STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRIAGE PALAVA/STRANGE DREAMS
Good day to you and yours.
please I need your advise and that of your BVs. I am a Christian lady presently in a relationship with a Christian man from the North(marriage plans are gradually kicking in) and then there is this Yoruba man(a Muslim) that wont let me be, he wants to marry me also.
Lately, I have been having these strange dreams. Strange because the patterns are. In some of the dreams, I would be dressed in beautiful Yoruba traditional wedding attires and the ceremony would be cool(love-in-the-air kinda scenario) and then in some,I would see myself in a wedding gown in a church but the whole thing would feel weird.
The one I had today, I saw my fiance's face and trust me, I was sad even on my wedding day because he was acting all tough and stiff, not romantic. Note that in real life, my fiance is quite tough and rigid(I am not pleased with that but I am trying to come to terms that I may end up with someone like that)...
Could this be a sign that he is not my husband and that maybe the other man(or any other Yoruba man) is my husband? Note that I have treated malaria so please don't attribute this to malaria symptoms.
Stella,please post this as I really need advise. Do keep me anonymous too. Thank you!
*Hmmmm maybe you are confused cos you have two men wanting to Marry you...Maybe you should also wait a while before you marry this man and make the biggest mistake of your life.....
Marriage palava. The Yoruba man is not pure. He is the one trying to confuse you. Just keep praying
ReplyDeleteYou don't seem to love the man you want to marry hence the mixed feelings
DeleteShe is fucking both men. So one of them is using jazz on her
DeleteWhat do you mean by a man won't let you be ?
DeleteDoesn't your phone have functions to block someone's number?
It is obvious you don't love your fiance. If not you don't have business dreaming of any other man. If you truly want to cut off block the Moslem guys number and don't pick any unknown number. In time he will get the idea and move on.
One idiot that kept disturbing me I blocked him all round and thank God I live in an estate you need to call before you can gain entrance.
Muslims are very fetish, they don't see it as voodoo, it's part of their religion. The Yoruba Muslim guy might be manipulating your dreams... Stay away from him.
DeleteYou should take your dreams seriously. My ex had asked my dad for my hand in marriage, I agreed and we started planning. Few weeks later I dreamt that someone else was holding our rings, he had misplaced it. Then the second dream that followed was a fine yellow chic collected the wedding dress from me and wore it.
DeleteFour months later he got married to a fine yellow chic 😂😂😂. We never broke up when I saw pre wedding photos.
Your dreams might be God speaking to you. Don't let it slide cause you think youve got malaria. Best of luck.
The yoruba don knack pigeon 4 ur head
DeletePray against spiritual husband
Delete15:35 who told u that. Don't say what you don't know.
DeleteAnonymous 15:35. Watch your language. Why associate Islam with voodoo? just shut up if you don't know what to say. People like you are the problem we have in this country. What makes you think your own religion is better? Keep your opinion to yourself.
DeleteDepends on the antimalarial u took.
ReplyDeleteU can try cooking dogoyaro, guava leaves n mango bark, steam yourself n drink some, you will be fine.
You ehn... She for climb the dogoyaro tree na, make she dey live ontop there
DeleteHahaha. You never disappoint.
DeleteLol
DeleteHaha haha 😁😁, you Eeh
Delete😁 you no serious gaskia.
DeleteChai see my laughing like mad woman...
DeleteLol
Lol. No lemon grass
DeleteYou are will keep confusing your self in the name of dreams till your fiance leave you.
ReplyDeleteA Christian lady considering marriage proposal from a Muslim guy. Your Christianity is questionable!!
I agree with you on this
DeleteIf in the event you dont marry the christian man, it still doesnt mean the muslim guy is meant for you. Except if you dont mind converting down the line.
DeleteHowever, "do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever, for what partnership has light with darkness..."
Also treat typhoid..
ReplyDeleteThen toss a coin choosing one man for each side. Goodluck in your choice.
Yoruba Muslim don carry your name dey do his prayers.
ReplyDeleteBetter be strong in prayers yourself and let God deliver you from manipulators
DeleteYou are on point
It's a sign that you are unconsciously comparing both parties which translates to your dream.
ReplyDeleteFor me i will not marry or harbour feelings for anyone outside my religion but my advice is you go with whoever makes you feel comfortable. Also note that sometimes the devil tends to sow doubt in people's heart when something good is around the corner. Whatever your choice may be make sure it's the wise one.
You know how they say that most times our dreams are a reflection of our daily activities.
ReplyDeleteI feel you are over thinking your present situation and hereby having this recurrent dreams.I would say free your mind, live each day as it comes and if you dream again concerning this matter then pay attention to the dream and make your judgement.
Most times my dreams comes to pass but the ones I take seriously are the ones I have when I wasn't thinking about a person or situation.
My dear shine your eyes well, at the end of the day it's your life/marriage.
You are sleeping with both them!!!! You are a fool oooo.
ReplyDeleteI hope you loose both of them.. Ashawo
the same bible says you can but if he or she doesn't accept your religion or follow you, you have a choice to divorce and you can marry another person.
DeleteJust five it time, think deep about it and everything will be fine.
Go and settle your spirit husband
ReplyDeleteAs Queen and Boss' rep that you is na?
Deletehow can you think of a Muslim,he may be using remote control on you so that you will not marry the xtian man.you better pray very well and seek counsel
ReplyDeleteIt all boils down to love.. Who do you sincerely wanna spend the rest of your life with, the worst this you can do to yourself is to compromise when it comes to marriage.
ReplyDeleteOr maybe the malaria misses you and its back..Lol
personally, I think dreams are a revelation of our thoughts too. Your fiancé isn't romantic in real life hence, you dreamed of him that way. The Yoruba guy is romantic, lively and maybe you feel something much deeper for him in real life that's why your dream appeared in such a way. My guess is that; you like this Yoruba guy more but he is Muslim. Tell yourself the truth. Your dream is a revelation of what is going on in your heart no two ways about it.
ReplyDeleteMost times, our dreams are a reflection of our thoughts.
ReplyDeleteThat's why i find it hilarious when people start reading unnecessary meanings to dreams that are a obvious reflection of thoughts.
But i guess these religious business merchants must make money in any way available.
That being said.
Your body/brain is very aware that you have a reservation towards the northern man and you think it could be better with the Yoruba man. Hence, the dreams.
Why have you settled saying maybe you are meant to be with a tough and rigid man?
Don't go into something you ain't comfortable with please.
I'll say take a break from both men, pray hard and follow your head (the one on top of your body).
Follow your heart. The one that gives you the most peace, the one you re more comfortable with. Check compatibility too.
ReplyDeleteSecondly take it to the lord in prayer. Pray this way. Heavenly Father whoever is not meant to be in my life, anyhow, whichever way, by fire or by force let something happen and spoil the relationship. Even tho I cry, throw tantrums to get him back please Lord don't allow. Use people or any means to block the way.
OK. Just ask God to lead you. Simple heartfelt prayer will do. End it with praise. In the end all things will work together for your good. ok bye.
Are you sure you're a Christian?
ReplyDeletebe very careful,don't be equally yoked with unbelievers,go with the Christian guy
ReplyDeleteStupidity at its peak,don't be yoked with an unbeliever but you can take an unbeliever money when it is time for giveaway,hypocritical lots crying for Muslim giveaways like goats
DeleteGo and pray over it or you do that yourself and God will help you out
ReplyDeleteNothing confuses a lady like having 2 men wanting to marry her. Some one should please remind me of that sdk popular quotes of getting less than you deserve when u settle for less. Take a step back and observe things first dear. Its hard making suck kinda decision.
ReplyDeleteSteph good to have you back. Your healing is permanent in Jesus name Amen.
Deletedamn! baby girl, I have been your silent secret admirer for a long time ,am happy you're back. 💕💕😍😘I love you, BTW am available female but no home intended
DeleteAmen duchess.
DeleteYes. And the funny thing is that we ladies feel that we have to choose one of the two. Though sometimes the answer is one of them, many times the answer is none of them. You don't have to choose if you don't have to. If you don't like any of the two, or the two are not good choices, remain single. Lesser of two devils can work in choosing president, not in choosing spouse. Also, ladies feel they must accept any proposal as long as it comes from a man. No, you have the right to decline a proposal. You should have the same eagerness to marry them as them who proposed. In other words, say yes to someone you can propose to, if tables are turned and women are to propose. Cos I feel poster accepted the northern guy's proposal cos he proposed. She doesn't seem to be into him. I may be wrong, but take out some time to pray and seek guidance. Forget dreams, by their fruits you shall know them.
DeleteYoruba muslim don carry your name go Alfa place. Please, don't know how strong you are, but don't joke with this OMO MUSLIM, they can go to any length and breath to get you.
ReplyDeleteA class mate, christian girl ended up marrying them, converted and her life is miserable today.
Be prayerful
They actually have a mandate to deliberately marry Christian girls for the sole aim of converting them later. They will deceive her she will be allowed to practice her religion, lies is part of their religion. They have rituals they do to make her stay and not wanting to go. They may do it inside her drinking water or codedly in her food.
DeleteThey will rush her to have kids. When they are sure she cant leave again, they now marry a Muslim who come and make life more miserable for her.
I know so, cos I once practised Islam. So keep your tolerance stories to yourself.
thank you anonymous. was thinking in this line when i saw your comment. i come from a family of both so i know too. in my village they even promise people money if you convert to islam. they call it washing(that kind of washing new car etc thing we do in naija)your conversion to Islam. be careful
DeleteLet me advicebu pls stick to ur fiancee once u start making marriage preparation temptation set in different men will be coming from all corner to deceive u so be wise coz same happened to me but my mind was already made on who I want to be with. Don't allow yourself to get played if not u will regret jus pray and commit the whole situation into the hands of God
ReplyDeleteLet me advice u pls stick to ur fiancee once u start making marriage preparation temptation set in different men will be coming from all corner to deceive u so be wise coz same happened to me but my mind was already made on who I want to be with. Don't allow yourself to get played if not u will regret it jus pray and commit the whole situation into the hands of God
ReplyDeleteIf you say you are a Christian; the Spirit of God leads Christians in what they do. Definitely the "muslim man" is never your husband; except you want to be 4th wife -yes because the other three, who most likely are going to be muslims will treat you like trash as an "infidel" you are. Do not rush into any marriage. Tell your fiance that you want to take time and pray. It is only when you discharge these two men that you will understand what the perfect will of God it for you. Fast and pray and you will find peace to wait for the Lord's choice.
ReplyDeleteGo nd see your pastor,the bible says ..to be physically minded is death, but to be spiritually minded lead to an everlasting life..i was in this thesame situation b4..i cut him off after i went to see my prophet.@okiroyalty.
ReplyDeleteAbeg o
DeleteThat thing na "carnally minded" no be physically eh.
Instead of una to go seek God una dey seek "pastor?"
Anon go nd take serval seats,maybe your own version says carnally minded,you can seek God through a pastor..@okiroyalty.
DeleteYou already know that it is not the Yoruba Muslim; period.
ReplyDeleteYou already know that the Lord is probably talking about "another Yoruba man"
So what do you do?
All you need to do is wait, wait and please wait.
They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. . .
House and riches are an inheritance from fathers; But a prudent wife/husband is from Jehovah. Proverbs 19 vs 14
Deleteprayer is the key
ReplyDeleteDon't be distracted with dreams that are not from God. Go for the North Man.
ReplyDeleteSo let me teach you what I learnt in bible school, the clearest way God speaks to you is through the Bible, he can speak to you in a dream but it will be very clear, if a dream is not clear then ignore it. God is not an author of confusion, he won’t soeak to you in a confusing manner. Also do not forget his clearest voice is the Bible, and that bible says ‘do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever’ go and read more my sister and pray and decide.
ReplyDeleteIgnore the dream since it’s not clear
ReplyDeleteProverbs 19:2 Also it is not good for a person to be without knowledge, And he who hurries his footsteps errs.
Psalm 37:8 Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret--it leads only to evil.
proverbs 21:5 Plans of the persistent surely lead to productivity, but all who are hasty will surely become poor.
Proverbs 25:8 Do not go out hastily to argue your case; Otherwise, what will you do in the end, When your neighbor humiliates you?
Summary: Do not be in a haste, wait, seek God to understand. He that loves you will wait for patience is one of the fruits of the Spirit.
Once you start marriage prep. Every other guy is a distraction especially this one you are considering a Muslim. Don't deceive yourself you are Christian, he is a Muslim. Your husband to be is very OK. It is you that is confused. .
ReplyDeleteFirst and foremost, if you want to base this on your dream then you need to answer the following questions with sincerity:
ReplyDelete Do you normally receive warning of what would happen in future through dreams or of any events?
Have you been seeing manifestations of your dreams in the past come to pass?
Is dream the only method God speaks to you?
If you have been dreaming about events of your life and it always come to pass whether negative or positive except when you counter it with prayers then you have to pay attentions to it.
On the other note, you claimed to be a Christian although I don’t know your knowledge of the word of God and how you applied them in your life. But I know some true Christians cannot marry a Muslim.
Sometimes, the devil can manipulates dream in order to confuse you from the truth.
All you have to do is to give your self-time to sort yourself out. Don’t be in a hurry to make this life changing decision. In all pray more and ask God for direction.
And no one has asked her who is richer
ReplyDeleteMake I ask o
ReplyDeleteThe Yoruba Muslim dey abroad?
This one wey you wan be 4th wife on top of marriage mata, e get as e be o.
Does ur dreams come true? Then fast and pray more about it remember do not be unequally yoked... Let the God's wisdom lead you right
ReplyDeleteplease pray about the matter. You said the guy is touch kinda, why don't you ask God to show you the way in a more clearer way.
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious you're not even sure of yourself if you want to marry the christian guy. Your uncertainty is playing out in your dreams. You're making marriage plans with someone, and still considering another person. Better hold off the wedding plans for now and reevaluate what you really want.
ReplyDeleteWhat me I know is that Yoruba Muslim can be Fetish.
ReplyDeletePrayers is all that you need at this point in time
ReplyDeleteCan you be with a rigid man for the rest of your life? Forever is a long time to be in a rigid and unhappy marriage. Definitely the Muslim guy is a no no if you’re a true Christian. What’s your mind telling you? Truth is, you most likely don’t want to settle with this northern Christian guy. Deep down you prefer a Yoruba Christian man. My opinion- cut both relationship/friendship from both guys and wait for your time. You’ll find a better man. Oko to ma ba e kale. If you’re desperate to settle down and not have a fulfilled marriage, Oyo lo wa. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteAnd you want to marry a man that's tough and rigid? Hope you care ready for what comes after. Why stress yourself with inter religious marriage again.......you haff try.
ReplyDeleteno born again christian will marry a muslim. be not equaly yoked with an unbeliever. alot of these muslim men can visit mallans for charms alot so be careful. am from the north so no insult will move me cos i know what am saying
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