Mama Tee Series -Men And House Chores

Who made the rule that house chores are for women alone?

A friend once asked if it is an insult to tell a man(her husband) to try and do the bed whenever he wakes up.

Now the woman works far from home, leaves home as early 6:am. They don't have kids yet. She said her husband leaves home around 8:am so he would still be sleeping when she leaves for work.

His own is to wake up and leave the bed and the entire bedroom messy (he would litter his dirty boxers, shirts and singlets on the bedroom floor and mess up their bathroom too), go to the kitchen, open the fridge, warm his breakfast, eat and leave the dirty plates on the table, go to work, close by 5pm but enter the house by 11 or 12 midnight.

The woman will come back around 9pm and arrange the entire bedroom, do the dishes, arrange dinner for hubby and also see to it that breakfast for the following day is set, etc. A cleaner comes to the house twice a week to clean the compound and they also have a washing machine. She said she told hubby to try and do the bed whenever he wakes up and he let all hell loose. He called her rude, lazy and all sorts.


Her mum advised her to keep doing the bed. She should bear the stress for peace sake as all those house chores are the woman's job.
I was angry. Ordinary bedsheet he cannot spread on the bed? Is the woman not working too? the house keeper should be given their bedroom keys to have free access to it while they are both at work? Hian!

Why does the woman have to carry so much burden?

When kids start coming now, her job in that house will tripple. Poor woman!

That was how my younger brother visited and he would eat and go drop his plates for me in the kitchen sink, I told him 'woohaa' to be washing his plates. Haba! Kilode?
I will sweat all alone in the kitchen to cook food, serve you, only for you to balance, eat and drop the plates for me to wash, impossible.

In some homes where the husband helps out with chores, you will hear people especially husband's relatives whispering that his wife had used jazz on him and now controlling him. In fact, they will say she has turned him into a house boy... oh dear!

God is our muscle..

Mama Tee.

 Hmmmmmmm....This feels like reading something written in the year 1830....These days men help out at home,maybe not all Nigerian men but some do..........These days we have dish washers and washing machines helping out...you can get someone to iron out the clothes as well and get someone to clean out the house and make the beds.................its easy and should not even be a topic for argument.....haba!!

If you married a man that does not like helping with house chores,dont force him,let him grow into doing it or you just let the 'dog sleep' and look for ways to make it easy.