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I am in a dilemma please help me
I have been married for almost 4 years to a man who I thought was one of the best husband and father on earth.We have a 3 years old daughter.I come from a very humble background but he has always keep to his promise to make me one of the best among my peers and I have never regret marrying him despite the fact that he is very possessive of me but that has not been an issue because I don't give him reason(s) to feel insecure.
Despite the fact that I have a well established business this man pays me a monthly upkeep of 1m every month.Spends his spare time with me,hangout,go to the clubs and typically live each day like we are in the honeymoon stage.My daughter is a typical daddy's girl and they never get bored of each other.
This man supports me with money whenever I am travelling to get goods every 3/4 months,he is my mum's favourite son in law and I still wake up to random 100k on the bedside table at least once or 2wice a week.I am very contended with the little we have and God has been faithful.
2 weeks ago I suddenly discovered that my husband is gay!!!!He doesn't keep a partner but pay random boys money to get down with them.I have never had a reason to suspect that he cheats because he is like my best friend.He has never asked me for anal or has any feature that could have given him away.
I confronted him with my proof and my husband just kept mute and looking at the ground and when he finally found his voice he explained to me that he has been addicted since his boarding school days(boys only) and there is a certain satisfaction he couldn't explain and he has tried to stop but it has always seem impossible to him.He begged me not to leave him and promise me he will never hurt me.
I had no one to tell and I just needed to share it with someone so I told my mum but I lied to her that i read it online and she told me that the man is probably a ritualist and anal is what his rituals entails that the lady should run for her life.
Blogfam,please help me because I am scared and in a fix at the moment.My husband has been begging me not to allow that affect us but do I turn a blind eye to the fact that my husband have sex with fellow men just because he is a good husband and father and will I be justified leaving him for that reason since we all hear that every marriage has its own challenges.
I am so unstable right now and I need to make a decision as soon as possible so I need unbiased and unadulterated advise on this issue.Thank you all.
*I hear that there are so many Marriages where one or both partners swing both ways.....It is up to you to decide if you can with someone who has two lives or not.....Aside from any other thing,my own ish with this is especially that health implications .......
Abeg i dont have anything to say as advice to you...Search yourself and find the answer!!
This is something else. I subscribe to Stella's view, the health implication is what you should worry about. Still try and find out more maybe it's more ritual sef. The Lord is your strength madam. My mouth hang
ReplyDeleteHomosexuality is spiritual... I just ended a relationship with a guy I found out is gay. Thank God we never even kissed after over 4 months of dating. I'm shocked that you are asking what to do. Google the spiritual implications of homosexuality. In my own case I kept praying as my spirit was not at ease. The signs became so glaring it was unbelievable. When I have time I'll send my story to Stella.
DeleteI am speechless. Though I have heard stories like this. The thing is I doubt you would really want to leave all that money. What crossed my mind is that it may be for ritual sake too like your mum said, but since I have no proof, it is left for you to decide.
DeleteJesus!!! I can't believe the number of women asking her not to leave him because of the money!!! How about HIV, herpes? How about the spiritual implications of his lifestyle? There are too many issues with this lifestyle. Are you going to continue sleeping with him? Knowing that he isn't even interested in you?!? Women have sold their souls, dignity, conscience and self-esteem for money. Shameless Nigerian women.
DeleteAnon 15:33 pls send.
DeleteMadam the choice is yours. I would like to add I saw a commercial on tv about drugs for people who have high risk of getting hiv or may have higher exposure to the virus. The drug minimizes the chance of you contracting it from a positive partner. Let me look for the name, I'll be back
DeleteThe name is Truvada... Pre-exposure prophylaxis, or PrEP, is a way for people who do not have HIV but who are at substantial risk of getting it to prevent HIV infection by taking a pill every day. The pill (brand name Truvada) contains two medicines (tenofovir and emtricitabine) that are used in combination with other medicines to treat HIV. I am not a medical doctor and this is not a medical advice! Just saw the advert for it. Or CONDOMS!!
DeleteI honestly don't know what I'll do in this situation, I think being gay is a deal breaker for me so I will leave. I don't have any advice for you like Stella
It’s may not be for ritual o, a lot of people are involved in this kind of stupid lifestyle na only God go help person.
DeleteI am always snooping up and down cus you never know.
My dear, if you want to enjoy real love and have a man be yours then leave but if you are someone that likes success over everything stay there and chop money Biko... I honestly don’t think I will stay as much as I like money
If I'm in your shoes, I will not be going anywhere ooo.
DeleteHe treats you right anď takes good carw of your daughter. What else do you want?
I will advise you NOT to leave him, instead take him to church for deliverance, and help him as much as you can to see if he can stop. A bird in hand worth thousand in the bush.@Blessed Princess
DeleteWhat else @18;48? What if he starts sleeping with d daughter since he likes tight holes more? Na wa sha
DeleteI concur with the advice of Anonymous @ 20.51. You are already married to him and needs to respect your vows. That is the reason God made you his help. Your husband needs help and is the time to help him. He confessed, he had tried to stop but couldn't, which shows, he's willingly to stop.
DeleteGet a spiritual church and go for deliverance, confess your sins and God will cleanse him.
I recommend MFM church for deliverance, i assure you, you will give thanks God forever.
so your mum said he is probably a ritualist??? maybe tho
ReplyDeleteShe read another story to her mum probably to get her opinion..
DeleteIf i was married and woke up to this kind of horrible iscovery, i would leave.
ReplyDeleteEasier said than done!
DeleteIts not that easy sis.
DeleteThat was why she laid emphasis on the money part, which I find hard to believe anyway. So with the money she mentioned you might think twice before leaving.
DeleteThe man was giving her money so that when she discovers it will be hard to let go.
DeleteMadam, i know you will remain in the marriage bcos of money, you mentioned it several times in your post.....so i will comment my reserve
ReplyDeleteExactly! The emphasis on money was too much.
DeleteNo advice, please.. because you will still do what you have in mind.
gBAM...No matter what we say here, madam is not going anywhere.
DeleteMy thought exactly.
DeleteMadam since money is so important to you, you stated your background and you stated his your moms fav. In law.
Save as much as you can, open a fixed deposit pretend like all is well. Be logical. When is time to bounce, bounce!
You cannot change this man, you either accept this new side of him or leave.
Ps: ask your mom , you know the story I told you, what If it were my husband what will she suggest, see what she says. If she says otherwise from her first response, yourself and your mom are driven by his money.
Make sure u collect enough money from him, if u have satisfied your account, u can dump him if u like, las las this man will give u an incurable disease if dont live, collect money and relocate with your child, so your husband is bobriskys elder brother, tufiakwa
ReplyDeleteNa wa.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy the money he has been dropping for you. Because I know you won't leave him. So no advice on leaving.
Better cry in that Lamborghini than keke
I am sure you were blinded by love and money that you did not see his flaws.
He is begging you, oya do the needful
If I am in ur shoes, I will leave the marriage and face my child and booming business
ReplyDeleteThe man gives you 1m monthly and randomly drops 100k one or twice in 2weeks, and you said you're contended with the little you have, are you seriously kidding me???
ReplyDeleteNow let's be realistic here, most gays are always well to do and do spends on their gfs or wives, they don't cheat with women but men. This is your own cross, and if you're not ready to carry your cross, then leave him
*Larry was here*
That statement got me too. Contented with little. Iffa hear!
DeleteNice write up Larry
DeleteLarry has said the truth. If you can cope, stay and he may change if he really loves you.
DeleteAs in... contented with the little you have. I read that line again. It seems you forgot the economic situation too quickly for someone that came from a very humble background.
DeleteWell ...you didn't mention his source of income. If you don't know his source of income then it may be rituals as your mother suggested.
Definition of "good husband" is it someone that give you money (the 1 million naira monthly)?
ReplyDeleteThis is infidelity; the decision to leave or stay is up to you. If you decide to stay, all you do is help him seek help; prayers/fasting/studying the scriptures especially the teachings of Christ.
If you look at the "money", you will not be able to focus and make the right decision. But please do not keep your daughter away from her father.
Didn't you see he is good with his kid and denies her nothing
Deleteposter,please don't leave your husband bcos of his addiction or habit. Remember the vow you made on your wedding day,(for better or worse). you married a good man with just one flaw.
ReplyDeleteThank you jare, poster u married a good man please don't leave him just pray for him, there is nothing God cannot do.
DeleteIffa hear! So he is a better man because he is chooking boys instead of girls? Smh
DeleteAll you need to do darl is pray ! God works in mysterious ways and he has the power to change your situation. P.s. take Hallelujah Challenge and make this situation your prayer point. he was honest with you and that's a difficult trait to come by in a Man. God bless !
DeleteI have a question....
Delete"Do not leave him because he has one flaw"
Is this not cheating?
Hope you know the flaw is cheating.
Straight up infidelity.
Only in this case he does it with male prostitutes and not females.
For all it's worth he has a regular ask hole.
If he cheats on her with a lady all of una go scream. Side chicks
Is this not side cock?
Una quickly shout rituals..he fucks many men rituals..when he fucks many women nko?
All of you claiming feminist, tell her to stay ain't that speaking from 2 sides of the mouth?
How many of you scream stay when it's a woman he sleeps with?
Now he is not horseband he is a husband with a flaw.
@poster..no matter what we tell you..please my honest advice is do what makes you happy. You stay with him. Let him run tests..dazzal you don't ..its your choice..
A lot of people are screaming spiritual implication does sleeping with prostitutes not have spiritual implications?
Yet the forgive their cheating husbands..
I say do you my dear.
Lol @ side cock! Now that is a new one. Side chicks and side cocks. Lol!
DeleteHallelujah challenge as if God is a babalawo....you are not born again, no relationship with him but problem come and you just run to do hallelujah challenge...if the situation does not change you call God a liar and run to another challenge...seek God for who he is. Yes he is merciful and can change things but first give your life to Christ. We can’t mock God. Even as born again and a serious christian sometimes you don’t get answers to your request immediately then what? Poster your husband is a good man outside this addiction...go to God and he will reveal if he is doing it truly for ritual or just plain addiction, anyone he can be delivered....looking for a bible believing church and speak to a pastor cos some things do not change except with prayer and fasting. You need support at this time
DeleteGo do HIV test first then we can start from there. Gay guys and HIV are like 5&6
ReplyDeleteStay with him and find your own sex partner
ReplyDeleteChaiii...I feel your pain sis. Please see if you can cry and talk to him, beg him to change.see if he is ready to change. What is in that anus sef, pussy sweet pass am nau. And pray for him as well. May God help him in Jesus name, amen.
ReplyDeleteU are funny. You think say only cry fit change wetin do dey sweet am since boarding school?????
DeleteJust passing!!!. All I saw is 1m monthly upkeep and ramdom 100k by the bedside.
ReplyDeleteHonestly staying with such a partner is risky health wise and even morally, how can you turn a blind eye to all these without resenting him?
ReplyDeleteThe decision is up to you. Can you keep staying sane in such an environment? I can't mennn! It is well with you.
you're truly in a dilemma.this isn't going to be easy as your trust for him will even reduce.sad thing is that he couldn't break free earlier.and I tell you the truth there's a spirit behind this! shebi he told you there's a particular pleasure he derives from it.now which pleasure can he not get from you his wife.sadly too deliverance from this kind is best a decision made by the person himself.notwithstanding,leaving might not be the best option stick around and find a way to help out.
ReplyDeleteGAY!
ReplyDeleteI can accept lesbianism but gay???*throws up*
Madam, sincerely, I see you going nowhere!
Even your mom that said that to you, once she knows it's your hubby, she change mouth, telling you to stay because, not marriage is perfect.
The choice is yours!
Obviously you a les
DeleteLesbianism and homosexuality are same! Woman to woman and man to man. Ofu ihe ha ka ha bu. Law of sex says two opposite sex shall attract and mate.
DeleteSorry I'm no les @sexy hips.
DeleteBut, I'll choose lesbianism to gay anyday, anytime.
That awkward bulshit*
madam don't leave your marriage, its only the health implication you should worry about..go for test and make sure it's not a family hospital so he won't be able to bribe the doctor or manipulate result..be prayerful.
ReplyDeleteBe prayerful about what exactly?
DeleteOnly health implications? What a wawu! Shey it is because of the money ba?
DeleteBe prayerful my foot.. . God is not to be mocked please
Delete1 Corinthians 6:9-11 (NIV)
Delete9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men[a] 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
Na wa o! He needs deliverance
ReplyDeleteDon't know what to say
Well, I'm just going to type what is in my mind right now, and I may not react the same way if I'm in your shoes.
ReplyDeleteI think both of you need counseling. I don't know where you can get that in this amebo express Nigeria but this whole situation cannot be rushed. You both need to sit down and work things through.
Can you stay?
Is he willing to stop?
Don't just move out, leaving unanswered questions, I know I wouldn't.
Can he be helped?? Will you ever trust him again? Or will you get anxiety whenever you see him around a guy. Imagine, the irony. God have mercy.
If I were in your shoes , I will not leave him. I don't leave my friends in difficulty, NEVER. Encourage him to get help from a therapist ,Counselor etc but don't leave him please. 'Ori bibe ko Ni ogun Ori fifo', show him love and more love. Spiritual exercise should also help. Do not discuss him with anyone again except someone that can help. I am sure that he will be okay though he has to be willing to let go, sincerely. Best of luck. Hugs.
ReplyDeleteIndeed. If it were young girls he was addicted to you people will say he was cheating in spite of any sob story that caused it. So because he has so much money, was on the down low and had a sob story everything should be adjusted to accommodate him?
DeleteAs for you poster, I don't know what to tell you because you seem to be enjoying the money and goodies more than you are shocked about your husband. Toh if you can live with it who am I to say you shouldn't. After all many women choose to stay with cheats and perverts. Like that anon that was sitting and wondering about her one year marriage while her newborn was being abused by her husband. I am sure he also has sob story. Mtcheeww. Na Una sabi.
You cannot Pray or Love Away Homosexuality. I know its hard to hear since we spiritualise everything in Nigeria. A gay man is a gay man. You can either live him as a gay man or move on with your life. He will not change, I can tell you that for a fact.
DeleteMadam please stay and enjoy the money... He is rich, he doesn't beat you, he takes care of you and his kids.... what else do you want at least no woman is coming to break your home. Just pretend as if you don't know and enjoy your life. your man is a good man. We all have our flaws.
ReplyDeleteCan you imagine.... What money will cause in this world ehn
DeleteAnd na for ghost mode you go hide yarn that thrash na okwa ya?
Deletenext post now, you go carry ID come dey chant "god, god"; which god?
Ndi Pharisee na Sadducee.
Choi. Omo if na me I go enjoy the moni dey use condom. Some of you shouting leave him.... your husbands are gay and you dnt know yet you dnt hv money.
Delete1 million monthly is what will keep and kill you there.
ReplyDeleteThe only thing I saw was "I am contented with the little we have " madam you call all that money little? .... As for your dilemma, the answer lies within you. For me a gay man is a deal breaker, I'll leave and not look back.
ReplyDeleteWhat's the begging for? He has been trying to stop and will now or "accept me as I am. It's my nature" which pls?
ReplyDeleteIf it's the former, he can't leave such satanic lifestyle without a form of deliverance, close work with God and continous unending prayers and seeking professional help too.
Also, Is he genuinely sorry about this adultery ways or just remorse he was caught and will henceforth do It boldly?
Answering these questions sincerely will help you make a decision.
He will now be bold. His throwing money at her was deliberate.
DeleteNaija girls are too money conscious to put it mildly.
ReplyDeleteIf the man been dey fork hoes sef, you go tanda there no matter wetin bvs been tell you for chronicle.
Make you think am well cos, diseases plenty from those nyansh hole wey im dey browse.
If you dey tanda there, make you take care for the sake of ya daughter help the man get well
and you come dey alive make you fit raise ya daughter well.
Madam pls think well oo its a tough decision but you also have to consider the fact that when you give birth to a male child won't he abuse the child?
ReplyDeletePlease don't leave your husband, please pray for him he needs help. Be his hero and try to help him. Don't also for get to go to the hospital for check up
ReplyDeleteHelp someone who enjoys being gay? Be his hero? Chai! Money truly answereth........
DeleteIf not for the money, I would have asked you to leave. But stay and get a good dick lover
ReplyDeleteThe only reason you're confused is because of all the money he drops constantly. I'm sure you're currently thinking how you'll live life without it. Reminds me of something someone told me, that a man that spends recklessly on his wife is compensating for something. You just found out why he's been giving you all that money. If he was a broke ass, you wouldn't have too much to consider. You wouldn't even need our input cos you already know what to do.
ReplyDeleteIf you can live with it, your monthly upkeep just increased madam, Cos he'll be compensating a whole lot more now that you know, but if you cannot live with it, then count your losses and move on before you contract an incurable disease and trust me HIV is not the worse of them.
Well said Cyclone, you just took the words out of my mouth. The only reason why there is even any form of confusion here is because of the way he doles money on you and your emphasis on the money over and over again is an indication to how important it is to you in the grand scheme of things. This is why we always advise women to make their own money so they can stay in a marriage for the right reasons and not because you will go broke if the marriage ends. I hope you know your husband is begging you to accept his infidelity and to guys at that! What am I saying sef, some women would not even mind being married to a serial killer as long as money is involved. Anyway, we know you wont leave, the money is too sweet so please make sure you protect yourself healthwise, there are some diseases that money cannot cure.
Delete-FIRE AND ICE.
Ask him if he's ready to receive help. Every addition can be broken.
ReplyDeleteAm speaking as a Christian...i don't know if you people are too.
Love doesn't hurt Us. So anything that hurts our partner is not from God.
If he's ready to seek help...stay. If not the decision remains with you
Please madam take this advice.. if he is ready to be saved and you have to be sure he is not a ritualist.
DeleteMadam in as much as there's money involved, I would leave if it were me, I can't deal men, he will suck one dirty boy's penis and still kiss you with that mouth? Mbanu...If possible o, pray for him, let him go for counselling, let him seek God's face, do whatever you can that will make him stop. Since his still begging, use that opportunity to ask him if he still wants to go ahead? What he feels for you? If his willing to change, so you can go on that journey of changing with him. However, please save money o, save ooo, you will need it in case you wanna walk, because when he starts wearing diapers or get HIV (God forbid o) bcos with the way ur talking, going isn't what you would like to do. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteIt's not only penis they suck, they suck asshole too. They lick and stick their tongue in it. Madam, use the money to clean the bacteria from your face after he kisses you...
DeleteHeterosexuals do rimming as well so not only gays. Heterosexuals also do anal
DeleteIf all you wrote here is true, you need to seek God. Pray for a revelation of the true status of your husband and seek guidance accordingly.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you mean by true status?
DeleteWhich one is true status again? Has it not been revealed already?
DeleteI’m sure if he’s poor u won’t be here seeking for advice... so ma’am it’s one u and just u that knows what u want...search within urself, ask urself if u wanna live with that for the rest of life...
ReplyDeleteThank you! So, because dude is rich and generous, his situation can be 'managed' or 'prayed about'? Why did God destroy Sodom and Gommorah with fire and sulphur? An LGBTQ person does not have any business getting married to a straight person. He should marry a lesbian or relocate abroad so he can marry his kind in peace. Simple!
Deleteif na me i will go no where. opportunity to make more money. you guys should not mind me oo poverty has shown me pepper, i don't even get 20k from hubby monthly.
ReplyDelete😂🤣🤣🤣
DeleteWell, I'm just going to type what is in my mind right now, and I may not react the same way if I'm in your shoes.
ReplyDeleteI think both of you need counseling. I don't know where you can get that in this amebo express Nigeria but this whole situation cannot be rushed. You both need to sit down and work things through.
Can you stay?
Is he willing to stop?
Don't just move out, leaving unanswered questions, I know I wouldn't.
Can he be helped?? Will you ever trust him again? Or will you get anxiety whenever you see him around a guy. Imagine, the irony. God have mercy.
Madam poster I understand this is a odd dilemma but I like to ask you, which marriage out there is perfect?
ReplyDeleteHe is Bisexual and it's not a familiar terrain for a lot of people due to our over religious lifestyle but that doesn't mean he is a bad person because he is not.
He loves you, he takes care of you and his daughter, so pls find it in your heart to have an honest talk with him
Explain to him your fears and find a way to manage your man...If you leave what is the probability that you find a man who would truely love and care for you & your daughter like you stated.
Talk to him, find out what triggers his interest in dudes and create a SAFE health plan for how to manage his needs...let him stick to one male partner and get tested regularly.
Also let him always use a Condom on his partner and be open to his sexual needs.
He most certainly doesn't sound like a ritualist, his just different and that doesn't mean he doesn't love or respect you.Honestly try to be open minded and you would realize that it's not as bad as you think it is.
I don't know your man but I don't think leaving will be the best for both of you.
Also you can try therapy but I can bet my last blood that it won't help because he finds a certain pleasure unexplainable in a male partner...but still try it, it may help curb his needs for jingling balls.
All this might be strange but remember it's marriage and it's for better for worse...so don't give up in him just yet.
Lastly if after everything I said you still can't be open minded then leave the marriage quietly and don't expose him to anyone because he doesn't deserve to be outed.
STAY WITH HIM AS THE GRASS IS ONLY GREENER WHEN WATERED AND TENDERED WITH CARE & LOVE
LEP😛
Thrash yarns
DeleteBut wetin I dey expect persin wey dey chop tohtoh
to yarn.
Persin go browse strange nyansh holes, lick em . . come home
come fork im wifey, kiss am, kiss im daughter?
Tufiakwa.
Even goats no dey browse nyansh hole lai lai.
mkpi; mr. he-goat sabi where im fork dey and im no dey miss am.
For better or worse is only for marriages built on Christ. You are recommending a gay partner as part of his SAFE managing plans, is that part of God's plans??? You are a very SICK PERSON.
Delete"He most certainly doesn't sound like a ritualist". Please, how does a ritualist sound?
Deletelet him stick to one male partner and get tested regularly.
DeleteThis is the heart breaking news I heard today 😭😭😭 really? One male partner? Grass not greener on the other side? We no longer have morals? So adultery is now okay?
Love.eating.pussy,you just spoke my mind.
DeleteI actually put myself in her position ,I thought of the whole scenario and I concluded he is not gay but bisexual as you just write up there, you spoke my mind once again.
If it happens to me,I won't leave my husband because of this one bad habit but will work on making my marriage better.
No marriage is perfect ,if that's the criss I need to bear,I will gladly carry it.
Its my opinion and I am entitled to it .
**if that's the criss I need to bear,I will gladly carry it.**
DeleteYou will GLADLY carry it, all because of money. Poverty is truly a terrible thing honestly.
Anon 19:38
DeleteWhat r d chances he will not sleep with his daughter? Am not homophonic but what of d innocent child?..... Well if he won't then I think ur advice is OK. Pussy licking man
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ReplyDeleteYou are so right
DeleteAdulterers can't help it, paedophiles can't help it, is it now gays that will help it? If it were a side chick you people would be screaming blue murder. Now suddenly he can't help it because he is wealthy and generous? Hmmmmmmm!
DeleteCall me weird, but I prefer my man cheat on me with a man than a woman..chew on that. Hehehehehehe
ReplyDelete🙄
DeleteSpot on...at least he won't go and marry him or get him pregnant.
DeleteIt isn't a lie joor. At least na man and I can't give him what the man can give him,but my fellow woman is very annoying. Breast wey I get she get. Very annoying.
DeleteExactly,you're entitled to your opinion,you don't have to do what everyone does.
DeleteThat is you ooo BB. It makes some women doubt their womanhood and femininity, especially when they don't know about it and can't figure out why their husbands are indifferent to them. When they get to know they don't feel any better because they were living a lie.
DeleteIf you can deal with it, stay if not please carry your load and leave...
ReplyDeleteBut can this issue be dealt with spiritually???
Nne adiro amu akaekpe na nka! Since he confessed it's been long he turned gay and he tried to stop, but couldn't.... E go hard to stop now...except he genuinely wants to be delivered from the satanic hold.
ReplyDeleteIf not, in my own opinion, I think leaving him is not in the list of your options, so madam, go get tested first and if u pass, then have a long and deep conversation with him that if he wants you to stay for your own sanity, he MUST always use condom on you. PS-madam whenever you guys are ready for another child, since your hubby is ITE EGO pls go do IVF.
This na your cross. Na you go decide whether or not you go carry am!
This my advice is only applicable IF you decide to stay oo! #OkBye
What an intelligent advise. Nice one ✌️👍
Deletewhat the hell!!!
ReplyDeleteI can't even believe you are still asking what to do! So infidelity with a woman is worse than that with a man?? Such hypocrisy?? Imagine bvs calling homosexuality a "bad habit" because of money?? Wait till you give birth to a boy, and always have to wonder if you have to protect your small boy from your own husband.
God help you!!!!
Thank you! Imagine having to leave your own teenage son with his father to travel for two weeks. Your heart will just be doing gbimgbimgbim wherever you are. Na beginning of stroke be dat. Women and easy money eh? It is well.
DeleteI tell you. This chronic love of money is why Nigeria is where it is today. Women, work for your money, mbanu they won't. Now you have to stomach all sorts.
DeleteHomosexuality and pedophilia are two different things!!
DeleteI for chook mouth plenty but we both know you ain't going 'anal-where'. Not with all the financial reel you emphasised on up there. Besides, if that c*rs*d woman who caught her hubby substituting milk with sp*rm for a month old baby did not leave her husband, na you wey dey see free raba left, right and center go con waka? Shuoo!
ReplyDeleteA woman who really wants to leave after a serious deal-breaker does not ask "Should I leave?" Nah. She leaves and then when the man comes back begging claiming to have turned a new leaf, she now asks "Should I give him another chance?" You no ready to move an inch Abegiiii!! And you see some of the people asking you to "Pray about it" eh, if you had painted your husband as a broke-ass, na dem for help you come pack out your load this very night. All I know is that homosexuality is one of the grounds for annulment in the Catholic Church for instance. Annulment is different from divorce; it means marriage never took place based on this deceit. You are in an open and dangerous relationship not marriage madam. Dey try do HIV test regularly o. Na only your innocent daughter I just dey pity.
Ndi Association of #WeDieThere Women Naija Branch, una doh o.
As in ehnn!! This is a real deal breaker!!! The story is just sick on it's own. Same Nigerians that want to burn homosexuals, are asking this woman to stay and pray for him.
DeleteHow many of your bad habits that you've been praying for, for yourself, have you gotten over???!!!! I'm seriously shook!!!
Truth is some people are gay! poster, your hubby is a closeted gay man who married for society. I'm a lesbian and I'm planing on hooking a man for marriage next year. that's what society makes people like us too
ReplyDeleteIf you stay you would NEVER have peace of mind. He will never stop. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being gay and liking men. However,there is absolutely everything wrong in not disclosing your preference to your partner before marital commitment. No amount of restrictions would make him stop. Know that once you decide to stay, you have endorsed his infidelity. He is cheating on you and that's the horrible part. Regardless of if its with a man or woman. He is not honest and he also over compensates for his indiscretions. It is up to you. You would wonder from now going forward if every man is his lover. Your husband patronizes prostitutes and you staying in the marriage endorses that. Money would soon become irrelevant especially when you realize that there are failthful heterosexual men who do what your husband does for you in excess for their wives and you would want that.
ReplyDeleteThink about the dynamics of your marriage going forward. You would wonder if he is attracted to any man around him. In fact it'd be torture. How about sex? Would it be the same?You should know that black gay men are at the highest risk of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. You are increasing your risk of STDs exponentially. If the comfort and borderline luxury you enjoy trumps all the above problems that would arise, then stay. It is a tough situation no matter how you slice and dice it. Goodluck!
Eyi le gaan
ReplyDeleteDear poster please don't leave your husband, marriage comes with lots of challenges, your husband is addicted to homosexuality and you can help him overcome this addiction. From your write it's very obvious your husband loves you and his daughter deeply,So take advantage of that, leave the house with your daughter for some days, let him come begging, when he comes begging tell him your only condition for returning home is if his ready to change and go for counseling, take him for series of test, of cos you need go for a thorough check up too. I doubt he's into rituals.Please back it up with intensive prayers.
ReplyDeleteThis reply is sickening! Only very low self-esteem would make you put up with a dangerous lifestyle and trivialize it by calling it a "habit". God help you!!
DeleteChai! E weak me gaaaan. People can do anything for money.
DeleteMy dear poster the same thing happened to me, found out that my husband is gay only got married because he wanted children, I left his house since October last year haven't told his family why I left only my family knows. The issue now is that his friends are calling me to go back to him but I have not, he is also very caring and spends on me too but my dear sister, I can't seem to go back to him, imagine other men fucking your hubby?
ReplyDeleteDear poster, your mum knows it's you this thing is happening to. She just want to cover the shame you are feeling now so you won't be hesitant to tell her more or cry on her shoulders when you need to. Please know that whatever decision you take, she will support you.
ReplyDeleteDear poster whatever you decide, aside your immediate families you trust, do not tell this story anywhere. Because your husband could become angry like the devil itself once his secret is out then harm you. Be careful.
ReplyDeleteI think you should stay with him, but there should be an agreement that you can’t uave sex with him. Let’s face most gays despise having sex with woman and the bitter truth is that he will never change. So I say enjoy the money and tell him his secret is safe with you but you can’t fuck him again because of the health implications.
ReplyDeleteHe was probably abused in his school. Does he want to be saved? Does he want to eat his cake and have it? Does he want to change?
ReplyDeleteLook to the cross!
Jesus can do all things only if you dare to say yes Lord change me, yes Lord deliver me,yes Lord yes Lord..
You did not even tell us in one sentence what your husband does for a living. He just gives you 1 million every month and you collect. He gives you 100k, open big business for you. But you do not know his occupation. This is where rituals come in.
ReplyDeleteAnd do not think that leaving while you've been benefiting from blood money is as easy as you put it.
It is war! You are involved. Only Christ can save you.
You are wise.
DeleteI can't believe my eyes! Some BVs actually made excuses for the Poster's husband? The same BVs who bash adultery and sidechicks everyday? This is not happening on SDK blog! Whaaaaaaaat? Nooooooooo!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteAre you just becoming aware that hypocrites are many on this blog. To the poster, go and check out daddy freeze current partner, taste budz on instagram. She had this same story over 10 years ago, she stayed and 10 years after she wanted out but the man is refusing to grant the divorce. If you stay be rest assured that you have given him the go ahead and you will forever regret your decision. Finally, have it at the back of your mind that when you have a son, he is not safe.
DeleteIf a poster says her husband is poor but has anger issues, blog visitors will say RUN! If a poster says her husband is poor but stingy, blog visitors will say RUN!! Now, the poster's husband is rich but sleeps with "random young boys" whom he pays for gay sex and they are saying stay, "what more do you want", "pray for him", it's hard to believe the mentality of Nigerian women. None of you should ever criticize Evans the kidnapper or Yahoo boys using pants for rituals as you are no different and would sell your souls to the devil for money...
ReplyDeleteParents, please learn from this. That's why I hate boarding schools, all sorts happen and children will have no one to turn to.
ReplyDeleteMadam or mister be knowledgeable. it has nothing to do with boarding school.i didn’t go to a boarding school but I’ve been with girls
DeletePoster my husband also seems to be gay. The only distinction is he lies a lot and not worth confronting. We have kids and have been married
ReplyDeleteFor several years but I only found out recently. We live abroad. It's a deal breaker for me. I've lived through other excesses of his but this is an absolute deal breaker. My family is in full support of the divorce for other reasons as I did not reveal this to them. I'm filing divorce papers before the end of this month. We remain good friends and relate well on the kids. Money is not everything. All you need in life is inside you.
Madam, Kindly Go and check yourself and run HIv and herpes test first please.
ReplyDeleteYour husband has a prostate gland and the satisfaction he is talking about is the stimulation that he receives there when penetrated,. You as a woman no matter how many bedroom tricks you know will ever be able to give him that satisfaction. Personally, I could never live with a man who had that secret life, I would not out him because that would be his to do when he sees fit. In your case you have a young child together, outing him could have serious repercussions for her down the road, and even for your own self. However, there are many women who are married to bisexual men and seem to be happy with their lives. It is for you to know what you can take. I am honestly sorry that your perfect little world has tumbled down with such a devastating revelation. Yet, there is probably someone in your circle of friends who wished they had your life. Nothing is truly ever as it seems. Lord help us to be satisfied with our own blessings and desire no other person's life.
ReplyDeleteHaven't u saved enough money???
ReplyDeleteD decision to leave or stay lies with u, but no matter ur choice, let him know u are hurt and disappointed, tell him d health implications and God's stand on it,go and get tested .
The trust is broken already, may God help u to do d right thing.
No sin is a small sin. A liar is not better than a homosexual.
ReplyDeleteMadam, I will advise you to take your Christian life seriously. Commit your husband in the hand of God, there is no situation that God cannot turn around.
Don't leave him because it might affect your daughter. She might not understand why you don't want to stay with her daddy anymore.
Take care of your health as well because you need to be alica to look after your daughter.
Also, confirm his source of income. Dig deep!
All the best!
Una just dey waste una time. madam poster ain't going no where. But swear l go start to fear una for sdk. So she should stay and pray cos he's rich. And na boys he dey fuck. No be adultery be this. A ground for divorce? Do what you like. I will be looking out to wave you in traffic when u drive past in your assurance motor
ReplyDeleteSince I am not in a position to influence your decision, I will tell you the medical implication of an,, s.x. The area was not made for that. As similar as some think it is to the female entrance, a woman can give birth vaginally to several big babies because of the elasticity of the muscles there. The other one is not like that, it's not only as elastic, its for serious waste products with gazillions of germs.
ReplyDeleteHere is the end of the story, after a while, he starts leaking poop, the sphincter cannot do its work. I had a patient who used to cry that everyone runs from her then, no matter how many baths, showers and perfumes. She was given a bag to contain the leaks but I held my breath till I finished with her. She was a wealthy widow with a big house. I haven't seen her for 10 years but I hope she is alive.
N12m/yr cannot make you stay with him when the situation deteriorates.
He is also ruining young boys lives and may be a sexual predator, grooming and introducing innocent boys to his lifestyle If you can live with that weight...goodluck. BTW no dr will give you the prophylactic med for life just for living with him and you need to read up its side effects and cost.
If he wants to change, go to MFM deliverance program, do it together but he must want to change for that to work. I'm not promoting MFM but its the only deliverance ministry that seems genuine, like a DIY prayer, no handkerchief, mantle etc and no Assistant to God at least as at 20 yrs ago. If it has changed, disregard my recommendation as I never knew what the preacher even looked like and God was answering my prayer. You pray and cry to God yourself. I have seen the result in my life, the lives of many of my friends though not your type of situation. You don't need to know any pastor there.
MFM is still very much the same, if not even more on fire now. God bless that ministry. Operation do it yourself .
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