Yes they exist!
They exist and we want to talk about them....
Are you one of such people?Do you know any or know why they decide not to procreate when they do not have a problem?
I used to think it was only the white race that makes such decisions but of recent,I found out that this decision does not have to do with colour,some people do not like kids and some do not want their lives altered by becoming parents....
Lets discuss!!
Choices human make...each couple to their decision
ReplyDeleteI don’t want marriage I just want baby. To each it’s own
DeleteNa dose couple know na cuz when old age come, they will cry
DeleteI know of a couple that are 22yrs in marriage now but no kids. I told the man of ivf he said they don't want that they are very OK with their lives. Igbo for that matter, Abia state sef. They live abroad and comes home once a year. The love and PDA they do eenn, at times it baffles me to see such bond.
ReplyDeleteThat’s nice. To see Nigerians with that level of understanding I think it is great. Me I want to marry and have kids but it shouldn’t be the type of marriage I’ll endure if not, I just want to have children. What I'm trying to say is I want to get married but I need to have children two different things.
DeleteMy husband says he's okay with just one child, when I told my friend she said maybe he wants to marry another wife cos that's very strange and unusual of men. Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteFan avoid such friends with old mentality.
DeleteYes he'll marry someone sophisticated not crass like you
DeleteThat your friend is really Bush, so until you people have a football team that's when its not strange. Things are evolving and people want kids dey can adequately take care of in all areas
DeleteThat your friend will put u in trouble 1 day
DeleteFan,dont let your friend sow seeds of doubt in your marriage.Most men that had very difficult childhood as a result of too many siblings always have a mindset as your husband's.Not to worry,he will later give in to one or two more.My friend's hubby said same after their first child,but guess what?She just had her 3rd baby.Just relax and let things flow.
Deletethe day I told my mum that when I get married that I will like to have just 1 kid and she told me I should not bother having any one.
Deletefrom her facial expression i can tell she was angry... lol
I hailed her mama the mama... she left and said "nolunu ebea kpaliba onwe GI"
Keep sharing your home issues with your friend you hear?? Since you are not old enough to handle it.
DeleteYour friend should learn how to mind her business
DeleteHaaaaaa @fan pls avoid such friends oooh, there are some men dat don't want plenty kids ooh, my hubby is a good example, he said he wants just 2 regardless of d sex, cos he wants to give them d best, I'm d one begging for 3 sef.
DeleteHahahahahahahahaha... Bro Chike you must really took after your mum 😂 Me likey!
DeleteThanks guys
Shooter baby calm down inugo? Forget what happened in the morning, I am your number 1 fan.. How far about that ya 20k foundation 😂😂😂 idon finish? Lmao
nolunu ebea kpaliba onwe GI"🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂. Mama d mama
DeleteHahahaha. Chike, Nne gi dikwa very funny.
DeleteFan Emmanuel...chelu. Wait o. This your hubby na my brother abi? From our Anaedo zone abi?
DeleteAnd he's okay with just a girl child as you said.
I advise you to go buy salt take bath make you see road. No be only 1 girl. That means he doesn't have any house in the villa be that. If not?
Forget internet yarns. Secure your household before igbe gi apua ezi.
Mama Ejima so you follow my friend dey reason that one😃
DeleteI for say na you be the babe but I no reach levels😊
Make I re reason the matter again sha
Fan, I like this your 16:57 comment Frustration been worry some people 🤣🤣😂😂. See as dem won finish you
Delete@ XP, so if God decides to bless her with only girls, how should she secure her household? She should swap babies in the hosp or do what exactly? As if na every body go born male child.
DeleteFor where????
ReplyDeleteLemme read comments
I've always been a fan of not so many kids. No strenght for all that shouting and running kakiri. I'm okay with two, (gender notwithstanding).
DeleteChoice momma, I agree with 2
DeleteBut none atall, mba
The person I know is Jennie Mai of the Real. Even her is quite confused and has recently frozen her eggs.
ReplyDeletePlease women consider having kids.
And if dey don't want to nko? Is it by force
DeleteOr else?
DeleteI used to be in this space till of recent. Taking care of babies can be draining a whole lotta times until you see the cute smile and you go awwwwwww, my ovaries 😁. In my case, Babe made me see a different perceptive. Tho I still get scared when I think about it.
ReplyDeletePecpeptive*
DeletePerspective
Deletecorrector. well done!
DeleteAnon English teacher is it perspective you're trying to spell?
Delete😂😂😂😂😂 no vex Corrector na autocorrect cause am.
DeletePerspective*
Hahahahaha
DeleteThat one concern them...
ReplyDeleteMy concern now is that Whatsapp and Instagram is down.
So it's not my phone
DeleteI have upgraded, uninstall and downloaded another. I tire abeg.
They are deceived by the devils
ReplyDeleteWhich devil?
DeleteSomeone cant make a personal decision again, you must involve devil
And your common sense was taken by satan
Delete@14:28
DeleteSo how much did the devil pay you to advocate for him?
When God said "increase and multiply", who is saying "don't?"
What about those multiplying and not training them in the way of the Lord? Creating bigger problems for the society. I think those are the ones being deceived by the devil.
DeleteI used to think I didn't want kids too cos I was very impatient with my sister's kids. Over time I've learnt to say never say never in all things.
ReplyDeleteIt is not everyone that has the grace and patience to raise Godly children. If you know you don't have what it takes to raise Godly kids that will make the world a better place,my dear it is better you don't bother bringing them into this world. Another thing is women should learn to have the numbers of kids they can adequately care for financially, physically, psychologically, morally and spiritually. Enough of this competition of every naija woman wanting to have 4kids by fire by force even when they know they can't cater for them. One of my neighbors with three kids leaving from hand to mouth is currently pregnant with her fourth child. Who does that?
ReplyDelete**living**
DeleteIf a Nigerian couple do not want kids, it is ether of these:
ReplyDelete1. Cultism -they especially the man belongs to the occult and has used his fecundity for money/"favor" rituals
2. The truth is that they can't even have a baby if they want. For some unexplained medical reasons but they will never come out to tell the truth about their covenants with Satan.
3. The man is not capable -azoospermia or other medical conditions and the woman just married him for money and is living with it. She will invariably get tired or scheme the man's death etc.
4. All that glitters are not gold. They keep having miscarriages -traceable to No. 1 reasons but the woman does not know what is happening and they keep covering it up with the false notion of not wanting kids.
The man may have stray kids somewhere else with concubines but never with the wife.
Hian! I carry Beyonce hand for you, that your mindset ennh na only hypo go fit clean am hahahaha
DeleteAnd if a single woman decides not to have children, will that be termed occultic too?
DeleteDon’t be so quick to conclude. There are people who don’t want to because babies/kids can be draining if you don’t have patience and mind.
DeleteAlso, with the recent start of the country, this is not the best time to bring an innocent child into the world and start transferring aggression when it’s uncalled for.
Some people have choose not to have kids due to what they went through growing up, either physically, psychologically, emotionally or financially.
Chosen not to*
DeleteHmm your level of reasoning though
DeleteYou're a liar.
DeleteBefore I met my husband, I didn't really want kids. I'm not in any cult, I didn't make any covenant with Satan, I don't have medical issues, I've never had a miscarriage, and there is nothing wrong with my husband. Fact is, I had an abusive father and a bad mother who gave me a wretched childhood. So, I assumed that whatever made them defective parents must be in the blood, meaning that they couldn't help themselves. I didn't want to risk putting that on a child. My husband had a good father but a mother who is just as bad as my mother. But his reaction was opposite to mine - so from the conversation (my husband told me) he had with his father just before the dad died, my husband believed that whenever he found his wife, they would also be loving parents.
Imagine if my husband thought something evil had been passed to him in the blood. We wouldn't have children but world people like you would have jumped out to say nonsense about what you don't know and categorise like you did above.
Stop assuming you know everyone's story; not everything you see fits neatly into a Nollywood script. Besides, not everyone who is medically capable of having children, should do so. But that is another issue...
You sound so judgmental of people ttc. Jeez!!!!
DeleteSo you think the above people u listed here falls into the category of those that do not wants kids? You think anyone who is dealing with medical conditions preventing him/her from having kids will be saying he/she does not want kids? No. Such people are hopeful that they will have their kids one day. Not lying that they do not want. People that do not want kids are different from people that are ttc but with no result yet.
Anon 14:16 You're a liar.
DeleteBefore I met my husband, I didn't really want kids. I'm not in any cult, I didn't make any covenant with Satan, I don't have medical issues, I've never had a miscarriage, and there is nothing wrong with my husband. Fact is, I had an abusive father and a bad mother who gave me a wretched childhood. So, I assumed that whatever made them defective parents must be in the blood, meaning that they couldn't help themselves. I didn't want to risk putting that on a child. My husband had a good father but a mother who is just as bad as my mother. But his reaction was opposite to mine - so from the conversation (my husband told me) he had with his father just before the dad died, my husband believed that whenever he found his soulmate, they would also be loving parents in addition to being husband and wife.
Imagine if my husband thought something evil had been passed to him in the blood, like I thought. We just wouldn't have children but world people like you would have jumped out to say nonsense about what you don't know and categorise strangers like you did above. Yes, my husband and I are both Nigerians and we were born in Nigeria.
Stop assuming you know everyone's story; not everything you see fits neatly into a Nollywood script. Besides, not everyone who is medically capable of having children, should do so. But that is another issue...
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteSee the Satanic furry on a little comment I made up there.
All of you are talking about your experiences, I also wrote my experiences.
If you are not in a cult, and assuming you know that your husbands are not in cults,
who are you defending?
Do you know my profession and the things I have seen that made me write the above?
Please make your comments about your experiences and allow others do same.
Anon 17:04, you are archaic and close-minded. Try to see beyond your nose.
DeleteAnon 17:04 We're talking about and naming our experiences as OURS. You are acting as if your Nollywood imagination is the hard and fast rule for everybody. I don't know or care what your profession is (probably a writer or director of fifth rate, terrible, outdated Nollywood movies) but now you have one more possibility to add to your "Why Nigerian Couples May Not Want Kids" thoughts. You're welcome.
Delete@17:16
DeleteThere is a reason why God called Satan called "the ancient (archaic) Serpent" Rev. 20:2. He does not change his ambitions; killing, stealing, destruction. The only thing he changes or modernizes are his tactics, his baits etc. and gullible folks who "see beyond your nose" fall into it.
17:38,Typical Nigerian😂.Love how you revel in your ignorance.
DeleteIt’s quite strange to me when I hear some people don’t want to have kids and I’ve always believed it’s the white peoples thing.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, let me read comments
Hhmmm me I don't understand o, my only male child got married 13 months ago. Wife never get Belle. Is it OK to ask her before they call me MIL wey dey poknose
ReplyDeleteAsk your sonbif he's shooting blanks when asking them why belle hasn't entered.
DeleteAsking her will not make belle to fall on her just like that.Please pray for them.Its just a lil over a year.
DeleteMind your business, Anuofia
Deleteif you want to ask please ask your son
DeleteMadam please leave your DIL alone, do NOT add to her problems. U don't even know if it's your son's fault that they can't have kids yet, just stay your lane for now. 13 months is still quite early.
DeleteMind your business ma, 11 months is too short to start giving them pressure.
DeleteMaybe they have decided to not have kids immediately. I know I and my fiancé intend waiting for about a year before we start making babies, let our home be stable first. Also she might be TTC and you bringing it up will hurt her. How about you ask your son instead?
DeleteMhiz A,Be nice. Grandma put them in your Prayers they will appreciate your understanding.
DeleteIf at all you must ask, why is it her you will ask? You have started. Don't go and scatter your son's marriage cos it's not pokenoser but a witch they will call you. I'd have said you should pray for them like Anon 14:54 above but I'm afraid you will go and find one fake prophet that will take your money to tell you what you want to hear and falsely accused your daughter-in-law of something she doesn't know. Or you will suggest juju concoction for her to drink. Cos e no dey hard una
DeleteJust drink water and mind your business
DeleteMeanwhile the wife is going upandan telling ppl that you do not disturb her at all, and that is the luck she has...... Mama never you ever ask her that question, if u want to know anything please ask your son. Believe me, her mom is asking her that question.... don’t put pressure on her....... Infact if you see her, relax her mind and pet her very well, spoil her like that grandbaby you are anticipating and watch her relax for God to bless her.
DeleteWhat's there to understand? Are you their doctor? You've already decided that it's the fault of your DIL, abi? Until you sow seed in your son's marriage whose fruit your daughter(s) will reap in her/their own marriage(s), some MILs just don't hear word. What you don't want to be done to your daughters in marriage, don't do to your son's wife! How hard is it? If you think of and treat your son's wife like your own daughter, there are things you won't even think of doing. Ask her why so that she can cry her way to MFM and call your name with 7days dry fasting, oh!
DeleteJust simple question and some people have started calling her names. Nawa ooo!
DeleteAnon 16:13 I tell you. The DIL is probably thanking God that her MIL is patient, kind, etc. Not knowing that her husband's mother has been counting as if she is God and planning to act Nollywood film on her head.
DeleteJust 13 months and you're already after her life inside your wardrobe!?? Abeg allow them rest and enjoy their marriage
DeleteAnony 16:13... I love your comment.
DeleteShe's good as a MIL to an extent.
12 calendar months, I was called for family meeting and a SIL woozed me 2hot slaps infront of everybody. I mean virtually everybody.
Hahahahaha this anufia you called this woman.
DeleteMIL pray to God on their behalf and don't show you are worried
Madam you can ask your son. If there's a problem encourage them to seek for a medical solution and keep praying for them. Don't mind people telling you it's not your business, IT IS YOUR BUSINESS! All the best
Deletenothing wrong if she asks,asking is different from pressuring her,you can ask and advice them to go for tests and be patient,I am even angry with my SIL who has never asked in 7yrs of marriage.
DeleteLeave their marriage alone...na so ur own mil take ask u...tufia
DeleteI know of someone I never asked cos I felt it was non of my business.
DeleteI never knew she was angry I never asked.
Ask your son and not the wife
I dont know any couple or individual that doesnt want kids. But I gotta say..
ReplyDeleteMotherhood/Fatherhood isn't for everyone and that's okay. I would rather a person not have kids than to have them and not want them.
I don't think it's selfish at all if one doesn't want kids. I respect everyone's right to their own decisions even if I don't have a comprehensive understanding of it.
I'm not married yet but having kids is scaring me
ReplyDeleteWhat's your denomination?
DeletePlease join or assist in the Children's Department of your Church.
Bond with kids and watch what the Lord will do.
Goodluck.
they should wait until they get old then they will know the temerity of their decision...at times i wish i could have kids at my very young age
ReplyDeleteAnd it's that not a selfish reason?.Giving birth to kids because of "OLD AGE".There are people who have kids and yet kept in old people's home like they were childless to begin with.Having children is not a guarantee that they will have your time when they grow up. Some children may dislike their parents in the long run, some may dump them in old houses for caregivers to take charge. Nothing is certain in life biko. Have kids if you may but for unselfish reasons so there wont be any regret.just plan your life and put things in place for your own sake. Draft your retirement plans,insurance and all.
Deleteyour statement is ignorant. dont mix poverty at old age and not having kids. anyway its a myopic mindset. when you discuss a topic try to be broad at least
DeleteWhat if your children end up useless and only bring pains to you in your old age?
Deleteits people like this dede that have kids so they can take care of you at old age. srlfish mentality. frustrating men and women and destroying families as inlaws in the future. yet life expectancy in naija is less than 60 with all the number of children here and there
Deleteplease keeping old people in old people's home is not bad. dont use that which you know nothing about to make arguments...
DeleteSome adopt teenagers and make them their heir.
DeleteAnon 15:17. No it's not bad. But I said"dump". Dumping one parents like they don't exist is bad enough innit?. I know what am talking about.These people's kids don't even check on them since ages. It's like their kids are non-existent.
Delete@say that to Oprah🙄.
DeleteIt's this kind of mindset Ubi Franklin has, that's making him behave like an irresponsible strange woof-woof. Having children all over the place cos he's fantasizing about how he will have plenty of them around him by the time he's 50. SMH I pity you.
Deleteits simple evacuate your womb or have vasectomy since you dont want kids... if your parents had reasoned same way then you wont be here today....this is Nigeria dont use american standard here...its nt abt having kids that will cater for you financially at old age...the joy of having your grandkids over,the joy of having close family...the joy that a mother gets when her daughter takes care of her...no love can be compared to that of a mother and child frgt those adoption and elderly house tori
Deleteif having kids that will take care of me during old age is selfish....then please i am SELFISH at least there is no word lije YOUFISH in the dictionary...i dont hate my parents so my kids will never hate me or bring me shame..they will all be a blessing to their generation...men will look at them and say INDEED GOD IS FAITHFUL,they will be great and lend to nations they shall never borrow or beg for food....if you think your kids will b wayward good luck
DeleteThe joy of having your grandkids over?. What if your kids don't want kids?. What will you do?.
DeleteNo, We don't think our kids are going to be wayward if we choose to have any.We were just responding to your comment.You made emphasis on old age and that was the trajectory our replies trailed.We decided to open your eyes to happenings beyond your scope.Kids are not backup plans for old age.Even if they decide to be there for us.Rely on them but apply sense. Simple. And for your prayers Amen.So shall it be for everyone who wants and have kids👏.
Delete@annoy 17:23 use all this ur hypothesis and start up a research....so so what if what if
DeleteI will dede... but with you as my sample size.
DeleteHahahahahaha.. Dede and friends 😃😃
Delete😂😂😂anon 18:38 You are worski 🤣🤣🤣 is wharris sample size 😄.
DeleteIf I no born pikin for marriage, wetin I gain???God forbid I never married such man with selfish desire.When I married newly,could remember how bored i was when he leaves me at home.But now,my kids make me happier and really occupied!
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ReplyDeleteNot everyone is supposed to have Children. If we understood and accepted this, then maybe we will have less evil resulting from parent who had no business raising children but went ahead to, just because they could. Think of these boys beheading each other in Ajah all in the name of cult war, were they supposed to be born? Armed robbers,wife beaters, prostitutes, ritualists, witches and wizards, evil neighbours and relatives, bad belle people, wicked politicians would not be all over the place if the parents who birthed them but could not bring them up properly, had not had them. I respect those who make up their minds not to breed for whatever reason as they save the world from certain evils.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, not everyone who chooses to not have kids is a ritualist. I dont want kids cos I know I wont be a good mother. I know myself and I dont want to flood the earth with some badly brought up, spoilt children.
It is only Nigerians that will think it's abnormal for people to not want kids. The older I get the less interested I am in the whole having kids thing. I don't like stress at all, which means pregnancy stress is not for me, running after children all around the place is not for me. The one that annoys me the most is having to work so hard and all I can think of when the money comes to what my kids need/want. That life is not for me abeg. I don't know why others don't want kids but for me it's because the responsibility of taking care of myself and my mum is more than enough responsibility for me. May God grant those looking for children their heart desires
ReplyDeleteAmen 🙏🏼.
DeleteYou spoke so well. God bless you.
thank u
DeleteMy daughter is going 3 years and my hubby is not bothered about having another baby, I have to abort my baby just because he is not ready for now, feeling bad already
ReplyDeleteAre you okay, did you make your self pregnant better don't curse your self, what if you can't conceive again after that abortion?
DeleteWho knows if that one is the next president someday.
Na wa
Who got you pregnant!?
DeleteHubby told me he's not ready oo, I zipped up and continue check ups on my baby went on about my business...na him start again why are u not telling me you are pregnant bla bla bla? I said I don't have time for people who are not ready but na dem dey always shout for sex.. I don't know what happened oo, he's now too excited and can't wait for the arrival of the baby. Nawa for men oo
You are married and you want to abort a child? My God.
DeleteIn Nigeria everyone expects you to desire to have kids. That's how we are in This country. If you don't do things according to norm they will call you names
ReplyDeleteA good number of nigerians want plenty kids who will according to them surround their table.. parenting is not meant for everyone because it requires a lot.
ReplyDeleteI have known a lady for 7 years and she has always maintained that she don't want to have kids because she is scared of bad things happening to them in this world. she always say that she might become too emotionally attached to her kids and might not want to let them out of her site. Guess what? she met someone who doesn't want to have kids too. They are married and both now reside in Australia. She's one of the realest person I know. I think she's genuinely happy
ReplyDeleteThe whole idea of getting pregnant and the processes involved in bringing that child to life is scary. But ehn, left to me I'd choose childbirth over marriage any day. Marriage scares the shit outta me.
ReplyDeleteEverybody with their own. It is better not to have kids than have the ones you can't take care of or the ones you won't love.
ReplyDeleteJust do you
I'm not interested in kids. Had my tubes tied at 22. I'm 41. Been with my partner the same length of time too. He has a daughter but had no interest in having anymore kids. I don't see the point in them. I have never been maternal. The world is overpopulated. My genes are not exactly that special to warrant dispersion. I have nephews and nieces. Some are poorly behaved others are amazingly well brought up. I would hopefully retire at 53. Travel the world. When I am weak and frail, I would have a court appointed trustee put me in a long term care. Hopefully I die in peace. If I become sick with cancer or any other terminal illness before that, I have in my will that I be taken to hospice immediately and my body be donated to science. My partner is in his 50s and he has instructed me to do the same for him. We have had a wonderful life. Our pets are already a hand full. Going for a full hysterectomy after menopause. I feel very blessed and fortunate that I had the choice of not having kids. So many wonderful women's lives ruined by children. I have raised better children than a lot of parents in my chosen child free life. We foster from time to time. I have no bone for long term parenting. I am a scientist and I am super proud of my contribution to the field which I might not have been able to do with kids. Sone of my friends have no kids either both male and female freinds. No regret from any of us. People ask me sometimes about kids and when I tell them I don't have they look at me with such pity in their eyes especially when I visit my mom in Nigeria. I usually don't get that here where I reside. I wonder why? I pity them right back too. I have rarely seen a woman with kids in Nigeria that is well put together. Quite unfortunate really. Some ask me who would "take care of you", and I tell them that I don't know about Nigeria but in the here the same people who take care of older adults with children AKA nurses in long term care. So I wouldn't be lacking care as a consequence of my child free choice. My relatives and friends in Nigeria would usually ask "what about your wealth who would inherit it?" I tell them that my will simply states that all my assets be given as donations to different science oriented organisation. Although I do not tell them that I have left some funds for my nieces and nephews, nothing too much. Just bought them stocks in great companies which they would get when they turn 25 each. It's been a wonderful life so far. The peace and tranquility I am privileged to have cannot be compared to whatever imagined love I would feel for a child. I am an atheist, so I have no obligation to fulfill religious mandate of mass reproduction.I am sure there are people in Nigeria that do not want kids but it's unfortunate thay think they don't have an option. Quite sad. That being said, I don like children and I love them even more because they aren't mine.
ReplyDeleteInukwa
DeleteI have met my twin. I love you twinny!
DeleteI love your mindset.
DeleteNice perspective!
DeleteWow!
DeleteChurch agbasala ohhh
Delete☺️ Don’t I just love you so much @ Occasional blog visitor 💕. I could feel the peace and love in every word you put down. I love that you chose and stood by what makes you happy no waivers.
Delete🤗 💓
Wow ...just wow. Did you guys read where she said she bought shares for her nephew and neices...and erm what about what
Deleteshe wants done to her cadaver? Just wow...this one self aware, woke, confident millionaire.
Damn..
DeleteThe life in your words.
@ 22.29, they will soon come and say she is lying because they think every body on the blog is wretched and poor.If only some of these bvs know that Stella's bvs are people from diff walks of life.
DeleteThese are my same thoughts, sentiments and mindset.
Delete41, no kids, traveling the world too, successful and living life to the max!
My friend (Nigerian lady) wants kids and hubby (oyibo) no wan children oo, de man dey make sure to always use condom or withdraw or no just do at all even if na the whole year oo.....my friend don tire, she filed for a divorce, the man no wan divorce.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm
DeleteAnytime wey dem drink and d man wan come make him hold am with her 2 legs and bite him mouth...him go cum inside her...oloshi man
Deleteif you are getting aged and no marriage forthcoming pls give birth to atleast 2 kids there is where you will derive your joy from,dont let religion and society deprive you of personal happiness...imagine a life without a husband or children do you think ur sis and close family will have your time?
ReplyDeleteHow do you know those who chose to have kids are not happy. What
DeleteMakes people happy differ.If you want yo have go ahead and stop enforcing your opinion on others.I have a question for you though.If you were allowed to go back in time to when you were not yet formed, and you had the liberty of giving your consent to come to this world. Would you gladly say yes or no. With everything you have seen, known and gone through. Would you come back again and to do what please.
It is well sir. Calm down.
DeleteDede true o
DeleteI used to desire 4 kids till I had one child and although I love her absolutely, I really wish I don’t have kids so I’m done with child bearing.
ReplyDeleteMotherhood is really really really tough and yea the occasional laughter and cute touch makes your heart melt, it’s really not for everyone..
Not wanting to have a child is absolutely fine especially as a black person.
Don’t let people guilt trip you.
Enjoy your marriage and enjoy yourself!
Your decision not to have kids means that you are selfish enough to know that you love yourself
Everyone with their choice
ReplyDeleteI want kids. One son and one daughter. I will have them , marriage or no marriage.
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong with that. Let everyone live as they are most comfortable. So many parents are killing or severely abusing children they chose to bring into the world, I honestly wish they had chosen to stay without children.
ReplyDelete