STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRYING A JEHOVAS WITNESS
Good day Stella and my fellow bvs.....
please keep me anonymous because my siblings are here.
Am in a serious relationship which is leading to marriage.My boyfriend proposed yesterday and I know the next thing is to meet my family. But am scared they will turn him down Because he is a Jehovah witness and he's Delta igbo,(I am Igbo).
My two siblings didn't support our courtship when he was just my boyfriend, although he came plain to my brother whom is his friend,and told him his intentions before we started dating. Now that he is talking marriage,I don't think my people will accept him but two of my siblings are in support.
I don't want to choose him or my family because I want and love them both. He is the person I have dated after my ex,and I will say he is simply the best(I know nobody is perfect).He supports me in everything I do.He was the one that encouraged me to go to university because I never liked school (I love doing business i.e self-made). But he encouraged me to do both,he supports in every way possible he can and built me up.
He is the major person that made me who I am today. I make my own money but still yet he supports me financially.I can't just leave him because of my family and I don't want to leave my family because of him.
Pls what should I do? I need your advice and that of bvs.
I don't like JW people because they are too extreme with what they do.......
Someone lt her child die when the child needed blood.she told the hospital Jehovah's witnesses don't take blood and refused to sign anything that would save the child's life.......
I don't understand their religion but from what i have heard,if you are not a Jehovah's witness,don't marry one until you study how their religion works and you are comfortable with it...
they are very extreme and i cant deal.
Please do a full check on them before you think about calling this guy your ride or die....
Since u can't leave him, try find out if he at least wishes people happy birthday, allow vaccination, sing national anthems 😀
ReplyDeleteAnd pray situations that will make u or kids receive/donate blood do not arise, nobody prays for such, else that love will put to test n d real ama jehova will show.
I believe she knows all these hence the acceptance. Babe going into this marriage means you've decided to let go of all your beliefs. So at this point I'll say you plead with your parents to let him marry you but be rest assured that life won't be the same with you and your parents any more because of the disparity in your belief.
DeleteThey also dont work for the government, very funny people.
Delete@Blackey
DeleteThe only thing the Naija Sisi dey see now na "wedding day" and broken beds o 😯😯😯
So those ya yarns no dey enter her uburu at all
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YLE I thought u were more informed than this. Really? They don't work for government. Abeg try talk with small sense
DeleteLovetoloveu they dont, YLE is right. Abi them don change?
DeleteJW believe their allegiance belongs to God's Kingdom, which they view as an actual government.
DeleteThey refrain from saluting the flag of any country or singing nationalistic songs, which they believe are forms of worship.
Oya information minister, come and display your wide knowledge on the subject.
The work for government but they don't
DeleteJoin military
Yaba left escapee we need your efforts pls.call Iphie Dearie to drop comments on the post, she's a JW not pretending as whatever on other people's chronicles. Iphie comment pls
DeleteIphie dearie oya o
Iphie dearie show up
@ Yaba left if you say they don't sing the national anthem that's true but saying they don't work for the government is a big lie.
DeleteBold marehi do u know anyone JW who works for government.
DeleteSay it to counter YLE comment or cease the argument.
He is right 100.1%
JW don't put Nigerian flags or calendars in their offices.
Prove YLE wrong now or...
Actually, if you're so lucky to find a practicing JW man to marry, even though, you're not a JW yourself, it's very likely going to be a happy, peaceful and respectful union. Take this to the bank!
DeleteIs DPR (Department of Petroleum Resources) not owned by the govt? I know one that works there.
DeleteTalk to him if he can change to your Church or u guyz should attend neutral church if he can not OYO, bare it in your mind that JW marry themselves so u are likely gonna join him
ReplyDeletePoster, I will just paint a picture for you later u will answer your own question by yourself: Assuming you get married, get pregnant and u are in labour. The doctor says its not progressing, you need to have an emergency CS or loose the baby or even ur life. This your Darling love refuses to sign the surgery form because you will require transfusion in the course of operation. You die. Your baby dies. He mooooooovvvvvveeees on! Case closed. Now use your tongue to count your teeth.
DeleteSisi, you sound like the whole thing is just reduced to "MONEY", support me, support me...All the while you've been receiving, you did not know that he will
ReplyDeletecome to collect dividends of his investment (that is assuming that he hasn't been collecting illegitimate browsing).
So you now feel like agreeing to marry him is a duty you owe him...bad move. If the marriage is not based on agape love, it is bound to hit the rocks no matter how impeccable it may look now.
It is time to ask yourself questions, real questions...
Supposing this man did not invest in my education, would I have said yes?
Supposing he is in penury, will my answer be yes?
These are just ajuju o
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ANG... he improves her life and gives her peace of mind. How can you do that without financial support in 2days society?
Delete@16:02
DeleteAjuju 😊😊😊
Her two sisters wey dey visit this blog, na man "improve their lives and gave them peace of mind?"
I don carry ajuju answer ya ajuju 😯😯
All the married ladies in this blog (including me), na man give all of us peace of mind/financial support
I see say you no fit improve your life without a man pounding you like fufu before marriage "in 2days society" okwa ya?
Ajuoo m ajuju
If you are looking for peace of mind, na only THE PRINCE OF PEACE fit give you that one inugo?
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annon 1602 speak for yourself please. annon 15.08 you spoke the truth
DeleteWait until you or your child need blood then you will know that he does not support you in everything like you claim. He is simply the best to lure you in and then he will not hesitate to let you or your child die. My dear you have not reached your last bus stop please keep searching and you will find soon.
ReplyDeleteYou said it all... That is how they operate
DeleteJW are extremists. If their loved one is sick to the point of death and blood transfusion can save him or her, they prefer their loved one to die rather than take the blood. Poster try and learn about their principles and doctrines before you marry him.
ReplyDeleteMy dear this is very serious situation. Cam you go door to door to preach, can you watch a child or spouse die bcos of blood transfusion, can forgive him when you are on delivery he refuse you to do a CS. My dear except he is just a witness for mouth. Marriage is more than i love him so much .
ReplyDeleteI beg you, they are nice people but when these issue comes up, since you were not psycologically prepared for it while growing up, u are going to be frustrated.
Sorry Witnesses do not refuse CS ma.for blood transfusion there are alternatives already,aside door to door witnessing there are other means to witness.
DeleteKindly list the alternatives...alternatives and they let their loved ones die? Please....
Deletenonsense alternatives...
DeleteAnon 16:06 that is after they are already close to death.thats how one JW woman was in labour and it wasnt progressing,madam enter theatre they no gree. People that came after her did and came out with their babies and they were still dere praying up and down,it was towards evening when it became serious that they finally agreed the doctor just told they to wait cause someone was already open and they cant stop the surgery for her,I think the baby didn't even make it at last
DeleteJust like how most Naija women want to give birth like the 'Hebrew'women;that was her case. She wasn't hesitant about CS because of her religion
DeleteStella very true ooo.a lady I know mama abies that is how she died.her own the man refused taking her to hospital that it was against their faith and br was a pastor.she died at home with her twins in her belly.he was using this home nurses to deliver her that God will do it.
ReplyDeleteArea boys scattered his house after she died then.
He even locked her dead body and was reading Bible that she will wakeup.i can't deal
Jehovah witnesses do not have pastors,so it's safe to say the people you are talking of ain't witnesses.
DeleteHanty your stories na wa. JW go to hospitals.
DeleteSo I heard the area boys shouting,I was in my friend's house that day who shared a fence with the people.
DeleteArea boys brought out the body and dragged the man out .
It was the house nurse who told them what had transpired.
Swag which one is hanty?can't u leave a comment maturedly,I always respect u,pls I don't like that.
Jehovah's witnesses are doctors. So how Dem no go hospital. Na Dem go first accept CS rather than all this shout of born like a Hebrew woman.
DeleteMadam tenth, you're lying Biko.
DeleteThe pregnant woman would have called a friend, relative or neighbour to come and help her to the hospital. Or if she could, find her way out of the house. It's not everything a husband says, one should adhere to especially if it's a life and death matter or a morality matter Pls. This is so sad.
DeleteThe question you should be asking is if his parents will allow him marry you or his Jw people allow him marry non Jw.. They don't marry outside their religion..
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts too. Maybe he doesn't have parents.
DeleteMy thoughts too, cause they don't marry outside their religion if you do you will excommunicated along with his parents. So is he ready to risk that cause of you?
DeleteMy thoughts too, cause they don't marry outside their religion if you do you will excommunicated along with his parents. So is he ready to risk that cause of you?
DeleteLol. They will pressure her to convert oh.
DeleteThey will allow as long as they know they are gaining a new member. NA women dey always suffer am. But their men are allowed to marry outside to bring members for them
DeleteThe question you should be asking is if his parents will allow him marry you or his Jw people allow him marry non Jw.. They don't marry outside their religion..
ReplyDeletePoster, if you love him that much and he completes you, please go ahead and marry him.
ReplyDeleteBy now you know their doctrine 💁🏿♂️ are you ready to live that life?
From your write up, he’s been a part of your success and achievement, don’t you think you can achieve more with him?
Talk to your parents, make them understand you love him and how helpful he’s been to you.
If they still refuse, it’s left for you to decide to either marry him without your parents blessing, or break up with him.
Exactly Slutty you've said it all.
DeleteExactly
DeleteI was Catholic, my hihusba is a witness...we are living happily. 2.kids down the line and I can't stop thanking God for him. They are good people..you People should be there talking. Lol. Anyway, we are not extremists, and there hasn't been a reason for blood transfusion but I know it won't be a problem for us.
DeleteLike JWs, staunch Catholics have their own rules that make it almost impossible for many Christians to agree to marry them. For a JW to have married you and not insisted that you convert, tells us ALL we need to know about why you're able to live happily - your husband is a JW for mouth. SMH @ there hasn't been a reason for blood transfusion - some people don't need blood transfusion all their lives but nobody plans it. "You will need blood transfusion at some point in your life" is not written on anybody's birth certificate. The problem with someone like you is that because you've not faced such, you deceive yourself about what you think will happen. You obviously don't know that in times of crisis, people return to what they really believe and trust - even if it has been lying dormant for long. You've obviously not seen stubborn children of genuine pastors enter some kind of wahala and even when their parents are not there, they remember to "let me call on that God I used to hear my father call". Those are the ones more dangerous than the ones who have been "good" all their lives. I don't pray for such for you but if you or your children ever need a blood transfusion, that's when you will really know what your husband will do. Not before. Even your husband as he is, hasn't told you what he will do - if he even knows. Lol @ we are not extremists, is there anybody that agrees they're extremists?
DeleteActually, speaking about JW and blood transfusions, birthdays, national anthems, etc., its a personal choice, to do or not do. Yes, the Watchtower organization provides guidance but, at the end of the day, its not a must for members to follow bcos culture, family dynamics and personal preferences makes a difference.
DeleteThey are very good people. A friend of mine is jehovah's witness, he is so open minded. His wife is not JW, and dude treats her so good.
DeleteMy dear all I can say is TIE YOUR WRAPPER WELL. Or pray ur guy aint a die hard witness. Stella ure right.
ReplyDeleteNa so jw people love dey hot until you enter you go know whatsup! I had as childhood friend who married as jw guy,she was catholic. During the church wedding the guy's family refused to enter the church unto jw things, she was still in uni when they got married. after uni both of them left for the uk. more than a decade later, the guy found his "soulmate" according to what he told his wife. guess what, na jw chic him las las divorce him wife marry the soulmate. today they have relocated to canada as soulmates.
ReplyDeleteBig lie. They don't divorce!
DeleteThey divorce, oh! I personally know one JW who has been divorced twice in under five years. Last I knew, he was looking for wife #3 and has fully convinced himself that he is not the problem.
DeleteOf course, JW's divorce too bcos they are imperfect people like many others. Yet, its greatly frowned upon by JW "friends" and their society. Let's be real now.
DeleteThey divorce A LOT
DeleteTake Stella’s advice o. Search yourself ask if you can live with this man should the type of situation Stella mentioned (God forbid) happen to you.
ReplyDeleteSo you think your siblings will read this and not know its you? Youve just announced your engagement to them.
ReplyDeleteYour boyfriend should know he'd have to convert to JW before he can marry you, or you'd have to leave the kingdom, you must have discussed this, havent you?
Jehova witnesses are zealots & bigots, they almost never compromise even if its glaringly going against actuality, they stand their ground with their bags to the side and an umbrella, even when its 45 degrees sunny. I'm surprised youre struggling with the thought of choosing between love and your family, i guess the doctrine didnt really sink in. You know the consequences of marrying outside your congregation, if youre willing to damn it all for love, no one can make that decision for you, hope hes really worth it at the end of the day.
Oops, i totally missed it, hes the witness.. not the poster.
DeleteHian.
DeleteJust invert YLE's comment poster.
DeleteI love this your advice Stella.poster JW doesn't marry other religion,dont start what u can't finish. Poster, go with Stella's advice.
ReplyDeleteNot true. My husband is a witness, I am not
DeleteYour husband is understanding. In actual fact he can be excommunicated from his group if you haven't converted yourself.
DeleteJw dont take blood transfusion(I know because my uncles wife died refusing to take blood)
ReplyDeleteJW dont pray when they come to preach
If you can live with all the JW princiles then do as you wish. But your parents blessing is verry importany
This girl is playing with fire with her bare hands? Madam poster, don't worry by the time they tell you all their dos and don'ts, only two things will happen; That thing you call love will either clear from your eyes or you join them but sorry is your name if you don't ask and get the necessary answers before marriage with your love. You will know khaki is not leather when your child falls sick and is not allowed blood donation.
ReplyDeleteI like love oo but I like peace of mind also. Clash of religion is something serious, especially with extremists. I thank God my father sacked them those days when they were coming to our house in his absence to preach to us when he realized it.
JW are extremist, I can hardly refer to them as Christians.
ReplyDeleteOne of my best friends got married to one JW staunch member, today, we are no longer friends. Her husband banished her from communicating with her friends that are of different denomination, even her family members are not excluded. I miss her a lot, sometimes I just leave messages, wishing her and her family well.
I can't advice anybody that is not JW to marry one... It can be very sweet from outside, until you are fully inside. They only love themselves, they can never extend love to other people except when they are coming to win you over through their evangelism. Many of them are pretenders too.
My dear, you must weigh your options. Be ready to either choose your family or your husband and his JW family. That is how it works.
I lived with many of them in the past and I have nothing good or genuine to say about them, sorry.
From your writeup, he sounds like such a wonderful man. Truthfully people like that are rare. Someone who would encourage u like he did to go back to school. If u are convinced in your heart please have a talk with your parents on why he is the best for you. You can also talk with people they respect. If they have any fears, bring it up with your boyfriend. Your situation is quite dicey but with God everything is possible. It is you who will have to cling to your husband not your parents, not anybody else. ‘regrets for the things we did can be tempered by time. It is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable’. Make a decision that you can live with. May God guide u.
ReplyDeleteSuch good men can come with major comma sha, you'd weigh options tire.
DeleteHe would sound like a wonderful person because poster never enter. If she decides to go against all odds and marries, she should let us know how far
DeletePoster, let him be. Let like marry like. If you aren't going to join him in his religion, forget about the union. Even if he agrees to go with you to your church, forget it. My advice is blunt but if you don't like it, you can discard it and move on to the next palatable advice.
ReplyDeleteJehovah witness people are extremist and mostly two faced. They claim to be good yet they do the most crime. Gyal have you checked him in & out. You can try by asking him to quit his church to see his reaction,bear in mind he might pretend to do anything you ask him to do this time cos he wants you badly,he wants to be in your family's good book. But mehn I can't deal...I wish you the best in life.
ReplyDeleteI can't have anything to do with the JW,GKS,Muslims, in fact any church that doesn't seem normal I can't attend not to talk of marrying from there.
This one is complicated gan.🤕😕
ReplyDeleteIts not....
DeleteConvert to JW and turn ur back on ur family.
The your back on your family that gave you life because of nonsense love that will soon clear her eyes. Marriage needs much more than loveoooo.
DeleteMy dear you know the man you are dating better than we do.
ReplyDeleteFirst for him to decide to engage you as a non member trust me it won't be easy for him too.he will go through alot from family and his branch members,for just this action.
Second sit with him talk about the difficulties you will face as you decide to get married,if he is ready to face it with you,and assure him if you will be ready to face it with him too because it won't be easy at first but with time you will scale through.
Third is he a zealous witness or the "na the church wae Dem born me com meet" kinda witness?if he is the first he will want you to attend with and also want you to be zealous too.if he is the second you won't have much problem..
About the blood transfusion issues there are other alternatives to blood transfusion.
My dear the decision is yours to make at the end.
"I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner.
ReplyDeleteIn fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else. Relationships work out mostly because of our heads not our hearts.
It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline; because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.
In those times, love will not help you. Self control will help you. Emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going.
With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.
You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married to? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings and it is the great arsenal that destroys those unhelpful impulses.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.
We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there; but that can only last for just the first 3 - 6 months of the relationship in many cases.
After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped and it's now your responsibility to make the relationship work, not love's responsibility.
Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence.
On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.
Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.
That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.
Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream.
It's always tough. At some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together. You can scale through the trying times by staying focused and committed.
The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together.
Be emotionally strong, be self disciplined and above all, have the God factor that will give you the grace needed to reign you in.
Please imbibe and share with the young adults, married and unmarried!!!
Sensible!!!!!
DeleteBeautiful write up. Thanks dear.
DeleteVery intelligent writing
DeleteAmazing points
DeleteSincerely poster i can never marry a JW member, but i cant stop any of my siblings from trading that road
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I've been married for close to 7 years. During courtship I can boast that my hubby was the best. I swore off relationships till he gradually and surely convinced me otherwise. I could have my way in anything, he promised to be my helper in the kitchen cos I hated to cook. You know what, the day after our wedding was the first time I heard him say no to me. I had to take a double take. Now I can say he's the typical Nigerian husband that just says no because it makes him feel manly. This is not to say he's not a good man but I want you to know that things change after marriage. My hubby that used to sing I love you like a song hardly says it now. So, don't depend solely on how you feel about a man during courtship to make life changing decisions. Why did I go into this seemingly unrelated issue about my life? My best friend in the University also married a witness. This guy put her through school and worshiped the ground she stepped on. He was a 'liberal' witness till she was birthing her third child and guyman remembered he was a Jehovah's witness when the doctors informed him that his wife needed blood transfusion. He let his wife bleed to death. You know what? Guy man remarried after less than 5 months after my friend died to one of his side chicks. His reason was that his children needed a mother figure. He went further to cut my friends family off from the kids. You see poster, you can never fully know a man. Love is never enough. Marry someone you share a common ground with.
ReplyDeleteOh my days!
DeleteSuch a wicked man.
DeleteVery painful.
The way some people are so crazy when it comes to religion is something else.
Hes not wicked, its their believe. Didnt she know what it entails to marry JW?
DeleteIf your belief can make you blind your eyes to the suffering of someone you claim to love to the point of death......is that belief not wicked?
DeleteSorry to say but the lady killed herself... am married to a witness and I decide what happens to me...but my advice to the poster is to call it off unless the guy is JW by mouth.
DeleteAre you trying to marry him out of gratitude? Or you're just acting out of rebellion. You're very unserious cos you don't know what you're about to enter. Love will not cover you cos if this guy was going to leave JW cos of you (or cos of common sense), he would have done so by now. So, you'll have to become a JW. This is what you get when you enter relationship without asking God first. You want to use temporary relief after your ex to do husband. One chance move that you'll regret.
ReplyDeletePlease, what do you want us to tell you? There's a reason that no normal person wants their child to marry a JW; it's a fricking cult! And they don't reason normal. They're like that in the abroad, too! Have you actually examined their doctrines? Sisi, if you fall sick tomorrow and need blood, what will you do - call your parents from your sick bed to sign for you against your husband's wishes? Shebi you know that will be the end of the marriage. If you're unconscious and need blood, nko? That's how you will die for nothing. What about if you have a child and s/he needs blood? Anyway some women can watch their children die without doing anything, maybe you're one of such.
Yes, a man should help his woman. But go and ask Tiwa Savage the danger of marrying a man because he was the first man who believed in you.
Why dragging Tiwa savage olosho into this?
DeleteDon't mind her. You want to marry someone because he encourages you. Hahahaha you think that's enough for marriage? Your eyes will soon clear when you enter that marriage.
DeleteFind out if his family will approve your marriage to him cos they do not marry someone hat is not their member. You should stop complaining about weather your family will approve him or not until he comes to ask for your hand in marriage. Why did you wait till he put the ring before you started asking questions? You should have done your findings before now.
ReplyDeleteHas his people accepted you? I doubt if they will. Unless his parents are dead and he's the only one that is a JW in his family.
ReplyDeleteA family friend of mine wanted to marry a non witness then. Hers was worse than yours sef. The guy was a Muslim. She later got pregnant and still her parents didn't accept. They fix date for court wedding and only her mum and brother attended. Her dad and other siblings disowned her.
Pull out of this this minute. You would have use style to ask your parents before accepting his proposal.
That was how my brother was tricked by this JW lady, she was 35 and desperate, she told him she'd convert to catholic church and join him, he believed her cus she was even attending mass in Rumumasi, after marriage na she port back to JW, my bro didnt belive his eyes, come and see shege she showed him in that marriage, carry kids to JW and her real attitude come out... fear those people oh
ReplyDeleteAre they still together?
DeleteIf she’s still showing him shege, he should marry a second wife already.
Them still de oh, the children hold the marriage... if i should call it a marriage sef, sleeping in seperate rooms and just talking the basics.
DeleteDid i mention that we warned him tire? Everybody that talked turned to his enemy, so now he cant even complain to us, use shame do vaseline for face
DeleteYour brother has really suffered.
DeleteHe can’t keep living like that.
I hope he has a side chic 💁🏿♂️ to take care of him all round.
Life must be enjoyed.
Slutty Chic, Catholics and divorce don't merge well oh. Especially if they're married in the Catholic Church as the brother of Anon 16:21 probably did, if the wife was pretending. A Catholic marriage is almost impossible to come out of and the lady would have known that, so it was easier to trap him. Even if you're not happy, they'll tell you to manage as that's not a grounds for divorce. There are things you cannot try with a Pentecostal man cos it will not end in praise, that a Catholic will endure. For instance, if for some reason they're able to get divorced, Anon's brother will be stopped from receiving Communion - it matters to him but not to the JW wife cos till further notice, he's really Catholic and she was never one. I don't know if the circumstances are enough to be granted an annulment but even if Anon's brother is willing to tow that line, annulment doesn't happen overnight and this JW woman that Anon just described may be wicked enough to do and undo.
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ReplyDeleteMy younger sister married a Jehovah witness.thet 've been married for 14 years now and very happy with themselves. My parents were strict Catholics (knights of the church and all) and his parents were strict jehova wirnesses (missionaries) but tgey both insisted on getting married. For that relationship to work, you have tp be firm about what you will take and not take. My sister made it clear from day one that she will never compromise on blood transfusion. She has a consent letter signed by her authorising her doctor to give her and her kids blood in case of emergency no matter what her husband says (even though he promised to abide by her wish). She also signs her consent for blood transfusion whenever she goes to hospital to deliver. They celebrate her birthday and those of their kids. 14 years down the line, they are as happy as ever and the man is my best in law. He doesn't play with any of us. And he doesn't allow his family or any member of his congregation dictate to him. So poster, if your heart is sure. Hi ahead and marry him but take steps to protect your life and those of your unborn children.
ReplyDeleteWell, not every man is like this in-law, she sounds naive and marrying out of gratitude, she doesn’t love the guy.
DeleteHers is heading to the north without winter jacket to protect her.
Everly Rockin', the reason that consent letter even exists is that despite what your in-law claims, your sister doesn't trust what her husband will do if such a situation becomes a reality and she doesn't want stories if time reach. It's not that she doesn't love him or vice versa, but having complete faith in someone and their intentions isn't the same as love. It's like with a pre-nup - you can love each other but if you trust the word of your spouse (and you're in a clime where such are legally binding), you won't get one.
DeleteYour younger sister even inside love still shine her Eyes well and didn't taken chances
DeleteNo blind love
Lol
ReplyDeleteWow
I'm shocked about what I'm reading about my faith even from you Stella.
Extremism? A cult? Etc etc. I see
Lady, lemme tell you for a fact, a true witness of Jehovah won't even come close to you not to talk about yoking together.
Here!! This is a clear example of a typical jw, the word “yoking” already told you they find other faith “unholy”
DeleteNo sane person should get involve in JW people, they are not people to be “yoke” with.
Please desist from this your “agape love”
Leave him for his like above 👆🏾
A true witness won't come near another human being, God's creature and you say ur not extremists or cult
DeleteU see, u are even displaying the loveless hard hearted trait, you guys love only yourselves.
DeleteIf way de for JW ppl to create their own country, they will do it, e de vex them say we de share the same air.... very anyhow people.
DeleteAnon that means you know very little about your faith. They go after other faith and some are extremists. I know one that refused blood transfusion after childbirth despite the doctor's plea. They talked to her husband and he refused too. The Matron went to her ward when her husband left and told her she will die if she's not transfused and this same husband of hers chanting I love you, i love you, will marry someone else. She begged not to let her husband know and was transfused. That baby is 18months old now. You see deeper life and JW, sincerely it's better they marry themselves oh.
DeleteHmm poster ,
DeleteLove is never enough o!!!!
Be wise and be guided .
See that comment up there ? You need to ponder real hard.
Stella is 100% right. JW are more like mentally retarded people. Don't pray to have them as neighbors.
DeleteSome landlords in Lagos put up signpost when they have an empty flat to rent JEHOVA WITNESS IS NOT ALLOWED.
Simple!
Original poster, I hope you're seeing that we're not just trying to scare you? If this comment by 17:04 isn't proof of their extremism and cultish mindset, I wonder what is. Don't be deceived into thinking they're okay cos they read Bible - they're not Christians and they will use their warped misinterpretation of your own Bible to ruin you. You have been warned.
DeleteSucre - 17:04 knows but as with a lot of JWs, she's minimising the truth or outrightly lying.
Foe those talking about blood and all, there's now bloodless surgery and other bloodless stuff. Science is evolving and researchers aren't resting on their oars. That shouldn't be the basis for your advice.
ReplyDeletePoster, if his parents accept you and you're ready to take religious extremism, please do what makes you happy. You will be in the marriage and know what you can take or not. Also test him about certain things. You should be fine
Bloodless surgery you say? Biko tell us about it and how it's done if not doctors wont be asking for stand by blood
DeleteThis story is false. One - no witness will even imagine not to talk of consider marrying a non-JW. Water and oil dont mix. Stella, never be quick to label us extremists. READ, STUDY before making judgements.
ReplyDeleteLol. Poster, I hope you're reading all these. This is like someone carrying bomb yet claiming they're not a terrorist. In the same place where this one has talked about water and oil, s/he is forming "we're not extremists". I advise you to study - go online and read real life stories of former JWs that have been disfellowshipped before you make the worst mistake of your life.
DeleteBut Serena Williams is JW nah. She even had a baby with a non-JW before she married him.
DeleteAnno 19:14 please go get your facts right. Right here in my office, there is a non JW married to a JW. While I was I school, a JW dated and married a non JW. So what are you saying?
DeletePoster, if your guy is a liberal person, he might not be all these things people have painted JW to be. I believe you know him better cos you are in the one in the relationship. Have no fears, let him come forward to meet your parents, let them reject him first na, at least they will tell you why they are rejecting him. IF it is something that needs clarification, am sure your boo will gladly do if the feeling is mutual. Then you can take it up from there.
good luck poster.
Pls marry him.The people advising u to leave him will not give a husband. Remember the population of women is higher than that of men.Besides good men are scraces.If u leave him do u have any other option.Besides I believe there is no perfect man they will always have something missing. If u can cope with his flaws go ahead and marry him. At least I know a lady that got married to a guy from the white garment church and their love is waxing stronger.
ReplyDeleteThis your advice no follow
DeleteDesperation or fear is a terrible reason to get married
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