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''I'm the brother to the Sunday's chronicle poster.
Her bf is my friend. He is a very nice guy and I won't deny that, but I have my reasons for saying no. I told her my reasons and she did not state those reasons.
1: the guy is a JW.
2: the guy is always sick. He said is because he is AA. But I don't believe that story.
3: he is a yahoo guy.
4: I told her that his family are not in peace because his father married two wives before he died.
As for the part that the guy encouraged her to enter school and start a side hustle, is a big fat lie. She said that maybe to get support from bvs.
She started dating the guy when she was already in 100level 2nd semester. I paid 60% of the entire money(school fees, acceptance fees and the rest) and my parents and one of my sisters paid the remaining 40%.
When she needed 60k to learn work(side hustle) I gave her 20k , my parents and sister gave her the remaining 40k. So where he assisted her and the advice is what I can't explain because she started learning the work before she gained admission.
Her transport to and fro to school is #160 but I give he #500 everyday for transport.
I buy her cloths, shoes, pad, undies and also give her money to make her hair anytime she wants to. There is nothing concerning money that she will ask me, my parents or my other sister that we don't do for her. She saying her bf assist her financially is embarrassing to me, because anyone that hears/read about it will think that she don't have enough or get enough from us.
If she says her bf gives her money, I will understand but saying he supports her, is a lie.
Since I read the proposal here then I will tell her here that I will not put my mouth in that her relationship again.
Sister, I know you will read this, do whatever that pleases you with your relationship but know that I'm 100% not in support of it. Good luck.
*Bro,when someone gives you Money.,the person supports you,so your sister is right to say that the guy supports her.
Please take it easy with your sister,she is love and nothing will make sense to her now except him...Please give her your love and even though you don't support this relationship,don't take your love away.
Please allow your sister deal with whatever choice she’s made.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you mean by he is always sick? Is it something that he would wish on himself?
Anybody can fall sick.
I guess he's not disclosing the true cause of the sickness and that's why bro is worried.
DeleteI am AA genotype too and i fall sick ALOT, especially with malaria.
Deletei do medical check-up yearly because of my job and i am always certified healthy.
That someone falls sick a lot doesn't mean you are fighting some incurable disease or you are a sickler or SS.
@slutty, I used to think people should be allowed to make their own decisions as they will live with the regrets or benefits eventually but now I’ve learnt. My best friend from childhood chose to marry a guy that we Didn’t support. I didn’t like him because I could see he was after her money, her mom, a prayer warrior prayed and fasted nonstop to be convinced but she came back with same thing; he wasn’t meant for her but will only destroy her, her brothers didn’t feel good about her. We talked and pleaded but she insisted and said she was going to commit suicide. We eventually supported her and they got married. She died 6 years ago with the greatest regret of marrying that guy. Her mom died in June 2018. She never recovered from her heartbreak of loosing her daughter. Her brothers are still broken. Me?! I think about her everyday and cry myself to sleep. I wish I had done something or anything to stop that marriage. Her brother wished he killed the guy and went to jail. At least, she’d still be alive.
DeleteAnother case, my cousin came home(she was living with us and we were the only family she had) with one man and introduced him as her fiancé. My dad being an old man with a lot of wisdom rejected him and gave his reasons. She refused and cried and refused to eat. She isolated herself and refused to eat or bath. My mom couldn’t bear it and so begged my dad to let her since she’d live with her decision. My dad called every other family member. All the elders to our house for a meeting and presented the case to them. After discussing, they all agreed to let her follow her heart but with the “Yiu will have to live with your decision”. On her wedding day, my dad didn’t walk her. Someone else did. She was angry and didn’t want to associate with us anymore. So many years later, my cousin is a shadow of herself. She came begging and crying saying she regrets it all. Of course, we took her back. My dad is retired now so doesn’t have much so We the children are all paying the price because she has 6 children and we take turns in paying rent and school fees and feeding them. My dad doesn’t bring it up and has asked her to move jn with them. So they are the new occupants of my parents duplex.
So when our loved ones are dealing with the decisions they have made, remember we suffer as well. So if you can stop them, please do at all cost.
Anon 16:36, there's a point in your comment, for I have also seen a situation where people later come back to thank others for saving them from what they could have venture into when the veil has finally fallen off their eyes.
DeleteIts very difficult to make a person in love see what you see. In fact you'd be termed evil and a poison they should stay away from.
DeleteI remember how many times my sisters warned me about my ex, my friends saw it too. I was too blind to see what they saw, no matter how much they sang it, i was deaf to it.Until Time gave me the brain reset i needed and opened my eyes.
So dear poster brother let her be, allow her make her mistakes if she doesn't listen to you. On the other hand, you might be wrong and it might turn out well for her. Just show her love whether the relationship thrives or fails,please stand by her side.
May.....
I read this chronicles and laughed out so loud, My Neigbour is a JW, the most devilish HEARTED married woman I have ever seen in my entire life. Always BITTER with herself
DeleteFull of competition, anything I do or she has seen in my hse she tries to replicate and run to her friends in d compound to run her mouth about how more expensive hers is, smh.
JW r evil hearted, I have said it here b4! Her 1st daughter is from another man ( strong rumor in d compound) she looks nothing like her, unlike her son, she understands RUNS and do it wella as a married woman,
Went on tour with her promiscuous formal boss whom coincidentally my friend Worked for and knew very very well
Anyone who blvs this pple r saints OYO. There hypocrites, pretense and Envy is on another level! Girl had d whole husband family withdraw her from her previous place of work where she earned 250k to a place of 60k. Her reasons, to b close to her family! Indeed. Meanwhile d main reason was Hunkle was sponsoring her and eating the cookie behind husband and she became very arrogant 2wards them. Yet she close same time from her previous place of work .
They do CS do not b deceived! Both her kids were tru CS, her Husband according 2 my new street friend ,FUCKs anything on shirt.she has a JW friend in same kindom with dem , The shock on my face wen I learnt that was something else.
I used to see this pple as SAINTS. Blv they r saints at ur own peril
Stella what do you expect the young man to do, let his sister follow her heart.
DeleteNne follow your heart o, you are an adult, whatever result you get be mature enough to handle the consequences. Marriage is not a game, it's serious business, hope you are prepared?
JESUS CHRIST!!! Have things gotten so bad. In reading majority of the comments I realised that people for some reason missed out the fact. That he is a YAHOO BOY!! Isn't that good enough reason
DeleteI don't get it that he is JW and a Yahoo guy. Are you for real or trying to paint this guy black. How come the father has two wives? Does JW permits that? Or wasn't the father a JW?
ReplyDeleteI pray your sister doesn't elope with this guy, for love could be crazy and funny at the same time.
Teejay my grandfather was a Jehovah witness, he married 2 wives in his lifetime. I know another one like that.
DeleteAbout Yahoo, my classmate who was a JW did yahoo too. I don't know if he's still in it because he's married now.
Dear poster's brother, you have every right to be angry after everything you mentioned up there. Your sister sounds like an ungrateful person but tamper justice with mercy. It's only love and communication that can bring your sister out of this. It seems she's been brainwashed and she seems naive.
Thanks Anon 15:59 for those answers. I didn't know they keep two wives.
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DeleteDo your research well.And get your facts right
The facts that you dislike them does not warrant such false and blind facts
If your grand father was a polygamous as you say,then he was never a Witness
The fact that he is a JW does not make him a saint. Like every bad fruit in a basket,he and others of his kind who engage\practice such frivolous activities is a disgrace to themselves
Oh wow 16:16 you went from 0 to 100 very fast. Damn! Who trained you? Your comprehension must be very poor. I said my grandfather did but I never confirmed if their faith supports it or not. I'm not a witness; I'm just saying what those of them I knew/know personally did. I'm responsible for what I said and you are responsible for what you understand by it. Next time chill, it's not that serious.
DeleteAnd I'm pretty sure that you Anon 16:41, don't have a clear comprehension of what you first typed up there.
DeleteThat was why I said clearly that you should get your facts straight before misleading people with your myopic views
Teejay JW members n crime are like me and zeeworld, even when I know n my heart all they show is rubbish I still rush home to watch.
DeleteMost of their young guys are into yahoo n their girls..... story for another day. But in all, they are a die hard believers in their doctrines. Pray u dont meet a core JW especially those who are botn into it, ull do more than what this poster is doing. Yes ive alot around me.
Anon 16:58 what is misleading in what that person said? She/he gave her own case scenario so what's the fuss there? Abi you think all JW are saints
DeleteAnon 16:58, please go and sleep!!!
DeleteJw's never marry more than one wife at a time.
Deletebrother allow your sister to make her own decisions and if it fails her she will learn in a better way, You telling her not to marry that guy is like you are stopping her from enjoying the gift of love. If the guy is a yahoo guy it means his jw is not that serious.
ReplyDeleteI will advise that your sister should sit down read all the comments, pick the ones she want to pick and apply wisdom. You should also do your findings girl, if money is coming now cos he is a yahoo guy i hope you can visit him in prison or in EFCC net when the time comes. I cannot put my hands in something that will give me sleepless night. Do whatever will make you happy so that when it fails you will not blame anybody baby girl.
Nice advice from madam Stella.
ReplyDeleteAside from yahoo boy, every other reason there is bullshit.
ReplyDeleteSince original poster already has problem with him being JW which I find absolutely ridiculous, I won't even bother telling her brother to give his consent.
Her opinion is the only one that should matter! The end.
My dear it’s not ridiculous oh
DeleteSomeone that will have your kids with him
If he rushes one to the hospital and refuses blood , god forbid you come home to a corpse
Really? Only her own opinion should matter however foolish??
DeleteTotal BS perxian
SMH
Foolish or not, it's a revolving door. You make your decision, you deal with the consequences.
DeleteFamilies opinion can make or mar your relationship..at the end of the day, you only have yourself to blame when shit hits the fan.
Well I don't know what to say about this anymore only that I see much love poster and her family has showered on Sunday chroninicle poster.I can remember the Sunday chronicle poster said she doesn't want to choose between the JW guy and her family,so this was what she meant,She knows what she will be missing when u guys turn your back on her.pls poster you people shouldn't turn your back on her,I think you guys have done enough.she is the 1 left to make her choice and bare the consequences whether good or bad but I pray Good. But the Yahoo is what I don't understand but apart from that you guys should let her be
DeleteThis Persian can't be more than 20...i can tell that from the deep stench of ignorance. When shut hits the fan, the whole family shares the mess. And usually people that love don't like to see you get hurt.
DeleteThis chronicle doesn't collate well
ReplyDeleteSo many facts missing
Aside the fact that the poster's bf is a JW, which doesn't make him an angel,there's a twist to the story.
To all those using the 'No Blood' issue as an opportunity to blast the JWs,Una well done ooo.
Every mallam to his kettle
PS. No true Jw is a yahoo or practice such. Don't be deceived
You need to do your research well else you put yourself in hot oil
Hahahahaha u do ur research.
DeleteMtcheeeeeew.
DeleteSomething is wrong with ur brain
Well, if someone is going to lie to get approval then am out. Sis please weigh your options before you go in, marriage is a vast journey... You can't come out the same. regards
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, I know you mean well for her. And at this point you can only pray that she will reason with you.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster's sister, since it appears you will be reading this post. Pls listen to your Brother. He means well for you. Maybe you should slow down and observe carefully the points he has made. Remember once you are married it changes everything.
There is a lot your brother is seeing that you can't see. Prayerfully reconsider. I didn't make any comments on your chronicle but there is a good reason for you to just slow down. For your own good.
I don't have much to say because the final decision lies with your sister. However I will thank you and your family for being a good family and supporting her. Pls do not withdraw from her but speak to her to get her perspective and also explain your stand. All the best to you guys.......
ReplyDeleteMy Brother that's some Women for you, she has forgotten the good deeds you guys did for her. Thw reasons you give to her is understandable. None of my own will marry a Yahoo boy.
ReplyDeleteFrom what i can detect from this post,brother is not happy that his sis had to date his friend.
ReplyDeleteSaying his a Gguy means you're one too.
Oga brother,please allow your sis to tow the path she has chosen! No one learns better than having the experience.
No babe. Being friends with a G doesnt make u one.
DeleteSo because you know one or two Gguys makes you a Ggirl too bah? I pity your reasoning girl.
DeletePoster, its difficult to advice a person in love. Love is blind. Similar thing happened with my elder sister. She was very much in love but everybody was against the relationship especially our parents but she wouldn't budge. She kept malice with my parents to a point they allowed her to marry the guy. She used her two legs to run from that marriage after two years. One thing my family didn't do was to wash their hands off. When she came home, she was welcomed back like a prodigal daughter.
ReplyDeleteAllow your sister if she insist, it's her life. If things go well in the marriage thank God but if not, take her back. Sometimes experience teaches better than voice but just pray for the best for her and don't turn your back on her. Be a shoulder if things fail but pray for the best.
A Yahoo guy?! Sis you want to marry a Yahoo guy?
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of stupid love is blinding your eyes like this?
I can make excuses for the other issues... He's a JW; ok maybe he's part of the easy going ones. I know some JW guys and they're actually nice and quite loving to their wives.
He's always sick? It's a health issue and as long as you are not AS then no problem.
But you see scam artist? I will not make excuses for that. For you to even come and twist the narrative to curry favor means that something is off about your man. You can lie to everyone but you see the moment you find yourself lying to yourself? You are heading for a big pit. Ask yourself why you have to lie on his behalf? Good men have not gone extinct so why are you hell bent on this one?
Don't let this be the beginning of the chronicles you will start sending oh.
How does a grown woman, who feels she is ready for marriage, need others to give her money before buying common pad??!! *Faints*
ReplyDeleteMaybe not anymore. She was once a baby remember?
DeleteSister pls listen to your brother, that guy is his friend and he knows him very well than you.when I was about to get married I saw my late mum in the dream chasing me with a cutlass that I shouldn't marry my now husband but I went on with the marriage ,I suffered terribly till God decided to restore my home and things started changing for good.listen to your brother's advice.
ReplyDeletePoster, you are not in the wrong here. You and your family are very good people. But your sister is blindly in love with a yahoo JW boy and from her chronicle, she never in any way sound grateful to her family. She put all the praises on her lover boy.
ReplyDeletePlease, do not abandon her because, she need someone that truly love her to talk sense into her.
Ms. Chronicle poster, if you continue with the marriage, you will be in for a long thing and don't come crying on social media feigning ignorance. If you knowingly marry a yahoo boy, that also makes you a yahoo girl.
Poster, are you married 😊😊😊😊?
A man that can take care of his sister and parents can also take care his wife.
#sideeyeatmyanonymouslover😊😊😊😊
Grrrr! Ms. A, i see you. You ve been very playful lately, mama. 😉
DeleteLol 😂 😂 😂 😂 @Perxian, sometimes the girlie side in us comes to play.
Delete😜😜😜😜
I wouldn't say she is ungrateful,guess she didn't mention her family impact on her because she wasn't seeking advice on them but the guy,so I guess that's the reason y she listed out the guys impact on her. If she is ungrateful I don't think she will even think of choosing her family or the guy. When you are talking about someone you talk about all thier impact on you.and this one she was talking about the guy.
DeleteAs in... correct guy sha.
DeleteMs. A goodluck 😂
Poster, hold your ears!!! Ukpana okpoko gburu, nti chiri ya! Don't ever choose any man over your family. If your family say NO, PLEASE FORGET THAT STUPID LOVE . Marriage is a long journey o! I'm talking from experience.
ReplyDeleteOnly a fool will marry a yahoo boy knowing fully well he is one. Guy, let her go ahead if she refuses to listen. The only annoying thing is that when shit hits the fan, people will say you are wicked if you refuse to help.
ReplyDeleteLeave her! Shes not even scared with the recent arrests upandan. Mscheew... I dont pity some of these yahoo wives.
DeleteExperience is the best teacher, that's all I have to say.
ReplyDeletePoster..pls do not neglect her at this point in time..
ReplyDeleteAunty lover lover,it's better u hold ur ears and run provided ur brother is saying the truth.. Experience is the best teacher they say but I pray that experience won't lead you to depression after the deed has been done..
Oga, please take it easy with her. She is a very foolish girl in love. If you his friend that knows him well disapproves of this boyfriend, your sister ought to take that as a big no go area. Please be patient and continue to love and support her. Her eye will soon clear and I hope it is not after making the greatest mistake of her life.
ReplyDeleteI ratherborn for a married man than marry a yahoo boy! Tufiakwa
ReplyDeleteAll wrong number
DeleteI'd rather stay celibate than do any of them, they both have curses attached!
DeleteThose of you blasting JW men, my husband is one, and he's the best man.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart, I totally understand your gripe. It's always so easy to pontificate and call out other people's issues until it hits close to home. You have every right to voice your disapproval, the guy in question is your friend, by virtue of which you can be an authority on his character and idiosyncrasies. Older brothers are notorious for being overprotective but at the end of the day your sis is an adult and ultimately, the decision is hers to make.
ReplyDeleteWe have our different tolerance thresholds and deal breakers so it would be unfair to discredit the reasons you listed as your main concerns. While a person may not be blamed for his/her fragile health, most families would rather have a healthy in-law. Until you're married to a person with health challenges, you may not appreciate the reluctance to readily accept that person. Religious beliefs plays a major role in the success of a marriage and it shouldn't be dismissed with the wave of the hand. The integrity of an individual goes to the root and the very being of said person. Even if you have questionable morals, you still have the right to dissuade your sis from marrying a guy like you.
I remember a case where a mother bluntly refused to allow her daughter marry into a polygamous family. The irony is, she, herself is the second wife. When people tried to point out the obvious hypocrisy, she said just because she made a mistake doesn't mean she should watch her daughter repeat history. That it is her right as a mother to protest even at the risk of sounding hypocritical. I quite agree with her. Just because you are a friend to a so called Yahoo boy, whatever the implication is, doesn't mean you should sit by and watch your sis tread the wrong path.
You have done the best you can, you have played the role of a big brother. As painful as it is to see your loved one make, what you consider, a wrong decision, there's really not much you can do. Most people "in love" are blinded from seeing the bigger picture, they live for the moment. Like an ill-fated aircraft, they accelerate on the runway and take flight without bothering to check if all is well with the engine. I pray your sis sees reason early enough. You have done well as a brother, I too will cry out if any of my siblings chose to hookup with the wrong person. Why are we family if we can't criticize our choices?
And from your sister's narrative, she has already assumed that her family will not accept him because she knows that when they know what he does, it will eventually be a no no.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is not play my sister. Please listen to your brother, he means well for you.
Foolish Girl,marry him and enter one chance don’t come back n cry to anyone,carry your cross
ReplyDeleteJust to correct something 1,nit everybody going to kingdom hall is a witness 2, JW do NOT marry 2 wifes 3, a true witness eill not even date an outsider talkless of marriage its very rare, 4 this people might be interested people 5,the issue of blood. ... at this modern generation even Dr are against it tis days.
ReplyDeletePls stop spreading fake news about JW ,pls visit JW website for any questions. Jw.org
Why is it that whenever something like this happens you jws always say 'true jws don't do this and that'? Jws are humans, they are fallible like everyone else or have you seen a perfect human? Try as much as possible to own your shit please.
DeleteAno 11:30 no human is perfect then stop generalizing Christian do not marry 2 wifes Jw is against it NEVER will a witness do that!!! Like i said do your research b4 ....
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ReplyDeleteposter's sister,pls listen to your brother's advice.
ReplyDeleteI was blindly in love with the most foolish man on earth, everybody warned me to no avail,I even hated anybody that speak against him,now I'm a bitter baby mama with a lot of responsibility.
The hediot is still trying to come back to come and finish his unfinished programme, I've already block him in my life.
Affliction shall not arise the second time .
Poster at least get support from your mum, or other sister. Don’t go into that marriage alone.nigerian men have been known to mistreat women they think have no back up from family. Hope you have heard? This one he is JW him and his church can make life a living hell. Do not go in alone
ReplyDeleteMost of you are supporting the girl because of the word love. When shit hits the fan, it is the same people that will be saying hiya, hiya, and she was warned o!
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of financial support did he give her? F**k money or T/F? Chew-gum money? Can it be compared to what her brother and parents are doing for her? She is blinded by what she calls love.
If she marries him and does work out well, the burden will fall back on the brother, sister and parents.
My advise to the brother is, you have done your best out of love for your sister. Please spend your money on yourself, let her boyfriend support her as she claims.
JW? My issue with them is the blood transfusion. Read stories of women who bled to death after birth. That alone I will not support the girl. Then Yahoo boy? If he uses her as his sacrifice to enhance his Yahoo business? Nobody is thinking that way, because you heard the word love.
Please no vex brother, what do you do.If I remember vividly, your sister said the man is your friend.
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