleteLol. If divorced couple start sleeping together again and are sneaking around, that means that they are ashamed of their family n friends finding out after trash talking each other during break up. Lmaoooo
ReplyDeleteI have one crazy akwa ibom ex like that that I met in nysc. Woman wrapper. Chai. 3 years later the guy still randomly calls or leaves comments under my ig pics as if we are still dating. I never pick up his calls and whenever he calls with a new number I block. .ANOTHER ex of mine that one's own is to be randomly dming me on Instagram to remind me he's alive. He alayws gets left on read. There are some exes u just don't ever feel sorry for leaving..especially when they treated u so shabbilly after breakup mehhnnnn
ReplyDeleteSome people don't change. My ex hubby is cancelled for life. I try to be cordial because of my two kids.No chance in hell of going back to him. Divorce is a pain in the ass, wish it can be as fast as lighting. My ex boyfriend wants back in the pictures but he is going to stay cancelled too. It's because of his delay that I married my hubby who is totally wrong for me.He wasn't even my most ideal guy but Naija culture can put pressure sha.I just wanted to marry lol and now here am I. The funny thing is even with two beautiful kids suitors are not lacking.but am no longer in a hurry, don't know how that happened oh. Just my job and kids. Anyways, I still want to get married oh but no rushing again.
ReplyDeleteThis is so me..
DeleteCome back to where? Biko I've moved and I'm much better self. This my x left me for reasons I don't know. But later on I found out that he has an obsession with women that have big butts and hips. God knows I'm not straight, I'm quite curvy myself but not like those SA women. Anyway nigga left me and then went ahead to write some shit on his fb page, insulting women like me who are 30yrs of age and aren't married. Lol, I'm happily married to a man that adores me , while he himself is still single and blessing every lady he meets with disappointments. He has dated up to 7 ladies, the same process ( I will marry u). When e reach time to come see ur people, my x will run. This a man in his 40's now,SMDH.
ReplyDeleteSome men never mature. Imagine at 40 and this is becoming quite common with many Lagos big boys. Fools at 40. My friend wanted to hook me up with one because she posted him on his bday and I said he was really fine. I declined sharply when she told me he's looking for a woman to support him financially and have fun with. What man is not married at 40 anyway? Major red flag
ReplyDeleteI'm back with my ex. I'm not sure why. We used to be good together. We are still good friends and we have kids. So maybe that's why. Or maybe financial stability? Or maybe I feel I sacrificed too much to let someone else enjoy him now? He is the that's wants us back and trying for us to be back as we used to be. I'm still not sure why I'm back.
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