Hmmmmmm...........
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
IS IT LOVE?
He's very caring and understanding and he tolerates me a lot. I used to be very free with him, have access to him anytime, any day, can say anything I like and just be myself with him.
We had a misunderstanding some weeks back that made us not to speak with each other for almost three weeks and even though we've settled now, I find it difficult adjusting to the way things used to be.
Even though I really wish things can go back to the way they were but I was the one who used my mouth to tell him that things may not go back to the way they were and I could tell he was hurt by that statement.
What he said to me after that statement was "even though I don't want things to end this way but it's all good".
Now I can't get him off my mind, even those three weeks we were not communicating, he was always on my mind. I don't know what to do abi I am in love with him ni? Please advise a sister.
Thank you!
*Is he Single?If Yes,make a grab for it and discuss the way forward for him but if not,my dear,face front and leave it the way it is.......
How old are you sef that you cannot tell if or when you are in love?
Someone's about to get laid....😁
ReplyDeleteIf u don't mind, shoot your shot, it could be good, bad or fun.
SHOOT HER SHOT??????... NA SHOOT YOUR SHOT MAKE ME DEY AS I DEY NOW OH.....
DeleteTHE DAY I TRIED SHOOTING MY SHOT, I TOLD A GUY HOW I FELT ABOUT HIM, MATURED MAN OH.... NOT LIKE HE WAS A TOTAL STRANGER OH, MY PADDYMAN OH.... MY DEAR AS I SENT HIM THE MESSAGE TELLING HIM HOW I FELT AND ALL,,,,, THE GUY DID NOT RESPOND TO MY MESSAGES OH FOR TWO DAYS.
AFTER TWO DAYS, PADDYMAN SENT ME A MESSAGE TO ASK HOW I WAS DOING AND THAT HE WAS JUST CHECKING UP ON ME...... DATS ALLLLLL... I DIED AND RESURRECTED.....
TILL NOW PADDYMAN DO LIKE SAY HE NO SEE MESSAGE AND NEVER TALKED ABOUT IT...
WHAT WILL WE CALL THAT ONE " SHOOTING OF SHOT GONE WRONG ABI"
I AM STILL HEARTBROKEN,,, HAVEN'T RECOVERED FROM IT AT ALLL.....
MSHEWWW... MY DEAR THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN SHOOTING YOUR SHOT OHHH, BUT MAKE SURE YOU AIM WELL OH IF NOT YOU WILL END UP SHOOTING YOUR LEG.
ABEG AUNTY STELLA WHEN WILL THE TRUMPET SOUND????
😂😂😂😂
DeleteHR BABE, sorry. You will recover and love will find you.
Lol@ HRBabe. Sorry o. You will be fine.
DeletePoster please shoot the shot with body language not words spoken or written. Go to him, cry, he will come hog you then be a woman and lean into the hog and make it graduate to tender touches and kiss, then French kiss. The rest will be history.
The guy may be a 21 year old guy sef. Umuaka na iko
DeleteAre you sure he got the message? You should have asked him na... Something like 'guy, did you see my message?' Na wa you oo
DeleteSorry ehn, I had to laugh. I think you didn't aim your target well and you end up shooting yourself on the foot.. 😂
DeleteMaybe the guy is not into you from time or he's in a relationship right now but you should have checked well..
Don't worry, you will be fine but the guy fucked up, he for acknowledged your message .
Reason I hate this bestie bestie tins. Pant about to shift. From bestie to gbeshing .
DeleteFollow Stella’s advice then.
ReplyDeleteWhat "things" doesn't he want to end which way? Better clearly define what you're doing before he gives you wedding card and asks you to wear suit and stand behind him while he marries another woman (best woman).
ReplyDeleteChai!
DeletePoster see Real OA comment o and brace up.
Put your feelings in check.
ReplyDeleteIf he has feelings for you he will come forward otherwise, pretend . You will get over him. we are Africans
Talk to him since you are so free with him,everything is not about chronicle na
ReplyDeleteHow dare u do shakara for a MAN?
ReplyDeleteAnd what do you mean by that?
DeleteI don't think it's shakara per say, nor do I think you love him. I had a really close male friend as well and we had a falling out that lasted for 3 months. I thought of him ALOT I'll even be crying sef. It was just really sad to lose a real one over a misunderstanding. Because i was that upset didn't mean I loved him, I just really cared about him. We sha reconciled and he admitted he so upset about the falling out he used to pray every night. I feel like most of us have forgotten how to be friends with guys. (Maybe because of the rampant casual sex culture) Please don't make any move a spoil a good friendship.
DeleteNawa, what do you really want?
ReplyDeletefriendship or a relationship?
is he single?
if he is single then reconcile and draw him closer
if he is married or not single then please leave
him alone.
if he is single and not interested in a relationship with u
then purge him out of your system by force.
surely u will meet your soulmate by God's grace.
but please, do not force it.
you didn't really know what it was from the begining. If it was friendship from the start you wouldn't be confused now. My advice it is not love you only wish both of you didn't have an issue.falling in love with him will be disastrous just try to remain cordial with him
ReplyDelete"Do not say things when you are angry"
ReplyDeleteA lot of ladies do not come here to learn but to shoot arrows. The day sdk wrote those things in IHN sign out, those who study their Scriptures know she wrote Scripture.
Now you were the one that;
1. Quarreled
2. sustained the silence for 3 weeks (ego, shear pride okwa ya?)
3. Can't get him off your mind during the period of silence
4. Said "things will not get on well as before"
5. Worried that things are not as well as they used to (exactly what you sowed with your tongue -and you do not also know that this is Scriptural)
6. You are still the one writing chronicles and lamenting?😮😮😮
Make I ask my second ajuju n'ese okwu o
Since you realized he was "hurt" by your statement after you both made up, did you apologize to him for hurting him?
Don't you see that this guy is more honorable than you, even when you hurt him he did not say vanities or insults?
Okwa Sincere ajuju oo
Nne, do the needful and confess your faults of anger/pride to him and seek to work things out.
Even though you were silence about the
main thing (to come to equity with clean hands), I will still ask/advise;
are you chaste in this relationship?
Ndi uta how far? 😘😘😘😘😘
Shear [sic.] pride
DeleteSHEER pride okwa ya?😊😊😊
Ajuju ajuo 😂😂😂😂😂😂
ANG good ajujus...Did you apologize to him..
DeleteA lot of girls that always fight and quarrel here translate these attitudes to their relationships.
DeleteA bad character is very costly.
This woman I used to think is crazy is beginning to sound sane in recent time o. Finger crossed sha.
DeleteFriends with benefit things.
ReplyDeleteYou don't want to talk about this with him?
ReplyDeleteHey,shoot your shot but be careful and wise about it,okay?
Another one bites the dust...Poster even if you wont settle down with that guy, u shouldnt have made that statement at all..There are certain things that are better unsaid...I doubt if you love him cos if you did, why cant to let go and why cant things be in the same way they were...Madam define this relationship, talk and know where you stand...You may be infatuated for all I care..All the best...
ReplyDeletePoster,follow Stella's advice but while u at it, stay woke
ReplyDeleteAnty you have love oooo.Lol. On a more serious note i think that you have fallen for him,if he is single like Stella said shot your shot but keep your legs closed, becos you will get hurt at the end. A word is enough for the wise.
ReplyDeleteReally, does closed legs guarantee not getting hurt? That wasn't my experience tho. I had the worst of heart breaks when I was a virgin and not ready to gbensh and when I decided to go celibate. I think others hurt less cos I had fun while it lasted or the guys lost some of their mystery.
DeleteYou sound like 18years old lady. Face your studies and leave relationship matters for adults.
ReplyDeleteI feel there is nothing serious about it. You are just being human. There is a connection between communication and emotions. Its not a gender or age thing. When you see and communicate with someone always. Its very easy to develop emotions for them. Do not be hash on yourself. You will be fine. Its a matter of time.
ReplyDeleteYou want us to tell you if you love him or not?
ReplyDeleteAbi you want us to advise you on how to get him out of your mind?
For 3 good weeks you've been thinking about someone and you can't settle things with him, you allowed it to last for 3 weeks. And you still say he's your friend. Or is it that you want to gbensh with him?
My dear, everything is up to you. If you love him, kindly let him know and stop letting your ego be in the way.
Please get him off your mind. Whether you are in love or not doesn't matter. What is wrong with women these days and all these chronicles??? If a man cannot be bold enough to make his intentions clear to you and his feelings known then abeg face forward. Don't go and discuss crap! Discuss my foot. Please you are not even in love, you are just infatuated or loving the attention. I don't even understand, which wan be all this kain man wahala. I just joined this blog and I have realized man problems are plenty for a lot of women. Maybe I am lucky or I just don't care. I never think about men except those that are blood relatives, who has time? Please move on
ReplyDeleteYou never think about men???? Are u okay? Abi you are a lesbian...check ya sef.
DeleteHow old are you?
DeleteSo for your mind now you are making sense abi, no worry your eyes go soon clear.
Delete@Anon 17:38 I am not a lesbian o, lol. I was in a long term relationship for 8 years and that relationship ended 6 years ago and I haven't bothered about any relationship since then. @Don I would be 38 on Dec 23rd, so I am not young. That is why I think sometimes I am weird or just lucky. I do not concern myself with all these man matter at all. Always more stress than pleasure, at best you break even with men matter but if that is the best then I rather be by myself which is what I am doing. Who has time to be sending chronicles? I LIKE this blog though
Deleteit's the cuffing season affecting you, you ve caught the bug and now chanting love..
ReplyDeleteJust go sit on his dick and get it out of your system. 😒
This poster dey test her writing skill like testing the microphone 1,2,1,2 lol. e remain make you ask us weda he like you too , as you be baby rubber.
Delete🤣🤣🤣 baby rubber
DeleteWhen you are in love and pretend not to be in love, the consequence is this.
ReplyDeleteGoodluck nwa baby
Sister your'e inlove already
ReplyDeletehow can i tell if you are in love when you cannot tell if you are in love.
ReplyDeleteTalk to him about how the disagreement and three weeks of no communication truly made you feel. Let him know you value the friendship/relationship and never want to experience that void again. Both of you should commit yourselves to never crossing certain lines with each other. Don't use ugly words if you have a disagreement don't scream and shout. Just commit to treating each other respectfully and resolving issues right away so there is no malice.
ReplyDeleteEvery relationship has challenges, we just have to be mature and loving in how we resolve differences.
Awwwwwwwww....poster is in love. I know what it feels like to have such a guy as your friend/confidant.
ReplyDeleteI really don't know what went wrong between you two that you had to withdraw from him. Talk to him and tell him you miss the way both of you used to be. Give it sometime and then tell him how you feel... Don't be ashamed. Feeling could be mutual. But however it turns out, accept it. If it doesn't turn out the way you want, move on and don't feel less. Happy trying.
Sluttychic.
How this one take be chronicle Madam poster?
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm I just got an I'd .
ReplyDeleteTell him exactly how you feel since you can tell him anything and let him take it up from there. That's if he is not in a serious relationship tho
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