TIME TO RUN?
For about seven months now I have been with this guy who is a masters student in the u.k.I am a corper here in Nigeria.He started out all caring and very very nice,then once it makes me happy then we are all out for it then gradually things began to change slowly I noticed the way he reacts to things, like he gets angry so easily and when we have issues he just throws all the blame out to me.
The frequency of the calls dropped and chatting me up etc. When I bring up a topic of discussion,you know when someone keeps responding with one word to the things that excites you most.I began to wonder if I really wasn't doing something right,so I took it upon myself to call more often,text etc Our communication started flowing better only when it's his topic.A time came we disagreed and argued so much so that it was the only time he would call,to settle issues and that's when he sees I am giving up.
Each time I decide to ignore and not call or text,he will begin to bombard me with texts and calls of why did I stop caring for him,is that how to love?That love is beyond emotions and we need to be together and grow,i love you etc.He will also say he's depressed,he has burdens etc and I should please come back I have been a blessing to him and how much he loves me. He will be nice for somedays and we will be back to square him.He will not say your a fool o, but you hear, do you even reason well?He can go an extra mile to prove me wrong,as far as recording our phone conversations.
I remember a time I told him I won't be online for a week,the whole one week,boyfriend couldn't even call me to see how far.When I run out of data, our relationship is on pause because we do mostly whatsapp calls and facebook etc.My people the last one that weakened me was recently I gathered courage and asked for #2500 for the first time like two thousand five hundred naira not 25k o.I know he always says it that he's girlfriend should n't ask him for money but allow him to just surprise her occasionally but I compelled myself to do it since I personally don't believe in that and I have never even gotten any surprise from him either and I also wanted to know how he will react to it.He said he has promised himself not to give anyone anything he hasn't given his mother.
My problem here is this:From our conversations he tells me how he empties his account to solve other people's problems,so suddenly I asked for something and new policy comes up.We are talking marriage so I think this type will be the who will take care of outsiders first while the immediate family suffers.
I remember a time I told him I won't be online for a week,the whole one week,boyfriend couldn't even call me to see how far.When I run out of data, our relationship is on pause because we do mostly whatsapp calls and facebook etc.My people the last one that weakened me was recently I gathered courage and asked for #2500 for the first time like two thousand five hundred naira not 25k o.I know he always says it that he's girlfriend should n't ask him for money but allow him to just surprise her occasionally but I compelled myself to do it since I personally don't believe in that and I have never even gotten any surprise from him either and I also wanted to know how he will react to it.He said he has promised himself not to give anyone anything he hasn't given his mother.
My problem here is this:From our conversations he tells me how he empties his account to solve other people's problems,so suddenly I asked for something and new policy comes up.We are talking marriage so I think this type will be the who will take care of outsiders first while the immediate family suffers.
I am not against him loving his mother but this just doesn't feel right to me.I ordered a perfume online and had it delivered to him on his birthday over there,someone who uses Wi-Fi and I am running on subscriptions for us to be In touch hasn't seen it as reason enough for him to just decide to send me subscription money.I don't think it his duty to do these things but at least now, for someone your interested in marrying???This guy at times feels I am not even submissive enough,i feel like he wants all my attention,time and love while he looks on.Sometimes he won't reply my messages but if I don't all hell breaks loose.If I even try to walk away,he's holding on so tight.
Please my people,could it really be the depression or the burden he keeps referring to but won't tell me exactly what it is weighing him down?I ask him some questions,he will dodge it...Really he was never like this at the start and I am getting even more confused by the way how someone can claim to love you in a long distance relationship but can stay for days 2,4,5,6 days without calling.We have tried to talk it out several times,no way. I have prayed,no show.Thank you for your responses.
Please my people,could it really be the depression or the burden he keeps referring to but won't tell me exactly what it is weighing him down?I ask him some questions,he will dodge it...Really he was never like this at the start and I am getting even more confused by the way how someone can claim to love you in a long distance relationship but can stay for days 2,4,5,6 days without calling.We have tried to talk it out several times,no way. I have prayed,no show.Thank you for your responses.
*Time to run without your shoes on!!!
This is yesterday's chronicle stella
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Repeat Chronicle
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DeleteI have read this chronicles 3 times now! I'm tired already na
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DeleteIs this not 2 days ago chronicle???? Stella Inokwa ya????
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ReplyDeleteposter insecurity alert! run like you have said. guys should not have any thing to do with relationship when they are not emotionally settled to avoid dragging a girl into your insecurity and indecisiveness. apart from looking for the right one, you have to be the right one also babe Pls don't come and go and kill yourself on top a man that has a lot of work to do on himself
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