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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
JEALOUS MAN
Fellow bvs, I need advice ..........
I am a single mom of 1 and I met a 55 yr old widower and we have been dating for almost 1yr now,he assisted with money to equip my drinks shop and rented an apartment for me and my daughter,the problem now is that this man likes women a lot,he sleeps with anything in skirt....
I found out recently that he is gbenshing my sales girl,I wanted out of the relationship when I got to know, I confronted him and called him a paedophile which got him very angry and he reported me to his elder sister,who insisted I must apologize that he is only trying to assist the lady in question, which is a lie..I caught them red handed...
Since that incident I hate him so much because I kept on wondering if he won't go round and sleep with my younger sister who can date anybody for money...
2. I am scared for my daughter too, God forbid,I can't just imagine it,
3. I realize I am already very in love with this man.. since that incident we talk on phone and chat as usual but I have been avoiding contacts with him. By the way,he gets very angry and jealous whenever my ex comes around to the shop to see his daughter. I am so confused,I don't know what to do,people in the house, please help meeeeeee
*All i can say is that if you settle for Less than you deserve,you will get even less than you settled for...Love yourself and respect yourself...Its not by force to be with a man who damages your peace of mind
*All i can say is that if you settle for Less than you deserve,you will get even less than you settled for...Love yourself and respect yourself...Its not by force to be with a man who damages your peace of mind
I'm sure you don't want any more trouble in your life. an old man that doesn't respect himself. Give yourself brain poster.
ReplyDeleteMadam you are human so it's okay to have feelings for him
DeleteBut my advise is that you MUST KILL abi QUENCH that toxic love
See his sense of entitlement
Feeling jealous and all like he has control over his restless priiik
If I were you
I will ask the ex to visit frequently
I will make sure he leaves me alone
Or do you want him to also help your daughter too?
Since he wants to make himself the SAVIOUR of everything in skirt
I will advise you to dump the man and focus on your shop and your child. In due time good man will come your way. @Blessed Princess
Delete#Adonbilivit!!! 😱😱😱😱😱
DeleteYou are confused? Of what? You should be on your heels running by now. Or is it the financial help that is making you get confused? Hmmm. If you don't think of the possibility of your child being a victim, what about you getting HIV? For the fact that you have a child outside wedlock doesn't mean you don't deserve your kind of man. Abeg you don't have to settle for less. Its better you're single than to marry a wandering P*nis
ReplyDeleteI'm yet to recover from yesterday's chronicle, now you have come with confusion of the heart due to excess love whether to settle for a 55yo community dick or not....can women stop been blinded by emotions and THINK with their heads for a moment?
ReplyDeleteHaba!
My dear even till now I am still in shock of what I read in the name of chronicles yesterday. I couldn't even comment.
DeleteMy mind keeps drifting to how our ladies have such low self esteem just because of desperation for marriage/relationships.
Must we as women ALWAYS be with a man to the extent you loose your dignity and self worth????
See another one that has lost all her senses and doesn't even see the danger she is entering All in the name of relationship.
Poster marry that man and he will abuse your daughter. The signs are staring you right there in your face. Do you want to marry a man you are scared of going to the market and leaving your daughter at home with him for few hours. Is that a relationahip/marriage. He has no self control it is obvious. If he can stoop to sleep with your shop girl, this one will sleep with your friends, sisters and even neighbours.
Who said you can't find a good man as a single mother that you have to put up with a 55yr old dog.
Whoever told women they can't be complete without men? Clearly he's a community prick, one without self respect and pride at that.
DeleteWhat you can do is, learn to be content with what you have. You don't love that man, you love what he gives you and ready to sacrifice your comfort, sanity and self worth for those things. Let him go, appreciate the little God has given you and work hard with it and create the comfort you want for yourself, by God's grace, you will get there. You are depending on him and he won't respect you.
ReplyDeleteYoure right.
DeleteShe be longer throat...
Poverty has destroyed a large number of Nigerian women.
DeleteSome endure domestic violence for money, stay married to a gay man for money, steal their friend's panties so their yahoo boyfriends can make money, marry someone they do not love for money...The list is endless.
Then you have another set of Nigerian women who have money but lack wisdom.
Growing up i was very proud to be a Nigerian woman. I felt we were super women blessed with so much wisdom.
You can only imagine the rude awakening when i experienced as i grew older. By the time i started reading stories on this blog, i had lost all hope.
Nigerian women! Please work hard! Learn to be independent! Learn to be content! You can't spend your entire life at the mercy of a man. ....From your father to your boyfriend; from your boyfriend to your husband.
I know life is hard and we all need help sometimes. But don't sell your dignity and pride for money.
@poster, that man is going to molest your daughter one day. You cannot keep a goat and a piece of yam in the same room. Be guided!
You love him or you love his money? Believe me if you were financially independent you won't settle for this man.
ReplyDeleteDouble your hustle dear.I would have said dethrone him to side guy but you won't be setting a good example for your daughter if she steadily sees you with different men.
I pray you find someone that is worth it soon.This man no follow.Drop him before he drops you.For him to go for your sales girl? SMH! No shame,No respect.
Let him go for your peace of mind.THE END.
She has already sold her daughter for money.
DeleteHer type will tell her daughter to shhhh.
Cos Daddy wants to buy me a carr.
After he buys it, we'll leave i promise".
Women, go and pick up your self esteem from where you have dumped it!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteThis will reduce the number of senseless and stupid chronicles we read here regularly!..
You are doing love up and down, when he sleeps with your daughter nko? Are you that desperate for a man???
You are even more concerned about the jealousy than the womanizing. Sorry for you.
Stay there O, you hear? We will read more chronicles from you.
Nonsense.
Madam there is nothing different from u and that SnM lady habouring and feeding a jobless guy on yesterday chronicle..What kind of stupid love are women falling these days? Most of u are senseless..How can u still be in a relationship with a man that sleeps with anything in skirt? See how u are afraid of ur sister sleeping with him and u had to shame her instead of d man with a roving dick..Ur sister is not ur problem but ur man..Tomorrow u will be afraid of ur own daughter and call her a whore and accuse her of seducing ur man bcos of stupid love..
ReplyDeleteShame on u for still putting up with him and asking us silly questions..I know u won't leave him .U will still be dating him and eventually marry him..Don't send any more stupid chronicle to Stella again..
I can see most of our female BVs are dumb AF!
There's difference between them ooo. Yesterday's poster takes the crown of fools.
DeleteThank you very much dear I can’t really understand what is wrong with our ladies these days, I’m so irritated by reading some rubbish chronicles, I don’t know whether to call it low self esteem or desperation, some ladies are really really stupid
DeleteBia Adult fire, you must be high on cheap drugs to think it's okay to keep cussing people out here unnecessarily. You obviously need love in your life, because you so bitter. Always spitting fire, Ms smart AF! Mtcheew!
DeleteDon't mind the Olodo that can not read and comprehend a passage to save her life
DeleteClaiming Intelligent all over the place
We never ready for you for this blog
Go and ask your senior colleagues on this blog
how far they got
Mtchewwwwwwww
You will go back after reading the comments here, better look in the mirror and decides what's best for you and your child. #saynotostupidmen
ReplyDeleteThat man is taking advantage of ur present state,he feels he is ur helper,so u have no chioce.hope he uses protection..,. Love yaself more n focus on ur business this sh..t called love is nonsense...God is ur helper.
ReplyDeleteposter If U Love yourself nd daughter quietly take stella's adv.
ReplyDeletePlease ma run away from such a man. you don't need such you deserve better.
ReplyDeleteWhich yeye love are you lying to us about? Its the love of his money youre talking about, thats whats getting you hooked
ReplyDeleteGood yarns Stella
ReplyDeleteHow persin go carry koro koro eyes enter pit latrine eh?
The worse be say, im go demand make you return all the investment wey
im don make already for ya shop.
And if you don open tohtoh for am, make you go (cross)check for lab whether
you go remain with ya daughter for long.
E better make una close tohtoh till marriage, na only the closer dey gain.
All them girls wey them own dey open, make una send thunder o. 😉
Get your daughter away from that man as soon as possible!!!
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ReplyDeleteYou are confused because he won't support you financially again if you leave him but poster,your peace of mind is also very important.Leave him and face your daughter and business before he will impregnate your daughter.
ReplyDeleteA little is enough for the wise.
Poster is the money he is giving you
DeletePlenty enough to treat ANY sort of STDs?
Is it plenty enough to get therapy for an abused daughter?
Or enough to care for an unwanted child?
Just think with your head and not your heart
But you guys were supporting the woman whose husband was gay and cheating on her with boys because he was giving her millions. You people said he was a good man and she should help him overcome his weakness. Now it is different abi? Poster you are not yet in bondage, you wan enter? You are not receiving millions and your love for a roving dick beats me. OYO is your case, except you decide to get sense. I am with Stella jare!
DeleteWhat will women not do for money? Why are u still in dat relationship. God forbid what if the man sleep with ur daughter. U better leave that relationship and search for a better man .U are saying u are in love with him when u are u in luv with his money.If he doesn't have money can u tolerate dat shit from him.Don't worry he will still sleep with ur entire household.
ReplyDeleteYou should know what you want with life and in life. How much is he giving you that is confusing you?, money o, sex o, how much?? Let go of him and that your sales girl too before another story enters.
ReplyDeleteWhat is your definition of love, sef?? What do you want from and in a relationship? Just tell him that you cannot continue with him again. If your Sister likes, let her fuck him , her problems.
Please, do away with anything that won't give you peace of mind. Bestvof luck.
His jealousy is not for you but for your daughter. He wants to isolate her so when he starts abusing her , her father won't know and save her, he knows with your kinds of foolishness he can abuse your daughter under your roof and you will do norh
ReplyDeleteExactly! He wants to drive a wedge between the girl and her father, who is her only line of defence. Cos he knows that with a mother like the poster, the girl is very vulnerable. Mother that will blame salesgirl, blame younger sister, will definitely blame her daughter too. All for a community D.
DeleteThe man wants to do BUY ONE get ONE FREE.
DeleteI heard of a man who started a relationship with a widow in the guise of financial helper, next thing he moved to the 22yr old daughter and impregnated her asper their helper. He's now married to d girl with 2kids. Mother and daughter don't talk again.
How old is her daughter? Madam poster protect your daughter. She didn't ask to be born.
DeleteSo because he rented an apartment for you and gave you money for business, you turned your eyes away from him SEXUALLY ABUSING your salesgirl, and you're here asking what to do. Yes, it is sexual abuse cos in Nigeria, many salesgirls are like househelps that don't really have a choice even when they're not minors. You didn't say why you're a single parent but if the father of your daughter comes to your shop, they have some kind of relationship. Relationship that your precious boyfriend is trying to drive a wedge. You're a very careless, materialistic, wicked woman. You can't imagine anyone touching your daughter, but your poor salesgirl that you've given to a wolf in exchange for what a man's money can buy, is not somebody's child? Are you different from a pimp? You're asking what to do - ask your boyfriend to do your intro, then marry him sharperly. You've met his elder sister and done as she asked since you're desperate to be oko iyawo, so you might as well carry on. And see whether the father of your daughter won't kill you if anything happens to his child. With all the stories on this blog and other media outlets, you're opening your life to a wolf cos of money. Silly woman.
ReplyDeleteANON 15:43 I cant help but agree with you.
ReplyDeleteIts like some of you think from ur anus.... you are still there asking for advice okwaya. Leave his sorry ass and cut all ties with him.if he can sleep with ur sale girl he will do the same with ur daughter. Don't trade ur daughter future for shikini change that you are getting from the man.
ReplyDeleteSome women will always make you abuse them. How did you turn out to be this way....such low self worth cos of money. You say your sis can do anything for money but you're also the same. You seem ready to sacrifice your life for the money you're getting. Continue madam to play game with your life.....sebi you have duplicate. Ole olojukokoro
ReplyDeleteWoe unto that love that will make you stick to a man that doesn't respect your union...Madam the only reason you are confused is because of the money he gives you.
ReplyDeleteWell he has equipped your shop,so build on that personally and drop the old community Dick...you don't need a man to validate you,improve on your business, make more money and all will be well in the end...forget the man abeg
LEP😛
Poster please un-love him. He's a good for nothing. This man can go as far as abusing your daughter. Do not wait till he does more damage to you. I understand he pays your bill, but wih the little you have saved you can manage without him, so dump him & move on.
ReplyDeleteI detest men who are matured who stoop so low to sleep with helps who they know dont have a choice . its pathetic, if i were you i wont continue with him. he go fuck ur daughter
ReplyDeleteMadam pls leave the epa alone if you want peace of mind cos he won't stop gbenshing young girls to refresh his blood and look young
ReplyDeleteWhy is it that women fall in love with scums??.. even after finding out they're no good it's still difficult for them to let go. Are women wired to be loving anyhow?. It's well.
ReplyDeleteIs it until he defiles your daughter. Please move on. His even community dick.
ReplyDeleteSo because of money, you are still considering staying with a randy goat? Some you can't even trust with your sister. What about STDs and your daughter's safety? You deserve better.
ReplyDeleteMadam, that man is a charity organisation. A free donor. He has gone very far in this his philanthropic act.
ReplyDeleteHe can't be yours alone again ooo.
Dem no dey learn to use left hand for old age.
He can't commit to a marriage relation ship. It is impossible for him to be faithful and stick to you alone.
And your fears with your sister and daughter, they will in 70% chance happen.
What you should be thinking about now, is how to disentangle yourself peacefully. And if he refused renewing your rent, how to legally raise it. Also, think how to work harder and save, inorder to meet up with your present standard of living which he has enhanced.
Let's hope he won't ask you to refund anything.
Love,love,love....me I don't understand! Its a proven fact that low self esteem can make you settle for faaar less than you deserve.Fear of being alone and all that shit but this man dey has drilled your sales geh(according to you;before your korokoro eyes)and instead of throwing him and the 'relationship' inside dustbin ,you're talking lorf.
ReplyDeleteYou KNOW he's a pedophile,you still want him around....to defile your child shey?
Unlorf him kia,kia and stop thinking of how you'll survive without him.If you perish,you perish.
Sweetheart, as a rule of thumb, never accept any gift from a man you aren't married to unless you can afford it. I know this may sound atypical to the average Nigerian lady because, unfortunately, the mentally here is that a man has to be responsible for ALL your material needs. What most ladies fail to realise is, you will be at the mercy of your "financier". You will be subject to ridicule and you will have to keep enduring whatever he throws at you because you wouldn't want to lose his largesse. I don't know about you but that kinda sounds like slavery, no?
ReplyDeleteProbably, you see this man as a "helper", perhaps you count yourself lucky to have a "provider" but, my darling, at what cost? So he keeps a roof over your head yet you can't even trust him with your sister, and with good reason. How can a 55 year old man be as lascivious as a pubescent teenager? Imagine the gumption of sleeping with your sales girl! No respect for proximity nor your dignity. I may be wrong but I feel he can disrespect you in such a spectacular fashion due to the entitlement he feels being your sole provider.
How do you have a quarrel with the man who pays your rent and invests in your business? Assuming he disrespects you while visiting you in the house he paid for, how do you kick him out? He would probably laugh at you and be the one to kick you out or if your name is on the lease agreement, wait patiently for the rent to expire because he knows you will soon crawl back cap in hand to him.
Sweetie, you know exactly what to do but due to the financial shackles he has on you, you have to tread carefully instead of putting your foot down and ending this less than ideal relationship. Until women learn to be financially independent and self reliant, most men will keep treating us like the quasi domestic servant. The average sane man will always respect a woman who can hold her own regardless of his money. Honey, you have a little girl, what example are you setting for her? She should see her mum as a strong independent woman and not a weakling leeching off an unscrupulous old man. Isn't one of the upsides of dating an older guy, enjoying maturity on his side? Please do the needful, especially for your little angel.
e-hugs and kisses.
Kisses to you too Ronalda. I love your comment.
DeleteWhere do all these low-self worth women come from??? We make mistakes but we ought to learn from them and wise up the minute we've been presented with damning evidence. You know this man is bad news and you're still seeking advice on whether to leave him? How old are you please? You need brain resetting.
ReplyDeleteConfused eeh? Until u get HIV and belle from or pikin, ur eyes go clear
ReplyDeleteRonalda, May your tribe increase!
ReplyDeleteWhat if Ronalda’s tribe is Igbo and you are that anon always bursting an artery when any thing has to do with Igbo people? Hahahahahaha.
Deletemadam pls zero that man, stop having sexual intercourse with him he will quietly leave
ReplyDeleteStella that is the best advice ever.. Poster run for your peace... U deserve better please..
ReplyDeleteYou should stop dating him
ReplyDeleteConfuse ke poster you better run before its too late.
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