STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SHARING HUBBY WITH THE SIDE CHICK
Stella good day. Please I am seeking advice...
My Husband has been dating this certain lady for over 6yrs,He is the type no one can challenge,I have found a way to avoid problems just for peace to reign ,so the issue of this lady is a no go area..
My main issue is, she uses my children pic on her social media handles , I am so irritated and uncomfortable with this madness.
The children are mine, don’t celebrate them with me, I stole her Nos from his phone, my boys have done a thorough research on her so I know her whereabouts. Stella i am sick of all this, is sharing my Husband not enough for this woman? Pls advice me pls.
*You know her whereabouts and want to send your boys to roughen her up?well make sure your hubby is with her so that they can beat him up well well too...If it is not her,it will be someone else,the fault is your man and not the Lady's...He must have forwarded the photos to her to use on her DP...
I feel pity for you that you decided to stay married to this kind of man,you say bringing up the discussion of his side chick is a no go area?OMG;Madam what did you get yourself into?
Leave the side chick alone and send your boys to waylay and beat up your hubby instead.
This is exactly what happens when a woman starts accepting shit from the word GO!
ReplyDeleteShe knows you cant do anything, thats why shes doing that.
Your husband dont regard you in one bit.
Exactly, she knows you can't do nadda. Probably your hubby has rubbished and belittled you to her a lot of times.
DeleteYou should be worried about your hubby dating a 'particular' woman for 6 years, she is no longer a side chick ooo, she is a co-wife.
Have u asked yourself why your hubby married you and not the lady? What if she's infertile and can't have kids so hubby now married a baby making machine to produce the young uns. Just pray that they don't connive one day and kill you so she can come in and take over 'everything' including your kids.
Abi naa. Madam continue managing your cheating husband like that.
DeleteHas your husband not been seeing her DP? Better leave this side chick pit of your books.
Be careful, Poster how you take advice from women. If they know your husband is a billionaire like Ned Nwoko, they will celebrate the side chick and ask her to get the man to marry her like they are celebrating Regina Nwoko on this blog.
DeleteMadam thats no longer a sise chick, but a co wife. You have no business with her,but your horseband.
DeleteAnd before i forget,using your children on her dp,is simply celebrating her step children. The choice is us ma,either accept or leave with your children.
Hahahahaha side chicks get mind o. As what? Stepmother? Stella that side chick deserve a warning. Not to leave d man but to exempt d kids from their stupidity abeg. Send a warning to her madam. Tell her u knw she’s dating ur hubby but its non of ur biz wat she does with her pussy but ur kids should b a no go area for her. If she doesnt deaist then whatever she see make she take.
DeletePermit me to ask. Are u still married? If yes why?
Organize boys to beat your husband very well and warn him to stay away from their girlfriend
DeleteThey should call your husband and warn him vehemently if he wont listen organize mature beatings for him
Leave that girl alone
My blood dey boil. Husband wey I for Don castrate since.
DeleteMadam you have no business with the side chick. You habby has married her already.
Hope you have a good paying job or business? Because they will soon send you packing.
Poster send your boys to beat your husband up properly,since this issue of the side chick is a no go area, then after the beating tell them to drop a hint like it was the side chick who sent them.
DeletePoster,keep repeating this method on your husband and watch how he will change,if not,let Jesus take the wheel or you leave the 'situationship' with your children for him.
Gbammm at 15:48! Take that advice!
DeleteExactly organise boys to beat up your husband to make it look like the girl’s boyfriend sent them
DeleteIf d man Na Soja nko? Or one Kolo mental nko? Which one is husband send pix? People copy and save pix used on social media
DeleteHandles, I feel d guy know he has wasted her time so much, she too is forcing herself on him based on marriage or baby mama that hasn’t happened yet. All join. Pls all my side chicks to my HORSEBAND my children r off limit Biko. Pls
Stella's advice is da bomb dear poster.beat up the anuofia,your husband,BC if not the last it might be someone else
DeleteWhy are you still in this type of relationship? This is all I want to ask? You're really trying mennn!
ReplyDeleteSo she should divorce?? Just like that???
DeleteI think he should deal with the man
I am sure poster is that type that will be supporting other ladies not to take bullshit and here she is condoning billshit.sister leave that marriage.ladies don't tolerate such marriages!
DeleteI also have a couple more questions to add.
DeleteWhat this woman the original girlfriend? It seems she may have been there before the poster. Perhaps, his parents and siblings didn't think she "measured up" - so he married someone else. This is the only way I can see both of them not letting go of each other.
Thinking tiwatow that direction too
DeleteThis is really sad.
ReplyDeleteSide chic has no right to put up your children’s picture on her profile.
Please poster, do not confront the side chic. Don’t do anything stupid, your husband is not worth it.
I wonder why you are still with him anyway.
Who gave the side chick the pictures? The woman should be shamed of herself for still being with that kind of man. Where is her self worth?, I believe she sold it over some wealth. I am sure the man is rich that is why she is still in the marriage. Go and fight the side chick nah, maybe after the fight you will see yourself out of the marriage for good because according to you, The side chick talk is a no go area. Treat your husbands fuck up and leave side chick alone, you don't know the agreement they are into or what your community dick is telling her.
DeleteBut all of you are celebrating Regina Daniels. Doesn't she put up the photos of the kids of her husband's other wives? This lady is your co-wife. Accept her with open arms and stop complaining.
DeleteAbi ooo@anon 15.34
DeleteSome women know their husband's heart was, is and will never be with them even yet they still choose to remain to 'save the marriage.' Please, what are they saving when they are married to their self and keeping face and ring on their fingers. How can a human being live with someone whose heart is not with them, how much more giving out children's picture to the side chic. What makes this person think deal with the woman and leaving her HORSEBAND out is the way out? Why not send those boys to cripple the bastard and see how he'll get up from the wheel chair to follow side chic. Some women shaa, 'marriage' na their oxygen.
ReplyDeleteSTELLA, sell this idea to this poster.
DeleteLet me gist you guys what my Aunt did in a similar situation.
She installed tracker in her husband's car and arrange it be stolen while he was visiting the lady twice after which the car is driven straight to Kano and butchered. She did this twice! There are just 3 of us under heaven that knows this and this is my first time talking about it cos no one knows me here. I arranged the tracking.
After that, her husband's relrelationship of 4years began to disintegrate cos my Aunt kept bring up jists of girls arranging for their sugar daddys to be robbed.
Till a 3rd incident where he was attacked (this time not sent by my aunt) by 2 boys wielding knives.
That was the end of that relationship.
looool Sapphire your aunt is gangster
DeleteChei. see sense no fight
You can’t challenge your husband but you want to fight another woman? She is bold because your husband has empowered her. The fact that you still call him “husband” is funny.
ReplyDeleteGo and fight let them box your eyes so your husband can add pepper as well. The person you have and should have an issue with is the man who vowed to love and respect you but be a Mike Tyson if you must o, the Lord is your muscle.
Please should she do na???
DeleteAll of you saying she should not fighy
Thanks doppe. For the umpteenth time, I keep telling ds ladies, a side hen can only go as far as she as has been empowered, dem no de hear. Never fight another woman over a black preek, dem no go hear. Since you know her, just call him to one corner and encourage him to wife her, beg him n pray for him, it's more honorable. My 2 cents tho
Delete@ 15.39, but can we fight another woman over white preek? 🤷🏽♀️
DeleteYou hardly hear such stories about their relationships. So do the maths
DeleteDope I always look fiwforw to your response,it's always making sense
DeleteNdi Side and veteran chikitos... see una hand work o. 😮😮😮😮
ReplyDeleteBut let me ask my ajuju n'ese okwu o
For six years madam, what have you done?
Reported him to God or the people that gave you to him as wife?
Well, if you ladies will know the power of a prayerful woman, you will not be crying when your husbands misbehave. If this marriage was joined by God and someone is putting it asunder, be on your knees and see what will happen. That is if you have been living a godly life or if not, begin now; yes.
I know some arrow shooters will come under my comment to shoot and chant "offload, offload". You will never hear me advise a woman to "offload or marry someone". It is the lady's call to make and no one should help her in doing that. It is between her and God.
Ekwuchaakwa m -I don yarn finish o.
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Smfh@anon 15:09...
DeleteYou think say na everything prayers dey solve?
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣 Fanatic ANG..The Queen of Ajuju n'ese Okwu..
DeleteAnon 15:16. You are engaging a mad person oo. Please don't stress yourself; not everyone is sane on this social media.
DeleteNot even one piece of advice from all of you arrow shooters, not even one.
DeleteOdiegwu ooo
ANG from this your comment , you did not say anything concerning the man that have an inside wife and also outside wife. Leave naija girls Alone and face Naija men. Naija men are truly where the problem lies
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Hahahahahahahahaha. Kuku kill me
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Delete..and you call yourself married!
ReplyDeleteExecept he controls the oxygen you take in, truth is You have no business staying married with this man. You DESERVE so much better, than a man who continues to be unfaithful to the point that his side chick uses your children's pix as dp! But what do I know? You will still continue with this sham of a marriage because we live in a society where women would rather stay in toxic marriages and continue bearing the title of Mrs. Are you not tired tho? Are you not tired of sharing what should RIGHTFULLY be yours. This your chronicle has made me sad this afternoon. But Poster you must know. You still have a choice! You still have time to pick up the pieces because they are all on the floor.
ReplyDeleteLol funny chronicle, where Una dey meet men like this sef? Imagine you saying to bring up the side chicks matter is a no go area, Aunty abeg deal with it and pour all anger on your horsbandMan. Na woman una power reach nonsense.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, that lady is not your husband's side chick she is your husband's second wife for them to have been together for six years.
ReplyDeleteI don't like women who can't do shakara for thier men. she has been cheating on you for six years and you are still in that marriage, that shows that you are a low life.
Madam, don't let depression kill u. Your husband have no respect for u. There are better men out there, and you will find one someday. Don't let the wack mentality that a woman with kids can't find a man make u stay in that disrespectful marriage. You are better off single. A friend of mine got married to a rich man after her ex husband maltreated her everyday. She had 5 kids with her ex...
ReplyDeleteThere are few better men out there o! So if you want to leave, leave because for your sanity and self worth and not because you look forward to meeting a better person.
DeleteHmmm Madam me I don't support violence in any way..If boys beat him and something happens, it will turn back to you at the end of the day...I will advise that you separate from him..But do you have the finances to sustain yourself??.Have you reported to his family?? What are they saying?? Am not married sha..Let other BVs advice you accordingly..
ReplyDeleteDear , You are married with a man , you have Children.
ReplyDeleteMay be the man is taking Good care of you and his children.
So You are now Fighting Over a Man that does not care if you fight or not ..... (Just because he is cheating)
I Know is a Grave offence in marriage and i don't advice you to cheat back.
But men will sit down and drink together telling stories of how many girls they dated although they are married.
And ladies will cry together on how their so called husbands cheated on them.
Dear if you are married and you have kids , stay with your kids and train them well they will clean your tears tomorrow , i understand what you are passing through.
But a man who does not care about you in terms of Love and emotional feelings , Dear no kill yourself about that person , he no merit am , and no even fight your fellow woman.
Let me Give you a shocking advice that will solve your problem.
Invite that woman to your house , Cook a good meal for her and your husband let them eat together , Even join them to eat and call your children to eat with you.
After the meal , call the woman outside and ask her this Question.
Hope you are enjoying my husband very well.
don't add anything to this question ..
Dear things will change.
I have come to the realization that some women will tolerate and endure a lot of shit for a certain lifestyle and to carry on with the title of wife.
ReplyDeleteSo sad
DeleteMadam just 4get them and face your kids
Delete1st thing you need to do is get yourself busy
Save plenty money enough
Dont ever discuss her issue again
Behave as if you dont have husband
Am sure your so called husband is rich
You and your children take a trip as soon as you land the country call your family and he's own and tell them that you are not coming back. ...
Make sure you have enough b4 travelling and be ready to work hard!
Just 4get the side chick
If possible sell your cars....b4 leaving
I have handle this kind of case b4
Osalinda
Madam why can't you confront your horseband? Give him serious madness if the need arises.. He's been cheating for over 6yrs and he knows you're aware and comfortable with it. His lady friend has no business with your children. Confront and make him stop her! If need be, threaten to involve your families in this one. Let him no you're willing to go to any extend to protect your children, show him a part of you he's not seen before. Unless of course, you're one of those women married to men because of money and are ready to die there.
ReplyDeleteLet her die there na . Longerthroat
DeletePoster, you didn’t give much info about yourself, like....how long you have been married, if your husband has been cheating even before you got married.
ReplyDeleteDid you notice all of that and went ahead to marry him? If he’s always been a cheat, did you ever think you could change him?
Make e nor be like say Na you be the side chick o.
Ajuju n’ ese okwu 🤨
She uses your children's pic as her dp while you are alive and you don't think of it as a broad daylight less concerned move towards your eviction (in whatever form it may be) while the kids stay?
ReplyDeleteUse the time you have to report to all concerned and evict yourself quietly since you don't have the liver to talk him or you can still do some evidence gathering and report the matter to a respective body.
Ada.
Madam, don't mind all these people o. They celebrate Regina Daniels who is sharing her husband with his other wives. Pls ignore them and share quietly. Polygamy is not a crime in Nigeria. Use your head, my dear.
Delete15:38 But she has been sharing quietly for 6 years. What's to share again..her children? 😒
DeleteSide Chick of six years?? How old is your marriage?, how sure are you that she is not a wife also? Well, if you can stand on your own , you can go and put some fear into her BUT I'd rather you set her up with another man.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what to advise you o since you cannot even talk to your husband. Maybe you should go the spiritual way but it seems like this your rival don go spiritual already. Whatever you decide sha , best of luck.
Madam you try for six years. You want to kill her but not your horseband. Go and do more investigation and find out what your horseband loves about her.
ReplyDeleteShe has taken your home, children etc. Very soon you will just kpeme if you do not stop horseband.
Side rats keep winning all the time. r
this chronicle never,finish jare.
ReplyDeletei dont want to jump into conclusion cuz i know there is alot to this ma.
as for me,i wont advice you to leave ur husband,u knoe him mire and beside,what have u been doing that u tink its bad,tink well and start from dia,,,speak to ur man simple
OMG!😮🤨🙁
ReplyDeleteThis lady has guts,all thanks to your hubby!
I can imagine the horrible things he must have told her about you,for her to stay with him this long and have so much confidence.
she is no longer a side chick but a side hen!😮😮😮
I know her type....she's quite dangerous but easy to deal with.
The only way you can deal with her is to ignore her like she doesn't exist!
You made a huge mistake by involving your precious boys in this issue because this would make them hate their daddy and it would be your fault.
If you push them to hurt that lady,she could press charges,your hubby might use it against you and your children and you will regret it.Think of your children before you do anything stupid.
Ignore her and focus on your boys.Let her waste her youthfulness in screwing another woman's hubby and claiming someone else's children.
One day,your hubby will get tired of her!
The boys she is talking about are not her children.Boys as in men she hired maybe.
DeletePardon me🙏
DeleteThe poster shouldn't send her boys to harm that lady please,it will backfire.
Thanks for the correction.
Poster how can u be so afraid of a fellow human being like you. You mean you can't challenge your hubby. OMG adonbilivit. The highest he can do is beat you o. Pls challenge DAT hubby of yours and threaten the side chick on phone to desist from your hubby or acid will visit her.I did not say u should pour acid on her just threaten her n trust me she will never pick your Hubby's call again talkless of opening her legs for him.
DeleteImagine, so there are issues you can't discuss with your husband ?? You are avoiding trouble in your house, you have to put up with nonsense.
ReplyDeleteProbably your husband is rich and you're not working. That's what you get when you have sold your soul to a man to bear Mrs.
Continue to avoid trouble o
Oh some women paaa. Why are you this soft? Go and report this side chick at the police station for theft and attempted kidnapping.She has stolen your children pictures without your knowledge and that amounts to planning to steal your kids. Arrange with the police to pick her up on Friday afternoon so she can't be bailed till Monday then she will learn sense.
ReplyDeleteAs for your husband, clearly you don't want to leave and its not my mouth I will use to advise another woman to leave her home. So please I wish you all the best.
poster you must be kidding me with that statement to bring up side chick issue is a no go area because of what? you want to save your marriage that is why you are keeping mute or you want to be answering Mrs? i don't understand the desperation in women, you allow another lady to rub you off of your self esteem, you will become rag to a man cos you want to allow peace reign. What bullshit are you talking about? come here madam and collect some slap to wake up from your dulling moment and take the right decision. If bring up his side chick topic is a no go area why don't you also make him jealous by getting fake side guy that you both are not allowed to talk about and see how he will fell.
ReplyDeleteThe day you allowed peace to reign cos you refused to fight your ground was the day see finish entered between you, your husband and his side chick. I have never heard or seen a woman sharing her husband with side chick. You even knows the side chicken whereabout but yet you are still keeping mute. Okay continue till she kill you and take your children away, those children will suffer and you will be in the grave crying. No one can help them cos you refused to do the needful, your problem is that dog you have at home that you refused to chain him proper.
How can a man insult his wife to the extend of robbing his side chick on her face like that? You either take it fire for fire with your husband now or him and his side chick will plot to kill you. Why is she even using your kids picture in the first place? as their what? wake up and fight for your marriage or your self esteem.
Madam do u know that its possible that your husband told her that you and him are divorced or that you are even dead. Thats what gave her the guts to use your children pictures as her dp. Men this days are terrible.somthing similar happened to sombody I know only for her to find out that the man n his wife are not divorced n neither is the woman dead
ReplyDeleteAnother angle. Side chic for 6 years tho..this is the real veteran.
DeleteMadam, the truth hurts but that woman you call side chick is your co-wife.
ReplyDeleteThe nerve! You say your hubby is a dictator?? OMG! You must be walking on eggshells around him. He's cheating, you know & you can't do anything about it. OMG! I wish you strength & wisdom to handle this.
Shey I will marry laidis? 😩
Cheating is my deal breaker. I can't deal. 😭
You will marry oh...Just take your time and make the right decision..
DeleteMadam are you a Ghanaian? This story sounds like my neighbour if yes, please reply under my comment and I will tell you exactly how to get her off your back.
ReplyDeleteKwasai!!!!
DeleteI’m a Ghanaian chale.......
Please tell me what to do,reply under this vomment
This shit just got a while lot more interesting. 😂😂😂😂😂
DeletePerxian anon 16:39 is an impersonator. The 1st exclamation "kwasia!!!" Is an insult. He/she is not the poster.
DeleteMadam you have lost your self esteem,the day my ex brags about his girlfriend to my face that is the day the marriage between us ended and i am happy í took that decision.
ReplyDeleteThis is annoying. Use your kids'pictures on her handles for what?
ReplyDeleteMadam, as much as i hate to say this, here goes. Such husbands I only recommend love potion. Go to those Hausa women that can tie shege out of a man, let them put him in ur pussay yes,let him think u are all. They will also put that side vulture into toilet pit, even though shalanga is the best,at least they don't unearth it.
ReplyDeleteChai! What did I just read! Your problem is her posting you're kids pics on her dp? Isn't sharing your husband much worse? Her issue is a no go gini? For SIX years? You did not say for how long you have been married, or was she there before/when you were getting married? Other men at least try to have some respect for their wives but not ya own. As in, she dey gidigba, no leave no transfer. My dear, stay there feeling like the one that got the ring, you're the side chic...sorry wife. The day that they get tired of this situationship, it's only God that will save you. Let it not even get as far as poisoning you. The person you are supposed to dig it out with is your hubby but you can't face him, so you decide to take the battle to who you feel will be a soft target.
ReplyDeleteMy candid advise to you would have been to pick up your self esteem,get as much proof of their relationship, inform your respective families and leave but you are determined to stay there.
To use 'your boys' to handle some one for you to hold onto that wedding ring.
Option A - Beat her up.
Possible Outcome 1 - Side chic may be smart enough to use the incidence to further sway Hubby's affection for her, cementing his erudite relationship with her.
Possible outcome 2 - That slim chance that the experience is enough to make side chic walk away from a relationship where she has the upper hand over the wife.
Possible outcome 3 - Your hired muscle may be overzealous in the pummeling and she succumbs to her injuries.
Option B - Beat both hubby and side chic
Possible outcomes - Just like Option A above.
Good Luck
Why are you still married ?
ReplyDeleteWhy?
He has kept a GF for 6 whole Years?
Why still stay with a man who has no regard for you or your marriage or God?
Sometimes this our we die there mentality is a disease!!
Get out of that marriage! He does not deserve you?
You do not deserve it.
If you don't have a job, go and get one.
Work and get your life together to live this man alone.
No need to send anybody to beat anyone up.
Make your money, pack and go with your kids!
Six years is enough for you to have an exit plan. But then again I dont blame you. When we women want to take shit we take it thoroughly. They want you to leave the marriage, Your husband and his side chick. You didnt tell us if you are a Muslim, because I know Muslim are always inclined to stay in this kind of situation.
ReplyDeleteNonetheless, I think you should confront both parties your husband first then the lady. You have mind to use boys to monitor your husband's chic and with all the evidence you no get mind confront your husband? Madam dont confuse yourself. If its lack of money or something to fall back on that you are afraid of my dear put a plan in place. Put a lot of money aside. Rent an apartment if you must. If he can kill you, plan on taking your children and traveling abroad. Put a solid plan in place, but dont let this shit slide. Send that lady a stinker. Make sure you objectively point out all you know about her and your husband, then go ahead to tell her do deceit from using your children for whatever reason on SM.
How can you be married to a man you are afraid of? Confront him and let heaven fall. Meanwhile put a solid plan in place. And do not be too afraid to leave without money. Many have left without money and still survived.
Make sure you confront that lady, even if it's not you, let your sister or friend send her a DM via the same SM to take the pictures down. Threaten to call her out on instablog if she tries that shit again. Nonsense and ingredients, imagine the idiocy and audacity.
Na wah o, trouble in awada land.
ReplyDeletePoster how on earth did marry a man no one can talk to?
You can actually tell ur husband to tell her to stop using ur children's picture.
She's jobless I think and a full housewife. He wait for Oga to do everything for her, even buy her pad for menstrual period.
DeleteOga is rich and madam will die there to keep her husband.
That's why she's not bother about sharing but bother about the picture on her co Wife DP.
She go rather cry inside Benz than laugh inside keke napep. .😂
Don u said it all
DeleteDon u said it all
DeletePlease find out if your husband has married her legally or traditionally because 6 years is a long time to remain a side chick. That been said,you have been living with the knowledge of her for that long means you are cool with it. My solutions
ReplyDelete1. Empower yourself: The babe and your hubby may have ulterior motive,your days may be limited in your home
2. Have a back up plan
3. It's time you grow that confidence and warn your husband to caution his babe
4.Be prayerful
5. Prison is real, don't go and beat anybody and they go and die
Madam I will advice you not to fight .you gave allowed patience to take its good work in you but sometimes we have to be a lion and not always sheep.the deed has been done & 6 yrsisreally a long time.you can't fight this battle physically anymore.if you depend on your husband pls try to find something doing but for now call him tell him u want to discuss about the kids and take it gently from there .make him understand u are a woman and a mother hen nd you are not comfortable with his 2nd wife posting your kids.
ReplyDeleteMy ex friend is on this table she has been a side chick for about 3 years now, upon all the advice she still no leave the man tho his wife is in the abroad but their son is here in naija. She has turned to wife here posting the son pictures on sm even dedicating birthday post for the boy. I just pity her at just 28 she has no value for herself treating married man as a boyfriend. Madam poster may God guide and direct your path marriage ain't a do or die affair
ReplyDeleteMy dear, initially I wanted to say God's grace but I changed my mind , you are the wife he married abi??? Now go and dust your Bible, form a habit of reading and meditating on it then pray in tongues for thirty minutes every day in the night oh. Watch what will happen. Then start thanking God for separating them. Keep thanking God that the holy spirit has arrested your husband's heart. Don't stop until you see change. This worked for me. It is be like magic my dear. If na jazz e go scatter. Where there's real problem is when you are not born again but if you are, stop dulling and TAKE CHARGE.
ReplyDeleteDarling, it's manifestly difficult to correct something you have acquiesced to for 6 years, moreso where there are variables that are out of your control. How did you get here, though? What's the narrative? Were you bullied or intimidated into standing by and watching while you became the married mistress and she the unmarried wife? It appears your marriage has fundamental foundational issues, because I know of men who have mistresses but are, ironically, so protective of their wives that the mistresses dare cross the boundaries these men set. They are not allowed to even mention the names of the wives, let alone the kids.
ReplyDeleteLike Doppelganger stated, it's funny that you've mobilized some boys to move in the direction of the mistress, you allow share your husband for 6 years, but you can't assert yourself as the wife and call your man to order. Sweetheart, please, don't compound this anomaly by sending those boys to do anything to that woman. Honey, I know a show of force seems the right way to go but think before you act. You're a mother, you can't afford to be reactive without giving due thought to the possible outcome of your actions. What if something goes wrong and the mistress gets hurt, or worse? Are you ready to be imprisoned? I have seen cases where the mistress filed criminal charges against the wife for assault occasioning bodily harm and threat to life. Nigerian laws have no punishments for being a mistress. It is a more wrong not a legal offence. What if your hubby comes home and pours out his fury on you? You don't seem like you want to lose your marriage, regardless of its dysfunction, if not, you would have been long gone. Never put yourself in a position where you, the oppressed, becomes the oppressor and get a harsher punishment.
Now that she's emboldened to cross over to your kids, you too have to grow some balls and have the long overdue talk with your hubby. Agreed, she's no go area as per discussion but she has now brought your kids into the mix. Certainly, that calls for a change in the "rule of the game". Let your hubby know that you have issues with his mistress displaying pictures of your kids without your permission. Even a legitimate 2nd wife has her boundaries when it comes to her step children.
If, for whatever reason, you can't have a talk with your hubby, don't bother talking with the mistress or attacking her in any way because she is who she is and does what she does by virtue of your husband. I'm against violence of any kind but if you must send boys to anyone, the befitting candidate is your hubby and not the chic he empowers. Sweetie, I'm so sorry that union of yours is the corrupt version of what it ought to be. Perhaps you should start empowering yourself and work towards financial independence. It's risky being married to a man with zero regard or respect for you, you can be kicked out at any time since, it appears, you are reluctant to leave on your own accord.
e-hugs and kisses.
@ronalda five foolscap on top wetin? Na exam
DeleteThank you Ronalda.
Deleteanonymous. leave Ronalda alone!!! some of us enjoy reading her long comments. Now, run along!
DeleteWhat kind of yamma yamma smelly chronicle is this?? 🤧
ReplyDeleteNaija women i hail una, the same people that their husband & boyfriends is cheating on them and are still begging them to stay in their lives will come here and be saying leave his ass!
ReplyDeleteDo you really think a side chick of 6 years is more valuable than you? I don't think so! they both have been fucking for six years and not even a child has been produced from the relationship. My opinin, the side chick either knows that she dares not think about getting more from the relationship or she does not want to get married to your husband.
It is a sad truth but most men are not faithful, for the ones who end up marrying the faithful type congratulations! Dear poster, please draw your two ears, what you know cannot kill you. I totally agree that it might be painful knowing that husband constantly cheat on you but please i beg of you do not leave your home except amidst the cheating, he is violent towards you.
Take care of yourself and kids,ignore their relationship existence, its hard but pretend that he is all yours and shower him with love and care.
Most importantly,Pray to God to get the girl settled so she can leave.Matthew 5:44
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DeleteMaybe the wife has been doing something her husband doesn't like continuously for the past 6 years too, that's why he insists on the babe, E.g. she refuses doggy!
DeleteFemale bvs are pained because they'd feel terribly slighted by the side chick - they won't admit it here because it's a unisex blog!
No woman divorces a man if she's still convinced he has less to lose. #fact
it's our normal way of life.
ReplyDeletedon't kill urself madam.
association of terrible Men.
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Send guys to beat him.
ReplyDeletemadam,dont mind all the women on this blog.they are saying rubbish.awon mental.u must be a very good woman.just sit down jeje for ur house and be enjoying.as for ur kids.notin dey hapun
ReplyDelete@17:37,thankio!
Delete@poster,just relax and stop bothering yourself!
Dont let these women to push you to do something stupid or make you feel worthless.
Be wise!
This poster has only 2 options to get even, but unfortunately, they are both fatal & futile. 1. Cheat openly too, or 2. Cheat secretly; either way...... na one chance.
DeleteTo conclude, jejely manage the situation my dear. It's your home, be capable.
Sit down jeje till she gets HIV abi?
DeleteHer using your kids' pictures with such blatant audacity isn't the problem.
ReplyDeleteFor such blatant disrespect from your husband and for the lenght of the relationship shows that you need an exit plan.
Is he always unapprochable?
To save your emotional health, you need to decide what to do a trial separation for starters..........
Do you guys have sex?
Sending you strenght and hugs.
TThis remind me of 1 girl my hubby was dating then...She will always refer to my children as hers eg...Sweetheart mi,how are my children.i love them so much.
ReplyDeleteI took her no and warned her,i told her to get pregnant for him and have her own children cos i believe she wants me dead to take over my kids.
Why did u not warn Ur hubby
DeleteAnd you left your hubby abi? Ngwanu, clap for yourself.
DeleteYou want to die Becos of a man, for this life that is just one
ReplyDeletePoster do not leave your home because of a side hen. The side chicken is wasting her time. I know its difficult but trust me I have been in a worse situation...Ignore both of them. Do not cry or beg your hubby, don't show any weakness, Just remain calm..it is hard but try.
ReplyDeleteEmpower yourself. Look for a business to do if you are a housewife . learn new skills and meet new people. Be busy sorting out your own life! if you hubby doesn't allow you work..please start collecting extra money for everything and save it.
Hang out more with your friends. Be happy and pretend you met a new guy. Change your wardrobe, look good and smell good. Let your husband wonder what's up with you.
Go on your knees and pray for the Holy Spirit to arrest your husband and his side chick . Let there be a misunderstanding between them that will cause a separation.
Pray for her to repent and change her ways. If she refuses to repent, let her have problems that will overwhelm her. No need to fight her physically, the battle is a spiritual one. Trust God to handle the situation. best of luck.
E no get wyting person no go read for this blog. Madam poster you say you are comfortable with your husband side okuko for years now.I see you are the one who has the problem. Get out of that marriage and make something meaningful with your life. You need to beat sense into your head. Send those boys to beat you silly and mandate you to leave that mess you call a marriage!!!
ReplyDeleteShe is not in a marriage, that is a master and slave relationship. Can you imagine not being able to simply express yourself to your spouse. What subject could there be that I cannot broach with my husband. He needs to get some itch powder placed in all his underwear. Hair remover placed in his shampoo, and his meals laced with laxatives. Dude needs to feel some pain, if I can't talk to you then fell the pain, cause since I have to keep my mouth shut then I gotta express myself in some other ways. Even bleaching cream mixed in with his body lotion, mofo you gonna be out here looking like a colouring book when I am done with you.
DeleteThose who tell you Never to Take Shit in your Marriage takes Shit and Drinks Urine in their Own Marriage and you will not hear peem.
ReplyDeleteBe Wise!!!
My sister sey were for your husband and take charge of ur home back oooooo ... imagine what a broken home will do to your kids ..... can you carry the burden of a single mum? are you ready to leave a man you've loved and laboured for? ask ursef
Awwwww...I pray God fix your home
ReplyDeleteStella,i don't agree with your red pen on this .It's not right for a mother to tell her children to get their father beaten up that is a big NO for me.However,No matter how the husband will feel she should bring up the issue with her husband and not get the children involve for NOW.Beating the side chick and their Father it not good advise.
ReplyDeleteEt tu Stella! Even you! An apostle of violence? She should send her boys to beat the husband up.
ReplyDeleteCollect housekeeping money from him and save it, then travel to Canada with your kids. Don’t let anyone know your plans o, even with your kids be very secretive. Then when u travel send the boys to beat 2 of them to stupor
ReplyDeleteIf it were me I would have killed someone. Most likely the girl because in this my life my kids are no go area and if you even touch them I can do. So if you want to kill her think of a plan that involves poison not violence. It's also possible to kill your husband too with poison. These are lasf resort sha.
ReplyDeleteThe first thing you should do is kill your husband's manhood. There are lots of ways to do this. Make him a vegetable then watch for the next 3 months. During this 3 months, demand sex a lot so he will be getting depressed when he can't get it up. If this doesn't kill their relationship in 3-6months then you need to kill one of them
HABA what kind of advice is this o.... this is bad
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