STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
UNABLE TO MOVE ON...
Stella thanks for your good work, your blog is where I visit and encourage myself.
Today being the last day of 2018,i didn't know I would be able to see today because this year was full of challenges.
After I had my first baby 2015,i decided to try for another baby 2017,luckily for me I took and my EDD date was February,i travelled to my home town for the festive period and I decided to do another scan January,behold I was told my baby have hydrop fetalis meaning there is water at the baby's abdomen that I should go and see my doctor....
I quickly register for antenatal in one hospital there and they saw the result and said so many things.. I went to meet my mom pastor and we started prayer, then January 17th I went for antenatal and the midwife said she couldn't hear the heartbeat of the baby hmmmm that I should go and do another scan, behold when the results were out it shows that my baby is dead, I was advised to be induced immediately to remove the baby, but I refused and went to meet our pastor, in fact I went to different churches and met different pastors.
Then one of my friend took me to meet their pastor and we started prayer and fasting and I attended the last day of their 21 days of fasting and prayer program,and that night I danced like never before and went to sleep at my friends house bcoz its close to her house, around 12am I started having contractions and I went to a midwife who delivers women close to their house and she confirmed that I was in labor..... After some minutes she told my friend that the baby was coming out with leg hmmmmm I started calling all the pastors I know and her pastor came too and prayed for me, then God gave me the strength to push the baby out .....i cried my eyes out seeing that my baby boy was long dead in my womb.
Fast forward to three months later I took in and I was very happy and started my midnight prayers and the rest but when the pregnancy was six months gone I went for antenatal and the doctor said my BP is very high that he would give me some drugs and I should rest very well.... During that period I stopped my midnight prayer bcoz I find it difficult to sleep at night after the prayers.... Then after two weeks I was advised to stop taking the drugs because my BP has come down....
So on 12/12/2018 I went to church with my family becoz they organized a program "I shall not die" to end the year, we were asked to sow a seed of 1200 to cancel death I did, reaching home I prepared food for the family we ate and was about to sleep,so I went to gist with hubby in his room and as I was gisting with him I started feeling like someone who wants to go into labor pain, before I knew it blood started pumping out from me, immediately I called my pastors wife who is a nurse she told me to rush to the hospital quickly,as I was trying to walk I saw myself going down, feeling too weak to walk from the room to outside, I lost so much blood and blood was still pumping out, I said to myself is this how I will die and leave my daughter behind?
Once I started prophesying I shall not die but live to declare the works of the lord,immediately strength came inside of me and I was able to walk outside and we started calling our neighbors for help, our landlord and one of our neighbors quickly opened the gate and drove me to the hospital....on our way going my hubby and I was just singing "you made a way"by Travis Scott... I was rushed to the theatre and operated on, while they were during the operation I died and came back, I could hear myself calling JESUS ....i was also saying thank God my hands are clean, I'm innocent, those are the words I was saying when I gained consciousness.
The baby was still breathing and she was put in the incubator because she was not up to 9 months, just one week for the baby to complete 7 months... I was given four pint of blood still my PCV was 25....
Stella after some days I lost the baby, then I told God why did u allow me go through this pain if you know I was still going to loose the baby? Why did I even get pregnant again? Why will my case be different? Why will 2018 be full of sorrows and pain?
Job I don't have, no money for business still they won't allow me to give birth, I questioned God on why he created me?
I just need advice from Mother's who where once in my shoes how did you survive this? Bcoz the pain has refused to go, my BP is getting high everyday, I can't sleep at night..... I cry myself to sleep and wake up thinking..... Not to talk of the debt we are owing still my baby couldn't stay alive to keep me happy. 2018 was really a terrible year, I don't know how to smile anymore,i pray for quick recovery because I have been having different thoughts....
Thanks Stella for allowing me to share with you my burdens I hope to be encouraged. God bless you for your good work, pls post for me.
*Madam please stop this mentality of running to Pastors when you are pregnant and have a problem,such is meant for Doctors!!
You have a health issue which aborts the babies before term...what you need is proper medical care and if you say there is no money now,then please go for family planning and let your body rest a bit whilst you get your BP under check..
Your story is really sad and i pray God gives you another story.
One of my fave cousins went thru this so i know what i am taking about,I know the pain and the tears she cried before her case was successfully handled.She has kids now.
I wish you the best for 2019.
Stella, I have disagreed with some of your comments in the past, but on this one I am in total agreement with you. There is nothing more for me to add.
ReplyDeletePoster, I sympathize with you on your ordeals. No one knows it all and my write up may still not have the answers you are looking for. Life is something we can’t comprehend no matter how hard we tried. Some have kids they do not want, some actually abandoned these kids, kill or sell them while some people are crying their eyes out looking for kids. Something to ponder on right? But who are we to question God? Actually, we never had a deal with him or how our life will be. Why worry about what we can not change? I don’t know how you feel but I can say I understand a little bit. Right now, your sufferings do not make sense to a human being but I believe God allowed it for a purpose. You made it out alive, right? What if you have died? Sometimes, we question the fairness in the world, but we are not here on our own accord but God created each an every one of us for a purpose.
DeleteYou are still alive, your husband and daughter alive. Take time to mourn your loss, take care of yourself, get up and get something doing. Get money, go for a thorough check-up, intensify your prayers and allow God to do the rest. You will have emotional breakdowns, pause and cry or yell but then pull yourself together and move forward. God heals but I also believe he gives the physicians the ability to bring his healing to the physical, make use of them when necessary. For now, allow the tears to flow, dry them get up and keep moving. There are things that will not require big capital, try them out. Getting busy will also help in your healing process. I don’t know how and when God will do it but HE WILL DO IT!
Madam poster may the Lord comfort you and cause you to smile this 2019. Please also check for Rhesus factor at the hospital.
DeleteStella is so right, How can you stay with a dead feotus for 21 days Haba, you are lucky to be alive and not infected. Seems you do not do antenatal instead you use midwifes and pastors wife's nurse Elisa, you need to see a gynecologist, you have high risks pregnancies maybe Rhehus factor which you may need medical treatment to keep you and baby alive, Sadly it seems you cannot afford the kind of medical care you may need to have a safe delivery, maybe try health insurance, some are as cheap as 40k and will help with all the bills and investigations
DeleteIf you keep having miscarriages, or can't get pregnant please look into progesterone AND low dose aspirin (81mg).
DeleteAlso do a whole pineapple peeled, cut into 5 pieces. Eat one a day including the hard center part! Starting the day after you ovulate. It helps with implantation.
Good luck.
Madam first of all your case is familiar to rhesus factor cases. Maybe you are a rhesus negative and didn't take the injection after your first child. But if it's not the case, then go see a gynecologist. Pastors are not doctors. And why will a pregnant woman be doing fasting and prayer at all? Please rest your womb for now and seek medical help for your BP. I don't like all these over spiritual people. Everything is not spiritual. Seek medical help and stop starving yourself all in the name of fasting and prayer. Give thanks to God for your life for now and rest small before trying again.
DeleteI have a problem when people exercising ignorance in the name of Faith. if you wanted an advice you would have sought for it here since but for now I think you are seeking for sympathy and I don't have any to give
DeleteFasting, midnight prayers everyday, going to pastors instead of doctors is causing high blood pressure which is affecting your pregnancy issues. You are the cause of your problems. Take time to heal, make money, go for check ups and rest that's all.
DeletePoster your very stupid and reckless, I wonder the kind of husband you have, both of you are irresponsible, how can you foolishly carry a dead baby for weeks. You went to the hospital and you were told your problem, but you decide to run to pastors that are ever ready to trade your life for testimony so as to attract more members. Your lucky to be breathing. If you like continue to be mumu.
DeleteStella has said it all. But let me add, there’s no rush in life, let your body heal
DeleteJust take Stella's advice poster
ReplyDeleteIt is when you are alive that you can take care of your loved ones, it is only when you are alive that you can get pregnant.
DeleteI know it is not easy but it is time to start counting your blessing and not your loss.
Please take care of your self, eat well,be happy and grateful, everything will fall in place at the right time.
Exactly Stella, it’s possibly a medical issue, go for proper checkup, meet a good consultant who can carry out series of tests, u can’t tell you to stop praying but this may not be spiritual
DeletePoster, you lost your second pregnancy due to hydrops fetalis, one of the causes of hydrops fetalis is Rh incompatibility. All you need is a little injection to stop that from happening next time.
DeleteGive you self a break and sort out your finances before attempting again. Leave pastors alone Biko, you need to develope yourself to communicate with God directly. Not every condition is a spiritual attack. Please educate yourself and free your mind.
Someone throat should’ve gotten cerclarge and stayed in bed from 5-9months smh
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ReplyDeleteMadam, you are being scammed by "pastors". So you folks now pay pastors "sowing of seeds" to live? Life that God gives freely even to those who do not believe?
Madam, when you are sick or the baby in the womb is sick, you need a doctor and NOT A "pastor or pastor's wife", that is what Jesus taught:
On hearing this, Jesus said to them, "It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners." Mark 2:17
My advice to you is to take out time to fast and pray and seek God ON YOUR OWN and get assurance from him before embarking on another pregnancy. If you embark on it without discussing and agreeing with the Lord, do not blame him when you have issues.
Seek God and not "pastors".
I swear I just knew the mentality of the poster when she said they were 'asked to give 1,200 , cancel spirit of death of death'. Buahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahahaha!!!
DeleteIn 2019, people still believe this utter bunkum??
So erm how much was Jesus selling his own blessings? How much?
The money is used to cancel ba? When you give the money, what happens.
The Holy Spirit pockets it and uses it for lunch?
Absolute, complete unfettered, DULLARDS.
You obviously have an undetected medical condition.
Everything is not evil spirits, village 'pipu', sometimes, many times its just BASIC COMMON SENSE.
If you would use your brain cells and go to a credible hospital instead of these wasted charlatans you call mummy daddy kini kan kini kan, you would find the answer.
Of course you can't do that can you, 'no job', 'no business' but you have strength to fuck and live on the largess of others. At least to keep you occupied.
See I haven't even said a quarter of what I want to say. You don't need to encouragement, you need a hard brain reset.
Religion has turned many of you people's brain to mold.
Annon you get too much sense i swear. This poster will fuck and carry belle next month. I know their type
DeleteIt is well.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about all you went through. Try and do proper medical check-ups to know what is really wrong and after that, pray and thank God for He will make you laugh again.
ReplyDeleteStop moving from one pastor to another and pray to God yourself. He hears and answers. It is well with you. Stop worrying so your BP can go back to normal. Hand it all to God.
All I can say is stay alive for those who loves you.
ReplyDeleteStay alive for your husband and daughter.
Stay alive for YOURSELF.
The place of prayer is good and important, but also go for medical check up to know if there is anything that is not making you carry your pregnancy to term.
If you keep on disturbing yourself with worry, I don't think you will like the result in the long run.
One step at a time, you will be fine.
I am with Stella on this one, madam you need good doctors not pastors. Take stella's advice, keep your
ReplyDeleteFaith alive while at it, take a break for now.
So people, women now pay fake pastors 1,200 to live?
ReplyDeleteAtu m ngege!
Please take that money and go and feed motherless babies, you will have more peace.
Before another pregnancy, have a thorough medical check and fast and pray daily for like a month.
Do not fret for it only leads to evil.
My dear, it’s all because we don’t have a government. How can a Pastor collect money in exchange for prayers??
DeleteThere was a Pastor in my state, he did the same thing and it took one person to notify the Attorney General’s office. Dude was given x number of days to refund their monies. They carried it in the evening news. I remember staring at the tv laughing. He refunded Nine million dollars to Church members.
Poster here is very lucky to be alive. She was told the baby was dead but didn’t want to accept it.
Please poster, give your body time to heal. It is well with you.
My dear, it’s all because we don’t have a government. How can a Pastor collect money in exchange for prayers??
DeleteThere was a Pastor in my state, he did the same thing and it took one person to notify the Attorney General’s office. Dude was given x number of days to refund their monies. They carried it in the evening news. I remember staring at the tv laughing. He refunded Nine million dollars to Church members.
Poster here is very lucky to be alive. She was told the baby was dead but didn’t want to accept it.
Please poster, give your body time to heal. It is well with you.
Your comment really cracked me up. Nor be small. Funny but true
DeleteWhy is everything a battle with many of these Pentecostals? I get small headache - attack! Madam you were pregnant, all you needed was rest but you were busy going to vigils and waking up at night to fight demons that are on their own.
ReplyDeleteTimothy had a medical issue, Paul didn't recommend prayers but alcohol. Paul himself had an issue even prayers didn't solve.
We just have to understand that not every problem we have is spiritual and certain problems will always remain with us till we die. if you like pray, e no go go away.
Madam, go and do proper medical check up or rest small.
I disagree that some problems will remain with us till we die,no matter how hard we pray. My Bible says there is nothing impossible for God.
DeleteTrue anonymous, not everything prayers can solve, have almost same issue. You are even lucky you have a daughter, mine is what is termed cryptic pregnancy, no foetus seen,but heartbeat felt, growing tummy, midnight prayers, fasting and praying, mfm, Scoan, alagbo etc no solution the people that had similar problem have put to bed so nobody should say there's nothing like cryptic pregnancy.
Delete16:05, what if that is your cross from God.??
DeleteJael, it could be your mind playing tricks on your body. I know a few people who say they have cryptic pregnancy and would not hear anything any doctor tells them. Their tummies are growing and they have different pregnancy symptoms like tiredness, nausea, spitting etc. they’ve done several tests in hospitals but they all came back negative. Home tests also came up negative but they still believed they were pregnant because of the strong desire anc physical changes to the body. A few of them have been pregnant for over 2 years and still counting. Their family members think they’re crazy but it’s also a mental/psychological issue only centered around pregnancy though. One woman decided to listen to logic after carrying out so many tests/scans and she finally accepted that she wasn’t pregnant. Guess what? The big belly etc went down and all pregnancy symptoms stopped. Belly deflated and all. So the first thing to do is to work on your mind first. You could also be blocking your body from a real pregnancy because it is too busy providing and protecting the imaginary pregnancy. You can read up on it, just be careful not to get sucked in with those proclaiming it. Read up on those who got through/over it and how they made it through. Best of luck dear and I pray your prayers shall be answered before you even know it.
DeleteA lot of people also confuse “cryptic pregnancy” with “ phantom or false pregnancy”. The medical term is “pseudocyesis”. Cryptic pregnancy is when a one is actually pregnant but unaware because there are minimal or no pregnancy symptoms. Pseudocyesis is the appearance of clinical or subclinical signs and symptoms associated with pregnancy when the person is not actually pregnant. False pregnancy may sometimes be purely psychological.
DeleteRhesus factor could be the real reason for this still births.
ReplyDeleteGo and meet a gynaecologist to assist you before you get pregnant again.There is an injection for people with blood group issues to be received before 6weeks after delivery.You can go with your husband to check your blood groups again.The lab technician can explain better if you can't go to a doctor now. Google about Rheumatology.
Sorry for the troubles.Get medical solution .God favour next time.
She already has a daughter so rhesus can't be the issue
DeleteIt doesn't affect the first pregnancy..It will become an issue after the first child if you want to continue with child bearing.
DeleteRead about it.
Anon 16:24
Deletethe fact that all of this started after one child increases the suspicion of rhesus incompatibility
Anon 16; 24 It could be Rhehus factor because most people can have a first child then subsequent miscarriages, Happened to my mother in law
DeleteMy first pregnancy was hitch free. Everything was perfect. The second pregnancy was a different story. I started bleeding from 10 weeks. Not spotting oooo, heavy bleeding. We prayed like never before and I basically lived in the hospital during the pregnancy.
DeleteIt doesn't matter if it's the first pregnancy or not. Go and see doctors before you attempt to get pregnant again. It is good to pray and it's also God that gave us doctors and medical science. Make the best use of that!
Anon 16:24, the more reason it's pointing to rhesus incompatibility. The first pregnancy/child is most often not affected, it is subsequent pregnancies that get affected. Read up.
DeleteLeave pastors madam Go and see a doctor.God gave them the knowledge for a reason.Sorry about your pain ..Leave pastor..Please .Thank you
ReplyDeleteMadam from the cause of the death of your son in your womb, it shows that you and the baby had RH factor incompatibility. One of the causes of hydrop fetalis, which you described as water in his abdomen is as a result of the mother's immune system causing a breakdown of ted blood cells in the fetus. Please take a short break and let your body heal. Also check you and your husband RH factor before you try taking in again. And please madam, nobody is bewitching you or preventing you from having your baby. And try to rest more once you discover you are pregnant. It's not advisable to fast with pregnancy and you can pray in your house.
DeleteYou serve God but you do not know how to cast your cares and trust Him. Why have so much fear in your heart? God loves you too much for you to let you go through this.
ReplyDeleteWith faith you will get pregnant again, seek proper medical attention from the START of the pregnancy, take good prenatal vitamins throughout and stop hopping around unnecessarily in the name of prayers...God can hear you from your house!
Fear opens the door to the enemy! Ask God for restoration, meditate on scriptures about God’s love for you and how you will not cast your young before it’s time, if possible break bread everyday and confess the word of God throughout your next pregnancy.
An important thing to do is to go a good doctor and find out why you have lost 2 babies before even getting pregnant again. Stop the physical and mental stress you are giving yourself biko!
God already answered your prayers with the miracle of medical science but Nigerian 419 pastors and Nigerian brain dead mentality will not allow you. Stop taking in 3 months after a still birth and concentrate on getting a job.
ReplyDeleteYou don’t have job or money why are you so determined to have more babies????
Who did you marry that won’t take you to better hospital but will be busy getting you pregnant while you run up and down prophesying???
This is such an annoying
Very annoying.
DeleteI Don't understand how this poster reasons. Why would you be looking for more babies when you're not financially stable, neither is your spouse. If your husband was rich.... it could have been a different case. You seem to be making lots of wrong choices. Doctors are there for a reason, Pastors are there too for a reason. Don't mix things up)!
Lolll.
DeleteThat's the mentality of the average Nigerian.
Extremely primitive.
No job, no source of income, but fuck all day long.
And you are complaining of debt?
Were you planning to give birth in church?
You didn't know hospitals charge fees???
My comfort for your lost dearie... Please give your body time to heal and go for medical checkup to see for you have any issue... Please always relate more with you doctors because God gave them the wisdom to treat and care for you... I pray for financial break through for you and family... What has happened has happened, it is fruitless feeling sad and having regrets, because it wont make the pain go again faster... Dust up yourself because your best is yet to come... You will share your success story this 2019 in Jesus name...Amen
ReplyDeleteJust imagine? The doctor advised you to abort the dead fetus but NO, you run to the pastors for a miracle, carrying a dead baby in your womb for days. Why are you Africans like this? Do you people think you pray more than Whites? Yet babies as small as 4 months abroad survive and it is thanks to SCIENCE, God has blessed us with intelligence and wisdom, and doctors happen to be the ones with those gifts but you still want to challenge the wisdom of God in the name of miracles. It is a pity that we are so brainwashed in this part of the world, everything in our disposition was given by God but we still looking for mirages.
ReplyDelete'God has blessed us with intelligence and wisdom,' Even if wisdom slapped Nigerians in the face, they wouldn't know what to do with it.
DeleteThey are simply incapable of critical thinking. Completely incapable.
Carrying a dead child in the womb for that long was also very unhealthy. Poster needs to get medical help to be sure her womb wasn't affected by that.
DeleteLike Stella said, give your body time to rest first. You have one child alive, don't give in to pressure from different angles to take in again, if you die, your husband will remarry.
ReplyDeleteGo to a living church, forget all this 'ministries' and prayer houses. Re-dedicate your life to God and have a relationship with him, know Him for yourself first. Go for proper medical checkup and care when funds are available. Then go for proper prayers and deliverance.
For now though, you need rest.
In my rich world, every profession has its own specific duty and God gave them wisdom to carry out their duty.
ReplyDeletePoster sorry for your loss.
Pastor's work is to preach the word of God and win souls for God. Any other thing apart from that is scam.
Doctors or anyone in medical field their work is to attend to your health and therefore you must follow their advice medical/health wise.
From your chronicle I can understand that you guys are not financially buoyant enough. So I will I advise you people should wait till you are buoyant enough for more kids before you try again.
God will bless you with kids, money, long life,peace and good health.
That's how some people will go to hospital and the doctor will tell them what causes their ill health they will say children of God don't suffer that kind of sickness, as if it is satan that trained the doctors.
#RichLife
listen to Stella. Again register for antenatal care as soon as you notice u are pregnant. 6 months is too far nah. God will wipe away ur tears as u visit a gynaecologist in a good hospital.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you Evelyn .Pls register for antenatal immediately because of your Bp, high Bp can cause a lot in pregnancy .u can use a teaching hospital and pls any issue you have in pregnancy should first be taken to the hospital and u can call any pastor from there . But most importantly you need to appreciate God for life and also all that u have because some are even begging God for just one child .read your bible more i hope with time u can get over your loss .I pray God heals you completely
DeleteA pregnant woman dat should rest,considering the condition of ur last pregnancy and ure jumping frm one pastor to another,and frm one church service to another,no rest,ur BP is high and u find tym to do midnight prayers...pls and pls take tym to find happiness and REST!! Biko your pastor and ur pastors wife can't help u,the short prayer u make on ur bed ,God hears them..pls take care of itself madam
ReplyDeletemy dear try and do proper check up before trying to conceive again. Let ur body rest first. Bp is not something u joke with, save very well and register at a good hospital. You can try general hospitals thats what I did.
ReplyDeleteI suffered from bp, pre and post eclampsia, kidneys nko. meanwhile my baby was in the incubator with all the complications one can ever think of. How that girl survived is still a miracle and God used those doctors for me. From 5 months I was in and out of the hospital, they envisaged the worst and I started taking shots for my baby's lungs. My dear I saw women with similar conditions die, babies nko. Trust me im a prayer woman but dat nite when the doctors told me the life of my baby and I were in danger, I didnt need any pastor to tell me to go for the surgery. Let me stop here
Your health is wealth, if you die tommorrow, life continues. Use your brain and pray hard
You see why I love you duchess, you re so blunt with the truth, God keep you and the family.
DeletePoster get a job, save, look for a good hospital then pray. God will do it
I'm really sorry for what you passed through poster. There's quite a number of possible reasons for the kind of spontaneous abortion you are having, one of the most common being Rhesus factor incompatibility (and i suspect this since you say you gave birth to one child already). However there is so many other possible reasons so You need to visit a Prenatal diagnosis specialist where a loong list of tests will be run on you. i would recommend Prof Ajayi of Ob/Gyn department, Luth but i dont know if he has fully retired now.
ReplyDeleteThis is not a matter of running to numerous churches whenever you get diagnosis, Just get a particular pastor or prayer warrior or any real christian to agree with you in prayer while you fully adhere to your doctors recommendations. You will birth as many children as you want, all alive and healthy, in Jesus name. Amen
Dr Ajayi good and experienced gynecologist. I saw him for some months before I travelled to have my kids. IVF doctors refer patients to him to manage their high risk pregnancies.
DeleteFirst time I agree with Stella..lol This poster has no brains of her own...My friend said,pastor wife said, I called this person,I called that person....What do you do by yourself? Sorry for the pains though...Find a job, and be comfortable, so you can give your kids a comfortable life...so relax, u have a child....
ReplyDeleteAnd please, kids are not object or something to make us happy. Don't bring in this world to suffer, you have no money nor job, how would you care for that child you are so looking for when the first one you still manage.What if it is also a way for God to say wait for a good moment? Why do you people have this mentality that kids fix parents? You need to fix yourself first, job wise, health wise and spiritually wise so to bring kids in a healthy and accommodable/suitable environment.
ReplyDeleteFix yourself first, take a break and stop following pastors up and down, find a job or something doing.
True talk...many pastors are scam
DeleteI know what this feels like. I've lost 2 pregnancies. Doctors still don't know why. Or how to prevent it from happening again. Stella, doctors don't always have all the answers.
ReplyDeleteI would still advise the Poster to see a good gynaecologist. And stop worrying. I doesn't help, you need to stay alive to win this battle and you will win. Just seek to know God personally. Do you have a personal relationship with Him? If not, invite Jesus to come into your life and mean it. Get a Bible. Study the scriptures. What are God's promises concerning child bearing. Declare them to yourself in faith. Keep the faith
You will laugh again.
In my rich world, we believe in God and not pastors or any gods of men.
ReplyDelete50% of Nigeria's/Africa's problems are caused by pastors. If you doubt me ask VP pastor Yemi Osibanjo.
I support Daddy Freeze 90%. He says it as it is.
Daddy GOs, pastors and gods of men are glorified scammers that are well packaged.
They present themselves as gods, put fear in you and scam you.
Wise up guys.
Go to church, worship God and go home.
If you tell pastors your problem instead of praying to God, they will use it and prophesy to you or use it to preach sermon on sunday.
Do you know how many people that call pastor to pray for them in a day? Do you really think he can remember all their prayer points? I don't so.
Pastor will just relax and you will think they are praying for you, when God works you will go and give pastor thanks instead of God.
#RichLife
ReplyDelete'Job I don't have, no money for business still they won't allow me to give birth'
Your statement above shows that you think someone somewhere is responsible for your predicament. The kind of thinking that comes from jumping from one pastor to another. Poster trust in God and free your mind from 'someone is responsible for my predicament' mentality. Your problem is more of medical than spiritual. There are lots of good advice already posted here. May the Lord inspire you to identify and make use of the advice that suits your situation and may he speak peace and calm to your troubles heart and healing to all that concerns your body, your finance and your family. Cheers!
Can you go for full medical check up with a good doctor before you get pregnant again. Consider doing blood test with your husband to be sure you are fully compatible bcos of rhesus factor o+ and o- issues which doesn't affect the first child but affect other children if you are not given the injection after the birth of your first born.
ReplyDeleteThings women go through, it is well.
ReplyDeleteThis woman has been brainwashed for life..Imagine saying "and behold" up and down like that....I shall not die prayers indeed. You will be fine, serving God doesn't mean one should be mumu. Pray for God's wisdom. May God grant you all your wishes in 2019. Nobody is stopping you from having that baby, that mindset should go.
ReplyDeleteJane Akudo God bless you. I was just pissed off reading Pastor, Pastor, Prayer hmm! Madam one of your main problem is lack of peace of mind and i don't know please answer do you have spiritual issues, abi what witches are u chasing with so much vigour that instead of being pregnant and enjoying you are chasing witches none existent. Please God will console you, please seek medical help with your next pregnancy not everything is prayer and pastor. Walahi i am vexed seriously! 1200 for thou shall not die abi what did i read.
ReplyDeleteCommon that's a big risk you took. You mean after scan confirmed that the first baby was dead in the womb, you still went to church to fast and pray? You don't love yourself or what? All the same,I thank God for seeing you through. Please be strong. And still trust in God, he is the author and Finisher of our faith. With God nothing is impossible Luke 1:37. Please make sures you visit a gynecologist.
ReplyDeleteThat's how a depressed man went to church and they kept praying and telling him to fast and do midnight prayers,as they prayed they gave him prophecies of how his wife wants to kill him and the man's condition worsened till he ran mad right in that church.....They chained him and kept praying till his family came for him and took him to yaba,he only spent 3weeks there and became very well again and is functioning well now....pls people go to hospital when you have any health issues,these pastors are thieves.....what if this poster died after she refused to evacuate the baby that died in her womb???they kept telling her to pray,pray for what exactly???religion is the problem we have in Nigeria
ReplyDeleteYou have a medical issue, your blood group and that of of husband does not match.u need to take 💉s as required before taking in again... Go see a good gynecologist.. May God help you.
ReplyDeleteSorry to say this but you are every doctors nightmare!
ReplyDeleteFasting, singing when you were almost dying from haemorrhage was not what saved you but for medical intervention.
The earlier you follow your doctors advice the better for you! You were told you had a dead baby- Hydrop fetalis isn’t water in the stomach of a child but death due to hemolysis. Basic information is available via google but heavens forbid you use modern technology to acquire knowledge.
I suspect you might have some antibodies which is causing your multiple abortions and I advice you to go and get proper investigations from a reputable hospital instead of running to pastors who cannot save you and you still end up in the hospital when all hope is lost.
Religious psychopathy should be dropped in 2019.
See a doctor please, faith without work is dead. Wise up
ReplyDeletePoster, sorry 4 your lost. May God comfort you. Ples give your body time to heal while you go 4 medical check up. Thank God you have a daughter before. What about those that don't have at all. You have to stay strong.
ReplyDeleteIn this case wisdom is needed. It is good to call all d pastors you know but then you have to go with the doctor's advice. The first pregnancy you lost should have given you sense to go 4 antenatal on time when you had the second one but you waited till d 6 months. You took a risk probably because of your faith in pastors. Prayer is good but then prayer without wisdom is foolishNess. Give yourself peace of mind. May God heal you.
Poster sorry but you are overstressing yourself?do you rest at all? Somethings require common sense,not everything is pastor,haha. Why would you be waking up to pray at night instead of resting with ur high bp? U can still lay on the bed while praying in your heart. Go for thorough medical check up while praying. You already have the mind that some people doesn't want you to birth. Nigerians and the way some of us hold onto religious fanatism.Better always listen to your doctors becos the bible says to obey is better than sacrifice. May you be blessed as your heart desires
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ReplyDeleteThis poster you are an educated illiterate! Sorry not!
Dead foetus and you still went around to pray? What is wrong with you?
And why are you broke and still trying to have a baby? Gosh!you people are pathetic!
Babies need quality care not anyhow care!
Please find a job first! That's more important oo
My people perish for lack of knowledge abi wisdom
ReplyDeletePastor has turned doctor
Personally I feel you should be charged to court for endangering the lives your babies,i know you have no regard for yourself
Continue going to daddy and mummy in the Lord...since there is no need going to school to study and aid human existence,gynaecologist are now for cosmetics purposes,afterall they are not created by God.
This rubbish freaks me out... God!!! It's nauseating!!!!
Ignorance is worst than poverty!!!
You lost me when you said you sow a seed of 1200 not to die, is that what you think the life God gave us is worth? I'm a born again Christain and I have a personal relationship with God. So you cannot talk to your father in Heaven by yourself? You don't believe you are worthy or he loves you and can make a way even when it's seem to be no way. Run from pillar to post compounding your issues, don't you know pastors are also humans with problems? And there are even a lot of fake pastors now, those one will add to ur sorrows. It beats me that you want to continue to have children without money, why so selfish? Children are a gift from God and you must be ready to take care of them. If this is not an attempt to beg, poster kindly go on your knees and beg for mercy. As God for break through finically and see you high bp go down when you can eat and afford things you like, then better belle go enter. Pls go to general hospital they are well equipped. You need to also take care of ur health so that womb will carry a child full term. It's well with you poster. I wish you the best in 2019.
ReplyDeleteYou no get money yet u wan bring more kids to suffer. Wicked woman
ReplyDeleteYour case really look like rhesus incompatibility. Go for proper check up.
ReplyDeleteMadam rest and stop complaining, what of people without children, what of people that have never miss their period? You should be greatful to God for having one child.
ReplyDeleteAllow your wound to heal, give yourself some time to rest before you try again.
Dear poster, no job no money for bussiness so with which money will you raise your babies? Please pray for financial liberation first before thinking of birthing children. Let your body rest in the interim and when u have money you can go to a good hospital that will treat you from start to finish. Its not rocket science that u have a medical condition and is not getting proper treatment
ReplyDeleteMadam,
ReplyDeleteU r a murderer!!! And bloods of dead children will upon head for eternity tormenting u.
Ur pastors praying for u when u clearly have urgent medical crisis r also accessory to murder!!!
Why r they not helping u to get medical care??? Why r they encouraging u to remain in a life threatening situation & be praying for what? Miracle for a baby inside ur womb that is in danger & needs immediate medical intervention?
U may even end up to have disabled child(ren) for ur foolishness & madness!
Stop getting pregnant since u don't have either the money or useful support around in ur life. Go & tie ur womb!!! Otherwisr dying in childbirth or giving birth to a disabled child may become ur portion.
Nigerians r mad & their pastors too r full of evil things.
Religion is making Africans mad now and they don't even know what they are doing again, looking for miracle, instead of seeking proper advice.
DeleteShe is not a murderer, calm down.
DeleteShe is just EXTREMELY DAFT.
As in the kind of daftness that should be studied at Institutes of Critical Thinking and Analysis.
I will concur with what Stella said about your body aborting the pregnancies and you seeking medical attention and giving your body rest. Please madam stop running to pastors and also please check your rhesus factor...are you sure you are not blood group negative and your husband positive. Maybe after you successfully had your first child which had your husband's blood group and in the process your child's blood mixed with yours during childbirth which reacted and became a threat to your body and subsequent "belle" them
ReplyDeleteOf she had gone to a hospital in the first place, she i they would’ve told her and given her an injection to forestall all these. She probably had the first child in a church or with her pastor’s wife nurse 🙄
DeletePoster, please, go for proper medical treatment. Your issue is not spiritual.
ReplyDeleteSorry for ur loss Poster!!! Tight warm hugs! Allow God's comfort...I have lost a child before....a day old baby so I can imagine all going through your mind! She was my second daughter after the docs had said 2ce that I wouldn't conceive naturally!!!! Last sat, hubby & I celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary with our 1st miracle daughtet(she's 8yrs) by the way.
ReplyDeleteI was so pained when we lost Tofunmi...but I knew God was too faithful to fail & if she died....then God be praised!!!! Allow God's healing....Delight urself in ur hubby & daughter!!!!
For many in God's waiting room, we become a shadow of ourselves in pursuit of our desires(a child,our whatever we so desire).
God is no magician or Babalawo...don't be tossed to & fro with every 'spiritual jargon. Pls pray for sound of mind & I pray the ball of Gilead will soothe every pain!
Don't pause ur joy, smile or chasing after dream job.....your life will not begin to be joyful when you give birth next.....your life is happening now!!!! Live joyfully....intentionally now!
I pray for God's joy richly for u ,& ur clan!
You and this church and my pastor mentality, that's what is killing you and making you to lose your baby, no enemy is behind it, you're so gullible you out your life in the hand of pastors instead of you to listen to medical experts.
ReplyDeleteImagine you were told that your baby was dead but you wouldn't listen, running from pastor to church, sowing fake seeds up and down.
It's so painful reading your ordeal but you have to wake up and ditch this your fake mentality and live a life filled with reality.
God will bless your womb again, just listen to the doctors and leave those bunch of pastors behind.
Please let's stop the bashing. She's going through enough pain already as it seems. Dear Poster,God will see you through. Be thankful you are still alive. Many did not survive what you went through. By God's grace,it will end in praise. May God keep you sound and in good health, and grant you your heart's desires.
ReplyDeleteignorance is what is doing you. You are suffering from rhesus factor, simple visit a gynecologist and plan before you conceive again. If you continue like this you will just die for nothing
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