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FROM HEART BREAK TO HEART BREAK


Dear Stella,


I love your blog, please keep up the good work.


I'm a young lady in my middle 20's i guess I'm in love with the wrong man. I met my fiance the month i graduated from school we were so much in love "so i thought" he said he wanted serious relationship so i thought we could make things work out.


After 14 months in our relationship he tells me he has a son, i was shocked to my bones. But for the love i have for him i was more than willing to adopt this boy as my son, After his son incidence i became suspicious that if he could hide such from me then there was more to him that i  didnt know. So i found out he was married, had two kids and his wife died after their second child.


He begged that he was afraid to lose me and i was going to leave him, did i mention he lied about his age too? This guy is in his mid 40's. My family was mad and they wanted him out of my life for good, but i was deeply involved already and i couldn't imagine starting from scratch, he begged again and his kids are so lovely so i made up with him...


I felt we were happy again until i found out he's also a serial cheat i could not take that that so i left for another city to pick up the pieces of my life.


I got a job on my arrival even if it wasn't a well paying job i just wanted to have a fresh start, a week after i left his town he calls again, we had not spoken in almost 3months. I gave him another chance to prove himself and this time he swept me off my feet. I was showered with immense love, care and attention. A month later i was engaged and i was happy i felt and thought my dreams had come through.


He met my dad and he was given two months interval to pick a date so we both agreed on the date he picked and i took it to my dad for approval, Already I had to calm my parents down due to what had transpired before now,and he had apologised. 

So we had about 4 months to prepare, i had made all necessary arrangements my parents had told our extended family that i was having my introduction. Everyone was calling to congratulate me, i had taken permission off work already waiting for the D day!


He said his mom is old and she wouldn't be able to make it,i could understand for a woman in her 80's, so she called and told my dad they wanted a low key introduction and just immediate family members and she or any of his siblings wouldn't be able to make it so we would do it via whatsapp video call, my dad placed a call through to me immediately and i was like 'mogbe' video call ke? So i called him and that was where my whole world tore apart.


I was broken beyond words in was just 6 days to my introduction! How do i tell people what has happened? so i tried to call his eldest sister, she gave excuses why they couldn't come plus she had no where to keep her kids and she had never traveled to my state before, that worsened everything, i had to tell my dad to cancel, i was embarrassed my family kept calling and texting.


He went mute i had to force him to go see my dad to straighten out things, which he did but still hasn't made any move to bring his family its been over 3months so I decided to call the relationship off when he started giving me attitude.


I know i had my own share of blame, I should have walked out a long time ago, it still hurts a lot because I genuinely loved and cared about him. I'm really not lucky with love but I'm Thankful for where God's grace has taken me.


Stella it took me months to type my story I was always stopping, I decided to move on after some months. So I searched for a guy I dated back then when I was attempting getting into the university, I was young and naive so let's say I really didn't care about our relationship ,we got back back together in my 200 level but lost contact again.


I searched him on Facebook and just said I was checking on him since it's been years, he responded we exchanged contacts and had couple of lunch dates I apologised for all that happened between us.


He said it was fine that he doesn't have time for himself now and would need sometime to fix himself up, I could understand its been years so we called and checked up on each other regularly and we planned a get away weekend.


With all the stress I went through with my Ex I just wanted to clear my head and be happy.
The weekend was lovely we had drinks, went to the mall together he cooked for me and I felt joy I hadn't felt in a longtime, we talked about our future together he said he still needs time so our relationship wouldn't suffer since his past relationships had suffered due to lack of time because of his "Banking job".


So we planned another get away for next weekend. so I had to cancel because I needed to go see my parents, I tried reaching him but he wasn't answering his phone,so I sent messages but no response...... he just said he's quite busy I thought it was work so didn't bother to disturb him.


So I just remembered I hadn't talked to him the day before, I call him he ends the call, I thought it wasn't convenient to talk, so a colleague calls minutes latter then another call comes in and I ignored to call back when I'm done with my colleague. So I usually check unknown numbers before calling and to my surprise it's a lady's name with his surname...

 I honestly thought it's his sister's phone number. I decided to check out the name on Facebook and wow! He's married!!!!

 I was shocked to my bone.... why lie to me about that? I told him about my Ex I'm just healing.


I sent him their wedding picture and told him not to ever contact me, why are some men so demonic? I have left him to God I'm still shocked but I thank God for taking out toxic people from my life in 2019. It's going to be a fresh start for me and i'll definitely share my testimony.

*One thing you must do is to stop jumping from one relationship to another..give yourself time to heal and you will be able to see better ...

So the first guy,you called it off cos his family would not have been able to attend?or you just remembered the whole ish and decided to walk away...