STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
A CHARMED LIFE
Good day Stella. Lots of love from me to you.
I don't know if this should be a chronicle but I need to rant.
I'm 29 and I have never been approached for marriage by anyone. It makes me worry.
I come from a family where you have to hustle to make things happen. For as long as I can remember, things were never rosy with us. My dad died in the midst of all these and my mum had to work really and extra hard to send all four of us to school. (God bless her and keep her for me). Although things are better now with me and my siblings working and helping out but the whole thing feels like eating from hand to mouth!
I don't believe in this Marine spirit gist but I have reasons to believe that there is a problem with me! I work really hard and when you see me, you won't even believe what I have gone through or still going through. I dream of snakes every now and then. I have done several deliverance in mfm and I still pray.
Sometimes, I get really tired of praying and just want to live my life like that.
I get disappointments almost at every point in my life, but I try to be positive and be a good person and also believe that God will make a way someday. My relationship is just there. Imagine dating a guy who pretends to love and care about you but doesn't even want to show it. He knows how I struggle to save money, take care of my mum and even managed to build a small bungalow for her but is it a bad thing to support me? I never get that kind of love! I never get gifts! I never get surprises! I am independent but does it hurt to be taken care of?
I get really jealous of my friends that their boyfriends do things for and because it doesn't happen to me, I try so hard to get things for myself and lie that my boyfriend got them for me.
I'm sorry for the epistle, but is this ordinary? What can I do?
*Na wah oh!!!....29 years is still young oh...Some are 40 and not even dating or ever been chatted up.....And you have been going for deliverance?hmmmmmmmm maybe you should Church?
Must a man buy stuffs for you? If you r working, why can't you buy for yourself? Stop this stupid mentality biko. After una go say una be feminists. Entitlement mentality
ReplyDeleteThe reason you sent this Chronicle is because of your last paragraph.if a man doesn't give you what you need,gift yourself and don't complain.Ladies please YOUR BOYFRIENDS IS NOT YOUR DADDY AND YOUR PROVIDER.is quite annoying when you depend on a guy to get you some stuff.una no get shame ni
DeleteI can’t tel you if you are cursed but how can you say you want to be delivered yet you only go for deliverance to be saved and not necessarily because you care about God. You even get tired of praying and just want to enjoy your life, God sees all our hearts, if you don’t seek Him in truth and in Spirit, you will never find Him. The Bible says we should seek Him with all our hearts and not for what he can do for us.
DeleteStop being jealous of your friends for you are tying your own blessings, it’s not supposed to be a competition, look at the bright side, you can even afford to build a house. Some men can’t even afford that. Be grateful
Poster even though I agree with the anon up there that it's your last paragraph that made you send this; will still drop stuffs.
DeleteFirst I understand the pains of not being catered for or spent on by people you love. It hurts real bad.
Here is the thing:
1) It could be a generational problem that needs cleansing. Does your other siblings get gifts and favors from people?
2) Not to sow a divide; but some families can be evil o. Having built a bungalow for your mum; a sibling could be jealous of your accolades and trying to use what you crave most to pin you down spiritually or
the family as a whole holding you down so you keep slaving out for them and not take it to another man's family that may stop you. So they frustrate relationships for you so you keep being depressed and running to them.
3) Lastly; whatsoever we do atimes; the universe takes note and attract such to us. Have you always been the aunty kpatakpata provider all your life? Like carrying everybody on your head and not caring if anyone looks after you too?
Such characters (which ain't bad) sometimes work very negatively for people that possess it. You will keep being the one everybody leans on. They don't see you and see a delicate person that should be pampered (yes even men).
If no.3 is the case; please start retracing small small. You don't always have to be the heroic jack bauer save the last day person.
Somedays please be a needy baby and let them care for you. When you start letting people care for you; the universe starts taking notes too and sending you care.
The only problem is that people like you feel POWERFUL with caring for others. You gotta taste some weak humility sometimes baby so you can get this desire of yours...
All the best
Shut up! What's there in a guy buying gifts for his girlfriend? I do things for my boyfriend because he's not financially buoyant, but once in a while that feminine feel comes to play. I would like to experience that feeling of my guy getting a gift for me, no matter how small it is.
DeleteDave dee there's nothing wrong with a boyfriend gifting his gf at all So stop talking trash,a boyfriend that can't even get his girlfriend a gift on her birthday isn't fit to be called a boyfriend. You won't want to give gifts but will willingly collect if a girl should give you and be happy bah? You would also want your girlfriend to make meals for you but a simple act of giving is hard for people like You,stingy lot
DeletePoster, have you considered that maybe it's your character? Maybe you're not a nice person. Are you hot tempered? Do you shout? Are you petty, bitter? Do you rub your achievements in people's faces?
DeleteBecause men don't like that shit.
Haaa 17:44, are you the poster? Is you mad? Are you are? Is skoi skoin worrying you? Could this be why they don't gift you? As in wetin I wan buy give my fellow man??? Chai. This one heavy o. Eleyi gidi gaaan
DeleteWhere is the holy cane ?
They say men love and respect an independent woman, I think not giving you anything is his way of showing it.
ReplyDeleteAgain what was d deliverance for?
Financial breakthrough?
Marriage?
Or a generous boyfriend?
All of d above?
Na question o..
Peace.
As for relationship take it that you're single
ReplyDeleteAs for marine spirit you should see a therapist for a try......everything is not church
As for life issues....... I'm 26 and had never had a serious relationship, there's nothing wrong with us everyone has a different life path.
At least you are independent, you should be grateful.
Thank you Jare, she is dating herself. She is not in a relationship at all. Even friends supports each other some times.
DeleteSomeone up there wrote your boyfriend isn't your father, well I remember a time I was complaining about my dad not getting me something I truly desired. The next thing my then boyfriend now husband at the time did, was cupped my face in his palms, gazed lovingly into my eyes and told me "Samantha YOUR DAD IS NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND", and he got me that thing. don't be deceived if your boyfriend hasn't given you a kobo since you have been dating then you are on your own.Most Nigerian men are not same with men from other countries. Most are patriarchal so stop this your independent attitude even if you have change, let your man take care of you SOMETIMES.
Reality! I have never been approached for marriage too
ReplyDeleteYou don't have to wait until a man propose, just go below your standard you will see how many guys will want to wife you...kaylee
DeleteGo below your standard head to ikeja park kiss the agboro collecting cash from the bus drivers so says KayLee. Nigerian women smh
DeleteI didn't mean Agbero...I meant guys without a car or living in shared apartment..kaylee
DeleteIt's well poster .keep praying and face your damn front.......top-notch
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm!!!!
ReplyDeleteMust a man gift something
Thank God that you are working...
The right man will locate you...
You are meeting stingy guy's. So relaxe your own man that will love and spoil you silly will appear soon.
Hope you can date a guy that doesn't even give you something as little as a biro?
DeleteYou guyz should shuuuuuusssshhhh
DeleteYes i will feal bad if my boyfriend never gift me pencil, even if u are Dangote, there is this joy in your heart wen someone wrap as little as a mop or whatever and gift u
First of drop that your so called boyfriend mbok.
ReplyDeleteI don't like stingy men.
*I didn't say spend all your money on me but at least chairman do something.
*Poster asides seeing the snakes in the dream... I don't think something is wrong with you. The dream could have emanated from your thoughts.
Financially you are carrying overload. Drop a few.
@29 ? Rush no where, you will be fine last last ".
Cheer up!
Gbam!! Your advice is on point.
DeletePoster you're young and should be grateful for what you have. It's better making your own money than waiting for a man to do stuffs for you at his own time and will.
Relax and enjoy your money while you wait for Mr right cos that ya boyfriend no work.
As for snake dreams, try and sleep on your belly or by your two sides any time you want to sleep instead of your back😂😂 you'll be fine.
You built a bungalow for your mom?
DeleteAnd you are living from hand to mouth?
Madam..stop putting nasty thoughts in your mind.
Start positive thinking.
Nothing is wrong with you.
Stop receiving her @29 She suppose to be in a man's 🏠...Girls stop wasting time in your 20s that's when to hook quality men without baggages..
DeleteI don't think that you have any problem. It is just your mindset. Just live your life and do not take life too important. Most times, our lives come out the way that our subconscious is. Take it easy on yourself , dear.
ReplyDelete@blackberry You just read and comment you asked what was the deliverance for .didn't you read where she mentioned she see snake in her dream poster it not good to see snakes in dream according to my grandma
ReplyDeleteAnnoy Owambe
For your smart mind you think its cos of green mamba she sent this chronicle? Clap for yourself, snake detector.
DeleteYou have a bungalow you built for your mom at 29 your doing ok, stop using other people's life and standard to define your life it will only lead to depression.
ReplyDeleteKpele o.
ReplyDeletePlease try and cut down on spiritual places of visitation with the intention of finding solutions. You only know yourself when you going in, you don’t know what followed you out. I believe that breakthroughs come by giving from the little you have to those who actually need it knowing they cannot pay you back and it has to come from your heart. Learn not to hound God. Also, focus on the positive things God has done for you. Be thankful and grateful and he will do so much more. Lastly, be patient and diligent in your work. Trust me, He does hear and hardwork pays at the long run.
ReplyDeleteFrom what you described up there, y’all are hardworking. Everyone has their harvesting season. Do not compare nor look at others. You do not know what they might have dabbled in. Focus on what you have and build on it. Embrace God and love and help the less Privileged.
Please be selfless in everything you do. God loves you and hasn’t forgotten you. Tou just need to draw closer to him. Open up yourself to Him and listen attentively. Love you.
Nothing is wrong with you. Stop having sex, concentrate on God and your career, everything will fall in place.
ReplyDeleteBe independent, be thankful. Today is my birthday and I did not even get a gift from anyone. Got myself 2 cakes and I will be going for live band all by myself tonight. Please do things for yourself as long as you can afford it. Biko live your life and dont be jealous of your friends because you dont know what they are enduring in their relationships. They might also be buying things for themselves like you and claiming their boyfriends got it for them. Just live your life and enjoy it for as long as possible. Dont be desperate. As much as I really want to settle down too, I can only hope it happens but until then, I am living my life to the fullest. Please wish me happy birthday. Thanks
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday dear... This is what I plan to do too.. live my life to the fullest.. cheers!!
DeleteHappy birthday to you... may God grant you all your heart desires.
DeleteHappy birthday Anon 15:37
DeleteEnjoy your cake 😀
Happy birthday dear.
DeleteGod bless your new age.
May God Grant you,your heart desire soon..
Enjoy your cake wella..
Happy birthday Anon 15:37
DeleteHappy Birthday darling... Greetings of United Kingdom...lol
DeleteMy birthday mate wish we'd met before now we would have celebrated together at least that would have been more fun than being on site all day
DeleteHappy birthday to us
Nawa o. I don't even know what to say. It's as if this scenario is common these days. Does it now mean that most girls have marine husband? Calm down dear. You will be alright. Be yourself and stop living your life to please people. Be happy and enjoy yourself. One step at a time dear.
ReplyDeleteI don’t understand o, is it a man that will give u financial breakthrough? Do u feel u have marine spirit because a man is not spending recklessly on u? Men who give will give maybe the one you’re with is not the giving type, it has nothing to do with marine spirit Biko. What’s the prayer point for the deliverance? You need Alhaji givi givi, or u want to marry?
ReplyDeleteYou have a bungalow at 29 , babes what do you really want ?
ReplyDeleteMy dear something is wrong. Please pray until something happens.
ReplyDeleteI make my money, but my man has a huge responsibility in taking care of me. He was even the one that reminded me yesterday If I've started plans for a project I'm doing. And he is sponsoring it 80%.
My darling PRAY. Change church and pray. May God help you
Forget all the buy the things you need. We ladies need to be pampered, we need gifts and surprises. Don't listen to the suffer head broke people telling you not to complain
Sounds like prostitution.
DeletePoster let me encourage you small, I used to think like this few years ago but then I learnt to live my life and leave any other thing I can't fathom to God. My own case is that I even used to lie to people(friends and family) that I have a bf when in the actual sense I don't have any. The ones I'd manage to date would want to take from the little I have to take care of my self. Until 2years ago when I met my man. I met him at an LG store where I wanted to get a TV. Dude was also there to get a smart tv, I made enquires and I realised that the one I wanted was 30k above the price I thought it was, so I told the sales attendant that I'll be back after counting the money in her presence so she won't think I came to just ask of price. So my sweet man came forward and asked me in the gentlest voice I've ever heard,if there's any problem, I told him not really that what I wanted to get was 30k higher than the money I came here with,and that I'd come back later to get the tv. There and then the dude told the sales attendant to package the smart tv and he paid for the whole thing. It's an LG 42 inches smart tv. So my dear Poster what I'm insinuating here is that if I wasn't an independent woman, I won't have been in that store to get myself a TV, my man told me after we got married that he studied me for 10mins and he saw what he wanted in a woman right there. Ever since that day, he has been footing my bills as well as that of my family. Before he popped the question early this year. So my dear poster, what is yours will definitely locate when you least expect it. Keep living and loving life and leave the rest to God. He will definitely send you your own angel just like he did to me.
ReplyDeleteMaxwell'slove
...and if he didn't pay for your tv you wouldn't have married or look at him twice...ok
DeleteLol anon 16:15, you summarised the story accurately. Nigerian women and their love for money!
DeleteThe guy who's on my case right now feels that I'm pretending because I don't equate a man's love for me with how much he spends.
Madam Korkus please "charmed life" is the direct opposite of poster's life. When the phrase "living a charmed life" is used, it means the person is living his or her best life where everything falls in place for him/her without them even trying. Nothing charmed about poster's life.
ReplyDeleteI thought so too @shy gial
DeleteDo not tell your boyfriend u are capable of building a bungalow and expect him to be getting u gift, keep your project to ur self until they wife u. When a man see u as a rich person even in marriage he leaves many responsibilities for So keep your money in your account,close mouth and dress real ur own man will come, .
ReplyDeletePoster I doubt anything is wrong with you. I use to see snakes in my dream since 2012 till yesterday, went to a prophet cause everyone said it was terrible. The prophet told me it a sign showing only married men will approach me and financial difficulty. I believed him and started moving from one church to another looking for solution, I got tired and stopped in April. I sat one day and realised those dreams might just be imaginations, every ummarried girl is assumed to be following a married man, once your an unmarried girl above 28 the first thing this men of God see is spiritual husband. Poster things will fall into place when it’s time.
ReplyDeletejust be prayerful and be grateful
ReplyDeleteam 29 too I just graduated. not married and no work but still am grateful and hopeful that God will do the best when the time comes
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ReplyDeletePoster nothing is wrong with you, stop disturbing your head over issues, love yourself, be happy, buy expensive gifts for yourself and forget about any man spoiling you with gift. If you have money and can afford any gift, go ahead and make yourself happy.
ReplyDeleteI spend on myself, if I see any good thing that I like I buy for myself, I take myself out, I spoil myself, I don’t have time to wait for any man to gift me anything, make yourself happy, I must not tell you that I was the one that bought those gifts for myself. If I love a phone and want it, once my salary drops I go to the market and buy that phone, stop waiting for a man to shower you with gift, you are doing well, how many babes built a house for their parents? Stop going from deliverance to another you will give your self heart attack, relax and you will find the right man.
pls live ur life and forget about making a man ur priority then watch things fall in place for u.. @ 29 I was single had no serious relationship but then I didn't allow that to bother me, most time I hang out with my girlfriends or alone foot the bills jus to make myself happy until finally God gave me my ideal man @ 31. Mind u even if u are independent never u let a man know ur worth until after marriage bcoz some men are jus after wat they can get from u. Package urself properly and stop comparing urself with ur friends coz u don't know wat they go through behind close door, always believe in yourself and be hopeful then watch and see how things will turn around for good in ur favour..
ReplyDeleteBreak up with him, change your environment, and watch yourself grow. I have come to understand that one's environment affects people's general well-being, from mental health, to emotional growth ETC. it happened to me I changed my environment and watched my life blossom. do that my dear.
ReplyDeleteI just want to tell you that I’m 31, I’m single, chasing one dream after another, failing and rising, life doesn’t have formular and it’s not a competition.
ReplyDeleteStop worrying and live! There is nothing wrong with you! Just live!
If you think you need prayer bcos of snakes you see in your dreams,keep praying but think positive and do not compare yourself with others.
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