STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
A STORY TO LEARN FROM
Dear Stella,
Compliments of the season.
I just read the Libyan returnee story on your blog and felt led to send you this. Feel free to publish on your blog. Yes, I'm in anonymous mode. No, I'm not a troll. No, I am not afraid; I just need to be under radar for a while. You're a trained journalist, so you know what it's like to have to keep certain things quiet. You actually know of me; you just don't know it's me. If I tell you my name, you will be shocked. We've communicated before, but we've never physically met.
Here goes:
Unfortunately, this kind of thing will continue to happen. Many years ago, I travelled abroad legally to study. Next thing, my mother wanted me to become a prostitute "to prove I am grateful for all she has done for me". I refused. She said "her GO said" God will bless me and give me citizenship I didn't apply for! GO is general overseer (of a church). I asked her, "Which God? How can you be encouraging someone to do something wrong and calling God? Is it the God I know or the one you created in your mind?" My mother said she will die of shame if I return to Nigeria. I asked her, "But it wont be a shame to you if I sell my body, especially since it's abroad where you think nobody will see me? Shebi the eyes of your own god don't see past Nigerian border?"
Oh, I forgot to say my mother is a pastor in her church; one of the biggest and most popular Pentecostal churches in Nigeria, with branches abroad! When offspring of pastors start saying certain things and behaving some kinda way, it's not always "the devil trying to attack the parents' testimony". The things that many pastors' children have seen (our parents do), you don't want to know! You will never understand the depth of shame I feel when I see what pastors like my mother and her kind have done to this nation. Shame for what I have no hand in. Some of us (pastors' children) have gotten to the point where we daily beg the Living God not to punish us for what our parents have wilfully done and continue to do. Some of us have warned and begged our parents, but they will not hear. Let me just say I feel intense pity for those trolling Daddy Freeze, oh! I pity them cos they know not what they do. The one he's saying isn't even up to half of what is going on behind the scenes. I don't think even he has a full appreciation of how accurate he is. But Nigerians should keep defending pastors that are bent on destroying them. They should keep being distracted by crowds and what they (think they) physically see. I don't know how with the vibrant and multi-faceted entertainment industry we have in this country, Nigerians can assume or believe that everything they see physically is real or the full picture. I pity anyone who's following any pastor and has refused to know God for himself/herself. Las las, they will use the person for rituals!
If my mother could try blackmailing me into selling my body with the knowledge and collaboration of her pastor, I shudder to imagine what she's telling church members when they meet her for private counselling sessions. Someone that confirmed that she's following instructions from her GO to "tell people (in church) what they want to hear". If people are hearing only what they want to hear in where they believe is a church, where and when will they hear the mind of God? This same GO of hers lied that things were difficult for me abroad because I was committing the sin of fornication. (She told me to call him, I called him and he actually said it to me). At the time he said this, I was a virgin and very single. The kind of singleness where nobody is even looking at you!
Compliments of the season.
I just read the Libyan returnee story on your blog and felt led to send you this. Feel free to publish on your blog. Yes, I'm in anonymous mode. No, I'm not a troll. No, I am not afraid; I just need to be under radar for a while. You're a trained journalist, so you know what it's like to have to keep certain things quiet. You actually know of me; you just don't know it's me. If I tell you my name, you will be shocked. We've communicated before, but we've never physically met.
Here goes:
Unfortunately, this kind of thing will continue to happen. Many years ago, I travelled abroad legally to study. Next thing, my mother wanted me to become a prostitute "to prove I am grateful for all she has done for me". I refused. She said "her GO said" God will bless me and give me citizenship I didn't apply for! GO is general overseer (of a church). I asked her, "Which God? How can you be encouraging someone to do something wrong and calling God? Is it the God I know or the one you created in your mind?" My mother said she will die of shame if I return to Nigeria. I asked her, "But it wont be a shame to you if I sell my body, especially since it's abroad where you think nobody will see me? Shebi the eyes of your own god don't see past Nigerian border?"
Oh, I forgot to say my mother is a pastor in her church; one of the biggest and most popular Pentecostal churches in Nigeria, with branches abroad! When offspring of pastors start saying certain things and behaving some kinda way, it's not always "the devil trying to attack the parents' testimony". The things that many pastors' children have seen (our parents do), you don't want to know! You will never understand the depth of shame I feel when I see what pastors like my mother and her kind have done to this nation. Shame for what I have no hand in. Some of us (pastors' children) have gotten to the point where we daily beg the Living God not to punish us for what our parents have wilfully done and continue to do. Some of us have warned and begged our parents, but they will not hear. Let me just say I feel intense pity for those trolling Daddy Freeze, oh! I pity them cos they know not what they do. The one he's saying isn't even up to half of what is going on behind the scenes. I don't think even he has a full appreciation of how accurate he is. But Nigerians should keep defending pastors that are bent on destroying them. They should keep being distracted by crowds and what they (think they) physically see. I don't know how with the vibrant and multi-faceted entertainment industry we have in this country, Nigerians can assume or believe that everything they see physically is real or the full picture. I pity anyone who's following any pastor and has refused to know God for himself/herself. Las las, they will use the person for rituals!
If my mother could try blackmailing me into selling my body with the knowledge and collaboration of her pastor, I shudder to imagine what she's telling church members when they meet her for private counselling sessions. Someone that confirmed that she's following instructions from her GO to "tell people (in church) what they want to hear". If people are hearing only what they want to hear in where they believe is a church, where and when will they hear the mind of God? This same GO of hers lied that things were difficult for me abroad because I was committing the sin of fornication. (She told me to call him, I called him and he actually said it to me). At the time he said this, I was a virgin and very single. The kind of singleness where nobody is even looking at you!
So, I don't understand how fornication word of knowledge abi prophecy entered the matter. I told my mother. She said I should "forgive the man of god, maybe he wasn't in the spirit when he said it". I asked her, "Which spirit? And why are you going to a place where you can now see that the man talks out of spirit? How do you know which one he says is from the spirit and which one is not, cos you believe and follow all? And back to my first question, which spirit is this man using?" My mother said she's ready to lose anyone who wants to separate her from her church and GO.
Only for them to conspire to pressure me into prostitution. Maybe that one (prostitution) no follow for the definition of fornication. Stella, it was difficult but I finished university. Wetin my eye see because I chose to honour God; story for another time.
I am now married but my mother doesn't know. I've actually been married for more than two years, but many people don't know. There are those who know the truth but will not dare talk openly cos of the repercussions they know they will carry. But most people assume I'm single because I'm still bearing my maiden name. And cos I don't have time, energy or motivation for wedding that will "pepper dem and shut down social media". People know of me, but I don't count many of them as friends. So, I didn't tell them. And there's no person whose opinion is so important to me that I'll be trying to pepper or impress them, to the point where I'll spend money or allow my husband spend money that we can use for something else. We didn't elope; full, legally valid traditional marriage was even done in the palace in my father's hometown (I'm from a royal house) but my mother doesn't know. She was actually told after but it was said in a way that she didn't (and still doesn't) understand. And I will not be clarifying anything till the right time, cos I no wan tell or hear story that could have been avoided. My father is late, so he had no say. And there was nothing my father's relatives (who joined my parents to do what they did) could do about the marriage and they can't even talk about it openly till now because my husband went straight to the king. The result of that kind of shot is best imagined.
It was after I got married that I understood what my mother had been trying to accomplish - it turns out that shortly after I was born, she and my father went somewhere where they were told I would marry a very influential man in the future. Only they and God know what they were looking for, that they went searching and found this info. I don't know why they were upset but my own biological parents did juju to make sure that what they were told about me, would never happen. They said the glory they were told about, should go to my younger brother (who was born less than a year after me) instead. Stella, I nearly died. They even did something to my face that was supposed to take effect years later, so that the man they were told about wouldn't recognise me. A few months later, they enrolled me in a school where I was put in the same class as the boy who would grow into that influential man my parents were told I would marry! To the crafty, God will show Himself to be craftiness itself. And He'll be laughing as He's doing so. As in, they used their own money to put me in the exact place where the very person they were trying to hide me from, would see me everyday. May your detractors pay your way to your promised land!
I am married to him today; he says he recognised me almost immediately as his wife and fell in love with me. The implication is that by the time the thing my parents did took effect, he wasn't affected by the covering cos he had seen the real face before. He recognised me before the thing took effect, so that's what stuck with him. And it's true that when this thing took effect, there was no medical cure. Stella, this thing would disappear at night and reappear in the morning! My face would be flawless at night, the opposite in the daytime. So, how will anybody - including a man I hadn't married at the time - who's not seeing me at night, see my real face? Even doctors and dermatologists in the UK said they didn't know what to do. They said I should get ready because I would be scarred for life. No, I didn't have any accident. Just woke up one day and this issue was there. The rest of my body has always been almost perfect - just one scar that isn't a birth mark, but my parents cannot account for. But my face was always the one with a visible problem. Fortunately, the problem is now gone. It went a while AFTER we got married; what doctors in Nigeria and abroad, said couldn't be done, God told me what to do. I didn't go to any juju or nonsense place.
It's after we got married that I even found out who my husband really is - this is like those Nollywood films where a man pretends to be average, doesn't tell you his position because he wants to be sure it's him (and not his position or money) you want. Just that this one is real life. It looks funny to some people when you're watching something like that onscreen but I wasn't laughing when I experienced it. I was actually so vexed that I nearly divorced him because of it. Truth of the matter is God saved me; if I had sold my body abroad, the significance of his position is such that he would never have been allowed to marry me. My mother trying to push me to ruin my life, wasn't even about money. She was just trying to complete what she and my father started. Not step-mother, oh. Not step-father. Biological parents! And no, these are not things that any pastor told me that I believed. These are things I grew up to find out for myself and I'm still in shock. Not every pastor is fake; very few of them tell the truth. My husband and I used to be among those ready to fight anyone saying somebody's mother or mother-in-law is a witch or doing them (cos his mother did her own); after what we went through and learned, our bodi don calm.
The time hasn't come for me to say more. And I honestly doubt that the full story can ever be told. But the point of all the long grammar up there is to say - all of your readers thinking they should go and dip their hands somewhere "for the sake of family"; don't try it. Many parents telling you to "go and do what your mates are doing", they should go and meet your so-called mates. FYI, nobody is your mate in this life - even if you study in the same class in school, or work in the same office or industry. Even twins aren't mates in the real sense of it. Stop competing in your mind with people that don't even know you exist and you're still losing. Kontri hard, kontri difficult, don't allow anyone (including your parents) use their frustration to push you into what will destroy you. Somebody reading this will be saying "Nobody holy pass. Judgina". You are not "woke" for thinking you can do whatever you like, oh. All the young girls and even older ladies feeling inferior because of what you see on Instagram, may you not be used for rituals.
Only for them to conspire to pressure me into prostitution. Maybe that one (prostitution) no follow for the definition of fornication. Stella, it was difficult but I finished university. Wetin my eye see because I chose to honour God; story for another time.
I am now married but my mother doesn't know. I've actually been married for more than two years, but many people don't know. There are those who know the truth but will not dare talk openly cos of the repercussions they know they will carry. But most people assume I'm single because I'm still bearing my maiden name. And cos I don't have time, energy or motivation for wedding that will "pepper dem and shut down social media". People know of me, but I don't count many of them as friends. So, I didn't tell them. And there's no person whose opinion is so important to me that I'll be trying to pepper or impress them, to the point where I'll spend money or allow my husband spend money that we can use for something else. We didn't elope; full, legally valid traditional marriage was even done in the palace in my father's hometown (I'm from a royal house) but my mother doesn't know. She was actually told after but it was said in a way that she didn't (and still doesn't) understand. And I will not be clarifying anything till the right time, cos I no wan tell or hear story that could have been avoided. My father is late, so he had no say. And there was nothing my father's relatives (who joined my parents to do what they did) could do about the marriage and they can't even talk about it openly till now because my husband went straight to the king. The result of that kind of shot is best imagined.
It was after I got married that I understood what my mother had been trying to accomplish - it turns out that shortly after I was born, she and my father went somewhere where they were told I would marry a very influential man in the future. Only they and God know what they were looking for, that they went searching and found this info. I don't know why they were upset but my own biological parents did juju to make sure that what they were told about me, would never happen. They said the glory they were told about, should go to my younger brother (who was born less than a year after me) instead. Stella, I nearly died. They even did something to my face that was supposed to take effect years later, so that the man they were told about wouldn't recognise me. A few months later, they enrolled me in a school where I was put in the same class as the boy who would grow into that influential man my parents were told I would marry! To the crafty, God will show Himself to be craftiness itself. And He'll be laughing as He's doing so. As in, they used their own money to put me in the exact place where the very person they were trying to hide me from, would see me everyday. May your detractors pay your way to your promised land!
I am married to him today; he says he recognised me almost immediately as his wife and fell in love with me. The implication is that by the time the thing my parents did took effect, he wasn't affected by the covering cos he had seen the real face before. He recognised me before the thing took effect, so that's what stuck with him. And it's true that when this thing took effect, there was no medical cure. Stella, this thing would disappear at night and reappear in the morning! My face would be flawless at night, the opposite in the daytime. So, how will anybody - including a man I hadn't married at the time - who's not seeing me at night, see my real face? Even doctors and dermatologists in the UK said they didn't know what to do. They said I should get ready because I would be scarred for life. No, I didn't have any accident. Just woke up one day and this issue was there. The rest of my body has always been almost perfect - just one scar that isn't a birth mark, but my parents cannot account for. But my face was always the one with a visible problem. Fortunately, the problem is now gone. It went a while AFTER we got married; what doctors in Nigeria and abroad, said couldn't be done, God told me what to do. I didn't go to any juju or nonsense place.
It's after we got married that I even found out who my husband really is - this is like those Nollywood films where a man pretends to be average, doesn't tell you his position because he wants to be sure it's him (and not his position or money) you want. Just that this one is real life. It looks funny to some people when you're watching something like that onscreen but I wasn't laughing when I experienced it. I was actually so vexed that I nearly divorced him because of it. Truth of the matter is God saved me; if I had sold my body abroad, the significance of his position is such that he would never have been allowed to marry me. My mother trying to push me to ruin my life, wasn't even about money. She was just trying to complete what she and my father started. Not step-mother, oh. Not step-father. Biological parents! And no, these are not things that any pastor told me that I believed. These are things I grew up to find out for myself and I'm still in shock. Not every pastor is fake; very few of them tell the truth. My husband and I used to be among those ready to fight anyone saying somebody's mother or mother-in-law is a witch or doing them (cos his mother did her own); after what we went through and learned, our bodi don calm.
The time hasn't come for me to say more. And I honestly doubt that the full story can ever be told. But the point of all the long grammar up there is to say - all of your readers thinking they should go and dip their hands somewhere "for the sake of family"; don't try it. Many parents telling you to "go and do what your mates are doing", they should go and meet your so-called mates. FYI, nobody is your mate in this life - even if you study in the same class in school, or work in the same office or industry. Even twins aren't mates in the real sense of it. Stop competing in your mind with people that don't even know you exist and you're still losing. Kontri hard, kontri difficult, don't allow anyone (including your parents) use their frustration to push you into what will destroy you. Somebody reading this will be saying "Nobody holy pass. Judgina". You are not "woke" for thinking you can do whatever you like, oh. All the young girls and even older ladies feeling inferior because of what you see on Instagram, may you not be used for rituals.
Stop allowing even so-called family members push you into immoral, disgusting, criminal and sinful things. Some of them, it's not frustration of "all they've spent on you" that is doing them. Some of them know exactly what they're trying to do because of what they've previously done in secret that you may not know about. And yes, they can be following or taking you to places "to solve your problem"; problem that they engineered into your life.
God bless.
God bless.
Hian!!!!!
ReplyDeleteDouble hian!!!
DeleteThis is why I laugh when a lot of Pentecostal people mock white garment churches.
DeleteIf only they knew how many of their so called pastors go there for one thing or the other!
Anon 17:26. If only they know oh! And this I can testify to. People just insult white garment churches cos of the negative way nigerian society have perceived it
Delete17.26 so if that thing they go there for is 'good' and 'clean', why do they hide to go there?
DeletePoster you are not alone. Many African parents are pure evil.
DeleteMy family did thesame thing to me. You don't want to know what I have been through in this life.
They were told I will be rich and very beautiful when I grow up and will have many men adore me and struggle for me. Which in turn I will be a huge blessing to my husband who will make me his queen for life.
Do you know that instead of my family to be happy; they started working against it. First; they jazzed me with fat at the age of 8. I travelled to village with my father (i was like pencil). We had some strange visitors and i was made to cook for them at the age of 8 and ate with them. We came back to city on Sunday and on monday on the assembly ground in primary school i was sweating uncontrollably. From that day onwards i became round. No medicine in this world or excercise works on the fat. If i starve it's worse i will be swelling up.
The essence was for me not to attract anybody so the glory will remain in the family.
Oh you have no idea what i have been through. My family turned me to househelp so my light doesn't outshine anybody's own in the house and so i will be humble according to them
Despite all these; I shine. My heart attracts the best. But they jazz it up till the person gets frustrated and go.
They are living in my fortune and i am far away somewhere suffering (yes i ran).
A strong pastor told me the only way to stop them is pray for their death. How can i do that? He said if i pray for their death it will work as heavens are waiting on me to silence their wickedness with my mind
Told him God should prove himself as God and fight them. I need no such burdens.
And my siblings? They all hate me as they were told their head has no oil.
I am tired of typing. Just know you are not alone
Face God yourself. Fast, if you have to & IF you're medically able to. Show God as it is doing you; ignore all those people who say you can't or shouldn't question God. Can they give you answers? If you don't ask questions, you will not get answers. God isn't an average Nigerian lecturer that is offended or intimidated by questions. He will not "fail you" because you asked a question that He's too embarrassed to say He doesn't know the answer to. He wasn't joking when He said, "Ask Me and I will show you hidden things." All the time Job's friends were talking, God was quiet. But He answered when Job started venting. The God that can already read your mind is Who you will not ask out loud and free yourself? The same God that heard Sarah laugh when He said, "By this time next year" and didn't kill her for not believing? It's a father that you have a relationship with, that you can ask questions and he will answer. It's a father that acknowledges you as his, that will look at your face when you're frowning. I can't imagine having a daughter with my husband and she'll ever be too afraid to tell her own father what is paining her! When I'm sure he's her father & I didn't raise her as a single parent?! These are earthly fathers; how much more God? Sometimes, God is just waiting for you to talk to Him. The danger with reliance even on genuine pastors is that you can run the risk of making them God; Samuel was a genuine man of God but almost accidentally anointed one of David's brothers. God can place a pastor in your life (cos God doesn't always tell you everything personally) but the pastor isn't a medium that unless he doesn't tell you, you won't hear God. And you're not quarrelling with God.
DeleteLike I said before, seek the face of God. Tell Him how it is doing you; it's not like He will kill you. If He does, He'd have shown Himself to be a liar. Which is inconsistent with His nature. It's not that He won't lie; it's that He CAN'T. It's like saying you as a woman, grew a pen*s - even if you wanted to, you can't because it's not in your nature.
DeleteIf people are willing to conspire to frustrate the word over your life, it means they believe that word. If Joseph's brothers didn't believe what he was saying, they'd have left him to just be talking. He didn't even know what his own dreams meant. He was Jacob's favourite son; the first son of the love of Jacob's life. The rest of them were born out of competition and trickery. I would have thought that was what would annoy them cos it was obvious and current to them. But if you notice, when they decided to kill him, their words were "Let us what will become of his dreams!" Why would 10 grown men be upset over the dreams of a teenager, if they didn't believe the dreams? That thing they did to his coat was an afterthought.
Let the rage of your detractors be your consolation and proof that God didn't lie. Ask God to deliver you & hasten the performance of His Word in your life. How He chooses to deliver you, is His business. When your turn comes, if you like, be in the backwater of one desert that's so remote that its not on any map - you will be located. And what is yours, will be given to you on a platter of gold. The speed with which my marriage was done, I was shook. No, I wasn't pregnant. If even God had told me it would happen at all, I would have laughed. Cos my father's people actually travelled to the village where they waited to "see how it will happen". It's their mad behaviour that triggered the fulfillment of another prophecy - that my marriage would be done in the palace. When Joseph's time came, he was sought out and he was given a position that didn't exist before!
Thank you so much Anon. I am guessing you are the poster. Your words are really encouraging. I am Anon 22.01.
DeleteAnon 22:01
DeleteYes, I am. I know it's difficult but try and see all that you've been through as your pit, Potiphar's house and prison on your way to the palace. When you get to the palace, you might not receive all the answers to your "Why?" questions but the ones you get will make so much sense, that you'll be saying, "I'm a person of unclean lips. God, I'm sorry."
One of the things I did to raise money at uni was waitressing jobs for events. Not ushering. Sometimes, I had to do them throughout the summer and I'd feel bad cos my coursemates were travelling. But it's cos of those jobs I know certain things. Things that my role requires me to know now. I can't say because I don't drink alcohol, I don't know that white wine glasses aren't champagne flutes. Or that dessert fork isn't the same as the one for main course.
There are things within my husband's business and mine, that I just happen to be the only one that knows the answer. Not because his staff or mine are stupid. But because in the particular uni where I studied, I learned them. I graduated more than 8 years ago, but its difficult to forget your favourite subject at uni. Subject that was specific to your uni & wasn't even compulsory but you honestly don't know why you chose it.
By the time Joseph reached the palace, he knew he had to oversee the storing of grain himself. He knew how to ensure the grain went where it was supposed to - he wasn't a thief but he had seen his brothers stealing. He also knew not to take it personally when famine came and people started talking to him anyhow. He knew from being in the king's prison that entitlement mentality and hunger can do strange things to a person. He also knew how to talk and behave like an official of a king. Was he supposed to learn all these in his father's house?
When David was anointed king, he was young and weak-looking. That's the thing that upset Goliath. If he was strong and mature like his brothers, he'd have been in the army like them. Yet, when he became king, Israel still had battles to fight. Killing a bear or lion in the wilderness isn't the same as fighting as part of an army. Then, where would an invading enemy hide that David didn't know how to enter and exit - something he only knew cos Saul was chasing him through the length and breadth of the country, like a madman? Or that he won't know to calm down and ask God for strategy? When women were singing his praises cos he had killed more than Saul, he was feeling himself. After he was crowned, he became deaf to human praise and was the one dancing recklessly before God to the point where Michal was alarmed. And he was like, "Your father!"
Anon 22:01 - I don't know why I feel I should tell you this:
DeleteI don't know when your time is. But I feel like you think it's been too long. And you also wonder what God can possibly do, to make up for your years of suffering.
If a cake could talk, as soon as the top crust starts to harden or the aroma begins wafting out, the cake would ask to leave the oven. But a sensible baker who's not trying to kill his/her guests with food poisoning knows that until a toothpick can come out clean, the cake isn't ready for consumption. If the butler remembered Joseph as soon as he left prison, Joseph might have returned to his father's house. He would have been in the wrong place when the famine came - after all the suffering he'd already been through. It would have been cruel for God to take him through all that training, so that Joseph would go and be fighting over sheep and goats in his father's house. God doesn't waste training; some things aren't about you.
God's restoration plan isn't the same as man's compensation plan. Man looks at what you are going through and rewards you based on that; God plans your reward before you enter the fire. Joseph was sold at 17, left prison at 30 and lived to be 110. So, he spent 80 years in power; what is 80 years of promise fulfilled compared to 13 previous years of pain? The restoration that God planned ahead wasn't even double, triple or quadruple. This was X6 and jara! And yes, apart from the passage of time, the pain was dealt with - look at what he named his sons.
Poster you are heaven sent. Thank you soooo much. Ahnnn.. Feels so good knowing someone really understands. God bless you.
DeleteMe, Anon 22.01
How did u find out? That all I'm interested in...a mother that is a pastor by day n ojuju by night.
ReplyDeleteAll these parents that go about looking for problem where there’s non, I don’t get it, what are you looking for? Who goes about trying to know about their children’s futures? Isn’t it even a sin to seek what you don’t know ? Nawa o
DeleteNot only parents . I dated a guy for 3 years when I was 19years he kept putting pressure for us to get married and I was just in first year in college. I told him my parents would never agree except if I was pregnant , he said we should take a blood oat instead which I refused. this guy was 10 years older. for him to suggest blood oat put me off and made me believe he was fetish.we kept dating and he came to visit me once in school and I had spoken to him a day before so was not expecting him but he flew in and on getting back from school found him waiting . he asked me to marry him again that he had checked my future and he was told I will bring him good luck and fortune . The fact that he knew where to check that was the end for me . I told him to give me time as I was still in school . once he left I called him to say I wasn't interested in the relationship. I ended up meeting a guy in school , dated him for 7 years and married him . we are blessed beyond measures but at least I know he loves me for me not because someone "a seer " saw the future and told him .
DeleteI prayed and asked God to show me what was wrong. I'm successful in my own right, so it's not like I was failing and looking for somewhere to lay blame. But without giving away much, there were certain things that followed me to the UK, dogged me there and followed me back to Nigeria. After I prayed, I started to have vivid dreams and I heard God in my waking hours. I'm a very logical person, so I believed I had to be crazy. I even started looking for a mental health facility to discreetly book myself into. Till I heard God tell me to ask my mother specific questions about what He had told and shown me (even about what she had done in her own father's house). I gathered liver and asked. My mother's response: "Where did you find out?" plus some confessions. These were things I had no reason to know cos I was either very young or not even born when they happened. Things that not a single family member told me cos of their complicity or because some of them honestly don't know.
DeleteLife has no manual, it is however sad when people we see as our shelter turns to be the opposite.
ReplyDeleteNa real wa, the story get as he be😎😎😎😎😎😎
ReplyDeleteHummmm I gained a lot from this write up. Thanks to the poster, I'm at the verge of being pushed now
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
My dear don't let yourself to be pushed biko. It's well with you.
DeleteThank you poster for sharing...
Larry, may you receive strength to hold onto God and courage to trust Him and do the right thing - no matter how difficult it may seem or how foolish you may look. I'm not a perfect human being but the reason I have liver to ask God certain questions is because I have leverage: not putting your hands in certain things gives you leverage even with God. Yes, the Blood of Jesus cleanses and God forgives. But in the window of time it takes you to knowingly do what you know you shouldn't, a lot of damage can be done. Damage that even later asking and receiving God's forgiveness might not necessarily reverse.
DeleteHmmm..I have a lot of testimonies...I just can't type...but things happen..
DeleteIf you have a strong hold from your house..as a female..getting married to a good family and changing name..sometimes help to change it too
This was so confusing to read
ReplyDeleteVery.
DeleteVery very 😎😎😎😎
DeleteVery very very, can't believe I read all
DeleteVery very very, can't believe I read all
DeleteI didn't know what to make of it.
DeletePoster you kept repeating the same thing over and over.
Thank God you are married and successful, now MOVE ON.
Nollywood producers here will steal this and make into movie... Bet me
ReplyDeleteWawu!😱😱😱
DeleteWhy am I not surprised.
ReplyDeleteSimple because I have seen something like this firsthand.
Poster thank God for your life. you really have a strong spirit and will.
So many delusional and followers of pastors in Nigeria. A lot of people will never be able to think or act on their own because they are in bondage of one daddy and mommy g
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Done with religion.
Don't be done with religion, I particularly chose your comment from among comments on the contemporary heading because the tone and the inflection of your comment suggests you were once a victim of either daddy or mummy GO. Take your time to read and study Bible, you will discover the secret of God. The Bible says: the secretes of God are with those that fear him. Joshua chapter 1vs8: this book of law shall not depart from your mouth, you meditate there in day and night. When study Bible you will understand its indept analysis thus, no GO can pull wool over your eyes, the moment his teaching does not squre with scipture please flee. May God bless you.
DeleteRead this in the comments section. Thanks for making it more concise and detailed. He who has ears... Let him hear what is been said. I will be sending this link to someone that I know.
ReplyDeleteLord have mercy
ReplyDeleteBini people own is that their parents do charm for them while they work as prostitute abroad
The poster is definitely Bini...the church her mum is a pastor of is Christ Embassy. That church is filled with Edo people and retired prostitutes.
DeleteThis is for my wife. let me save the link. thanks to the sender and aunty Stella. God alright will give you the wisdom to continue living a Christ-like life.
ReplyDeleteOh lord of mercy!!!!
ReplyDeleteHmmm... expository essay. God help us all
ReplyDeleteJEHOVAH!!!
ReplyDeleteMimo!
DeleteHmmmm.
ReplyDeletePlease.. Are u from Edo state?
ReplyDeleteIn your mind. You sound really judgemental. I wonder how significant your husband is in the society. Not every parent is like yours and what works for one person won't work for another. Stay owk!!!
ReplyDeleteU are a fool, where did she say all parents are d same? Idiot nd no I am not the poster before u fool yourself
DeleteLol.
ReplyDeleteI am not amazed at your talk on "popular" pastors.
Even the devil knows the scriptures and he was able to get one out of three angels in heaven(the holiest of places) on his side.
By their fruits....
I keep saying it, once you kneel so a man of God will pray for you, you have subjected your spirit to his, and God help you because whatever he pronounces on you will stick!
I have NEVER visited any pastor for prayers neither have i KNELT under anyone.
And may God never let me see what will make me desperate as to patronise their merchandise.
Let them keep ckimbing mountains and going to valleys. What their eyes searches for; it will find.
Many people's problems started and increased from visiting prayer centres that they had no business being in.
May God help you poster.
Pray for your mother and forgive her also.
Similar to my life story, my mum too was doing jazz up and down when I and my siblings were younger.
ReplyDeleteAll the places she went ,they do tell her her only girl will be very rich in future and she is a glorious child .
All I knew was that she became rich all of a sudden,she trained I and my brothers through school ,two of us studied medical courses.It was hard for me, bn the only girl and the first born getting a job after school,finally I got a job.Relationship wise nothing was working for me,looking at 30 in the eyes.I had a terrible dream recently,had to call our pastor at home.This pastor anything he says just hold it ,the pastor told me my mum used my glory that's why I am struggling through life.I was shocked and my mum is this kind of person that reminds all of us how she raised us and all that and we are supposed to do anything she wants.The pastor told me my mum her self will do 7 days prayer for me and she might lose all she laboured for over the years though the pastor did not tell her what she did but told her she is responsible for all I am going through.
You are still making the same mistake not knowing the scripture or the power of God.
DeleteWhere in the Bible (if you read) did anyone use another person's glory?
You hold unto whatever "pastor" tells you and not the word of God written in black and white?
You will soon be scammed into going to war with all your relatives if you do not take care and watch.
Anon 15.42 I'm so sorry for you if you think glory cannot be used or exchanged by someone else. Go and read that same Bible very well.
Delete@Anon 15.42 I rarely believe this pastors but this man has told me things that came to pass,I have never been asked to bring a dime or do spiritual baths or whatsoever.My mum herself told me when she had a fibroid operation,probably she was thinking she will die then that they have always told her I am a glorious child.My mum is a kind of person then that can go as far as Cotonou from Lagos to do jazz,she has done things and seen things.It was few years ago she repented and started going to a church.
DeleteWho the son of man has been free indeed.ubhabe the power in you.keep saying what u want in Ur life.dont stop saying it
DeleteAnon 15:42, so you didn’t read about Jacob and Esau? Koburu.
DeleteRuby,
Deleteplease teach me those scriptures.
I am willing and eager to learn. Quote even one biko.
Anon 15:42
DeleteIt is what God tells you, that you hold. A pastor - even genuine - can make errors. There are things we can hear that can be lost in translation; the best way I can explain it is what can happen when you try to translate something from your native dialect to English. Samuel nearly accidentally anointed one of David's brothers. My point is that the pastor - if he's genuine - is a human being. Yes, God can put a person in your life, but it's not so that the person can take His place. I know God and I hear Him, but He doesn't tell me everything. There have been times when I have prayed about something and He'll tell me to tell my husband to pray. The first time I heard it, I was very upset and we weren't even married. But there's never been a time when I've followed such an instruction and did not receive an answer - even to things that look impossible. And there are some things he doesn't get, till I pray. But we both have our personal relationships with God.
Face God yourself. You're the person in the shoes. I'm not saying the pastor is lying. But I have found that when you are told something like this by a pastor and start to notice that it could be true, you start to hate your mother. It's not that what she has done isn't terrible. But you'll have a new problem - the hatred will cloud your heart, so you won't be able to hear God even when He's trying to give you the solution. So you'll remain how you are, and you'll hate her even more, the cycle will continue. Whereas if you face God yourself, He might still send someone to tell you but He will cushion the blow a bit.
Will the girls she is talking to hear?'
ReplyDeleteIs it not the same penteco people that taught them "I tap, I tap"? I read one comment like that this morning.
Greedy competitive lots.
Hmmm dis is deep.
ReplyDeleteWisdom is profitable and direct.
God bless u poster.
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ReplyDeleteHmmmm
ReplyDeleteThank God for your strong spirit not allowing your mother to destroy you.
ReplyDeleteLike, this is true life story..... Of course, it is.
ReplyDeleteI thank God for your life poster! I believe everything you wrote up there because I've been fortunate to have a very close relationship with few men of God in Nigeria and I know some few secrets, the reason I'm not moved by their prophecies and the deliverance that they claim to perform on people (five departs and fifteen comes in)
Thank God for you and yours and may He continue to protect you and your home.
The reality of many people in Nigeria.
There was a very popular pastor, he had two branches in this country, (he still does) his wife used to be a pimp, his eldest son impregnated a church member and they forced the little girl to abort the child... The son is now a top pastor in the US and now also heads the church in Nigeria. He was not ordained, immediately his father died some few years ago, he took the mantle of power immediately and started wearing his father's robe.
This top pastor use to take his wife's girls to swore an oaths in Nigeria before bringing them abroad for prostitution work. Yes, they had girls all over Europe and even in the States.
A lot is truly happening behind the scene but, many are too afraid to talk because, these men and women of God are not naive... They get power from the underworld.
Poster, I hope your mother is not the pastor that almost ruined the life of one girl in Switzerland all because she stopped paying tith....
Fake pastors and fake prophecies. @Blessed Princess
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ReplyDelete"And yes, they can be following or taking you to places "to solve your problem"; problem that they engineered into your life".
ReplyDeleteI was in this situation for about two years till I decided to call my Aunt(father's sis) and Mother's bluff.
My mom called me one day to say her sister-in-law who happens to be my dad's sister asked about me from her, as the first born that I am. She said the woman is bothered about my stagnation, no marriage in view, no 'multi million job'. So there was an arrangement to take me to a CnS prophetess. We got there, the woman said I am paying for sins I didn't commit, and it's from my father's house .. Bla Bla Bla. She said I'd do a spiritual bath of restoration,and it'll be vigil. My parents paid for it, and it was done.
Early last year, this aunt called me and asked if I communicate with the prophetess, I said No, and she went on ranting about how disappointed she is, that I should be calling the woman so she can be praying for me, and we never can tell, God might reveal more to her. I said no wahala. My mom called me on phone paraing that I should call the iya ori oke. So I called the woman, introduced myself and said I wanted to greet her.
I didn't call her again after that day.
So my aunt called my mom mid last year that she knows one powerful prophet at Abeokuta that I should come to her house and we'd go there together. I got to her house here in Lagos and we went to Abeokuta together. As I entered there, I knew I was in trouble. When it got to our turn, this man's spiritual apprentices started prophesying that I am in a secret society, that they should ask me well where I went to the day before, what promises did I make to my cult members. They said lots of trash that day... The experience was traumatic for me that I got back to Lagos, I had to para for my mom that never in her life should she subject me to such again. The woman called me December last year, I didn't pick her call. Inshort, I blocked her number on true caller.
Now, this is a woman with 4 children, and none of them has amounted to something great in life. The one that managed to gain admission dropped out of school to be a yahoo boy.
I am 28years old, about to put in for my PhD. Currently in a relationship with an amazing guy who'd move the world for me.
After that Abeokuta trip, I learnt a great lesson.....no one can be trusted with my life....not even my mother. Before she'd naively gist my story to people whose aim is to see you don't progress.
Dear Anon, hold steadfastly to God's word. Do you have a personal relationship with Him though? If you don't please do.God is the only one that can lead and direct you and would never subject you to such.
DeleteI wish you all the best.
Things re happening
ReplyDeleteThat's exactly what is happening to me now my mum has been doing juju on me because where they went they told her i will be very rich so she tried for many yrs to try and switch to my siblings but it never worked because every time i Dream i see everything in the Dream a voice will be telling me what she is doing when i wakeup i tell her everything she gets angry so later on with Prayers i found out she cheated on my dad who is actually my step dad and she really lived my biological Father who is a Prince but she didnt know i found out everything now there revenge with my step dad is juju nonstop but I left them no contact all what they stole from me to give my siblings is gone even properties i left everything to them started a New life now am fine with a good man very rich in Europe i travel in private jets all the time my family knows nothing about me any more am very happy and at peace. God is always there to help when u belive and call his name he will always come to your rescue.
ReplyDeleteReach out.read ur bibbibbe.since u are settled reach out
DeleteDon't reach out to any of them! Face your life and live your life with your immediate family members to the fullest.
DeleteNever stop praying and do not let any pastor lay hand on you.
Don't ever reach out
DeleteDo not reach out to them.
DeleteHmmmmmn, this life is full of mystery.
So every woman who breaks free or make it travels with private jets, and are married to rich men? I'm asking because, people write that a lot on here.
DeleteMy mum na day time Christian, night time pagan...
ReplyDeleteNkan be
ReplyDeleteThis is deep
ReplyDeleteJesu!! Where do you people get these parents from?? 🙆♀️🙆♀️ What did I just read? Your own mother??!! Did what??
ReplyDeleteListen and listen people.... there is NO TRUE man of God that will advice you to do anything that isnt moral. Once it doesnt make moral sense, please leave it alone and run very very far from such 'men of god'. Prostitution thay is a crime?? Is what someone is encouraging her daughter to do through GO? My God!
I will just read comments abeg. I just can't. Transfer a child's glory ke???? God of mercy!
My dear some parents are evil.
DeleteIf you have good parents just thank God. My mum is just like the poster's mum, enemy of her child's progress.
Speechless. May God help us.
ReplyDeleteOwo emii?🙆🏼🙆🏼🙆🏼🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆
ReplyDeletePoster, thanks for posting your story
I will go anon on this.
ReplyDeleteMy brother was a victim of one of these fake occultic pastors or GOs more than 20 years ago or should I say victim of his own greed!
He started working in a church owned by one Bisi 'Bisket' Shaba (she was in the news for wrong reasons more than 10 years ago when she was caught with lots of underaged, children at Seme Border) in Lagos and being inquisitive he noticed some strange things like black soap, red cloths etc and the woman would even invite him to her Quarters for 'clandestine ' stuffs!
There was an incident where one of the Bisi Shabbas friend who used to live abroad with her husband but divorced then got custody of two of her children; a boy and a girl, and the girl got pregnant for a tout and she carried the child to full term then she went into labour!
Now, the church has a hospital and the girl gave birth in the hospital. Unfortunately, my brother was told by one of the nurses that the girl gave birth to a baby boy but when few minutes later he came down, the madam and grandmother started crying and brought out a dead baby girl that the baby was dead.
My brother innocently asked that how come the baby is a girl after he was told he was a boy. The grandmother which is Bisis friend refused and started telling her i.e. Bisi, "I know how far ooo, bring out my grandchild before I expose your sorry ass"! Like film trick, madam Bisi brought out the boy and handed him over to the grandma! My brother started digging and found in the Bisis quarters, a fridge filled with dead children and realised this woman is into child trafficking and all sorts!
He almost reported her to the police but out of greed and for the fact that she pays police heavily, he planned with his friend who was also a pastor in the same church and they blackmailed the woman!
However, out of greed, the friend went to meet the lady with all the evidence they were using in blackmailing her, and he was arrested alongside my brother!
They were taken to a very popular cell in Lagos where they were supposed to be poisoned to death but God saved him and with the effort of some of the inmates and some influential family members, they were both released since there was no case file!
The moral of my story? All these get rich quick pastors and their ways should be well known by Nigerians now except you want to look the other way.
Stella, please hide my identity, thanks.
Woooow!
DeleteI want to thank God for my parents... . What in Zeus's name am I ready!!!
ReplyDeleteThe is serious o. Thank God for your life poster. It is well with you
ReplyDeleteWawuu.... Thank God for everything.
ReplyDeleteTo all those serving God with all sincerity of heart and genuity and things haven't been going well as planned, just hold on, He created you and I and knows us by name. He will SURELY come through, I believe so. Poster thanks for enlightening us the more on what's happening around us. We all need to stay woke spiritually this year.
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Things are really happening.
ReplyDeleteYou made a lot of sense but then people diagnosed of paranoid schizophrenia makes a lot of sense until they start rambling which you did.
ReplyDeleteThe story is so uncoordinated. So you went somewhere and they told you, you will marry a rich man bla bla, the someone didn't tell you that you will be rich. Is it an abomination for a woman to be rich in their seer's world.
There is something very dark about this chronicle. I will pass.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
I thought I was the only one who noticed, poster is a sicko
DeleteWhen I read the chronicle this was exactly what came to mind. She actually sounds mentally unstable
DeleteMy thoughts exactly oo. Sounds like someone with delusions of persecution and grandiose
DeleteThere's an office I worked in, where I was abroad. I had a boss who, whenever she gave an instruction, would ask the person she was talking to, to repeat what they heard. I used to wonder why, till I noticed that there were times we would say we heard something that it turned out she never said. I honestly couldn't care less whether you believe me or not. But for me to say "my parents took me somewhere shortly after I was born..." and for you to conclude that I went there myself (when I was under the age of TWO) makes me think you need a replica of my former employer in your life. Good luck.
DeleteThis Tori dey some hpw abeg. Spoke a lot in parables.
ReplyDeleteI don't no what to even comment... May God safeguard ur family.
ReplyDeleteNa wa for some mothers.
ReplyDeleteDis one fear me aswear
ReplyDeleteToo shocked!
ReplyDeleteThis extent? Parents?
Just curious poster. Are you still a believer in Christ?
This somewhere u went to is it a shrine or church.
I am glad about your victory
Somewhere I went? Are you confusing this with another story you read somewhere else? I'm not trying to be sarcastic or insult you, but if someone says their parents took them somewhere a short while after they were born (to go and look for what isn't missing), I'm not really sure why anyone reading it would ask if the person went to a shrine or church. Are you asking if I went to a shrine or church as a CHILD, found out what was said, and did something to my own face so that a specific man wouldn't be able to find me, then enrolled myself in school some months later? I wasn't even up to 2yo! I've heard of baby geniuses; but not this type. Please, calm down and read it again. May God grant you understanding as you do so.
DeleteI no dey read chronicles y did i open this so scared
ReplyDeletePastors are terrible, I believe in none of them. Nobody is giving them any message, they’re not seeing anything please, when will everyone know this truth? They’re all lying!!! They just make up stories according to things that happen in Nigeria films. Be wise
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