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TIPS TO ENDING A RELATIONSHIP
Guys I'm new here and I need advice.How do you break up with someone you've dated for a long time.I'm talking 4 years.
This relationship was throughout my years in uni and before I really thought this was it.I'm going to marry this person. Now I'm done with school awaiting graduation and thinking of the next phase of my life. I don't think I can do this anymore because I've grown and I've come to realize certain things. The thing is I haven't seen this guy in over six months.
He left as a result of a crisis back home and he hasn't returned since. So obviously the distance also helped me realize certain things. I don't know how I'm going to break it to him that I don't feel the same way anymore and I want to move on to the next chapter in my life.
Ps.we lived together in school, and we were everything to each other.
I want to call him and tell him but can't seem to find the courage.
I want to call him and tell him but can't seem to find the courage.
*There is no easy way to breaking someone's heart...Just do it..
Tell him you have herpes and he will run!..lol
Tell him you developed vaginismus..
Build up a quarell and insult his blokos...
That guy will not leave you even if you say all those things Stella wrote up there. Maybe you should just zippppp🤐🤐🤐 and move on
ReplyDeleteGirl just tell us u met someone else within the 6 months he travelled
DeleteIf you must break up with him,do that clearly and don't hurt him,even though he will be hurt.
DeleteHope he is alive,be sure he isn't engulfed in the crisis.
There is no better way to do it but do it with your church mind.
Poster so after he has finished writing test, exams, doing all the assignments in school for you, used his Pocket money to buy you phone and other accessories, now he has a little crisis which he is trying to sort out, you have started seeing vision abi? Poster fear God na.
DeleteAnd he saw you through school right or wrong?check kwa ofuma.i hope he is not from Benue,nope to be precise.my hands no dey ooo.
DeleteYou suddenly made up your mind to dump a man that has loved you for 4 years and in the middle of his crisis? Na waah. A woman only has one agenda.. her agenda. You lack the courage because there’s no justification for what you’re about to do. So you’ve grown and he hasn’t? Why can’t you grow together? Now fellow women including Stella are urging you lie, that’s deceitful. Tell him the real reason you’re leaving. I’m sure he’ll be grateful to you for saying the truth.
Deletei don talk am say love na scam it only exist between GOD and MAN and also a mother and child; my dear no pity party here date some1 on ur level if the guy has refuse to level up move on u are not a baby sitter. who no like better. suffer with a man @ d end of d day he will still cheat. those days are over
DeleteStellz na wa ooo😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeletenot fair ooo.
if reverse is the case now, alot of people will insult the man generation and future calling him time waster.
Asin her red pen got me laughing 😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteI need advice also please, the man I'm planing to settle down with likes woman, his phone is filled up with thousands of girls' pictures saved online. I cheecked his phone and he sex chat with these ladies freely, he's an event planner and has ladies around him always due to his job. He's a caring and sweat man. People had been advising me to stay put and find my way around this, since my previous relationships had been ending due to this cheating attitude of guys.
Delete#sad
My dear I'll advice you not to marry this Man to avoid stories that touch. He won't change after marriage.
Deleteinsult the blokos?? the precious blokos?? the almighty mood changer, anti depressant, stress reliefer?? Stella fear God naaa!!
ReplyDeleteTell him to give you 10million naira to start a business if he says no, drop him like its hot
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DeleteWhat makes you think he doesn’t even want you to end the relationship?
DeleteJust tell him. He will eventually move on. Do it now. Today today sef. So that he can start the cry, if at all he will, and start moving on.
Please it’s better to break up, don’t ghost anyone or tell a lie that may end up biting you in the ass.
ReplyDeleteBe a grown up and do the right thing. Put yourself in his shoes and consider how you’d like to treated. I’d assume that apart from he being your lover, he was also a friend and friends don’t up and just leave without a reason it would break anyone and make them feel inadequate.
Call him up and let him know straight up how you feel. It’s better you end things now than pretend you are good only to enter marriage to end it badly. You once loved or liked him, don’t let throw it al away.
It's amazing how love turn to hate.
ReplyDeleteHer love is also graduating, as shes graduating from Uni...
DeleteUnto the next level.
Her level don high all of a sudden.. 😂
DeleteYaba welcome .
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ReplyDelete"My neighbour's strategy" is back 😁😁😁
DeleteStella! Stella!! Stella!!!
ReplyDeleteAll your breakup tips are death sentences o haba!
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Jesus Stella😶😶you said what?insult his blokos you wicked ooo.
ReplyDeleteBut she didn't tell us if she has seen the blokos na
DeleteStella sef...hehehehe
ReplyDeleteStella your red pen got me laughing 😄😄😄😄😄🤣🤣🤣
DeletePoster there's no easy way to these, just tell him how you feel, there's no need pretending & wasting his & your time.
ReplyDeleteStella your red pen comment is so so funny. Lwkmd. Wow you are the real mvp.
ReplyDeleteLmao
DeleteDont mind Stella
Have a heart to heart talk with him, tell him how you feel and why you think it can't work between the both of you, you guys can break up on good grounds and still be friend.
ReplyDeleteAll these school boyfriend and girlfriend no dey last. Once people are done with school they go their separate ways except very few that make it to marriage or a life long partnership.
ReplyDeleteAs this story is, it seems like you are the one that has been dumped. Maybe guy man don move as sharp guy wey im be. My advice is for you to just face front and move on because what you’re reasoning now, he don reason am tee tee come japaa.
I say it again, you have been dumped so move on with your life.
I wonder why people cohabit in school ( thinking out loud 🤔)
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Ahhhh Stellaaaa you's a wicked somboreee 😀😀😀😀
ReplyDeleteLol at herpes and vaginismus.
ReplyDeleteThose are 'minor' things to anyone that loves you.
Haven't you seen a HiV - person married to a positive person?
Just communicate your current disposition towards the relationship to him
No one says you must marry whom you dated.
I just pray you didn't use him for your personal gains as we would have cried wolf if it had been a guy instead
Stella oo 🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteYou want to dump him in the middle of his crisis?
ReplyDeleteWhat happened to the love you had for him?
You met some bigger and better?
All of a sudden, you fell out of love for him?
Good luck ✌🏿
I have come to like you so much.
DeleteYou're one of the few sensible people here.
Keep it up dear.
Within that space of 6 months, someone else got your attention dear. Just say the truth. you cant stop loving someone that was everything to you just like that. anyways my advise is u see the guy first before u do anything. seeing him will help u to know if u still love him or not.
ReplyDeleteLove don fade be say love don fade, there might not be someone else at the moment.
DeleteHer love dun enter recession
DeleteSome women dey try ooo...living with a guy altru school as a couple!
ReplyDeletePoster u must marry him oo cos he has drained all the juice in you.I can't advise u on how to dump a man that hasn't offended you in anyway.
yep!!!
DeleteHer Chronicle should be that she doesn't know how to go about divorcing her husband
DeleteAssin ehn. Free wifey duties for 4 years. You try!
DeleteChai,this boy has sucked almost all the juice in your kpekus while you were still in school!
ReplyDeleteAll those years you wasted on him,you could have used it to establish your contacts so that you wont be stranded when you graduate.You were busy giving your kpekus to your fellow student to mount and ride for free!
'I love my guy',how far?
Your eyes don clear?
Do you still consider a guy who hasn't called or seen you in six months your boyfriend?
If you like,don't move on and think of establishing yourself,keep thinking on how to break up with a boy who might have have moved on!
Jealousy
DeleteLeave her alone
Take your hate somewhere else
Stella are you kidding me? Insult his blokos??
ReplyDeleteApparently hes been good to you, but circumstances are ripping you apart, it happens...
He deserves the undiluted truth, just rip off the bandage.
Chai................ That thing go painnnnnnnn
ReplyDeleteI wonder what changed.. you guys were practically married for 4 years not dating please.
ReplyDeleteI do not break up tho, I just walk away with no explanation. Good luck on whatever you decide to do
Lmao @build up a quarell and insult his blokos.
ReplyDeleteStella nawaa to your advice ooo...lolz.. Poster start giving him attitude by that he will be the one to end it....if you what i mean..dont call him, if he calls pick and respond like you are forced to.. Dont see him with time he will look the other way...Dont be blunt please..
ReplyDeleteShe has not seen the man for six months, are sure the man has not jilted himself.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure they talk na, if not it'd be much easier for her to move on.
DeleteLol..
DeleteJust break up with him already afterall you both have been chopping each other for 4years. Most relationships where couples cohabit in school don't last after graduation. It's just for having steady shagging and maintaining equilibrium, nothing more.
ReplyDeleteLadies and gentlemen who are still in school, read this chronicle, print it out and hang it on your wall so it can serve as a reminder that things change after school. Make your choices wisely.
Nice but funny advise 😂😂😂
DeleteSo after 4 years you want to discard your low budget atm machine,well good luck to you. But this time look for bigger one (Ned nwoko type)
ReplyDeleteJust tell him you’re done.
ReplyDeleteIt’s realky unfair to make him think it’s his fault
Don’t hurt his feelings. He sef May be done with you
Please call him up to meet in an open environment. Tell him you do not feel same way again and would like you guys to stay apart for a while and think things over. During this time, distant yourself from him, do not chat with him or talk to him for long on phone. after a month or so, tell him you might need you guys to end this rlship cos it seems not to be what you want anymore. wish him all the best and bounce. This was how I broke up my 7years relationship with my ex. Peace of mind is better than dying in silence all in the name of love wey no dey.
ReplyDeleteWhatever you do, please do not ghost him. No easy way out, you just have to put it out straight.
ReplyDeleteI’m tempted to ask you for more details surrounding your situation, as it seems a bit hasty to go from being “everything to each other”, to “I don’t think I can do this anymore”. But it doesn’t really matter because you’re not asking if you should stay or leave, but rather how to break it off.
ReplyDeleteThe way I see it you have two options. You either create/manufacture a problem like Stella suggested or you man up and tell him your reasons.
Just tell him the truth.
ReplyDeleteHaba Stella which one be insult his blokos and all that na,no need.
ReplyDeleteCome out plain & say you don't want him anymore because you no longer feel the love. There is no easy way about it,just say it.,tell him at this stage of your life you wanna experience being single again.
My dear you have been married to him for 4 years. So I say congratulations on your 4 years pre graduation marriage. Whether you leave him or stay with him all have consequences. Maybe the guy was the one playing you. He's been away for 6 months? Mmmmmh!
ReplyDeleteExactly my thoughts!! Maybe the guy is done with her and has moved on sef. She’s here thinking of how to break up with herself.
DeleteI believe that a guy that’s into you will keep the relationship warm and going even if he is far away or going through somethings but from her write up, their relationship lacks that basic warmth, that’s why she is trying to break up. I bet if that guy was still giving her attention she wouldn’t have written this chronicle.
Lols, Stella your advise shaiii.
ReplyDeletePoster you guys have really gone a long way, so try and discuss it with him, please don't tell him word's you will not like to be told if reverse is the case. just tell him the truth
I just broke up with my bf, he is good ,sweet ,has good money spends & all,lives in the abroad, always comes visiting every 6months & spends 2weeks with me in my base before going to be with his wife & kids for 2weeks & then go back to base. Dude was planning on getting me over to live with him in the abroad,saying he wants a child from me so he can be sure no man will snatch me from him. & we had a beautiful & sexy connection & all, But my pastor said something that touched me & I had to repent sharpaly,I told him I no longer want,had to lie i have a new bf,he was really hurt,even fumed & said he was going to deal with the new guy when he founds out who he is,but i know it's mere threat cos he is too soft a guy to do all that,but life goes on...
ReplyDeleteYour relationship was built on sand to begin with. Another woman’s husband is different from this particular situation..
Deletein your mind you really thought he was in love with you abi? you for just be spare tire for that abroad..thank God you gave yourself brain cos you would have moved to the abroad and regretted your life. he would have just been using you as a sex machine and ATM. have a child for him and no man will come near you while he is married and enjoying life with family. loneliness and fustartion for kee you there and you would have seen his real character..
DeleteAbeg make I read comments.
ReplyDeleteStella dis your advice no follow ooo see format 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteSweetheart, be sure you are breaking up with him for the right reasons and not because you've been apart for 6 months and he didn't give you the attention you expected. You stated that he left because of family crisis, though you didn't specify. Remember that the crisis can affect his reaction to you, so don't be too hard on him if he's acting weird. However if you are sure you've outgrown the relationship, the best move will be to have an HONEST heart to heart, face to face with him.
ReplyDeleteNo matter how painful it may be, it's better you end a relationship you're not feeling anymore than to remain in it out of pity or guilt, you will only be delaying the inevitable and wasting your and his time. After the crisis is over, give him a month or two to recoup, you shouldn't be in a hurry to end things unless there's a "new kid on the block", no? When the time is right, meet him at an eatery or some other semi-public place, for your own safety, you can never tell how he would react. Tell him the reason(s) why you're ending the relationship, remember honesty without compassion is brutality. Be honest but not brutal.
Please don't patronize him with that ubiquitous "we can still be friends" bs. That is not the time for such. If you guys are still going to be friends, it will happen. You don't have to speak it into the atmosphere. He will be hurting, hopefully, and that is not the time for banalities, be mature about it. Be firm but gentle, be mindful of the fact that you may find yourself in his position one day. Break up with him the way you want to be broken up with.
Darling, I sincerely hope his 6 months hiatus is not his own way of breaking up with you, though? 6 months is quite some time and the timing is quite convenient as well. That will be interestingly poetic. Here we are giving you tips to break up with a guy who has already moved on. That will make for a very good country song. I wish you the best in your future endeavors and I hope you have a very happy life ahead.
e-hugs and kisses.
*wasting his time and yours...
DeleteWOW!! I like the way you write, so poetic.
DeleteCheers...
I love you Ronalda and always look forward to reading your comments.
DeleteI love you Ronalda,I always look forward to reading your comments.
DeleteHope say you no wan offload school forkboy
ReplyDeletebecause you wan Nedrize/downgrade to big forkgods?
na only question I been ask o.
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But if you wan commot from fornication and come to Christ,
nne, welcome to the life of peace!
Stella, you well so?😀😀😂😄😅
ReplyDeleteNo time wey e go easy pray for God to make him leave himself or just begin to reduce communication. Graduate and go for service , he will get the message and move on.
ReplyDeleteLet me sip my zobo
ReplyDeleteStella you advise up there 🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteThis poster has so much pride why can't you come out plain and say the truth.. The guy man has dumped her but she's ashame to admit the truth
ReplyDeleteTell him just the way you told us.
ReplyDeleteMost school relationships die a natural death anyways. By that time real life has happened. I know many people who were co habiting in school that the relationship ended at the school gate. I dont think there's need for long talk. Just move on already
ReplyDeleteChai stella your advice really cracked me up. I don't even know what to advice.
ReplyDeleteI broke up with my boyfriend this morning.. I told him we should just break up already that I'm tired . Guy man just say I am stupid
ReplyDeleteLMAO 😂 very stupid indeed, after you done use am as ATM.
Delete😂😂😂 abeg you guys leave me alone.
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