The situation of a baby mama and a single mother is that they both Children without the fathers of these kids Marrying them...
I overheard someone refer to a single mother as a baby mama and saw how upset she became because she had just recently gotten a separation from her man....
Can we discuss the difference between these two?
Why do people get upset when they are called baby mamas?What is wrong with the name?Why do you some people prefer to be called single mothers instead?
Isn't this what the old saying refers to as ''Same sheet different Toilet''?
If you are a baby mama or single mother..please join and let us hear from you...The people who think being called single mother is better than being called baby mama,can you please tell us why?
At the end of the day,it is all about being a mother and motherhood rocks!!!
Lets gist!
Here to read and learn
ReplyDeleteYa stella finally answer my request oooo.
DeleteBaby mama or child mother or single mother. Make sure that special gift from God makes u happy and put ur all in raising her, forget what people r saying and do ur best!
DeleteSome marriages lack fruits of d womb. Enjoy ur Gods special gift đ
We shld endeavour as much as possible as women not to use baby mama,TTC, Late marriage,singlewood or divorce to mock our fellow women. That you are not in that situation doesn't mean your sister,aunty,cousin or even daughter cannot find herself there one day.
DeleteI am just here to learn đ
ReplyDeleteSingle Mother isn't deliberately
DeleteCircumstances gripped in eg rape, divorce, dealth of spouse, teenage pregnancy etc
Baby mama is deliberately eg do to age or willing nog to be under any husband or wife cringe
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@ Lillysimple
DeleteGbamest
Hahaha this topic again? So I have this Seyi friend, 43yrs old who despises babymama! Girl changes men like napkins đđđđ, laughs and mocks baby mama. I pray she no reach 50 before she give herself sense .
DeleteTic tok says the clock, if u no get mind do juju catch men ( half of what girls do now). Pls try and reproduce instead of laughing at baby mamas. Time , loneliness, regrets. Pains. Shouldn’t be any lady’s companion at this jet age.
Delete@ Lily exactly, life happened to single mothers. Most single mothers are responsible, hardworking, decent, they are not leeches or opportunist. They are willing to work hard or even do menial jobs to give their children the best.
DeleteDivorces, widows, some ladies genuinely got deceived by men, some ladies backed out after discovering a dark side to the man they are about to marry eg yahoo, domestic violence, married already, meanwhile they were preggie already, some married women got caught up in bad marriages and had to quit,some lost their husbands to death, some of women were deserted by their husbands eg Doris Simon is a single mother.
You see all these desperate ones looking for celebrities up and down to birth for, they are bloody baby mamas with no shame, looking for a mugu to fund their stupid lavish lifestyle. These ones are lazy, always using the child as a meal ticket, mstchew.
Babymama and single mother is different...
ReplyDeleteBaby Mama is a lady who deliberately decides to get pregnant for a man by all means knowing very well that there are so many benefits involved...
A single mother is a lady who lost her husband to death, or marriage ended in divorce, or she was raped
Gbam!....
DeleteTwo bottles of chilled beer for you my G đđ˝
DeleteNot all baby mamas as you put it, deliberately got pregnant.
DeleteHow about the ones who didn’t even know they had taken it until after some months. Only for the guy to deny the lady.
Or the ones who lost their boyfriends and realized they were pregnant after his death? What do you call those?
....in other words "baby mama" is an insult.
DeleteI was raised by a single mother who never got married. Don't know her reasons. My father was very present in my life. Paid all bills,we had a close relationship,even with his other kids but we lost him when I was 10. My mother tried,sent me to the best schools she cld afford and made sure I lacked nothing.
DeleteBut the journey of a single mother isn't easy emotionally and I vowed never to be one because I saw my mother struggle. Not only financially but carrying all the load and decisions by yourself ain't easy. I am married now and I can't imagine raising my kids alone. It's not even the finances but the emotional support. But my mother and I are very close and she is my world. world. I make sure she is enjoying the fruits of her Labour. My husband too know indirectly both of us came as a package deal. She doesn't live with me. But we take care of her and she helps with the kids.
People also need to correct this notion of kids that come from single homes arent well raised or won't be able to handle marriage. Because of my experience I put in even a 1000% more into my marriage working,because I want my kids to have that family unit I didn't experience. It was my greatest wish in life. So I didn't mess around with different men and was determined to find a good man. It also made me driven to work hard,cos I saw how my mother hustled to pay expensive school fees alone.
14;51. May ur mother live long!!!! Imagine how she felt way back then wen pple mocked her as a baby mama. Senseless Nigerians
DeleteBless you.
Delete@Sluttychic take note of the word deliberately got pregnant for benefits for babymama...
DeleteLife happens and no one should be made to wear the badge of shame based on their supposed 'mistakes'.
ReplyDeleteSo many women got married without being virgins and because they were never pregnant or probably aborted during the fornication process suddenly deem themselves fit to castigate those who did.
I am not in support of the sin of fornication but I also realise that we are all humans who at some point in our lives have done something we are not so proud of.
I choose to be empathetic and know that whatever process of life we are going through, it can still change for the better.
GOD BLESS ALL MOTHERS.
I don't know about being called a single mother... Since my divorce settlement, I have never for once, referred to myself as a "single mother".
ReplyDeleteThose that thinks the world revolves around them, that everyone must accept whatever they say (even if it doesn't make sense) those that cry for self-pity, they always want sympathizers and even enablers are mostly the "babymamas"... They got pregnant outside wedlock, they'll still refuse to have sense and use protection (since their lives depend on sexual intercourse)
If you say anything against baby mamas and their reputation, they crawl out screaming đą as if the world is about to come to an end.
Most Baby mamas are the ones that are always happy when other women get divorce, they in most cases supports side chics and they are the ones that always sees divorced mothers as baby mama because... Misery love company.
Sorry, I don't have a tag on me.
I am a woman and I am a mother.
P.S. Don't bother insulting yourself it's my opinion.
Hehehe...gbam too
DeleteMRS A.,
DeleteMs A, l don’t want you to take this the wrong way but that’s the category you fall into. Single Mom. There’s absolutely wrong being one especially after a relationship ends or death of a spouse. You are a strong woman raising a child. My Sister’s marriage ended and she’s a single mom raising her kids.
DeleteThank you my dear anonymous 16:19! I don't find it offensive at all if people call me single mother, I just don't carry the tag on my forehead seeking for sympathisers.
DeleteI wish your sister strength and courage đ¤đ¤
It don't make any difference to me.
DeleteI love your explanation, especially about them rejoicing when anyone gets divorced.
DeleteWaiting for comments like đđđ
ReplyDeleteWell, me I'm a single mum, separated with my ex hubby some years back. I don't see anything wrong with being referred to as a baby mama. The most important thing is to make something out of your life and be able to comfortably take care of yourself and your baby. What people call you should be the least of your problems.
ReplyDeleteLove you Orobo sexy for this response. People will always call U one thing or the other....what matters is how you see yourself. I'm married but still call myself baby mama đĽ
DeleteHow u see yourself in life it's all that matters
DeleteOne bottle of Champagne for you.
DeleteLove your attitude.
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DeleteBaby Mama is one who has a child for a man, he has not yet married her but he accepts, cares and provides for the child
ReplyDeleteSingle mother is one who has a child for a man she was previously married to but marriage ended in either death or divorce...and she is forced to do it alone in the case of divorce if the man becomes deadbeat
There is another kind of single mother- never married, got pregnant and the man denied her and her pregnancy...doesn't acknowledge the baby or even get close...e.g a blogger who bragged that she is so rich and can afford to buy any husband.
Baby Mama is one who has a child for a man, he has not yet married her but he accepts, cares and provides for the child
ReplyDeleteSingle mother is one who has a child for a man she was previously married to but marriage ended in either death or divorce...and she is forced to do it alone in the case of divorce if the man becomes deadbeat
There is another kind of single mother- never married, got pregnant and the man denied her and her pregnancy...doesn't acknowledge the baby or even get close...e.g a blogger who bragged that she is so rich and can afford to buy any husband.
Lol @ your last paragraph.
DeleteLife has a way of humbling people.
What has ur last paragraph got to do here?
DeleteYour last paragraph is senseless, you can actually make ur point without saying nonsense. Try it,thank you.
Deleteis it really necessary to talk about the blogger as an example ??
DeleteYour last paragraph was unnecessary.
DeleteYes, motherhood rocks! But there is time for everything...Eccl. 3:1
ReplyDeleteWhether "Baby mama" or "single mother",
one congratulations I give them is ...
for not shooting offđŤ the babyđś
Yes, the Baby mama made a mistake by opening legs to a forkboy, or tried to trap a dude with belle...whichever be the case, her bride price was not paid and the dude chop vamoose. But she did not make a second mistake of
executing the innocent baby. Bravo baby mamas, learn from your mistakes and seek Jesus for he said that "in ALL THINGS he works for the good of they that love him..."
If you love him, this situation of being a "Baby mama" will be worked out for your good.
That child may become your sweet song like is the case with my cousin who went ahead to marry a lovely man, had lovely kids but the love of her life was that "love child".
As for single mothers...mmmhhh, baby mamas na single mothers o.
Single mothers that got divorced by a man for no apparent reason or were abandoned by a "horse.." that refused to play the "band" -horseband, etc. those ones have the sympathy of God and he will sustain them. Amen! He is a father to the fatherless and defender of widows Psalms 68:5 -yes widows because those dudes are "dead", ball-less and heartless.
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But for those ones, those sisis that offload their husbands and begin to
make it (monies) using their tohtohs...
Phewww! Na effrontery to Baba God.
You have decided to fight him and you no go win. Repent oo.
Yarn finished, waiting for the arrows đšđšđŤđŤđŤto land from the offloaders of horsebands and strangulators/shooters offs.đśđśđś
Mr ANGRY NIGERIAN GUY.
DeleteAll your yeye yarns are always for women. When it is time for men make your input okay?
@Mr biased 14:45
DeleteEven when I wrote about the dudes that abandon wives and kids like this "... those dudes are "dead", ball-less and heartless. "
I have always known that Naija girls do not like anybody who tells them the truth. I am used to being branded "man" here so find
another line of attacks inugo? đđđđđđđđ
Kudos to mother's
DeleteSome ladies intentionally got pregnant thinking they will benefit as baby mamas, but due to circumstances they end up not getting kobo from the man but end up feeding and training the kid all by themselves. If you intend to be a babymama look well before your fall yakata during your ovulation to avoid writing touching chronicles here
ReplyDeleteThose ladies, God will make them train the kid alone
Delete14;33 some just want a child. Some rich dude r very healthy Dey give out good sperm.
DeleteI rather get the baby than b in a 7yrs relationship with a single man and clock 40đ
Single parent was legally married, customary, church et al. Most times, either the divorced man or wife have full custody over the children
ReplyDeleteSingle mother had a chid(ren) without being married or relationship leading to the marriage broke up shortly before baby arrives
Baby mama's wants a child for a financial or recognition gain.
My 2 cents.
I will say that baby mamas are women who have kids with celebrities or well to do guys and their kids are well taken care of while single mothers are widows, rape victims from Oga and apprentice, divorcĂŠes, or women who born kids for poor guys.if you fall into this category madam you are on your own
ReplyDeleteWurever mehn!
ReplyDeleteI don born, I don born. Call me whatever you like.
I'm enjoying motherhood, thinking of adding another one sef.
Anybody wey e too pain, make e go drink poison die!
Just take your L and go.
DeleteTouchy Touchy.
DeleteCastol Nwa mama. Mk our fruit bless us. They that tagged us will praise us in d end IJN
DeleteAmen nwanne.
DeleteCastle, your child will be a source of joy to you. Don't let the demeaning names and tag hurt your spirit. They always advice ladies to keep their pregnancy and turn around and tag them here.
DeleteIf you are not a virgin before marriage, if you are single and not a virgin, if you have aborted before, if you are on birth control, if you are having sex with a man that is not your husband, then you are not better than a baby mama or single mother.
Castle, your child will be a source of joy to you. Don't let the demeaning names and tag hurt your spirit. They always advice ladies to keep their pregnancy and turn around and tag them here.
DeleteIf you are not a virgin before marriage, if you are single and not a virgin, if you have aborted before, if you are on birth control, if you are having sex with a man that is not your husband, then you are not better than a baby mama or single mother.
U said it all 04;28
DeleteAwwwwwww thanks anon 4:28. God bless you.
DeleteWhat kind of rubbish is this? Until the least of women is respected, even the greatest will never be respected. Do you think men care if they are called baby daddies or single fathers? Rubbish. Women are always trying to distinguish themselves to prove they are worthy of respect. Newsflash: a society taught to debase women will disrespect you even if you’re folorunsho alakija, ibukun awosika, okonjo Iweala, or a “babymama” as you call it. Read the comments on all women and see
ReplyDeleteNo mind them o. You get pikin, I get pikin. Rubbish analysis on top na individual wahala.
DeleteLmao
DeleteThis is the most sensible talk today.đđ
DeleteAnon 14.46, this is about the most sensible comment I've read on this very topic!
DeleteWhat is this? What are the bases for this useless comparison? Who's supposed to be feeling superior to whom here? In all of these, what are the men being addressed as? Are they not still called "tall dark and handsome"? Single and available?
The black woman would forever be the greatest problem of the black woman...
Methinks single mothers are women who regardless of how they ended up having to raise kids alone don’t depend on the fathers of these children to be responsible for them. This doesn’t mean that the fathers don’t play their part in some cases but the single mother doesn’t depend on such.
ReplyDeleteBaby mamas on the other hand deliberately get pregnant for a man with the sole aim of getting financial support from that man. A lady in love with a man may get pregnant by mistake, if the man rejects her and her baby and she goes her way to take care of her child without any drama, would you call such woman a baby mama?
Baby mamas goals are simply to use the children to get money out of a man or get back to his bed.
Hot post
ReplyDeleteWill be back to read comments.
My problem is baby mamas is that they hate to be tagged that. Who forced tou to open your leg to who hasnt marroed you? When you ask them their defence is that they are better than othet single girls who comit abortion but i ask, isnt there something like contraceptive? If you don't know about it only means you are too young for sex. I dont and cant pity baby mamas becos its a well thought of plan. Nothing like mistake. You sleep without protection or condom broke, do you expect a fridge in return? You see this girls without kids, regardleds of what you say, they have sense pass you (except the abortionists, their case is different). They took control and am sure the baby mamas also have sense now because life taught them a lesson so they use protection now.
ReplyDeleteGod bless single mothers and give you strength. Babymamas, receive sense
Baby mother or single mother all na mother as long as the child is not complaining and she is loved by her mother and God who blessed the womb of the mother.
ReplyDeleteGod does not make mistakes - There are women who are married and are severely seeking God's face for the fruit of the womb - And you are all talking single mother baby mother?!??!
Baby mama, single mama don’t matter to me.
ReplyDeleteAs long as I have my child/children, I am good to go.
All my focus would be on how to cater for my precious children.
No woman should talk down on a fellow woman just cos she didn’t marry before having kids.
You don’t know their story, don’t shame them.
Who told you being a “Mrs” automatically makes you more superior than the singles?
You are a mother, don’t pay attention to what people call you.
This is going to be very interesting.. đ
ReplyDeleteWant to become a baby mama.
ReplyDeleteHusband is not forth coming...am not even intrested.
Been trying to concieve for the past three month. To no avail.
Done tests which shows am okay.
Before deputy Jesus will talk.
Am financially capable...love babies alotđĽ wish to have mine.
Some baby mamas decided to be baby mamas. They were fully aware that a man is married , yet slept with him and got pregnant deliberately. I know one baby mama near my home, the married man comes to see her and his son only in the afternoon, more like a hide and seek visit. She was fully aware the man is a married man before getting pregnant for him. I don't pity her type. They deliberately hunt for a rich married man and get pregnant for him. In some cases, they might even know the wife of the man but they don't care. Some get pregnant with the hope that the man would marry them as wife number 2 but end up getting disappointed.
ReplyDeleteIf you are both nko:a divorcee or a widow ,who in the bid to fend for her children,get into an association and become a baby mama...will she be a single mama or a single baba mama or simply a bad mama single?
DeleteOn a more serious note,the stories are more complex and there are grey areas. You guys have concluded that baby mamas are the culprits and single mothers are the victims, but things are not so clear-cut . We have to be careful and be more sympathetic to our fellow women.We do not know their journeys and stories.
Baby Mama is Chelsea.single mother is real Madrid.
ReplyDeleteWell I am a single mother and not a baby mama. Age wasn’t on my side so instead of staying without a child due to no cause of mine because I can’t marry myself, I decided to have one and I had the most beautiful baby girl and take care of her myself without recourse to anyone. People should stop putting a tag on their fellow human beings. Because they do not know everybody’s story in relation to the decisions they have taken.. My opinion though.
ReplyDeleteKisses to you. Only petty fools with low self esteem do such and she is their queen!!!
DeleteSperm bank isn't someone's sperm or from angels....yeye talk!
ReplyDeleteOnye oshi amu, you could ve adopted a child....yeye talk
DeleteI forgot to add this: !
DeleteSperm bank. Arm robber fit sell sperm , Ritualist, kidnapper cos for a man to b desperate enough to sell his sperm. He can do anything for money. So NO sperm bank pls
DeleteAnd their baby daddies are all saints???
DeleteIkwakwakwakwa
single mother or baby mama,both are still mothers.it's a great thing to be a mother,right? but the society we live in tend to tag 'baby mama' as a thing of shame and something not to be proud of.
ReplyDeletejust forget the name and enjoy motherhood!!!
Come here đ đ
DeleteLeave them
DeleteTake my own kisses too.Only sad low life fools that
DeleteThey are both single mom, but Baby Mama never married, Ă bĂ make I mention celebrity names for better illustration
ReplyDeleteThey are both single Mother's, and there is nothing wrong calling a single mom a baby mama of a man she used to be married to.... It all about perspective.
ReplyDeleteSame shit different smell.im amazed at some ladies comments but not surprised because they are who they are woman.baby/single mama all have a story and a journey.some baby mamas story can be sad and painful. Why cant the men use rubbers if they arent ready ?? Sex only leads to 2 things (disease or child ). I feel for women with children they work so hard to take care of their children . God bless their struggles and ease their pains .
ReplyDeleteBless you too my dear.
DeleteAnon 14:23. The father isn't important. Her son matters to her the most. Some did it intentionally either for money or popularity she some people like her did cos age wasn't on her side. She's made already
ReplyDelete*while* not she
DeleteSee mrs A subtly throwing shade.. A mother is a mother because she birth(s) a child.. How come mothers now have subdivisions and hierachies.. Give yourself brain.. You don born? You be mama..
ReplyDeleteBaby mama, single mothers are just societal labels for massaging one's ego..
Whatever joor, women and their palava.
ReplyDeleteMen no get time for baby daddy, single dad tag..... My take on this,our priorities, dreams,struggles, strength, stories etc differs ...so far you are at peace with God,who is the knows and sees all, whatever anyone else calls you shouldn't bother you.
It is sin to abort but not sin to fornicate? People are dumb
ReplyDeleteBecause you aborted after fornication, maybe marry later, then you are better than women that kept their pregnancy after their own fornication.
ReplyDeleteThose talking anyhow about baby mama single mother etc remember this life na turn by turn. Anything can happen at anytime.
ReplyDeleteA single mom to me is a woman that had a child while been married to the father of her child while baby mama is one that had a child outside wedlock
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