STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
RANT OF A FRUSTRATED WIFE
My husband is a very good man, he helps me a lot around the house although he has 2 jobs. He takes care of the kids but he is very stingy towards me. My problem is the s#x, he's the type that just jump in without foreplay, even if I manage to be wet he cleans it off leaving me with heavy bruises after the do....
He also likes to do it almost everyday. I have talked and talked but still no changes, we are just 5 years in marriage, he prefers a very dry toto and my toto is very tight ,you can imagine the pains I go through each time we have s#x, it's like rape.
I have never had an orgasm with him. I masturbate from time to time to ease stress, I told him I want to buy lubricant he said lubricant is for prostitutes. If I cheat on him now people will say women are useless, to think that each time we have s#x he will be teasing me that I enjoyed it too much.
Is this how I'm going to continue for the rest of my life???
The last time we had it I had a bad cut in where I had a tear during delivery, the place they sew is open now. This is not fair!!!
*JESUS!!!...Reading this just made me hate gbenshing with all my heart.Men with this kind of mindset never change oh...Madam you are in trouble and that is all i have to say...if you complain he might even accuse you of having another lover.....
the things women endure to keep their "Mrs" title...
ReplyDeleteAs in ehh sylvia🙄
DeleteI think u need to do something drastic that will really draw his attention to this matter poster.
Silly comment. How do you mean
Delete"the things women endure to keep their Mrs title"? What's the correlation? Did she mention anywhere that she's values the "Mrs" title more than her sexual pain? Na wa for una for this blog o.
Please shut up. What of the things men do and have to endure just to keep the Mrs happy.
DeletePoster, must you stay mum and be collecting any nonsense in the name of marriage! Don't you have mouth! If you're fighting another woman, your voice will scream the loudest.mumu married women!
DeleteIt's not right to penetrate a dry virginal.
DeleteMadam , put your foot down and tell him what you want. This is a marriage not sexual slavery. Tell him exactly how you want sex, when you want it and how it goes down, else don’t give him the booty at all. You cannot be married and walking on egg shells around each other. This just makes me hate marriage, I’d rather be a single mum and use my Toto how I enjoy it without any so called “husband” leaving me bruised and battered in the name of marriage. I sympathize with you, madam.
DeleteThe day when you ask after an old female friend and the answer starts with *she's fine, she joined the military, she is the new MD of ... company, she is a magistrate now etc. And NOT she's married to one guy from USA ooo and is going to join her husband next month (mstchewww). That is when nonsense stories like this will end.
DeleteKeep giving them the impression they are the air you breathe and keep getting treated like trash.
Be fearing him o. It's the day you get an std from those tears you will know your man has been fucking anal that's why he wants to turn your vagina to anus feeling. Rubbish*
The way you people assume married women are suffering is really funny.
Delete1. He wipes you dry even though he knows you are usually in pain when dry.
Delete2. He "teases" you that you are enjoying it too much.
3. The sex appears to be aggressive/violent.
All the above have the markings of a rapist. Madam kindly investigate to be sure you are not married to a rapist. On the other hand, he may be into BDSM which means he has mental health issues. Your husband is definitely turned on by the pains a woman feels during sex and that's not normal...
That's because some of them are really suffering
DeleteBut it's not an assumption now. Most married women especially the ones im third world countries are really suffering. So what are you on about the. Marriage in Nigeria is a scam
DeleteMy baby Daddy’s dick is ROd with veins! Me am a tap, I wet pass water works, still he fills me up and at every interval he asks, R u ok? Shd I add KY ? This Na baby daddy o! But here a HORSEBAND is Raping a wife and mocking her after d do! Tufiakwa for this Title called Mrs!
DeletePeople that type the this "virginal", where are they from? The word is "vagina".
DeleteAll this little girls will come and talk about Mrs as if it is a hang man title. Marriage is institution ordained by God. You may choose not to marry. Na body go tell you
DeleteThats why women need to empower themselves see now if you had a job now you wd be occupied and you wd Not endure this rubbish you threaten to walk away if he doesnt change because you have something to live on. He is a professional rapist
ReplyDeleteHow do you couples turn sweet legitimate poundings into torture?
ReplyDeletePlease sit down with your husband and talk this thing over.
And be patient. Do not give in to what Devil wants you to do by cheating on him.
Tell him point blank that you are frustrated with the sex.
“He prefers” and you have been letting him have his way. 5 years in marriage and it already feels like you both are in your 40s because why would anyone treat their partner that way. Also begs the question if this has always been the case before marriage.
ReplyDeleteIf something is hurting you then you need to do what’s best for you and make it stop. He is your Husband not your God, let him know he is hurting you. Buy the lubricant, or with hold sex if he wouldn’t use it. It’s because you allow him despite the pain that’s why he can say “you enjoy it”. To be honest, with stories like this marriage doesn’t sound like a union between friends or lovers but leave and master. How will I be letting a man ride me like a horse when he only thinks of his pleasure. All the best before nde ozu imi will remind me I’m single but this experience is not it at all, do what you “prefer” for once and let him know no sex if he can’t get you lubricated either naturally or with help. If you decide to cheat then get a divorce, marriage is not by force.
*Slave....my dear,I wonder why people even marry someone they are afraid of..some women are really seeing shits in marriages oooo...Imagine drying her up even when she get wet..Lord have mercy ..what if u walk out .,will he drag you back n rape you?.Or is he a giant.He is so selfish,wicked and self centered.he probably married u a virgin..how can u tell me Lubricants are for hoes..christ..this is absurd..Just pray that hole in your V doesn't decay or cause u more harm...what nonsense...ur married women will just be acting like dummies..when u ought to speak up n use ur head..y'll turn empty brains..I'm pissed
DeletePoster sorry about what you are going through. Your man needs sex education from an expert he can believe. Do you know any doctor who can help you? You can't continue like this, your health is important. Have you made him aware of how he is hurting you? It seems from your write up he thinks you have been enjoying sex with him. You both have not really been communicating well. Speak to him seriously on the issue with a view to finding the best way forward.
ReplyDeleteVery sound advice. 👍
DeleteThank Anonymous 15:08.
DeleteMy advice for her is to pretend that she is sick or she should faint during sex. The husband will rush her to the hospital, she should then informs the doctor or nurse attending to her what the issue is. The man will believe and have confidence in an Expert Judgement.
The man needs to be counselled. He is ignorant or has shallow sexual exposure.
Haaa!!! Faint during sex... Lol🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 jus tryna imagine it in my head.
DeleteIf a person can die by sex, a person can faint by sex na.
DeleteJeez....na dem oooo
ReplyDeleteMadam can u hide n apply lube before d do? Since u can't fight him off everyday, buy DAT one that comes with applicator, withdraw n pump it in n stay perpetually wet, if he sees u are always wet, he might back off a bit since he likes it dry.
She sed he likes it dry... D man might decide to clean everything off in d cause of entering in, dry...
Delete@anon 15:16 🤣🤣🤣 the man loves dry sex😂
DeleteHe will "dry clean it na@Blackberry
DeleteHe can't dry d lube inside except she allows him chuk rag inside n squeeze which is impossible.
DeleteStella abegiii😂😂😂😂 you that will still gbensh this night🧐
ReplyDeleteMadam that man will tear you into two one day. You better start revolting. Carry placard, shout it on the streets, tell pastor, tell his mama, announce it o so that shame will catch him. Ahn ahn.
You have never had an orgasm with your husband?
ReplyDeleteWow 😯
Love making without orgasm, is that love making? Total waste of time.
Your husband is stingy, does not give you mind blowing sex to attain orgasm, that’s not fair on his part.
How can he say lubricants is used by just prostitutes, what a mentality.
Your husband is not exposed and obviously a boring one too.
How does he feel seeing you in great pains?
Did you not test before marrying him?
This is the real definition of one chance.
If he refuses to consider your sexual satisfaction, dump him and move on.
Sex is very very sweet and it’s your right to enjoy it.
I'm seven years in marriage and married my first. Don't know what organism feels like. Worried that I may never know till I die. I've even asked my mom if I was circumcised and she says no. My hubby doesn't even know as he's always smiling during sex and babe will be like, "Baby you just came". Me wey never leave can't be cumming. I just manage a smile. BVs, please are some women just built like that?
DeleteNote, hubby does the foreplay and the head stuff, says I'm tight but I have never cum. or can you cum without knowing?
See mentality my sister,
DeleteA man is stingy towards you,
Does not care about your body and u call him a good man.
Ohh!!wow!
The day he will dash u 5k u will lick his feet then.
Na wa ooo
This one will say u must do baby friendly,u must eat this and that.
You must do this and that.
You turn to a slave in the name of marriage.
Ok ooo.
Poster ride on.
Slutty, a lot of women have never experienced orgasm and they still enjoy the act of lovemaking. There's no waste of time in that, be guided.
Delete15:52 sis, you can cum without knowing. Orgasm has to do with the length between your clitoris and vagina opening..if it is more than an inch apart, then you 'll prolly never experience orgasm through intercourse.
DeleteThat's where solo act comes in. Hope this helps.
Perxian, it’s a free world, next time form your opinion and keep it to yourself.
DeleteI am not impressed by your vituperations.
Try a vibrator by yourself. Take your mind off and let it do it’s thing
DeleteIf you’ve had an orgasm you’d know
15:52.
DeleteGo online, and you'd find out from google that 70% of women have never experienced what an orgasm feels like, it doesnt mean they dont enjoy sex.
Slutty, what vituperation or you just learned a new word? Pfft!
DeletePerxian, you can't miss an orgasm. There's no way you can have an orgasm and not know you've had an it. 70% of women have never experienced an orgasm. Some think its that sweet feeling they get during sex. But orgasm can only be likened to falling off a cliff.
DeletePerxian, my comment was directed at the poster.
DeleteI don’t remember addressing it to you.
Why take it so personally? Did I hit a nerve?
Please stay in your lane.
Falling off a cliff?
DeleteWheres the pleasure in that?
Like a rollercoaster ba? Nice descrition, never had that happened to me before though
DeleteThis is where you need a vibrating egg on your clit cuming is a sexual explosion that’ll make you scream like a mad woman. My clit is very far from my pum pum so I only cum when I masturbate
DeleteThis is where you need a vibrating egg on your clit cuming is a sexual explosion that’ll make you scream like a mad woman. My clit is very far from my pum pum so I only cum when I masturbate
DeleteDude enjoys rape and he has found someone to rape
ReplyDeleteHe gets off on pain.
simple fact. oh girl you are soneones daughter na...all what your folks suffered only to end up with such a man. nawa for some women oh
DeleteIf you talk about being sexually attracted to the person you want to marry as a major criteria for marriage people will cut of your head. women, listen to me sex is important. Sexual compatibility is key. yes, sex is not everything but oh please good sex is good! Unfortunately, Most Nigerian women go through this but too shy to speak up. Your husband is so close minded and not willing to learn! This is so hurtful. talk and talk to him again and let him see a sex therapist. If he refuses to change the divorce him!
ReplyDeleteHe can marry and change na
DeleteHow do u know they were not gbenshkng before
Slutty chic stop deceiving women not every woman reaches orgasm during penetrative sex and yes they still enjoy sex. Even studies have shown that only 25% of women reach orgasm during sex. Poster iron this out with your husband this is not right atall. Your husband is a very local man with a village mentality.
DeleteActually anon @16.18 women were born with clitoris which is specifically for sexual arousal. The fact that many women do not reach orgasm does not mean that they cannot. Interestingly lesbian women reach orgasm at similar rates as men. Meaning the problem is the selfishness and ignorance of men who have sex with women. To not enjoy orgasm is NOT normal and shouldn’t be seen as “okay”. The point of learning is also to do away with unhelpful social norms
DeleteAnon 16:18, It’s not my fault you don’t experience orgasm during sex.
DeleteWork on it, I am sure you will get there someday.
DONT EVER BLAME ANY MAN that cannot make you orgasm, especially if youve never experienced it in your life, do you even know where to be touched or sucked to reach orgasm? You urself dont know.... yet u expect a foreign body to know ur body better than you.... at least virgin or not, you can tell wen a man is good in bed, go and figure out ur own body, and tell him u require longer fucks to orgasm or clit lick or clit rub whatever!!!
DeleteSelfish men everywhere... sex are to be enjoy by the two parties. Pls go ahead and buy the lubricate is for ur own good.and don't forget to visit hospital for the cut.
ReplyDeleteSee engrish!!! O my Jed!!!!
DeleteAnon 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteAnon
DeleteI dont need to add to what you've typed 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😂😂😂😂😂😂
Wow.All in one paragraph!
DeleteWhat's funny here now? It could be a typo and even if its not, simply correct the person and move on. Umuazi!
DeleteNa wa o. What advice can one give again after at telling you lubricants and he said it's for for prostitutes.
ReplyDeleteNa wa. I wonder why sh called him a very good man. That is stingy towards her? What kind of very good man is that one? He takes care of the kids. Are those not his responsibilities before? If he no take care of his own kids, na my papa go come take care of them?
ReplyDeleteMadam, your husband is a bad man. A very bad one. Take it to the bank like Stella says.
You saved me the stress of typing Bianca. "Good man" my left foot!
DeleteOya go and cheat.
ReplyDeleteIt's in your mind already, you're only waiting to be told to go ahead..
dumbest comment!
DeleteYou obviously have nothing to advice but I must type no go gree you. Grow a brain!
DeleteWho told you that you are very tight? Any dry pussy will feel very dry
ReplyDeleteI know such men, they think a dry pussy is a sweet one. Madam, sit up and do ur thing. Stop making him feel he is doing a good job whilst he's not. Complain and get ur lub handy biko. Show him what u want and make him do it, stop acting all virgin and shy. Sex is better if enjoyed.
ReplyDeleteMadam, please let him know he is hurting you asides that sex or love making is meant to be enjoyed and not endured.
ReplyDeleteDon’t let him have sex with you if your Body is not ready
ReplyDeleteYour body your life. You have only one
awon feminist
DeleteMadam, what’s the relationship between you and your husband like? Can you tell him plainly that you have issues with him:
ReplyDelete- not having enough foreplay before sex
- cleaning off the natural lubricant produced by your body? (I mean this is a very deliberate and sadist move in my opinion).
You have to tell him that he is being self centered and that you need proper lubrication in order to enjoy sex.
You have to be firm otherwise there will be no change. If he refuses, consider keeping off sex for a while, when he complains you tell him, no lubrication, no sex!
Ah ah! This life isn’t meant to be endured!!
poster,I'd advice you put your foot down and say no to the torture! what manner of man would turn a deaf ears and make his wife suffer what should be enjoyed... deny him the sex if possible till he changes....nawa!
ReplyDeletemy husband is selfish when it comes to sex matters, does not like having sex, I have checked, he is not cheating and no, he is not gay, I don talk Taya, oya let me initiate sex, he wl refuse, I just don't get it. no I am not fat n ugly,Not dirty sef. I send sexual text messages just to let him know I want it, wear sexy nyt wear b4 e comes bk frm work, guy man no go move. we sleep on the same bed n wakeup lyk that. please help me o just one year in marriage
ReplyDeleteYour husband may be asexual. I don't know what you can do, as the marriage is so young. Is his job stressful, is he in debt? Have you tried to talk to him about the lack of physical contact. Will scheduling sex on a specific date on a calendar work? You must talk to him.
DeleteIt seems your husband needs professional counseling. Someone who he can be free with to explore his sexual history eg was he abused? There might be something there, and a specialist can help you both work through having better sex and intimacy.
DeleteONE YEAR?????
DeleteHow some men dont ever think their responsible for driving the woman to cheat outside just surprises me.
Anonymous 22 August 2019 at 15:25 i was in the same what's app group with you before but after so much talking and no improvement,i just know that the guy is selfish and never want to make me happy. I walk away without looking back, if i cannot enjoy, love.care, money, why will i be maried to you nah? if you can starve yourself sex cos you want to answer mrs continue oh.
DeleteLmao anonymous .. we are in the same WhatsApp group.. how do I contact you? Our stories sound alike.. can you mail me? Or send your details to stella , I'd go through her to collect it.
DeleteI have stopped initiating and i am enjoying the celibacy in marriage.
My only prayer is that i dont encounter any temptation.
I don't know if i will be able to overcome it
for how long will you continue the charades..
DeleteI think we let a lot of things slide too much because we want to make it work. This is not working. I often shudder on how you people describe a ‘good man’... For your own safety either he changes or stop having sex..
ReplyDelete"Good man" has a different meaning to some women o. A stingy torturer is good? Hian!
DeleteMy sister I tire ooo.
DeleteSee torture.
Just about him and him.
If you hear some married women speak like the man is heave and Earth you go tire.
Many have lost their self esteem and self value.
Bini you're so right. We need to begin to raise our standards for what is good and acceptable.
DeleteNot trying to excuse your husband's asinine behavior but it could be a psychological problem.
ReplyDeleteI have counseled men that hate wetness cos of their bad experiences with too wide pums in the past. They automatically shut down during intercourse if you are wet and your pum can't clinch their peen.
Don't just talk to him, show him the injuries he is inflicting on you. You can also guide him during intercourse on how you like it, don't lie there wincing in pain and resenting sex.
Initiate foreplay, sometimes..maybe he's not into it cos he just don't know what other thing to do than thrust.
If all fails, pray and watch war room. 😒🤷♀️
So some men are traumatized by wet vaginas, or vaginas that their penises are not a good fit for? What won't we live to hear in the times. If I bought a pair of shoes that stretched out or won't get comfy I just go find a new pair, not seek out counseling😂😂🙄
DeleteSo if your pum stretch out, it's okay for your man to go find a new one? That's not a very smart ideology.
Deletewhat about his D being small...vaginas go back, but a small d remains a small d
DeleteI dont even understand you people. You mean you will lie down and pretend to be enjoy the sex while he rips your tight dry pussy apart or what? O ga ooo
ReplyDeletemadam do not die in slient cos you want to keep your marriage, you need to talk to him, look for a family member that he respect and talk to them. You should not be silent and not enjoy sex.
ReplyDeleteBabe, the earlier you stand up for yourself the better! How can you keep enduring this kind of pain all in the name of gbenshing? Love yourself enough to do what's best for you babe. Tell him you can't keep enduring pain for his own selfish satisfaction. Sex is a two way thing, it's meant for you two to enjoy and not just him! Please take a stand and stick to it as long as he's not willing to change.
ReplyDeleteIn fact forward this link to him..
Nonsense and selfish man.
Madam I hope your hubby is not gay? Cos it's men that engage in anal sex that will be looking for dry pussy upandan. Please sit him down and tell him your concerns. Or are you afraid of him? Does he beat you?
ReplyDeleteSome men sha! A wet tottoh is the sweetest.
ReplyDeleteMadam its obvious you are not ready to be free from your suffering. How can you be having sex like you are being operated on. Until he injures you permanently . 5 years in marriage and you can't communicate effectively . your first thought is to talk about cheating. For him to think you enjoy it is because even in your pain you pretend to enjoy it not to offend him. Seems he provides everything for you . please this is not love it's selfishness on his part. Your hubby is wicked and selfish if after 5 years he cannot see even the tiniest bit of something that is troubling you`
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooo.
ReplyDeleteA dry Toto???????.
How have u been managing for five good years
Why are u allowing him to destroy your for an excuse of marriage.
Tell him you don't enjoy it as simple as abc.
U have bruises and you don't like it.
Apply lubricant,tell him it eases the pain.
I keep saying it,in marriage what u tolerant from the onset that is how u will continue.if you mumu and choose to change later on it will cause issues.
Stop pretending to make a man happy.
Think of you!you! You.
Love yourself before getting married.
How can u be pleasing someone in pain.
If he does not like having you the normal way then no sex.
A man who will cheat will cheat.
Nonsense,so many married women are just too dump and have serious self esteem issues.
As if Without meeting to his demands you both will die.
Continue.
*dumb
DeleteSpeak out ma'am,tell him and show him the wounds I believe he will have a change of heart
ReplyDeletePele poster. You just have to sit him down and explain how you feel to him. Tell him he always hurt you during sex and if possibly, open your viji and show him the cut. Cry join self. Be very dramatic so that he can understand what you are going through. How do you love someone and see them hurt.
ReplyDeleteI thought men like wet pussy. there are even herbs Most muslim women in the north take to make them wet for their husband before the men do the do. They say their men love slimy viji
The fact that sex with him causes tears in your vagina put you at greater risk to contract a Std, particularly hiv. You must use a lubricant for your protection and peace of mind. If he cannot provide you with pleasure he should not be giving you pain. Seems like you married a bushman.
ReplyDeleteStand up for yourself and your health, is he your creator that you will bow to him even if he is ripping you open. It is your own fear of him seeking sex outside why you are allowing him to manhandled you like this. You are not getting any pleasure from it yet you let him use your body like a gym machine. Tell him you want to shove a dildo up his butt and work it dry with no lubrication and see if he will let you. These types of men will do to women's bodies what they would ever let anyone do to them. Marriage is not ownership, you still own your body and have the full right to decide what you will allow anyone to do with it. Stop living in fear and learn to stand up for yourself. Go get the lubricant and use it!
''this just made me hate gbenshing with all my heart''..dear Stella i put it to you that this is a momentary statement infact it was a slip of the tongue
ReplyDeleteSomeone who likes it dry doesn’t like the wetness of an aroused woman meaning... he likes to feel like he’s forcing the woman/like she’s not enjoying it? This is actually indicative of a deeper problem. If you ever hear that he assaulted someone, don’t jump to defend him, just keep quiet. He’s also stingy? Really sad the things women endure to get and stay married in countries like Nigeria countries
ReplyDeleteHmmm I once dated a man like this,his own was not this bad sha cos I could use lubricants & sometimes we do foreplay, but most times he prefers to jump into the Toto just like that and he likes to fuck like those guys with huge dick in porn videos,his own fuck is no mercy pounding plus his huge penis,even if you are screaming and crying,funny he thought I was enjoying it. And its true Stella said about men like this not changing,even if he goes to see a doctor he will only reduce but his mindset about sex is what he does and he will barely change. He used to say to me 'I wonder how you will do when you are pregnant' like you won't allow me touch you at all..lol I started using style to tell him I don't enjoy his style but he didn't get the message,until I said it out loud & clear cos we were talking marriage,sometimes I think about the sex thing & I get scared & doubt if that is the kind of sex I want in my marriage from my man. Although I was ready to continue & make him change,but something serious happened,that revealed a lot of things he hid from me from the onset of our relationship & it led to our breakup. He begged, people begged but I was convinced he wasn't for me mostly cos of the sex thing.
ReplyDeleteSo poster I want to believe you were team no sex before marriage so you didn't notice this. You have to come out straight whole & talk it out loud & clear since you are married, its either he changes or you leave that marriage ,obviously you cannot continue like this o,else you go die on top sex matter.
Is your husband ok at all? Why would a man want to be thrusting in a dry punani? Does it give him friction burns sef? Communication is key. I dont understand why some women are scared to talk about issues bothering them with their partners. Tell him he is hurting you down there and you cant continue like this. He even goes as far as wiping your natural secretions? Is he a sadist? He knows dry sex is painful but will still do it because its his preference.
ReplyDeleteThis is really sad. I have no words.
ReplyDeleteHmmm, odiegwu. And you still stay there? Keep 'keeping' your marriage, na you sabi. Selfish man. Imagine having sex every day, is it food? No wonder poverty dey do people left and right.
ReplyDeleteur husband is a beast, I don't like the idea of not having sexual inter course before marriage, u would have noticed all this before marrying him or where u blind to it
ReplyDeleteMeans nothing
DeleteOffends GOD too
People pretend
With all the so called human wisdom testing
Marriages are scattering anyhow and more nowadays
sad that you are going through this, you have to talk to him, talk to a Doctor too
ReplyDeleteI couldn't read much of the comments. What sort of marriage is this? This is the fault of our African parents and the way they brought us(girl children) up. How can one person have this much low self esteem? Agreed that the man has issues but the problem is with the poster. Why does she hate herself this much? She needs to work on her self esteem.
ReplyDeletesimple oo
DeleteThis man sounds like he likes to rape sha
ReplyDeleteYou have to take this issue serious.My Advice: Wake him up at midnight explain to him how you feel and be dem serious about it.Am sure he will adjust.
ReplyDeleteIt's like you're afraid of your husband. Like someone asked up there? Does he physically assault you? Because I don't understand your level of mousiness at all. Since yo no get liver to speak up for yourself and insist on a better way, my advice to you is to keep on suffering the pain. You've been doing that for 5 years after all. When you are tired of the pain, then you will speak up coz I don't know what you expected BVs to advise you. We are not in your bedroom with you during the do so, only you can help yourself at the end of the day.
ReplyDeleteGo back to the hospital where you were sown up to get the tear checked. Have them invite him for some education. Something some people don't understand is that sex is therapeutic. So, not only is his practice affecting your physical health, but your mental/emotional health too will gradually suffer. So, you better get him to correct his notion now. For all you know, he is also a victim who developped his idea about sex from some really stupid person or relationship in the past. I have for example heard such stupid things as, it is only loose women who have orgasm or get wet. If he got sold such an idea and bought into it, believe me, he needs time to climb out of that hole. However, he won't start the climb until he realized his current paradym is wrong!
ReplyDeleteSomething more, if he can handle it, let him read all the comments in this thead! It might help reset his brain!
ReplyDelete