Some people post their numbers and only get the opposite of what they asked for while some get heaven sent spouses.........................
What did you do right to get a spouse from the Singles mingles?What did this person tell you was the reason he/she decided to Marry you?
What do you keep doing that you think may be the reason no one has taken you serious?Lies?Deception?half baked stories told?what could it be?
Let us shares true stories without revealing Identities and see if we can give one or two tips to those still trying to find love via the Singles mingles platform......
I still believe that the Stella's Singles Mingles is one of the most successful Find your spouse platform that ever hit the Nigerian dating scene and because it has become so big,with scammers also looking for love,I plan to introduce a different dimension to it soon.............Soon.
Please share tips on how you handled a long distance singles mingles Relationship that resulted into Marriage.....
How did you propose to her?what did she do right?
How did you know he was the one?
Did you test the love on both sides?
Confessions made before affair got serious or after it?
Lets discuss.
Please I'm here to read comments on the successful ones o. How did you guys do it? What was that special thing you did? Please tell us, I really want to know.
ReplyDeleteYou are not ANG.
DeleteEveryone want to be ANG
DeleteDid I say I am ANG?
DeleteWhat is happening here please
DeleteBusted 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteWhy can't you create your own ID
DeleteWhat's the obsession ,
Yet you'd bash the ANG .
You should be called ‘The Impersonator’ cos that’s exactly what you’re doing.
DeleteWow Stella thank u for this post....pls those who found love here should let us know how...am seriously goons read all the comments as I wish to find mine here too..
ReplyDeleteElla's twin
Be you and do what makes you happy.
DeleteWhat made those that didn't succeed fail? Wanna know the put offs
ReplyDeleteWhen you meet the right one here or anywhere else, there won't be such thing as put offs because even your village people would go on sabbatical.
DeleteGrace differs,not everyone will meet their partners on social media.
DeleteDistance its my problem
ReplyDeleteI have met several ladies on singles and mingles but we always fall apart
Due to distance,sometimes my low financial income always play it part too,because ladies this days really want a guy who will take care of their needs and all,even if I'm ready to spend my last card.
I remember a lady I dated via singles and Mingles we haven't even met for over a months and some weeks,so she said she wants to change her wardrobe and she needed 50k I told her I can't afford that but can help with half of it which is 25k,she said okay but she sounded reluctant, I sent her the 25k and she went cold,if I call she won't pick up or even reply my chat.
I just jejely moved on, last time I heard from her she asked for data which I still sent to her.
So I am resting for now
That lady is a thief!
DeleteEh ya.so sorry.u will get a good woman too.some girls sef
DeleteAre you alright at all?
DeleteAnd you have not realised that you're wasting your time? Better stop enabling bad behaviour
DeleteAudio love...
Deletehahahaha
You were just a pun in her game, she never liked you and you sold yourself cheap by sending her money. I am not saying you should be stingy but you ignored the red flags and fell mugu.
DeleteNawa for you oh.why send her 25k?
DeleteLadies are so ungrateful and selfish.stop spending money on them.money no they keep woman !
Hope you learnt your lessons the hard way.
Don't worry, you'll surely find the right person someday.
DeleteU be mumu fa. She chop ur money n disappear yet u sent data
DeleteThat babe used you...hungry girl.
DeleteAnon 15:27, weldone o. SMH.
Hmm... This your story get as e be cos guys these days hardly spend on a lady they are dating. If they manage to spend, that means they have over eaten the forbidden fruit.
DeleteAnd you are saying una never meet before and you are sending upandan
Hahahah , women una funny. This is part of the problem if he said he can't send. You call him stingy aka gum etc. We don suffer
DeleteStop sending money to someone you are not intimate with yet, that 25k was huge enough, she is a bad person, sorry about this, you will find tbe right lady someday who is not all about money, not an ungrateful person .
DeleteMr Ankara say the truth, it wasn't that much and you are here hyping yourself. stingy dude
DeleteI meet my man on snm easter edition and he is one of the cutest man I have ever meet, it has not been a easy ride but we always find a way to iron things, there are things he does I dont like and same with me and my insecurities always takes the best part of me but he always reassures me of his love for me and we find a way sort things out. I just hope we keep getting better
ReplyDeleteCome and give us gist how you made it happen, I want o know what we that didn't get a good lover. Please explain everything to us so that we can apply wisdom.
ReplyDeleteI haven't participated in S&M for 2 years now cos of the kind of people that added my pin back then. I will like to try again. When is the next one? I'm looking for someone I can love this year 2020.
ReplyDeleteLol me too
DeleteI have participated more than three times and I met different set of people both single girls and single mothers with different motives and upbringings.
ReplyDeleteI late settled in with a single mom with an amazing personality though not perfect.
We are doing fine though we have had a lot of ups and downs too along the lines but we get along based on mutual understanding.
Basic rules of online dating (esp in Nigeria):
ReplyDelete1. Dont give too much information about your personal life until you know who you are dealing with. When I mean know, I mean background searches and all.
2. Dont tell your blog ID. Maintain your foolishness in real life and wisdom on here. Lol
3. Dont send money or have sex, expecting anything in return.
4. Put your best foot forward. No negativity.
5. Be real with your expectations. All the people wanting tall, dark, handsome, rich, 6-pack yet you have no job/business, no packaging or no gym body. Then when the guy adds and deletes you, you come here and start whining.... darling, you're delusional. Same for men.
6. Please we need to educate ourselves on having the right conversations with people we meet online. Dont get too familiar too soon and if a person is getting too familiar too soon (calling you baby, my boo, sweetheart) those are red flags.
7. Dont be asking questions you should ask in month 5 on day 1. You look desperate, honey.
8. On scammers for women, the best way to avoid a scammer is not to give them any money or access to your money. They will always come with sob stories, and money doesnt hide. Dont give. With time they will fade out.
9. Dont be drowning a persons phone with calls and messages. Allow the relationship grow on it own.
10. If you dont have your shit together, dont even participate. It's a simple dating rule that if you cant date someone like your current self, then why should anyone be dating you?
And before anyone comes to foam at the mouth, I've NEVER participated on S&M before. And as of right now I dont intend to. It's a great platform, but that's just my personal choice.
A round of applause for you 👏👏👏.
DeleteYou've said it ALL! Well said!!!
DeleteSo what if we use our blog id in the s&m post? There is no certain rule to it, what will work would work.
Delete@16:21 okay. Na so una no go learn until you wake enter bush. Msschew!!
DeleteWell said Chkito 👌👌👌
DeleteThank you very much
DeleteNice one 👌👌
DeleteI found out that telling a lady that I love her means that there is money somewhere that I am not using. It seems that ladies these days pack their problems and wait for any toaster to offload their problems on. One needed N200k to add to her money to complete her house rent. The other one is talking about shopping. I am tired a beg. I no get money to give away to love prospects. No search for love for me for now.
ReplyDeleteI honestly thought we've gotten pass this mentality of dating a guy to dump all your life problems on him. You just started dating someone and in 2days you're already asking money for rent, shopping and data!
DeleteWomen please repent if you fall into this category. It's wrong!
Be very careful of these babes. They are all about the money.
DeleteI don't believe this.Guys of nowadays do not give money without sleeping with you.Most guys that participate here are brokers and divorcees.
DeleteI think its not just about doing all that you are expected to. A (Wo)man whose intention is to hit and move on won't pay attention to these things.
ReplyDeleteI did the last SnM but no one contacted me sef
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahaha...don’t worry, love will find you. ❤️
DeleteAmen!!!
DeleteGod bless you
I have met lots of guys on SNM but was serious enough to make the move. I just Waka go jejely without disturbing each other. We are still friends form a distance dou.... Met a guy who was searching for a wife, chatted with him, seemed so cool n all. My people of God, Na so we marry oooooo bro just changed suddenly from the sweet guy to a clout chasing being..... Well We live as house mates for now... OLUWA IS INVOLVED.... Baba God is on my case
ReplyDeleteChaiiiiii
DeleteMy dear put it in prayers, God will definitely bring a change in your marriage.
DeleteWow..that's heartbreaking ..
DeleteSorry about that. .
Now women, can we please tone it down on the financial request and begging? Just 22 comments and see how many that has sunk because of bambiala attitude?
ReplyDeleteDon't you have a job? Business? Something doing? How comfortable do you even feel dumping your financial problems on a man you barely know? I want to date you is not a come and finish my money invitation. It makes you come across as anywhere belle face individual and no man likes that. At this stage,his money is not yours! Repeat after me...his money is not yours! Drop that entitlement at the door before you step out. You are just setting yourself up to be used and dumped so don't come here and rant.
As for the men who participate because you want a bedmate and then lied to get her down? May std meet you on the road.
Now for the married men who come with deceit and lies that they are single, may thunder fire you for deliberately setting up a woman who is looking for her own forever after and may your children deny you in your old age 😝
Amen o dats how one dickhead called me to insult me that he is married now shey am still single dat i ll be all my life..imagine S&M is a no no for me
DeleteRalu m.Lol...are you a guy? I like you already.
DeleteFor those that have good intentions:
ReplyDelete1) Be realistic with your expectations.
2) Find someone on your level. Rich man poor woman falling in love na fairytales. It happens...only on rare occasions.
3) Learn to compromise...NOT lowering your standard. People tend to confuse both.
4) Know yourself. This ia very very very very critical. If you don't know yourself, or know what you like or don't like, or what you can compromise on, how will you be able to communciate that to the other person?
5) Continue to learn and improve yourself. Nothing is more attractive than a lady or man that is intelligent in most areas I.e. financial, politics, LIFE etc. Be able to hold an intelligent conversation.
6) Don't do anything that you will regret if that relationship does not work out. I.e. ladies, don't have sex or do his laundry if you will feel used if the relationship breaks up. men, don't give her money that you will regret giving etc.
How to recognize scammers:
1) Replying with one word answers
2) Desperation
3) Send me money/naked pictures
4) Only answers calls only at certain times
Noni Lete?
ReplyDeleteI met lovely guys here that resides here in hmmm...Had one night stand with one because that's all I was looking for as a single mum...The guy is so generous, though I'm doing fine financially but he still dash me doughs...He left because he wanted something serious and I wasn't ready...Who cares soldier go soldier come...Bye felicia
ReplyDeleteMet a guy, not even upto one week he already professing love, he doesn't give me breathing space, forcing me to write that word i love you, at a point i felt why do he need those 3 letter word so badly.. I mean in space of one week oh
ReplyDeleteHe can send a million messages in one hours, i even beg him to take things slow, he said he not ready to take things slow oh that he has never dated my type before
He a book worm, a book worm that has 4,988 friends on Fbk, tho i took time to read all his comments on Fbk but none was putting him in a bad light
I always wanted to be loved, but not this type oh, how can you tell me you're inlove just 2weeks and he even accepted my no sex relationship and planning to meet with my sister, cos coincidentally he has a friend in my sister work place and stay a little distance away from me, and it very very surprisingly
The way he taking the whole thing is making me scared, we have met and it okay and I'm visiting him on Monday, first time in his house... it going to be no sex relationship
I'm confused please make una help me, can someone truly love someone like that in just a week, I'm always the one suffering in relationship, so this is new... He can send millions text and he a doctor
I think i know this guy!! Is he also a singer and base in Benin?? IS he short??
DeleteChop and clean mouth alert.
DeleteHe's gay
DeleteMy hubby proposed marriage on our first date.here we are waxing stronger,November we will be 7years.
DeleteA doctor wouldn't settle for less especially with this your migraine inducing English 😏 just sha be ready to be used and dumped by him. Happy fucking!
DeleteLove bombing, read up on it. Stick to no sex, and see how this goes. His desperation is a red flag, girl next
DeleteThat's Dr Tee for sure.
Deleteso i have participated in S & M FOR MORE THAN 50 TIMES. i have never been lucky, i have met the good ,the bad and the ugly. the guys here ( the ones i met o) are either looking for fuck mates or sugar mummies. i have tried to make all relationships i started on this platform work but all seems to hit d rocks cos i am celibate. i may try again one last time cos i love love and i have a lot love to give if i see the right person. this abroad life sef. school-work-church. no social life.
ReplyDelete@Anon 17:15
DeleteI can totally relate @ abroad life, I need friends to have a work life balance mehn. What country are u?
I’m in Canada.
And me I like this abroad life. Nobody in my space, I mind my business.
DeleteShuoooooooooooooorrrrrrrr!
ReplyDeleteThat first comment weak me kpata kpata o.
See me see wahala bikonu. Persin don thief this name wey
my friends Naija girls dash me??? 😮😮😮😮😮
Nekwanu ajuju n'ese okwu ooo.😊😊😊😊
Nsogbu adiro -no problem. Just make sure you dey yarn the truth always.
The day you go yarn fried lies or Pharisee yarns, I go come remind you of today; say you dey
spoil that "good name" 😊😊 wey my good friends, Naija girls carry do MAIMing
ceremony for me
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Eheee as for sdk's ajuju, the thing wey Naija girls suppose do to marry na Ezigbo omume -good character
minus fork -yes, fornication is what they should fleeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Forget smooth 🤐🤐 and all
those boobies entertainment for the likes of Kevin, na only fork that kind one fit fetch o, not husband at all.
If you meet good men here, do not drag in and fork or spread legs like mat inugo. Most of
the nice guys read silently on sdk's blog and watch the characters of the Sisi's so that they will
catch the good ones, take home, ighotagonu 😊😊😊
They will avoid all those blog tigers 🐯🐯🐯🐯 wey dey fight and shoot arrows even to those
that did not fight them. How did I know?
Ajuju ooo.
Because e don happen before like I yarn.
Aziza 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🖑Damn u got so much energy
Deletethe truth is that 99% of singles here are olosho.
ReplyDeleteU lie.
DeleteU are an olosho too
Deletefew I chatted with asked my salary which was 150k den,dey told me it's too small.
ReplyDeletesince den ,I lost hope.though salary was increased few months back.i will try this coming one.
Why would a man you are just meeting ask about your salary? You too (mumu) you told them. You didnt ask him why it is his business?? Some of you ehn.... you are the reason why we get tired of giving advice on this blog. Na wa oh!
DeleteI Hope to meet a nice cool headed masured responsible guy here some day, just hoping though
ReplyDeleteDifferent folks,different strokes
ReplyDeleteBe informed that while some ladies are looking for love, some of them are looking for poverty alleviation programme. Guys stay woke.
ReplyDelete