One of the saddest thing I have heard in prison was from a young guy. He gave me his mum's number and asked me to call her and tell her he is sorry.
Wow. The expression on his face almost made me break down.
There is this very handsome dude in prison, a Van Vicker look alike. Recently the guy was telling us how his wife has stopped visiting and picking his calls. So he decided to talk to their pastor and surprisingly the pastor told him that the wife is still a young woman so he should let her go. The pastor say the dude should sign divorce papers so his wife can remarry.
Before you start thinking the pastor is doing this so he can have his way with the woman, the pastor's wife is also in on this. The pastor's wife has spoken to fine dude to also let go. Dude says he hasn't seen his wife and child ( they have just a child) for several months now.
Dude is depressed right now, his family was what was keeping him going. In that prison you got to have something to keep you going, something you look forward to.
Let me explain a little about the guy's situation, the guy is guilty of the crime he is in prison for, he has spent 3 years in prison and he is still awaiting trial.
Like I wrote said, guy is very good looking so I'm assuming his wife is too. So should she continue to wait for him, for a crime he committed? didn't they say it's for better or worse?
There is this very handsome dude in prison, a Van Vicker look alike. Recently the guy was telling us how his wife has stopped visiting and picking his calls. So he decided to talk to their pastor and surprisingly the pastor told him that the wife is still a young woman so he should let her go. The pastor say the dude should sign divorce papers so his wife can remarry.
Before you start thinking the pastor is doing this so he can have his way with the woman, the pastor's wife is also in on this. The pastor's wife has spoken to fine dude to also let go. Dude says he hasn't seen his wife and child ( they have just a child) for several months now.
Dude is depressed right now, his family was what was keeping him going. In that prison you got to have something to keep you going, something you look forward to.
Let me explain a little about the guy's situation, the guy is guilty of the crime he is in prison for, he has spent 3 years in prison and he is still awaiting trial.
Like I wrote said, guy is very good looking so I'm assuming his wife is too. So should she continue to wait for him, for a crime he committed? didn't they say it's for better or worse?
What if he is sentenced to 10 years or above?
If the tables were turned, would he have waited for her?
Assuming they are your siblings,what would be your advice to them?
I'm most grateful for our work in the prison, because we bring hope and encouragement to these people. Guy was suicidal before we started talking with him. Now he has something to look forward to, he looks forward to our meetings.
So please share your thoughts, who knows he might be reading. These guys they have phones and are on social medias.
He should set the woman free, especially if the woman never supported him in his crimes. But if they were in it together, then he should not let her go. He should also know that the only true friend in life is God, God should be his reason for living and holding on.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that for better for worse is still working.
ReplyDeleteThey are married oo. Did the wife know about this guy's illegal activities that caused him to be locked behind bars? For better for worst.
ReplyDeleteI have a guy who calls me from on of these Cells, hes still going to court since 2016!!!! Nobody to bail him out also, Naija cell or prison is nothing to write home about! If u enter once, u will never want to commit a crime in ur life!... Our Judicial system is just total Shiiite!!
ReplyDeleteKelvin Dat Edo Boi (Stellz Cousin)
My dear this is very deep oo but to me i think it depends on the kind of relationship he had with the wife before he went to prison..
ReplyDelete*Was he a good father and husband
*Did he treat the woman right
*Is he worth the wait
For me this are the questions that will consider before asking the woman to stay or leave and i doubt if the man will wait that long if the table were turned .
You are so right Arab money...you don't expect a wife whom you did not treat well to stick with you.My elder sister's childhood friend waited for her hubby who was arrested in the early years of their marriage.She waited for her man through thick and thin and even shared her kids to relations in other to survive, Last Christmas i saw her cruising with her family complete.
DeleteIn other news, Nigerian system is somehow, A man can be awaiting trials up to 6 to 10 yrs without success.I had 10 prison inmate that i used to visit monthly when i was in school.No body comes to visit them even family.My coming in a month then gave that same feeling of "boarding house visiting day", they call me on phone that time to tell me what to bring along for them.
One day one called me after my graduation that he has been released and that i was the first person he called.the joy was out of this world for him.
This issue of prisoners do break my heart. I visit Kirikiri often because I have some clients among the warders, I always leave there very sad.
ReplyDeleteThe fact is, he should just free the lady, he's been there for 3yrs and still awaiting trial, who knows how many years he will be sentenced if he's found guilty?
*Larry was here*
Kudos Iya Ibeji for visiting those in bonds.
ReplyDeleteBut the way you dey repeat "the guy is so fine", fear don dey catch me . . .
Say you fit follow dey buy snuff enter market like Naija girls? 😊
I was just trying to let you see how good looking he is o. The guy stood out . I don't understand your last statement tho
DeleteYou still dey talk am. Ngwanu tell us wetin stand out(side) of im trouser. 😁😁😁😁☺☺☺
DeleteAbeg which Prison you dey visit Iya Beji....i wan follow you
DeleteOde always yarning dust. What do you want to hear? That she is eyeing the guy abi? Ewu.
DeleteLol, what to do now
DeleteInstead of telling prisoners the word of God, you are looking for the dudes that stand out?
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So sad.....
ReplyDeleteIt depends on his crime and if she was in on it. If she truly loves him she will stay no matter what happens.
God help them.
He's been in prison for 3years awaiting trial???😳😳😳
ReplyDeleteMay God punish all our lazy judges.
There are cases like that even in the US. We have 2016 booking numbers. Means they were booked in sometime in 2016. Still in Jail and haven’t gone to trial yet. It’s one continuance after another. Very frustrating for the parties involved.
DeleteHe should free the lady...when he gets out they can discuss co-parenting.
ReplyDeleteIya ibeji...it's social media not medias. The singular form is Medium.
Let me read comments
ReplyDeleteIts a pity
ReplyDeleteReally a pity
ReplyDeleteReminds me of a guy I met on 2go as a teenager,he finally opened up to me that he was in prison for Yahoo..
ReplyDeleteAbandoned his final exams and spent almost 5years of his life there before after so much money and pulling of strings he was released.
We kept in touch now and then, but do you know not too long ago in the news I saw that him and two other accomplices were arrested for snatching an uber guys car.
Na wa!
Nigerian prison is a dungeon and not a correctional facility.
I can imagine how it is in Nigerian Prisons. I had accompanied my friend to go visit her Brother in PH Prison once. What l saw was nothing but chaos. The Wardens were all busy selling things and ignored us. It was one prisoner, that came and asked us who we wanted to see. He then went and called my friend’s brother for us. This guy is fine too. He was at Uniport abd went to a club. NDLEA, raided the club and took everyone because they were selling drugs there. This was in 1997. It took some weeks before they sorted out the real dealers and released the innocent ones. My eyes shine that day.
ReplyDeleteMy second experience is different. I have worked in the Jail, for twenty years now. I have seen female officers get in trouble over the fine guys in jail. There are a lot of them and they are smooth. Very smooth!! I have seen Translators flash inmates too. I have seen a female Attorney doing doggy style with an inmate that killed his whole family.
Dude needs to move on. Here, once some people get locked up, depending on their crime, the other spouse doesn’t waste anytime filling for divorce. We see the Sheriff come deliver No contact orders daily. Heck!! Even the ones locked up, ask programs for divorce papers abd fill out themselves. Nor be by force. Let dude let her go. But, if he was innocent, l would have said the wife should stand by him.
I can imagine how it is in Nigerian Prisons. I had accompanied my friend to go visit her Brother in PH Prison once. What l saw was nothing but chaos. The Wardens were all busy selling things and ignored us. It was one prisoner, that came and asked us who we wanted to see. He then went and called my friend’s brother for us. This guy is fine too. He was at Uniport abd went to a club. NDLEA, raided the club and took everyone because they were selling drugs there. This was in 1997. It took some weeks before they sorted out the real dealers and released the innocent ones. My eyes shine that day.
ReplyDeleteMy second experience is different. I have worked in the Jail, for twenty years now. I have seen female officers get in trouble over the fine guys in jail. There are a lot of them and they are smooth. Very smooth!! I have seen Translators flash inmates too. I have seen a female Attorney doing doggy style with an inmate that killed his whole family.
Dude needs to move on. Here, once some people get locked up, depending on their crime, the other spouse doesn’t waste anytime filling for divorce. We see the Sheriff come deliver No contact orders daily. Heck!! Even the ones locked up, ask programs for divorce papers abd fill out themselves. Nor be by force. Let dude let her go. But, if he was innocent, l would have said the wife should stand by him.
Whoa@ your story. I'm guessing you are abroad. Yhe attorney and inmate I raise Beyonce hand for them. But it happens here, Wardens get female inmates pregnant. Story for another day
DeleteYes, l am. Read up the scandal in a jail in Maryland.
DeleteOne male inmate got three female officers pregnant. Three gullible female officers. They got manipulated big time.
My brother in law is in prison and news filtered in the his wife is sleeping around my husband said he doesn't blame her that its been 6 years
ReplyDeleteWe need to reform our prison system so that going to prison will reform and not make one worse. Prisoners are still humans who can contribute positively to a country even while in prison. In several advance parts of the world, prisoners get to get an education, acquire skills and training that will help them re-enter society, they work without pay in various communities and the married ones are allowed conjugal visits and children come to see them. It's unfortunate that here, going to prison is a death sentence.
ReplyDeleteAs for the wife and the guy, it depends on the foundation of their marriage.... A lot got to be considered. But as Christians... it is for better or for worse. You may not have bargained for it, here proves the depth of your love.
Some people are worth waiting for.
ReplyDeleteHow does one join the prison ministry's. I will like to visit them someday
ReplyDeleteFor better, for worse is not in the Bible. I don't know why people say it.
ReplyDeleteThe wife should go and seek the face of God. That they had legal or church ceremony doesn't mean God had any hand in their joining. If God isn't the one that joined them, He is under no obligation to do anything to restore this marriage. And this might be His way of setting the woman free.
I'm too afraid to ask what the guy did cos I might not like the answer. If this marriage was ordained by God, the wife should ask Him what the next step is. A pastor is not God.