Having this feeling is a place many do not want to go but a place where many live and are stuck in......
Or do you regret decisions not taken/made?
If the decision you made went South,did you rectify it or it is still echoing and you still live with Regrets?......
Some people have made decisions and still pay the price today.......
What do you Regret?
My only regret is not travelling out of this shit hole when I had the opportunity to.I regret it day and night and I continue to pray that another opportunity comes up soon.
ReplyDeleteNaija girls!
DeleteNone! Because I blv mistakes r lesson, learn from it forge ahead.
DeleteHmmmmmm
DeleteMy only regret is seeing my mom helpless and couldn't wake her. I think with time I am finding closure
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for your loss dear
DeleteI regret till tomorrow not studying Law. I wanted to be a lawyer but my parents influenced my decision by telling lawyers are liars...kids who grew up in d 90's know that was the famous chants about lawyers and the profession wasn't seen as a morally upright profession according to most parents of the 90's. I later delved into d scientific world as i grew up.
ReplyDeleteI regret not standing my ground till d due time.
I also regret not applying for an application cos i weighed the ups and downs of it and the downs took a better part of it.
Well, it will get better.
How old are you? You can still go back for the law degree you know. Don't let age be your barrier. People over 50 still go back to school. It will be a disaster to live the next 50 years of your life regretting something you can correct in 4/5 years. Go get that law degree
DeleteI started a cool business that yielded good profit. I was supposed to buy a piece of land somewhere. Somewhere along the line I got vain I guess,bought a car instead. Car was stolen before its first birthday 😆😆😆.
DeleteIt's amazing how I can laugh about it now but I had to learn the hard way. So many other lessons of life...las las,I go dey alright.
"Regret" is a tough word for me. I prefer "lesson".
@AprilChild
DeleteShe isn't going to answer that your question in this life until death do everybody part!
But someone who "grew up in the 90s" is no longer a kid
Deeza was the car not insured. Your car should always be insured
DeleteCome ANG u know uve bin annoying me a lot these days...pls just keep off for now. I will pour kernel oil on u o.
DeleteI regret investing all I worked for including my business money into mmm out of greed
DeleteI lost millions in mmm too. All my life savings! So painful
DeleteI regret going out with my best friend's father. We only romanced but the guilt never goes away
ReplyDeleteAnno gone wrong 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteIs Kokolet her real name?
DeleteI never meant to go anonymous. Yes I did what I did
DeleteMy only regret is marrying my husband
ReplyDeleteNdo
DeleteMe too. Still paying for that mistake 8 years later. May God help me out of it.
DeleteI regret being married to my supposed husband
ReplyDeleteI regret not putting in for degree when I had the opportunity to (had just ND and I thought the degree would be possible after marriage)
I regret not marrying one of my rich suitors and that I settled for a lowlife and a very lazy man who is comfortable in poverty.
I regret marrying into this type of family.
I regret that I failed as a parent as I can't give my children a comfortable life that I dreamt of.
My life is a crap, I'm just taking each and everyday as it comes.
Look for a way to improve yourself. Your husband has no hold over who you have become. Unless you're also a lazy lowlife as you call him. Get up and start a hussle.....either get paid employment or start a small business. You can make a difference to your situation if you so desire
DeleteI think you are an Idiot,if you don't know what people are going through don't judge them. I work but it's not just enough taking care of kids with my meagre salary. I want to start business no funds. Ode oponu stay off my comment or thunder go fire you. Don't let me vent all my anger on you o,I'm frustrated already. Is it not even better that I don't have husband,rather than have one he's just there as decorations. I pray for you April children you'll experience what I'm going through in Jesus name Amen settled!
DeleteMy dear I understand. Marrying the wrong spouse is one of the worst mistakes you can make. It can derail you for such a long time.
DeleteGod doesn't answer such prayers. Use your energy to pray for breakthrough. Hope you feel better now. Rem when you curse it comes back to you 100 fold.
DeleteYou need to free your mind from the pressure and don't become bitter. God will send help your way. No need to pray and curse with same mouth. Reverse it
DeleteI feel u. I regret marrying my husband. He and his family have inferiority complex and it affects everything. Guess I should have listened to my mother when she said his background is too different and low level from mine instead I was doing love.
DeleteAnon 21:04 I think Aprilchild deserve more,because she doesn't know what it feels like carrying a load meant for two,work really hard yet suffering or wash gutter and clothes for people so that my children don't go hungry before month end,While their father is still alive Hale and hearty and all he does is to always go sit with pensioners gisting and waiting for them to connect him to jobs that's never in existence,rather than take himself out there and search for one. I'm not cursing him or her it's just a little prayer because she doesn't know my stuggle. I hustle really hard
Deletewhen people vent here lets us try and feel their pains rather than give useless advise, dyu think such a poster wouldnt have considered the things u typed on her own, her pain is what it is, wat she needs is someone to offer comfort and reassurance rather than debase the situation by giving a useless advise
DeleteI regret marrying my ex-husband! He had such an inferiority complex and is the greatest abuser I ever met!
DeleteDon't have any and I don't want to... That's why I think very well, before doing anything... God has been so good
ReplyDelete13th of March, 2019 would have been a day I would forever regret and hunt me assuming I did otherwise.
ReplyDeleteThat day was my CDS(I am a corp member), after the stress I went through at the local government and coupled with the fact that I will still go to where I learn Fashion Design and later go back to work on that same day.
After I got home to changed from Khaki to my office wears, a neighbor called me to please helped her to request for a ride on Uber, that one man is sick and needed to go to the hospital. My phone was on 1 percent, I quickly followed her and requested for the ride, immediately I finished speaking with the driver, my phone went off, I told the man's wife they should get ready, the ride is almost here.
I went in to plug my phone to my laptop, my neighbor called me a car is outside, I went out to call the man's wife and son, I saw the man leaving his room by himself, I told the son to stay at the back with him and the wife should stay at the front.
But,
Unfortunately the man died at the entrance of the general hospital.
It was later when I got back at night I was told.
I was just wondering, assuming the man died at home or I was selfish with my 1 percent battery, the guilt who torture me ehn, that assuming I helped out, he might nor have died...
So what are you regretting? What's your point?
DeleteMaybe you should read what she wrote again. Oya.
DeleteHow u manage pass exam do service? Was this the question asked????????
DeleteOver sabi zeus dat question should be for u.
DeleteWhat she's trying to say is that if she hadn't helped out by calling the Uber driver to take her neighbor to the hospital, and he eventually died, she would have lived with a guilty conscience for the rest of her life.
DeleteRegrets? I think about it everyday. Made so many mistakes and wish I can turn back the hands of time. Close my eyes sometimes and wish I'd wake up to 10 years ago. Okay 5 years if 10 is too much to ask. I am still waiting to wake up like in the movies where people get to do it all over again.
ReplyDeleteMaybe one day.
I am coming back to write my very long epistle. The story of my life.
O my pls don't live like this. Just start from today to do your best. I don't blame you too much. Nigeria can feel very unforgiving to bad decisions. You pick one career and it's hard to change to another even though you picked it in high school
DeleteY'all should watch Throwback Holiday. Very interesting...
DeleteNo regret cos life happens and we move on.
ReplyDeleteI regret ever putting friends first in my past. I would do anything to make my friends happy, even at the expense of my happiness.
DeleteIn November 2014, i met a very cute guy and it was love at first sight; he struck me, and i will never forget how i felt that day. We got talking, i found out he was a footballer and was new in my country of residence at the time.
We had our first date (no form of intimacy) and everything seemed to be going on fine until my friend asked me to follow her to Nigeria to process some documents and i accepted.
My new love interest begged me not to leave him, told me how he needed me and was in love with me, but in my foolishness, my friend was more important.
I came to Nigeria and assisted this girl the best way possible, only to return and realised my love interest had traveled to another country for work... We continued our conversation but he didn't forgive me for putting my friend above him.
Today, i am single and lonely, and my darling bestie doesn't even call me anymore... I learned the hard way.
If i were to turn back the hands of time, i would have said no to my friend and built a relationship with this cutie 😭😭😭 i still miss him and i still regret because almost 5yrs later, and i haven't felt that way about no one
I'm sorry 16:54 but that is not love. Love cannot be mad at you for making a decision. That is control. Pls find true love
DeleteIt is not control. The guy may have realised he was just not priority in her life and couldn't carry on. Some people cant cope with certain things doesnt necessarily mean its control. You people should stop commenting from one track mind abeg.
DeleteIf he is not married go to where he is and have a face to face discussion. Good luck
DeleteI'm sorry but it's control
DeleteLove can let you go and come. His kind won't let his wife travel for business. Common girlfriend he's mad that she travelled. That's not love. They were still talking. She wasn't gone forever. Pls find someone else
It looks like you out your friend above yourself. And now you're putting him above you. Love that can't he rekindled was never that strong. Let it go. While you're focusing on him , you're missing the present.
DeleteMy biggest regret ever is bringing my brother abroad, hoping that when he settles, he will support me in helping our family in Africa . Now he made and vowed never to help anyone including his own Dad. My prayers for him is that he will reap what he sow. His children will treat him worst than how he is treating our Dad. He will never know peace in his life. Evil heartless brother.
ReplyDeleteIf you believe God answers your prayers, why not pray that he will change
DeleteGod gave every human being a power to CHOOSE between right and wrong.
DeleteWhy do people waste their time praying for him to take away another human being power of CHOICE, ???.
Which is a quality that makes us human.
How do you expect that prayer to be answered?.
Poster pls, pray for ypurself, so that posperity can locate you beyond your imaginations so you wouldnt need anyones help to take care of your Dad
Pls madam that prayer is answered all the time. Read ya Bible. He turneth the heart of Kings. He hardened the heart of pharoah. So yes , God can change your will if he wants
DeleteMy regret is schooling in an all girl's secondary school. My parents should have put me in a mixed school. Na wah.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you think that would have done. You'd be married? I know plenty all girls school kids that are married with kids
DeleteAnon she's bi
DeleteWrong prayer. Stop wasting energy, chose another prayer point. God won’t answer this crap. He has his reasons
DeleteAll girls school didn't make my friends bi oh. All the breasts and nyash we saw
DeleteA lot.....
ReplyDeleteRegrets; mmmmhhhhhh
ReplyDeleteMy only regret be say my Naija girls no dey hear, even when I been warn them
If my neighbor been listen to me when im fiancee dump am at 4 month pregnancy,
she for no travel (to get away from my pleas of conscience make she no tepu) shoot off pikin.
Everyday, I see this beautiful, dutiful, ebullient woman with great capacity to love. Her smile can
lit up the whole room no matter how dark.
Chai, I don begin blow grammar, na when something touch me bad bad I dey shift go grammar.
So she come die; instead of shoot off the baby, na suicide bomb she come press.
Cyn. ndo ooo. Ya demise been pain me well well!😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
The biggest regret I've ever had was not calling the cops on my ex hubby back in the states.this man was practically hitting me,but I was beclouded by love.now we are back to this country and the hitting continues,I'm now beginning to resent him .i can't go back to the state because I no longer have a valid visa.if I had known I would have called the cops on him,he even hits me in the presence of my 2years old son.
ReplyDeletePls get help. You can get help. Are your children citizens of the U.S? You can report him to their embassy there in lagos
DeleteEya.
DeleteToo bad
DeleteMk evidence available and go to the US embassy if ur kids r citizens
DeleteIf he is your ex, why is he still hitting you? I don’t understand.
DeleteKiks that's a good question
DeleteI don’t know if this is regret, but I got a cancer free histology report and kinda felt disappointed. Life is tiring.
ReplyDeleteO my! I'm so sorry you feel that way. pls get help
DeleteI don't understand
Delete@tenth, she means she wishes she had cancer
DeleteSomebody loves you.
DeleteGod loves you and will turn around that situation you're going through. Please know that for sure
DeleteI read this in shock... and didn’t know when I started crying
DeleteI beg God to please heal you of whatever heartache and pain your heart is feeling.
Lost at my child here suffering, fighting with all that is in him. A clean histology report, a clear PET scan and ‘ No Evidence of Diseae’ report from the doctors is what my heart yearns for every night and day.
Please do not wish yourself cancer, or os suffering no one deserves
God’s blessings to you 🙏🙏🙏
I regret not telling my mom that the baby slipped from my hands while bathing her, I was scared she would beat me as I was still very young. She died few weeks later and I feel I should have told mumsy maybe she would have taken her to the hospital and maybe she would be here today I don't know if the fall added to her death cos she cried from her sleep and was rushed to the hospital where she was pronounced dead. It's been 18years and I still cry anytime I remember it. I told my mum about it after sometime but she told me it wasn't my fault. God please forgive me. I love you precious where ever you are.
ReplyDeleteI doubt it.
DeleteBabies have soft skull thay cushions falls.
When babies fall, most times, it doesn't affect them.
Even at that, i think it takes few days for complications from falls to arise, and not few weeks.
From what u described, the baby might have had untreated fever.
Let it go.
It was zero fault of yours , and i mean it.
If it makes you feel better, my baby fell from my bed thrice during infancy.
And he is a healthy toddler, now.
Poster, God created babies heads to withstand falls.
DeleteGoogle it.
It wasnt your fault, let it go and find healing
stop beating yourself up ok. Kids fall injure in our absence and they don’t die, a 2day old child of a neighbor slipped from his hand landed her head on a hard floor, grandma carried d baby put okgwuma and that was it. Baby is 9months and kicking. God protects children, it was her time to go ok. Wasn’t u that killed her
DeleteSorry dear but I don't think it's your fault. My son rolled down the stairs before he was 1 and nothing happened to him. My mum nearly fell off the stairs trying to catch him. If she had I am sure it would have been a disaster. But the boy was playing around by the next day.....the xray we took showed all was fine
DeleteSo sorry. God comfort you.
DeleteNot your fault at all. My 1day old baby fell from my hand while breastfeeding him. He 9years today,healthy and smart.
DeleteMy last baby 3years now,developing perfectly,fell severally from my bed when he was still under 1yr. My husband had my bed dismantled instantly at midnight because the last fall happened while he was still awake.
I regret not seeking asylum in Canada when I had the opportunity.
ReplyDeleteLeaving Nigeria to go ND study abroad.
ReplyDeleteThis one na regret abi na wish?
DeleteNaija girls!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I regret not accepting my Nursing admission into the university. Now my cousin is very rich and doing well for her self. We both had the admission but i rejected mine all cus i wanted to be a medical doctor. Some times i wish to take another jamb to go back to school and sturdy the Nursing.
ReplyDeleteWell go ahead and do that. What's there to lose. My friend just became a nurse now at 41. Why regret what you can change
DeleteI regret not entering university on time. Thanks to Nigerian university system. Finished school 2009. I'm in my final year in university but I won't lie to you it's hard mostly when you see people who are less than 20 in the same class as you. All my friends are all done with getting their undergraduate degree.
ReplyDeleteDon't ever feel bad about this,my friend finished late,she was one of the oldest in our class,guess what,she got a job immediately after service in our course,while I finished and 7 years later I am just getting my first sensible job as secretary. I don old join. Now I am the same age with her when she got her own job. So I beg you,no body is ever too early or late with God. Just be grateful and remain faithful to God always.
DeleteI used to regret why I got carried away with getting married and got Married at 24. I used to wish I had pursued a career as against starting a family. I prayed to God and he spoke to me,he told me I don't know what I would have become if I was still single. Truth is I might have ended up having alot of boyfriends or mixed with my girls who don open eyes. Now I have started appreciating God and tell him to have his way. Truthfully he has started what he said he will do.
DeleteI regret letting my mother intimidate me , bullied me into agreeing with her . I still regret it. I am seriously keeping my distance and sanity away from her. You know that kind of mother that wants to still control you in your husbands house. That mother that keeps you away from extended gq that you grew up with. That mother that wants you to di
DeleteI regret it everyday. I don't even want to say it to anyone.
ReplyDeleteEyaaaa. Try and let go ko. The Lord is your strength.
DeleteI regret not doing my masters when i was still single
ReplyDeleteI tell you, there is little you can do 'education wise' after marriage.
DeleteIt depends on your spouse. Some even sent their wives to school after marriage. I did my Masters after 2 children. My sis-inlaw just got her PhD after being married for about 10 yeats with 3 children.. Some men are supporting their wives to fly and achieve their dreams
DeleteI regret not reading medicine. I so much had the passion but I was discouraged three different times by family and friends. I regret not standing my ground even though I knew I was getting old then. I'm a Chartered accountant now but nothing to show for it.
ReplyDeleteI regret being born into this country. When people say 'thank God for life, I'm like is it worth living. Everything is hard I swear.
I had a classmate in medical school who was approaching 40 or was in his forties.
DeleteHe had a wife and kids.
Dust yourself and start again if you really want it.
I regret not getting a job before marriage, it would have been easy...
ReplyDeleteI really don’t have regrets. They are just lessons. I love one of Rihanna’s tattoos. “Never a failure, always a lesson.”
ReplyDeleteThey are just lessons... you mean nothing pains you when you think back? You try ooo.
DeleteI regret being a member of my family. The scandal and curse too much abeg. Stella the day I have strength, I'll send a chronicle. I'm the same poster who's married sister sleep around. Imagine coming from a family of 7 (our parents excluded) both males and females but being the only bread winner. Imagine catering for your cheating sis, her hubby and kids. Taking care of ur dad and the other siblings yet...in fact I no get strength. I'll send my chronicle soon
ReplyDeleteIt is well maam,!!
DeleteMadam, cut everyone off for like 3yrs and see if they will die. That is what i intend doing the moment i can secure anoda job . no one will trace me.let them sit up and fend for themselves, one of my parent is late and the living one collects pension and house rent. but you need to move ur life forward becos no one is worth dying for.
DeleteI regret passing through my family.The issues are much. Imagine having broken relationships and what you hear is that your bloodline is responsible. its heart breaking i must say. but God is not asleep , he has answered my prayers in faith, i call those things which be not as though they were.
DeleteI regret not reconciling with my dad before he died, he abandoned my mum and i when i was only two, he tried reaching out when i was already in the university but it was too late. I hope he finds eternal peace.The woman he left my mum for was his undoing.
ReplyDeleteSorry love. I would not have reconciled so I don't blame you
DeleteI regret getting married to my ex husband,wish I didn't marry him but just have my baby then,he was a mean person as in very wicked but I appreciate the fact that I have my girls .
ReplyDeleteI don't know yet If I have regrets.
ReplyDeleteHeartbreaking regrets up there.
ReplyDeleteMay God give us all the strength to correct our mistakes.
My own regret is not getting a University degree. I had tried to get admission into the university for three years without success after my SSCE, then on the fourth year, I enrolled in a Polytechnic. I see people who cannot even stand me 'bookwise' get juicy jobs with their University degrees while I rot away here.
Now, low funds would not allow me do anything about my education. I will just look for a skill to learn. May God help me
Many of those with education issues need a mentor. Stella pls maybe we need a post for education mentoring like the one you do for business. People just don't seem to know how to start over
Delete18:12 you are so right. Like me, I even have a masters...no job for years. Want to reeducate, but not sure of which path to take...16:56 pls try distance learning. They have good programs in UI.
DeleteTry Open University
DeleteMy only regret is coming to this country(United States) 17 years ago. Though I make good money as a nurse practitioner but I always has this feeling that if I had stayed back in Nigeria I would have made it big as a chartered accountant in one of these companies. I have been a nurse for the past 13 years and I'm burned out already, I'm hating it everyday. I wish I can change career at 40, but hubby keep telling me don't do it you are just going through a midlife
ReplyDeletecrisis, you will be fine.
13 years will burn anyone out. If you have enough to pay the bills for a few months, consider a break for at least a month. Relax, travel with friends. Just enjoy . Accounting is a very tough job. I think you'd have been burned out there too
DeletePlease don't feel burned out. Go on vacation if you can. Read books too, it helps to your mind off some things, while enriching your mind.
DeleteThanks anon 18:15, I have thought about taking the whole of summer off and travel. Thanks for the thoughtful advice.
DeleteSue you have tried. If there is something that fuels your passion, try and dabble into it. If you really enjoy it, drop nursing and face it squarely. All the best.
DeleteOr you can switch to education. Nursing education, become a lecturer
DeleteWrite articles, pursue a masters, then get your Ph.D
Shola,is this you? Did you serve in kano. You know your friends in abuja. Contact me pls. Thanks
DeleteI regret having a baby out of wedlock but God knows best as I am happy looking at baby now
ReplyDeletePidgin writer Aka mama blog pikin
God will come thru for u dear
DeleteChildren are a gift...
DeleteMy regret is taking my bf above a secret admired, who intended to take me out of the country to US.
ReplyDeleteI declined cos I feel my bf has done nothing wrong for me to leave him
I am here today, wishing I could turn back the hands of time
I regret believing the lie that money in marriage is "our".
ReplyDeleteI regret marrying down.
I'm from a very comfortably home, a banker earning "armed robber" salary before I got married to someone born and brought up in d village.
I earned like times 5 of his salary but it was our money. He dictates what we do with the money. Built house in Lagos and bought one in his place with a car loan I got. Years down I lost my job, he gets rapid promotion, increased salary but it is his Money. Fixes his extended family and outsiders needs before remembering me and the children.
Recently told me the two houses we have in Lagos is his own, that I should go work, earn money and build a house if I want to own one.
My bp keeps going up and down cos of him. He keeps malice like a woman, highly manipulative, but I am working on getting my life back. I was stupidly blind in love. I know God's got my back though. I will laugh last. I used to be very bitter that it affected my spiritual life but I'm trusting the holy spirit to perfect my healing process, purge out every bitterness and resentment and give me wisdom to manage him .
Madam,I will keep u in my prayers.may God perfect all that concern u.
DeleteSending you loads of hugs.
DeleteGod's got your back.
Chin up, As the Lord lives, You will rise again.
Stay strong.
Pls don't give up
DeleteSome people are terrible!
Wicked people everywhere I shudder.
DeleteE-hugs madam. We learn everyday. May God replenish all you lost 100 folds.
DeleteSo sorry. Only God can be trusted. Take good care of your health, make yourself happy and do the best you can. Forgive him for your peace of mind...By God's grace all will be well.
DeleteI regret dating you 'Ife'. I regret aging yes to you. I regret loving you. I still love you and I don't think I'd ever stop but wish I had kept our friendship s friendship.
ReplyDeletePeople are going through a lot.
ReplyDeleteOooh the peace of the Lord I pray for everyone.
As I read I can see that devil is really working to steal,kill and destroy.
Marriages,careers,destinies until all that is left is a suicidal being that cannot do much to affect the society positively because they can't even help themselves.
I decree and declare that whatever has been lost will be restored 10fold newer and better,we will all fulfill purpose and our expectations will not be cut short!
Amen.
Amen! God bless you.
DeleteAmen!!
DeleteI wish I didn't say yes to him....
ReplyDeletenever a failure always a lesson. think I will get the tattoo.
ReplyDeleteDefacing your body is not it
DeleteHave it engraved in your memory
Thats the best place
I regret not marry when I had d chance to do,now I'm 36 still single
ReplyDeleteIf you focus on finding someone , you might get a good one soon. The one you left may not be right. You still have a chance to find another
DeleteNews flash, l know someone getting married in few months, she is 39, babe relax, be positive, attend GEN218 mfm,
DeleteThank God o , i still get hope, i am 38
Deletei regret coming to this European country for studies,wish i had followed my intuition and gone to canada to study instead because probably it would have been easier for me to apply for PR but now here i am stuck,confused and broke and scared of coming back to Nigeria because it's been years i left and i dont even know where to start from.Life has been stagnant and i feel stuck.I cry myself to sleep almost every night.Time is flying by and even with my masters degree i dont have a career and stuck with menial jobs.God please change my situation,please put smiles on my face and make me happy again
ReplyDeleteMadam use your masters and apply for Canadian express entry, very easy. Don't remain in regrets ohh
DeleteI deeply regret marrying my ex husband. My daughter is the only thing I do not regret out of that marriage but I can not provide for and since the heartless my is not sending money for child upkeep it is been really difficult for us but I am trusting God for a turnaround. I need a teaching job or money to perfect my sewing skill as everything I know about sewing I learnt online. I need a paying job desperately not just to take care of myself and daughter but also to be able to afford a divorce lawyer. God please help me and my daughter. I need a teaching job in port harcourt I have a B.sc in education.
ReplyDeleteI regret being a selfish asshole.
ReplyDelete