STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN MOTHER IN LAW MAKES A PASS AT YOU
My mother in law to be is a nice person,she treats me like her daughter,free spoken, highly opinionated, fashionable and out going, she stayed abroad so she's kinda exposed,she slays like no one else infact she tells me how to combine cloths and slay, I was really happy to have a mother in law that takes me like her own child or so I thought, my mother is late, she had diabetes.
Last week Thursday, she called and pleaded that I branch her favourite cosmetic shop and get her some stuffs, now need I forget to add that there's is dis woman that goes everywhere with her infact she stays with her since my mother in law is a divorcee and has no other child except my boo.
Back to the Gist, after work that day, I got those stuffs for her and drove down to her house but when I got there, I saw her car parked in her compound but I didn't really think about it,got inside and met her in her room, but I didn't see the woman and she refused to talk about her, anyways we started gisting about work, my boyfriend and normal stuffs, while having dis conversation, I noticed she started switching the Gist to s#x, it felt weird but not as weird as when she started making advances towards me and trying to fondle my breast and professing love to me, I was shocked, pushed her away carried my bag and ran out.
I am still in shock tho, to top it all she hasn't stopped calling me, she calls me incessantly everyday even after I blocked her number, she uses other numbers to call me, now my boyfriend is saying we will go visit her on Saturday and stay till Sunday evening..
I don't think I will be able to stand that woman, I can't tell my boo infact I can't even tell anybody in real life, before bringing it here I thought about it countless times,I know it sounds unreal yes even I still can't believe it.
What do I do, should I call off the engagement but I love my boyfriend or should I just tell him? I am confused...
*What are you running away for and why are you avoiding her calls?come on grow up,wise up and take the bull by the horn or say byebye to your boo cause yes,this is enough to poison everything your love stands for...
Mother in law is probably back to her sense and calling you to find out if you have exposed her,PLEASE DO NOT DARE TELL ANY ONE ....
Have a meeting with her and discuss what happened..Be old and tell her how she made you feel and how you are for her son alone...tell her whatever she tried is between the two of you and make her promise never to come near you in that way again...You both can still be best of friends with a boundary.....
..Remember not to tell your man cos he might not believe you....
And lastly stop giving your mother in law green light and pretending like you dont know... I have intensively interviewed a lesbian before and was told that they just dont fish out those they toast,there is a signal you give out that makes them bold to approach you......
*Side eyes*
cool story, me too, Dangote has been bombarding my phone with Whatsapp messages begging me to just be his coded boo but i dont want, he even enlisted his bestie, Bill Gates who has also been begging me and promised all my village people jobs for life if i just gree bhet i no gree
ReplyDeleteDummy, is dis supposed to be Sacarsm, u sound very dumb
DeleteLMAO.... Sylvia you're cray cray.
DeleteThis is pure stupidity.
DeletePersonally,no matter how I love my fiance, if his Mum is a lesbian and makes a pass at me, I'm gone. Gone. Does that mean my daughter can't stay over at Grandma's??? A woman who could make an advance on her sonss fiancee is the devil. Run for your life!
DeleteStella abeg, forget that your last line, just like there are men-olosho and women-olosho, na so them get gay-oloahos and lesbian-oloshos, no green light has to be given for them to tryna woo you, best believe that!.. This is just like saying that for a man to sexually harass a woman, the woman prolly gave him green light, Nah! TF!
Deletelolzzz u go fear classes of olosho
DeletePoster before you follow stella's advice, make sure everything you discuss with her is recorded..goodluck
DeleteStella I join you in saying Ewoooo!!!
Delete21st century MIL.
ReplyDeleteJust when you think you've heard it all. Stella the only thing I disagree about this your advice is the green light iss. How would you have expected her to react towards the future mum in law anticipating she's a lesbian? There's no way she would have known. Plus poster that her friend that's always with her is her lesbian partner.and it's possible that's why she left her hubby
DeleteThis world should just end abeg. @Blessed Princess
ReplyDeleteNot yet biko, uwa di uto oo
DeleteAs if you're ready for the world to end. Una go just open mouth de talk rubbish.
DeleteSucre chop kiss jare,mumu anon mtchewww.
DeleteNot yet indeed. This life is sweet no matter the stress.
DeletePoster, if I were you, I will be bold enough to have a heart to heart talk with her. Let her know that your sexual orientation is different and even if you are tempted it wouldn't be with your mother in law to be. If she continues to pressurise you after that, I will advice you let your Boo know what is going on before she makes life hard for you after marriage. The earlier the better.
Come and end it. Ode
DeleteLol
DeleteHmmmm.... what a chronicle!
ReplyDeleteHmmmm, ifenemeh!
DeleteIf na me o, i will not marry that boy. i can not stand lesbians talk more of a mother in-law as one.
ReplyDeleteSTUFF not STUFFS!!
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha! I see it irritates you like me. Naija english
DeleteLol for this kind Stella side eyes,abeg follow Stella red pen and I bet you ll thank her later, goodluck but never you quit your relationship for that woman.
ReplyDeleteTelling your boyfriend will end your relationship. Meet her and talk things with her.
ReplyDeleteThat is if the guy is not sincere to her.
DeleteWhich stupid things are they talking out? won't she give birth?will she be able to leave her kids with grandma?abi una head dey touch ni?
DeleteLesbianism is different from pedophilia. Stop being ignorant
DeleteThis Stella's advice is everything. Take it! Though can't say about the last part though about you giving her green light.
ReplyDeleteStella indeed you are a wise woman. You've doled out all the necessary advice one would have thought of. I have no more to say than welldone.
ReplyDeleteYou obviously can’t tell him, duhhh. You should have firmly yet respectfully told her you don’t roll like that. Simples. If she scatters the relationship then good riddance. No one needs that albatross on their necks.
ReplyDeleteAh! What did I just read please?
ReplyDeleteHian oh, I don't have any advice for you o... but whatever you do, don't say a word about it to your boo.. don't.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteYour mother in-law is a lesbian? Oturugbekeeeee...what won't I read on SDK blog. This one weak me dyee. I will advise you to call off that relationship bcos as it stands now trust has been broken. She will always feel you have a leverage you can use against her at any given time,while you yourself can never trust her with your female children. But if you still wanna go ahead and marry her son then pick up her call and explain to her you love to be dicked and not licked. So she should back off and look for her prey somewhere else.
ReplyDeleteA lot of people have vices that people close to them are never aware of my dear.
DeleteHian!!
ReplyDeleteI for like this kind mother in law. Knack d son and the mum. Yummy
ReplyDeleteWhat!!!
DeleteFaints...
Me three.
Delete😂😂😂🤣🤣 una no well for this blog
DeleteHmmmm, that means the other woman that is always with your boyfriend's mother is her lesbian partner.
ReplyDeleteJust tell her you are not interested and that all you want is to be with her son. Tell her that if she tries it again, you will stop visiting her and might be tempted to tell her son.
ha! Stella don't you know that the bound will never be the same again? she'll no longer be free around that woman and she'll always feel she has something she has not told her fiance.
ReplyDeleteMy dear my advice walk away .for how long will u keep the secret.do u know if she is a paedophile?what if ur hubby says the kids should go and spend hols with her???.Stella not all Les wait for green light.some believe go for what u want.my dear I know it's not easy.pls walk away.or wait till u are married and tell hubby when need arises.if ur man can not trust ur word then he can not be ur 100% confident and bestie in marriage.i and my hubby talk about both families if anyone fuck up:treat it amicably and move on.if it results to quarrel at first; we later calm down and discuss through it.
ReplyDeleteEasier said than done. Best action is to confront. My classmate in poly tried that with me and I gave it to her hot on that day. I warned her seriously even though I really didn't know what lesbianism was then but I knew it was wrong for a fellow woman to touch my breast. After that day we became best friends until we graduated. I dont know when or where she goes for her business and e no concern me. I love prick mennnn
DeleteQueen and boss just came to my mind! 😁😀😀😀😀. I hope she will not be this type of mother in law.. Hehehe
ReplyDeletePoster, honestly I don't know what to advise you
Hahahhaha @ Queen
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteQueen is smart na, she will not go close to her daughter in laws. She go dey play away match.
besides I don't think she's giving her mother in law green light. the woman is simply a lesbian.to the extent of approaching your daughter in law to be.even the respect will no longer be there
ReplyDeletePick her calls first and listen to what she has to say...
ReplyDeleteDon't tell your partner. Have a conversation with her,she's your fellow woman,good thing is she won't rape you. Go for the weekend and act like nothing happened in the presence of your partner. Then, later have a good talk with her about how you respect her and see her like a mum and all...She'll get back to her senses. Above all PRAY for her. See what happens and take it from there. Above all always trust your instincts.
ReplyDeletePicture that in future
DeleteIf your husband is unaware
He will be angry when you refuse to drop the kids at Mama's house
Small resentment here and there will build up
This one be as e get oooo, mama won chop son food... My dear just follow Stella's advice ooo.
ReplyDeleteAnswer her call she wants to know if you have exposed her, tell you are not going to expose her (she won't believe you).
ReplyDeleteIf you don't go on the visit with your boo she might start poisoning his mind against you.
If I were you I will get evidence maka adighi ama ama.
Another option is to call off engagement, because ther wil be a time this whole saga will come up, ot might be too late to run.
Husbands scarce o. Let her handle it abeg.
DeleteI don't know what you're running away from. Tell the woman you're not into women but to men and that's just her son. Be firm like Stella said and tell her u don't wana hear such nonsense again and don't forget to tell her that you love her like a mother genuinely. Don't tell le boo
ReplyDeleteJust speechlessssssss
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm!!!!!
Difficult one
From my mother in-law to my boyfriend now your fiancé? Hian!Stop confusing us pls,How will you even be calling your boyfriend's mum mil so fast? O chim o!
ReplyDeleteYou too stop confusing yourself
DeleteI wonder.
DeleteShe's not confusing you, intelligent people understands what she's saying, you are simply an airhead
DeleteThings are happening!!!!
ReplyDeleteIt is well. I think you should pull out of the relationship because you don't know which stunt she might pull in the future. Being with her son can come at a price.
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of the story of one Ikoyi big boy whose Mother that came to do omugwo for his young wife started fxxking her daughter inlaw..... The son caught them korokoro and almost went mad as his wife was screaming more than how she does when he screws her. Story said he threw the mum out but kept the wife. Chai! Encomium gists been dey sweet sha😋
ReplyDeleteSeriously, E yen ga ooooo
DeleteOturugbeke! Say what?! Na dat kind story & Nolly people parole Stella bin dey anchor then.
DeleteChai! I so loved National Encomium.
😂😂😂😂😂😂 dear lawwwwd. Una no well for this blog, aswear 🤣🤣
DeleteOh, the days of Prime People, National Encomium, Hints, Vintage etc. Its good to have big sisters that love gossip. I will steal and sneak into the toilet to read cos if caught, you will get migraine from knocks on your head. Maybe na their I even get migraine from sef.😂😂😂
DeleteThis matter heavy, let me read comments. I always tell people to avoid unnecessary shinning of teeth with in-laws, it has caused too many problems. Apparently she read meaning into your over familiarity. Some women are so funny, with all the women in the universe , why chose your sons girlfriend's breast to fondle ?
ReplyDeleteomo...i really feel for you....it's crazy. You may confront her and tell her your mind and she may now become hostile to you and frustrate your relationship with her son...or it could be the other way round, where she will understand and let go....but the only way to find out is by letting her know your mind. How long do you think you'l be avoiding her for? Pele dear....ko easy in this crazy life...one surprises or the other niii shaaaa....o ma nsu yan...sugbon we gast to keep pushing it. Pele again
ReplyDeletewhen you thought you have heard it all.. And this.
ReplyDeleteStella you have said it all jare. Side eyes at poster but then again signals could be misread.
ReplyDeletePoster no need to block and ignore her, just stand ur ground and tell her you don’t swing that way. What will she do? Rape you? She wont force u into doing what you dont “like”.
Face her and stop running, running only makes it seem as it u want to be chased and she will keep chasing u thinking u r playing hard to get.
So madam tell MIL to bugger off!
Okokobioko😂😂😂😂. Poster please follow Stella's advice.
ReplyDeletePlease follow Stella's red pen. Be assertive while having that discussion with her and do not tell her son. Enjoy the weekend at her place.
ReplyDeletewhat if she kills you to protect her secret? you should have a backup cos no one will know what happened
ReplyDeleteYour boyfriend's mother is your mother in law abi?? *** laughs hysterically*** no wonder una dey barb hair join when gbese burst.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, the only way around this is a direct confrontation, where you say your whole mind and she says her's. Like two adults. Hiding cannot solve this issue unless you end the relationship. Or maybe you are running because you got turned on...
Just take it easy...
While saying her whole mind, let her please record the conversation incase.........
DeleteNa wa o! This is tough.
ReplyDeletePray and let God lead you
In my opinion, she should tell her man, if he doesn’t believe then she can leave him. Leaving without telling your man something like that is childish.
ReplyDeleteListen honey, be mature about this. it ain't even that much of a problem, you just have to apply wisdom and still be cool with her.
ReplyDeleteTell her you are flattered but you don't swing that way. That you won't tell a soul about it, not even your boo because it doesn't have to be a scandal so pick her calls but be firm and also be cautious of your body language when she's around you, its a dead giveaway.
If you love your boo enough, this doesn't have to end your relationship.
I am not a lesbian Stella, I wrote "mother-in-law to be" up there
ReplyDeleteDarling, this is messed up on so many levels. My issue with your boyfriend's mum isn't her sexual orientation or preference, rather it is with her flagrant disregard for boundaries. It forces me to imagine what her values are and I wonder how she raised her son. I just hope there isn't a dark side he has managed to keep hidden from you.
ReplyDeleteA mother is known for her love and sacrifices. Arguably, a mother's love is one of the purest. I wonder why she would allow her lustful desires overtake her mental faculties. So if you were down like that, she would have done stuff to you and with you, regardless of how heartbroken her ONLY CHILD would be? What an unscrupulous mother! I'm sure she had a fling with you in mind. So she wouldn't mind crushing her son's heart and future plans just for a moment's pleasure, which may well be one sided?
Sweetie, I don't want to be the harbinger of bad news but I fear for your future with your boyfriend. If you get married to him and bear his kids, I wonder how awkward it will be when she comes to babysit? There are certain lines that once crossed, cannot be un-crossed. You are already feeling a type of way about her. Before long, your man may start noticing how uncomfortable you feel in his mum's presence.
I can't tell you what to do. I know it is grossly unfair to visit the sins of a parent on a child, however, an apple, they say, doesn't fall far from the tree. While this isn't absolutely true, you will do well to really get to know your man well enough and don't rush into marrying him because you feel time is running out or you're scared of not finding another man good enough.
I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason. You were meant to have that encounter with her for a reason. It may be to alert you to something you are overlooking or as an omen of what is to come. I don't know the reason but you should do your due diligence and in your quiet time pray for directions and listen to what your mind tells you. Good luck sweetie.
e-hugs and kisses.
Ronalda, you have proven over and over again to be very intelligent and able to rationalize without sentiment. God bless you for this advice. Poster, please take the above advice 👆👆👆
DeleteThanks my darling, I appreciate the compliment.
Deletee-kisses.
Best advice so far.
DeleteYou are welcome Ronalda 🤗
DeleteBest advice
DeleteHey lady your fiancé knows his mum is a lesbian. it might even be as twisted as a threesome between y'all in a foreseeable future. The choice is yours to make.
ReplyDeleteThe pursuit of pleasure has left many to losing their souls
DeleteWith bitterness hanging in the mouth
BE CAREFUL YOU ALL
BE CAREFUL
My dear speak with the woman and record the conversation
ReplyDeleteEnd time mother inlaw..
ReplyDeletePls Jesus is coming soon. Make we repent biko
ReplyDeleteMake sure the conversation is recorded o ehen
ReplyDeleteI'm gradually but definitely getting to that stage where I laugh whenever I see something that looks like opposition. Opposition in itself, isn't an issue. It's who or what is opposing you, that is the concern.
ReplyDeleteYoung lady, have you honestly prayed about your relationship? I'm not talking about telling God what you think you want, but honestly asking Him with an open heart what He woiwo have you do. What did God tell you? The answer to this, is the only relevant thing.
Like I said before, opposition is normal. If it's the devil opposing you, that's a good thing. If God is opposing you, that's obviously not good. The only problem is that opposition doesn't come in a package titled "God's opposition" or "Satan's opposition". Opposition from either side look, smell, taste, sound, and feel alike. You need to be able to discern where it's coming from.
Five years before I got married, God showed me my husband, but gave me a heads up: his mother is going to be a problem. Long story short, we got married and MIL seemed completely sane. I assumed I mis-heard. Two years into the marriage, I heard God say, "I'm about to show your in-laws that My stamp is on your marriage. And when I am done, even you will fear Me." I was like, "God, it's just marriage. It's not that deep." Over the following three months, lots of things happened. Let's just say I didn't hallucinate - when your MIL sends people to assassinate not just you but her own child, you too will know that God doesn't lie. And I remember telling God, "I have to have made a mistake; I will divorce this man. With all that's happening, how can this be You?" And God told me, "You haven't made a mistake; sit still. I told you 7yrs ago, I haven't changed My mind."
Turns out God doesn't know how to lie or play. And it looks like something out of an old Nollywood film - think of those films with people suddenly running mad, confessing, marriages of the conspirators crashing terribly, their children dying in batches, weird things like land bleeding, and extending to even people outside the family (who helped them). I used to think these things were just fables; to me, if pesin crase, na medical issue, carry them go psych. Which one is "I tried to kill you, but something started beating me till I off cloth"?
The point of my bothering to say these - poster, go and pray. If you don't know God, you are in trouble. Cos it's very dangerous to wait till you want to marry, to hear God you've not been hearing before. Note that I wasn't already in love with my husband before I asked God anything, no energy for cloudy mind caused by feelings. Go and ask God who is really opposing you, before you enter wahala that has another person's name on it.
This to me is making the devil your mother-in-law.
ReplyDeleteknowing fully that the devil comes to kill,steal and destroy.