What would you do if you found out that your husband/spouse conducted DNA on your kids to ascertain if they are his without asking you?
You wake up and wanna search for something in the ward robe and see the papers carefully hidden inside one of his shoes...
Would you confront him or keep quiet?
Would you feel betrayed if you have been loyal to him?
Has this ever happened to you?
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ReplyDeletei will confront him, but it is really nothing serious u can't blame the man things are happening plus alot of stories on social media
DeleteIf you are loyal, your husband won't have the need to do that, they only do it if their wives are agaracha.
DeletePopcorn n coke as i wait for comments.
ReplyDeletePaternity test should be encourage even maternity test too, that was how a guy did paternity test and found out the child wasn't his. The wife dumbfounded cos she has never cheated. A relative advises her to do a maternity test, friends,to cut long story short the baby wasn't hers. Nurse have done abracadabra on her.(nurse swapped her baby).
DeleteWhat a terrible situation.
Very sad
DeleteI will feel so betrayed like how can you do that without my consent...I prefer my man trusts me than love because love is just the vehicle but trust is the fuel that will take me there...I will confront him oo..
ReplyDeleteI will never forget,
ReplyDeleteI will forgive which will take a long while,
The marriage will not be the same again cos he just indirectly called me a whore.
I don't know how to pretend,when I feel hurt.
Nothing he does will please me again cos that's the height of disrespect.
Trust is shattered.
So you are not? 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Deleteas long as my money is not involved i'm cool with it. I mean why should I be angry over it? my people says "onye na nweghi ihe ovu anaghi akuwa ihe".
DeleteBefore a man does DNA,he first suspects or imagines you with another man that to me is degrading.
DeleteThen reasons the man puts his spermatozoa in you,
Imagines you deceived him pamper, you for another man's child,been in the delivery room for another man's child.
Then he gets angry and is eager to know the truth and the reason what if he is not?
What he will do to you and how he will take it.
So it's not just about taking the test.
Thank you Ochiora.
DeleteOnly the loyal will feel betrayed. If your hands no pure, you don’t have any right to feel betrayed.
ReplyDeletemy dear it's the other way round
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DeleteMy husband wanted to try that..immediately he went they told him i need to be there. He came to tell me that he wanted to check the paternity of our 2nd child out of 5.she looks like him and they are very close. I told him to tell her 1st. Case closed.
ReplyDeleteYou are wicked, so you prefer your husband going about with doubt in his mind. For your information you are torturing that man mentally. Has it even occurred to you that it will affect his love for the child?
DeleteThat's the height of betrayal. More so if I've been faithful and loyal.
ReplyDeleteEven if he suspects anything, it should be brought to the table and ironed out.
So if the DNA results (done secretly) shows he's their father, I get to find out, what next? Trust will be so dead.
There are some women that walks into your life and the last thing a man will think of is DNA. Something made him made that move and he will and must explain to me why. Very painful shit esp if i was loyal and faithful
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ReplyDeleteGat nothing to hide...no qualms....I know he won't do it anyway.
Make I yarn una the truth? 😊😊😊😊
Before a husband does that, he must have seen that the wife
na epio mpio mpio -the wife dey sneak out to collect fork 😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲
The feet wey dey waka sharp sharp, the eyes wey dey watch sharp sharp dey see am.
Already some of my Naija girls husbands have done those and bidding his time (if there
is k-leg in the thing)
Ahaaaaaaa all them Sisis wey dey sneak out go "night vigils in hotel rooms" their hearts
are shooting gbim gbim gbim right now kita kita.
But make I ask my ajuju n'ese okwu oo...😊😊😊😊
Is this a prophecy from sdk...because...mmmmhhh all these dna yarns
agbaro aka ooo -there is something inside all these dna talks.
A lot of my Naija Sisis go don dey search them husbands' wardrobe and shoes right now.
😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲
:-X
Delete@Mc pinky
Deletemake you interpret that thing wey you draw there
You don manufacture new curses for me? 😊😊😊
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ReplyDeleteI won't confront him. I will quietly re-strategize in terms of making sure I'm deeply involved in the ownership of all we own. Where there are no documents or one sided documents I will ensure I'm included. It's clear he doesn't trust me and anything can trigger the distrust even if the children are his. Confronting him won't change anything. He will apologize but the issue may come up in various other ways. I will focus on making sure that in case of unceremonious exit, I won't go empty.
ReplyDeleteNa waa ooo..How can one be in a marriage like this? People get mind oo
DeleteI REBUKE YOU IN JESUS NAME
DeleteI join u in the 'rebuke' IJN
DeleteEvil mind.
DeleteSmart woman you are. Others are just being sentimental. Women have to be smart and strategic when men do such. Play your cards well.
DeleteWill feel so betrayed and hurt,and will ask him why he did that cos the marriage will never remain the same again
ReplyDeleteThat's betrayal and it would hurt me so much.
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend is doing the DNA of his child soon. He questions her paternity but is scared of heartbreak. He of course will do it without baby mamas knowledge.
ReplyDeleteIf my husband ever had good reasons to doubt paternity, I will rather he does the test to clear all doubt. No child deserves for their parent to have such thoughts in mind about them. I may be disappointed, but I will be grateful he satisfied his conscience.
GOD BLESS U FOR THIS
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DeleteHmmmmm...trust is forever gone in that family.
ReplyDeleteI really won't blame the husband because a lot of Nigerian married women are so deceitful!! Nigeria is #2 behind Jamaica for having illegitimate child while married. I bet a lot of the female married bvs here are hiding the paternity of their kids they had for other men. I was reading awhile ago how some DNA centres in Nigeria refused to accept bribes from women who were asked to perform DNA on their children. Imagine bringing another man's kids saying it is your husband's mtcheew!!!
ReplyDeleteI do not think I can ever forgive such a spouse. What is a life long marriage without trust?
ReplyDeleteNa him get the money he is wasting
ReplyDeletei will confront him.
ReplyDeleteThis is a delicate matter. For Him to conduct DNA test on our kids shows he never trusted me and never loved me enough. My perception towards him would change instantly and the love I have for him will definitely drop from 100% to 50%. My kind of person i don't know how to pretend when I'm hurt, it would take a while to rekindle the love again.
ReplyDeletethat means he doesnt trust me. I will be very mad, how could he. I won't keep quiet either
ReplyDeleteI see nothing wrong with him. In fact, i will suggest he do so from the beginning because i don't want him to have a single doubt. It's only the guilty that would not like it.
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DeleteIf my husband wants a DNA test, i'm down for it. 100%
ReplyDeleteIf he gets it without my consent, i ll be in my feelings but nah! i won't feel betrayed. I believe it should be mandatory.
God bless you.
DeleteGod bless you Pexian. As a woman I believe it is mandatory in every home. Young men of these days are seriously doing it.
DeleteTrust issue gone
ReplyDeleteBetrayal of trust is gone in that marriage and the woman will f8nd it difficult to forgive
Dear women, don't be offended that your husbands are doing this.
ReplyDeleteIt's not because he doesn't trust you. He just wants to avoid stories that touch.
Can you blame him? We hear more and more news about men unknowingly raising children that are not theirs. No man wants to be a victim.They want to reassure themselves that they can trust you.
Do you know how painful it would be if you found out your husband has a child or children with another woman? The men will feel 10x more pain as they would have invested in the children financially and emotionally.
Personally, when i get married by the grace of God and i'm pregnant, i'll be the one to suggest it to my husband. Even if he refuses, i will insist on it and let him know that i don't want anything to happen in future that would make him doubt the paternity of his children.
In fact, i advise every woman tells their husband to do DNA tests on their children because they don't want a situation that someone would sow doubts in their husbands' heart thanks to the different news flying around.
GOD WILL SURELY MAKE UR WAY STRAIGHT,,HIS WILL,BE DONE IN UR LIFE
DeleteThank you. Sensible women are here o.
DeleteBecause you marry a man who is not sure of you and choose to accept doubts
DeleteTenth, it ain't about the woman all the time.. Can't stress this enough!
DeleteDo you know the number of kids switched at birth?
How will you explain a child that isn't your DNA as well as your husband's..
Not everytime, trust..sometimes, verify.
If he wants a DNA test without my consent, I don't have any problem with that at all...
ReplyDeleteI for one supports the DNA test thingy, it can save a lot of lives.
I hate when people are dubious both in character and in actions.
DNA test should be done by both parties.
I will be more heartbroken than upset..What in the world would make him do that? What is marriage without trust? or is it merely co-habitation? I will be truly truly heartbroken and we would need counselling and prayers for it to be fixed.
ReplyDeleteI can't believe BV are saying they will feel betrayed. For what if I may ask? See eerr if I'm a man, I will do DNA for all my children even if you are faithful to me.
ReplyDeleteYou all should snap out of it; what if the child got switched at the hospital.
Stella, me I will just smile and move on if I find out my husband did DNA. This place we are is called earth and I won't blame anyone securing their sanity. It doesn't mean he doesn't love me, we are all humans and feel a little bit of doubt sometimes. Why then should I get angry because my husband is being human. I will instead assure him we are in this together and try as much as possible not to feed his insecurities because I will expect him to do same if tables were turned.
What am I even saying, I will even conduct DNA for my children myself because I don't trust all those doctors and nurses at the hospitals unless I know without doubt that, the baby is mine.
C sensible woman 👌
DeleteSomething might have prompted him to do it, I won't confront him, I'll just laugh from the sidelines, huncle wey mumu.
ReplyDeleteThe marriage would be as good as dead. I would never be able to forgive a man whose opinion of me is so low that he thinks that I would be capable of such a great betrayal. If I have never given him any reason to doubt me and he still thinks I'm capable of betraying him like this, why is he still with me? In fact why did he ever marry me? If he's just being cautious, that means that anytime he introduces a child to me as his relative, I must also insist on a DNA test for the child, as I also don't want to be betrayed. Such a man will never be the same again in my eyes.
ReplyDeleteI will do a DNA test. If she doesn't like it, the door is wide open. Trust but verify.
ReplyDeleteThis is my problem with ladies.. You want to go through your husband's phone without his consent but you don't want DNA done behind..
ReplyDeleteMy wife knows that I do DNA for all our children.. I have seen too many cases where you wonder why women say men are cheats.
Some ladies are heartless..
Please do DNA test for all your children ooo. Don't wait until the children are 20yrs and above then one guy from nowhere maybe your best friend will come and claim the child.
Lol at first paragraph, so true.
DeleteSee them. They will feel betrayed and heartbroken if husband does DNA test, but you're team snoop. You don't trust your husband but you will heartbroken if he snoops on the paternity of his children. Una never ready.
ReplyDeleteLet me be sincere, I have always had it in my mind to do DNA on all my kids without my wife's knowledge. Its not because I don't love her or because I don't trust her.
ReplyDeleteIt is because what I have read on anonymous posts, Dear Joro and on TV.
I wonder why women call men scum at times. some women are just so gentle, calm and loving..... trust me, they are the real scum.
I will do it on all my kids just to avoid stories but doesn't mean I don't love my wife.
You go ahead.
DeleteDuring an argument just after ai gave birth, my husband threaten to do a DNA. He even went as far as ordering the kit (we live abroad).He eventually didn't do the test but I often remind him of the issue. I often remind him how he called his child a bastard. When I am not in the mood for sex and he gets angry, I reply him by saying what is the point of the sex of he could call his child a bastard. He regrets that step.
ReplyDeleteForgive and move fast it my dear. Don’t let it eat deep in ur marriage pls
DeleteThis topic is funny because Nigerians don’t know babies get switched in hospitals. Imagine doing a DNA to find out child doesn’t have your DNA as the father and you accuse the woman of cheating without first confirming if the child has her DNA as well. Anyway, everyone stand at ease. I’m enjoying myself.
ReplyDeleteThe woman's actions whether consciously or not would have made him take that bold step... In my opinion, I would feel betrayed because of the lack of trust.
ReplyDeleteSo what if the baby gets switched in the hospital? And by the way, men that openly cheat and disrespect thier wives deserve whatever they see in marriage..every man gets the woman they deserve.
ReplyDeleteI won't get angry if he does DNA on our kids without my knowledge but then where is the place of trust in the marriage
ReplyDeleteHmmm my hubby suspected I played him when I told him that I was pregnant. I was just checking my fertile period oh!! The boy looked so much like him. I'm sure he could have done a DNA, but I'm not bothered. I even taunt him and tell him that someone will come for his first son one day oh, shebi he will allow the person reclaim his child? Now he's the one claiming Jakie Chan for the boy oh!!! Na him sabi. He can do DNA, RNA, EVEN MNN,I refuse to be bothered. I can't kii myself.
ReplyDeleteI am in a divorce process, and after the divorce I intend to do paternity test on 3 of my children.
ReplyDeleteDivorce- Shame on you. After 3- why can’t you resolve well unless she cheated.
ReplyDeleteAfter 3 is real fairly used o- be guided. Haba. Do you not pity the next woman. You wan use work kill am.
ReplyDeleteWicked men get played out too. They dump good girls to marry bitches- if you like do DNNA na you know- hypertension when the good girl you dumped would have given you peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteIf he/she asked for your permission, would you have given it?. If the answer is no, then I’d not be too angry
ReplyDeleteIf le hubs wants to conduct a DNA test on our kids, he should na. This life na jeje oo. I can't come and kill myself
ReplyDeleteMy ex left because I supposedly couldnt have kids. He went on to have two with his new wife. Raised the boys etc. He recently found out that none of them are his, despite everyone saying they 'looked' like him. He nearly went mad. Karma knows every address.
ReplyDeleteI would feel some kind of way that he didn't trust me and to question my fidelity. I would start wondering he was cheating why he didn't trust me. And knowing me I would start snooping on him.
ReplyDeleteAt my age, how other people feel is the least of my problems. I want DNA to be sure considering all the stories that touch. A good woman will be happy I did. It will make the love stronger.
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