STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
IMPLICATIONS OF NOT ATTENDING A WEDDING
Stella, Weldone. Please, I need a sincere opinion on something bugging my mind. It's about not attending the wedding of my daughter's friend.
Well, they have been friends since primary school through University till now. They are both in their early 20s. Infact they are like 5 &6 hence my knowledge of the girls family too. In as much as my daughter and this girl have maintained their friendship, i have not set my eyes on her for about 5 years now. I went to their place last 13 years ago.
I was not given an IV.
I used to go to their house when we lived close but due to my job demand we lost touch. I was friends with the mum too. But about some months ago the girl and her mother called separately after say 13 years to wish me happy birthday .
I used to go to their house when we lived close but due to my job demand we lost touch. I was friends with the mum too. But about some months ago the girl and her mother called separately after say 13 years to wish me happy birthday .
It was then the mum told me the daughter will be getting married in few months time but that the traditional had already been done in their home town. I told her "I hope my schedule will permit me to attend and asked if it is here. .She said yes. And i was thinking it will be a Saturday event.
I never head from them and even when the girl called to wish me happy birthday, she never said anything about her up coming wedding. No idea if there is aso ebi or not. But my daughter just told me the colour code. It was my daughter that briefed me about the wedding date , location and being fixed on a working day. I asked why, she said they are trying to curtail crowd.
Even though i was looking forward to the wedding but my job schedule wouldn't permit me coupled with the fact that i have not been given any official invite. And Up till now the wedding is this week, nothing from the family or bride. I have a demanding job. I was scheduled for foreign seminar but due to this wedding I nominated someone else to go. Now, I don't want to attend the wedding. I am confused as i know they will be disappointed. Did they not have formal invitation cards? I deserve to have been formally informed to prepare and perhaps partake in the preparation.
I am feeling slighted. What do BVs think? Am i wrong to stay out of my daughter's bossom friends wedding or am i unnecessary feeling guilty about it? If you were in my shoes what will you do? Nobody is too old to get another opinion on an issue.
Even though i was looking forward to the wedding but my job schedule wouldn't permit me coupled with the fact that i have not been given any official invite. And Up till now the wedding is this week, nothing from the family or bride. I have a demanding job. I was scheduled for foreign seminar but due to this wedding I nominated someone else to go. Now, I don't want to attend the wedding. I am confused as i know they will be disappointed. Did they not have formal invitation cards? I deserve to have been formally informed to prepare and perhaps partake in the preparation.
I am feeling slighted. What do BVs think? Am i wrong to stay out of my daughter's bossom friends wedding or am i unnecessary feeling guilty about it? If you were in my shoes what will you do? Nobody is too old to get another opinion on an issue.
Do you think i should call them? Or just act ignorant? My daughter has told me considering my tight schedule it may not be Ok for me. That she will explain to them. But how do you all see the whole thing? With this, if my daughter's own comes up the mum may stay off too. I am not into too many friends though.
I just need responsible opinion Just to free my mind.
No insult please. Thank you all
If you cant go you cant go.....why dont you just get a nice gift for her and send through your daughter ?
Madam if you can't go call up the mother to let her know. As Stella said send your gift across to them. Thanks
ReplyDeleteMadam, no need feeling slighted. You have already lovingly given up your official trip just for this wedding. Don't let invitation card rob you of your genuine joy for the event. My wedding, we designed just 10 cards; 5 for my hubby, 5 for me and at the end of the day only 4 was distributed! 1 was posted at my branch office, one at the head office and one given to my village head and another to my husband's office.
DeleteNo body cares about formal invites these days. The woman's call to you I far more than a card. That is love.
Please do souvenir, make a fine style and go and celebrate! You deserve it. It means yours is on the way.
God bless you ma.
Ma, just like Stella said, if you cant go, just send your gift through your daughter.
DeleteSince they didn’t do due diligence by sending an invite and including you even in the least preparation plan, by all means stay away. Their mentality might assume it is because you are jealous, but pay no attention to it. You have a demanding job, the wedding is on a week day, so do not feel guilty but keep an open mind about her not attending your daughter’s wedding when the time comes. Do not feel slighted either but do things differently by sending her invites and all. Follow your instincts and stay away, you just might save yourself worse feelings of being ignored in the worst way possible. Like Stella said, send a gift.
DeleteFirst of all, I don’t go to events I am not formally invited to by text or physical invitation. I don’t do mo gbo mo ya.. Because she called you to inform you, that’s another story.. in their mind that could be a formal invite.. Please forgive level of literacy and go.. just because of the phone call. People go through a lot when it is close to a wedding. You might not have an idea what they are going through.
DeleteAnyone else, no invite don’t go.. I don’t even do random plus one, unless it is my husband because it will be obvious you were not invited.
Call her to tell her u cant go? Why? Abegi.
DeletePoster if u cant make it sit down tight. Send a gift like Stella said n let ur daughter do d talking. “Where is ur mum” ? Daughter: she’s at work but sents her regards and asked me to give u this. Simple. U owe them absolutely nothing.
Wonder how people let little nonsense bother them.
Including her in preparation plans? As busy as she said she is, why is she wishing they involved her in the preparations? Madam, if you don't want to go, sit down for your house Just don't write another chronicle if they don't attend your daughter's wedding.
DeletePlease attend.she's your daughter's bosom friend. The invite was not extended because your daughter's friend expected that she'll tell you. You were left out of contribution and planning because of your busy schedule. Please call the mother and congratulate her again. Attend o.
DeleteI don’t understand the fuss. If you honestly can’t make it then by all means put a call through to them before the wedding and let them know of your non attendance, it doesn’t affect your daughter’s own because she’d be there.
ReplyDeleteI get surprised when people say so and so Person haven’t kept in touch with me for years and just called me out of the blue. Listen, adulting is hard and everyone is just winging it. If someone calls you out of the blue not to ask for money but to ask you to celebrate with them, the least you can do is to signify if you are available to attend or not. Not sending an invite card is not a reason to be alarmed, I’m sure they gave your daughter one and expected her to pass it on to you so that’s on your daughter. Who even cares about invite cards these days anyway, except, they’d ask for it at the gate I don’t bother with them. Just text me address and date I’d be there if I can make it or send my regrets. My colleagues are getting married next month, I haven’t seen an invite card but I intend to attend.
Call them up before the wedding to let them know you can’t make it, then after the wedding also call to say congratulations. If you wish to send a gift or a token, do so through your daughter. This issue is not that serious because you seem like you want to attend “for the sake of” so they can attend your daughter’s own. Relax, the celebrant is probably too excited and busy to notice if you don’t attend.
Doppelganger, it is obvious the poster is an elderly person. The least you could have done is get your message across respectfully. What are phrases like "listen adulting is hard" etc doing in your message? Do you talk to your parents that way?
Delete15.54, good point
Delete15:54, I was wondering same.
DeleteAnon good observation. The tone of her advise na wa.
DeleteTrue. Be nice.
DeleteDoppelganger calm down, I don't why you are always fulll of pain. Take it easy when commenting on some post please.
DeleteDoppelganger is obviously letting the so called 'intelligent' award advise get to her. She didnt even see dat there are significant differences in d posters story and her personal hypothesis. You dont need an invite from colleagues obviously..and again d poster was not even sent a text....always rushing to comment and advise..mtcheeeeeew
DeleteDope is intelligent and we have been applauding her but she is clearly taking it far. Haba! This poster is probably old enough to be your mother.
DeleteMadam calm down, she owes them nothing and yes she deserves a card with her name written boldly on it. If any of my friends are getting married and my mum doesnt get an invite she aint going nowhere. With d narrative up there d bride’s mum simply informed her about d wedding but didnt invite her. No proper info about venue, date and time. All she had was from her daughter so why should she go out of her way to b there? Na so party dey hungry her reach? She’s an elderly woman and d so-called daughter’s bestie couldnt even pickup her phone to say mummy I’m getting married o. Abegi Madam even if uve all d chance in d world pls stay home and send a msg tru ur daughter. My opinion.
Delete@Sapphire until recently I thought she's intelligent but realised along the way she's just opinionated and fluent. She kind of think life is black and white and forgets the practicalities. An intelligent person gives their opinions and leave room for people not to feel walk on or disrespected. Several times she has been too harsh to people because she thinks her opinion is the best.
DeleteIf she's half intelligent as she wants people to think, nothing stops her from quickly apologising once many people are calling her out for this particular post. Being intelligent includes noticing and admitting when you are wrong.
They have come again! Ass lickers with no comprehension abilities. Poster mentioned job and foreign seminar so Doppel should add Ma to very sentence. If it was a chronicle about a broke and hungry person, all of you will bring out your claws. What is disrespectful in her comment when the poster is just making a mountain our of a mole hill? Will this be the first event she would not attend? If she doesn't want to she doesn't have to. It's as simple as that!
Delete20.40 you are the one with comprehension issues. The point anon made was this chronicle is from an older person (which is obvious from her having a daughter old enough to be married). It's pure common sense and logic. Duh.
DeleteAnon 20:40 I can tell you everybody around you from your parents, childhood friends etc tell you, you don't respect just by what you've typed up there. Smh
DeleteNo qualms nau, Call them to wish them well then send a gift, could be financial , send the gift before the wedding day. Though it would be better if you can just spare about 30 minutes of your time to attend even after sending the gift . They seem like good people to me and will understand. May God guide you .
ReplyDeleteAttend if you can. Life is too short to loose sleep over flimsy stuff. See, when I wedded, I was extremely busy, there were two women I invited last minute. I honestly didnt remember. One came bearing gifts, one didnt and let me know on d phone that it was because I didnt invite her properly.
DeleteI know I messed up, but I love the woman that came. I love her role bits and if she needs ny help tomorrow, I'll move mountains for her
Buy a very nice gift and give it to your daughter to present. Shikena.
ReplyDeleteIf you don't want to go, then don't go. But try and send your gift accross. Don't feel bad you weren't given an IV for the fact your daughter is in the know, then no problem. All the best ma'am.
ReplyDeleteMadam just call on phone and wish her and her mother happy celebrations.
ReplyDeleteSend your gift through your daughter.
Let me share some words from Christ with you;
1. Rejoice with them that rejoice...Romans 12:15 -there is not condition attached to it...whether you were informed or not.
2. When you make a feast, do not invite your friends...but invite the poor... Luke 14:13
Yes, your friends should be part of the planning of the feast
and not invitees.
Yes, you were not involved like you wished but look at that number one
Scripture and rejoice with them.
Let me ask you one question, not ajuju n'ese okwu ooo is your daughter married?
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if you love someone you dont need an official invitation to attend her wedding or event, your daughter and her has been friends fr way to long and she maybe believe that your daughter will convey any information to you.
Deleteif you dont attend it will send d wrong signal, breeze in, greet them and breeze out.
Thank you dede . You are too wise. Poster, attend,
DeleteNot for the mum, but for your daughter's sake. Show love to those that show love to your daughter.
Hmmm..... Act in love.
ReplyDeleteHave you even called her mum to ask her "hello, how are preparations going? Well done oh"
No?? I guess not.
Madam, when people are planning a wedding theres a lot going through their minds. I made a terrible blunver regarding my sisters MIL during wedding preparations and if not that the woman acted in love, we would have been in soup. It was a clear oversight due to focus on other things. So I know how these things can be.
The girl wished you happy birthday and so did her mum and you have been informed. I'm guessing that because you are quite profiled in your career, you want the same acknowledgement in your personal space and that is actually fine. But DO NOT over do it. You're a mum too. If you were planning your daughters wedding and your forgot to send someone an invite, how would you want them to respond to you? Please give this woman that same response.
Also, for your daughter to have said they want to keep the crowd small and still update you it means you are part of the 'small crowd'. You seem like a very efficient person who wants things clear-cut, as you do in the work space. But, in personal relationships be practical. It will cost you nothing to attend the wedding even for 30 minutes and invite them during your daughers wedding. Afterall, you already cancelled a foreign seminar for this reason. Go, look very regal in the colour of the day, greet the girl and her mum, take picture, leave them an envelope and go back home. 30-45 mins. You will get a thank you and you can go back to being close strangers.
Good luck!
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DeleteI agree with you chikito, madam attend the wedding it's possible there is no iv printed evening they printed ,maybe it's not much, the woman believes she has invited u, and just like chikito said,anybody planning a wedding has a million things to do and never enough time.
DeletePkease dress up and attend the wedding ,rejoice with them.
i Agree With you
DeleteChikito, always on point....
DeleteMadam, since you have already cancelled your trip because of this wedding. By all means, attend the event. You would be shocked how happy they will be seeing you at this event.
Well said Chiki... And remember you guys have not been in touch for many years now, so the closeness is no longer same.
DeleteIt's just because you were not given a special invitation that's why.. Maybe they feel since your daughter is fully involved you should be aware of all the happenings and finally attend. Not like her mom is your BFF to tell you details of everything.. The strong friendship is between the daughters.
ReplyDeleteBut, atleast ashoebi info is meant to be communicated. I remember when my bros child hood friends sister sef got married we all grew up together but life happened and everyone separated, even after how many years of not seeing or hearing from them because of the children's bond her mom called and was so persuasive even wedding day morning she would call to find out if they've seen the car arranged for them. People differ sha.
I think you should attend for the childrens sake. Go with a gift and maybe someone to accompany you so you don't feel so alone there cos your daughter won't have much of your time oo. Like my mom would say if you don't attend people's function no one will come for you own.
If your schedule won't let you go, then send a gift through your daughter.... No need for confusion!!
ReplyDeleteYou are feeling slighted because you want to be involved in the wedding or at least get a formal invitation card but the gag is.. you are in your feelings.
ReplyDeleteThe girl called to wish you happy birthday, her mom too. I'm feel the girl letting her mother invite you was proper, isn't that enough?
What if there wasn't any official invitation cards. It's prolly gonna be small intimate wedding.
If your work is a legitimate excuse not to go, you won't be feeling guilty.
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Deletesince the mum told you about the wedding,that's enough invitation considering you are friends with her too. The daughter on the other hand might think your daughter has already informed you and did bother telling you when she called or maybe she forgot. Whatever it is,go for the wedding if you are free on that day
ReplyDeleteJust do exactly as Stella said so you can be free from your conscience judging you and since your daughter said she will explain the reason for your absence, please face your work if you can’t make it.
ReplyDeleteNobody should insult you madam! You're a very considerate person.
ReplyDeleteI believe they didn't print any invitation cards and being that your daughter is best friend with the bride, they just thought she must have informed you.
If you know you won't be able to make it to the wedding ceremony, you can get her a nice affordable gift and send her your best wishes as well.
I like mothers like you.
And, you don't have to be worried about them not coming to your daughter's wedding when it's her time to say I do.
Stella has given the most favourable response for you.
ReplyDeletefollow it
I hope you thank God everyday oh, cos it seems you don’t have problems.
ReplyDeleteSeriously though, send a gift through your daughter and relax abeg.
If the woman doesn’t come for your daughter’s wedding, will it annul the wedding?
Stop stressing yourself for nothing please.
If you don’t feel up to it, don’t worry too much.
ReplyDeleteSend cash/gift through your daughter.
Some people are good at making one look like a bad person. I really don’t get why they didn’t send you an invite.
Your daughters friend didn’t do well at all, and yes I’d feel slighted too. How can you not bring your best friends mum into your wedding plans?
What did your daughter say in all this? Is she happy her friend didn’t invite you?
I’ll suggest you go for the sake of your daughter, since you already nominated someone else to go for the seminar. your daughter will be happy.
Since it’s not an everyday thing and you guys haven’t really been in touch, attend her wedding...just a few hours.
I tire for the poster. Common sense really no common. People and the way they like to complicate things.
ReplyDeleteThis woman is obviously older than u and u are saying common sense ? U be fool.. advice if u wan advice or keep shut
DeleteDid u read the post at all? Have u ever told your mom she doesn't have common sense? Will you be glad to hear someone say that to her? Untrained children everywhere....
DeleteZemzem the guy with no brain. Na so ur galfrend take disappear from your life.
DeletePark well if you don't have any thing to say.
DeleteIt's your type that gate crash events just because of food packs.
This is very low of you, you need to learn some good manners. Gosh!
DeleteYou're very stupid
DeleteAnd lack sense someone that can birth you is who you're insulting
Shame on you .
Zemzem
DeleteYou're very silly for this
You're very rude and disrespectful
I wonder how you treat your mother and your wife.
Silly you .
Zemzem, I see you like to be noticed for the wrong reasons, well now you have! I believe congratulations are in order?
DeleteShow some respect zemzem. Haba 🙄
DeleteCan you even talk to your mate this way?
What???
DeleteSend them an envelope, gift or something if you have.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't invite someone I haven't seen in 13yrs to my wedding - unless I absolutely had to. When I got married, my husband is the one who felt guilty about not inviting certain people and I'm like, "Baby, we don't actually KNOW these people. They're not our friends. Neither of us has been in touch with some of these people for double-digit number of years. Why exactly do you feel pressurised to invite them?"
When your daughter is getting married, pray that only those who are meant to be there will show up. I asked for that & weirdly enough, some family members on both sides did NOT show up. The # of wedding guests in attendance isn't what dictates the success or longevity of a marriage.
I feel you are over reacting on the formal invitation nd the whole issue in general. I am sure you too haven't called since just to ask how preparation is going. It's not everything you take too serious in life if you can't go let them know and package a gift for them nd if you can pls do go don't let them no give me invitation card I no go go or the girl no tell me herself I no go go.
ReplyDeleteTrue! Poster please call and ask how things are going and if they need you.
DeleteEven you will feel relieved when you realise you have been making a mountain out of a mole hill. This bride is also your daughter o. Or you don't know? Go and have fun madam.
if you have a tight schedule why don't you send them a nice gift or request for the bride's account and send in something.
ReplyDeleteThe mother has called you and has told you. Your daughter too has told you. SO pls go . This is Africa we dont do RSVP or wait for formal invite. Secondly it will not be as if you are jealous that your daughter's friend is getting married before you own daughter. i have been there/ Pls go
ReplyDeleteIf you don't want to go, then don't, just send a nice gift across if you can afford to.
ReplyDeleteFor me I will send a gift and not go.
ReplyDeleteI think your daughter is the one who loves the girl more than the friend does.
If not the girl has no respect for you.she did not tell you about her wedding,
Give your daughter gift to give the girl and don't go.
There is what we can self respect,if she sees you as a mother,she and the guy would have come to pay you a courtesy visit.
It gets to a stage in life people who don't respect you,u let them be.at you age an IV was suppose to be sent.
Why did they not give your daughter to give you if they are the most busy people.
Cos they have shared to the people whom they feel is important.
Did you take your husband to visit the mother of your friends tenth?? That's asking for too much nau. What greater honor is the mum calling to wish her happy birthday after several years of seeing and informing her of the wedding. Do you know that people don't print IV cards these days again because its parker it will become last last. This life is easy for this unnecessary stress. If she can go fine,if not send a gift and forget it. Life isn't this hard abeg
DeleteShe and d guy? As what??? Thats not necessary abeg. Except s bride just wants to.
DeleteI try not to sweat the small stuff when dealing with people, though ironically I'm a stickler for ettique and protocol when it comes to me and my household but I have learnt to be more accommodating with other people and as long as it is not a direct slight or insult, I tend to overlook certain issues and let them slide.
ReplyDeleteIt is not my intention to hold brief for the lady and her mum, but can it be that familiarity made them overlook "protocol"? Can it be that they didn't see the need to invite you formally with an invitation card because they assumed your daughter, being like family, would pass the date across? I was bewildered when a colleague was fuming because a close family friend sent him an invitation card to attend his wedding. He was like "such insolence! How can he send me this card as if I am not like family? Who invites his own brother to his wedding?" Different strokes, I guess.
It's more of an ego thing than an incompatible work schedule. You feel disrespected but you are hiding under the guise of busy work schedule. If not, why would you nominate someone else for the seminar because of the wedding, the same wedding you now don't want to attend? The guilt you feel comes from the fact that you know you can attend but don't want to. These girls are still close, I don't think you should allow your pride get in the way of maturity. Why not make a brief appearance, wish the couple good fortune, present whatever you have for them and leave. You don't have to spend the whole day there, no?
What's important is your attendance not necessarily the duration of your stay. Not attending will be petty. Take the higher ground, it's classier not to behave badly when people treat you poorly, especially when you aren't sure of their true intentions. It could be an oversight. It's not like you got to know about the wedding from some stranger, you were well informed by your daughter whom, I'm sure, will play an active role there. Please, overlook their "shortcomings" and attend. Thank God it's a celebration and not a sad event.
e-hugs and kisses.
Well said!
DeleteMadam take Stella's advice up there.
ReplyDeleteHer mother has verbally invited u already,why r u so bothered about d formal invitation? Or did u hear rumours that without invite no entry? If u don't feel like it why not buy gifts & send as Stella rightly suggested? Stop getting worked up over nothing Madam..better still go to d wedding & enjoy urself
ReplyDeleteWhen my sister got married, her best friend’s mother didn’t attend the wedding.
ReplyDeleteAsides that the wedding was at a different location, there just wasn’t any need. Yes my sister called and told her, didn’t send an IV. That doesn’t mean the woman is a bad person. After the wedding the woman called my sister and congratulated her.
The friendship is between the daughters so I don’t see why the woman should skip important things to do cause of my sister’s wedding. As long as my sister’s friend was present, it’s all good.
Ma’am, you really do not have to attend if you are going to be busy. Just package a very nice gift, trust me you will be more appreciated.
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ReplyDeleteMadam, Go for the wedding. That phone call to tell you that the daughter was getting married was an invite. Not all invites must come through a card. That phone call had a more personal touch than a card invite if you ask me. The mother and daughter hold you in high regards that is why they each called. You must not wear asoebi.
ReplyDeleteWedding is a very intense event for the people involved. Your role as a friend should be to call and ask them how preparation is going and if there's any way you can help. The mother of the bride will greatly appreciate it.
Being kind is putting others before us sometimes and not caring if they did this or that but playing our role as a friend ought to.
Remember, your daughter will soon be getting married too and you will see what it means to have a friend call and ask how preparations are going.
Show love ma...call her mum and ask how preparations are going, call her daughter and pray very well for her union and if you can't make it just explain to then then try to send a gift across with your name and love message on it....fair enough
ReplyDeletePoster pls attend the wedding
ReplyDeleteMy guess is that there are no formal invitations since they're trying to curtail crowd. Ask your daughter if you're in doubt. But even if they did, I don't think it matters that they don't give you. They probably see you as family.
ReplyDelete2. Is your daughter fully part of the wedding preparations? If yes, then you don't have a case at all cos then your daughter would be equally as guilty as they. Can you really allege your daughter of the same things?
3rd, if you really feel left out of the preparations, why not just call the mum and voice it out. Same with the daughter on how she called on your birthday and didn't mention her wedding. But you have to do so lovingly. If you don't trust your voice, pls don't.
Also, if sincerely it's not convenient for you, that's the easiest. Pls just let them know as advised and send a gift. However,if you wish to go so she can return the favor, think twice cos you attending hers does not guarantee that she owes you attending yours.
Finally, you get time o(sorry ma, just playing with you). I think God is just saving you from extra physical and financial stress. Although, you could use the opportunity of this wedding to become close friends again. If I were you though, i'd maintain my distance. It's been 13 years. That's a long time. We could easily become strangers all over.
ReplyDeleteI had a slightly similar experience, my younger sister that I sacrificed my own education for her to go to school just had her traditional marriage few weeks ago but she didn't call to inform me until the morning of the D-day. I still sent in money afterwards and now she's preparing for her white wedding and she still didn't care to call. I heard it and I put a call through myself, I'm even preparing for the wedding fully. It didn't remove anything from me, I'm still the lady I am and even more.
Ma'am, I think the verbal invitation was enough as they might be feeling your daughter would be giving you updates on the happenings. And I think you should have also called earlier to enquire about the plannings and arrangements. From there they would have also talked asoebi but you already felt sidelined and you were waiting for an official invite.
Please, do well to call if you can. If you can't go cos of your schedule, give them a present through your daughter. And if you decide to attend, don't feel it's wrong at all. I know that feeling when you're expecting to be in the know of things but it seems you get sidelined.
3 gbosas for you o! I didn't even finish reading your comment.
DeleteMary nne Jesu. Inukwa you inform me on D-day and I go. Even friend won't try that shit and have my presence talk more of sister!
DeleteWhat does your family have to say about this slight?
A whole traditional marriage and no whisper of it even from Musa at the gate?
Haaa
Na message she dey pass so
DeleteHear what your sister is telling you with her silence
Wow....some of you lack respect. Is this how you talk to your parents at home? Just cos it’s a faceless blog is not enough reason for some of you to just throw it words.
ReplyDeleteYou can make your point without being disrespectful. It’s a pity!!!
Are you a witch?
ReplyDeleteWhich kain excuse be this?
Abeg attend
Aunty, please just stop centering yourself in the special day of this young lady and evaluate the situation
ReplyDelete- Wedding planning is stressful, people will forget some names off the list
- You are not close to the family any more
- They're trying to save costs, hence week day wedding.
It's nice to be invited but since you haven't been, you have a few options
1. Don't go at all and remain upset/slighted you weren't invited
2. Goo with your daughter without an invite
3. Call the mother up and ask if you're welcome
4. Give the couple a gift/cash to offset wedding costs
Ma, pls be the bigger person, and attend. Pls. They are offcourse wrong, but don't pay back. Attend either the church/court or reception.
ReplyDeleteMake sure you go great the girl's mom with a big grin on your face and hug d daughter too. Then leave.
Since you have taken permission, why not go, the girl might just assume the mum has told you since you are friends with her and in your last two birthday she has called to wish you well. Pls go.
ReplyDeleteMadam not being invited formally is no big deal. You were considered a family. When i got married, my very good friend did my makeover for trad and white weddings. On the day of the white wedding, her mother came solely because her daughter and I were friends. Nobody gave her a formal invite or even a call. If you are chanced, please attend the wedding and stop the double thought. No one slighted you. Thank you.
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