STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
TORN BETWEEN LAW SCHOOL AND MARRIAGE
Hi Stella more grace to your elbow.
I need advise to the following request below.
Hi Stella more grace to your elbow.
I need advise to the following request below.
I am 23yrs old and got married this year in April..
My husband is Canadian based, I will be going to my final year this November, before I proceed to law school, will round up in 2021. Before I relocate to meet him, although I will be going for vacation next year.
Stella, my problem is the timing, is far and owing to the fact that me and my husband are distant from each other, in terms of child bearing and companionship between husband and wife.
I was advised by my in-laws to finish my LLB and forfeit the law school for now, because Nigerian certificates are not recognized in Canada, that I can proceed with my Bachelors of Law certificate to canada, to continue my law course or any other lucrative course that is linked to law.
Pls Stella I am so confused ,can I get a cogent and concrete advice from anyone who is based in Canada, or anyone that is a lawyer. I need anyone who can advise me with regards to this issue.
Thank u so much.
Stella, my problem is the timing, is far and owing to the fact that me and my husband are distant from each other, in terms of child bearing and companionship between husband and wife.
I was advised by my in-laws to finish my LLB and forfeit the law school for now, because Nigerian certificates are not recognized in Canada, that I can proceed with my Bachelors of Law certificate to canada, to continue my law course or any other lucrative course that is linked to law.
Pls Stella I am so confused ,can I get a cogent and concrete advice from anyone who is based in Canada, or anyone that is a lawyer. I need anyone who can advise me with regards to this issue.
Thank u so much.
*I am not a Lawyer or based in Canada but i would stick to my inlaws advice if i were you!!!
Hi. I am a lawyer and I agree with your in-laws. Just make sure you finish strong. In the long run, your career interests may require a law-school degree. I wish you the best.
ReplyDeleteDarling, this is a no brainer, nau.
DeleteWhat’s there to ponder about?
Why stay for Law school if you are planning to relocate anyway.
The sooner you get to Canada n prepare to take their bar exam over there the better.
You in law has given you very sound advice, Biko.
When I was in law school last year, about quarter of us came from USA,uk, Canada for law school. U sure u won't come back later like them...no one knows tomorrow. Better stay back and do your law school. One year will be over b4 you know it
DeleteA lot of the people that come back are children who studied abroad so it’s not the same thing. A lot of them have well off parents and may have foreign passports. Putting your education first is always the best advice and in this case going to Canada is the best advice. The ones who come back often don’t need the terrible salaries from law firms or come back to get married. So this doesn’t count. Except she suspects her husband will stall her education and career
DeleteYou can't practice here if you don't complete our law school. I think you should before travelling.
DeleteYou said your husband is canada based, please be sure he has his papers sorted, as in right to live in Canada before you relocate.
DeleteThen make sure you finish your degree programme. You can always come back for law school whenever you wish. The earlier you start chasing your dreams in CANADA the better, you may need to do some brush up.
Note that life may bring you back to Naija later, all the best.
*may not require
DeletePlease pardon the mistake.
Why ona rush go marry.. Why didn't you guys wait till you are ready to live together as man and wife. Na wah.
ReplyDeleteJoy, weldone o. I see your handwriting. Lol
Deleteobviously i can tell u are judgmental. u already decided what u will write immediately u read the first sentence. Canadian law pay her pass Nigerian law since her husband is already there. Just finish with good grades and 4get the law school in Nigeria because it is of no use if u are relocating to canada
DeleteVery judgemental indeed. I got married while in my final year at the age of 23, four years down the line it hasnt deterred anything. I am still waxing strong career wise.
DeleteRelocating doesn't mean you are done with Nigeria. Look around you a lot of people still want to connect with Nigeria.
DeleteI would advise you to stick to your in laws advice too. I am based in the UK but I believe it will apply to Canada too. Professional qualifications will need to be retaken in Canada.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, I will advise you to start looking into schools in Canada now, if you' d like to continue with law. At least you will know what direction you should be going into when you get there. Unless you want to take some time off.
I agree. Stick to your inlaws advice. Since you will live in Canada, it will be better to attend their law school. Anything after BSc that you do in naija, is a waste if you want to live abroad.
DeleteWait oo, what did you spend your time doing before tying the knot?? You mean you didn't do thorough research on all these and discuss every possible option with your spouse? No words here baby girl, others will advice you.
ReplyDeleteposter take your in-law's advise is important you stick and stay close to your husband to close up all the space between you both. If you know that you didn't want this gap between you both you would have waited till 2021 to get married. All the best.
ReplyDeleteLucrative
ReplyDeleteAbroad;canada
marriage
Familiar tunes chanted?
Ajuju n' ese okwu.
That is all that bothers a typical Naija girl. Nothing about the almighty creator and the life to come?
It is all about self aggrandizement in this vain scanty life? Nothing about what this husband does abroad; just jump and meet him?
Must we wait until When blunders are everywhere, before we remember God who created us?
Zaa m ajuju ooo
My learned 🤐🤐🤐🤐🤐
I've never attacked your comment before, I find them rather amusing. However, today I join the host of BVs attacking you to say something is fundamentally wrong wichu upstairs. A girl needs an advice on her studies yet you attack her and her husband. Since when did getting married to a man based abroad become a crime? Did she tell you she isn't close to her God? Since when did an academic advice become "self aggrandisement ?"
DeleteBefore you come at me saying I attacked you without dropping my own advice, @poster, follow your in-laws advice. If you want to practice in Nigeria sometime in future, you'll then proceed to NLS.
You are still butt hurt you didn't get to marry that your abroad guy abi. You think it's only religious people who are on this blog? Are you scared and filled with regret and pain, that she has taken account of all that you mentioned and things still fall in right places for her?
DeleteAre you afraid that she may have a better relationship with God and her worldly life is still better than yours?
Who told you she doesn't know what her husband does abroad?
DeleteI picture you as a religious extremist like one of those chosen mopol or deeper life member
Anon 15:11 are you okay? You sound like a retard. What has what her husband do abroad got to do with her question? Must you write if you have nothing to say?
DeleteI'm beginning to believe that, not everybody reading this blog is mentally okay and one must sieve advises properly before applying.
Na wa for you ooo. She need advice please, give her your own piece of advice.
DeleteWhat is wrong with you?
DeleteANG..long time!
DeleteDo not be over righteous, neither be over wise. Why destroy thyself? It is good to grasp one yet not letting go of the other. The Wo[man] who fears God will avoid all EXTREMES.
Ecclesiastics 7:16-18
You are just finding out the lady has mental issues? She is a judgemental prick with no iota sense in her empty skull
DeleteYou're mentally unstable, abeg. What has the poster's husband's job abroad got to do with what she asked? Or am I the one that didn't understand her question? It's like self-aggrandisement is a new phrase you learnt, so you're eager to show off even when you don't know the meaning. Did an abroad-based guy leave you? Cos your obsession with marriages where the man is already abroad is as abnormal as your preoccupation with abortions. If the only men you know abroad are thieves and deviants, whose fault is that?
DeletePoster, have you talked to your husband about it? To avoid "but I thought you thought..."
Stella time Don reach to stop posting comments from this lunatic.
DeleteExcept she states she doesn't know what her husband is doing ,its a no brainer you jumping in and assuming she doesn't know what he is doing.
DeleteIf she had come with a complain of he source of funds or abandonment then this submission of yours could probably be applied.
As fun and interesting reading your comments can be sometimes you need to actually drop some meaningful contributions in certain situations.
Poster, finish your University and relocate.. forget about Nigerian law school for now because you won't need it there. If you are planning on relocating back of course when its time you will sort that out.
Follow your inlaws advice.
Wawu!
DeleteArrow shooters plenty today?!
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All of shooting arrows, I
did not read your own piece of advice o, did I?
Ajuju ooo
I attack her and her abroad husband, which which weapons of war bikonu?
Ajuju ooo
Mental issues? I don read that one plenty times. All the Sisis
wey dey shoot off babies and drag in and fork, them get which issues bikonu?
Okwa ajuju ooo 😊😊😊
@Perxian Otegokwa ishoot arrows. Na correct Scriptures you yarn so
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂yes, let every Naija girl become preacher, that's my
prayer, but let all that name the name of the Lord depart from iniquity!
Gbam! I yarn am so.😘😘😘
Stella please can you stop posting this person's comments? All she does is attack.
Delete@Orela
DeleteNa only ajuju n'ese okwu I been ask o
I no jump into any conclusion, I no be
long jumper like Ajunwa ooo 😊😊 If you no sabi
the answers to my ajuju n'ese okwu, make you scroll pass na, e hard?
Ajuju oo
You all Stella's advice shoukd shut the hell up. This person has the same right like you and you can't tell Stella to stop posting his or her comment.
DeleteWhat do you guys take yourself to be sef?
Yourselves **
DeleteAng
DeleteTake correction
Be humble
Ask Holy Spirit to teach you
@Jet
DeleteThank you for your comments.
All these your chant of "Holy Spirit teach me"
Since you have the Holy Spirit and he has taught you,
why not teach me?
Ajujuooo
Are we not all here to learn. Teach me bikonu.
No Don, You shut up!!!
DeleteThat woman is a sadist.
When someone's opinion constitute a nuisance there is time to call a check on it.
This your comment no follow at all👎🏼 I usually dont bully people comment style cos I had my fair share of that om here. But this one is no case abeg. Bye
DeleteMy sister is not a BV. When I told her about you she suggested that we show you plenty love cos you need it. I don't know if you will come back to read this but just dropping it here anyway.
DeleteOn a second thought, make sure you complete your degree before fully relocating. There's no rush with the childbearing aspect, no go carry belle from that your journey else that your 2021 graduation might not even be feasible again.
ReplyDeleteDuh! I got married and had a baby and still graduated with 1st class in uni. And yea, I left the country on graduation and have an amazing job.
DeletePlease stop with the bile, the situation is do-able. She is an adult.
If you weren't so in a hurry to inform us you graduated with a first class, you would have seen the 'MIGHT NOT' in my sentence. Bile for What?? Now run along Okay?
DeleteBiko, send scanned document of that result to Stella for verification...
DeleteDainty just keep quiet and stop hating, comment no be by force
DeleteI agree with Dainty T its just an advise! Most people are of the notion that straight after marriage one has to take in immediately, I am not. The poster is relocating to another country so its best she finds her way around before falling pregnant, after all she is still young.
DeleteAnon 16:50 shut your trap!! I have your time this evening. You think everyone who comes here to comment is a low achiever huh? What's in the poster's life to hate her for? Olodo like you.
DeleteRe you planning to practise in Nigeria, relocate and do Canadian bar exam biko.
ReplyDeleteyour husband should be your career.
ReplyDeleteassociation of terrible Men(PRESIDENT).
If you relocate without law school, that means no youth service, that means you will be in rhe same WhatsApp group as Kemi Adeosun.
ReplyDeleteYour in-laws are on point. Even if you spend the time on law school here you still can't practice in Canada with it. You are just 23 so when you get there knock yourself out with more law qualifications; that is some serious security girl.
ReplyDeleteGood luck. I love you already.
Make sure you secure your LL.B, after which you can proceed to Canada to do your bar exams or any law related course.
ReplyDeleteYour in laws advice is very reasonable. Also, don't think about child bearing now, wait till you relocate. You want to add the stress of studying to pregnancy stress.
ReplyDeleteFinish your bsc first. Forget Nigerian law school.
ReplyDeleteB.Sc = BACHELOR OF SCIENCE
DeleteB.A = BACHELOR OF ARTS
LLB = BACHELOR OF LAWS
I live in Canada, Ontario to be precise, to start with Nigerian degrees do not count for anything here although not entirely true. I guess what i am trying to say is that having a degree from nigeria will mean that you will not be starting from the scratch but this is dependent on the province you are in. you might be required to take a few courses that would enable you to be accepted into the canadian law school and the course you did in nigeria will be applied to give you extra credit, so instead of 4 years in school, you will spend 2 years to get the law degree in canada.
ReplyDeleteExactly. Anything after BSc from Nigeria, isnt recognized. You can have a Nigerian BSc and use it to get into a Masters programme. That's about it oh! So dont sweat at all. Finish your LLB and move
DeleteHello Poster, I am a Lawyer but before I drop any comment I must say this decision depends on what YOU really want as per your career goals in the Legal profession.
ReplyDelete*DO YOU REALLY WANT TO PRACTICE?
*WHERE DO YOU SEE YOURSELF IN THE NEXT 5YRS AS A LAWYER?
If yes then it's a two way thing.
1) I would say you should go with your in-laws opinion ( finish your LLB, go join your husband abroad since it is going to be your new home then proceed for your L.B - I mean, the Candaian Bar Exam because that is the only way you can qualify to practice there.
2) However, if you still plan on returning to Nigeria some day to practice, I would advise you proceed with your Law school here after your LLB thereafter you join your husband and take Canadaian Bar exam which implies that wherever life throws you, you can achieve your career goals both in Nigeria and abroad (you can practice here and still practice abroad).
You are still very young and has a long way to go.
I wish you all the best!
Best comment so far!
DeletePoster follow this advice.
DeleteOkay. You have valid points too. Nice one! Experience is the best teacher
DeleteGood for you,take the advice of your inlaw
ReplyDeleteAs a Nigerian studying in Canada for the last 6 years l, I can assure you your laws school won't mean jack if you plan on residing here. And if you still want to be a lawyer in Canada, you need to complete your degree with really high grades to get into law school here. Because competition for law school here is serious. I had a friend that read las as his undergraduate and couldn't get into any law school after, even with a average of 82%. Just round up your degree and come and meet your husband. I don't advise you start having kids yet, you're still so young. Get a better grip on your next career steps first before you have kid and start wondering. All the best
ReplyDeleteMadam this babe is getting pregnant the month she enters Canada, so i will start from the part where u'v already taken care of the child for @least two years then u can decide to try out law schools in Canada but first ensure u graduate with very good grades law schools are very competitive
DeleteIt is unwise not to wait for about a year or two after marriage before having babies unless 1. Age is not on your side (which is not the case with this poster) or 2. You live in a culture/family that frowns against waiting and people’s opinion matters to you.. if not poster, take your time you are just 23
DeleteThis is something you should have planned way before getting married. Why the rush to get married at 23?? You haven't even finished your undergraduate degree! This whole thing actually depends on if your husband wants to eventually relocate back to Nigeria or stay in Canada. Law is practised differently in different countries. Go with your in-law's advice but talk with your husband. Nawa! All these rush rush things without proper planning and you are even thinking of getting pregnant too! Lol, oriegwu! You never ready!
ReplyDeleteDo u have a firm for her where she will work after law school? and what is wrong with marrying @ 23, to be sincere marrying that guy was a jackpot for her @least she has a choice to travel to Canada. i have seen people that finished with law school and had to go for skill acquisition classes because job no dey
DeleteAbeg Jare! So if she met correct bobo at 23 she should not marry because she doesnt want to rush?? Must everyone marry at the same age? The same people telling you you're too young will be asking you how far by your 25th birthday. Poster you did no wrong..at 23 you already have options for a better life. You did well
DeleteThis poster has good in laws.
ReplyDeleteNot the idiots that were advising their son to leave his wife in Nigeria.
Don't marry into an hungry family. Case closed.
Listen to me. Make sure you get called to bar with your mates. Go to law school once you finish your LLB, go to law school with your mates and get called with them.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart, I will advise you to get your LL.B from your Nigerian university at least, before you relocate to Canada. I believe in tying up loose ends in all my endeavors before proceeding to the next level or an alternative choice. I wouldn't advise you to abandon your education midway, for any reason, even if you don't think you need that certificate for now.
ReplyDeleteHoney, after your LL.B in Nigeria, you can relocate to be with hubs. You have to be called to the Canadian bar to practice law in Canada and that is a whole different ball game. Unlike most countries with common law jurisdictions, Canada doesn't recognize foreign law degrees, until they pass through the accreditation process. They have this re-evaluation process to evaluate foreign credentials, unfortunately, Nigerian degrees are not considered up to the required standard. It's only after you pass the accredition that you can write the Canadian bar exams and if you pass, you will be able to practice law in Canada. However, if you ever find yourself in Nigeria, you can't practice law until you are called to the Nigerian bar, another good reason to get your LL.B. You can apply to Nigerian law school to write the bar exams so you can practice in Nigeria as well.
After my LL.M, in England, in spite of my stellar performance and my years of practice in Nigeria, I had to take certain courses and write some exams afterwards, I had to do my pupillage with a renowned chambers in England, as if I were fresh out of law school. It was worth it, though because I can now practice as a barrister in the UK. With my credentials from UK, I applied to the US bar so I could also practice in America. The process was hellish! I applied and I got accepted a year later. Took some courses to prepare me for the bar exams. I was successful and was called to bar in New York. So I can practice law in about 25 states in the United States of America. These degrees make my practice very lucrative because some of my Nigerian clients based overseas have me on retainer, it's cheaper for them and the trust factor is there. I get to travel a lot, network with colleagues all over the globe and still practice when we're on vacay, if the need arises. I hope to get my Ph.D before my 45th birthday.
Sweetie, with my years of experience in legal practice and all my degrees, getting the "license" to practice in foreign countries was a herculean task. I doubt a lawyer graduate fresh out of a Nigerian university with only an LL.B, will be taken seriously. Nevertheless, still get it, it forms part of your CV. You never know. You've already misplaced your priorities but you can still try to rearrange them while you're still here because once you relocate to be with your man and kids start trooping in... they become your main focus. I hope everything works out well for you.
e-hugs and kisses.
Hubs! You use hubs too..Yayyy! Okay, you are like my kindred sis. 🙆🙆
Deletewell spoken👌👌
DeleteRonalda wow!!! You are really good at what you do. Good to know that we have people like you in this blog, NNE please go with this advice because this is a resource person talking. OK back to me Ronalda dear, I'm a nurse midwife and I'm hoping to relocate to Canada, I'm 40 , how do I go about it, I'm married. I need your advice please.
DeleteThank you so much Ronalda!! Poster take this.
Delete1 trillion likes to you Ronaldo
DeleteAnother 'experience' is talking 😂
DeleteAnofia Perxian...
DeleteTo you Poster I'm a lawyer too and please leave the stories that touch. There is a requirement from the Nigerian Law School. The Canadian Bar requests for it. Please ensure you complete your law school once you're done with your LLB
NNE go to your husband oh, that distance shit ain't good at all!!!
ReplyDeleteHaving your children early is the deal oh. Who knows , you might even switch career self, go there first and go for what sells more abeg
What is the deal about having children “early”? Because mid and late 20s are still early. She’s only 23 years old. That’s pretty young. As young and immensely beautiful as Amara Kanu looks (and trust me, we know how she’s beautiful and fit as hell), she can never look like her children’s age mate. Be young and have time to find yourself. The children will come. Especially if you’re with a Nigerian man who may not make certain sacrifices that ultimately fall on you. She should finish her LLB first and consider any postgraduate qualifications before pregnancy. It’s hard enough to do them and acclimatise in a foreign environment as a single and ‘unpregnant’ person
DeleteAnon 15:45 it's 'a hungry' family not 'an hungry' family.
ReplyDeleteIn another post, a bv wrote 'an headache' (wrong). It is 'a headache'.
The same goes for 'an hotel' (wrong). It is 'a hotel'.
Please, it is also wrong to say 'in the abroad'. It is 'abroad' .
Someone lives or goes/travels/travelled 'abroad' or 'overseas'.
Writing or saying, 'in the abroad' is grammatically wrong.
Please, take this correction in good faith.
Poster, please consider Rossberry's advice - options 1 and 2.
However, if you prefer to settle down in marriage upon graduate, then go with your in-laws' advice. It's a win-win situation for you.
I agree with what Ronalda said as I am in similar shoes. With canada, it is a different ball game . The law school is so competitive that even the bright amongst them travel to the UK to do law degrees because they could not get into law school . So, first of all after your LLB, you will need the world evaluation service to convert your degree , if it goes well then you can apply to the NCA to write the exam which is difficult. But you can take private lessons and prepare for this . My suggestion will be depending on what jurisdiction your husband resides. I will say you go for an LLM first some universities have LLM designed for foreign trained lawyers that will like to write the Canadian Bar, like the university of Briatish Colombia. You do the LLm which will help you prepare for the bar.( that is if your law degree has been accepted )
ReplyDeleteSecond scenario will be you enrolling for the JD programme and if you are lucky with your LLB you will not start in second year of the law school which will help you understand the Canadian legal system
3rd scenario could be you staying in Nigeria and completing your law school, and you apply to the world evaluation service to review your LLB and you apply to the NCA with your BL from law school as a foreign trained lawyer seeking to write the bar in another jurisdiction.
Summary of everything I have written not sure if it has been helpful ? Visit the NCA's website
Find out about JD programmes.
Find out about LLMs that helps you prepare for the canadian bar.
Also of you dont want to continue with law. The LLB is a good background for career advancement in business . So you can go for masters in International business and lastly you can go into academia . Llm and a phd after which means you will be a law lecturer.
All these are not easy or cheap . But with your determination and with God you can do everything . If you have any more questions you can post it below .All the best