TVC's daily guest co-presenter Tope Mark Odigie was on the ''My view' show on Friday November 30th and her contribution to the topic of insecurity in a relationship was epic......
She said ''Most times, we look at ourselves and see a bad image thinking that's how people see us, that may not be the case. When I first gave birth, I found out I had stretch marks and that made me insecure around my husband. But he didn't notice until I told him''
What is your contribution and what are your insecurities?
My only insecurity is my account balance at the moment lol,If not i gat none. I use to worry about having a webbed finger (like my middle finger and the one close to the pinky finger is webbed) i use to feel different and abnormal and worry about how i will wear my wedding ring and rings in general as i love to wear rings then boom knuckles rings came out and i rocked them without even remembering i have a webbed fingers. Funny thing is u wont even notice it if i dont tell u. Ryt not i have stop worry about petty things wallahi. I see life from a different new angle.
ReplyDeleteWebbed finger should not be an insecurity. It a day case surgery. See your doctor and put that insecurity behind you. Best wishes
DeleteI have fallen arch or flat feet but it didn't worry me cos shoes fit very well and my weakness is getting new shoes. A year ago I had my toenail taken off due to ingrown nail and now I have difficulty wearing open toes as the nail is not really growing. Though I'm planning to go for toe nail cosmetic reconstruction but it's not permanent.
DeleteDarling, if you still want to, you can see a doctor about the webbed ones. Not an issue at all.
DeleteI came late to this post, well my insecurity is I have no eyebrows, still haven't gotten how to draw them well. Each time I am asked why I shaved them, I explain I never had.
DeleteMy leave should start this tuesday, learning how to draw them is top on my list.
@anon and chiki. I will not ready for that yet. I am still waiting for that special ring that wil be worth the pain. I cant come and go tru another pain for any sorta ring. My threshhold for is very very low atm lol.
DeleteBee Hill, why don’t you try microblading? Looks natural
DeleteLet's talk about SECURITY first: LOVE is the seal for security. When you love someone genuinely, you do not look at their "deficiencies", you look for how to help them overcome those deficiencies or live above board even with it. What you see are their peculiarities instead of "deficiencies".
ReplyDeleteThen INSECURITY:
Arises when persin think say, you don give am the short end of the stick make im hold as una dey tug of war. Una begin dey drag everything. Bobo go dey drag phone sake of say, sisi dey press am all night dey search for wetin im sabi fit scatter im home. Sisi go dey drag bobo phone sake of say, bobo don password am. She don become dog wey dey snoop. But her own get padlock o. . . any day any of her trap for social media catch, she don finish marriage be dat o.
ogbeni you are talking off. What are your insecurities not all this explanation. We get dictionary to do research if we want to. Thanchu.
DeleteLMAO 😂😂 14.12 must be anonymous ANG
DeleteMy height and educational background
ReplyDeleteHeight you cant do anything about, so rock your height. Napoleon that conquered half the world was only 5 foot nothing. Education however, you can do something about. I have met people with several degrees who are educated illiterates and I have met people with none who have more wisdom in their little finger than a whole lot of people put together.
DeleteI agree with her, sometimes your partner could give you reasons to be insecure.
ReplyDeleteI'm a very pretty girl, if you see me you will think I'm from a wealthy home, tho my people re comfortable but far from rich. I carry myself well, wear averagely good clothes, but still people see me as one Aje they over pampered. Well my insecurities. I'm in my late twenties, not well travelled, never being to an airport before, never flown on an airplane. No one will believe me if I tell them that. I always feel embarrassed talking about travels around people. I need to make plenty money so I can atleast spoil myself.
ReplyDeleteDon't sorry...my first time on a plan was for an international flight and now we live in another country and I have been to about 7countries and counting. You will too. You will
Delete@15:11
Delete"Don't sorry [sic.] . . . first time on a plan [sic.]?"
I WORRY say you fit don enter PLANE after a successful hunt come dey
get disciples for sdk blog by fire by fire?
Hahahaha....anon sic...
DeleteBut pls how do uvreally know u are dat pretty...u might just be an average chick..
I can sooo relate. People generally think I have more money than I do. But i tell you not to argue with them, you hear? God gave you that aura for a purpose and you may not understand it now but you will soon. Things may not add up right now but when they do you will have the last laugh. Dont you dare wish it away. Carry yourself like the queen you are.
DeleteDont you see some very wealthy people who look local and scruffy? I am sure you must have!! They will wear designers e go disappear for their body. They come out of expensive cars and look like the driver. Lol. Trust me, it is a gift to have this aura that you have.
Anon corrector please dont go there...you got the message right?? Move over
DeleteChikito you just used the exact words my friend Rasheed spoke to me with when I was desperately looking for a job and no one took me seriously because of how I look(ed) only he spoke to me in Hausa. The first time I went job hunting when I finished service, FCDA to be precise, the guys there burst out laughing like ‘you are looking for a job?’ That was the first and last time I went job hunting. I really don’t bother explaining the exact situation of things anymore and I am grateful to God for that gift.
Delete@1415, you know you can just go do sightseeing at any Airport? Take time off to go visit an Airport. Just hang out and watch Planes land and take off.
DeleteI dey wait for una comments. I just return from shursh.
ReplyDeleteIf u marry a good man trust me u would never feel insecure everyday u feel good blessed n happy but if u marry one chance like me my dear everything would just be insecuring u up and down becos he has made u feel that way. Abeg story long let me just be securing people comment
ReplyDeleteEya pele
DeleteExactly. I know I have kurukere all over my body but I don't even see it and so does my boo. My level of confidence is hyperactive.
DeleteInsecurity cause some babes to change everything about them:
ReplyDeleteHair: them no get again o, na Brazil, Indian, Peruvian . . . wey them don sacrifice to those foreign gods. Sometimes them go carry green paint pour am.
Eyes: fake lens wey look like pussycat own. Them come scrap brows come paint express. come carry feather do lashes.
Skin: Them bleach am sote, e dey like snow wey them pour coal tar on top.
Nails: fakes wey resemble vulture own.
Nyansh: Perisn go dey move forward, nyansh go dey move west and east at the same time.
Waist: Them carry those belt wey dey like wetin nepa dey use climb pole hol am. Yes o. Them go hol am because, if them remove am, the thing fit escape.
Boobs: how I come remember this one last eh. Booby go dey like over inflated balloon. Like say forkunizer dey look am in wonder as im dey pump am come forget gauge am.
So they are using Nepa pole waist climber LMAO 😂😂😂
DeleteHahahahah...na u know dat one...brazillian hair n nails ain't going no where
DeleteInsecurity is a thing that needs to be dealt with by the person experiencing it. It should be a conscious effort to get out of it.
ReplyDeleteInsecurities nahhhh, I used to, not anymore , my self esteem is top notch now, maybe money in the bank is the only insecurity for now kikiki!
ReplyDeleteGrowing up I was that kinda girl that had lil or nothing, I became use to it that learnt to live with it.
ReplyDeleteThen I entered sec school,Ah swear rich kids made me insecure,visiting days was another story.
Same with Uni but now i'm breaking free gradually.
Make I leave that "lil" there carry [sic.] spanner work ya yarns.
DeleteYesterday, all of una dey score A1 for English eh:
I became USED to it that I learnt to live
I swear . . . you don't need any swearing inugo?
Na u be dat for ur dp
Deletemy own insecurity is that I sweat alot down there(private part and anus)... but hardly sweat that much up(armpit and neck etc) don't know why and what to do. it makes my anus smell after a while even after a thorough bath. and my private part gets my pant soaked with sweat especially when I wear jean or tight in skirts.
ReplyDeletedon't know what else to do.
weight?
DeleteDarling hw often do you shave. Try and shave ur down below. Excercise more and eat more of vegetables
DeleteTry this any thank me later. The same deodorant you use in your armpit, use down there at the back and remain fresh all day. Don’t spray directly into it o, just along it like and around it you would do in your armpit.
DeleteJesus christ...deodorant for nash...guy ur kpekus go grab infection die
DeleteAnon, always wash with lime or lemon. You can talk to your doctor too. They give some kind of BOTOX treatment for such but I don't know about naija system.
Deletethank you all.
DeletePlease, use lemon scrub for both!!!! It works, trust me.
Deletehmmm. My insecurity is that I totally feel I'm not good looking. People comment that I'm intelligent, well read and kind but still everyone wants a beautiful person. I try my best to look good and I speak well. I can seat in a room with Obama and have a conversation with him. I'm a work in progress! I haven't been on a plane and travelled abroad but I can say one or two things about every country in the world. I hope to travel on a plane someday.
ReplyDeleteYou will and it will be an international flight
DeleteMadam international we don hear oh...
DeleteAunty anon...if u are dis enlightened trust me u are very beautiful
Anon, nobody is ugly, it's how you present yourself. There is someone out there who will see you as the most beautiful and that's how you need to see yourself too. You also sound like an intelligent young lady, use that to your advantage. And always remind yourself that you are a beautiful young lady with prospect. Don't let any stupid mess up your mind.
DeleteFocus on your intelligence, my dear. Thats your gift
Delete@ fuck you...fuck you. What a silly human you are...
DeleteI just touched 2 pimples in my bumbum this after.
ReplyDeleteThat right now is my insecurity. Please how do I get it off with no blackhead before Bae sees it.
I need help!!!!
Is Bae husband, if not why should he see it?
DeleteStory story.....story...
DeleteAnon leave her na norma fabu
Hope ur panties are always clean to wear? Make use of cotton pants so that air passage to that region can flow. Also avoid wearing over tight undies. Sorry
Delete😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
DeletePlease stop wearing panties, your private part needs air, wear skirts and gowns instead of Jeans and trousers.
DeleteLolo Ideato, are you sure it’s pimples??
DeleteMake e nor be say na craw craw oo!!
You beygo see your Doctor before Bae sees it as him nor get pimple.
My only insecurity is my small boobs. I wish I never wore bra early and maybe it might grown bigger. I have got a badass hip and bum that make heads turn plus hubby ain't complaining either. But as a lady I still scope women with bigger boobs like mercy Johnson
ReplyDeleteSis forget small boobs o i was A cup but package am well. I now have a 4 year old and omo i yam a c-D cup. Forget it once you born boobs will rush you. If you see my boobs you wont believe i breast fed for 9 months. So keep calm sis breast is coming hehe
DeleteSo hubby is not complaining, why are you working up yourself for big boobs?
DeleteWho are you getting big boobs for?
You too dey hunt?
Na wah oo.. Nne do you know how many comfortable clothes you can wear with small boobs. you don't need bra mehn that's only if the boobs is as small as the one my roomie that year has.
DeleteYou be married hunter?
DeleteBoobs will grow when they want to. I was flat chested as in flat but today I'm a dd and still perky. I don't know what happened but it just started coming out. Maybe na press press😉 cos Oga can suck more than baby.
DeleteHmmmmm....insecurity
ReplyDeleteCurrently in an abusive relationship
Think about running in front of a moving car every now and then
Laugh for one day and fight for 6days
Can’t leave cos he has seized my passport
Broken head, broken nose,broken lips
Striped naked outside
Almost poured acid on me
No one to talk to cos he blocked me from having any friends
Stopped me from talking to my family
Insults my parents
Doesn’t allow me eat cos u have to loose weight which I have but it’s never enough for him
I wish I could kill him
I just want to die so I can have peace
All because he paid my school fees
He has taken away my freedom, independence
Can’t make a decision for myself at 28
He has total control of my life
My heart is heavy
My tears brings him joy
How am I supposed to escape this?
Hmmmmmm
Thanks
Is either u or him baby...vhose one...if u die he will get another babe sharp sharp
DeleteIts
DeletePolice nko? Which country are you in? Call the popo and women’s shelter at once...tell the police he has your passport and get it before you follow them to the station.
DeleteYou’re not that helpless, you are just using these excuses to stay...leave the passport and go if you can’t call the police
You see wetin ABROAD by fire dey cause?
DeleteHe seized your passport, which country can't you call for help?
It must be one of these African countries with human right records worse than Nigeria?
Why not tell us you detest coming back to Nigeria.
Don't kill yourself for that bastard dear.
DeletePut something in his food or drink that would paralyze him since he won't let you go claiming ownership of you.
Some people don't deserve to live.
Babe, if you can comment here then you can call for help. Why would you want to kill yourself over a man mistreating you? You should be stronger for yourself.
DeleteThis one no be insecurity o. You're dealing with a psychopath and you need to get out of that relationship before they get your dead body out. It's all in your hands!
Delete@Fuck you
DeleteYou come back come fail am again?
IT'S or IT IS
CHOOSE one: Na wetin you wan write be dat?
E bi like say fork don scatter ya head this evening eh?
@1511, Please don’t ever do anything stupid like you described. You need to be strong for yourself. When he hits you again and the evidence is fresh, tahr pictures quickly, lock yourself in the bathroom and call the emergency helpline quickly. If, you are here in the US, call 911. You don’t have to say much and they will send the Cops out to you.
DeleteI wish you good luck.
My own is i have a big head,and a pimple full face...
ReplyDeletestop using chemicals on your face. Use baby creams. Most times all these apply apply na im they give pimples.
DeleteNdo
DeleteGet spa salt and use on your face, then apply olive oil afterwards! You can thank me in two weeks time.
DeleteUse rose water and glycerin. You can the Eden's product or Neutrogena
DeleteGrowing up, I was thin like a chewing stick! Everybody called me lépa but my dad, may God continue to rest his peaceful soul, told me never to listen to people calling me all sorts of names like, sicker, etc.. He told me I am the most beautiful girl in the world. He said my daughter, you are very smart and intelligent, don't listen to people saying otherwise, they are fighting their insecurities.
ReplyDeleteI have a lot of reasons, when I say nobody helped me to get or know my rights. My father did, so I will always Thank him for that.
I was very confident in myself and still am.
I am a late bummer but, that didn't still took away my self love, contentment, confident and pride.
Love yourself woman...
Love yourself man...
When you love yourself, you will have to share with others and also see beyond their insecurities. You will rather be a help in building back and restoring their security.
For me, the name calling was so bad dt I hated my slim self. Today I'm average but I honestly don't know where insecurity went cos nothing dampens me and I can fight for myself eh.
DeleteAnon sic, u never reach here?
Delete@Ms A you mean late bloomer? Late bloomers always come out *peng* 😉
DeleteYes Chikito, late bloomer.... Thank you
DeleteWe were in the same boat. My Paternal grandma passed on that gene to many of her kids and grandkids which I was in the list.
DeleteLong neck, long lepa body and stony perky breasts. She's a tamtam except for few missing teeth, very much around in her late 90s. Dad same same. I was a late bloomer but was grateful for the skin anyway.
With child birthing everything rounded up but my in-laws still call me "tunkeneke"(The lean coloured bird). I've never been in a gym before coupled with the heart part. Duuuhhhh!
Hahahahaha.
I have plenty insecurities
ReplyDeleteJust noticed abscesses on my knees.
Smelly vahjayjay despite taking antibiotics(off to the hospital tomorrow).
Patches around my groin area from skin lightening.
This ya vahjayjay don work so hard like Vanisteroy/jayjay on the pitch combined.
DeleteNa servicing time na?
Carry am go mechanic.
Im go pour engine oil,
carry bucket of lavender fill am
come use concrete seal am make im rest small.
Foolish anonymous 16:02 😂
Delete@1521, why were you bleaching your groin area??
DeleteNa semen de darken am oo!!
When it's time for real life talk you will see plenty Annonymous comments. All this people with known Id will be hiding and commenting. Ona doh o.
ReplyDeleteU sef doh
Delete[sic.] spanner:
DeleteAll THESE people
Anonymous sic don't I just luv you. Pls continue correcting our Englishes
DeleteAnon 15:11,can't you go back to your family?
ReplyDeleteSo what if he paid your school fees?
My insecurity is small bumbum and no hips. The stress of fake padded bum hmm. Wished I had OK hips to fit clothes. Pls don't judge toke ooo. U won't know the joy of just putting on a pair of jean or clothes without worrying about if ur pad is in the right direction. And ohhh the discomfort it brings and instead of being happy when a man stares at ur behind, u will be worrying if the pad had shifted. If I have money today tomorrow, I would do ass surgery. Not doing it for a man but for myself.
ReplyDeleteStop wearing tight jeans, wear stretchy pants,gowns and skirts, it flatters the body, people should learn how to wear clothes that brings out their curves, even if it is little. Honey throw that bondage away and have a breath of fresh air. Duuuhh who will love you, will love you.
DeleteCome n take part of my hips abeg
DeleteWe all have insecurities...and its meant to be a secret...if I tell u mine its no longer a secret
ReplyDeleteSmall Boob, no hips, no ass...built like a boy and I’m a grown woman. I get introduced to guys and we talk and they like me but when once they see me they stop calling...that’s my insecurity
ReplyDelete@ Anon 16:08, there's a man out there for you. At the right and appointed time, he will find you. You have small boobs and ass, so what? A man who truly love you will not be concerned about any of that. If you think i'm lying, take a good look at Meghan Markle. She doesn't have a stunning body or shape but guess what, she's married to a man who adores her....a prince. So don't be too hard on yourself. When the right man for you shows up, your boobs and ass will not be an issue.
Deletemy dear my own is my body build.I have very broad shoulders and a body build like serena.Is even worse if I gain weight.I feel I dont look feminine at all most times people abuse me that I look like a boxer.I have to stay on a lean diet I easily get bulky.Apart from that I think I am fine
ReplyDeleteSerena looks perfect to me so I know you also look perfect to someone too.
DeleteBroad shoulder gang...hi 5 baby
DeleteI have a big nose like Mercy johnson
ReplyDeleteThat is not an issue nah, you can use makeup to cover it
DeleteMy hand is my greatest insecurity, it makes me feel bad and sometimes slow me down, it is worse when someone try to assist me because they think I can not do certain things, I just cry in my heart, a nurse caused this, I was not properly handled during birth so something happened to my shoulder, thank God for my mum who took me places otherwise the hand would have been completely paralyzed, praying to God to bless me so I can seek medical help for it to be corrected. God please pick my call soon
ReplyDeleteWhat you had at birth was shoulder dystocia, it had nothing to do with the nurse. I'm guessing you were a big baby. What you need is physio therapy, you should have been doing it from birth when it happened. It may still be corrected, I don't know. Good luck! Don't allow it make you feel some type of way.
DeleteI went for physiotherapy and that is why the hand came back to life, according to my mum the hand was lifeless until I started going for physio, please do you know anyone that was able to correct theirs through surgery?
DeleteInsecure people in general, are the ones to suffer insecurity in a relationship. If you are self confident, no amount of challenge in a relationship will make you lose that.
ReplyDeleteI have nothing to be insecured about. You don't like me? How is that my problem? I have more important things to worry about.
ReplyDelete*LONG READ*😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋
ReplyDeleteWhen my younger sister and younger cousins grew taller than me, my height became my insecurity. But i have been able to maintain 'big sister' status over time and learnt that it really doesnt matter. People respect me for what I do and who I am; not how tall I am. (5:4"+)
My waistline too was one. My shape is very okay but i used to admire synched waist with big hips. Now my tummy is flat - diet, habits and excercise. I have accepted that I am a generally slim chic. Working out also helped me appreciate my body build too. When I see some people in work out clothes eyeing me as if I am here to mock them, I thank God 🤣🤣 and gym instructors are always in a hurry to train me. they say I have the type of body make very little effort worth a whole lot more. So no need to worry about that, either.
Last was my teeth. I had great teeth but there was an overjet. Most people couldnt see it, but I was always looking in the mirror. Now my braces are sorting that out. Done in a few months. And all the people who said I was just trying to waste my money are now the same people saying "Heey... I see what you were saying now oh" #worldpipu 🙄
I still have very dry palms though. I have normal-dry skin and people always admire my pimpleless spotless face
Lol. What they dont know is that I binge on moisturisers. Im always looking for a better one than the last and my hands and feet are drier than the rest of my body. I usu. refrain from shaking people and it is often seen as me being a snob. After consistently using shea butter on my feet for 3 years, they are very soft now. But my palms arent giving up that easy. Lol.
P.S. if there is anything you can do to minimize your insecurity or erase it completely, just do it.
Word!! And I get mad when people blame Toke for working on her insecurities, like 🙄let people live.
Deletehoney i wore high heels to the point i went to bed with them. My mom will always call me shorty. Chai that woman has natural bad mouth, she says it in a very funny way that you cant even get angry. But deep down i felt like i needed to get taller just a few inch more and that was how my craze for high heels started.thank Gld i have been delivered,now i wear flats or slippers even to church without giving a rat ass. Last last all this shit doesnt guarantee happiness, well atleast not for me.
DeleteMy palms are very dry and hard, some say its genetic. I inherited it from my dad. I used to refrain from shaking, but I started applying hand cream and moisturizers which soothes it a bit. Now ain't bothered about handshakes if you want oneI'll gladly extend with no hassles.
ReplyDeleteWhat I'm currently concerned about is my weight. From a size 10 to a size 14. Currently on keto hoping, I can at least drop to a size 12
I used to feel bad about my thick lips while growing up(was nicknamed kpomo lips😢😢😢) until I heard about lip fillers and how Kim Kardarshian was injecting her lips to make them fuller and thicker. ..
ReplyDeleteThat was when I started flaunting my God given thick and sexy lips o, if you are not careful as a guy,you might want to kiss me while I'm talking to you. .. it was this same lips that attracted my baby to me(I know you are going to see this😉😉😉)
Y'all need to see me and my natural pout😗😗😗😗 so sexy, hehehehehe😅😅😅😅😅
Its kylie not kim....miss full lips
DeleteMadame anon 20:50
DeleteKim uses lip filler as well, but it was only Kylie Jenner that admitted to using it. ..."miss full lips"(I take this as a compliment)
Kim uses lip fillers....what...i didn't know that...i think khloe does too...i used to be insecure about my lips too...
DeleteNo need to be insecure anymore o@Fuck You, people are paying heavily and using chemicals to make theirs bigger but you got em free. .just know the shade of lippy that fits,that's all...Might send pic of my face as FOIHN so you can see how thick mine is☺☺☺
DeleteMy main insecurity is acne. Hmmmm. I have done all o, consultant dermatologist, natural products .... So many. Yet no change. Just recently discovered its hormonal, doctor is now dragging to treat. Its not easy o,stepping into a place and I'm the only person with a rough face.
ReplyDeletePlease who knows of a good face moisturizer and sunscreen I can use?
Go to bismid center in surulere. They will help.
DeleteMy major insecurity right now is my weight. I add weight fast. To make matters worse I am just 5ft tall. I never bother about my height though because without weight gain I'm generally beautiful. Exercise and dieting doesn't work for me or at least I've not found one that does atm. I only lose weight when I'm suffering. I eat healthy by not eating processed foods as much as possible. I skip 1000 times every morning before I go to work and I eat food the quantity of my fist yet my weight is still at a point. Although my efforts help me to maintain it and prevent it from blowing out of proportion but I really wish it can come down. I currently weigh 69kg.
ReplyDeleted fact that I am busty and short come carry toothpick legs join.naa d legs dey pain me pass
ReplyDeleteMy only insecurity is my fallen boobs. Hmm serious issue o
ReplyDelete