STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
VIRGIN WITH A CHEATING MAN
Please I need honest opinions on this matter..
I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and 6 months. I am a 26 years and still a virgin. I told him from beginning that I made a promise to God and to myself to wait until my wedding night. He agreed to wait with me.
Now, I know that it is not really easy for guys to be celibate, especially one who is already very s#xually active. That was why I waited until now, to begin a serious relationship, because, I believe we won’t have to wait to long before marriage.
I have been intimate with my man because I didn’t want him to miss s#x too much. We make all the love, but without any penetrative s#x. Most times he cums in between my legs. Sometimes I reach orgasm too other times I don’t.
All because I didn’t want him to suffer especially since I know he gets the temptation from other women daily.
This guy cheated on me and then blamed me for his cheating maybe because our s#xcapades haven’t been as regular as before or because he couldn’t withstand the temptation anymore.
I even told him that it was okay, I didn’t mind, I have forgiven him. Let’s just move on, because I love him. But he’s still being very distant and giving me a nasty attitude. I am in love and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to carry this burden into the new year.😢😢.
*Sorry i could not post this before the New year...Did you carry the burden into the new year?You wanted to stay oure until your wedding but you didnt keep to your part of the pact you made with God...What is a virgin do with cum between her legs and what da heck is a virgin doing climaxing?That is cheating!!!
If your man is acting up because he has not opened the cookie Jar,then maybe he does not deserve it all.....
Stop getting so intimate with him and keep your pact with God....
If he decides to walk,let him go!!!
Who is the virgin, your guy or you?
ReplyDeleteMy dear e reach to ask🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteLmao. 🤣
DeleteI think we need to redefine the word "VIRGIN".....I don't seems to understand it again
DeleteThe girl🤣🤣🤣🤣. Deceiving yourself dat u are a virgin. Chai. If u don hold pri*k! Suck am. Do anal. Wetin remain again. Secondary virgin my ass. Chai that word virgin don suffer.
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DeleteSee it is very possible to make virgin cum without penetrative sex. I know because I have done it with two girls before and they were shaking like jellyfish even when it was just touching. Nothing else. I understand what she’s saying.
DeleteInfact sef, I don’t think I have had a woman orgasm with penetrative sex before but touching, Na the work wey we Dey do. So I believe the poster but still virginity no be award and it’s not an achievement so let the poor boy straff jare.
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DeleteSister please you are NOT a virgin. You don spoil tey tey. Also please let the guy go cause he will still end the relationship even if penetration happens. He don dey give you signs. Plus you are Ok with a guy cheating? Stay woke.
DeleteA virgin who wants to have her cake and eat it. I know body nor be pakoo but still....... Stella has said everything I want to say. Poster I don't think you have found your man. Work on your self esteem too and pick a struggle.
DeleteA virgin encouraging everything romance but penetration. What do you think? It’s not an easy thing to get a man in that mood and in the end, no penetration. Yes I blame you for encouraging him like that. You want to remain a virgin, stay away from all forms of romance before he rapes you.
ReplyDeleteHe’ll keep chatting in you for as long as you don’t give in. For how long do you intend to keep forgiving his cheating ways. See what you have reduced yourself to in the name of love. Let him go so you can have peace of mind and most especially, protect your virginity.
@SluttyChikito
Delete"Chatting in you?"
Shuoooooooooooorrr
Na the Naija girl's new style of fork stealing be that one?
abi na backdoor drilling or phone forks???
Okwa ajuju oo 😱😱😱
*cheating 😁
DeleteANG, it’s an error you can easily put together from my write up 👅
Don't love and lose your principles
DeleteNever do that
Virginity is beautiful ( you are free from one less since and avoid the fears & headaches that go with being active)
Let him go
Let him go
His word has no value
He cannot keep to his word,his integrity is at stake
He cannot take responsibility for his foolishness
He rather pass blame to you
He will rather encourage you to disobey GOD and even after is angry
He is a confused man (GOD is not an author of confusion)
He is a time waster
He is a cheat, is cheating , sees nothing wrong in it and will likely still be a cheat
He has shown you who he is
Kindly believe him and know you are not on the same page intact or sane book
Apologize to GOD
Say good bye to distractions
Face GOD and HE will face you
What a naive chronicle 😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteUnfaithful fargin.
ReplyDeleteHow can a young person keep his way pure except by giving heed to the word of God? Psalms 119:9
ReplyDeleteOne of the works of the flesh is sexual immorality, lust, impurity etc. If you do not discipline the flesh through the Word of God and fasting, there is no way you will be "celibate".😕😕😕😕
Nne, forget that (Naija girls') virgin yarns o. A man has been playing and toying with you body and toh🤐🤐 and you are chanting virgin?
Mbanu, no be the kind of Naija girls' virgin where the back door will be drilled and be like Elephant's sheet hole or bucket if you like. And the girl go dey chant virginia?
Okwa ajuju n'ese okwu o 😱😱😱
Nne, this dude go drill you and toy with your body thoroughly and fling you into the dustbin like thrash.
Repent and believe the gospel and begin to discipline your flesh as I don yarn you above inugo? If not, there could be pregnancy (he is playing at the door of the cookie jar, we've read it here before), you can have STI/HIV, (he is stealing fork from other babes). And both of you are stealing fork and abusing your body and flaunting God's Word.
Ndi uta are free to shoot o. But I don yarn my truth. 😘😘😘😘😘🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
No be your handwriting?
DeleteThank you ANG, I'm on the same table with the poster I'm even scared if I'm already pregnant. I confess my sin today and promise to keep myself till marriage. Will screenshot for future purposes incase the temptation arises
Delete@16:05
DeleteThe Lord will help you. May you discipline your flesh in fasting/study of the word of God. You can read a chapter of the New Testament daily before you step out, and another one before you sleep. Try fasting till evening on like 2 days you are least busy in the week and you will be amazed at your new self control. It gives peace of mind and peace with God to be chaste.
Jesus has forgiven you for he said;
Confess your faults to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed...James 5:16
He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.
Proverbs 28:13
Did you see that word "forsake?" Very important.
God's Grace to you. 😘😘😘😘😘
You dont have a boyfriend sorry. 26 and still naive. This is a crime.
ReplyDeleteWise up
My dear virgin, inshort let me just stop here
ReplyDeleteIt's hard to convince a sexually active Man to wait with you.. To make matters worse you guys are doing heightened foreplay. Ahhh sister sexual frustration can make anyone act distant and put a strain on some relationships...
ReplyDeleteI'm currently in the same situation with my boify.. Last night I sent him a long WhatsApp message telling him to allow me be ready 100 percent before we can do penetration cos it means a lot to me. I told him I'm not ready yet and he should not pressurise me. I waited for his response, he was quiet but later sent me a message. No he didn't disappear. I'm hoping to meet him today or tomorrow.
For me I'm not just ready yet and I want more intimacy excluding the main sex. I want the love to be deeper a s stronger. When I eventually give in before or after marriage it will because I want to not because he talked me into it. That way my conscience won't prick me.
BTW. . the guy turns me on so bad.. I pray i wait much longer.
Don't deceive yourself by playing Russian roulette
DeleteIts childish and never leads to anywhere good
Allow GOD guide you and not your senses
We no get sense pass GOD
Please listen to Jet Li
DeleteYou did all of that yet he cheated so even penetration won't stop him from seeking sex out there.
ReplyDeleteYou are in love but you need to love with your head not just your heart. You are going to get all manner of STDs from him and it won't be worth your abstinence. He seems fed up, why not give him space..
Excuse you?! what are you saying? what do you mean by "you did all that yet he still cheated" after leading him on and on? she should be thankful he was matured enough to still hold his urge some useless men would have raped her! why lead him on then deny him sex what's the excuse? she even had orgasm so what's the excuse? if you want to abstain from sex abstain totally for it do not drive somebody's child insane with your selfish desire. If he's giving you distance you too give him distance then look for someone that you both can co-abstain together. smh
Delete15:41 You see it as leading him on, i see it as trying to please him so he won't stray. 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
DeleteShe is selfish alright because of her naivety. She wants to play mummy and daddy without the penetration.
If I hear lead him on! He probably begged for it..After all, half is better than non!
DeleteShe did it to please him..
Kai! Wetin Mary no go see for manger. Virgin ko, Virginia ni! If this your virgin was the type Mary was practicing, Dem no for born Jesus.
ReplyDeleteNonsense
Beautiful nonsense. 😂
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DeleteHe will still avoid u if u decide to have sex with him. He has someone else , and is not interested anymore, not cos u not having sex with him. Dust yourself off, and move on.. You will be fine...
ReplyDeleteYes ooo poster dis ya love is not seeing very well, you need to wear am goggles
DeleteA Virgin climaxing hmmmmmm. My dear you ain't a Virgin, you just haven't been penetrated. If you made a promise to God keep to it and run away from any form of immorality.
ReplyDeleteA man that would stay will definitely stay with or without sex.
Some people that are very sexually active never reach orgasm🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteCandix, this is no shade just a sincere question based on your comment. So if a virgin masturbates and climaxes would he/she still be considered a virgin?
DeleteDefine virginity
DeletePenetration is part of it
She needs encouragement to lock up and face a future with determination to act right and blank a confused man
Anonymous masturbation, making out without penetration, thinking about it, having penetration sex are all considered sexual sins before God. All are same, Bible made that clear.
DeleteCandix, I am not disputing the poster's action as a sin before God. All i asked was does masturbation make one any less a virgin?
DeleteYes, to the question anon is asking. Do not be deceived, virginity is all about sexual purity; chasity. You can not be a virgin but your clitoris is fucking. Same way you can not be celabate and mastubating, then come and be claiming you have not had sex for two years.
DeleteWhat do we want from the choristers mouth if not songs; why do we have sex if not to cum.
You are just preserving your hymen for whatever reason, maybe to use it and cook stew. But do not go about forming chastity or holier than thou, for you are not better than those fucking on a daily.
And again, people talk loosely about this mastubation thing. Those who have been addicted to mastubating knows to keep away from it. That shit is satanic. Ask around, they will tell you that they would prefer to have normal sex. But normal sex dont even entice them anymore.
Conclusively, if you are a virgin please be a virgin in all sense of it. Keep your mind and body pure. It is possible. If your are celibate, stop touching your clit. Dear poster, people have married their wives without touching them. You won't be the first. My two sis and their husband never had sex before marriage and they are all happy and living peacefully.
Anonymous 20:59 the fact that your two sisters and their husbands never had sex before getting married doesn't mean you knew all they did with their bodies. You just can't know so you can't speak to that. All you know is that they didn't have sex before getting married.
Delete@ candix and anon 22.59 the keywords in virginity is SEXUAL INTERCOURSE which has PENETRATION and BREAKING OF HYMEN not MOUTH INTERCOURSE not HAND PENETRATING as in DICK PENETRATES and BREAKS HYMEN so pls the OP is a Virgin. Is she without sin or Immortality or any better than those who have SEX?- NOPE
DeleteDear poster...you are not a virgin!! I repeat...you are NOT A VIRGIN!! #ThatIsAll
ReplyDelete👌 exactly
DeleteGbam!!
DeleteSame situation I'm in.. Guy is sexually active we talked on Wednesday after seeing a movie when leaving it old him to call me when he gets home, be said that's if he doesn't carry one girl on the street to cure his urges. Me I replied that he should not call me on top any woman. We laughed and he drove off. I don't know if he's cheating but I know it's not easy after all the foreplay to go home and sleep like that. Even me sef I touched myself that night to cum.
ReplyDeleteYou're just deceiving yourself.
DeleteLmao 😂😂😂😂😂 isn’t masturbation a sin? All these virgins for mouth 🤣🤣
DeleteNa dem. Virgins. Ndi sexually active virgins. Be deceiving urselves. Better fuck. Becos u nd olosho na same group una dey.
DeleteStop
DeleteYou know right from wrong
Stop stooping to satisfy another human being like you
Courtship is to know principles compatibility
Stop tempting yourself
We can abstain because GOD would not expect it from us if we couldn't do so
Discipline and knowing fully well why we do it paramount while asking for GOD's strength every day
We must also flee ALL Appearances of Evil
Wrong places
Alone in seclusion
Funny movies and discussions
Sleeping over
Etc
GOD help us
It is not easy especially when you are attracted
But it is well worth it
Who knacking help?
15 mins and guilt , offense to GOD, possible belle, more painful heartbreak, diseases, see finish, emptiness, brokenness, abortion, baby daddy/mama drama and stress etc
Don't let them deceive you , sex is not all that they hype it to be
If your mind, body and everything iss ready biko enjoy the fun.. There's no rule to this thing. Just don't do it because you were forced or pressured.. Do it because you are ready.
ReplyDeleteStella she’s still a Virgin so long has she’s not had any penetration .theres nothing wrong with a Virgin making out I really don’t understand the Nigerian concept of “Virgin “
ReplyDeleteFor some reason I feel you’ll eat up my comments like you always do .
Secondary virgin.
ReplyDeleteYou're not a virgin abeg, stop calling yourself one. You don't want to have sex but you're putting gbola in legs.
Yinmu..
She’s still a Virgin , there’s no penetration they’re only making out .
DeleteAnd even cumming 🤷🏿♀️
DeleteAnd even holding it
DeleteUna dey mind her ?
DeletePoster welcome o @anon 16:10
Poster be careful ooo. Na for dis blog we read sey one virgin like that come carry belle on top play play something like de kind thing wey you dey do.
DeletePoster I've been there and done that... I'm 33 years old and I can tell you that I'm suffering from my mistakes, wouldn't want you to make same mistake I made. Walk out of that relationship cause the cheating will never stop and at some point you'll find yourself entangled in a triangle of you,him and his unending "f**kmates". It's a long story if not I would have given you a million reason you shouldn't go forward with this guy. I'm married to mine now but it's been endless the disputes, believe me you would wish you did better and made a better choice.
ReplyDeleteI was in d same situation before I got married. My ex was always complaining at a time he started doubting my virginity he even insisted he had to check I had to pull off he gently tried to insert his hand but no way.i cried that day cos he didn't trust me anymore.we had lots of foreplay and he sometimes even begs for handjob.it wasn't easy as I always feel guilty about it. we ended up not together. My next relationship I made it clear no form of intimacy.we just kissed n few times press breast.we were able to cope till after white wedding.in essence a man that will stay will stay even if u don't do all that.
ReplyDeleteTrue. Or even he doesn't want to stay, he'll respect your decision and let you be.
Delete1. You're not a virgin. Stop deceiving yourself. The moment you started getting intimate with him, you lost the essence of keeping your virginity.
ReplyDelete2. Guy does not love you.
End of story
You are cumming and you call yourself a virgin. Virginia. If you like yourself better don’t sleep with him. He will leave still. It happened to me just last year. The wait that you already made him wait is why he will show you.
ReplyDeleteI’ve been there before. Leg job. However my husband married me. It was a strong temptation. In your case the guy doesn’t know what he wants. Leave him and a man who will worship you will come.
ReplyDeleteSo wait, poster in your mind now you are a virgin??? Like, you actually believe you are still a virgin??? What sort or chronicle is this?? Lol. Are you 12??? Please leave here jor! What do you want us to tell you? Okay, he doesn't want you again. Carry your "virginity" to somebody else nah. You must think your "God" a fool to make such promise and believe you're actually keeping your promise. At 26 you sound like you missed the maturity train. You and the man deserve each other actually.
ReplyDeleteIs it not on this blog that one virgin got pregnant from making out? You better stop that thing you're doing.You've already broken your promise to God.Sin is sin.Penetration or not.Aunty Technical Virgin
ReplyDeleteplease stop deceiving yourself baby girl,you are no longer a virgin
ReplyDeleteA virgin that allows Romance no nah
ReplyDeleteNo matter the promise don't flirt with any man and don't allow him see your pant. It's not easy I know am 35 years and I won't tell any man am a virgin
I hope you know you can get pregnant by allowing a guy to cum on your laps..yes. if a little of the semen get in contact with your vagina, Penetration or not you will get pregnant
ReplyDeleteYou made a promise to God? You guys do other things apart from penetration? He Cums? as in oyuo? Sister you have already broken you promise to God. And you are not a virgin oo
ReplyDeleteVirgin KO Rosemary ni, poster make I speak pidgin so e go enter your brain, if you give that guy wey you just explain up there chop, sorry na your name, in fact no dey cum again cos na from clap we dey enter dance ooo and at the end of the day e go still end for Chronicles, so biko keep your self for the right man and stop trying to find out the fruit Adam ate.
ReplyDeleteThere is virginity and there is chastity. You are technically still a virgin but you need the Holy Spirit in your struggle with chastity. It is not something you can attain on your own. If you want to live a chaste life, You need to pray prayers for purity frequently and most importantly, avoid all occasions of sin. Once you are in a relationship, you need to double the prayers. The battle of war against the flesh ain't easy but God is with us. This is what I recommend..
ReplyDelete1. Let him go. Anyone that is ghosting you, taking you for granted, not calling is most likely done. Cry if you want but stand up and walk out. It is for the best. Your future is much brighter than your past.
2. Keep away from all sources of impurity..in fact FLEE pornography, TV shows, videos, music that are sexualized. Coarse sexual talks etc. I love TV shows but my genre is action. I skip any sex scenes. Fill yourself with the word and pray everyday. If you can, sleep with gospel music playing in the background.
3. Have that talk with God. Be sorry for your sins, be vulnerable, he knows your struggle and it is his pleasure to strengthen you and bear your burden. Tell him about your struggle. Your spirit is willing but your flesh is weak. God does not condemn us, it is his pleasure to help us.
4. Henceforth, only date men who are on the same page with you. Let them know that you wish to be chaste until marriage and make the rules together that will help you both achieve that. No sleepovers, no deep kissing, no Netflix& chill, no clubbing and so on. The one God has for you will stay and even be excited about it. That is a purposeful relationship.
5. Be happy in the waiting, while you focus on other things. That job, that degree, that skill. Be joyful in your obedience!
Of course if you do this, many men will flee but do not cower. Do not be ashamed of this truth. Adultery is rampant today because of fornication. Both fornication and adultery is the same - sleeping with someone who is NOT your spouse. You do it before marriage, you will likely do it after marriage. A wedding will not change the mindset. That mindset is due to the lack of self control (one of the fruits of the spirit). Don't you want a spouse with God's mindset? One who will NOT disrespect your body before marriage, and will NOT after marriage. Because he prepared for it by having a chaste relationship and courtship with you. He believed, he waited, he prayed, he did it all right by God and tradition and MARRIED you before intimacy. Even Igbo tradition frowns on fornication cos common sense tells us that nature's plan was not for everyone to sleep with everyone before marriage. No, No, No.
God is TRUTH, the world and the devil is a LIE. Let us choose whom we shall obey.
This👏.
DeleteGod bless you for this comment. I feel like you're talking to me. Many men have fled. Many call me uptight. I'm 30 but I know what i want... a man after God's heart who loves me like Christ loves His Church.
DeleteNib, you are on point. Poster, dont mind them, you are still a virgin, but pray for God to cleanse you and make you chaste.
DeleteDo away with that man, he has someone else. Someone who loves you will never cheat on you, no matter the circumstances. If you continue with this relationship, will you still be able to forgive him if he cheat on you in marriage? Let go dear, you will meet someone who will appreciate you and wait with you.
Take it from someone who has been in your shoes, but now happily married. All thr best!
Thank you so much
DeleteAwww! Poor baby, you miss the point of celibacy. Choosing to be celibate means you will not get married nor engage in any sexual activity. Abstinence from sex is the decision not to indulge in any sexual activity. You can't say you are celibate and in a relationship altar bound. The concept of marriage is incongruous with celibacy. When you decide not to have premarital sex and go further to make a vow of abstinence before marriage, you have no business dating a sexually active man. Darling you can't be give nor receiving sexual pleasures, the only person being fooled here, is you.
ReplyDeleteSweetie, you are like that girl who removed her panties before climbing a tree because her mother told her the boys sitting underneath the tree would look up and see her panties. Isn't the aim of the whole exercise defeated? Penetrating your lady part is not the only sin here, the whole prelude to the main event is just as "bad". The Biblical marital bed has long been defiled. That ship has long sailed.
Honey, if you are that scared of losing your boyfriend that you have to compromise, that is sign enough that you are in the wrong relationship. You can't use sex to stop a man, determined to cheat, from cheating. If you are a skilled and an amazing lover, the best case scenario is that he will keep coming back but he wouldn't necessarily stop cheating.
Brace yourself for the impending heartbreak. You never really had him, let him go. You played your hand wrongly. You made him feel too important without allowing him prove himself to you. If you are in a healthy, loving relationship, you never have to try too hard to keep your partner because he or she wants to be with you as well. The minute you find yourself bending over backwards to please your partner or having sleepless nights because you are scared of losing him or her, that's the first sign that the dynamics in your relationship is wrong.
My darling, I know it feels like your world is crumbling but let him go. NEVER beg a person to be in your life. You are a Queen, start acting like one. Please the next man you let in should also be one who chooses to abstain from premarital sex. Date a guy with similar values and beliefs to avoid conflicts. A man who respects you enough to admit he screwed up and takes responsibility for his actions, not a boy who succumbs to his urges and turns around to blame you for it.
e-hugs and kisses.
My dear I was like you two years ago but God vindicated me. I made up my mind n move away from the toxic relationship,today am so happy with myself cos I drew closer to God n finally realized my worth. Leave that young man I know u feel u can't live without him but that's stupid love talking,leave him n u will be grateful u did. Stop giving urself sleepless night,u will see the difference in the mirror when u leave him.
ReplyDeleteThat kind of love poster is the kind of love that you don't need in your life. Talking from experience.
DeleteRonalda advice helped me in during the period I left a toxic relationship,I was and still is a virgin who tried to please her lovers sexual desires but I borrowed sence when he asked my childhood friend out.i left his wicked self and I felt so refreshing after taking Ronalda's advice n drew closer to God,please let him go a good guy that respects ur decision n ur body will come ur way
ReplyDeleteYou are deceiving yourself, Virgin but you do cum and your bf release in between your legs. Stop lieing to yourself.
ReplyDeleteThat's how I was asking my friend how to prevent pregnancy some time ago, she was shocked cos she know me to be a virgin. And yes, I was. But I had this kind of sex and was scared the sperm must have entered my vagina.
ReplyDeleteBut does this poster know she can get pregnant this way?
Virgin ko...old olosho ni.
Better stand one place and stop confusing God. He will catch you having sex and feel you've giving up on your virginity, tomorrow you're still praying for Him to protect your virginity. Stand one place.
And for that your cheater ex abi you said bedmate, please move on cos he will still act up even when he penetrates. A cheater is a cheater and can't be excused. I know honorable men and I pray you find one.
Amen
The way we give advice with insult on this blog get as E be
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