STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SILENT TREATMENT
Hi Stella and BVS.....
My hubby and I have been married for a year and seven month now but i am not happy with our s#x life.hubby hardly make love to me,this someone that love sex a lot.
When we were not married he enjoys having s#x with me ,at times we make love three times in a night, he won't let me rest.we only dated for six months and through out that six month we had s#x uncountable times,I got pregnant for him and he married me.
For a year and seven month since we got married I can count how many times we had s#x. I don't know what's wrong. It's been six months since we had it last I decided to beg him to make love to me but he turned me down,I asked him what's wrong he said nothing........
I kept on persisting so that he will tell me but rather he just kept me silent. I really feel hurt that he rejected me and also I feel its too early for us to be this way. Is it normal or there is more to this his attitude. Please I need advice Stella and my fellow Bv's because I have so many thoughts in my head..
*Maybe he has E-Dysfunction....He is definitely going through something!
*Maybe he has E-Dysfunction....He is definitely going through something!
Give it time...
ReplyDeleteYou are pregnant n as a first timer he could be feeling indifferent about having u with big tummy.
Is lyk d BlackBerry no dey function well..
DeleteI thought she aaid she got pregnant, then he married her and they have been married for 1yr and seven months but they haven't had sex in the last six months abi na forever Belle?
DeleteMaybe childbirth made 'you' wider
DeleteShe's not pregnant please. She got pregnant in their 6th month together and they've been married for 1 year and seven months. Do the maths, she's given birth.
DeleteWhy won't the man effing speak on why he is acting like a douche? Poster did it start after you gave birth? Are you sure he is not facing something like financial stress? Or Stella could be right and it is ED. The guy has to talk sha. Poster is there anyone close to him who he respects that can intervene and speak to him since he won't talk to you? I just hope it is not side chick ish.
DeleteI hope your husband has not contacted a disease and his scared of afflicting you. Don't even know what to think.
DeleteHope u r not like my friend, after her 1st baby she became tattered,very undesirable, we go to her HSE she go tie smelly wrapper, unkept hair,HSE smelling of baby wee,dustbin in d kitchen smells,yet she complains of not being touched. We her very good friend came together one day, went to her HSE tided everywhere, mopped, washed,ironed while we got someone to mk her hair, we (3) sat her down and spoke serious sense into her, she told us d kin praise d horseband gave her that 9t ehen. Anyways she relapse once in a while but we try to ginger her up with Instagram. Pls search urself Well, a wild pusy is not enough for a guy to stay off. Personal hygiene drives most of them away. He may also b going tru emotional problems
DeleteHope u r not like my friend, after her 1st baby she became tattered,very undesirable, we go to her HSE she go tie smelly wrapper, unkept hair,HSE smelling of baby wee,dustbin in d kitchen smells,yet she complains of not being touched. We her very good friend came together one day, went to her HSE tided everywhere, mopped, washed,ironed while we got someone to mk her hair, we (3) sat her down and spoke serious sense into her, she told us d kin praise d horseband gave her that 9t ehen. Anyways she relapse once in a while but we try to ginger her up with Instagram. Pls search urself Well, a wild pusy is not enough for a guy to stay off. Personal hygiene drives most of them away. He may also b going tru emotional problems
DeleteToo blessed condoms dey nah
DeleteHope you are still attractive? My dear start looking beautiful o, ignore him.
DeletePregnancy and childbirth changes our bodies as women (tho you didn't mention if you went on to have your child). Not every man deals well with that. Was he with you in the labour room? It could be trauma
ReplyDeleteCould he have caught an infection from "outside" and isn't done treating it?
It could be erectile dysfunction just as Stella mentioned?
Sit him down and ask what the problem is. Six months is a long time to be doing trial and error. Dress nicely, skimpy is sexy and if his penis does not arise hehe it's time to fix an appointment with the Doc
Poster and you're still dulling my yourself. Rape the hell out him! If possible sef, drug him. Then have your fill while he's asleep.. And don't forget to film it so you can use the video to blackmail him in future anytime you want f**k.....
DeleteMaking sense?
Abeg lemme o, hungry is catching me ona asim fu*k .
16;46 u say wetiiiiinn? Rape kwa. Abeg I no dey ooo
DeleteI will advise you to wait after delivery, maybe he does not like having s#x with a pregnant woman, so he decided to have a side chick while waiting for you to deliver @Blessed Princess
ReplyDeleteYpu gat no single sense
DeleteCould it be that you are not neat? Could it be that since you gave birth, your house is in a mess and he doesn't feel relaxed in it anymore to think about sex? Could it be that you trapped him with pregnancy to marry you and now after it all, he's missing his ex, who used to be the main chick?
ReplyDeletePlease seat him down and ask questions in a matured and affectionate way. He will open up. Above all though despite all my questions up there, don't put all the blame on yourself. Focus more on finding solutions.
Abeg use your brain, which neat? If a man wants you, neat or dirty he'd still do the do, or tell you, as ure hos wife
DeleteYou are sooo right. I couldn't have said it better 👏👏👏
DeleteBut she was neat before the marriage?
Delete15:56 you are delusional and really stupid . You must be a very dirty person.
DeleteAnno 15:56. I disagree with u on that. A very neat man will not want make love to a dirty woman. Even if is his wife
DeleteIf is about hygiene am more neat than he is,I don't leave my house untidy talk more of my body
DeleteI think he is getting it outside. Men are not configured to go that long without yearning for sex. Im sorry for being so blunt, but, except he is really advanced in age, that is the only reason I can think of.
ReplyDeleteEven if hes getting the sweetest pussy from outside, he'd still touch his wife once once so she doesnt suspect.
DeleteThat man is hiding something...
He married u coz u fell pregnant, he was into it for fun, d pregnancy kind of forced his hand n cut short d fun, see finish came early my dear. Some women are going through sexless marriage, whike their men are still having fun, endure like them.
ReplyDeleteAs you use belle hold guy man. Deal with it. Cos he never loved you.
Delete@15:09,
DeleteI think that is the issue as well. The pregnancy led to the marriage! I am sure family pressure was high from both sides!
Now that it has happened, he resents the woman - hence the lack of intimacy! I will even go further and say that he doesn't want to touch the poster, so as not to get her pregnant again. The fewer kids they have, the easier it will for him to "break away" later!
Ije uwa! Me that is even running away from the thing since I gave birth. Bikonu how do I resume the ipia oku? Poster tell your pastor to talk to him.
ReplyDelete@FAN
DeleteHow to resume "ipia oku"
Get naked
Ambush ya husband (legitimately)
Grab the thing and light matches (oku)
Ahaaaaaaa. Oku apia! 😆😆😆😆😆😆
anon 16:49 i bu ezigbo Onye nkuzi ipia oku.
Delete3 times a night for six months? Count am na.
ReplyDeleteAll the (legitimate) poundings wey you suppose collect for marriage, you collect am for dating and na only fork una do for dating. No discussions?
When I been dey tell una make una reserve fork for marriage, una no dey hear. Na only thunder under go dey send (and hot water) to my smooth nyansh.
Ngwanu, ike agwula nwoke na matrimony. Im dey okay o. Im no dey write chronicles at all.
My advice; make una begin fast and call on papa God make im have mercy. Because una carry fork scatter una body when una no suppose do am .
You and your so called smooth ikpu.......
DeleteThats some simple truth you stated right there. When youve consumated and unraveled all the excitment that should happen in marriage ,before it,wetin remain...be counting ceiling nau. While there may be other underlying factors to this,its still freaking reasonable to keep doing the DO until married,atleast you have more time to explore each others bodies, try different sex positions,before boredom sets in and then the talk about spicing up your marriage...three to five years would have gone by.
DeleteIs he having serious financial problems? Did you do something he can’t forgive? Or maybe he was using sex enhancing drugs while y’all were dating.
DeleteLoads of sex before marriage and now........
ReplyDeleteIfe ezute n’ohi di uto ... now dey don carry give am to him, orijuona, ojugoya afo.
DeleteI feel he didn’t love you enough but married you only because you 'fell’ pregnant. I also feel he has this deep resentment towards you that you trapped him with the pregnancy so he’s punishing you by denying you sex. It can also be that child birth changed your body and he no longer finds you attractive like before.
Well, it can something else entirely, try to find out.
That is the lots of those that have "loads of sex" before marriage.
DeleteAnon 15:43 are you speaking from experience?
DeleteWhere are all the "test before buying" ladies. One of your own is in hot water.
ReplyDeletekwakwakwakwakwakwa! You aint all right rara...
DeleteIt's been one year seven months since they got married, meaning she's had the baby. Go for HIV test.
ReplyDeleteMmmm. Could be oh. He might have something he doesn't want to give her or he has given her already
DeleteYou need to find out why he's this way but don't nag about it. Give it time. It is well.
ReplyDeleteI don’t know why some men will not open up and discuss issues with their wives. You stand a better chance of having her understand the situation without putting you under pressure that can be avoided.
ReplyDeleteVery true..Only few men are matured for marriage,women have alot to bear especially with Nigerian men. Communication does alot of good in any relationship,I wish more men will know this.
DeleteMadam poster,goggle is ya friend...check up healthy drugs like tribulus extract,viagra etc,that can boost his libido and sex drive, put it in his food,if in an hours time he doesnt come looking for you,probably he drives out,kuku know that the problem is you.Hopefully he doesnt have any std's hes trying to keep away from gifting you. Pele ooo....
DeleteA lot of men become distant when their wife is pregnant. It’s unexplainable most of the time but it happens and it’s usually not because he doesn’t love you anymore or he is cheating.
ReplyDelete...or something is going through him!
ReplyDeleteHe might have a lot on his mind now,work or financial issues, and what is your hygiene like
ReplyDeleteAbeg u people should be quiet about hygiene, it cant be...
DeleteLets assume shes untidy, cant he tell her? Or you think before she brought this here she hasnt thought of all possible things that made him change?
See as we are all guessing anyhow. Las las poster your oga must talk wetin dey do am.
Delete@ Poster, when he finally opens up to you, do let us know!
DeleteMaybe he married you just because u got pregnant and never actually wanted to marry you in the first place 🤷♀️
ReplyDeleteWrong!
DeleteHe was having sex with her repeatedly cus he enjoyed her, it was a one night stand that got her pregnant
Which wrong? A guy can have a girl as often as he likes just for sex.
DeleteEwoooo! That is he found out the child is not his? Chai! I hope that is not the case.
DeleteProbably he doesn't feel good having sex with a pregnant woman but if you have put to bed and he's not feeling like having sex with you, maybe there's change in your body that he's yet to get used to..
ReplyDeleteSomething is not right, that's the truth, try to ask press him for a reason.
Delivered already,my baby is a year and 4 month
DeleteNawaoo.you begged him for sex and he turned you down? Odiegwuo
ReplyDeleteThis man is obviously cheating
ReplyDeleteWas your delivery a normal one. Is your vjay still in tact. Was it wider after delivery may be from episiotomy or tear that didnt heal well. Is your tommy flabby or your boobs are not firm again. Reflect back and think about those things that you did that made you guys have sex about 3 times a night. U can also try to wear sexy clothes, light some scented candles, cook him some good food, keep the house clean. Is he having some financial challenges or some nuclear or extended family issues.Just sit down and have a discussion with him.
ReplyDeleteWomen yaff suffer. Do this do that, na wa ooo.
DeleteMy dear! No be small suffer oh.
DeleteNo I delivered through cs,he delivered his baby himself with other doctors cos his a doctor
DeleteIt's possible he has an infection and doesn't want you to be infected. Talking from my brother's point of view.
ReplyDelete#Smiles#
Ehen poster is it only sex that is the problem? Does he act husbandly in other areas of your relationship?
DeletePlease try talk with him dear.
ReplyDeleteHe might be going through some things, sex is a thing of the mind be patient with him.
ReplyDeleteVery tough one when your partner refuses to speak. It’s like a stone wall and you’re groping in the dark. This is when you have to pack your suitcase with a lot of patience. You may want to reach out to someone he is close to and respects to intercede on your behalf, but be careful as to what you say. Tell this person enough to speak to him and make him open up. Like “I do not know what is wrong but my husband is not communicating with me on issues we are having. Something is bothering him and he isn’t talking.......”
ReplyDeleteYou don’t have to say it all or go in too deep just to maintain some form of privacy and respect for him and your marriage. Also pray for wisdom. Above all be patient. These things can be challenging but it will pass. It is how you handle it that will make the difference.
Since I got pregnant me n my hubby have turned brothers and sisters ooo. If we are jisting I intentionally call him my brother! He’ll look at me and say who’s ur brother? I will den laugh and say that’s what we are now.
ReplyDeleteTho my morning sickness was so bad that I became a shadow of my self. I was so sick ang grew thin. For over a month now no show. I don’t even feel like it. If I go to him he’ll do. But I hate it when I’m always d one initiating it.
I mean, I’m a fine girl... he should chase me now
U be James Hadley Chase?
DeleteIkwakwakwa
My dear, some me are afraid of doing the do during pregnancy, they think they might hurt u or the baby, that's why they might not initiate sex, but if u do come to them, that means u are ok and they will carry go...ikwakwakwakwa
Me I will even shower spray perf and na only me go smell my self. If u don’t shag me when I’m preggy who will help u oga? Na wa ooo. God help us
ReplyDeleteIn this economy n.a. sex be your problem. ..continue....
ReplyDeleteYou think everyone is suffering abi
DeleteSnoop
ReplyDeleteMaybe he is having an affair. It really could be any number of reasons, but a man who used to be a marathon man does not just stop like that, and you both sound young. Please have a conversation with him. If he doesn't want to talk about it then you may have to snoop. However, do not enter Snoopville if you are faint of heart.
ReplyDeleteEyah kpele. Its because you enjoyed the sex while dating, I guess he got bored of the sex thingy. You can still use your woman power that is if you have.
ReplyDeleteWas he in the labour room when you gave birth to your baby? So many marital issues can be traced back to an underlying physical barrier, with childbirth being right up there as a causal factor.
ReplyDeleteBeing in the labour and seeing that baby come out from vayjayjay can make or break a man" Some men don't come out of that room the same...they lose their sex drive after seeing the wonders vavyjayjay does. It's sometimes traumatic for them.
Agent Adaobi
U are very correct
DeleteVery very correct
DeleteI keep telling my friends that I can never allow hubby into the labour room. Even I can't be in the labour room where another person is delivering...I know I will definitely lose my cool.
Maybe he is under pressure....financially
ReplyDeleteIt's so unfair and immature for a full grown adult to be playing mind games like this. If you have an issue why not speak up so it can be trashed out instead of bottling up and putting your partner under needless pressure. It's too bad.
ReplyDeletePoster may be ur man is seeing another woman.. What do I know...
ReplyDeletePoster you know your husband better that we do, you know what can make him happy and sad. Take him out if you can afford the type of outing he love, have a heart to heart talk with him, let him open up to you what’s happening to him. Is possible he is going thru some problems and he is afraid to share with you.
ReplyDeleteIf you have done everything possible and he is not still saying anything, give him so break. Involve family members. If you cannot take it anymore, just walk away and make your self happy. He may have someone out side making him happy.
While you’re at it get a good vibrator. Before all the sexual frustration leads you into infidelity.
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