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PROBLEMATIC SITUATION
Though I wasn't around!I don't even know this girl after some years I came back to the same house but they have there own room..we start to leave to gather until she start to give me attitude..i tried to correct her but she won't listen..she is just 25 while me I'm 32 if I talk 1 she talk 10back at me, my mum will never see anything wrong in whatever she does,she insult everyone in The house including my Elder sister whenever that one come for visit..
If you dare touch or shout at her my mum will beat whoever that person is or rain curses and abuse on the person... The thing became worst that one day something happened and I tried to scold her but she start to insult me with abuse and tantrums..i got very angry lost my temper and I slapped her she humped on me and start to fight me.
Immediately my mum rushed in instead of separate she start to hit me and tore my clothes in front of the girl... This give the girl more room to start to misbehave to everyone.
Me and my mum became cat and rat in the house becoz of this girl so last week I went to see a pastor who told us my mum is been encharmed with the Husband that The girls mum is The one helping her, that the have 3cleric(alfa)working for them!
That my mum needs prayer..this same house I rented it for them,i have done a lot for this girl and the husband who's my brother oooo.. Now I told my mum I'm ready to go get my own apartment to avoid all this happening,,her reply was single girl doesn't leave alone that if I dare leave to go get my own apartment that she will disown me,again if I want to get married she won't come and if she die I shouldn't come near her corpse or else she will take me with her..
And I have lost my dad not ready to lost my mum again.. I have prayed yet nothing happened..right now I'm staying with my Elder Sister who is also managing and i don't work,,I do biz from home,my mum wouldn't allow me get a place..even yesterday at the church the pastor was saying someone here Is lost and confused..the person is at the middle of no were i know that prophecy was for me
I'm lost depressed and confuse
And my mum is not The praying type
My mum is someone I can kill for to see her smile..i plan taking our last born with me who is also tired of leaving with that girl.....
*This story just scatter my head..what kind of environment is this?What da heck!!!
Hnmmm
ReplyDeleteMagun at work. May God deliver ur mum
DeletePoster needs to get a life and get her own place.
DeleteIt seems you are too focused on your brother,his wife and everything they are doing. Seems you watch the girls every little step in the house.
Are you sure you are paying that rent alone or it's your mother's house. Don't really get. You don't seems to have a voice in your own place.
32 is old enuf to move out. Call your mother's bluff and go get your own place. I hope you atleast get into a relationship of your own. You are damn too focused on what is going on in your bro personal life. Maybe that is why the wife is always against you. He's an adult,it's his biz if he married a rude wife. Let them be.
Get your own place and keep your distance from them. They have lost all respect for you and you caused it. Be calling your mum,check on her maybe once a month and support her with prayers.
It is time to focus on your own life,business and relationship. Stop monitoring what is going on in your siblings life.
Urine and salt to the rescue
DeleteLet me take paracetamol first for the headache of reading and trying to figure out things.........
DeletePastors are good and Alfas are bad abi?
You, your brother and mother be deceiving yourselves. God unite your home.
This gave me a migraine!
ReplyDeleteShe has gone to tie your brother and mother's picture in the river, just keep praying that one sailor will find it and release them.
DeleteWasnt it on this blog we read of the lady who tied her pic and her mother in-laws so they will obey whatever she says.
Look for a way to free them and damn the consequences
By the time we hear from the girl now we will see that you girls tried to use her like foot rag and she took it till she couldnt take it anymore so she had to stand and defend herself.
DeleteAnd you poster, so you are one of those girls that look for prophecy upandan? So you already blv this pastor who told you your mother is under a spell? So because your mum didnt support you to maltreat her daughter in law she is now bewitched abi?
I belv your mum is a good woman who is unbiased and have taken her daughter in law as her own daughter and you just cant swallow it by respecting yourself.
Who are you to correct and chastise your brother's wife?! You better go and appologies to her and begin to respect yourself. Earn the respect and she will have no choice than to give it to you.
I will also advice you run far from that church and that pastor/prophet. They go about planting hatred and distroying families and relationships. LIERS that is what they are and have no good counsel to give.
And you get busy. Get a job or expand your business so you wont be having time for nonsense and pokenoseing into your brothers marriage.
Let me also warn you that this pastor/prophet will milk you DRY.
DeleteSee, he will make sure he plants hate in your heart so deep that you will remove yourself from your loved ones/family. Every money you make he will tell you you need to make one sacrifice or sow one seed to redeem your mother from one spell.
ITS A LIE!!!
Run far from him and embrace Love and softness and sweetness and joy. Be pleasant.
If you continue to stay in that house you’d end up losing everything and even your mum whom you are staying behind for.
ReplyDeleteIf it’s true that your mum is under a spell then you need to stop living under the same roof besides you’re an adult, 32 years. How would men court you while you live and fight under the same roof as your mum, brother and wife?
There can be no peace in such a crowded space, also remove eyes from your brother’s wife if you decide to do your Mum's bidding.
Continue to pray and hope for the best but focus on your business so you don’t lose both ways. Stop crying more than the bereaved,like you said you brother impregnated her even when he knew his family didn’t like her. If your brother can go against “your mum’s will” then I think you should do same by renting your own space for your mental health.
Welcome back hun
DeleteGOOD TO HAVE YOU BACK DEAR
DeleteWelcome back Doppelganger.
DeleteThe last sentence sums it all. Peace of mind is everything. The day I start feeling uncomfortable in a place is the day I get even if it is a rat hole to stay. The story is disgusting to say the least l Why are you slapping an adult? And your mom what type of an agbero life is that descending on you like that? Oh I forgot she is jazzed like you said. Stay away from them and mean it.
DeleteFuji house of commotion.
ReplyDeleteAre you sure that charm does fishermen found last week is not your brother and your mother? Go and check oh
DeleteHahahaha
DeleteEwooo, its possible ooo
DeleteDoppleganger, where have you been girl? Welcome back.
DeleteSo are you angry your slap was retaliated or that you chop beating from your mama.
ReplyDeleteYou started a fight and got the worst of it now you are crying wolf??
Madam, that girl is no slave neither is alfa involved!!
Your pastor dt gave you "vision" why cant he deliver your family from the "charm"?
Your mum knows you well hence shes sticking up for this girl
Ladies wey de open leg chop for inside family house , how una de do am?
You slapped her, she retaliated,what were you expecting?? For her to say thank you. Y not start by respecting yourself. I can't even slap my younger brother's wife and the age gap is 10 years. Na me born am? If she is rude to me, I cut her off and ignore her, which one is physical fight??
DeleteIt shows the kind of person you are. The girl may have an attitude but you also need to examine yourself.
Don't mind her. Na she slap first, na she come dey cry. What exactly did she expect after the slap? After she has refused to leave her brother alone, she will want a happy marriage tomorrow oh.
DeleteThis Poster is a very big problem. See the things she mentioned..."She is just 25, I'm 32, my brother impregnated a yoruba". What has these to do with anything? You are a very entitled somebody. What has these to do with anything. That girl is a grown ass woman, stop treating her like your slave. Her mom hasn't done anything to your mom...mtcheew. You hatred for that girl will cause problems for you.
DeleteWho will tie this man who can't even rent an apartment?
DeleteDon't mind the yeye girl. Impregnated a Yoruba got me like...... are you for real. Poster you're 32 and lack sense on how to talk. Probably why everyone disrespect you.
DeleteMoment of Truth. You are 32. Leave the house and go find your peace.
ReplyDeleteYou are envious of a smart 25yrs in her husband house...She's not your problem rather search your self...At 32 you are not married, instead of you to learn the Yoruba girl trick on how to get married before 25..,
ReplyDeleteYou sound stupid and ignorant.
DeleteYour stupidity astounds even a goat,what's wrong with her being unmarried at 32?,the smart Yoruba girl got pregnant being boinked at a family house and is living forcibly with her lover who doesn't want to be with her,no brideprice paid.this is your definition of a "smart yoruba girl"?,go and pick your self esteem from under Iya bose's staircase,ode ni e
DeleteSmart 25yr old in her husband house kwa? Abi the house that was rented by the single 32yr old, and since when did not being married at 32 become a curse? Its your type that end up with just anything all in the name of being married before a certain age
DeleteA very insensitive and rather stupid comment
DeleteLike who the fuck are you! Just wow. Sapphire' you need serious help asap. Low self esteem vagabond
DeleteWhich husband house? The rented house paid for by the poster. You guys should read and assimilate before you comment.
DeleteYou ruined everything you wrote with that iya Bose. You are also pathetic , even worse than the person you criticize, nonsense.
DeleteSapphire you need to change your name
DeleteCos you're too dull
What rubbish did you just spew ?
Another goat spotted,what's wrong with saying Iya Bose?,dimwit,Iya bose has a house and your fellow mumu up there left her self esteem under her staircase. Stop being unnecessary defensive,unless you felt I meant something else,you're the pathetic one here,seeing common comprehension is hard for you!
Delete19.02, who let you out of yaba left? Ooops the guards!!! now quietly go back to where you belong, your friends miss you. all the best digbolugi.
DeleteAs in her stupid sounds stupid. Your brain is paining you Saphire
DeleteI will advise you to tell your brother and the wife to get their own apartment. It is true that If a single Igbo girl rent an apartment and live alone people will see it as if she is into runs. Most Igbo guys don't like marrying a single lady living alone. Again intensify your prayers and double your hustle of you can. God will show up for you and it will end in praise.
ReplyDeleteI am ibo and I lived alone for 5yrs before I got married at 28. My parents stayed in same lagos but the distance to my office was hell. I had to go get a BQ in Ajah. I met my fiancé while living alone and he didn't have a problem
DeleteHian! Biko times have changed and I urge you to change this your mindset. That is how you will find a single working class lady still living with the parents at age 30.
DeleteDid the poster say she's igbo?
DeleteAbeg stop talking what you dont know. In this Lagos, how many ladies are staying in the same house with their parents? Especially if your work place is far? And yet they marry
Deleteif i were u i will disown my mother before she disown me. forget what ya mama is saying leave that environment now. you can pray for her from a distance.i started living on my own at the age of 21. what the hell are u doing in ur mothers house at age 31? leave that house now.
ReplyDelete@ 32
DeleteGo on your knees and pray and stop visiting pastors.
ReplyDeletei would take a hard look at myself first poster. Just maybe you are the one initiating problem in your house. To be honest, If my husband's sister finds trouble come my way, I will give it to her on double doses. I'm that kind of girl that give you what you dish to me. If you want peace, my dear I will give you peace in a million fold, but if you say I will not rest, my dear you too will not rest.
ReplyDeleteFrom you write-up, I can deduce that you are the problem here dear troublesome sister-in-law.
We re in same category.
DeleteI can not die because of any family member.
Poster are you sure the pictures that sailor found in the sea are not that of your brother and mother?
ReplyDeleteplease go to that post and check those pictures 1st.
please go and rent your own apartment and forget that thing your mum said. be sending your prayers from there.
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.. This comment is very funny
DeletePoster, this is comment should not be overlooked, go and check that post well. You never know.
DeleteLol while reading the story, I just remembered the lady that cast a spell on her man and his mum. Please poster you need to be prayerful and move out of that house for your own peace and sanity.
DeleteYour mum is living her life , please live your own life.
Lol same thoughts
DeleteI'm surprised no body recognised that family. Poster check ooo
DeleteHahahaha majority of you people will not go to heaven
DeleteThe people in that story have Yoruba names, the poster is not Yoruba
DeleteLol. I don't know why I feel this is more of condescending than a show of concern., The way poster writes kinda fits the photo description of that story... Anyway poster is a BV, I believe she must have read that post too. They re not her family members..
DeleteThere is nothing like peace of mind. Good that you are staying with your Sister for now. Concentrate on yourself and stop assisting your brother for the main time, give them enough space--walk away, no visit, no calls. Try it for six months and see the outcome first. You communicate with only the Sister that you are staying with and don't give room for any misunderstanding between you and her. She( Brother's wife) wants you all to leave the house for them. Never mind, things will fall into place with time. Pele.
ReplyDeleteBut she said she's the one paying the house rent
DeleteFan E. Na wa oh. The girl should pack and leave the house she paid for? Ok let her leave and they'll pay the next year
DeleteHer peace of mind and safety should be Paramount to her. From her Sisters's place, she would get another apartment. Leaving the apartment is not too big a sacrifice for her to pay for her peace of mind and respect. She doesn't have to pay the rent of that apartment again.
DeletePoster leave such environment
ReplyDeleteWhat makes a man get a girl pregnant, and deny the pregnancy? Honest answers please
ReplyDeleteGet ur own apartment and stay in ur lane!continue praying for ur mum.
ReplyDeleteI regretted not leaving my parents on time. Please leave them and grow yourself that is when a husband will come. Try and face reality more rather than being superstitious.
ReplyDeleteYou sound like a terrible person. Remove your eyes from your brother's business and stop running around as if you have a vagabond spirit, looking for pastors to agree with you. You already have one pastor where you attend church, but that is not enough. Until something happens to you, because you people that keep walking about, you don't hear word till the thing you find is worse than what you carried you to waka. It's always the person you can't control that some of you like to claim, did juju. You slapped someone first, they beat the crap out of you but you're the one crying wolf. Lol. If she sat down and cried instead, you'd have said she's respectful as per Yoruba that wants in-laws to like her, and you've shown her abi? Please, go and find something to do with your life before you die for nothing.
ReplyDeleteI'm not Yoruba but the way the poster said "My brother impregnated a Yoruba" disgusts me. So, Yoruba person's womb isn't good enough to carry the seed of your family? You think your own tribe is superior, abi? You must be a very ignorant 32yo. You ran to Stella's blog to get sympathy, how are we sure you're even telling the truth about the girl's behaviour? For all we know, you might even be the one that tried to spiritually tie her, your mother and your brother only for it to backfire on your face. At 32, you want to be allowed to get away with slapping someone first cos 25yo Yoruba isn't a human being. Onye iberibe.
Delete18:46 I didn't like that statement too. It spoilt everything for me.
DeleteHave you not seen the story online of a wife who tied the man and the mother in law to love her unconditionally.
ReplyDeleteDon mind anyone who says anything out side superstition.
She has tied your mom
This is a serious matter.
ReplyDeleteUnless you are feeding your mother, it is not your home sorry
ReplyDeleteNaija Sha. If na brother dey bring money for house, mama go say all of us must worship am. Call am brother. Cook food serve am . but na girl. Imagine. Not only mama disrespecting they even add baby mama join.
ReplyDeleteAt 32 what's happening you're still living with mum? Pour all your time and energy into your business and ignore the fighter. Your goal Is to succeed not compete.
ReplyDeletePls help me ask your brother’s wife the name of the babas she used cos it’s effective and I need it and as for u, u slapped her and expect respect abi? U seem like a troublesome narcissist who want brother’s wife to respect her .. pls go and sit down somewhere or ask her for he baba number cos u migjtvneed it in thing your husband and mother in law in future
ReplyDeletebe there lamenting in tgis case you fight the war spiritually,and when i mean fight with any means possible if nt she might enchant u too....las las follow ur heart
ReplyDeleteThis family is poor, why would anybody tie them? They are just backwards. Imagine the mother even tearing her daughters cloths. Why hasn't anybody tie Atiku? Smh..
DeletePoster, get a man and leave them alone. I believe you but you have to leave them alone.kapish
ReplyDeleteIs your brother the only son? Is his child(ren) only grandchildren? If yes, your mom is not under any spell. Get your place if you want to but first face your business squarely and get a job. Then give them all a distance. Do for your mom what you should and face your life. God will bless you with your own husband and great kids.
ReplyDeleteMy mom has done similar things, I just let her be.......infact all of the people concerned. She once told me I have changed and I replied with "please face your children and let God cater for the rest of us". My elder sis called that day and was begging to be nicer to her. Well, I said that to make I know i am hurting too. Currently preggers but she does not know. She keeps asking my other sisters who knows but told her to ask me herself.........but I do unto her what I have to. Afterall, she is my mother and I very much love her.
You are the problem him, learn to live in peace with everyone no matter what tribe they are, and please change your sense of entitlement, renting an apartment for your Mom is not a big deal, love that girl and see your the relationship with your mother bounce back, you are expecting a niece/nephew, be a great aunt already.
ReplyDeleteMake the "pastor" teach you wetin Jesus been teach; if persin slap you, make you turn the other cheek.
ReplyDeleteNow you come slap first. Ahaaaaaaaaaa! Na wetin you send for market return na. The girl measure the slap
return am.
Na that ya toddler brother suppose move go stay for another apartment with im wife.
You and mama still dey house, make the dey visit. And you gat to use love follow that young girl and not
strong hand. If you no want scatter all ya family and make wind carry everybody vamoose, beat her again.
Forget about what your mom said, you need to move out of that house fast.
ReplyDeletePoster go and leave alone o that when you will have peace of mind and be more appreciated by your mom.i believe she is saying that so that you won't run away from your responsibility.
ReplyDeleteI'm so scared for the woman who would marry this poster's son in future. This poster is a big big problem. Madam, work on yourself
ReplyDeleteSome of you just say nonsense. What has poster done to deserve such a foolish comment. She's housing a whole family and they won't let her have peace
DeletePoor people and unnecessary quarrels and fight..
ReplyDeletePoster, you need to avoid having issue with the girl and your mum. Most importantly, you need to pray for your mum to neutralize whatever effect the girls mum has on your mum.
ReplyDeleteYou're a stupid, disrespectful and a bigot. Imagine calling the girl Yoruba like being a Yoruba is a disease. You're looking for a domestic slave, someone to be worshipping you but you got a stiff retaliation from the small girl.
ReplyDeleteGo back to your pastor for deliverance instead of looking for who encharmed your mother, it will be hard for you to marry at your age and if you have a son, his wife should be ready for you because you're going to make life a hell for such woman.
Go and work on yourself and stop looking for a way to send the girl packing because you're the one paying for the apartment.
Problematic lady go and marry.
You are always sounding bitter and angry..Like who hurt u? U are d worst tribal bigot here..See how u are sounding pained bcos u read d wife is Yoruba . Why won't d wife be used as a slave when she foolishly got pregnant outside wedlock and moved into a jobless and homeless guy:s house who has not married her properly..Advice ur desperate Yoruba sisters to make sure a man properly marries them before they get pregnant..Dis is how they treat girls like Dem.
DeletePls always comment like a man sometimes.See all d epistle u wrote on a woman matter wey no concern u..U carried it on ur head like gala seller..
U that is telling her to go and marry,are u married? U should be pitying d woman who will be unfortunate enough to marry a bitter and angry jobless fellow like u..Angry bird..I don't know u and Eka Joy who is worse..U need 100 littres of honey in ur life..
You are old enough to move out of the house. I left my house at 20 as that was when I finished from the university, turned 21 in NYSC camp and started working after service and never moved back home afterwards. Through the ups and downs of life I gained a whole of experiences and I'm doing well for myself now by the grace of God.
ReplyDeleteHow one is over 25 and still living in a family house is always very surprising to me. For your own growth and peace of mind, move out . Not to talk of you who can afford it. Nah person wey dey alive dey think of her mama ọ.
#Smurfy#
@poster,you are not a good person for being tribalistic,judgemental and violent.You are the younger version of your mother!
ReplyDeleteUntil you leave that house and settle elsewhere,you wont have peace and you will not be able to settle down(get married)in that toxic environment.
Stop seeking validation from pastors,most of them give random prophecies and gullible people fall for them.
If your brother's baby mama is patronising an Alfa,go and look for your own Alfa to do your own work for you!
Someone posted this on spontaneous posts today:
Pls how do I stop a 14 years girl that lives with me from bed wetting every night?
Dont torture her by telling her not to drink water at night,it wont work because its spiritual. She will stop bedwetting as soon as she losses her virginity.
Just be patient with her.
She can get married in any environment. Are you God
DeleteSlapping her,don spoil ur storyline..y slap ur brother's wife?? If na me ehh..
ReplyDeleteMove out of your home and give your mum(Family space for 6months,just focus on your life and business. They will look for you(I have been in your shoes before. Above have a personal relationship with God.
ReplyDeletePour urine on your mum's face!!!
ReplyDeleteLeave that place and go make your own way. I refuse to abide in any place that my spirit cannot be at peace. Leave and don't look back, there is nothing there for you anymore. A husband and a family of your own is waiting for you if that is what you want and it will not locate you in that place of misery. Your mom heard grandchild and you see the different spirit that is now on her. She wants that grandchild more than she cares about your happiness in that home. Go seek your own happiness and leave that place. Don't stay there and wither, go get your own life and let them be. You do not need to announce to anyone what you want to do, at 32 you can make any decision for your life and do not have to answer to anyone for it. You are acting like your hands are tied and you first need someone to tell you what to do before you can do it. Put your big girl panties on and get about your life. Accept that the relationship with you and your mother has changed and likely will never be the same again.
ReplyDeleteThis poster really sounds like a trouble maker and it seems you are been jealous, just try and work on how to relate with people with love.
ReplyDeleteRent your own place and never pay rent for them again.
ReplyDeleteMy Uncle's wife friend whose son brought in a lady to the house also did not have respect for the mother and other family. The room just looked for another apartment and moved out with her other sons.
The yeye son and the lady had to find their square root whn they could not pay rent.