''Here lies the Face of the evil who took my Childhood and left me almost damaged.
Dike Obi My Father's half kid Brother who he brought to Lagos to give a better life. Enrolled him in the Prestigious Kabe College in Festac. He and my Uncle Chukwudi were given nearly equal opportunities.
Uncle Chukwudi would grab the opportunity he was given and run with it. Drunk in Focus and Determination. He won his Race. He achieved.
Ebubedike on the other hand didn't use his opportunities, His gratitude to my Parents for all the time and money Invested was to be a social Deviant and start to Abuse me sexually.
I cannot remember the exact day but I remember being spanked by my elder sister for something I did. I was around 5 years old.He called me aside and told me he had something that could make me grow big. I will be unbeatable. Imagine the Joy in my little eyes as I saw my self as the new Cat woman of the Obi dynasty.
The first time keeps ringing in my head like church bell. He pulled down his trouser(He was never one to wear shirts at home) ,Brought out his Manhood and commanded me to suck. He ejaculated in my mouth and asked me to swallow what he referred to as "Yoghurt and Milk"(Semen). I did. I wanted to grow big. I didn't know it was wrong and I was just 5. It progressed to "Blue films" and asking me to watch and learn from those women in the movie. I did. I wanted to grow big
REALIZATION: My Parents always said only the guilty hide. One day, during the milk extraction and swallowing exercise, The gate moved. The speed at which he got up,wiped my mouth and adjusted everything made him look like the speed of light. I wasn't sure why since he was nourishing me to grow but I kept mute.
Next up, my eldest got spanked by my aunt. She was crying so much and I went to him to ask if he could give her some milk to grow big. The way he screamed at me,I could feel the fire from his eyes that flowed to his lips as he threatened me. He said he would kill my daddy. My dad has a small frame ,this ebubedike is tall and huge,He would kill my father (I thought in my little mind). I and my Father have a bond. I am daddy's girl. So saying that,He got my attention.
OPENING UP: Years went by and he continued,this time forcing his way with his fingers through my innocence. Then One day, I asked my cousin Ogechukwu " Am I growing big? I mean I still get spanked up and down. She looked at me,laughed and said" You look your age na" π♀️Hey God! After all the milk and yoghurt? Then I opened up. I told her everything. Oge,went from red,to purple, to Pink and back to her fair complexion. She was silent. I don't remember how it went but I know he left our house for good shortly after.
EFFECTS: My studies failed woefully. I was distracted. Addiction to Ponography,Emotional imbalance. I was a troubled teen. I had the worse kind of bitterness that no one understood. They say your anger no fit boil stone. My temper could boil a rock.A little confrontation would lead to the worse kind of Physical abuse from me. I was Judged. No one understood. People said I was possessed. I trusted no one. I grew up Fast.
This abuse opened me up to more abuse. I got married and as I watched my children grow,I became paranoid. I was diagnosed with PTSD. I had relapses,Suicide Ideations. I would stay weeks without seeing my kids or having a bath because I just want to die. Tobore Anne got me help. Tobore Mit Ovuorie got me Free sessions for therapy and I got my drugs at absolutely no cost. I was ashamed of my past but I learned to speak. I got redemption.
I found out Ebubedike had abused other kids after me,Boys and girls. Some my Cousins,others relatives. Unfortunately, he lives with his underage daughter and I fear she might be a victim. I beat myself up for not speaking earlier. Maybe my cousins and other kids would have been saved or maybe not.Some have been bullied to silence like they have been doing in recent times to me. So I speak for others. NEVER AGAIN!
I have decided to advocate against child sexual abuse and rape because I know the pain and psychological problems it brings.
I want to say a big thank you to all those who held my hands when I was struggling. Nedy Mathias Mmiliaku Genevieve Olu Bunmi Mazel TovKingsley Ughe Linda Ibezim Linda Ozuluonye Anene-Daniels Chizoba Ibeto Ekezie .Words wouldn't be enough to say thank you. Your words of encouragement have held me up to this point.
Vanessa Koby thank you for telling everyone to allow me handle this the way I would choose. I am grateful. I love you a lot. Aunty Loretta Nwabugwu Epuechi , thank you nnem oma.
My name is SONIA OBI OKODO, I was a victim of Child sexual Abuse and Rape,I survived. I AM THE UNBROKEN!''
Uncle Chukwudi would grab the opportunity he was given and run with it. Drunk in Focus and Determination. He won his Race. He achieved.
Ebubedike on the other hand didn't use his opportunities, His gratitude to my Parents for all the time and money Invested was to be a social Deviant and start to Abuse me sexually.
I cannot remember the exact day but I remember being spanked by my elder sister for something I did. I was around 5 years old.He called me aside and told me he had something that could make me grow big. I will be unbeatable. Imagine the Joy in my little eyes as I saw my self as the new Cat woman of the Obi dynasty.
The first time keeps ringing in my head like church bell. He pulled down his trouser(He was never one to wear shirts at home) ,Brought out his Manhood and commanded me to suck. He ejaculated in my mouth and asked me to swallow what he referred to as "Yoghurt and Milk"(Semen). I did. I wanted to grow big. I didn't know it was wrong and I was just 5. It progressed to "Blue films" and asking me to watch and learn from those women in the movie. I did. I wanted to grow big
REALIZATION: My Parents always said only the guilty hide. One day, during the milk extraction and swallowing exercise, The gate moved. The speed at which he got up,wiped my mouth and adjusted everything made him look like the speed of light. I wasn't sure why since he was nourishing me to grow but I kept mute.
Next up, my eldest got spanked by my aunt. She was crying so much and I went to him to ask if he could give her some milk to grow big. The way he screamed at me,I could feel the fire from his eyes that flowed to his lips as he threatened me. He said he would kill my daddy. My dad has a small frame ,this ebubedike is tall and huge,He would kill my father (I thought in my little mind). I and my Father have a bond. I am daddy's girl. So saying that,He got my attention.
OPENING UP: Years went by and he continued,this time forcing his way with his fingers through my innocence. Then One day, I asked my cousin Ogechukwu " Am I growing big? I mean I still get spanked up and down. She looked at me,laughed and said" You look your age na" π♀️Hey God! After all the milk and yoghurt? Then I opened up. I told her everything. Oge,went from red,to purple, to Pink and back to her fair complexion. She was silent. I don't remember how it went but I know he left our house for good shortly after.
EFFECTS: My studies failed woefully. I was distracted. Addiction to Ponography,Emotional imbalance. I was a troubled teen. I had the worse kind of bitterness that no one understood. They say your anger no fit boil stone. My temper could boil a rock.A little confrontation would lead to the worse kind of Physical abuse from me. I was Judged. No one understood. People said I was possessed. I trusted no one. I grew up Fast.
This abuse opened me up to more abuse. I got married and as I watched my children grow,I became paranoid. I was diagnosed with PTSD. I had relapses,Suicide Ideations. I would stay weeks without seeing my kids or having a bath because I just want to die. Tobore Anne got me help. Tobore Mit Ovuorie got me Free sessions for therapy and I got my drugs at absolutely no cost. I was ashamed of my past but I learned to speak. I got redemption.
I found out Ebubedike had abused other kids after me,Boys and girls. Some my Cousins,others relatives. Unfortunately, he lives with his underage daughter and I fear she might be a victim. I beat myself up for not speaking earlier. Maybe my cousins and other kids would have been saved or maybe not.Some have been bullied to silence like they have been doing in recent times to me. So I speak for others. NEVER AGAIN!
I have decided to advocate against child sexual abuse and rape because I know the pain and psychological problems it brings.
I want to say a big thank you to all those who held my hands when I was struggling. Nedy Mathias Mmiliaku Genevieve Olu Bunmi Mazel TovKingsley Ughe Linda Ibezim Linda Ozuluonye Anene-Daniels Chizoba Ibeto Ekezie .Words wouldn't be enough to say thank you. Your words of encouragement have held me up to this point.
Vanessa Koby thank you for telling everyone to allow me handle this the way I would choose. I am grateful. I love you a lot. Aunty Loretta Nwabugwu Epuechi , thank you nnem oma.
My name is SONIA OBI OKODO, I was a victim of Child sexual Abuse and Rape,I survived. I AM THE UNBROKEN!''
How I wish this predator can be prosecuted. My heart bleeds
ReplyDeleteSometimes we feel God is slow in judgement. But wen it happens, we all understand y it took him that long
DeleteHis type don’t die well, pple who pry on innocent kids don’t end well. His death b be a big shame.
Thank God 4 ur soul, keep up with d good work ma
Wow....this gave me chills.
ReplyDeleteSo many abused kids. Thank God foe you lady
Wanted to comment this morning..but wont..may God punish my abuser wherever he is..so many sexually broken people around. It is well
DeleteI regret reading this. I wish I didn't. That's my weak point. I can't stand kids being hurt. Ejaculating in a 5-year old's mouth? Damn! Fuck! What's she waiting for to kill that bastard? Where are her brothers? Are they fucking lily livered? Damn!
ReplyDeleteImagine
DeleteNaso e easy to just wake-up and kill someone π΅
DeleteEesah its not easy but try understand her pain
DeleteEesah but it’s easy for your herdsmen brothers to “defend” themselves abi
DeleteI can't helping crying right now. Her story is soooo me only worse because my abuser was who they called my biological father. And unfortunately I haven't had access to therapy. I'm 43 now and I'm dying inside. You can imagine the trauma and it's ripple effects. I still haven't healed. I so need help but don't know where to seek it.
DeleteOhhh God! This is so heartbreaking,may God protect all the girl children out there..
ReplyDeleteAnd the boy child also.
DeleteReal sad... may God help us to protect our children.. and may He heal you... bad people everywhere... and you should have exposed his face...
ReplyDeleteShe did exposed his face!
DeleteSo painful
ReplyDeleteHe lives in ilasamaja with his family. He deactivated his facebook immediately after the call out but hr was fished out on the gram.
ReplyDeleteWhere in Ilasa anon 09:01? I grew up in Ilasamaja and my parents are still there.
DeleteOh my God
ReplyDeleteI really gonno watch out for my children
The sins of his past has catch up with him
ReplyDeleteThe Nigerian government needs to take drastic steps to ensure this act is eradicated. Stiff penalties like life in prison or chemical castration should be more appropriate.
ReplyDeleteSchools should be required to participate in sensitization and sex education programmes. Every school should have trained guidance counselors that children suffering from abuse can confide in.
Most importantly, parents should pay more attention to their kids. They should develop a relationship with their kids so they'll fess up whenever they're subjected to such atrocious acts.
The sad thing about this story is that there is an Ebubedike in almost every Nigerian family. They are your "trustworthy" and religious siblings or relatives. You trust them so much, leave your kids in their care and they molest them
ReplyDeleteI am weeping uncontrollably. I am just an emotional wreck.
ReplyDeleteOh God! Please guard these babies. Please
God please give parents the wisdom to bring up our boys rightly and the girls in a way that they/we be best friends and confidants.
ReplyDeleteThank God for her healing. And as many that have been through the "Experience", may they also find HELP, HEALING AND CLOSURE . π
after reading this I remembered what happened years back(what I did)
ReplyDeletei was 17.i had to stay with my cousin..my cousin's sister in-law(husband's sister) was staying with them too,she was like 24 years or older...rooms weren't enough as it was just a 2 bedroom and I and the sister in law were meant to sleep in one room while my cus and her husband were with their lil daughter,2years of age were sleeping on the other room..
so one night,I got aroused and tried to get down with the in-law..brought out my manhood and tried putting it behind her back..i know she wasn't fully asleep cus anytime I tried she would resist by changing position.i remember smooching her boobs and sucking them....i think I tried this for a night or two.Few days later she reported to get brother and the brother brought it to my cousin's notice...i felt really bad afterwards and I apologised to her...
after that incident I never enjoyed living with them..cus i wondered what would be going on in their minds..maybe to them I was a rapist orsomething.I noticed how my cousin would always take her daughter from me anytime I tried carrying her or play with her....i was ashamed of myself
anytime I read stories like this I remember that incident and I wonder if she still sees me as someone who had the tendecy of raping her daughter or something like that.
You are a rapist.
DeleteU were 17 and tried to have sex with an older lady without her consent? U r lucky she didnt use scissors to remove ur yeye dick! Am sure if she was a child u would have done the same thing. Ur cousin should have chased u from her house. Thank God u didnt have the chance to rape the little daughter.Rapist!
DeleteI think she was enjoying it..how can you suck a woman's breast and she will ne sleeping? Cos she should have slapped you there and then
DeleteChikito thank you. I didn’t understand that part at all.
DeleteAnon, why didn't you ask her if she was interested before you brought out your thing? When she changed position, why did you continue. Did she also change position when you were sucking her boob
Deletei stopped after I noticed there was no way for me to continue after she changed position...
Deletewhat even made me start that shit was when she would put her legs on me while sleeping,so I thought it was a green light.
Sad
ReplyDeleteThis is really sad.
ReplyDeleteOMG this is so sad. But why does God allow this type of thing to happen to children? why why why... God I know you are unquestionable but some times one is forced to ask.
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ReplyDeleteOMG! This gave me goosebumps all over my body.
ReplyDeleteI have never really suffered any form of abuse but, reading people's stories opened my eyes to how evil some men and women can be. For this reason, I am raising my son with the best methods. Anybody that tampered with my child, I will kill them first before asking any questions.
That man should be sent to prison.
God have mercy π±ππ£. God pls save our kids.
ReplyDeleteWow wow wow Sonia you are amazing. I didn’t understand what they meant by milk and yogurt until reading your story. Now I completely understand why you are going after that woman fake advocate and her minions. Your past have made u the strong and powerful woman that u are today. God will continue to bless and protect you.
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