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LIFE IS A POT OF BEANS

So today Monday will be our 20th anniversary. I never thought I'd be married twice in my life time. Neither did I foresee, get married to a man with kids. Life is indeed a pot of beans. And marriage? What can I say: if you find a good understanding partner, look for what would work for you two. And work with it.

I just left an abusive, deceitful and distrusting marriage with two children. Then I met him. He had all these unbelievable characteristics you can only find in Dreamland, except that he was struggling. So I took it unseriously, just for a rebound. As I was struggling too. Then I fell in love and before we could say "what" we were married.

It was then I found out he is a baby daddy - he had 3 kids. And he never told me. He knew I had 2 children. I was so devastated. Asked him why he hid that from me. I know he was married before but he never said there were children involved.

I couldn't tell anyone. As I contemplated on how to end the marriage. But there was something about him - very unusual guy. I have never met such before. Like he understood me better than myself. Very supportive, and can be critical when he finds holes in my decisions or choices. With him there was complete peace. He tolerated my absence and some misgivings without unnecessary complaint.

So I battled with the decision to walk away or stay. Eventually I stayed. But one condition, we both bring whatever skeletons lived in our cupboards to the table. With no more surprises. Afterall, I've got my own share of darks in my past too. That he was not in the know of. It took me a further 5yrs to let him know I was very comfortable and doing well, right from when we started. Although he was shocked. But like he told me back then. when he revealed he had children. I told him, that I didn't let him know all this while because then he couldn't handle nor was he in a good position to process such information until now.

That was it, no more secrets. Staying was the best action I took, cause 20yrs on we still loved like our dating days. We were created for each other. Very domesticated and handy. And his role plays are just what any very busy working wife needs.

I love you Ify. You've been my all, even when you had nothing. You still haven't changed one bit. Thanks for putting first and above everything. At the beginning, you had to paused your life for me to grow, because in your very word "You are doing way better than me, when you attain stability I can pick up my life again." It was a great sacrifice, I don't think I would have tried it. But you did just that and more. You are unbelievably true.

God bless your parents for raising such an incomparable man. And bless you too, for choosing an honourable personality.

I know you, I love you. You believed in me, when I don't even believe in myself. You are the best for me. I have wondered what going through this life, without finding us would have been.

Stella, no vex o. Na as I take get time to write be this o. We are both BVs here. Abeg make nobody come for me o.

*20years?Well done and thanks for sharing....Who is coming after you for what?One mans meat may be anothers poison!

Oga Ify well done oh........