STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSED
He's a father of two daughters,10 and 1yr respectively.
They were living together but never paid the bride price and now they've said their final goodbyes. He confides in me that shes a wife to him cus they practically grew up together but then in the course of their relationship,too many stuffs happened that has made the Father of the babe stamp his feet on the ground that his daughter won't get married to him so they finally agreed to go their separate ways.
He wants me but how am i sure he wouldn't go back to her someday? I'm confused bvs.please advice me cus he seems nice.
*Hmmmm this is a risk you would have to take before you know the answer...They have kids together so the contact will always be there...It is even possible that she might get pregnant for hi again....na wah!!!
One thing I know is true love never dies,
ReplyDeleteThe bond would always be there, I think you should give him some time to heal so as to be sure you're not a REBOUND CHIC.
I don't agree with you that love never dies.
DeleteIt does. At least I know im no longer in love with any of my exes. Not by a whiff.
Another Annie story loading....?
DeleteYou never loved them... thats not true love.
DeleteAnnie and Petrol
ReplyDeleteNa so e dey take start o
Bitterness continua! 🐤🐤🐤
Petrol ko, diesel ni
Delete🤣😂🤣🤣 please o don't flame the petrol
Petrol ko, diesel ni
DeleteLol
DeleteẸyin ayé, You should know this is an error. The person meant to write Pèrò.
DeleteIf you marry him and she no see husband marry,I just dey pity you in advance .
ReplyDeleteGo read Annie and Pero post
You see ya black and white hypocrisy?
DeleteThat one you dey always throw on our face as ogo
How many baby mamas im get?
Ajuju esebego okwu?
Onye isi ndi Herodians.😊😊😯😯
Both will still get back to each other...
ReplyDeleteHmmmm!!!
Please shine your eyes well well
"Nice man" and he lived with a woman for more than a decade without
ReplyDeletepaying bride price?
Tell us that he has a lot of money in your own eyes.
If you accept him on your own risk, I will advise you to play games with him. If he has money just date him and collect plenty of money from him, never you agree to have anything serious with him till the woman is married. They will always connect with each other no matter what it is.
ReplyDeleteIs it not enough that his going through the pain of letting the love of his life go?why advice her to still scam him?
DeleteThis is one reason I sometimes don't read chronicles cause you guys dish wicked advice.
Most everything be about money?
Please be humanly sometimes
Why money is everything to you greedy kids? I will see where this mindset will end most of you.
DeleteYou end up in sacrificial pot.
Too bleeseb to cure the kind of advice they dish out here eh. As a man I can marry any woman that is a core fan of this blog.
DeleteCan't*
DeleteNow I know why our men bash girls all the time, they can marry an aligator because of money, they will never think of making their own money,I pity men wey go marry some of these girls that comment here .
DeleteBut you the men that comment here are saints okwiya? Abeg make una shift jare. Feeling like what sef? Mtcheeww
DeleteThey always seen nice.
ReplyDeleteOne year pikin....
And ure chooking head.
Like I said before get in touch with her and know the true situation of things between them before you move further.
ReplyDeleteI hope he is not lying about their break up? Be really sure he isn't still in a relationship with her.
ReplyDeleteWe are talking of Ann n pero,n u haff come at ur own
ReplyDeleteYou better face front my dear because sincerely, they are not done with each other, that's if they are even separated in the first place.
ReplyDeleteSeems he still loves but can't be with her legally.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, most men may not be disciplined enough to sexually stay away from the one they love.
Don't become an 'Annie' that will keep fretting each time he goes to see his children.
Unless you know she's a 'Sumbo' or about to become one.
Lol.. 2face has really suffered..
DeletePoster, don't be an Annie
You go fear illustration now.. 😀😁😁😁😁
DeleteTwins squared kukuma kill me with laughter here
Tuface atago shit!!!
10 year old was a mistake.maybe abortions in between.
ReplyDeleteThen after how many years had another one year old.also a mistake i believe.
This is a case of those relationships that they want to be together but can not be together.
My dear they will still come back and have baby number 3after years.so my dear plsssssssss move on.
These kind of relationship;they never truly move on.the guy wants u as a distraction trying to forget her but bitter truth is that he will never forget her.
I have seen 3 good situations like this.they keep birthing and never get married.
The last i know;the man is in his 70's;his mistress has four kids for him.just like your story.he married his wife when mistress had baby no 2 and her family said never.
Guess what even after marriage and wifey had given him 3 kids mistress still birth more two.
Right now wifey has accepted the fact that the man's heart will always be with the mistress.she has faced her life.they just do good morning and good afternoon the days husy choose to be home.no love between him and wifey.he can choose not to come home for months and wifey will not bother cos she knows he is with mistress.
Wifey always said she did all she could and now she regret marrying him.
His kids from wifey don't call him.
He does not send as long as he is with mistress.
Then when wifey will call family meeting husy will say he loves wifey like a sister but his heart lies with the mistress.that he thought he could move on and love another but his true love is the mistress.
Key point to note : “Right now wifey has accepted the fact that the man's heart will always be with the mistress.” Is poster ready to accept? Whether we admit it or not, there are many of such marriages in Nigeria. Some wives give the go ahead and tell their husbands as far as he doesn’t marry the mistress, they are ok with that. Messed up situation if you ask me.
DeleteThis is the pure truth here, he will always go back to her, better run away from him like a PLAGUE, both of them will destroy you.
DeleteHow are you even sure the father of the girl stamped his feet on the floor?you heard from your guy okwaya? You have to be sure he didn't tell you so he will have free access to stamp his dick on your ponyor at will....truth is it is difficult for a father to allow his daughter who bore 2 kids to leave her husbands house if the man isn't at fault.(2) most father's act like that if the father of the kids isn't ready to marry there daughter ie if he isn't the serious type and wasting their daughters time.(3) most parents do it to know how serious the father of the kids are,if the father of the kids need to be in the kids and their mothers life he won't hesitate to com finalize the marriage plan.
ReplyDeleteWhat if hes lying?
ReplyDeleteYou better give that man space to heal. They were together for a long time, kids are involved and from what I read 👆 there, the breakup is still very fresh. He might just be using you for a rebound. Be wise.
ReplyDeleteA Nigerian woman had 2 kids for a man but did not marry him even though he was interested.....My dear look before you leap!
ReplyDeleteFor her father to insist despite the 2 kids, you can be rest assured that there is more to this story than your man is letting on.
Speak with the baby mama to hear her own side. Her revelations may shock you or form the basis of your ultimate decision.
What did he do that father stamped feet. Madam that guy beats women
ReplyDeleteYou people like baggage sha! Is he the only man on earth? Please leave him and look for a baggage free man
ReplyDeleteI tire o.
DeleteSo stressful.
My dear i can't. I just can't. Life is already too hard to add baby mama baggage to it.
DeleteLet me be the devil's advocate here.
ReplyDeleteTry and find out the type of person he is from his baby mama. Love is clouding your judgement now, before you take such serious life changing decisions, get as much information as you can wether it's palatable or not. Then weigh your options and decide. Have it at the back of your hands that they will never stop fucking each other.
Ask Pero and Annie how far. Orrrr go through the comments on that post then answer yoself
ReplyDeleteSimilar story with me people!but mine just happened to be a white lady
ReplyDeleteDarling, put such a high price tag on yourself that you will NEVER settle for sloppy seconds. You do realise that the only reason he wants you is because he can't have her, right? A male colleague has been married for 10 years but he has "faithfully" kept his mistress for 15 years, do the maths, he has been with his mistress longer than he has his wife. Apparently, the mistress is the love of his life but they have incompatible genotypes. They swore they would never let each other go and so far, they have kept their promise.
ReplyDeleteWhen he met his wife, he told her about the love of his life and the reason they can't get married. He also told her that she would ALWAYS come first. For reasons best known to wifey, she agreed to be the sloppy second and agreed to have his kids. Perhaps, like some ladies, unfortunately, she thought she would love him up so good that he would forget about the other lady. Alas! It's been 10 years and 3 kids later but the mistress still has his heart. He is seriously loaded and spares no expense for wifey and the kids but the mistress has his heart and wifey is miserable. He even spends more time with his mistress than his wife. While he sends his wife and the kids overseas for vacation, he and his mistress travel the world on luxurious trips, wifey knows but can't say a word. Moral of this true life story? Don't be with a man whose heart beats for another or you will be miserable all your life. He may be having sex with you while making love to her in his head, why on earth would you want that?
Honey, do you think he would even respect you knowing that you willingly accepted his baggage which includes the mother of his kids? Being with a father of 2, the last being a year old is not a position you should aspire to. If the 1st child is 10 and the 2nd is 1, can't you see that the mother of the children isn't one he would easily get over? She will always be in his life as well as his heart and one of the dangers of being a sloppy second is, you will be dumped unceremoniously when the two lovers decide to be together. Darling, I hate to sound morbid but the truth is, the father of the lady will pass on one day, no? The only factor preventing these love birds from being together would have been eliminated, so what then happens to you, my love?
Please, sweetie, let him go. His second child is only a year old. He is still in that lady's life. Don't be the rebound girl. Put some "respeck" on your womanhood and only be with the man who sees you as the only choice and not an option.
e-hugs and kisses.
At Ronalda I always like reading you comment cos you write so well and reasonably.
DeleteI don't know why you hardly contribute on legal issues/advice this days.
Chinwe Uba
Preach sis! Some women do not love or value themselves.
DeleteIf we were to be teachers you and I, you would be a better teacher. I just made a comment I believe is the same with yours in a few words and you explained yours in the way Hausa people will refer to as ‘dalla dalla’. Anyway a word is enough for the wise.
DeleteThank you Ronnie🖤 You're always spot on!!!
DeleteYou have said it all
DeleteKING XOXO MYSTERY
Ronalda have spoken... .Poster take this. By the way Ronalda where have you been ?
DeleteWhy do you want to voluntarily enter into a love triangle?? Stay far far away from this man. I NEVER believe anything a man says until I see for myself very concrete evidence. Some know how to spin stories. Plus you may be too young to cope with the kids. Ask Annie how far.
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ReplyDeletePoster, don't even try it. That man is not for you, he will continue to love and be in love with his "wife".
ReplyDeleteYou're going to place yourself in a the Tuface-Annie-Pèrò kind of love triangle and it will surely backfire at you.
Go out there and get your own man, cut him off romantically.
And do not believe everything he says to you, for men lie too much nowadays just to get a woman laid.
Great! All the comments from blog visitors are apt!
ReplyDeleteHypocrites 😏 and they will want a Man to marry them as single mothers..They can’t tolerate another woman’s child but can bring daughter for their man to nurture..
ReplyDeleteDoes it mean all single mothers sleep with their Exes?
Why did d father of dt lady refused him? Know the truth before committing yourself and also any relationship dt has a child/children involved can never go away.know this and if you can still stick with him
ReplyDeleteLol! Her father said, so what? Is her father God that can't die? Better find your square root, oh! That's how my husband and I did, it's taking too long so it can't be, we will go and date other people. Then his mother said her own, my mother said her own. Rotfl! We're married today. When brideprice was paid, neither my mother nor his was told. If both mothers like, they should kill each other. Better have sense before this man and his wife use you to give testimony tomorrow.
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