I am sure that you know that Men and women suffer heart breaks.
The heart break may be between
Boy friend /girl Friend
Fiancé/Fiancée
Wife/husband
Sugar daddy
Sugar mummy
Office romance
Papa and Mama
Siblings break
What caused the break up and how did you move on along?
He cheated on me big time, more like he scammed me. It broke me, it was tough, a very hard one but after 5months I borrowed myself brain and moved on.
ReplyDeleteWay to go. Love will find you again soon
DeleteI went naked by 12mid night under a full moon with a python 🐍 in hand wen I cldnt take d darkness depression brought and cursed him, travelled to somewhere and left a piece of his item, cooked with my blood mixed with a dead python skin ( final lock up).
DeleteHe got more money and started treating me anyhow and talking anyhow
I told him from onset, you will grow but 4K with my soul , I take all back. He is struggling now and WILL still struggle! No man fucks with my gift; all of them dey suffer,and d more u mention my name In your trash talk d more difficult life becomes 4 you
Once I notice you start acting funny I backslide out of the relationship, I always have another "boyfriend in waiting" so it's easier to bounce.
DeleteMy worst heart break would have to be when my elder sister, who I practically can do anything for her and her kids...she would call me to come over and baby sit her children,and I'll leave all I'm doing even if I'm in another state to answer her call.
DeleteShe went around telling people, even her hubby that all I do,I do for the money her hubby gives me when I'm leaving.
To even think the money he gives me is just change for transport, I cried my eyes out.
Ive forgiven her tho "iwe nwanne adighi eru na opupu" but ive not forgotten how she made me feel.
My heart is breaking but I’m too scared to move on.I know I’m supposed to be moving on but it’s very difficult. I have been through too much with him and I have never loved any man like him so I keep going back and he also keeps coming back.what scared me was when he said if I leave him that I’ll always come back
DeleteI disrespected him, and he didn’t take it lightly. He just stopped picking my calls. Some men cannot handle disrespect, and my ex was one. Oh how I cried! I cried for months! Some nights I’d call him over 50 times non stop, whossai! I got over it after a while. I had to psych myself with the truth: He is Hausa, Muslim and there was no future, so better now than later. It took me a while to move on, because I was the reason it happened. That was my most intense relationship ever. Heartbreak isn’t easy to get over, nobody can really help you, you need to do it yourself!
DeleteHe never loved you ni.
Deletedisrespected my arse....he never loved you and wanted you gone so he could marry his hausa wife.....some of them especially the muslim ones will never marry an igbo girl so its not what you did...he wanted to break up with you and used that opportunity. take it to the bank
DeleteThe best way not to have heartbreak is to have a plan B. Men broke my heart till now i don't have one again. So I started dating this guy last year,things were going well. Every friday he takes me out,takes care of me well but for whatever reason wants me to get pregnant by all means. But as a smart girl i can't abeg. He even gives me ultimatum that I ain't taking the rltahp serious. Along the line he starts acting funny,hardly calls again,hardly visit. Now I'm the one calling and visiting. Thankfully I also had another guy on my case seriously even better than him. I no even send again. My so called bf hasn't called me in over a month. But I don't even care, i have moved on. I have known this new one since school days,he is everything. Intact I have seen my husband. I don't even think of the so called boyfriend again. In time he will know iv moved on. I don't need to say a word. That is my story. I don't keep just one man. But I know this is my last bus stop by hook or crook. Ready to do anything to keep this one.
ReplyDeleteDifferent people, different reaction, some get over it easily, some don't, some get lost, some die, no matter what happens, don't lose your sanity...before u fall in love, love yourself first, when it comes to loving someone, I'm d most selfish person ever, I can't love u more than myself, lai lai...d only person I can love like that is a child I birth.
ReplyDeleteSoft heart n being over emotional will cause u plenty chest pain.
Once I notice any form of withdrawal, I ghost, na u go even confuse...
yimu. naso.na una type dey love pass.
DeleteBlackBerry love is a crazy thing ooooooo
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DeleteI know its crazy but my selfishness won't let it cloud my common sense...
DeleteBB, I know that feeling,but you'd still feel a pang regardless.
DeleteI said more than blackberry but now my life is in a mess
DeleteBB love can be crazy you know. Don't conclude yet, some people (including I) said more than this.
DeleteNobody has broken my heart before,if we dating and I notice you doing anyhow and I smell loss of interest,i go shapely cause wahala breakup with you before you do.i can't come and be feeling like unwanted person.lai lai.
ReplyDeleteYou remind of someone I did nysc with. This babe was in total control of her life. She falls so easily for a guy, but the moment she notice you're tryna play her, she'll beat you at your own game....
DeleteSimple, na dem go even find u dey look for closure.
DeleteSurvived a very terrible heart break with an ex I was supposed to get married to, after he had come to do introduction. I was just 20 then and didn't know so much, cos I almost cried out my life, it was a very big blow to the family cos everyone was waiting for the wedding that never happened. I hated myself then.but I didnt know God was preparing me for a better person, I thank God I'm in a happy place now, and I thank God the marriage never was cos that terrible guy would have ruined my life and I would have regretted my whole life.
ReplyDeleteSurviving heart break isn't easy I must say as I have come to understand. I have always say to people here that, emotions are the most difficult battles one can fight in life. If not handle properly, can break one into pieces.
ReplyDeleteI once dated a lady years ago. The love was mutual and strong. She has her own trouble and temperament but one good thing is that she is very caring and romantic, motivating and inspiring. I love her despite her troublesomeness sometimes.
Each time there is a problem, I usually initiate the settlement and will apologize even though I am right. This she took advantage of as my weakness and would always wait for me to say "I am sorry". There was a little problem then and I expected her to feel remorseful of her deed but she didn't show interest. I decided not to reach out as I had always done. I decided to act like a man for once.
Deep down my heart I was just saying if only she could just flash me, I will quickly call her. Every minute I will check on my phone for her call or message but found none. Pride took the better part of us, as we both were looking for whom to call first.
Day turned to days and days to weeks and weeks to month. Then finally months became year. We both lost each other as a result of ego. Menh, I suffered the most in the break up. It wasn't easy losing her. In fact she was the best I ever dated despite her little flaws. I later found out from a friend she would have come back had it been I go to her. She moved on but I doubt if I actually did. I still feel those memories and they are still fresh as if it were yesterday. I believe she may be married now with kids. Such a beautiful woman with a nice smile.
You both werent meant to be, the worst believe you can harbour in your heart is saying "I'd have been with her today if only i called her & made peace".... as long as youre sure the breakup wasnt caused by you, it a good thing time defined things for you both.
DeleteMy ex tried to reach out to me but I got carried away by emotions and started blaming him for how I felt. It’s been months and I want to reach out to him but even if I do and we get back together how do I handle his parents who don’t approve of me which was one of the major reasons why I broke up.
DeleteHEARTBREAK? NEVER!
ReplyDeleteI never gave all my heart to any man. Married now, if he decides to go today, life continues...
Ladies, mind the way u love and give your all to these men. I have said my own
I doubt you've ever experienced true love. You dont hold anything back, its a free fall.. you cant help it. E be like jazz,
DeleteThanks u my dear
DeleteI'm very selfish. I selfishly married someone. If e last e last. If e pasa, e pasa abeg and life goes on... Worst thing that can ever happen to anyone is to get stabbed in the back by the person who claims to love you.
DeleteLadies let me tell you the truth, no man does anything with his heart, they're always calculating... He's with you because you're the one that favours him most. They only do things because it's convenient. And me I've learnt to put myself first
Heartbreak is horrible and i have been through abit in my lifetime.
ReplyDeleteSteps to help
1) out of mind is out of sight; remove he/ she from everything
2) change environment if possible
3) start a new hobbie mine was perfecting my cooking skills and gym
4) take a trip to another country 5 nights away possibly
5) protect your mental health avoid people that will trigger your emotions by asking insensitive questions as in flee from them till you are in a good place mentally.
6) read a good book it helps
7) invest in your development
Lastly live your life because your happiness depends on you not another human being.
Shalom
These tips looks nice and encouraging.
DeleteThanks Teejay they helped me
DeleteI also forgot to add my relationship with God also helped me. I spoke to Him to take the pain away and He did and I recovered.
I love this.... Thank you for sharing!
DeleteWhat caused the breakup? Long Distance/ Family Meddling.
ReplyDeleteHow I moved on? I go ghost and then mourn. I don't think my pride will let me keep in contact with the person let alone grovel and beg. I replay things in my mind..analyze everything.
I don't need answers.
I don't need closure.
I don't need to know why and I'm not going to ask.
He didn't want me or we weren't going to work and that's all I needed to know to move on.
I had just been diagnosed of a cardio illness that only needed weeks of medication,
DeleteHomie called off the relationship 30mins after I told him , wow I was so hurt but I mourned in peace , I didn't argue , I didnt try to work things out, later homie sends me a message saying i should know we arent competing apparently i was living my best life and travelling all over with my friends , I was so hurt but looking BACK GOD DID ME GOOD FOR NOT LETTING ME MARRY HIM.
I'd have ended up with a cheating and sexventurous spouse and being an unhappy wife .
We are so alike, 15:28. I did marry him but I let him stay GONE. I rather let him think I'm stunting on his bitch ass than let him know he hurt me.
DeleteThat's me mehn, I don't need closure, I once went from a being a girlfriend to being a stranger.
DeleteI will not even say hello, if I see you on the road. I ended it o, but you will remain dead to me.
🤣 One of the guys could not even understand, he was begging my friends to beg me to say just hello to him, I refused. The guy was in shock.
Thank you
DeleteSome ladies will remain friends and even be begging their exs for money. Some wil still be sleeping with them. Someone that broke your heart o.
@Perxie that's the way to go!!!
DeleteThe show must GO ON!!!
Its okay to hurt but never give anyone the gratification of letting them know they hurt you ,
I dont also believe in friendly Exes If we are done we are done !!
@Perxie that's the way to go!!!
DeleteThe show must GO ON!!!
Its okay to hurt but never give anyone the gratification of letting them know they hurt you ,
I dont also believe in friendly Exes If we are done we are done !!
He fooled me into marriage, made me believe he loved me and wanted a child so much, I got pregnant and this guy abandoned me and fled, forgot about us and anytime his friends forces him to call, he calls and sounds like a raving mad dog and will never forget to tell me how useless I am to him and how he wants his child and not me the mother, am even tired of yelling at him cos it yields no results, he acts too childish, I just need some peace of mind to birth this baby and move on with my life and buy myself some Solomon's tablet, I just need love and attention at this time, I feel like being cuddled, my heart aches, I am so lonely, this baby is my only companion, I talk to the baby like she's here already, sometimes it's as if I am losing my mind but talking to my baby in the womb keeps me happy and alive... my heart is not just broken, it is crushed... I don de fear men sef
ReplyDeleteIt is well. Just be strong for yourself and baby with time love will locate you. He will never abandon you.
DeleteJust know you are a project in God's hands
Be strong for ur baby, just know that DAT God did not create you alongside that man....neither is he supplying u air...one love.
DeleteIt is good to fear men ooo. You have seen how they can turn 180 degrees. Please don't go into another relationship until you are healed.
DeleteBe kind to yourself dear...Hope you have good financial support..And for the sake of your baby, try and play the fool but never leave your child for any man no matter what...All the best
DeleteWho are the mothers raising these kind of monsters? Married you, got you pregnant then disappeared! I believe you are better off without him. Baby girls are sweet and very sensitive with their mom's. That's your jewel. Dedicate your heart to her for now and have fun any opportunity you get be happy and live life.
DeleteSurviving heartbreaks is not usually easy,especially when you're more involved than the other party.
ReplyDeleteI have been a receiver and giver of heartbreak. I was always forming hardcore until ,one very terrible heartbreak hook me for neck. I forgot all my yeye shakara,cry like mad inside the house sha. To think I was writing my final year example. Haaaaaa!!! Ìyà ma je mi o,I almost failed,but God help me sha. I couldn't concentrate on my project,but I struggled. My healing process started by ignoring my phone or expecting he would call.I blocked him on every social media app. Above all time heals. After a while the manipulator contacted and begged we should atleast be friends. The day he used his gf pics as Do, I saw it and didn't really feel jealous much, I knew I've gotten over him and the heartbreak. Time really heals all wound.
Auto correct you're a "Baskad"
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DeleteSia helped me move on. She is always on the side of the heartbroken
ReplyDeleteHell yeah!
DeleteI remember I used to be very much afraid when my papa and mama used to quarrel. My heart
ReplyDeletewill be beating "gboom, gboom" and I will lose concentration at school. Especially
when papa will refuse mama's food. 😯😯. I just can't imagine
those whose parent parted ways. I dreaded it.
I have never suffered a heartbreak. Jesus revealed my DH to me six years before he came and
I waited. In this period I had a lot of suitors even from abroad. 😊. Same thing when I
traveled out. One of the suitors everybody thought I was going to marry was a very rich
and humble Christian (born again if you like). Even he was so confident I will say yes,
and so shocked when I told him he "wasn't the one". Let me leave the story here for now.
My advice to my friends to minimize the effect of a possible heartbreak are;
1. Find Christ and be prayerful. Fast/pray as a habit like Christ taught us
and not only when you want to find husband. he will tell you hidden things
that you know not of. You no go even enter the one wey go break ya heart in the
first place.
2. Be chaste; make you no open legs ayakata during a relationship. And do not receive
expensive gifts when you never say "yes" to a marriage proposal. Gifts buy your heart
and the giver can mess with it.
3. Do not hide secrets, it kills trust and joy in a relationship. say them earlier
and let him decide if he will stay or not.
4. Man shall not live by bread alone but by every word from God's mouth. do not forget
the Scriptures; the teachings of Christ because of man. Both of you should study it
together.
What else... ehhhhhmmmmmmmmm
Make you no get carried away by ATM or abroad man. So many monies no dey pure and impure
monies no fit build a happy home. Don't shoot off "for him" or for anybody. When Baba God
go judge you, im no go waka follow you go receive condemnation. "Stella, that beast dumped
me in spite of everything I did for him. I cooked, scrubbed floor, swept his street and
even aborted 3 times for him..."
Mbanu, it only adds to the pain of a heartbreak. Im no go marry womb wey don compromise.
I don yarn finish for now unu anugo?
😊😊😊😊😊😊
ANG my friend. I tire for u
DeleteA man kept giving me gifts hoping I'd say yes to him I quietly rejected them because I knew I would never marry him. He was shocked but years later he praised me as one of the most decent girls he had every met.
DeleteYour advise is very reasonable and commendable , same thing I'm advising people younger than me , some mistakes can be avoided through prayers .
DeleteThanks ANG, I picked up something very relevant to me from this your comment.
DeleteFor once,you made sense but this your preaching eh🙄
DeleteMake I run 🏃♀️
Heartbreaks are the worse the pain is something i cannot even put to words a relationship of 2 months resulted in a heartbreak that has lasted forever, I have prayed to make the pain go away i have even been tempted to call him to ask if we could try again, but if a man wants you he would be the one to reach out even if you pulled the plugged. I keep leaving with the hurt in hope that as time goes by I will only get stronger. loving hurts.
ReplyDeleteo...what do you mean by "if a man wants you he would be the one to reach out,even if you pulled the plug"?
Deleteso you broke up with him and expect him to reach out to you.one thing about relationships is once one partner start having that idea of break up,there is nothing that can be done for the relationship to be the same again.
my ex always gave me signs.she would say things like "baby,I think I'm wasting your time" the stupid me thought it was just a statement until she broke up with me.....I begged and begged and we got back.it wasn't up to a month she broke up with me again....I cried ooo but I told myself there wasn't any need to continue cus of she really wanted to be with me she wouldn't have come up with that idea.
The day my heart shattered was when i was dating one bobo like that, dude was so doing lovey lovey. He was very matured o, so i said no more fuckboys i will relax my mind here. One day after helicopter style, cd burst. Then ghen ghen. i rush go take postinor but didnt know that shit delays period.
ReplyDeleteThe most depressing moment i ever had.
I went to tell my knight in foil wrapped amour. Omg the guy deny me o...say what are u saying..u want to trap me eh. Wait o..i haven't TOLD YOU ABOUT MY GIRLFRIEND B4 ABI? i died...but i survived. Turned out or was false alarm and i remained celibate till my real lancelot with original armor came. ANG Abeg i said i remained celibate o. Leave me
Hahahaha. I love this your story. You made me laugh instead of pity. Thank God for you o
DeleteFunny you.
DeleteANG please leave her o
Who/ what is this ANG bvs always talk about?
DeleteNice writeup Aunty Amebo😊😍
DeleteLmao😂😂😂. BVs are something else. Aunty amebo you're so funny😁😁😁😂😂
DeleteIts more than one year and the pain is still very fresh, i think about him every single day! Seems an hour doesnt even go by without his thoughts crossing my mind, ive been on dates with others, but while on the date, im still thinking about him... very painful something, dont say "Get busy" cus im a very busy person, trust me, ive concluded its limerance, wonder wen i'd wake up in the morning and not have thoughts of what could have been between us, or memories we had, or what he could possibly be doing now...
ReplyDeleteVery soon it will fizzle out. I have been there before.
DeleteAnon 15:00, do you even love yourself abi you no get self worth? Nahwa!!! Thinking about who no send you, pls dear borrow sence give yourself to enable you dust yourself and stand straight up. If na me, I feel stupid when I see myself think of an ex more than necessary therefore I kuku think of their badsides for some days to enable me run. Abeg think of how sweet your future will be when you start loving yourself the more and eventually meet good friends that will value you for who you are. I nobi ANG oh pls.
DeleteMine? I left , got married, yet can't stop thinking about him. Sigh. It's been almost 4 years now..he is married too..we can't stop thinking about each other. I don't even understand the situation. He is the best I ever had..my husband is a very good man but I don't love him as much as I love my ex..I bet the feeling is mutual with my ex too. This life!
DeleteEnter your comment...do things that make you happy. go out and have some fun. read books, watch movies and if you can, ignore your phone. me I just bone and continue my life. I doubt if I have ever been in love before.
ReplyDeleteI have been saying it here , try remembering all the person's bad sides, it will help you heal faster. Again love yourself more and keep telling yourself that you deserve better
ReplyDeleteHeart break?I'm not that lucky when it comes to relationship. Every lady I date see my love and affection as weakness cod I love crazily and stupidly.... Dont let me go into details cos it will bring back so many horrible memories.
ReplyDeleteI hope you still go marry that our sister. We are waiting for the wedding
Delete@yoriyori hmmmmmmmm
DeleteBigbanty why do I feel you were the one asking about a rebound relationship this morning. I may be wrong o pardon me
DeleteWhat about your wife to be.
DeleteNa so we siddon here, you carry gist of your introduction come. Now which one you come dey talk so na?
DeleteWhile growing up my immediate younger sister was my most trusted and closet sibling , we think alike she is intelligent,is a very great cook! She broke my heart up till today I miss her and think about her but I can't go close to her because she has become a toxic and different person today! It all started when our father died she left the house and moved in with her so called boyfriend, she had 3 children with this man,2 girls and a boy yet was not legally married. No bride price payment no registry marriage. My sister became a bitter abusive person. Nobody was good enough for her. The so called husband is jobless he didn't attend any school can't speak English,no handwork, no business he lives off my sister but she is too blind to see all that. My sister is a procurement manager in a big hotel in Abuja! She pays the kids school fees and house rent even when she had her baby in the hospital we are the ones that pays hospital bills. She never acknowledge us again. Some people say she is under a spell from the so called husband but I don't think so. When our mother was sick in the hospital for kidney failure my mom was in the hospital for 3 years before she died I was so much under immense pressure while taking care of our mother in the hospital I am the 2nd born in the family, our first born is late ( story for another day) they practically abandon me and my mom in the hospital.I was sleeping on the floor in Garki hospital in Abuja with my son no doctor or nurse that didn't know us. Constant dialysis on our mother i was donating blood even on my period because we couldn't afford buy blood then. In the midst of all this I met my husband he became my rock always calling and coming to the hospital bringing what he could afford at that time. We could not do a big wedding because my mother was still in hospital we had to do registry wedding we dressed from the hospital with my mom and went to the amac registry with a few family members and friends my younger sister never came. After the wedding we went to an eatery to have lunch and went straight back to hospital. My mother died from complications from the kidney failure in June 2016 we buried her and my younger sister then came to the burial and brought 20k as her own contribution to the burial. I refused to collect it! I was so broken by her attitude towards her own mother! She never came to the hospital while her mother was admitted, she never brought a single Kobo for her mother hospital bills. When we call her she will not pick up her phone or she will pretend that she can't hear you! When our mother died in June 2016 my papers came out in September I left for Sweden in October! I tried calling her from here but she doesn't pick up my calls. So I leave her to God! She still remains my sister but I can't go close to her again. I pray she comes back to her normal self again 🙏
ReplyDeleteAmen. Sorry about your family ordeals. Thank God you are in a better place with a God given husband who saw your heart and decided to reward you with goodness.
DeleteIt is well. Still put her in your prayers so that God can change her.
Let your love for her never diminished
So sorry about this. God sees you are a good person indeed.
DeleteWow!! Sorry about your mum. What could have made your sister behaved this way? I pray she finds peace .
DeleteMy mom was almost in the same position as yours....the only thing she did was to keep showing love to her sister and when she realized what harm she has caused it was too late.
DeleteJust keep showing her so much love and affection.if she doesn't pick up your calls try sending a text once in while.
Sometimes you will think of so many terrible things she did but just keep on showing her that siblings affection.
She will come around and realized what she has done
Woow..dis is deep,you brought me to tears..It is well my dear,God will console you.keep praying for her too
DeleteThanks guys for your comments. She claims that our mother offended her. But what did our mother do to her that she can't
Deleteforget on her deathbed or forgive?. I just come to the conclusion that my younger sister is incapable of loving anyone she wants people to love her and do things for her but she is not capable of reciprocating! My heart bleeds for her but there is nothing I can do. I pray God touches her heart to change.
It is well. Keep praying for her.
DeleteMeanwhile it's nice to have a fellow in Sweden. I live in Stockholm, how about you?
Growing up all I heard of was how a guy can break your heart, but Nkiru I wish someone told me that a simbling can break yours so much that it would leave you numb. Its the absolute worst . Maybe I would have been more prepared.
DeleteBini you are so correct! It's the worst my dear. I love my sister with all my heart but she let me down. I am still numb from all her actions sometimes I wonder where all the hate is coming from. She fights at every slight opportunity, curses,abuses when you tell her the truth. My mother was so loyal to her,helped her in taking care of her kids,buys foodstuffs and clothes for her and her kids. When she was out of jobs our mother fed them most times they come to stay in our house for months.
DeleteWow
DeleteI am sorry. Do you think you can send her messages maybe once a month to tell her Yiu love her and she will always be your sister? I know you probably hate her but you never can tell what is going on with her. Just so you don’t blame yourself eventually.
And always pray for her.
Thank God for you.
DeleteUnknown@ 16:52 I don't live in Stockholm, I live in jönköping south of Sweden. Nice to know someone on this blog lives close to me
DeleteYour story made me cry..... and I pray for your sister, that the Lord should open her eyes and soften her heart,may God restore back the love you both share.
DeleteGod bless you always,you are a nice lady.
Wow, I am amazed at your story. Not easy to take care of a sick person. The 3 days my mum spent at the hospital due to kidney failure wasn't a funny experience. Even though, she eventually died. I can imagine what you went through for good 3 years. May God continue to bless you. I pray I find my own husband too who will be my rock and give me the great companionship I long for.
Deletenkiru your sister is being abused and in bondage. pray for her
DeleteSibling heartbreak is the worse especially when they conspire to bring you down but God said NO
ReplyDeleteAmen
DeleteThe enemies of a man are in his household
Surely they will gather , but since it is not in my ne it won't prosper
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DeleteSays our GOD
Jesus , please stop being selective and speak to all your children.
ReplyDeleteEvery single one so we won't be making needless mistakes and meeting demons in the guise of humans.
HE still speaks
DeleteAre you ready to listen and obey him?
I took solace in loud hip hop music. Danced myself out of the misery and my mum looked me one day and said if you know how beautiful you are you will never cry over a man. That day a scale fell off my eyes. I became a new version of me and I repackaged my self esteem. Boom. I turned to the heart breaker. I had suitors ehn and had to choose wisely. The clown came back still keeps in touch till date. Although I hardly respond. He was even at my wedding uninvited. Saw him seated somewhere when I was greeting guests. Myself and hubby had a good laugh that day. Well we broke up cause he had baby mama drama. Got someone else pregnant while in a relationship with me and also wanted me to get pregnant so he will marry me and keep the other baby. I disagreed and he played the break up card.
ReplyDeleteThank God for you! Some men are just terrible. #spotremover#
DeleteHe knew you will never agree to it that was why he asked you to get pregnant before marriage.
DeleteSome guys will never make heaven I swear.... Lol
U are lucky oo,I know of one that kept his baby mama in another city and was planning to marry my friend..Na so de babe show up with pregnancy and my friend ran for her life cos he never talked about getting anybody pregnant.
DeleteWhere should I start? Is it the one that calls himself your brother but is always going to scheme for your downfall or the one that you call your younger brother that is so bitter about life and blames you for all his misfortunes even when you warn them they won't listen? Why! Because your s woman and a slight to their male ego,being an only daughter has made me love people even in the mist of sibling heartbreak,i forgive easily learn my lessons and adjust as for the opposite sex I have learnt to love myself and give myself value as s woman so even if you drive a Ferrari if you don't measure up to the values I uphold o. Y. O is your surname.
ReplyDeleteGOD Girl
DeleteMy university boyfriend broke my heart. I found out he was cheating with a girl with big arse but she wasn't as pretty as me. It was a long distance relationship. I cried . I couldn't eat. I drank. I smoked. I hung out with the girls but no way, till I gave myself brain and said a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, that was how I moved on.
ReplyDeleteLater met someone else and got married. I thought he was my forever after but we separated after almost
7 years due to the fact that he listened to his family's advice to pursue me out from the house because we had slight issues. He said we were not compatible.
my mum died and probably 2 weeks to the burial Mr man ran. we were engaged at the time though but his reasons for leaving were not legit so I took it in good faith. but boy did I cry? my God! I had to analyze everything rationally and moved on unconsciously.
ReplyDeleteIn retrospect, I think it was my mum's death and burial issues that made it seem like I wanted to die because really it wasn't worth losing sleep over.
I hadn't done anything, at least nothing major to warrant that.
how I got over it though;
I accepted it,
I didn't tow the part of laying blames and regrets,
I told myself that it was pretty okay for someone to break up with me.
of cause I thanked God for it cause prior, I had always prayed for it not to see the light of day if it wasn't meant to be. while praying, I put in my 100 so it wouldn't seem to me like I purposely threw it away.
In conclusion, the breakup was the best thing that happened to me last year asides the blessings I got.
PS: the reasons for the break up are very laughable and it's embarrassing I even wanted to marry him. May God deliver every young lady and of course men looking for love and also, SHINE YOUR EYES.
My heartbreak is stiLl haunting me up until now buh I will get over it some day.
ReplyDeletei tried to avoid heartbreak, not knowing that although a painful experience, one can really learn and grow from it. The heartbreak I tried to avoid, came and dealt with me well. But it also softened my heart and made me more compassionate. It has almost been a year, I am no more in pain, but still miss him alot. It was hard because he was the only person I wanted to ever be with. I saw him as my future. But when he wanted me to decide between him and compromising my values, I chose God. Doing the right thing, is not always easy and it can be so tough and hard and the reward is not always instant. I am just praying and believing that the decision I made not to compromise my integrity for a relationship, leads to a full testimony. I pray Lord God, give me a testimony that will encourage others to also choose you.
ReplyDeleteGod gat you dear.
DeleteI broke my lovers hear. And I am heartbroken too.. I feel terrible but there is nothing I can do. She is the love of my life. Everything happened when I moved to Germany. Still hustling to get legal. I sear I wish I can just stretch my hand and pick her from naija , & we both get legal here.. the situation here is bit messy,. Everything didn’t go as planned. Not sure when I will be back sef. I told her to move on ..maybe I shouldn’t have tell her to move on , maybe I should have just played along till God knows when..nkechi, May you find love and happiness again..
ReplyDeleteI did years ago but couldn't bear it. I loved him so much but sometimes love may not be enough. It took me time to get over but I eventually did.
ReplyDeleteI did years ago but couldn't bear it. I loved him so much but sometimes love may not be enough. It took me time to get over but I eventually did.
ReplyDeleteHeart break is something I don't wish for any of my enemies. I don't have strength to drop down my story.
ReplyDeleteMy girlfriend of 5years, called me dead in the night to say she was done with the relationship.. Since I left for NYSC.. Coming back home regularly was difficult since I served in the north and she was in Lagos..
ReplyDeleteI died inside.. The whole world kept crashing on me.. Then MMM dealt another heavy blow to me.. OMG.. I lost all my savings.. No girlfriend, no money, no purpose to life.. I felt empty, lost and depression came creeping in.. Saved her number on my fone with "The Devil", so I don't end up calling her whenever the urge kept coming.. Didn't see her even after service and when I got working.. She begged to the point of her mum even asking me why I have decided to persecute her daughter.. Muah!! Hmmm Mtcheeew.. She dey find closure.. But after some years, I received Christ and reflected on his teachings, then reached out to see her 4yrs after.. Babe don fresh, tush join.. But, naaaah.. Didn't even feel the urge to have her back not even for 24hrs.. #She left.. Twas painful.. But, am in a better place now.. The roses are red and d sky is filled with Blessings..
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Iron heart. No heartbreak ever. I believe everything and everyone is expendable. My biggest problem is that things don't seem to bother me.
ReplyDeleteMine really dealt with me, I was in my first year in Uni.. It really affected my year one result and I lost so mụch weight then, it was really difficult because I soo much love him and he was my 1st love. One of my roommate noticed and told me the only way I can forget him is to have sex with another man... Daz was how my hunt for a man to use as a rebound started oo.. I met many men during that period but I couldn't still have random sex.. Dat was how I met this cute man in church one Easter Sunday.. He was staring at me I thought he will talk to me after service but he didn't.. I met him 2 days later and I had sex with him after one week.... Guess what... The same guy I wanted to use as rebound became my husband and the stupid idiot who cheated on me kept coming to beg to have me back.. When I look back I just thank God because that heart break was a blessing and my hubby is everything and more that I ever wished for in a man.
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