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TOXIC HUSBAND

Goodday Stella and members of this blog, please stelz of Life, help me post this chronicle because I need help before I run mad.


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I met my husband four years ago and for that four years he has been off and on, sometimes we break up for months because I'm someone who don't tolerate nonsense.

 Last year around June we got back together, and October he got me so angry that we broke up again, that break up was so final and I felt liberated, only for him to come back December during Christmas period begging and crying and telling me how he has changed, he went to meet my pastor , my mom, my brothers and even some of my uncles, my Christmas became a nightmare with all of them begging for him with the saying "The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know" 

Mind you I used to date a guy who was once very close to my family, only for me to call off the 3months to the wedding, my family never let me hear the last of it,they always use it as a source of blackmail whenever they are begging for him.


Fast forward we came back together January and I indeed saw some changes in him, then by may we did our formal introduction. Then the the traditional wedding and white wedding 3 weeks ago. 

Stella and BV that's where my woes started from. On the day of the wedding my husband was more concerned about guests than his wife, he even left me at the reception hall claiming my friends that counted money stole from him, and that my mother didn't serve his guest,despite my mother's arguement that everyone has eaten he was still insisting with a loud voice that people sent him text msg that they didn't eat, after he had left my family took me home, getting home his mother called me and ask why I went to my mother's house and I explained to her, she kept insisting I should have waited for them, telling me she shouldn't hear it that I passed the night at my mother's house that night.

 Later the best man came to pick me up, and some of my aunties escorted me, saying it's the tradition, on getting there my mother in law and three of his sister where already at the house, my husband speaking youruba to spoil me before them unknown to him one of my aunty understands youruba. 

After they have left he was still ranting about money and food, then I just took my bath and slept off, the next day for Thanksgiving he started again and ignored him. My mother was asking me why he didn't greet her in church, I just laughed it off and said maybe he didn't see her, getting home he ignored me and went to bed. 

I slept in the living room couch, on Monday he went to work, coming back he came to tell me that his friend who was among his men in suit had an accident that he wants to check up on him, I said let me come with you, he said no need, he will soon be back, getting there he called at about 9pm to say he won't be coming back home today, that became a constant reoccurrence for that whole week, come in the morning eat, dress and sleep out with the pretence of helping his sick friend.

 Four days after our wedding he removed all the gift from the wedding from the house without telling me and sold them, when I asked him he said he sold them as he needed the money, for what? He said he incurred debt for the wedding. Which debt? his siblings and mine sponsor everything about that wedding, you didn't spend 1kobo so what debt. Then he started shouting and I just ignored for peace to reign.


If I ask him money for food he will say he doesn't have that he is paying debt, I was so broke that I had to go to my mom's house to get food, prepared it, I came back and he still ate from it without asking how I got it. Then if he wants to buy food, he will buy the one he knows I don't ( because I'm very selective when it comes to food) and ask me to prepare it. On Sunday last week I asked him for Money for food again he shouted and said I shouldn't disturb him again that there is food in the house, and I told him you know I don't eat such food he ignored me, when he came back on Monday he said I should prepare beans that's when I told him since he won't feed his wife he should stop telling me to cook. 

Then he ignored me. On Thursday, his cousin who is also my friend called to tell me her cousin report to him that I don't cook in the house and I explained to her and she was very pissed and angry. She called him and gave him tongue lashing. Getting home I told him " is our marriage not too young for you to start involving third party" then he started ranting that I will never say I'm sorry that instead of me to kneel down and apologize I'm here still claiming right, the next morning I woke up and got ready for work and when he woke up I greeted him good morning, he refused to answer and I asked are you not the one I'm greeting he said what the meaning of that nonsense greeting? 

I left for work, getting to work I saw his WhatsApp msg that he has changed the keys to his apartment that I'm not a submissive wife and I can't tell him sorry that he will send my belongings to my mother's house. I told him, thank you very much . Then I called his bestman and reported everything to him, he was very pissed on my behalf that one ask me to come stay with him and his wife but I refused , then he called him and when he was reprimanding him he ended the call on him, I had to call my brother in law and report to him, then that one was like I'm acting childish that how old am I again, that for whatsoever reason I shouldn't be calling right now reporting issues to him that I'm supposed to manage my home . Then I asked manage my home even when I'm locked outside the house?

 Then he said I will call him and ask him to open the gate, I spent two hours outside the bestman was beside himself with worry looking for solution, before my brother in law called back and told me he said he kept the key somewhere that I should go and pick it there , then he said, " a woman should obey her husband at all time, maybe you should go back to your mother let her advice you" then he ended the call.

 The best man help me resettled in and said I should try and talk to one of my brothers so they can help me teach him a lesson " because I'm the only daughter in my family " and I told him I don't want to involve them, that they might kill him. The bestman later left . Then my husband sent me a text stating that I'm a witch trying to kill him and my plan will not succeed. And I reply "okay, sorry" then he said is that not the sorry you should have said since then ?

 And I replied "sorry" then he stopped chatting. After everything I took out my last 1k and make small soup. When he came back the first thing he checked was the pot, he look at me and asked me to serve him food. Food that he doesn't know how it came about. After he has gone to bed I called a house agent and asked him to help me look for an apartment. Because I don't want the next time he decided to lock me out, I should be stranded like i was....

I couldn't go to my mom's house because of what my neighbors will say. And non of my friends stay in my state and my job is here I just can't move suddenly from this state. I'm even yet to tell any of my friends because I know they will be so pissed.


Stella and BV Please pardon the long story and any error . 🙏🙏🙏 So what should I do, right now, please BV help a sister out before I die in marriage. I will be in comment session to reply message and any questions some of you might have . Stella please post. Thanks for this platform.



*WOW,Why did you Marry this man?You were obviously not in love but you settled for less and now getting even less than you settled for....

I am lost for words on what to advice you to do but it is good you get an apartment ready becos he might throw you out soon.