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TO TERMINATE OR NOT
Stella I need Advice or help which ever one -i got pregnant for my BF for the second time and he ask me to Remove it again ,i am so scared because I am in my final year , I don’t know what to do ...
I don’t want to do it, but all he saying is that a baby is a lot of responsibility, tho he is working and not ending much , please should I listen to him , he is not helping issue emotionally.
He even call me about 2 days ago asking , how much will I be spending from now till I give birth, I say I don’t know , later he say I should just remove that the money will be much , I am confused help a sis-should I just listen to him and remove and then closed my leg or even break up the relationship .
*If he is forcing you to do what is not right,please break up with him and move on with the pregnancy,help will come somehow...DO NOT ABORT that baby,that may be all you might have in life......He is complaining about costs?A Condom costs less!!
But having sex isn't a huge responsibility?
ReplyDeletePlease do not terminate the pregnancy please .
I beg you .
A friend of mine had an abortion in her Yr2 she is 56 now , no child. I swear on my life is not a lie, she is full of regrets and d man is married with Full grown ups.
DeleteIf I was smart and kept my baby by now she wld have been 30! But am just getting married and just 2months gone after searching for yrs. I will not tell u to abort but listen to pple who r older than u. That guy doesn’t deserve good things, u do and children r wonderful beings. Trust me if something goes wrong with ur womb, he will marry someone that will give him kids while u end up like my friend
Remove baby and dump him.
DeleteMake sure you do it in a good hospital.
And never again in your life dream of having sex without a condom.
Take your secrets to the grave btw.
I don't know how you guys do this, even after the first mistake, you still go ahead to have unprotected sex, now he is looking for the easiest way out.
Deletemy dear, keep your baby, or ask your parents for a better advice, they are the ones who will eventually take care of the baby cus this your bobo sounds like the type that will japa the next minute.
There is a very prominent society lady in her 80s who also wanted to abort her pregnancy in the 60s. My aunt who was her good friend raised the alarm and reported her to her mum. Her boyfriend's family initially were not pleased as they were rich and had a big name and she was from a rather poor home. Unfortunately the boyfriend died and that child became the one who continued the legacy. My dear do not abort. Take it from someone who regretted doing such.
DeleteANG come and preach to this confused soul. She really needs your opinion urgently. Poster I pray you don't develop DIC and die on table or lost your womb in the process.
Delete@Anon 15:32. Being older doesn't make one automatically wise.
DeletePlease abort and move on with your life.
DeleteDear poster, even if we advice you not to terminate that pregnancy, you will still do it. Your mind has been made up already what do you want us to do? pls endeavour to close your legs for now and focus on your grammar.
DeletePoster,I think you are the reason I opened this blog today. Please this message might be late but please I am telling you from experience. Do not abort. Please do not abort.
DeleteThis might be your last opportunity at having a child, do not take chances, you are not a child anymore .
I am a health care worker and I can categorically tell you that you are even lucky to be among the few women that are still getting pregnant. If you know the rate at which people are looking for children or even looking to buy or steal.
The rate of infertility is going crazy and people as young as 26 are already having such issues, even young men too.
Let me tell you something, men naturally are always scared of pregnancy and responsibility. I know many married men that even asked their wives to abort their first pregnancy especially when they didn't TTC. See, once this child comes, he will become more responsible and he will even be happier than you. Trust me.
God will never allow the child to suffer, children opened doors, you will see how things will turn around for you, this is because you had the opportunity to abort but you stood your ground.
Please, you will have every course to be happy tomorrow.
Did you read about Nse, the molly wood actress that removed her womb because of endometriosis ? Imagine how she passed through the procedure knowing she won't be able to ever experience carrying her own child, the thought of had I known, maybe she would have had a child if she tried earlier.
If you have issues having a child tomorrow, you will never forgive yourself.
If that guy is responsible he will get married to you. If he doesn't, you will hold your head up knowing you did the right thing.
I will like to help you with some baby things and whatever it is I can provide for you. This will be the beginning of good things to come. Please let me know how to contact you. I will check back tomorrow.
The way I'm looking at this Poster she isn't mentally or emotionally strong to be a single mother and I don't see the father helping out either. Being a single mother isn't beans. Don't let ppl deceive you here. Its not even the finances which you dont even have,it's the emotional aspect.
DeleteHowever there are loads of people willing to adopt a new born and can give this baby a good life with two loving parents. Instead of all this buying of babies in baby factory how I wish this country had a legit organization that can take care of your health and medical needs till you put to bed and give your baby to a loving family.
Pls look into this. I think you should drop your email address in IHN one day or with Stella. Let people that want a baby and are legit and good people adopt the baby.
Lol..'once the child comes he'll become more responsible'?... really?
DeleteMost of the bitter angry young ladies that went down this road with the same 'a baby will change him' thought pattern, how did it work out for them?
See sister whatever it is we say here, the decision is still yours to make. If you want or if you no want na you know sha. Good luck anyways and after this receive sense abeg!
u have done it before, do it again and keep those legs close. my dear having a child outside wedlock no b play oo and abeg dn't do all those local abortion that will damage ur womb, a D&C is better
DeleteIs abortion minister the same as ANG? In any case come and wank!
ReplyDeleteSame whatsapp group... ANG is just more active and doesnt get tired
DeletePls do not abort.Risk your life?... Its not worth it pls.
ReplyDeleteWill you help me take care of the child financially and emotionally if she keeps the fetus? WILL YOU
DeleteDon't tell people to keep pregnancies they can't afford.
LEP😛
No mind them mother theresa dem, u go sponsor d pikin?
DeleteYou both know you aren’t ready for babies but you were doing the things that would result in having one.
ReplyDeleteKeep the baby if you don’t want to abort, at least do something for yourself for once. Stop letting a man decide for you what to do with your body. If you abort and have complications, you’d suffer it alone. Pregnancy and childbirth is still you that would go through it alone. Men would only support you when it benefits them (raw sex etc.) but just know that when and if you have the baby you’d be raising the child alone. Also don’t expect people to go out of their way for you because you did this without asking for help or permission.
Sex is sweet but the consequences is not always sweet. Stop sleeping with men who can’t afford to take care of you or a child.
Gbam! @ ur last paragraph.the thing is will they hear?
DeleteSex is really sweet but the consequence is bitter. Pls keep that baby like Stella said. It might be your last.
DeleteDon't I just like you already...*hands on jaw smiling lovingly at Doppelganger*...
DeleteSex is overrated biko.. Nothing special about it. Premarital sex destroys the soul and makes you empty and vulnerable.
DeleteShe should keep it? How will she fend for the child? Shey this one that her grammar is causing headaches!
ReplyDeletePlease oh if she keeps that child, what quality of life will she give that child abeg?
What if shes kicked out of home cos of the pregnancy and has to result to prostitution to fend for the kid? Would that be better? All because a condom costs less?
It has happened it has happened, way forward?
Please how should a final year student raise a kid alone with no help?
Its a hard and an unnecessary road to travel and nobody should guilt trip you into keeping it my dear.
If God in His infinite mercy doesn’t judge you then no man should cos at the end of the day its every man for himself
Better listen to your boyfriend and remove it. After that if u like dont close your legs na you kuku sabi
ANG, Food is served hot hot!!
ReplyDeleteThat werey go soon crawl out of him rock
DeleteAsin a this is what we call Sunday Rice and stew 🤣😂🤣🤣🤣
DeleteANG come na we dey wait you!!!
ANG and Bingo in tow 😂
DeleteGet rid of the pregnancy if you cant fend for it and the useless father is unwilling. Just do it and break off that futureless relationship. Do not complicate your life. Being a single mother is nothing like some make it to be. You will suffer ehn! Think about your future. And if you plan to marry, a bastard baby will be an hindrance.
ReplyDeleteYes, get rid of it and break off that relationship
DeletePS: Stop having unprotected sex henceforth you hear?
Bastard... I swear you are mad. Jeez
DeleteThis is a very dicey situation but please don't terminate the baby.The deed have already been done, just tell your bf you are keeping it...if he wants to be involved fine,but if he doesn't then you have to face it alone.
ReplyDeleteI'm not saying it will be smooth all through but somewhere down the line, you will look back and thank God that you kept the baby.All the best dear
Read the read pen very well.
ReplyDeleteIt shall be well with you and your baby.
You will graduate.
Amen, in Jesus name.
*red pen
DeleteANG aka Ajuju n'ese okwu, food is ready! Another potential shooter on the loose
ReplyDeleteTo poster, I am not going to waste time by condemning you or asking why you didn't practice safe sex. Ihe balaa a b'ago. I'm just going to tell you to not succumb to pressure from your bf to do the abortion since you don't want to. If you strongly feel you want to have the baby, please go ahead and do so because you don't know if a second termination would render your uterus useless. Your bf no go marry you be that ooo. Better use your head in this matter oh.
🤣😂🤣🤣😂🤣takes a megaphone 📢📣🔊🔉
DeleteANG ya presence is highly needed!!!
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Do not abort your baby. Give your life to Christ. Have your baby and forge on. What will be will be. If you're meant to marry a very rich man, it'll still happen even if you have a child. The most important thing is to discipline yourself, stay away from sin and have self confidence.
ReplyDeleteWill you help me take care of the child financially and emotionally if she keeps the fetus? WILL YOU
DeleteDon't tell people to keep pregnancies they can't afford.
LEP😛
So why do girls keep going for pregnancies "they can't afford?"
DeleteDo you go to a limousine shop and start test-driving what you
know you can't afford?
@LEP why not tell them not to have pre-marital sex since they can't afford
what follows fornication which is a child/children?
Please keep that baby. It may be your only biological child. This is the best advise anyone can give u. If I had this opportunity, I won't be in this mess now. Keep the baby please
ReplyDeleteBased on his question ‘how much will it cost’ I want to assume that his fear is the associated costvthat comes with being a responsible father. Are you working? The real parenting cost starts when the baby is about 2 years. In the first 6 months, you can breastfeed exclusively and skimp on diapers. The following 6 to 1 yr, introduce some solid food and also milk. 1 to 2 yrs, a lil milk and the baby eats what you eat. The real deal is from 2 yrs. Where do you both see yourselves in 2 yrs time? If there are are no prospects, abort the mission and have sex with sense!!!!
ReplyDeleteAre u guys allergic to condoms?
ReplyDeleteHaba!
What if he doesn't marry u? U become a scorned babymama fighting for attention...
Wherever rocks your boat mehn,
Condoms are very cheap.
Condoms are cheap but not very sweet...Anyways my new bf doesnt use it becos he has spiritual power to sence iff someone has a disease...His dick wont rise thats what he told me, so we are both safe
Delete16:38
DeleteHahaha Say what now?
How old are you? You sound so naive!
Anon 16:38 I applaud your foolishness it's tremendously appauling.
DeleteAnon I pity you.
DeleteAnon. You have succeeded in making me laugh today. It is one thing to sell lies to a foolish person, it is another to not only accept but to repeat it publicly. Please go and beg your village people and buy some Solomon capsules
DeleteHahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahhahha
DeleteThe guy has spiritual disease detector.
I hope he also has sperm release detector
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On a serious note..Are you guys saying there is no such spiritual power that can makes a dick to detect std by not having an erection? Im scared now because we have done it 3times, hes a prince so i believe him...
Delete@ Anon 18:49 you play too much. I know you are only pulling our legs. You are very funny!
DeleteHian! Sure, my dear there are powers in this world but that guy sold you a big lie, which unfortunately you bought.
DeletePlease stop toying with your life. If you must INSIST on condoms.
Again, how was he able to prove the veracity of his claims?
DeleteSounds like he likes to sample different women. Be careful. Be very careful.
Haba anony, please pray for sense to fall on you.
DeleteYour foolish is appalling. So he can detect STDs hope that power can also stop pregnancy, two foolish people
Deletesee me laughing and spreading my legs like a mad person.
Deletesee this mumu in 2019, may o, we are in may and you are still this foolish, haba, his penis is right inside someone as I am typing this.
Lord God please make my daughter have sense
No sis you must be 15 or 16 to actually believe something this stupid 😂😂😂😂😂😂 even a 12year old is smarter. Go and check yourself first oo then receive sense and buy condoms or leave that relationship because I'm sure there are other things he's being deceitful about.
DeleteLol... I can't believe you legit typed that.
In case you still don't get it, THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS HAVING SPIRITUAL POWERS THAT CAN DETECT STD's . Dude is playing you!!! Please receive sense oo
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DeleteWell, it's not entirely false that there's such.
DeleteIt exists.
However, how do you confirm he truly has it?
Even if he has it, the protection is only for him, you're open to receive everything that comes out of him.
Be wise!
Keep that pregnancy...
ReplyDeleteWhen he knew he wasn’t ready to father a child, why didn’t he use protection?
ReplyDeleteYou on the other hand, you could have used pills.
Now see where you have gotten yourself.
It’s not easy to raise a baby when you have no means of survival.
You are the one who will go through the abortion alone,bear the pains and all.
Have you thought about the consequences of having abortions?
What if it’s not done properly and there are complications?
Na your body go suffer am.
When it comes to women not being able to conceive when married,men are not loyal.
They will go to another woman to bear them children even when they know they made these women commit abortions for them.In the end, the woman suffers it alone.
Whatever you decide is fine. Next time, insist on protection.
If you can take care of the baby on your own,keep it.
ReplyDeleteIf you cannot bear the shame especially from your loved ones or take care of the baby on your own,please do the needful and dump that guy.
Face your studies and leave prick alone or protect yourself!
Wish I cld get your number..Pls dnt do it..I did that abortion stuff twice and the guilt u will feel is enough to make you commit suicide. Pls dnt, I beg you. I know it and be easy but I'm talking for experience. Pls
ReplyDeleteYou’re overthinking it
DeleteCalm down
Some foolish boys u people call them boyfriends....mtschewwww. really, condom us wayyyyyyy cheaper than all this, or even abstain.
ReplyDeleteUNPOPULAR OPINION HERE😤😤😤😤
ReplyDeletePOSTER KINDLY ABORT THE BABY
The era of having this baby with the hope that by some miracle he will have a change of mind or suddenly become responsible enough to Man up for you and your baby doesn't exist anymore.
Answer these questions truthful then you will know what to do
1)Can you take care of a baby without his financial support or that of your family?
2)If your family refuses to accept you and your unborn child back into your home, is he ready to house you
3)If answer to Question 2 is No, then do you have enough savings to rent at least one room to shelter yourself during this pregnancy and afterwards?
4)Do you have at least a plan on how to survive on your own without his support
5)Have you gone to the market to do window shopping to at least know how much it will cost to buy baby things that you might need.
Lastly are you emotionally ready to be a mother because been a mother is beyond been pregnant it's a HUGE life changing decision,ARE YOU READY TO BE A MOTHER?
when you can answer these questions truthfully to yourself then you will know what to do with your pregnancy
N.B: If all the answers to the questions I asked above is No, then pls kindly abort the pregnancy and spare yourself the horrors that awaits you if you have this child
LEP😛
You are very right especially the last part were you asked if she was emotionally ready to be a mom. Please poster abort if you can't say yes to one of the above. Don't bring a child in to this evil world to suffer biko
DeleteThere is nothing right up there, just like the eating of pussy is wrong.
DeleteDon't bring a child to suffer but she will abort and suffer; emotionally and physically/spiritually?
How about eternally?
Ask anyone who has ever had an abortion if they are enjoying?
DeleteI have seen very rich people become poor after marriage and kids, did they go ahead and kill their children? HELL NO. i have also seen very poor people become rich after marriage and kids.
DeleteYou cannot determine the future except you are God. Sometimes, we think it is by getting things ready forgetting that in a twinkle of an eye, everything can change. Dear poster, please disregard this comment up here. It is only God that can tell the future.
I hope that by the time you finish aborting and fulfilling all your criteria above and baby refuses to come, your riches will be enough to either buy life, another womb or a child.
What happens if she does from the procedure? Do you also have that one sorted in your list? She is having a double mind doing it, for people who are spiritual, it is never something good. That feeling must not be ignored.
Keep ur kid.
ReplyDeleteEven some men who are married act d way yr bf is doing.
The mistake has been made.
No need condemning you.
Keep ur kid.
Oh, he is not "ending[sic.]" much but he can fork much?
ReplyDeleteAnd you can spread legs so much like mat for him even after the
first execution of an innocent baby and you want to go for a second
execution journey?
Ngwanu, mount the barrels, load the guns, spread legs and ....
Boooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooom!
No be only the babies go die o. You fit join the babies as you shoot
and be in-front of Baba God with a cloak of shame that can only be
fit for a fiery burning hell.
And you know what, the brat prodding you still have chance to repent
but you won't and when he does, he will still be forgiven; for God is merciful.
So choose one; kill and die or live?
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Don't abort the baby. Keep the child and break up with him. He's a wicked man.
ReplyDeleteJust make up your mind to take care of the child alone. This guy doesn't seem like he'll marry you. If he comes for marriage after birthing your baby, then you may consider him if you so desire. Please keep your baby. You may never be able to have another when you're ready.
Keep the baby if you want to and can afford to take care of your child without his help or aid from anyone. Do not expect much from him because he has told you that you’re on your own. I fact do not expect much from anybody. In the words of daddy showkey “carry your load”.
ReplyDeleteBut I’m going to keep it real with you at the risk of attracting some bloody bashing. If you know you cannot handle the responsibility of having a child in your present condition and your pregnancy is less than three months, get an abortion. It’s easy to say abortion is a sin but when you start begging for 3k to buy baby food on Instagram same people will ask you why you had the child in the first place. They’ll forget they told you in the beginning that it’s God that gives children’s nd takes care of them.
Personally, I’ll say keep your child. But it’s your life, situation and body. May God be with you.
Please don't abort. Keep the baby.
ReplyDeleteGo to a good doctor and terminate the pregnancy then leave your boyfriend and find a husband
ReplyDeletePeople die in the hands of good doctors too. There is always a first time.
DeleteThat was how I pleaded with my neighbor as if my life depended on it.
ReplyDeleteShe told me she was traveling to the auntie's to forget being dumped
by her fiance.
She only escaped from my knocking at her door every morning to share
scriptures and encourage her to keep the babies.
The next news I heard was her death from DIC and I saw her corpse that evening
like she was sleeping, but not peacefully. She had this sad furrow on her forehead.
Still wore the hot pink lipstick she wore that morning that I told her "was beautiful".
Except that there was a blue tinge to it, the tinge of death. Death smelled all over
the morgue for she was no longer with the living. Gone like the wind.
And the Navy blue chiffon that hug her beautiful fair body. But she was not sleeping,
She was dead; stone dead.
She "traveled" to escape from me, but that was a journey to hell!
Who will wipe my tears? 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Another Naija girl want to join her
Prodded to the shooting range by a consciousness cold soul called a boyfriend;
Which friend tells you to kill, to shoot an innocent baby?
This one is not ajuju n' ese okwu for it is not time to that.
I am weeping. 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Eeyaa now I understand ANG totally,she is traumatized by her friend's death and that's why she can't stop speaking her truth. I applaud you Ang,keep talking keep being the voice of reason even when they don't want to hear it.
DeleteI always knew there was a story behind your epistles. It's well.
DeleteI had four abortions for my now husband. Married now with two kids but I think about those ones almost everyday. The guilt is still there. Have been atoning.
God showed me mercy, undeserving as I was.
Keep the baby if you want to and can afford to take care of your child without his help or aid from anyone. Do not expect much from him because he has told you that you’re on your own. I fact do not expect much from anybody. In the words of daddy showkey “carry your load”.
ReplyDeleteBut I’m going to keep it real with you at the risk of attracting some bloody bashing. If you know you cannot handle the responsibility of having a child in your present condition and your pregnancy is less than three months, get an abortion. It’s easy to say abortion is a sin but when you start begging for 3k to buy baby food on Instagram same people will ask you why you had the child in the first place. They’ll forget they told you in the beginning that it’s God that gives children’s and takes care of them. They’ll drag you as a baby mama/olosho. You get the drift?
Personally, I’ll say keep your child, work hard, pray hard and develop a tough skin. But it’s your life, situation, body and decision. May God be with you.
You are a capital fool. You had a previous abortion and still went ahead to have unprotected sex and you are crying wolf. Either you abort or have the child, there will be consequences you have to bear alone and you deserve every bit of it.
ReplyDeleteAnother Naija girl is fcuking now without contraceptive measures.
ReplyDeleteKeep the baby if you can go all the way alone if not hmmm....Child care is very expensive ooiio
ReplyDeleteAll these people telling you not to abort will not be there to bear the shame with you,they will not contribute to your upkeep and they will not give you money for hospital Bills,Pampers and baby food.
ReplyDeleteThink carefully o,if your parents can support you,keep your baby o.But if you cannot cope,my dear pray to God for forgiveness and do it.
You are very fertile,stop having unprotected sex and run from that fuck guy,you are simply his cum bucket and trust me on this,he will not marry you.
if only u utilized the time you used in gbenshing raw to study more, you would have known that is EARNING..u want someone to be an accomplice in your murder scheme..u dn carry belle shakara dn end o
ReplyDeleteStella, why you come post the chronicle na, if you're only going to post one kind of advice
ReplyDeleteMadam...abort or not, just know say that your so called boyfriend no go carry you go alter. So, any decision you make is up to you and you only. Peace out!
ReplyDeleteThe first time you aborted for him should have been the end of the relationship. I will advise you to go ahead with the abortion and break up with him. Close your legs till you find the right one. This guy is not for you and will only bring you pain and misery. He seems like a stingy, self centered, mean and someone who will always be poor with his wickedness.
ReplyDeleteKeep the child, he will surely come back.
ReplyDeleteMost hypocrites here will tell you not to evacuate it. The best decision you will make in your life is to terminate that pregnancy NOW! Do it NOW! If you were my daughter, I'd lead you to a doctor right now to do the needful. Most Nigerians are hypocrites. They dish out advise they wouldn't take. Most of the girls that will tell you not to do it have done it. If the same scenario presents itself, they will still do it. Don't destroy your future. Evacuate that pregnancy immediately. You guys are funny. If you have the liver of committing the "sin" of fucking, why not summon the same liver to terminate something you know too well will mortgage your future? This pregnancy might ruin you. They will tell you not to listen to me. I just told you what I'd do if you were my daughter. DELETE that pregnancy. If the asshole that got you pregnant isn't financially buoyant, sell whatever you have to raise money. You sound like a nice kid. Stella, I want to sponsor the evacuation. I want to save this kid.
ReplyDeleteGood advise I hope she listens to this...
DeleteAborting might seem like the ideal thing to you right now because you'll be the one to raise that child alone since he already made up his mind. If your school is private like mine you certainly won't be allowed to stay with the pregnancy if you're not legally married even if you're writing your last paper. The decision to keep the baby or do otherwise is still entirely up to you because you'll be the only one to bear the pains and most likely foot the bills. So think about it besides it's your body, it's your mental and psychological health as well, it's your future too so the decision is entirely up to you! Sex is sweet but condoms isn't up to 1k but diapers and baby food cost a lot more.
ReplyDeleteThink about it but after this one, whatever you decide please have sense afterwards and close your legs!
I aborted twice for my then boyfriend now husband. I didn't get pregnant till after 6 months and I miscarried it with 5 weeks of gestation. Imagine the guilt of previous abortions. Thank God for His mercies on me now.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, if your can please keep that child. You'll look back and smile later
Your sin has find you out,deal with it.when the thing they sweet you,did you call us?pay day has come,enjoy your cheque
ReplyDeletePls keep the baby for it will surely end in praise.
ReplyDeleteThis same people telling you to keep the pregnancy are the obes confessing that they had also have abortions in the past. All i can say is you know the type of home you are from. Are you capable of raising a child on your own. Will your parent be willing and capable of helping you out? Are you certain a baby is what you need at this point in your life. My dear I beg you to weigh the pros and cons before making a decision, whether you keep the baby or not, people will always talk. A mistake (pregnancy) has been made twice,my dear you need to check yourself well and take the Solomon capsule. Say no to premarital sex and if you must please wait till you can afford to face the consequence consequences of your actions
ReplyDeleteUnpopular Opinion - For every story of people that have done abortions and died, there are also people who do abortions and life goes on. If your pregnancy is still early and you can find a good hospital, not all these shady ones, it is an option. Like here in Abuja, legal abortions can be done in some good NGO.owned hospitals.
ReplyDeleteChildren change your life for good. They are not toys. you cannot return them, if they come and you are not prepared. Birthing and caring for a child is an expensive venture.
Nigeria is hard - the "have the baby and God will provide" narrative is no longer an option. All these people shouting keep the baby, will they contribute to your child's upkeep if things get hard? If you decide to keep your baby, you need to be proactive about your plans to take care of the baby.
The issue with abortion is that the guilt never goes away, are you ready to handle it?
But did she not know about all this before spreading her legs again? Did she not know Nigeria is a tough country??? She’s done this before. I understand the first time but common now, if she’s old enough to fuck, then she’s old enough to take care of this pikin. Also her God forsaken BF is mounting pressure on her! She really does not want to abort the baby! So why not follow your heart poster. If you abort again based on this same BF, you’ll begin to hate him. Mark my words. Let go of this dude, co parent if he’s ready and focus on you and the baby.
DeleteFor the fact that you’re going back and forth on whether you shd keep the baby or not shows you want to keep the baby. Do NOT abort that baby. I repeat, do NOT abort that baby. You’re going to carry that baby full term. Tell your yeye BF your final decision. If it’ll lead to final break up then so be it. Hell you shd break off the relationship and co parent if he’s ready to Goddamn man up! He does NOT LOVE YOU. Selfish ass idiotic man. Keep your baby!!!
ReplyDeleteAnd by the way, stop fucking! Just stop completely and focus on your self and the baby!
ReplyDeleteThe only way she will stop fucking is to constantly see the results of the last. Let her keep the pregnancy. She will be happy about the choice she made. If you are having double mind, maybe it is God telling you that this is your last chance at being a mother. Can you live with the guilt if you never grow to carry your own child.
DeleteThere are many people TTC and until you get there, you will never know how meaningless this world would seem and everytime you see other kids, you remember your own that you murdered.
Most people TTC are going through it with grace cos they know they didn't kill the one they had. Some people are meant to have just one seed, some are meant for two, you don't know which one you are. That guy will even be more happier than you when he sees the child cos I am sure that even him is having a double mind, he just wants you to concur. You both are educated and will be able to take care of the child.
There are ovulation apps you can download and use to knoen hen it's safe to use protection or not.
ReplyDeleteAs a student pregnant with a baby, it will be hard except if your parents are rich
Anyone knows a family willing to adopt???
Poster,think critically about what bvs said and decide on the best decision. I have never done abortion in my life and I never had sex till I got married despite the face that I got married very late and God blessed me with children very fast. What I mean is that,during my single days,i made sure I had no sex because of STI,pregnancies,abortion.Even if ivomitted then when I'll,I am very rest assured it wasn't pregnancy then......because at the end of it all,the woman suffers most. You might abort now and have children or start praying for the fruit of womb because of guilty conscience. You might have the baby and not have anyone to marry you because of the stigma attached to baby mama's or lucky you might still get married.
ReplyDeleteLadies,pls,be wise. Think critically before having unprotected sex.These men aren't loyal .At the end,the woman suffers most.Someone now is having unprotected sex forgetting the long term consequences because of 3secs of enjoyment...ANG,keep up the good work. He who has ears,let him hear!
Poster,think critically about what bvs said and decide on the best decision. I have never done abortion in my life and I never had sex till I got married despite the face that I got married very late and God blessed me with children very fast. What I mean is that,during my single days,i made sure I had no sex because of STI,pregnancies,abortion.Even if ivomitted then when I'll,I am very rest assured it wasn't pregnancy then......because at the end of it all,the woman suffers most. You might abort now and have children or start praying for the fruit of womb because of guilty conscience. You might have the baby and not have anyone to marry you because of the stigma attached to baby mama's or lucky you might still get married.
ReplyDeleteLadies,pls,be wise. Think critically before having unprotected sex.These men aren't loyal .At the end,the woman suffers most.Someone now is having unprotected sex forgetting the long term consequences because of 3secs of enjoyment...ANG,keep up the good work. He who has ears,let him hear!
Please keep your baby and dump the man.
ReplyDeleteYour child will be fine
Please don't abort te baby. I never aborted but married as a virgin in my 30s. I turned 50 this year without a child. If you sincerely can't afford to keep and take care of the baby, please give me the baby, I will appreciate it. I don't want to buy a baby but can take care of you before and a little after if you hand over the baby to me legally(adoption)
ReplyDeleteHello poster, are you reading this. No child is a mistake. Even before we are formed in our mothers womb, Our destiny has been forged by God himself.
DeleteThe life of this child is in your hands now, pull that trigger if you want but if you decide to give the sentence to LIVE, the first day you will behold this child will be a trying point in your life. When you see that smile, it will revive everything dead in you. You will remember today and be happy you listened to majority.
Hello poster, are you reading this. No child is a mistake. Even before we are formed in our mothers womb, Our destiny has been forged by God himself.
DeleteThe life of this child is in your hands now, pull that trigger if you want but if you decide to give the sentence to LIVE, the first day you will behold this child will be a trying point in your life. When you see that smile, it will revive everything dead in you. You will remember today and be happy you listened to majority.
Pls keep the baby
ReplyDeleteWell.. Pls before carrying out abortion this days.. People for to check their rhesus status... Pls dear ladies check that out too.. This is the reason why some women cannot birth children.. Poster Pls I don't know what to say to you... But follow your heart and intuition..
ReplyDeleteI already made a comment but right now I won'the even mince words. See this will be really hard right now but in all sincererity having a child right now as an unemployed undergraduate is going to be hard as your dear boyfriend isn't earning much. If it's not too late abort it. Being a baby mama is not as sweet as you think, being a baby mama without any emotional financial or any form of support is worse and can literally drive you insane. Abort it but please with your whole mind body soul and spirit, sincerely sincerely beg God for His forgiveness and mercy and the grace to move on from the situation and please have sense enough and close your legs or use a condom. Think fast!
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