STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
HUSBAND WHO LIVES ABOVE HIS INCOME
Good day my SDK family…Happy New Year.......
My chronicles goes thus. I am a married woman with two Kids.
The man I married is the type that is not stingy but has a very bad temperament. He can give his last kobo, he does not save money for at least unforeseen circumstances, and I have tried to make him see the importance of saving money now that we have children or even save at least 500 naira for recharge card but NO, he will spend his money and try to spend mine till we are penniless (That’s what happened during our wedding until I gave myself small sense).
His family took advantage of that. He’s like the bread winner meanwhile he’s the 5th Born of Seven children from his mother.
He lives above his income just to please his family meanwhile most times brother no even get 200 naira for account. He spends as he earns, buying what he doesn’t need. I made him save some money when our house rent was about to expire by making him do contribution in my office but one of his brothers got to know about the contribution and lied to him that he has gotten a job in Dubai and needed money, my husband collected the contribution and gave his brother meanwhile he didn’t let me know until it was clear to him that his brother had duped him, he later told me that that was not the first time of him duping him.
He lives above his income just to please his family meanwhile most times brother no even get 200 naira for account. He spends as he earns, buying what he doesn’t need. I made him save some money when our house rent was about to expire by making him do contribution in my office but one of his brothers got to know about the contribution and lied to him that he has gotten a job in Dubai and needed money, my husband collected the contribution and gave his brother meanwhile he didn’t let me know until it was clear to him that his brother had duped him, he later told me that that was not the first time of him duping him.
had to start from square one again. Whenever he’s broke, he will try to quarrel me by all means which usually results in fights. I even had to tell him not to buy me anything again that I will manage from the little I earn so that he can provide our children with basic needs. What I am collecting as salary is very little because am still a temporary staff but still hopeful and praying for the better.
When I had my second baby, my mum came over. This woman was helping me with everything. I leave with my second baby to work as early as 6:30am to come back at around 7pm. My mum will help me wash my babies cloth, look after the first baby at home, make breakfast for this man and most times, help me make dinner because I will be tired after work and also come home late. I asked him to invite his mother over but he told me he doesn’t have transport fare for her and that his mother won’t be able to converse in English lang.
When I had my second baby, my mum came over. This woman was helping me with everything. I leave with my second baby to work as early as 6:30am to come back at around 7pm. My mum will help me wash my babies cloth, look after the first baby at home, make breakfast for this man and most times, help me make dinner because I will be tired after work and also come home late. I asked him to invite his mother over but he told me he doesn’t have transport fare for her and that his mother won’t be able to converse in English lang.
Meanwhile his family were angry thinking I brought my mum to stay with us for enjoyment whereas most times no food at home to even eat. Other times, it’s my mum that will give us money to buy foodstuff which he most times refuses to refund that I will have to refund my mum, he will rather send the money to his mother and siblings. He started disrespecting my mum. he wont greet her for weeks.
Things have not being easy for us. Most times from my small salary, I will load electricity, subscribe to DSTV and buy my children’s food. I told him no condom, no s'x until things become easy at least for us. Before you know it he became disrespectful to my mum because according to him, Before we move to another house (two bedroom apartment), I advised him to look for a house he can afford after I helped him do contribution again but he went to rent a house he couldn’t pay for at once, he had to get money from my sister behind my back.
Things have not being easy for us. Most times from my small salary, I will load electricity, subscribe to DSTV and buy my children’s food. I told him no condom, no s'x until things become easy at least for us. Before you know it he became disrespectful to my mum because according to him, Before we move to another house (two bedroom apartment), I advised him to look for a house he can afford after I helped him do contribution again but he went to rent a house he couldn’t pay for at once, he had to get money from my sister behind my back.
He told my sister not to tell me as I was pregnant at the time so that it won’t bother me. It took threats (threatening to report to his family which he strongly detest) from my sister to get her money back.
That night he wanted to do but I told him to use condom as we are already finding it difficult to cater for the kids, that’s how he flipped and started telling me how useless I am, I don’t respect his own family as I am supposed to be calling them weekly to greet and bla bla bla, hIs voice woke my mum and my children in the other room...That night he asked me to move to my mum’s room. He started going outside to eat without bothering about what the children will eat. Then two days later, he said I was disrespecting him and his family, fight broke out and he beat me and asked me to move out of HIS house that he will bring in another woman that is by far better than me. This man is a GIGOLO.
While we were leaving HIS house, he kept saying that he will come for the children when he’s ready. Now I am staying with my sister and have enrolled my baby in school, I solely cater for myself and my children now.
Presently, him and his mum are begging me to come back to the house which he hasn’t finished paying the rent o! He lied to his family that he has paid until I went to carry some of my remaining loads in his house and was stopped that until he completes his payment.
When I think of all the things I have endured with him, I become so sad. I don’t really wish to go back to him but he’s saying he will come for the children. I can’t even imagine parting away with my kids. His mum said that his pastor told her that I should move back to the house if not, both of us will regret it. Please advise. This man pretends a lot, lies and beats me. I AM SERIOUSLY CONSIDERING DIVORCE. I WILL BE IN THE COMMENT SECTION.
That night he wanted to do but I told him to use condom as we are already finding it difficult to cater for the kids, that’s how he flipped and started telling me how useless I am, I don’t respect his own family as I am supposed to be calling them weekly to greet and bla bla bla, hIs voice woke my mum and my children in the other room...That night he asked me to move to my mum’s room. He started going outside to eat without bothering about what the children will eat. Then two days later, he said I was disrespecting him and his family, fight broke out and he beat me and asked me to move out of HIS house that he will bring in another woman that is by far better than me. This man is a GIGOLO.
While we were leaving HIS house, he kept saying that he will come for the children when he’s ready. Now I am staying with my sister and have enrolled my baby in school, I solely cater for myself and my children now.
Presently, him and his mum are begging me to come back to the house which he hasn’t finished paying the rent o! He lied to his family that he has paid until I went to carry some of my remaining loads in his house and was stopped that until he completes his payment.
When I think of all the things I have endured with him, I become so sad. I don’t really wish to go back to him but he’s saying he will come for the children. I can’t even imagine parting away with my kids. His mum said that his pastor told her that I should move back to the house if not, both of us will regret it. Please advise. This man pretends a lot, lies and beats me. I AM SERIOUSLY CONSIDERING DIVORCE. I WILL BE IN THE COMMENT SECTION.
*Are you not the one who wears the shoes?do you wanna continue living the kind of life you just narrated?Use your brain to think this over before you make a decision.......
U better dont go back to the useless man..of what use is the marriage if u cater for urself and kids and still have to cater for him too..?
ReplyDeletePoster, count your losses and keep it moving. There's nothing left to be salvage in that marriage. It was DOA.
DeleteHate is a strong word but I hate men that beat up their wives. If I see gun I fit shoot them walahi talahi.
Poster you are considering going back??? Is that how much you love sufferhead?? For how long can you keep keeping up appearances? You got married to a family of manipulator and scammers, from their mother, to your husband and his siblings. Birds of the same feather. Would you want you kids to take after their father's present character? There lies your answer.
DeleteDon't mind his mum, can she pray for her daughter to suffer in husbands house
DeleteDid she tell the pastor her son is a wife beater
Deleteyou better divorce that joker. a pastor has told me that same you will regret thing and trust me I did not regret. the road wasn't easy at all but after the divorce I got a young handsome man far better than any other man I ever got in my single days. face your life and make money, reject any evil pronouncement and take care of your children.
DeleteI will rather remain single or b a baby mama than take half the shit I have read on this blog regarding marriage
DeleteShe clearly states that she does not want to go back to this man. It's just the thought of him coming for the kids that she is considering.
DeletePoster, I think you should stay far from this man. Get a good lawyer who can advise you on how child welfare support can help you fight this course. A useless man has no right or claim over children he has refused to cater for.
I pray the Lord guides you right. You are in my prayers.
Women, once you deliver, please ask them to install a copper IUD and only take it out when you are ready for more children. Much cheaper, more convenient and more reliable than condoms.
DeleteThe cycle if events will continue once u go back, brace itself, its gonna be on helluva ride.
ReplyDeleteany man that beats a oman is a coward... doesn't deserve a second chance.
DeleteI'm just curious as to how women keep birthing children in this kind of environment. He's not able to provide for and the 1st child and you still went on to have the 2nd? It is well. Please move on
ReplyDeleteMy dear same here..I don't know together do it,even to gave sex will be a problem for me talkless of having more kids. .
DeleteBecause she had sex with herself or she is d creator, if it was that easy to get preggy there won’t be women ttc-ing. Contraceptive fail by the way, no woman plans to keep having kids with useless men.
DeleteMy story is similar but in my case, he doesn't cheat or beat me. Consider the children and do what you know is best for them.
ReplyDeleteI'm separated and still weighing my options if I should go back to the marriage or not. I'm thinking of the advantages and disadvantages.
God help us to always make the right decisions.
Sad situation...
ReplyDeleteI once read a meme stating 5 reasons people go broke and one of the reason being "Buying what they don't need".
I feel like asking you if you didn't see these signs before exchanging your vows but it won't solve anything at the moment.
If you still want to be with him then tell yourself you are the breadwinner and what ever he gives you become an extra.It means that you will double your hustle and also help him save since you are good at it.
There is nothing wrong with him helping his family but not at the detriment of yours.His disrespecting your mum is not acceptable and i'm wondering what gave him the guts.
No need for blame game here.If you decide to leave him you become chief bread winner.If you decide to stay with him your condition doesn't get better.
Decide on which burden you are willing to bear.Like I said on IHN, its the kids I pity in all this.pls don't let begging from both families change your stance.Let whatever decision you take be entirely yours.
Also your husband needs the fruit of the Holy Spirit.He needs to have a deep and personal relationship with God.Only then can he learn to love you right.
i dont think i can ever go back him. But i am worried about my children, if his family doesnt love me, is it my children they will now love?
DeleteYour children will only learn how to be useless from him. My ex learnt the same behaviour you've described from his father. It's not a woman's responsibility to undo damage done to a man. From what you've described, as far as being a man and a father, he might as well be dead. So act accordingly. Many successful people come from single parent homes. Most unstable people come from homes with unstable fathers.
Delete@16:21
DeleteI believe you are the poster.
Do whats best for you and the kids.Since you've made up your mind to leave him then its time to go somewhere he can't reach you easily till he's ready to agree to co-parenting.(I have a feeling that if you agree to co-parenting now, he will make it difficult for you to see your kids.I really hope i'm wrong for your sake).
Your predicament broke my heart but it is what it is.Dust yourself and brace up for what's ahead.
Keep being strong dear, this too shall pass.❤
Your kids are with you.
ReplyDeleteYou cater for them.
You have a job.
So how on earth are you feeling this man will take your kids?
When he starts his threats,tell to go and file proper custody of the kids in court.
Just allow him waste the money he doesn’t have in court.
He will fail woefully.
No matter what happens do not even give your little kids to him.
He can’t even care for himself,then is it kids?
In Nigeria, they will give the man. I fear for her kids buy i dont even think for once that she should return. Why is the law favouring the fathers in Nigeria, this is unfair.
DeleteNot true,stop the falsehood
DeleteStop this cheap lies, which Nigeria? That is why many of you women don't want to try and fight. She is working, the kids are small and she can prove to the court that the man is irresponsible as he can't even pay rent or care for the kids. No court will give him the kids. A lot of women have their kids. There are places to go and report the situation like the well fare office and all. Stop discouraging women with your primitive thinking, this is 2019 get on with the program!
DeletePoster in as much as you have something doing, stay your lane and take care of your children. Don't go back to that abusive marriage. That man cancan never change in terms of spending and very soon now his families will be seeing you as an obstacle between them and son. Thank God you have two kids already. There is more to life than marriage biko....
ReplyDeleteMove on with your life, very good you left with your kids. You should have filed a police report when he beat you up, documenting your injuries.
ReplyDeletePlease save and get a house, prepare for court, court will decide custody
i have pictures as evidence of abuse.
DeleteGo and file a police report, allege threat to life so he can sign an undertaken not to touch you. All those documents will help with your case
DeleteHe showed traits before you married him yet you went ahead to marry him, so just know that you are guilty of contributory negligence in this matter.
ReplyDeleteThankfully you have a job and have been managing so far, if you can forgive his indiscretions demand that he puts his life together and if in 2020 he has changed then you may be willing to try again. If he refuses your offer o strongly advice that you legally separate from him. Don't worry about the threat to your kids, he doesn't sound like one who could cater for the kids on his own so it is unlikely that he will try to take them forcefully.
Good luck to you.
So typically Nigerian. No compassion and so quick to judge.
DeleteHusband from the pit of hell....tueh
ReplyDeleteBefore you married this man, you were happy with his spending spree. You were probably displaying and slaying on SM.
ReplyDeleteAll most girls do during what supposed to be courtship is fork, fork and more fork. Now, when una come marry, una wan make man change like weather. If una close una legs, na that time una suppose think straight to understand the kind of character a man been get, plan una home with am how e go be and decide whether una wan marry.
Mbanu, na to fork in every available space including cyber space.
Madam, ya mama get no business for ya matrimonial home. Na that one be first step, make you settle things with ya husband.
You are a demented foolish bastard for this comment. Advise you no fit give as if they robbed you of your own vagina to use in forking.
DeleteKi o gbe gbogbo enu buruku e yen soun.
Poster, advise yourself ooo, an you know how d tin dey pepper you for body.
#shallom
Sometimes i wonder, of what use is to blame the poster. She came for advice, why stating the fact that she saw the traits, does that matter now?
DeleteAnon 15.23 I can tell you're a woman and I can also tell the kind of woman you are. You see that useless man you're married to, you better stop covering his shame or you'll die from bitterness.
DeleteThe last line there is a piece of advice; isn't it?
DeleteYou have a warped understanding of feminism.
Please leave that man.You'll end up dead and you can never quantify the trauma your children go through from the daily conflicts you and your hubby have.
ReplyDeleteAbeg,your children need you alive.
As Stella just said,na who wear shoe know where he dey pinch am.
Leave and stay alive for the sake of your children.
Don't let his treats deter you.Keep and Take care of your children
His mum said a pastor said if you don't go back you people will regret it. Well let me rephrase, if you go back you will regret it!!!!!! He won't change
ReplyDeleteHey lady! Something brought me to this blog today and I happened to read this as a first post. Please and please I must commend you for leaving with the kids. Set yourself up and start managing your money. DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM . while I would not ask you to start a divorce immediately, it is time you live apart for now. It is obvious he comes very desperate when he needs money and would not consider twice to use you or the kids for money rituals if need be.
ReplyDeleteThe longer the kids stay with you, the better for you if he eventually goes to court. How dare he put his hands on you? The journey is not easy but you need to be alive to take care of your children.
His relatives are wicked and once they cannot get money from him as usual, they will hate you for being the one trying to give him sense. Please find time and go to God in prayer. Let your prayer point include Provision to take care of you and the kids, protection from all evils and the wisdom to do the right thing moving forward. Don't go and waste your prayer points. God will never let you suffer. It might be hard to believe but the only thing that can change your husband is serious therapy and atleast 1yr fasting and prayers by himself. I know people that like to spend money, once they get money they won't rest until they spend it. They will even spend an expectant money before it enters the account. It is a very dangerous lifestyle. Please the beating part is a No No.
*LIPSEALED*
ReplyDeletePoster, pls move on....your ex and his are both narcissistic, no 21st woman will tolerate that from any man, and when they see a good, well mannered wife, they start misbehaving and turn themselves to a semi god.. Poster, let him go if you go back it will only get worst
ReplyDeletePlease poster, don't go back to that man because he will never change and you won't regret it.
ReplyDeleteWhy do I think his mum lied about the pastor saying you will regret ur action if you don't go back.
ReplyDeleteMy dear thank God you have something doing, pls run for your life. Your kids needs you.
ReplyDeletethe moment you go back to that house,he will take your kids and send you packing, and if that happens you might not be able to have access to your kids again. .pls remain with your sis and take care of your kids
ReplyDeleteGo and read the post of children born in abusive marriage and make your decision from that post.someone help her to trace the post pls.i think it was on Saturday
ReplyDeleteMadam biko if you want to move back don't use your kids as an excuse, so how will come take your kids as what naa? You don't know where welfare is? You don't have receipts on the money spent so far? You can't take him to court to ask for sole custody of your kids till dey are of age? Be dere saying pastor talk e no talk, when you are really really ready you won't need any advice to do the right thing
ReplyDeleteBia madam this is a very pathetic situation. Your husband is so irresponsible, he doesn't even have a plan for his life & family, he is an unrepentant idiot. Please don't ever go back! His type will never change! He will continue to wreck your financially, he seem like he has a curse following him. Run for your dear life. Get a good lawyer that can argue that he cannot take care of the children so you can take custody. I pray you get custody of your kids, but in case you don't please don't ever go back to him, your children will always come for you .
ReplyDeleteOh my God! I wonder the kind of life some people live, what kind of upbringing did this one receive ?You marry somebody's daughter just to slave her & eventually kill her?
Poster please forgive him and go back, he is only a kid and doesn't know his left and right, have mercy and take him back okay. Meanwhile you can start fasting, praying and sowing seeds on his behalf. Gooluck
ReplyDelete@Queen Amy, satan go back to hell.
DeleteYou say wetin
DeletePoster, please ignore this advise.
Deleteyou are very sick and need help.
DeleteReally???! There is nothing wrong with paying but please stop being sentimental and over religious!. She can pray for him wherever she is. Why go back to a violent and irresponsible man.
DeleteMan-child!!!
Sarcasm
DeleteMy dear, please, if you really love yourself and the Children, don't go back, you won't regret nothing, lies from the pits of hell.
ReplyDeleteI hope that you are a strong woman sha o, no one can take your Children from you, just be strong. Do not let anyone deceive you into going back. Stop picking calls from his family members for now, focus on yourself and the Children, keep them safe always.
Please, don't go back to that man. May God see you through.
I agree with Ms Tee. Madam, receive sense!!!
ReplyDeleteEveryone is screaming that she shouldn't go back to her husband.
ReplyDeleteHere's what I have to say, poster, since his mom called and asked that you go back to your husband, why don't you just use the opportunity to tell her everything that has been going on between you and your husband? Tell her how he spends his money, doesn't care or provide for you and the kids, just tell her everything, don't hide anything from her. Wait and see her reaction, if she doesn't see anything wrong with her son's behavior, then, you are free to leave but if she begs and genuinely rebukes her son and warn her other children from duping and disturbing your family then, there's hope especially if the man promises to change and care for you and the children. It is not over yet, try to work things out but if he doesn't change from his wicked ways, you can finally leave.
People are so quick to tell a woman to leave her marriage without trying to find solutions first.
Will the mother live in the he'll with her and the children? Beating is a deal breakèr! Pls flee for ur safety!!!!
Delete@Lilian. You are very wicked. They probably realised, some of the money he use to send, was his wife's...smh..Poster, Never go back. Your husband and family are shameless. Imagine him asking your sister for money? Shameless
DeleteDon't go back yet but give him another chance to prove himself. Money is very important to him and when he didn't have he became stupid. Give him your terms . He should get a house he can afford. Apologize to your mother and also go to counseling. You both should go together .You loved him at some point but he has hurt you. Give him a chance to do better. I don't condone violence but I can only say my mother gave my dad a chance after he was violent and very sorry and he changed. Not overnight but he changed. I have to say he never drove her out of HIS house so there's a difference there and he always took care of the children.
ReplyDeleteShe should go back to this useless, abusive, broke, shameless, a man who can ask his wife's sister for money,and refuse to pay. Smh. I believe some of you enjoys it when other women suffers, just cos you are suffering.
DeleteThis pastor's ish..that was hw they told me if I leave I will die, out of fear I stayed back,when I now left last year,I left with amputated hand after 21yrs of marriage wt 4children. Mmm.stay away completely pls
ReplyDeleteHmmm. So Scary, I pray the good lord heals you.
DeleteAmputated hand ! ... This is serious.
DeleteYou married an IDIOT! I wonder what is the criteria ppl use for selecting a partner for marriage these days. Did you not see that this person had glaring flaws that would be too annoying to live with peacefully? You got an express pass to freedom and a brand new start, take it and run. Let him go get his new wife or whatever, let him be someone else's problem. Heavy weight is finally off your head get down on you knees and thank God. Go to the police station and file a restraining order against his mother citing the threat she made, yes o, let them know you mean business and not taking their threats lightly. If anything should happen to you, the record of the threat is there with the law and it is public knowledge. Also the restraining order will let them know you are serious about not returning to the marriage, because there is really no coming back after filing a restraining order against your mil. Never take threats against your life whether veiled threats or overt threats lightly, NEVER. I think in Nigeria they call restraining orders something else, I am not sure what it is called there, but I have a feeling that you understand what I am getting at.
ReplyDeleteFile your divorce petition and move on. Consider the experience a lesson learned and move on. Also change up your routine and develop a mind of security, be aware of your surroundings and all the players around you. Train your mom and children to do the same. These ppl are not good ppl so don't take them lightly.
My dear, most men are good pretenders in courtship like their father the devil. Wolf in sheep’s clothing
DeleteSweetie! Are you married to my sister's husband?! You just described my sister's husband and mother in law. Lazy gigolos.
ReplyDeleteMadam may God guide you through
ReplyDeletemadam think very well before going back because the reason for the begging is because no more mumu to bring money again. like my friend told her ex that her children do not know her given name yet, they still call her mummy, that she doesn't want anyone to show her children where her grave is.
ReplyDeleteIf you're my sister, you won't go back to him but people like you are hard to advice.
ReplyDeleteTomorrow now you will go back and resumed collecting your steady beating from him.
Is this man Edo??? Specifically esan. I’m just curious?????
ReplyDeleteMadam, men like your Husband can never change. He is unable to break away from his extended family and give preference to his nuclear family. I actually find that worrisome hence it may be better you stay where you are for now. He should help his siblings but not at the detriment of his home. Let everyone carry their cross. Also your mum should have left your home when the issues started. It usually doesn't end well with long staying MIL
ReplyDeleteI hope you read this.
ReplyDeleteIt is clear that he cannot take care of the children, that was why he let you leave with them. See you have to be very smart here, visit a divorce lawyer and let him tell you what you need to have custody of the kids , if you have a lawyer friend you can ask free of charge, or just visit google and ask based on Nigerian law. You have a job, the next thing you have to work on is getting a place for yourself. Getting an apartment would help your case. Prepare yourself for divorce and custody. Keep evidence of any form of abuse and beatings. If you are deciding to go back to him just accept what you have narrated here because that would be the rest of your life with your kids. Your kids deserve better, and you are obviously doing a better job on your own. Good luck
No one an take your kids from you, unless you permit it. Go to your children's school, tell them that the only person permitted to pick up your kids are YOU & Your MUM and no one else. Tell them if any other person comes, they SHOULD CALL YOU FIRST and hear from you, if not they shouldn't permit anybody.
ReplyDeleteThen don't allow him or strangers or even his family in your home.
What a good mother in law should do in the circumstance is to mediate between you and her son. Ask what the problem is and see how she can settle you. The fact that she is resorting to blackmail under the guise of what a pastor said, speaks volumes about her. She appears to be a controlling, scheming fellow. Rather than use persuasion, she is using subtle threats and coercion, mind games and my pastor said. Does that same pastor know that her son is irresponsible? God would not compel us to be with an irresponsible person who can hurt us. Hope you're not spiritually gullible, because you appear shaken by that.
@Proudly Feminist ☝, please leave LEGAL ADVICE to Lawyers!!!!!!! Who told you that custody is only granted to men in Nigeria? Please say what you know.
Every case in which the custody of children is raised has its dynamics. The facts and evidence that plays out in court determines who is given custody. Isn't Tontoh Dike female, yet custody of her son was granted her, by even a customary court.
Madam if it gets to divorce, you can get custody.
If your husband is truly repentant, willing to make himself available for counselling, if he comes to your family and apologises and makes a commitment never to hit you and be more responsible, then you can consider reconciliation and moving back with him. But first he must prove himself, he must draw up a financial plan that he is willing to abide by
All the best lady.
I really don't see a big problem here. Both of you complement each other perfectly. Just that you both don't communicate well.
ReplyDeleteFirst, your mum should leave. He might not be able to tell you directly, hence acting it out.
Also, the no condom, no sex thing is too much now. You guys can do withdrawal method.
He needs to understand your fears and tell him his weakness.
Also, you do the saving. Save your money for rainy days. As long as he provides basic needs. He will eventually learn.
Above all, learn how to pass your message across to your hubby.Men are like babies. Except you want to tell me you have lost influence over him.
Now, he messed up beating you. But, can you forgive him? Do you still love him? Are you willing to try again? Search your heart. Not your head. There the answer lies. Wish you all the best. kpele dear
Wonderful!!!
DeletePoster do you! Think of your children's future. He might kill you and of course your kids become automatically orphans because the law will not pardon him. Do you want to lose your life over carelessness? Nigga won't change. His family is evil. You can't marry a bad man from a bad family at once. Pick a struggle. He is bad, his family is bad too.
ReplyDelete@Lade Taylor.. u must be very sick upstairs. .ur kind are in very terrible n abusive relationships/marriages. . Can u give ur Sister this bullshit crappie advice u wrote up there...u lack self love n self worth.Marriage isn't a do or die affair..u kid are the type that will stay no matter how they are treated.How can a man not greet his mother -in -law for weeks ,upon say he eisnt even fulfilling his marital obligations well...he ought to hide his useless face in shame.he baby's his wife randomly even when the old lady is around..Jesus Christmas. .ur advice is just Indespicable. ..May God save u ..Hope u saw what happened to Late Ronke's husband..he will be hanged..continue advising ..if he finally kills her,he will also be hanged like trash..sick sick people everywhere...
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