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HURTING BADLY AND CONSIDERING DIVORCE...


A year ago, my husband told me he would never have a child with me until I have a job. He said it so condescendingly that I cried for days, his exact words, date and time he said those words are still fresh in my memory. And not once did he apologize, he just continued living like nothing happened.

I was hurt beyond words but I used his statement to challenge God and I worked harder towards getting a job.
I didn’t have a job but I wasn’t broke. I could take care of the child on my own, my mother still continued giving me monthly allowance after marriage so I still had a few millions in my account that my husband didn’t know of, I told him how my mum sent me money every month before we got married and he said that nonsense must stop after marriage so I just kept it from him.

My mother sends me money monthly even now that I have a job. Most times I spend more than what she sends to me on her but she said she simply can’t stop. I’m her only child and we went through a lot together after my dad died.

Along the line he got demoted at work and I got a job that same month and I now earn more than he does. He doesn’t know that as I told him I earn 50% of my actual salary.( my husband gets intimidated easily especially when it has to do with money).

Now, he wants to have kids, he’s desperate for children but I have lost interest . I noticed I lost interest the day he told me to get a job first.
I still want kids, but just not with him.

He knew how badly I wanted kids then, even his mother accused me of not getting pregnant cause I wanted to continue my “baby girl for life” lifestyle after marriage.

Her exact words were “widows don’t always bring up the best children, that she doesn’t even know what my husband sees in me, that I’m too curvy and fashionable to make a good wife. That my mother could only have 1 child so she’s not surprised I can’t even get pregnant” and some other things she said that I’m too embarrassed to type here.


 My husband heard all these and still kept quiet. He didn’t tell his mother what his real problem was. He just kept quiet and let her pile up all that insult on me.


My mother may have been a widow ( I mean who plans to lose their husband when their only child was just 15 years old?) But She was very strict with me. I married as a virgin. My husband was the first guy I ever kissed. He thought me everything I know about s#x.

I couldn’t tell anybody what he told me cause I didn’t want to involve a third party in my young marriage.

I swallowed all the side comments from his people, my mother begged me to tell her what the problem was, I told her nothing.
I resent my husband to the point of hatred, one night he tried to touch me and I fought him off like he was a rapist.

He was surprisingly gentle with me and asked me what the problem was, I broke down and opened up to him. He cried with me and apologized and asked that we see a therapist cause I still couldn’t let him touch me afterwards.

I’ve been seeing a therapist for 6 months now but my mind seems to be made up.

I want a divorce. 

My mother thinks it’s too extreme but I have honestly tried to make it work.
Please what do I do?
Is my mother right? She’s the only family I have and my husband stopped me from keeping friends so I don’t have anyone to talk to.



*Some things though bad,have a reason for happening........
If he still loves you and has shown some remorse,then forgive him and try to start building...The past is destroyed and hurts but what is in front can be better.....If you Mother in la is still alive ask that your hubby go and tender an explanation to her with you present,Maybe she will also apologise to you....
If you have made up your mind to take a walk,then i wish you all the best....