RE-WHAT COULD HAVE HAPPENED
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Good day Stella,
This is the update of the chronicle I sent earlier.
The misunderstanding lasted for six months which he didn't bother to call or pin-point what went wrong.
When I could not handle the issue, I was forced to involve his mum and my parent, his mum promised to give me a feed back after talking to him which I didn't get, my parent called him and he didn't turn-up too. At some point, I forgot about him.
Towards the end of the year, I called him, telling him, I needed to pick my items with him, he fixed a date and we met.
Getting there, he apologized for all his wrong and didn't allow me pick the items I intended picking, he apologized so much that he followed me home to see my parent.
Seeing them, he apologized for not showing up all these while and gave his reasons. He promised to be well behaved and make things right this time.
I asked him what his next line of action is, he told me to give him time.
Note: after his plea and promise, have been guiding my heart jealously because I am very emotional and things get to me easily. I no longer look forward to seeing him, I don't miss him. At times, I don't even remember he exists which is unlike me because I don't want anything that will hurt my emotions or make me break down this year.
How do I cope with a man who won't give me peace of mind? If he calls and I don't pick, he assumes am with a guy, if we have misunderstanding and he has ill-luck with a business or something he concludes i am the cause. He accuses me falsely for things I don't know about. I must confess, I am fed up with the situation-ship.
I Am thinking of forfeiting everything and starting afresh. Am not seeing anyone at the moment but am believing God for something better. I want to Love and be loved in return.
Good day Stella,
This is the update of the chronicle I sent earlier.
The misunderstanding lasted for six months which he didn't bother to call or pin-point what went wrong.
When I could not handle the issue, I was forced to involve his mum and my parent, his mum promised to give me a feed back after talking to him which I didn't get, my parent called him and he didn't turn-up too. At some point, I forgot about him.
Towards the end of the year, I called him, telling him, I needed to pick my items with him, he fixed a date and we met.
Getting there, he apologized for all his wrong and didn't allow me pick the items I intended picking, he apologized so much that he followed me home to see my parent.
Seeing them, he apologized for not showing up all these while and gave his reasons. He promised to be well behaved and make things right this time.
I asked him what his next line of action is, he told me to give him time.
Note: after his plea and promise, have been guiding my heart jealously because I am very emotional and things get to me easily. I no longer look forward to seeing him, I don't miss him. At times, I don't even remember he exists which is unlike me because I don't want anything that will hurt my emotions or make me break down this year.
How do I cope with a man who won't give me peace of mind? If he calls and I don't pick, he assumes am with a guy, if we have misunderstanding and he has ill-luck with a business or something he concludes i am the cause. He accuses me falsely for things I don't know about. I must confess, I am fed up with the situation-ship.
I Am thinking of forfeiting everything and starting afresh. Am not seeing anyone at the moment but am believing God for something better. I want to Love and be loved in return.
*Na wah oh....your situation is not encouraging at all....Please move on already,ah ah!!!
Abeg just forget him and move on
ReplyDeleteThis is torture, please move on.
DeleteDon’t allow him turn u 2 TOKE , just walk away. Some friendships r not meant to lead to Marriage. I hope he didn’t find u in a compromising position/situation cos some men wicked like that o, some will keep quiet allow u fix a wedding date and won’t show up, others will carry on to marry u but d suffer inside d marriage no go be here o
DeletePoster ghost this guy!!! As in go cold turkey on him. Stop entertaining all these half backed excuses from him, a man who is over 40years old is still playing ten ten like this with you and you're here thinking.
DeleteIssokay
Una de try oh. Went to pick your thing, this and that... after a 6 monto hiatus. 6 months oh!!!!
DeleteWhen I was single, one week after a misunderstanding and we’re not back together ? That means we’re broken up. 3 days and I haven’t heard from you? I do my thing... please pick up your self esteem. This guy doesn’t want you.
A guy that doesn’t respect his parents or yours. He doesn’t respect you either
Newsflash: he’s just that not into you!!
now you want love and you want to give love..with God all things are possible.
ReplyDeleteMy sister, please move on as Stella said, I was once in a relationship with someone like him, I can't be myself where he is, he didn't allow me use a phone that browses so guys won't toast me there, he said if we eventually get married I will work as a neighborhood teacher that I cannot work in any firm so nobody will chyke me plus plenty other rubbish. People like that are very good with emotional blackmail, they will do something wrong to you and turn it round that you caused what they did. I picked race and he was telling everyone I broke up with him. Sometime he will call and start cussing me. See, you better leave him. I left him and now I have peace with the man i'm married to.
ReplyDeleteyou dont have a spouse oh, better waka go the next bus stop because that guy is a manipulator and he will only get worse when you marry.
ReplyDeleteDont settle for less and leave those "your things" with him
Next patient pls!
ReplyDeleteSome dead on arrival matters.
ReplyDeleteTHANK God you know you're in a relationship already, Please that time waster and move on already. You deserve better.
ReplyDeleteRead well kwanu...where did see she mentioned being in a rshp.?Poster ahead ahead should be your watchword this year.Good luck
DeleteToo much drama, already have a headache just reading through. Please move on and forget those things in his house.
ReplyDeleteSome people can endure things sha. Right from when he started acting up after intro you should have told your people you are not doing again. You waited till one year sef and still gave him 3 months extra! And in this part 2, he is acting jealous and mad and you are still confused??? Okay.
ReplyDeleteSisterly,you have a brighter life ahead, don't let him bring darkness into your light.
ReplyDeleteI assumed you moved on after the initial chronicles. Please move on!! Life has something better in store for you. All the best dear and I am certain you will laugh again
ReplyDeleteThis one has passed cold feet, he doesn't wanna marry at all, just free him, let it not be that he's forced to marry out of pity...else u won't enjoy that marriage.
ReplyDeleteThat guy won't marry you and he will not allow better person to marry you. He is an obstacle to your progress in life. You should block him on phone and all social media and from your life.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, please move on and forget about him. He is a time waster
ReplyDeletePlease do not manage him. I made the mistake of not listening to my parents and everyone else. My husband showed all these traits and many more and I married him. For example, he went MIA for over a month before our traditional marriage and I was not even sure if he will show up. I am living with a lot of regrets now. Please know that things do not become better, rather becomes worst. He will act great for a little bit and then show his true colors after marriage. I found out a lot of women dump or do not tolerate these type of men. I am sure he was seeing someone else all the time that he blatantly ignored you and when that person dumped him or would not take his BS, ...he came running back to you. I know you love him but please the heart ache and emotional anguish is not worth enduring for the rest of your life. I am currently saving and planning my exist strategy. I will apply for a divorce by the end of this year. Mind you, I was not desperate to marry, ...by the time that I married, I owned my home, had my masters and earned a six-figure salary. But, he was the love of my life but I absolutely resend him now. Everyone was very happy when I disclosed my plan to seek a divorce. Please do not accept him back. I beg you like a mother or sister to save yourself now.
ReplyDeleteFollow this advice.. Since all that was said in the original post did not sink in...
DeleteShakara, I pray she listens o, you can't advise a woman in love, they like suffer.
DeleteBy the time u married him u owned a home and earn six figures? How come u are now saving and planning ur exit? Why not move to ur home or use ur sick figures salary to rent somewhere else? Sofri sofri dey lie hanty..U are still living with him and advicing d poster..Take ur own advice first..With ur education and salary u shouldn't have married such a man(Daz if u are saying the truth)..
DeleteKeep deceiving urself that u are saving to leave him,I'm sure in three years coming,u will still be living with him and sending chronicles up and down..Oriegwu..
Btw,having money/job/houses doesn't stop single girls from being desperate...Infact the more money they have,the more their hunger for marriage increases..#Fact
Imagine you had to marry him before you received sense when all the signs were there. Now you’re a divorcee. I don’t understand some of you women sometimes smh.
DeleteI appreciate everyone with their contribution, God bless you all.
ReplyDeleteGod bless u more with wisdom @ SDK....
As at yesterday, i posted a post on my status, he replied calling me, "SATANIC AGENT", I called asking him the reason for such name, omo, the guy turned the table around as if am at fault... Am done with him
Do you need reset slap ...hiaannn
DeleteSister I thought you had moved on, I'm surprised to read you're still doing what I don't know with the man child. Please just ghost him don't even allow him know you have moved waaay ahead. What rubbish.
DeleteGhosting him is just the best for me, i cannot kill myself cos of a manipulator that refuse to grow up
DeletePoster, I doubt you will ghost him. In fact I can bet my next month's salary that you will not. How do I know? Because I was once like you. Instead of you to delete his comment and block him on all channels you still took time to call him up. Your head tells you he is no good for you but your heart still wants him. Listen to me. He is BAD news. He makes you fell bad about yourself. He diminishes you in everyway yet you are still holding on. You have stockholm syndrome and you need to see a psychologist and a therapist to know why you allowed yourself to be in a relationship where you were badly treated for such a long time. Only when you work on yourself and love yourself will the right person locate you.
DeletePoster frame this your comment and read it severally a day.
DeleteThat's the only way you can leave this man.
And don't forget Anon 16:30's comment.
Poster u are not a wise person..Is this guy d last Man standing? Are u fat and ugly that u cannot find another man to marry u? What's all these stupid talks? When u sent ur chronicle last year u were advised to leave d guy and move on..Yet u carry ur two left legs to his house in d guise of picking ur things..I'm sure u did not keep anything in his house..U went there to beg him to reconcile with u..
DeleteTomorrow u will carry urself again to his house to pick up ur forgotten pant and d story continues..U no get sense ni?
That guy is not ur husband..stop waiting for him..Stop giving him audience and stop praying for him to come back to his senses.. Move d fuck on..
Don't send any more stupid chronicle here again..U are sounding so annoying..
That guy is cursed..u don't know where d genesis of his problem started and u want to marry him by fire by force..At 40yrs and he is still acting childish,it shows that something is wrong with him somewhere..
Receive sense! Okpo!
Poster you need to let that boy/man go. A 40yr old man that shld even be desperate for marriage is acting this way.
DeleteThe simple truth is he doesn't want to marry you. And if he is forced to you will regret entering marriage with him.
Cut your losses. It may be painful for a while but in the long run you have saved yourself from life long pain.
Put all your energy into becoming a better you.
You’re so damn weak gosh!!! Leave the damn relationship!!! Go through the pain and move on after. A man who’s ready to marry you would have married you by now. Pick up your self worth! Jesus Christ!!!!
DeletePoster, YOUR IQ LEVEL IS ZERO.
DeleteYou did what? Call him to explain what?
You should have blocked him a long time ago. Delete any comments of his that mistakenly reaches you.
Receive sense.
I know that it's possible you're holding on to hope that he will change Bcos of some fake prophecies from x,y,z
This madness of his will be tines 10 after marriage I bet you.
You can start afresh. Only time is what you need.
Remember not even your family member nor his will be in your marriage, it's just 2 people.
Only you can free your self from the thing around your neck.
SDK pls don't publish this kai post.
The man is sick
DeleteYou cannot cure him
If you marry him, you and your children will feel the impact of his sickness
Move on and keep walking
He treated your parents like that and you don't know what to do? Issokay o. A man that can zone out on you for six months will do worse when he finally pays your dowry. Just zone out on him too. God will give you your own abeg.
ReplyDeleteBetter you start all over with a new person.Best wishes.
ReplyDeleteThis man is a spirit husband in human flesh. Rebuke the devil(your fiance)and he will flee from thee.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha.
DeleteLet him GO!!!
ReplyDeletePoster you better dump dat guy lyk a bad habit.I can relate with ur dilemma bcos I once dated sm1 lyk dat,so hot tempered nd aggressive.He hit me on two occasions nd whenever we have issues he has a way of turning d fault on me.I dumped him o when he wasn't xpecting bt it wasn't easy o,I did it with prayer bcos after d brkup,he still appeared in my dream for months stalking me nd begging for sex bt God delivered me.D idiots is still single at 40 nd i'm also single too but I'm still in skool nd praying to God for a good man and I know he LL answer me.
ReplyDeletePlease let him go, keep believing that God will give you someone that will give you rest of mind.
ReplyDeletePoster please flee from this guy...he just came back to bring more confusion into your life. Move on with your life and forget him. And please inform your parents that you’re no longer interested in the so called marriage
ReplyDeleteYou are incredibly young still, not like your biological clock is ticking or anything. Move on and be at peace.
ReplyDeleteAny man who blames a woman for the misfortunes that comes his way is a no-no for marriage. Please don't marry him.
ReplyDeletePlease move on . make up your mind for you and move on
ReplyDeletePls poster try and move on cos when you hang around someone like him u re only blocking d way for suitable suitors.
ReplyDeleteNne, delete this guy from your life and also from your recycle bin. He's not worth the stress.
ReplyDeletePlease poster don't be done with him, he is only showing that he loves you so much, have mercy and go back to him okay.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha
DeleteHe is an emotional abuser. Things will get worse after marriage. Sister run run run
ReplyDeleteI went through something similar, d guy leaves over 20 missed calls on my phone daily. Now he is claiming that I am chasing his new girlfriend in d dream, and so he wants me back. God dat delivered me from him won't let me go back lailai
ReplyDeletePlease move on
ReplyDelete