This question I am about to ask is for Female Blog Visitors....
Have you ever seen someone you liked and toasted them....?Told them you like them and wanted a Relationship or wanted to Marry them?
Were you shy or bold about it?What was his reaction?
Men how do you feel when a confident woman walks up to you and asks you out?
Some people may not like this but i actually see nothing wrong in going for what wants.....I belong to the school of thought which thinks a woman should go for what she wants if she sees it.
What is your school of thought? Are you one of those who think that women who ask me out settle for less or get disrespected? As a man would you Marry a woman that proposes to you?would you date a woman that tells you she likes you?
I am a go getter!!!
It's so awkward i can't try. It's better for me to be tripping for you in my mind and head, that is where the boldness ends.
ReplyDeleteI can't try it, my liver no reach that one.
DeleteI'm not exactly sure I've had to directly ask a guy out. But if I happen to meet a cute guy and we eventually cross paths i get to tell him just how cute I think he is or say how I love the smell of his perfume (that gets me always)🤣. Then I look on like I never said anything, what happens after that would be his business.🙄🙄
DeleteI can't do it, but a friend of mine is cool with the idea of toasting guys she likes.
ReplyDeleteMy being a go getter no reach to propose to a man.
ReplyDeleteI can't be turnionmyown nau.
Before he will come and be forming Demi god for me.
Let the go getter in him come get me. Mbok
Yes. I got tired of my button being wain-ed from village. He called me one early morning (around 5:30am) and I started to ask him out. He said yes and proposed. He mobilised his people and my brideprice was paid that same month.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you
DeleteI'm too shy and reserved to toast a guy. I will only be dying for you in silence.
ReplyDeleteI'm not shy and reserved but I'll never toast a guy. God forbid
DeleteNAaa, its not a female thing, not funny running after a man, he will tell you, you threw yourself at him any day una quarrel.
ReplyDeleteMe wey dey toast guys steady!...
ReplyDeleteNot a big deal..
Hahahahahaha.. Onye nko!
DeleteAbeg pack well.
DeleteHahahaha queen queen, you are up to the task jaré.
DeleteI'm a shy person and can never do that.
No big deal na. I can do it. Maybe a Boy-Toy sha.
DeleteMbannu toast a man jealous? Me wey shakara full my body as a fine girl that I "is"... The boldness ends in my head, Biko search and find me
ReplyDeleteThe one wey una dey carry phones hunt for abroad kwanu?
DeleteNderi moves.
Never!!! I would rather take the feelings to my grave
ReplyDeleteI will give you plenty hints say I like you or I'm into you but to fully come and ask you out I can't fit. The hints will be so clear you can't miss it but if you decide to pretend you don't get it I respect myself and walk away jejely I don't need another person to tell me we are not on the same page.
ReplyDeleteThe only one I toasted only wanted to smash. I toast am but na me kuku dump am when I knew his intentions.
ReplyDeleteOf course he'll only want to smash! Were you expecting a serious relationship?
DeleteIn this part of the world,guys always take ladies for granted if u walk up to them for a relationship so I won't advice anyone to try it.
ReplyDeleteI toasted one sweet Corper in my working and i am enjoying every bit if the relationship.Nna young guys sabi knack pass plenty husbands,im always damn wet.I am married tho.
ReplyDeleteUna see the shameless Naija girls wey I dey yarn about?
DeleteThem full here dey chant church church.
Na Pharisees and Sadducees.
Na the man wey carry cobra put for house call am wife I pity pass.
Stella that was me so many years ago. I toast guys especially fine guys...i used to like so fine guys wella then. I just start as being friends and then suddenly i just grab the guy and give him a forceful deep kiss na the guy go later succumb. And then i tell the guy "i want you badly are you single?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteStella this is a true life experience of me. I am a bold and courageous and i say it d way it is. I think i learned all these from movies and novels while growing up.
I used to toast fine guys before now i am a new creation old things have past behold new things here.
Oshey...baddest GnM
DeleteHaaaa..wives oooo, anyway u can't compare d stamina of a guy in his 20s n 30s to those in their late 40s upward...young guy will drill you and u won't think straight.
DeleteThis Blackey girl
DeleteThat ya tohtoh don see bad times.
Na real trap.
If a guy did this (faked a friendship with a woman and one day suddenly grabbed her and stuck his tongue in her mouth), we will call it what it is: sexual assault. Or attempted rape. Nothing "bold and courageous" about some kinds of behaviour.
DeleteNope
ReplyDeleteHa, I’ve pursued men severally o. I’ll send money, call, encourage, woo them until they fall for me and want to get serious then I’ll either ghost them or become very harsh with them and run away. I was never scared of going after the men I liked. I have been politely or rudely rejected by 3 of them but for the most part I got all I ever fancied. I guess the wooing process was the catch for me and once they like me back the thrill is gone and they’re mystified and become ordinary.
ReplyDeleteBefore anyone jumps into conclusions, I married as a virgin so there was no sex, intimacy or making out involved. Maybe I did it because I was a spoilt privileged kid who thought I could get anything I wanted then.
Hahahaha I like you, alpha female.
DeleteYou must be my Ex-girlfriend
Delete#they are demystified and become ordinary.
DeleteCrushing seriously on a cute guy in my former office (got a new job this year). Told my closest pal in the office and she stylishly asked uncle if he was in a relationship and his spec. Guy man is single but doesn't like tall girls. I am tall and I love wearing heels too, so I stand no chance. Still crushing though.
ReplyDeleteU might stand a chance. Tell her to stylishly ask about you in particular. Like so you can't be attracted to....
DeleteThere are men who dont like tall girls?!
DeleteIf you ever ask a Naija man for date or to come marry you na im be say
ReplyDeleteyou don carry ya own hand hand over free tohtoh to am o.
Naija men dey too egocentric (chai, see as I jump all man free style carry grammar nak) to
consider a lady as say she dey responsible to woo them o.
But my Naija girls no dey shame na. Them own wooing style na to collect man number begin send fresh
wet tohtoh to im phone. Na wetin I sabi I dey yarn o. E don happen to my darling for my koro koro eyes.
Na im come show me the thing o. I weak kpata kpata.
Lmaoooooo Sadducee.
DeleteI linked up with one guy in enugu from singles and mingles. A relationship blossomed, the guy can nack,this guy last up to an hour in bed with his big cucumber while my husband is a 1 minute man. I refused to tell him I am a married woman.
ReplyDeleteI never supported this school of thought (but there's nothing wrong with it depending on how you handle it don't go robbing yourself on a guy) recently I have started liking someone genuinely but I don't think going directly is the best instead you can give hints here and there if it works out fine
ReplyDeleteSorry o. I hate seeing already tall ladies on heels. My nephew said heels make them (tall ladies) look like palm trees.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. u pple should forgive him pls
ReplyDeleteAnon 14.43 this was supposed to fall underneath ur comment
DeleteLmao @let the go getter in him come and get you. True talk jare. It's easier said than done to propose to a guy. Your courage level must read 100% before it happens. And what if he turns you down nko? the shame. Stella, it rarely works down here oo. They'll start behaving like demi gods
ReplyDelete~BV Chi
I am very confident but asking a guy out isn't my thing.I don't think Nigerian men are that exposed.it will lead to name calling when you have issues with the guy later on.I'll rather admire from a distance
ReplyDeleteI met my man in a wedding reception last year July and 'toasted' him. actually, my cousin saw him first but she was engaged already and she pointed out this tall chocolate hunk to me and i told her that I was going to ask him out. this was my very first attempt at wooing a guy though I never saw it as a big deal cos I have friends that do it often. last November we got engaged and we are getting hitched this year. did I mention that I'm divorced with a son. lol
ReplyDeleteSeems you’re in a rush darling, please take your time and be sure that whatever happened in your first marriage won’t be repeated again.
DeleteI wish you best of luck.
Prettiest Rosie - In a rush according to you because she's been married before, or cos she got engaged the same year she met the man? I got married the same month I got engaged. Actually within a matter of weeks. No, I wasn't pregnant or desperate. Years later, my husband still adores me and I love him even more today than I did when he proposed (and I was pretty crazy about him, then!) Please, let's stop playing God with the lives of people whose details we don't even know because their story doesn't fit what we think it should be, when we haven't even asked God. There will be people who date for two years, use the next 18months to plan wedding, then divorce after six months of marriage.
Deletethank you @prettiest rose, I'm definitely doing it right this time.
DeleteAnon 20:10, I understand your point which is perfectly correct but there are two sides to things in life. We can’t also discard my view because it has also been the dearth of so many marriages. You hear things like 'I rushed into it, I didn’t know he was like this.’
DeleteAnyway my advice could have helped her or any other person reading, reevaluate and ask some basic questions.
I have been toasted by ladies before. I usually turn around and serenade them with how I have been crushing on them but with excuses on why I couldn't make the first move. That salvages the situation. And I had always had a good time. It has never been an issue to me. I respect them more.
ReplyDeleteFew months into meeting my fiancée last year, as usual we went out on a normal stroll and babe simply asked "what do you want, please make your intention known"
ReplyDeleteWell Intro is two months away.
I did, i am extremely beautiful and I have got brains to match. I am very witty, sly, coy, you know what? all the good qualities you can think of,just go ahead and name it😋.
ReplyDeleteGuys were always intimidated of asking me out and most felt I was already hitched.
I took the bull by the horn, when I saw this bobo that i liked. I made the first move at the mall. Had to check his finger first to know he was available. Though most keep their rings at home, so was extra careful. Struck up a convo from nowhere about nothing😏.
Well,he seemed flattered and tarried along.Told him I was done shopping and asked for his digits before I sauntered to the countered.
Just as i was about bringing out my wallet,after waiting in the queue for long, guess who offered to pay? yes, you guessed right. We have done our introduction and wedding is in a few months time. He told me he has sighted me at the car park.
Turned out he was interested, but was scared i might turn him down so he minded his business. Lily-livered fine boy😂.
í ½í¸¯í ½í¸¯í ½í¸Ší ½í¸Š beautiful story...
DeleteMy liver never reach such a level..
ReplyDeleteNoooo,i can't toast a guy jare.i can only admire from afar...
ReplyDeleteI'm scoping two in church. I might have to make the first move but need to be sure which one to make sure move on before the call me church harlot. One seems interested but he's throwing hints at me instead of talking .other is so quiet. Hmmm.
ReplyDeleteNever have. The closest I come to doing so is when I am tipsy and flirt with a guy and he takes it as a cue. Once it clears, they begin to wonder if I was the same person. I’ve been called ogbanje severally. 😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteI wish I can chop such liver to woo a guy that I like, I will just give you green light and stay calm. I cannot go and woo you, then you tell me no.
ReplyDeleteShame will not let me ask a guy out let alone ask him to marry me. There's this guy I really like but I can't bring myself to tell him.
ReplyDeleteI can only do so when I some Igbo and trust me wen it clears,I don't remb u. D way I go shout for u ehen.
ReplyDeleteMy bible says he that finds a wife......it didnt say she that finds a husband. I'm not interested in turning things upside down. I'm a Chineke-ed girl.
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