STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
BIGGEST REGRET
I started a business of importation, of bags and accessories last year January,then I took a loan late November, and some of my customers pre ordered for some items too,I added the whole money about 387k to buy goods from China,I placed my orders,mainly for Xmas goods,and up till today I regret that action, cos I never got the goods till now as you read this....
I started a business of importation, of bags and accessories last year January,then I took a loan late November, and some of my customers pre ordered for some items too,I added the whole money about 387k to buy goods from China,I placed my orders,mainly for Xmas goods,and up till today I regret that action, cos I never got the goods till now as you read this....
I spent my Xmas in tears and hiding,my new year refunding customers and starting to repay the loan,which I'm still paying monthly,when I got news that my items were missing at the warehouse,it wasn't even taken to the cargo office for shipping,here i was in naija convincing my customers that its custom delay not knowing I was in for a shocker,i almost died,at my 25years of age I have hbp,and ulcer same time,I'm always falling ill and lost in thought,couldn't sleep at night for fear of people calling me out,i stumbled on this blog from instagram,and became a regular blog visitor,but i hardly commented...
I regret taking a loan,I regret placing the orders,I regret spending close to 400k and nothing to show for it,I almost ran mad,I lost all my customers,right now I'm starting again, from the scratch with not up to 10k in my account,everything fell apart,the business I built for years just went like that,even the people I call my friends turned their backs on me and were even pushing my customers to threaten me for their money,my friend even told one to threaten me with social media disgrace....
I still haven't finished paying d loan.I spend everyday regretting but it has happened and nothing can be done,my agent says they might find it but it will take time,my boyfriend ended our relationship,if only i could change things, if only someone warned me,its the biggest blow life has dealt me,cos I'm just a young Lady struggling to make ends meet,,i just started again
I need advice,if anyone can advice me on what to do,cos I'm confused.
I really dont know what to advice cos i am not a business minded person but dont lose hope and send your advert if you cant afford one and lets help you get customers....
This is sad...
ReplyDeleteI hope this is not using style to ask for donation and you are waiting for who will ask for your account number like success.
Deleteonly you loose money, boyfriend dump, high bp, ulcer. OK
When this was your first time of ordering from that particular wholesaler in China why didn't you try them with small money first like 100k.
Or you cld have looked for who is doing similar business and use their own wholesaler who they can vouch for.
Dear poster, sorry about your ordeal. With time God will restore all. 2ill advice you to start dropshipping. There are a lot of online businesses that allows that now from hairs,kitcken wares,kids and adult clothing, bags etc. All you need is a platform to display the goods and advertise to people, once they make payment you get the goods and deliver in your own packaging. You keep your profits till you can start buying goods. That's what i do and i just started buying my own goods directly.
DeleteThat allow not allows
DeleteShe allows
A lot of companies allow
My company allows
Hope you didnt sleep with a married man.
DeleteIf no, take heart, things will fall in place and you will be bigger.
If yes, face the music
Sorry dear don't give up on God.
DeleteYou are still young and will rise again. Building customers is gradually, so have no fear.
madam which part of china did you order goods from? I say this because your story sounds suspect!. I order often from Aliexpress from lace to Brazilian hair to jewellery to basics and it often arrives. My cousins in 9ja also do the same with little problem. Occasionally, when a good hasnt arrived nor been delivered they "open a dispute" on aliexpress and alibaba and their monies are refunded in full
ReplyDeleteSo again i ask, how did you order, online ? Which platform? which warehouse/cargo?
Her story doesn't sound like a lie. Things like this happen. Something went wrong and it's only God that bring it out.
DeleteThings like this happen and it doesn't sound like a lie.
DeleteMy dear, take heart,it will end in praise.
God will come through for you.
Don't say shit ignorantly please! Her story sounds "suspect" because u shop on Ali express?. My friend experienced same, till today she hasn't seen her goods. Some people shop and use shipping agents...
Delete@ Reina,.. Azzin eh.. Because she dey shop for Ali express, person no go hear word. I would have said "Ali express kee her Dia" but I won't. 😒
DeletePoster, I am deeply sorry for your predicament. Your boyfriend na devil representative, if he could break up with you on such grounds.. Take it easy.
I have ordered stuff online too and for whatever reason it was out of stock, my money was refunded. Hope she didn't pay to 419.
DeletePls don’t make it harder for her,most peope here use agents and don’t buy directly from aliexpress and as I am talking to you same thing is happening to me and they can’t give me any good reason even though the money isn’t much as I just decided to try this agent for the first time....she should hold the agent she gave the money to and not bear all the loss alone,where did the goods disappear to??the agent should be arrested
DeleteWhy are you all coming for Sylvia? She asked a valid question that needed an answer like someone that knows the business.
DeleteYou just don't shut people up, after all the poster ask for advice and not pity party.
If u have no advice
DeletePls take a Waka pass role
You don't have to make her feel worse,things like this happen,I sell souvenirs and 2016 my goods were missing but the money was 100k then,it shook me but there was no one for me to hold,I had to look for another money and I was told It will be found later o,till today,that one na fabu,the only thing now is to find a way to help her so she doesn't harm herself as she said she is paying a loan and I'm sure she won't even be able to pay that loan as no goods to sell,poster i wish I could help you right now
Delete@sylvia....you ordered from Aliexpress....I dont know of you are ordering to sell though...not everyone that orders from china ordered from Ali express..some order directly from the manufacturers and use an agent to get it delivered to nigeria..that's 2 different things o
DeleteHow possible is it that her goods can not be accounted for?
DeleteHow is it possible that I send 7-10pairs of shoe from Lagos to abuja through Peace mass courier office and it was NEVER SEEN?
I didn't sleep well for days,what would I have done if the lady had called me out?
Guess what?that was the second time the same customers goods go missing BTW Lagos to abuja(I sent the first through a driver in jibowu)this has never happened with another client,very strange!
the 2 guys unfortunately had to pay for the goods bit by bit!!
Hey poster,the sun will shine on you again🙏🙏!
Eeyah, so sorry about all you're going through. Please be strong and know that you'll come out of this and you'll stand again. It's only a matter of time. It is well dear.
ReplyDeleteThis is painful
ReplyDeleteAll business has risks, most heavy weights didn't get to where they are today without losses, u will bounce back. I normally discourage close pals from taking loans to do start up, u can't tell which way d thing will go.
ReplyDeleteAdvert with less than 10k balance? She Gast to get money 4 goods but importing goods is a big risk. Some ppl in ur shoes have died or committed suicide. At least u can payback
ReplyDeleteWhere did you buy the things
ReplyDeleteDid you buy on a website like Alibaba or did you buy from an individual. If you used Alibaba or found them there or any similar website, you should file a claim immediately. If you dealt with an individual directly, it gets a little bit tougher to recover your money . Provide details for more assistance
The fact that she said china doesn't mean its aliexpress..she most likely didnt order from an online store.. just the way some people go directly to the manufacturers in china and request for a particular pattern..you can be in Nigerian and communicate with the manufacturers...tell the what you want...for example ...I needed shoes and the manufacturers were contacted if they dont have your size and you buy in bulk they can make a particular design in a size you preorder...you can even send your foot measurement to them and it's made to fit your feet. Ut the pecks is while you go online to place such orders from different manufacturers you need an agent to go round these manufacturers pick up your goods and ship them to nigeria...these agents pick up the goods of different buyers and ship them at once.
DeleteFor those who shop in bulk from china I am sure you understand that manufactures na like pure water for there..any corner na manufacturing spot if you know what I mean.
This trade is different from shopping from Aliexpress or wish...
Aliexpress ships to Nigeria..wish doesn't ship to nigeria...wish stuffs are cheap though..sometimes they are free you only pay for shipping
One thing i learnt from my business is that when you fall, you should not remain on the floor but to rise again. I remember mom who was a big palm oil and groundnut oil trader put to birth then of our last born. Put her brother in charge while she was in Omugwo, we were quite young and our dad lived away from us. After 3 months, she got to the store and it was empty. Many of you would be wondering how come she did not know. Everyday he gives account and says he has ordered and paid for another set. I remember sitting and watching my mom in tears, cos my uncle had even gone ahead to buy in debt. One day, she was so frustrated that she was going to touch a naked wire and just end it all. She started again with 3000 and buying on credit, then paying afterwards. She has 3 houses to her name after the incident and still trained us. So poster, it is not the end, you are building your testimony. I am glad you are starting all over. The Lord will see you through.
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DeleteSorry
You will bounce back stronger, wiser, smarter and better
Learn from this lady's mother
This is not the end of you
Those who turned their backs on you will open mouth like Shoprite doors when you rise AGAIN
Stay Focused
Pray like never before
Take calculated risks
See you at the Finish Line, A success
You did it before
You can do it again
Only this time BETTER!!
It must be depressing having to go through this at such a young age. But hey! We've all been there in the early days, but with determination, we got back on track. If you are still interested in continuing in your line of business, check online-on IG, I see handles offering startups good deals in that line of business. They give you a good package for wholesale, and as you pay back, they increase your stock accordingly. Please investigate before you do any deals with them- go through old posts and comments before you settle for one. Good luck, and Hey! stay strong, favour will locate you.
ReplyDeleteAs long as there is life, there is hope.
ReplyDeletePeople borrowed money and did MMM, some their life savings and worst things have happened to people.
But guess what, they are bouncing back.
Most times, we can't control the mistakes we make, but we must rise from guilt, self pity and regrets, to forge ahead.
Guess what, you have become bigger, stronger and wiser.
Start from the scratch and watch God restore you in the shortest possible time.
And do you know how many millions of people are in naija? This is saying new customers will come.
Just trust God and move on.
Godbless you all,you guys have lifted my spirit,I'm grateful to you all
DeleteSo right,I used my house rent do mmm,u can't imagine what happened to me,I Scott with a friend for 1 year nd 3 months
DeleteHmm blows of life it's well with you. We pray they recover the goods and your mockers be put to shame but until then may God give you the strength to carry on and open doors of break through for you
ReplyDeleteStella God bless you Nnem.
ReplyDeletePoster may God come through for you dear.
Sorry for being negative, hope this is not a format to stylishly beg and scam bb's for money o
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry but I agree. She's only responding with thanks for sympathy. Not one single response to those asking for details so they can help with advice on how to get her money back hmmm
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ReplyDeleteI almost did same but i develop cold feet at the last minute.
I'll advice you to settle your debts first then start on a clean slate.
Maybe you should call out who you sent the money to for the goods
Dear poster sorry 4 ur loss. Ive been there n I know how it feels. My dear, society is not friendly and people come up with one lie or the other on a daily basis to scam others so dont blame ur friends/customers if they do not believe you. For all u know Its also not easy with them. Right now all you owe yourself is to pick up from the little uve and struggle ur way back up. While at it, dont forget it might even get worse at some point but keep faith and keep strong. Na so life just be o.
ReplyDeleteKPELE.
So sad! Don't worry dear poster because "no condition is permanent". Your situation will change for good and you will smile at last.
ReplyDeleteBe strong.
ReplyDeleteI lent some money to a supposed "friend" some years ago.
I was still struggling and did not have much.it was 300k.He never paid till today.In fact he disappeared and i never heard from him again.i was left with almost nothing. I thought i would die.
Few yrs down the line,300k is a one time shopping money...
What im saying is ,be strong sis.Disappointments come and u think u would not make it..but You would.You would look back and laugh.Just be strong
Lent a friend 500k. For a whole year he didn't pick my calls. Went to his home and office. He had packed out due to lack of money for rent. There is no one I didn't curse him to and report him to. His friends,associates,pastor.
DeleteAfter 2yrs he just called my sister to ask for my account details. Credited my account with 600k. Today that guy has bounced back even bigger, lives in Parkview. His office is in Vi. He has even dashed me money several times.
I told him the thing that annoyed me was the not calling me to explain things. How won't you be able to tell a friend you have issues.
One thing I have learnt,I will never loan a friend money. But for the guy being a man our friendship would have been totally destroyed. No curse I didn't curse him. If you don't want issues. Never loan a friend huge amount more than 50k.
Maybe he didn't know how you'll react wen he tells you he can't pay the 500k. Good thing he later paid back sha
DeleteBe strong.
ReplyDeleteI lent some money to a supposed "friend" some years ago.
I was still struggling and did not have much.it was 300k.He never paid till today.In fact he disappeared and i never heard from him again.i was left with almost nothing. I thought i would die.
Few yrs down the line,300k is a one time shopping money...
What im saying is ,be strong sis.Disappointments come and u think u would not make it..but You would.You would look back and laugh.Just be strong
I honestly don't believe in taking risks, there's no way I will put all my money in a business no matter how hard you try to convince me.
ReplyDeleteIf I had 50k, I'd use 30k and keep the rest in my pocket in case any this goes wrong with the 30k I invested in my business, I'd still have something to hold on to.
Well, poster, the only thing you can do now is pray and hope your goods are found while you go about your daily business. Don't hide from your customers, beg them and tell them the situation you found yourself. They are human, they will understand.
Good luck.
Thank you Stella for posting my advert, bless up mom.
ReplyDelete*complete store frozen foods and provision*
What a glorious experience you are having. All you see are the bad things, but All I see are the good ones. You now know how humans can be when things go bad for others and how fickle loyalty is. God has used this incident to clear out all the useless ppl out of your life, fake friends, fake boyfriend all gone to make way for the real genuine ppl who will love you unconditionally to enter. Bad customers who would seek to publicly humiliate you are gone. You now know how things can go when ordering from a distant country and the need to have a backup plan or testing a new supplier on a small scale before going into bigger business with them. This experience will make you a 100% better business woman in the future. Yes, they will find your goods and you will receive them, in the meantime you can choose to change your business name and look for other customers. In ten years you will look back on this time of your life and actually thank God that things went the way they did.
ReplyDelete💯 likes 👏👏👍
DeleteIs this a cry for donating or what
ReplyDeleteEeyah...it is well with you poster. The good Lord will restore all you have lost
ReplyDeleteI believe you will get your goods and smile again. Its part of business that sets people back. But be strong pick up what is left and continue.
ReplyDeleteI loose my savings yearly after investing In one business or the other.this has happened for like 3 years consecutively.. You know what,I'm still standing, still struggling, knowing that I'll make it one day. So cheer up darling ,you are alive and will overcome all
ReplyDeleteThis doesn’t add up abeg.
ReplyDeleteConsider this setback, as a setup for a huge comeback.
ReplyDeleteYou will rise again!
Chin up dear!
I also ordered things from China (for personal use) though. It never arrived and I never got a refund. I'm sorry to hear about your ordeal. But I believe and trust God to restore you in every way. Help is on the way...
ReplyDeletePele ..if you are in Nigeria...hmmm...if you dont have an agent sometimes ordered goods from China can get misplaced o
Delete@ oreola, I have agent, paid for my goods, was told my goods Are around to pay for shipping fee, which I did immediately. Three weeks now from one story to another.i have not gotten the goods. I just pray I do not send a chronicle like this.
Delete@skye....I pray you dont send a Chronicle....its well....
DeleteI think shipping from china to nigeria takes approximately 2 weeks...let's hope your agent has not posted it it yet cause he or she is waiting to pick up from others and ship at once..its cheaper for them to ship at once than ship single whilst they would have collected money from you to ship immediately
At least your is good, you ordered for goods, me I invested my business money into MMM, then even collected esusu, hoping to invest back in my business, what happened in December is a popular story, what did I do? I cried a little to ease my pain, and started all over, but here I am today, am not where I want to be but am somewhere and I know am going somewhere better than before. Just stand firm, forget the past and think of something to do, with the 10k,perfume business is good and lucrative .
ReplyDeleteThere's always light at d end of a tunnel... Don't lose hope
ReplyDeleteIn 2015 I lost all my savings and I had nothing not even kobo in my account. But today I thank God I worth millions. So poster relax your testimony is loading...
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I read your post with tears in my eyes. Why? Because I went through something similar in 2013; my whole business went down within a twinkle of an eye. I didn't know what to do but change came when I left all to God. I changed my prayer topic and I started telling God to take the wheel. I told Him to do it how He wants. I wasn't telling God to replace my lost but I will just go on my knees and tell him "God, I don't know how but please solve this and grant me peace". To my amazement the Lord Jesus stepped in. Some people even called me to tell me they've cancelled my debt, that I shouldn't mind paying them. It was a miracle. Then gradually things changed.
ReplyDeleteI'm not saying God will solve yours as mine. He's the sovereign Lord, He has so many methods. What I'm telling you is, if you have never depended on Him, this is a good time. In my case, I'm in a far better place now. The Lord did it exceedingly abundantly and still doing it more than I can ever ask or think. I pray the peace of the Lord and His wisdom into you right now in the Mighty and matchless name of Jesus.
I seal this testimony with the blood of Jesus. In jesus name.
Amen,thank you for these words,im grateful to everyone of you,to those that might think I'm lying,may God not put you in this position, sometimes I feel like slitting my wrist but,I always brush off the thought each time it comes to my head.it will end in praise
Delete@ mo, am using an angent in China, my story is the same
DeleteHey Mo, be strong okay.
DeleteHe will replace these ashes.
Stay strong, this season will pass.
@Mo...splitting your wrist is not the answer...this too shall pass...I pray you come out stronger..e..hugs
DeleteWow so sad,where and how you order your goods matter a lot,learn to ask questions about the agent or company your ordering from and secondly your first order should be with small money to test the waters and also try to get we-chat that's what I use ,you will bounce back God will help you.If you order directly from a company try to search for the contact on line and call them out
ReplyDeletePoster, you shall rise again. Hold on to God and ask Him to direct your steps.
ReplyDeleteI’ve had this happen to me but thank God I order my raw materials from the US and I have insurance...I believe her story, you shall bounce right back up
ReplyDeleteMy dear just take hope,I'm in same shoe with you I owe a total of 1.5million that was given to me as loan for business...I can only account for 400k(300k for shop rent and 100k goods in the shop)I have decided to break my sim card,and run away from home by July if I don't get a job....i am depressed,loosing my self(was thinking of hooking up with one rich married man against what i have always stood for)reason being that ,the loan and my shop rent are due August ending.the only thing keeping me on is hope that before July everything will be alright.
ReplyDeleteEvery lesson in life is meant to build you up and strengthen your endurance capacity.
ReplyDeleteNow you know those who are not friends; your girlfriends, your boyfriend.
Two lessons to go home with apart from the above;
1. Save, then invest; if you had lost your money (and not borrowed money) it would have been easier to bear
2. Do not trust any man no matter how in love, to the extent of giving him sex. Yes, you did not tell us
if this was the case but knowing today's dudes, they always demand sex in a relationship. His leaving will
be more bearable if it was a no sex relationship.
What to do now is to seek and trust the only person that will not abandon you; Jesus. Trust him, read his teachings
daily and see that these phase shall pass.
Poster with your 10k you can start with selling of bedspreads and polo case or even bra&pants, children's clothes or share a bale of okrika with someone....you can start over again, don't give up and soon all your worries will be gone.Think less and watch your blood pressure, font ruin your health over this little challenge...cheers.
ReplyDeleteHow will your testimony be complete without trials??? This will pass Hun. All that U lost will be restored. Just Just calm and prayerful
ReplyDeleteHey@MO,of you want,I could send u pictures of stuffs,u drop ship I'll buy and ship to your client,IN MARKET PRICE!!
ReplyDeleteStuff not stuffs
DeleteI just encountered something similar. Right now I'm picking up gradually. You sure will bounce back stronger.
ReplyDeleteBe strong my dear,what will you say about me who lose everything to fire(my home got burnt this February,2019.I thank God no life was lost. Am back in Benin living with my Parent,trying to get back on my feet.
ReplyDeleteThere r scammers everywhere. That's something to know that u take risk by anything involving money exchanges!!!
ReplyDeleteMost people r not opening up business or adverts for good purpose. They r looking for chance to steal ur money, then shut down communication, no phone call answered, no email reply etc.
Shipping companies, online companies, even shop outlets with known physical office location & business premesis.
The worst is family members & close friends etc, who betray ur trust in them!!!
U dont play with money. U should only start business carefully & do risk assessments or invest money wisely!!!!
Shikena!
I beg to differ from everybody but I think what happened to you is a good thing in disguise. Thank God it's happening at a young age, those things build you up like no book knowledge ever can. You will not only rise from it but the benefits will last a life time.
ReplyDeleteAs hard as it may seem seek a greater tie with your creator or whatever your concept of God is. Sow the sorrow psychologically as a seed and once sown shake away the hurt pain and bitterness in a few moths time the event will only be a faint memory.
Trust me I've been there several times and I can assure you it's life best gift to you though it doesn't seem so now
Avoid the professional sympathizer, the nay sayers and the continual carrier of pity at this time they ain't nothing but a distraction you don't need them. Reach deep down inside you and write out 20 reasons to smile. E.g. life, health family , friends, vision biz acumen etc and truly smile even if it forced.
psyche yourself up and make joy a must in your life.
You are in a good place, trust me
Don't give up mo
ReplyDeletePoster something is not right. I never comment on here but something is not right. Who did you order through. Please go to the shipping company. Who did you learn from? Please don't keep quiet. People import goods from China thru the sea and it takes months but they get it. Once again something is not RIGHT. I know this because I import from China and I help people import in fact I just paid for goods to be brought in yesterday. So once again something is not right. Please send in the full details of your story
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