STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
HUNGER FOR INTER RACIAL MARRIAGE
Dear Stella
It happened again. This is the third and honestly, i am confused. people call me abnormal..... some say i cant find such here. maybe am searching for it wrongly, maybe i aint mingling right.
Last night i rejected an engagement ring from my supposed boo. we have only known each other for six months. He is a gentle man to the core. So intelligent, romantic, sensitive, gentle and "OK' but i couldn't take the ring... thats not what my heart wants!
Of course i want to fall in love, get married, birth as many children as possible... lol but i want to do it with someone whose skin color is totally different from mine. Trust me, i have searched, registered and can even reel out the names of interracial dating sites but 'the liver' to actually initiate a conversation is what i dont have.
My friends go on about me meeting drug addicts, scammers, rapist, serial killers on these sites. if only they know that i am yet to chat up any.
i can't be the only one feeling this way.... please dear black sisters married to white men, HOW DID YOU DO IT? WHAT IS IT LIKE?. i go on social media and see beautiful pictures of interracial couples... IS IT ALWAYS ROSY (Of course i know no relationship is perfect but at least you get what i mean).
i dont know how to type much and i know this chronicle is not that detailed but please i need honest answers.
Thanks for posting mama boys. You are doing an amazing job...#kisses😘😘😘😘
Dear Stella
It happened again. This is the third and honestly, i am confused. people call me abnormal..... some say i cant find such here. maybe am searching for it wrongly, maybe i aint mingling right.
Last night i rejected an engagement ring from my supposed boo. we have only known each other for six months. He is a gentle man to the core. So intelligent, romantic, sensitive, gentle and "OK' but i couldn't take the ring... thats not what my heart wants!
Of course i want to fall in love, get married, birth as many children as possible... lol but i want to do it with someone whose skin color is totally different from mine. Trust me, i have searched, registered and can even reel out the names of interracial dating sites but 'the liver' to actually initiate a conversation is what i dont have.
My friends go on about me meeting drug addicts, scammers, rapist, serial killers on these sites. if only they know that i am yet to chat up any.
i can't be the only one feeling this way.... please dear black sisters married to white men, HOW DID YOU DO IT? WHAT IS IT LIKE?. i go on social media and see beautiful pictures of interracial couples... IS IT ALWAYS ROSY (Of course i know no relationship is perfect but at least you get what i mean).
i dont know how to type much and i know this chronicle is not that detailed but please i need honest answers.
Thanks for posting mama boys. You are doing an amazing job...#kisses😘😘😘😘
*Every Marriage is different....It doesnt matter the skin colour my dear.Marriage is a lot of work and skin color is not what saves it.You marry the person and not the skin color......
You have rejected three Marriage proposals because the man are not white skinned?wow!
What if you have missed your husband?
Lastly being Married to a white man with the right mentality and the right attitude is awesome IF YOU MEET the one whose mentality and lifestyle matches what you dream of or look forward to..........
Okay.
ReplyDeleteAge is just a number. Skin is just a colour. Poster you are just creating problems for yourself. Did anybody tell you that if you marry a white man you'll go the heaven? So if u don't see one oyibo man now you'll keep searching and turning down other men's proposal? May God have mercy on you and give u what you actually want
DeletePoster, the most important thing is for you to deal with the root cause of your self-hate. Take care of that then consider dating. As it is, you need help; this is beyond low self-esteem...
DeleteYou can find one oploplo na...
ReplyDeleteYou are not yet in love because when you do, you won't even notice the skin colour.
ReplyDeleteSo true
DeletePoster,
DeleteThere is nothing wrong with wanting a man with a different skin colour if that’s what you really want.
However, you need to get the liver and make the move. Skin colour is not the issue but the compatibility and understanding between you both.
So you can definitely find a man with a different skin colour, but don’t rush into anything / decision because they are of a different skin colour. Make sure that you guys get along and understand each other.
Good luck,
Ahaaaaa! Naija girls don dey commot from closet ooo. This one don dey set traps for inside bush ooo.
ReplyDeleteClock dey tick; tick tok says the clock . .
Hope say I yarn that nursery rhyme well?
You no tell us ya age, but as clock don dey set reach late thirties and forties, you go soon wake up come carry one of your Naija ATM/fork supplier wey fit be cobra, carry am go villa, go altar. Ehee, that time, you go begin chant "beast, domestic violence, feminist, Stella that beast dealt with me . .." come begin dey write plenti chronicles.
Make you dey reject rings but collect plenty money and gift inugo.
Being married to any man with the right mentality and the right attitude is awesome. Stella, change your last statement,cos you don't know every white man. This poster is a bush and village woman though.
ReplyDeleteLol poor black men, you want something but keep stringing innocent men opposite of what you want along. Darling, take the plunge and find these white men - if you don’t date one to start with you wouldn’t be able to gauge their mannerisms. Also, some white men like really dark skinned women. They feel just the same way you do and get a high from dating or marrying a dark skinned/black woman. There’s a word for it but I can’t rememebr it right now.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, you have to be sure the reason why you want this. Is it because you feel a white man is superior to a black man or you just like the pictures of interracial babies (yeah awon ti Patricia Bright and co) or you see it as a way to get out of the country but date one first and you’d may find out they are not they different from these men you’ve let some.
This is the shallowest post I've read in a long while. Poster you need help from the slave mentality and self hate that has consumed you. Goodluck finding help.
ReplyDeleteLWKMD
ReplyDeleteAll this qualities you listed above ,why did you date him in the first place without considering his complexion? My sister you might be destined to get married to black. Have a re-think about what you have done?
DeleteOpen up your heart to love and forget about the skin color.
97% of what you see on social media are all fake.
I see a young woman throwing away diamonds in search of stones..
ReplyDelete👍👍👍
DeleteWhen I talk say Naija girls na only phones them dey press for nights, them go curse all my generations unborn and begin send thunder enter my smooth nyansh eh?
ReplyDelete"He is a gentle man to the core. So intelligent, romantic, sensitive, gentle and "OK' but i couldn't take the ring..."
Una hear that kin yarn?
Wey G n M, one of ya disciples don reject her ATM o.
Bia no dey call my name for chronicles. I hardly comment here. Mind ur business abeg
DeleteG n M na persin name?
DeleteNa that name them give you for birth?
My goodness, get out of here now?
DeleteDear poster, your village people are dancing agbadza on you head.
ReplyDelete@anon 15:12,try and be educated, nothing like village people..It is called preference...
DeleteJust like some people will tell u they can't marry a short person, particular tribe, illiterate, particular profession and it religion...Even Bible says,asked and shall be given unto you...our preference are as a result of who we are and our background.No point abusing her...
Though our preference might not actually be d best but it is better such person learn by experience...my sister's friend did biochemistry,went back to d University to study medicine.... we all know wat makes us happy.
@15:43 a.k.a Poster:
DeleteBible?
Did the bible tell you to deceive a man who you know you won't marry for months, years only to dump him?
Please keep the bible out of this okay?
It is a shame that when you do something wrong, instead of feeling sorry and learning from it, you go under the
bible to hide and keep repeating what you won't want another person to do to you.
15:55..try not to be emotional...d Bible verse is a prayer point,which means, whatever u desire,ask and shall be given to you..stop giving ur meaningless meaning to d post,read it d way it is...where did d poster deceive anyone,so,to u ,all proposal must be accepted.u need to grow up.
DeleteJust like she is craving for white skin,I know of people dt will rather not be married if white people were d last people on d earth....it is called preference and their is no where in d Constitution that "thou shall not marry white man.,let us leave it at that...Stella has given her d best advice...@15:55.Try and be educated and have open mind
Anon 15:43. Did you say I should try and be educated? Lol dear you are a whole bag of apology. YOU are a real excuse of whatever it is you are trying to portray. If the poster has preference like you are saying, why didn't she wait till she meets a Whiteman before going into a relationship? Why play with others feelings knowing fully well she doesn't want them. Your type is what is wrong with society.
DeleteStella please post.
U sound myopic and d way u continue to argue blindly show ur level of reasoning. U sound uneducated.stop giving ur meaning to d story.She must have informed d guy and they still continue to pester her.Their is nothing wrong in having a choice or preference,please,try and grow up. Read within d context,which is having d desire to marry a man..she didn't gv u reason of what happened to others. Stop assuming what is not.
DeleteAnon 15:43 a.k.a poster, a.k.a anon 16:12. I hope when you finally find a White man and he dumps you like you did those men,with the excuse that not all relationships must end in marriage at a point you have invested so much emotions and all, it won't bother you.
DeleteAnon15:43,I believe you are same as anon16:12& 17:16. Just stop with the unnecessary argument cos of a truth......you'r not making sense.
DeleteI am 15:43 and 16:12...and I am a guy...I hate it when we don't respect each other choices.The poster has made her choice,d best we can do is to wish her good luck...I know of people dt rejected white men and I know some that are praying for,not that getting married to one will take u to heaven but that is their choice...my mum calls them 'dirty',my neighbor can go for days without bathing, I personally detest their smoking habits..can't stand group of people dt somke 3-4 packets of cigarettes a day. People around d poster are already aware of her fantasy and their is no way,a guy getting involved wt her will not know her preference.....let us please respect people d way dey are.
DeleteNne continue.. A time will come you won't see even the one that is red in color to marry. Keep rejecting you hear. Well done.
ReplyDeleteOmg....hahahahaha!
DeleteEayaaa: God will grant your wish,People have diff fantasy, that is yours.I pray it comes as you desire.
ReplyDeleteWhen I been write for yesterday BEP about the girl wey dey do "Ofuuuuuuuu, aghhuuuuuuuuuuu . .." for inside her room for ime nderi with a white man rod inside her phone on the other end, una curse me taya; idiot, ode (wetin that one mean sef?). If no be say her papa seize her phone come ground am, I for don dey think say na she send this one. The girl don miss exams, reject suitors sake of say she dey hunt for abroad husbands . . .
ReplyDeleteChai, Baba God, wetin come curse my Naija girls like this eh? Make you just mee ebele come save ya pikins them.
Interracial marriages has its perks, asides mental emancipation, way of reasoning and IQ, man na man anywhere.
ReplyDeleteRejected three proposals because they are not white? I hope u remember age is not on your side.
ReplyDeleteWhile u keep rejecting suitors, have u at least prayed nd understand the mind of God concerning this?
Not all the Ones That got married to white enjoyed it. I hope u don't regret this later. What exactly is your motive behind marrying white?
I hope u have a rethink nd retrace your steps before its too late.. Rejecting 3proposals because they are not white na wah.
"mind of God?"
DeleteNaija girls dey mind God when them dey hunt?
If "god" come tanda between them and "abroad" husband, them fit shoot o.
See, una know wetin this KIN girl FIT do finally? Mote I said, THIS KIN GIRL?
Okay as persin wey sabi wetin dey, make I yarn una:
She go catch, trap, nab, seduce, reduce, fork etc. any Naija man wey dey "abroad" where
Oyinbo people live, marry am. She go get there come bear false witness against an innocent man call
cops for DV, them go chase hardworking, innocent man commot. Aha, she go now come open legs like traffic
gate come collect one big white rod and belle come show, DNA go prove am. Na then she go propose to
white man O. She come see richer one, she go change. Na so serial baby mama she fit be o.
Una never see anything o.
All I want is his contact. A good black man is enough for me. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteP.S: You never ready.
Poster keep searching because that is what your heart wants.
ReplyDeleteGood luck
Aha
DeleteHunter don dey encourage hunter.
You go marry am when her blood tap don dry?
I am here to read comments ooo.Stella and all others married to white men,please come and teach us.I want to marry a white man too.Please teach us how to go about it;I want to have those beautiful biracial babies we see on fb.Simplicity,what do you mean by age not being on her side;you think everyone is an old hag like you,this is how you all go about pressurizing people into a love less marriage just to answer married women.
ReplyDeleteI dont even get! Didnt you see that they weren't white guys when you chose to date them even to the point of being proposed to? Ogbeni,please stop wasting innocent young men's time. You know what you want. Stop smelling what you know you dont want to eat.
ReplyDeleteI can swear I wrote this😱 poster is my twin. I like men, I no go lie. Met one here in Lagos but he's married. I don't want to ruin another woman's home. Poster, I think if you want to meet white men the island is your sure bet but the competition there no be here o. Go on Facebook too. Mehn...I'm searching too o. I am presently chatting with a genuine Canadian. We video call and he is real but I don't know where this will lead I can only pray
ReplyDeleteAhaaa
DeleteThem don dey wear masks surface ooo.
I talk am, abi I no talk am.
The rot been dey plenti pass this.
Pressing phones for night and hunting on the island. . .
game on
Plenti girls go dey shelf tay tay.
I pray he is genuine anon.
DeleteYou cannot compare those guys to the things we have in Nigeria masquerading as men.
I am presently married to one and my everyday is like one big romantic telenovela series.
High IQ.
No I am the head or tail nonsense.
Treats me as a queen.
No sufferhead love
Whew!
* opens google map*
DeleteAnon 15:35, mbok, where on the island can one meet them?
I like oyibo no be small.
In fact, I know I am destined to be with an Oyibo
Yes oh. No suffer head love indeed! With a white man, u don't have in laws to fear or worries like that usually. And oyibo get cognitive intellect which is severely lacking in black man!!! That's why black/ naija marriage is treacherous, and u r expected to be praying hard daily, even for simple & minor common sense things.
DeleteWho is married white that prays like a maniac like that ???
With the white people, what u see is what u get!!! No hanky panky & monkey tricks.
U only have to pray that u two understands each other & be of sincere, affectionate & dependable presence in ur lives together. That's all! Even children doesn't come at all between u & a white person. Sometimes they most care for & worry about their dogs, cats than fellow human beings. So a white man doesn't judge u the way a typical naija or black will do.
Huh?? Competition for white men? What won't I hear, kwakwakwakwa. The hussle for white men is real in that your Lagos oo, chaiiiii😆😆😆🙄🙄🙆♀️🙆♀️🙆♀️
Delete'The things we have in Nigeria masquerading as men' LMAOOOOO.
DeleteSufferhead love.
Ghana blood de her body
ReplyDeleteTrust me, this is a niaja thing. Nigerians in Europe can even sleep with homeless white men.
DeleteLMAO
DeleteWhich naija in Europe. Don't say what you don't know. Everybody has preferences man. I have lived in Europe like forever, I've never dated a white man, not that they don't come for me. My preference has ever been chocolate skinned man, African or not, you got to be chocolate for me to look at you twice.
DeleteHmmm....not easy babe.try going to clubs on the island. I wish we can be friends so we can search together. I stay in Lagos but not on the island where you can find white me. Nobody should accuse us o. Na preference. Poster please I want to be your friend😀because we think alike.
ReplyDeleteI am you friend already and I am a confirmed WHITE HUNTER....
DeleteHanti anon. Bible says, " he that FINDS a wife...". This means it's the man's duty to find you. Not the other way round. This one you people are going on your 'search', hmmm
DeleteBut there are Indians and Chinese on the mainland na. Dem no white reach???
DeleteI have never read anything like this
ReplyDeleteSince what you want is a white why dont you position yourself where you can find them?why allow this men commit themselves to you only to back out when they propose?so unfair to toil with peoples feelings that way.
Why don't you want to marry from your race, any particular reason?
ReplyDeleteYou did not say your age. Maybe by the time you realise that age is no more on your side you will get sense.
Who says your happiness lies on white skinned guys?
Real reasons:
Delete1. Escape from poverty
2. Opportunity to leave Nigeria
3. Fulfill a nagging fantasy live style seen on social media
4. Mother's unfulfilled fantasy transferred to daughter to enable her selfishly fulfill hers.
5. Greed, avarice, Selfishness,
6. Utter depravity
7. Bad company/competition with "friends".
It’s preference .
DeleteThere’s nothing wrong with dating outside your race .
I’m in an interracial marriage,it’s always what I wanted (I’ve never dated anyone in my race/culture before )
[sic.] spanner
DeleteLIFESTYLE
16:05. Actually no.
DeleteNigerian men are nothing to write about.
But if you've always been fed trash,when you get to fine dining, you are most likely to spit it out so I understand.
Thank you.
Try dating all those lebanese and indians in Nigeria now, since your hunger for white man isn't allowing you think properly. My MD is one and he's searching for a lover. i can email stella his number. YOU MUST STILL BE A CHILD AT HEART.
ReplyDeletePoster since na skin colour you dry find,kuku marry albino now, after all white na white abi?
ReplyDeleteLmao
DeleteOr enter oshodi collect one Y-demon carry white wash nack am!
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteFind albino for 9ja now. Abi them no be white?
ReplyDeleteOr find correct blackey carry white wash nak am.
DeleteIf that's what you truly desire then go for it. I pray you will find the one that will make you happy and you a smile on your face everyday.
ReplyDeleteBut you should know that color don't determine if the individual you marry will make a great husband
I never knew this ‘abroad husband’ stuff was a thing until I started reading Nigerian news. Poverty has really decreased the IQ of my country people. As an abroad returnee girls flock around me and take all my shit, sometimes I wonder why. Now it’s beginning to make sense to me. To the poster I won’t fault your searching for a white man. It’s what u what. I just hope for your sake u are not building castles in the sky. Anyway, like someone said, u need to position yourself. Good luck
ReplyDeleteBBK
Even the black despise themselves and expect Whites to treat them better, long thing!
ReplyDeleteWell I understand your point.. .Still I feel you are yet to fall in love. Else skin colour wouldn't matter.
ReplyDeleteYou should really try dating one of these white men, be bold about it, be yourself, pray about it. If it would be it would. Stop dating the black boys so u don't become a serial heart breaker.
Each man to his own sha. I have lived in the UK for a few years now and I have no attraction whatsoever to white guys. By the time you white hunter ladies relocate to the West and see racism in action, you will know better than to think white is best. Very shallow chronicle.
ReplyDeleteoversabi..did you read anywhere she said they are the best? she just loves them period
DeleteSome are looking for a man to propose after dating but you have and still regected them...Love and happiness wins my dear and not skin color
ReplyDeleteThis life tho. Here I am rejecting white men suitors.. My first boyfriend was an igbo guy.. So after we broke up, I kinda had this mindset that I must marry igbo or a black guy. I schooled in the s/south & met loads of white guys who are always crazy about my ebony black complexion and flat front and back.. I always turned them down because I fancy my Nigerian brothers. Now I work in abj_they are all over me again.I decided to give one a chance, my dear Its a movie. He's soo matured & I feel like a queen(he calls me black European cos of my flat ass)but I still yearn for a Nigerian deep down *tears * last week he brought up marriage, I shunned him stylishly by saying '' let's continue loving ourselves for now" my mum is saying it might be my destiny&i should take my time cos I'm 23. This guy is everything but I feel empty inside. His sister travelled from Canada for my last birthday.it made me feel so guilty like he's doing much. Poster describe your guy.. We could arrange something
ReplyDeleteAwwwwwwwwww🤧🤧🤧🤧🤧
DeleteMy dear think very well.oh. pick love
DeletePoster since you already have a picture of the person you want to marry in your head, I guess you should give yourself some little time to chat with the color of skin you want. Do not rush into marriage if you are not into that person, marriage is a life time decision, if the color of skin of a man means everything to you, if it means love, happiness, great sex, commitment, great communication. Then you will be punishing an innocent dark skin man over your desire.
ReplyDeleteFind time to hand out with those who makes you happy, never you listen to anyone over what makes you happy. Be selfish till you find that perfect one who make you happy, relax and pray over yours choice, if is the will of God you will surely settle with one. Goodluck
In a quest to travel out u want white husband. U even get proposal sef de reject, stay there menopause go soon cash u. White men are nice but if u meet weird ones they are worst. I for once can't marry a white man wit their pencil size prick
ReplyDeleteGo Bonny or go Apapa for your white men hunting
ReplyDeleteI love white men/women from afar, I can't imagine me having a relationship with a white man...noooooo tufiakwaaa
ReplyDeleteWhy dating black Nigeria guys when ya heart wants a white Man..my dear no go do make time come go ooo, Good luck and may God grant you your heart desire..
ReplyDeleteDon’t string omo dudus along!! Lol
ReplyDeleteThis chronicle reminds me of this nollywood movie called white hunters.
ReplyDeleteWho remembers the movie.
it beats me how you say you long so much for something but dont have the liver to chat them up...what are yourmotives for marrying a white man? i have never discriminated white guys though i never dated any. if that is what you want then go to places where you will meet them. shine your eyes too cos like your african brothers you have deceptive ones. whatever nationality marriage is being with someone who makes you happy and understands you
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooo, I no get wetin person won't read for this blog
ReplyDelete