STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHISTLEBLOWER ALERT
I have a friend and a colleague who is married to a woman from my state and dating a lady from my state. He tells me everything. Now this lady has fallen for him not knowing he is married.
I want to blow the whistle on my friend because I don't want the lady to feel hurt later on knowing she is from my state and getting married to a woman from state. I am from the Gods on state
Please BVs advise me on how to go about this because his plan is to chop the Lady and if the lady finds out eventually, he moves on
I love my friend but I need to do the needful because I have a conscience taking cognizance that this lady who is in love can spoil the friendship I have with my friend
I have a friend and a colleague who is married to a woman from my state and dating a lady from my state. He tells me everything. Now this lady has fallen for him not knowing he is married.
I want to blow the whistle on my friend because I don't want the lady to feel hurt later on knowing she is from my state and getting married to a woman from state. I am from the Gods on state
Please BVs advise me on how to go about this because his plan is to chop the Lady and if the lady finds out eventually, he moves on
I love my friend but I need to do the needful because I have a conscience taking cognizance that this lady who is in love can spoil the friendship I have with my friend
Loyalty in Friendship is rare!!....Instead of betraying your friend why dont you look for ways to break the relationship?
I know that what your friend is doing is bad but you for wanting to rat him out,you are worse...
Drink water and mind your business!!!
Why not advice the guy instead. Threaten him to tell the girl or you'll tell her.
ReplyDeleteSTella I am disappointed in you !!! It’s like u have been a side chick before ! Poster biko Rat him out don’t mind Stella
DeleteTomorrow this same stella will advice someone differntdif. This life eeehn
DeleteStella this your advice no follow. Biko rafting a friend out is justified in some situations. This is one of such situations. If it's a crime Stella, his friend is an accomplice if he knows and keeps quiet
DeleteNot disaapointed in stellas advice...na humanbeing she be after all...una no know
DeleteE no follow at all. Stella nooo...haba. Make an anonymous call poster. Tell her to investigate your friend. Leave hints but do so anonymously.
Deletei disagree with Stella. Its not your responsibility to break the relationship - tell your side chic of a friend and also tell the wife of this community penis - --- Let the two both of them decide if they want to continue sharing blokos
ReplyDeleteDrink water o n mind ur business.
ReplyDeleteMugu fall, guyman chop.
@Blackey
DeleteHave you wondered for once that you may be the "mugu
that the guyman may chop?" Evil is evil and this is one.
That his friend is evil and I won't call such a man
"a friend".
Yes o. That mugu may be your sister, your cousin, your daughter, your friend whom yu hv wished
Deletewell all your life. Let's be careful of what we wish others.
But d chopping dey sweet naa....😁
DeleteI came, u came, u saw me naked, I saw u naked, I chop money join...nobody losses actually coz I no lose any body parts.🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃
@Blackey
DeleteSo why you yarn throway dey run?
Naija girls no dey see am that way o...
"Stella, that beast chopped impregnated me and dumped me in the dumpster
shall I shoot of this baby and dump in the dumpster too...?" 😯😯😯
But nne eh, you lose o, your dignity, self worth, the years such
a fraudster will waste for you, your eternity...these things
are not quantifiable as "body parts"
Dignity n self worth depends on your mindset anyway, abi is it measured in d market? As for wasted years, years can only be wasted when you are blind in love, pound for pound, tit for tat...
DeleteBia, herodian, lemme o, I get navel ache.
Good that you have a conscience. Spill immediately. It is not a matter of being from "my state" or not. It is purely a conscience issue.
ReplyDeleteAnd if you are "friends" with this wicked man, you are probably like him
or at least you will be regarded as being so. Why not distance yourself
from this kind of dude who is married and "chopping" other ladies?
Consider this gullible, innocent lady to be your sister, how will you like
a man to teat her?
This is why I always tell my Naija girls not to open legs aghara aghara to any man no matter how he chants "love". See how this gullible lady is
about to fall into a gully 😯😯😯😯
Better to close legs any day .
Dear Stella i don't know how you judge things sometimes well you are only human and not supposed to know it all. how is trying to save a fellow from the pangs of heartbreak worse than someone who intentionally decides to hurt someone all in the name of catching fun? all i have to say is the approach the writer is not smart, devise another way to go about it.
ReplyDeleteposter mind your business, if the lady cannot do ultimate search and find out herself if the guy is single or not is not your business. The only time you have to talk is if she comes to you to ask, else just drink plenty of water on daily basis and mind your business. Kepp shut while drinking water, she will fins out somehow.
ReplyDeleteHe can’t drink this particular water, he will choke on it if he keeps quiet.
DeleteHow do you confidently mind your business when he is about to ruin another human beings life.
DeleteI see it as Evil to keep quiet over such when it is going great on right under your nose.
If everyone drinks water and mind their business,how do we then hold each other accountable of our actions?
LEP😛
LEP Na you write that....lol.. I have always read your on the other side comments 😂
DeleteThank you LEP.
DeleteYou guys are the same people that will be crying more than the bereaved here when a man cheat on a woman here.
DeleteI'm so ashamed of you all Pharisees on this blog.
One day you blow hot, the next day, you blow cold.
Choose a struggle
Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are.
ReplyDeleteNine move Stella, Snitches get stitches...
ReplyDeleteI will suggest that you should have a heart talk with your friend.talk to him
ReplyDeletePls look for a way to tell the side chick on anonymous mode
DeleteSometimes I do not really understand this whole drink water and mind your business thing! Somebody is married, yet dating another lady who thinks he is going to marry her. I do not care if you are my friend but there are some lines you cannot cross with me. I will always do the needful, no matter how hard it is. So poster you can anonymously tip her off. You can get any female to help you , so your friend does not suspect u.
ReplyDeleteSo many men/women are out there hurting innocent victims and we keep chanting drink water mind your business. Till it happens to u.
I million likes. I love your comment..👌👍
DeleteAbi ooo, till it happens to you.....
DeleteI agree!
DeletePoster pls tell your female friend today.
Ive been heart broken by someone I deeply loved.I dont pray it for my enemy.
Please tell her.Dont mind Stella
Thank you jare!!!!
DeletePoster please skip most if not ALL the previous comments before Bini and start reading from Bini's comment. Which one is drink water? you see someone entering ditch and you are chanting drink water?! Ezekiel 33:8-9 says "If I say to the wicked, ‘O wicked man, you will surely die,’ but you do not speak out to dissuade him from his way, then that wicked man will die in his iniquity, yet I will hold you accountable for his blood. 9But if you warn the wicked man to turn from his way, and he does not turn from it, he will die in his iniquity, but you will have saved your life."
DeleteWhen did we develop this lacklustre attitude and cant call a spade a spade or speak out about evil practices? Tufiakwa anyone that takes any advise wholeheartedly from people does so at his/ her own risk.
Poster do what you will want to be done to you should the roles be reversed.
Stella, I'm sorry but you are wrong. The poster should tell her friend ASAP! The male friend is a bad person!
ReplyDeleteGone are the days that people are their neighbour's keeper and have atom of dignity.. .
ReplyDeleteEverything is drink water and mind your business, tuehh!!
I tell you. Today you can't even caution a child that is not yours, the parents will pounce on you. Now it is everyone to their tents. And we wonder why society is this decadent.......
DeleteTill it happens to them and they find out all their friends were drinking water and minding their own business like they always advise others to do.
DeleteNothing like mind your business in this matter, poster pls get a sim or create a fake Facebook or Instagram account and send her all the necessary proofs for the lady to believe that your friend is truly married. If at the end of the day she decides to continue with oga eat and run then that's her cross to bear.at least by then you must have cleared your conscience.
ReplyDeleteTell the lady biko. What is bad is bad.
ReplyDeleteStella I had to comment because I disagree with you. Heartbreak is the most painful thing. You wake up and sleep in tears. You question your worth. You dwell on the memories, lies, betrayal. It can ruin you.
ReplyDeletePoster Tell your friend to stop.
Or tell the girl. He’s married he’s definitely not leaving his wife.
I seriously do not understand Stella at all sometimes. I opened the chronicle earlier but her response got me so sad that I couldn't type anything; especially it coming from a woman. I've been on this road before; dated a married man without knowing for two years. The day I found out, the pain I felt, I cannot wish it on my worse enemy. This things pain more than someone putting a knife through you.
DeleteDont mind stella on this please.
ReplyDeleteTip her anonymously.
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When his wife find out and when the side chic finds out.
Please save one at least so this side chic can move on.
Poster,please rat your friend out. Women should start being loyal to each other. Alert the lady with immediate effect and automatic alacrity.
ReplyDeleteI will speak up i dont care who you are even my own senior blood brother knows me! so i don't know what it is you're talking about, it's about integrity and speaking up when you see something wrong! He is married and lives in the family house bq and anytime his wife travels he will keep his son in the main house and go and bring sisi and trust me not to hesitate to speak up and drop his son for him he hates it when I'm around from school. Rubbish!
ReplyDeletePoster, please tell your friend that the guy is married.
ReplyDeleteI know it’s difficult but you have to.
He is married,he should focus on his family.
Now your friend is already in love with him...he’s not worth her love in the first place. That’s deceit and no one should suffer for that.
What if your friend gets pregnant for the guy and his wife gets to find out?
She can go all out to harm your friend, not knowing her husband deceived your friend.
If in the end, wifey decides to divorce her husband due to his infidelity, your friend would look like the bad one...someone who ruined another’s marriage.
She will also be tagged a baby mama.
Please tell your colleague to stay away from her, if he refuses to listen to you, tell your female friend what’s up.
Save her from ruining another’s home and getting her heart broken.
Imagine saying " you're spoiling show for me" at the detriment of someone's heart if you dont fear God don't you have a conscience?
ReplyDeleteTip the ladies VERY ANONYMOUSLY and move on.
ReplyDeleteStella on this issue i do not agree with your Red pen.
ReplyDeleteAs for whistle blower poster, don't stress yourself too much.just send the lady a text message with a number that cannot be traced to you.You can use a friends number after which you block her number from calling the said number.
Let the text message carry the information the girl needs to find out that your friend is married. also in it drop the Facebook name of your friends wife.
Tell her to go and confirm your story on facebook.Do this and I can confidently say that her curiosity will send her on an FBI search which will eventually open her eyes to know that he is married.
Don't cover up your friends sin, when his intention is to intentionally hurt a human being like you.
LEP😛
@Tohtoh chopper
DeleteWawu! Where you run go since eh?
I don dey miss you (especially ya attack tey tey)
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Please expose that cheat! Good you listen to your conscience. If losing that friendship is what it takes, then let him go. He's about to damage two women and you cannot afford to drink any kind of water now please.
ReplyDeleteSome friends are not worth keeping.
DeleteAh, Stella. My mouth is still hanging open at your red pen . For the first time your red pen is a disappointment.Chai poster save the clueless girl from destruction, your friend is evil, it could be your sister tomorrow
ReplyDeleteStella is not every issue one mind her business, how can you say she should not rat her friend out Stella. that lady believes she has found love, and even thinking marriage on her head and you are saying she should mind her business? That your reply broke my heart Stella, cos have been in that lady shoe before, only God saved me and i know how that shit feels
ReplyDeleteLady pls save your fellow woman from that heartless Animal call a man, don't mind stella
Stella this your advice is really terrible!! So you should be loyal till someone dies!! What if he chops the girl, moves on and she commits suicide how will the friend feel!! If his wife finds out and leaves the marriage with kids and all, how will the friend feel knowing he would have stopped all this? You can only be truly loyal to God!! Wrong is wrong nothing about loyalty here. This is your business already nothing like drink water and mind your business.
ReplyDeleteDrink and mind ur business yen yen yen, that quote alone has and is destroying so many lives
ReplyDeleteWhen u r supposed to speak up and people tells u to mind ur business... what nonsense 😡😡
Poster, if U can’t tell ur friend urself do it anonymously or get someone do it for you
Save a friend or u might be answering so many questions at the end of the day..I bet u don’t want ur conscience to judge you when u decides to mind ur business
Don’t mind Stella, she’s on her period and she talks off point sometimes
Yoh only bad to have such as a friend. This outrageous fella of yours is part of everything wrong with this world and if You gonna play a part in shaping the world. Start by minifying his excesses.
ReplyDeletestella we dont have to see that your red pen on every post. loyalty my royal arse. if it was your sister or relative you will be loyal. you think marriage is a small matter? some women have committed sucide cos of matters of the heart and you see someone using another woman and you say loyalty..i can imagine all the lies that guy dishes to the lady...abeg if na me i go talk...down load all and send to her anonymously with evidence. if she doesn't believe thereafter then we can blame her for her misfortunes
ReplyDeletePosted twice, but still can’t find my comment.
ReplyDeletePoster, if the unmarried lady is also a friend, I support you telling her. You don’t owe anyone blind loyalty
Poster, rat your friend out joor
ReplyDeleteStella, put yourself in the lady's shoes. How would you feel?
ReplyDeleteSomethings you say just don't follow abeg.
That was how you basically blamed yesterday's chronicle poster that it was because she snooped. You just exempted her husband from all blame. What If he brings back HIV?
You're a woman oo.
Send her an anonymous message, telling her that the man is married.
ReplyDeleteStella you can like give horrible advices sometimes...smh
ReplyDeleteTell him you will tell the lady if he doesn't call it quits, give him a deadline and if doesn't call it off, tell the girl abeg
ReplyDeleteDo u no the curse that will follow u and yours that u knew n Neva warned her,biko brother buy a new sim card send her a text with sufficient proof,so she doesn't think it's some naughty jealous girl that sent it.destroy the sim when you are done and let her make her findings herself,even drop the said wife number,let her call and find out.
ReplyDeleteEveryone making noise about Stella's comment, I am really surprised at you guys. Stella is a human being like us all and bound to make mistakes. Dear poster, technology has made it so easy to tackle issues like this. Just get a new sim card and call lady; get someone else to speak to her and give her the downlow.Destroy the sim card and watch how events pan out. You have a conscience and the conviction of the Holy Spirit. Also, change that friend he will only lead you to sin
ReplyDeleteStella dey mis-shoot sometimes but on this matter, it's not as simple as it sounds. It's really not in her place to warn the unsuspecting lady about her friend. It's on that lady to use her common sense and also carry out her own investigations before jumping into a relationship with a man. In this time we live in, it's foolish to swallow hook, line and sinker whatever a man tells you about himself. Instead, I would advise that you strongly warn your cheater friend to desist from his actions; threaten him if need be, use psychology on him, whatever. Because truth is the man is the one with the problem. How many women will she warn??? If it's not this lady, it will be another one. Counsel your friend to change his ways or cut off from him to avoid such uncomfortable situations.
ReplyDeleteGive her hints till she gets it
ReplyDeleteDon't drink water and mind your business oh. Tell but apply wisdom
ReplyDelete