STRONG HEARTED LADY FALLS IN LOVE
Stella I used to be this strong hearted girl, I only love who i want to love. Then this guy came along, next thing I know, I'm so much in love with him. I don't know how that happened.
I just realized Im so so in love with him. We aren't dating, just friends. He asked me out though , about 5 times and I turned him down because I didnt want commitment and I was also scared because I feel we are from different social classes.
He;s from an okay family while I'm from a very poor home. He doesnt know how poor we are. I look well taken care of so most people feel I'm from an okay home. Because I was so scared of loving him, I told him to move on with his life while I move on with mine... I've been crying ever since Stella. Is this how love feels? I miss him so much. I dont know what to do...
*Na wah oh,your story sounds like Marrissa and Christabel from Telemundo maid in manhattan.....You actually told him to leave your life?And he left?if yes,then rest it.....
What are you even strong hearted for?let yourself go....
Chronicle of a child who doesn't know what she wants yet.
ReplyDeleteI think its infatuation...
DeleteNot love.
It's complex that's worrying you poster. You better learn to climb and leave that your post you are holding on to. What's so wrong in telling somebody about your background. Anybody that will love you will still love you so long you don't play "I belong".
DeleteHow many wealthy or comfortable people today were born with silver spoon?
I'm sure this poster is a teenager
DeleteAnon 16:11 I think so too.
DeleteIn a nutshell, na you dey do yourself. I guess you have self esteem issue as well because there's no how rich a man can be that will make me see myself as being too low to date him. Now work your way back to him and start giving him the green light, he will grab your sign
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Correct babe.
DeleteI don't think it is complex. Seems more like pride to me..."strong hearted babe" etc. She doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone who will probably eventually prolly seem like he brought her out of poverty. Some people just want to do it themselves. Things happen
Delete@ anonymous 17:04 God used my boyfriend to help me out of poverty.. At first he was feeling like a semi God, I endured all the abuse,calling my parent all sort of names...But by God's grace our story changed...My kids are born here in Europe and I'm doing very well for myself..My advice for her is to give it a go, while she guides heart💓..What will be will be, My own family lives in a room then with 5 children, still he accepted me but mind you ....I'm a beautiful ebony lady too.
DeleteAnon 17:47 na wah
Deleteposter this your story happened to my neighbor and she use wisdom in handling it.
ReplyDeletelearn from my neighbors strategy and all will be well.
cheers
How can she learn from your "neighbor's strategy" when she doesnt know what strategy it is?
DeleteNa innocent kweshion I ask oh! 😀
How did your neighbor handle the situation?
Deleteplease share it with us
What sense did u make now? Neighbour strategy wey u no all about , how does she learn from it? Use your upper
DeleteMaybe we should google "SydalG's neighbour strategy" and read about it. 😂😂😂
DeleteThe strategy is that she used wisdom 😂😂
DeleteI laughed so hard reading this. How on earth is she supposed to know your neighbor's strategy 🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteNa wah o. Plenty crack heads on this blog o. Truly Yaba Left's suggestion might help. Abi?
DeletePlease give her your neighbors strategy...Mine then was giving him head, I was the first person that gave him BJ because he's a mummy's boy then...He got addicted that even when he left Nigeria,he couldn't get me out of his system...Here I am rolling by his side😋🤣😎😍😍
Delete😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 wey thé strategy nau 😂😂
DeleteStella, u Don come out of your closet too...u are a telemundo fan
ReplyDeleteTales of a Packaged slay queen.
DeleteWhen "strong" ladies fall in love, they fall hard.
ReplyDeleteIf he loves you as much, he would come back....I hope.
Poster we are meant to give and receive love. Its ok to love, to feel love. Be grateful u can. U can sheath pride or move on and learn from this. The choice is urs. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteDon't rest it. Call him or text and ask to meet him. Rest ke. He likes you. You like him. The rest will take care of itself
ReplyDeleteI don't have any advice for you, Sha don't allow him to disvirgine you
ReplyDeleteWhos the virgin here?
DeleteYou think guys dont lose virginity too?
Or hymen makes urs more precious
😂😂😂😂. Straight to the point haha
Delete@15:30
DeleteIf you are a borehole please na only you waka come o.
(some of My) Naija girls been Virginia tey tey 😜😜😜
(But them sheet hole fit be borehole?)
Ajuju n' ese okwu?
😆😆😆😆😆😆
Some yeye Anons can be unreasonable and so off point.
DeletePlease borrow sense if you lost some of yours and stop digressing.
belonging to a poor background should limit your love life,you did yourself bad by letting go of him.highest you should have done was to come out plain with him about your financial background so he wouldn't have a wrong impression later on that you mislead him abt your financial background. that's by d way i think he would have accepted you if you have been open with him ND express your fears to him. it is never too late except if he's already in another relationship if not, I advise you go get back your man
ReplyDeleteI don't understand....u broke up with him coz of what?
ReplyDeleteShe no break up, she didn't even date him.
DeleteClass distinction.
DeleteShe respect herself stay her lane.
Modern day cinderella story still works, but rarely, the average babe now applies makeup to fit in, y'all be missing your prince upandown. 😂😂
Mmmmmmmmmmmhhhhhhhhhh!
ReplyDeleteI go yarn o, make una ready una thunders.
Naija girls no wan marry again o.
Sisi, you dey wait for "abroadian?"
Abi you just wan to dey fork dey go?
Me marriage celebration dey hungry me o.
Make una say yes to responsible men come dey marry na?
Na we ladies hold the ace o; na we dey decide whether marriage fit hold o
when we say yes, the dudes go dey jolly like say them win jackpot; i.e. if you
been keep yasef well no be all the ones them don fork everything commot.
Abeg sisi, if you sabi say na Baba God gift be dat one, holla am say make una yarn small na.
Poverty no be crime o, na thief thief be criminal.
I don yarn finish o. 😆😆😆😆😆😆
As a konk herodian that you are..
Deleteposter i feel you would have given him a chance. what does coming from a poor home has to do with how someone loves you.
ReplyDeleteI'm from a poor home and my guy is from a very rich home, well known family in my state. i told him everything about my family background and me, and he looked at me and said i have met many women and i have been your friend for years and when i ask you out i meant it.
Tho it hasn't ended in marriage which I'm still hopeful but i let my guard down and dated him and have not regretted neither has he treated me badly cos of my background
U re scared, U think he's init for the games, hence the fear to commit. U probably can't deal with the 'what ifs',I can totally relate to all these...
ReplyDeletePlease have this conversation with him, don't smother urself with these feelings & pain. The foundation of true love is based on honesty, the courageous type(truth that is free of fear). Trust me, U'd feel a lot better with the outcome, whatever it may be, whether he leaves or stays...
Guy might just be thinking he aint good enough for U. He asked severally & U turned him down, Obviously, U re not alone in the misery, his ego was bruised too.
In this life, the courageous always win, brave it up babe, drop pride & fear aside for now, they re the ruiners of healthy relationships.
Yes! U re a product of a humblle background, so what really? It doesn't define who U re as a person. Everyone needs love, if U re capable of giving it, then U also deserve it... Go for it gurl!
Is he involved with someone else that you are aware of?abi why are you crying?this situation is not so bad unless that's the case!!
ReplyDeleteIf not,go for what you want NOW,if he's in same city as u,call him up and TELL HIM NOW!!
Stella did you just say rest it? my dear don't rest it oo if you know how you told him to leave you use that same method in walking back into his life.
ReplyDeleteCall him already
ReplyDeleteMy dear, reach out to him jor. The feeling may be mutual. Dont look down on yoursef sha, parents poor no mean say u no go rich.
ReplyDeleteThis is simple na, Call him back and date him. Shikenah!
ReplyDeleteMy dear you alone have the power to change yourself after you have decided what it is you want exactly.
ReplyDeleteYou have to work on your low self esteem first before you think of a relationship ma.
ReplyDeleteIf he did not back off, you will call him a pest. Now he has gone, you are crying. Some people actually live drama free lives so they don't have time for unnecessary back and forth. You turned him down five times, he still hung around, you finally pushed him off, he has gone. Deal with it. Next time, have sense.
ReplyDeleteNa low self esteem dey worry una. Be bold and follow your heart but use your brain to guide your heart along the way. Be principled and exercise self control e.g No sex. But give love a chance, you never can tell how great things could turn out to be.
ReplyDeleteAm a strong lady. Very in control, very independent, very sound but find it dufficult to fall in Love, probably because i have not met my spec.
ReplyDeleteThat man must be confident, comfortable, command respect and cultured. How many Cs? As well as educated up to UNI.
Family background irrespective. And when that man comes by, Mehnnn!!! It's gonna be heaven on earth cos i have what it takes to keep a man. Just that am picky and only those I do not desire come my way. High flyers can't settle for less. Not me.
Strong ladies know what they want. I have the picture of my kind of man. I easily recognise the physical but inner mostly turn off. He may turn out to be jobless contrary to what was presented. May be a cheat. May be dirty, have either mouth or body odour. Or outrightly a PARASITE.
Can't deal! Will switch off and turn my back no matter how handsome.
Why not give him a chance
ReplyDeleteYou turned him down and you are crying in your closet. It doesn’t make sense
As a strong girl you can handle it
ReplyDeleteposter wipe off those tears oh.i put it to you,you aint ready yet!
ReplyDeletemost girls always want to be in a relationship and claim to love but truth is,most of them are not ready and they go on to blame guys.just be calm.do not rush things.
My advice. The way u have been crying may also be the way he has been crying. Call him up and ask to meet with him somewhere like an eatery. Pour out to your mind to him and see how it goes. But if he has already moved on,my dear it was never meant to be o. Move on as well and believe that the best of love and loving is yet to come your way. May God see you through.
ReplyDeleteThe guy yaf nack pigeon on your head
ReplyDeleteSend a text that says “I love u” to him and leave the rest
ReplyDeleteDarling, the most important thing you need to work on is your mindset. Before you start jonesing for your "lost love", you have to renew your mind. Even if you succeed in getting him back, this self-destructive inferiority complex of yours will still sabotage your relationship. We are born into the families we belong to by accident of birth, not by choice. Where you come from is not as important as where you aspire to be or where you're going to.
ReplyDeleteDo you realize that some of the wealthiest people come from humble beginnings? So you come from a humble background, sweetheart, what does that have to do with being worthy of being loved by a man from middleclass? So if a guy form the upper class asked you out, does that mean you will totally freak out because you feel unworthy?
I know a lot of men from rich homes would rather marry into families with similar backgrounds, but there are some who would rather have a woman of substance. If you better yourself by renewing your mind and reaching the pinnacle of your education or career and you become successful, you can stand toe to toe with the crème de la crème of high society. I will borrow a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent".
Sweetheart, I'm not going to address the one that got away because I want you to work on yourself first, make sure you are psychologically healthy before you allow a guy be part of your life. Darling, please realise that the only person who is being hampered by your background is YOU. Don't be intimidated by anyone's background. If you can, stay away from dating for now. Work on yourself and your mindset. Sweetie, you are a Queen and you better start believing it. You don't run after men, rather men chase after you.
e-hugs and kisses.
Don't waste time working on yourself. Call the guy and let him love you. Dating is nit marriage. You don't have to Marty him but give him a chance to love you
DeleteI understand how you must have felt. Inferiority complex is real, depending on how impoverished you were before you met your man.
ReplyDeleteConsidering that i am someone who do not like to go past her boundary and I didn't believe in fantasizing.
I had always told myself that all those rich boy meets girl scenarios, only starts and ends in movies.
Reality to me,was a different ball game.
I was once in your shoes. I met my husband by recommendation though.
When i met my him, i engaged in self-serving behaviours. Do you blame me? He was too good to be true. Someone like me, from a broken home, no educational qualification. Also coming from a family where five of us lived in one room. He came from old money, biracial and schooled in one of those pristine schools overseas. I ran and made a lot of excuses of why it wasnt meant to be.Thank God he didnt give up on us.
I understand you completely, it happens. However, next time you come across a guy like that and he adores you...please don't ever let him go.
There's something called the law of attraction, google it...we attract the people, situations, what we want into our lives.
ReplyDeleteIf in your heart you feel that you are not deserving of people that are well to do, you will most likely end up with someone form your social circle. it's just conditioning.
You here people say they don't know why they attract a particular kind of people, or certain things keep happening to them and they wonder why me...it's simply because that is what their subconscious attracts.
*Self-defeating* sorry. Auto correct.
ReplyDeleteYou've said it all @Ronalda
ReplyDeleteI just have one question for you poster, so does it mean that you are waiting for a guy from the same class before you can say yes to a relationship? I feel like giving you a head resetting slap. You better wipe your eyes and cunningly go get your guy.
ReplyDeleteWhere you born on world suffering day? Do you want to suffer till you drop? I admire self-sufficient and enterprising women but there's nothing wrong in dating a successful guy.
ReplyDeleteChronicle of a low self esteem girl claiming to be strong hearted.
ReplyDeleteWater too much for your eyes...hahaha....
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