In the Holy Book, you will see lines like
".....and when the child was weaned, she was with another child'...
Meaning that they weaned their children before getting pregnant again.
I hear some old women saying that in those days, they breast fed their kids for 2yrs and more before getting pregnant again. Even my own parents gave us minimum of 3yrs space.
I remember in those days, when a woman gets pregnant while nursing a baby, shame would not allow her to go out, in most cases, her mum or mother in-law will come and take the child she was nursing away. This will lessen the mockery and shame when she goes out.
These days, you will see an heavily pregnant woman with a child of less than 18months strapped to her back, walking majestically. Lols
You see some kids looking like twins and triplets. Wetin happen? Hahahaha
What has gone wrong with our generation.
A grandmother once told me that child spacing in those days was easy because our fathers had plenty wives or concubines and may not touch the wife nursing a baby until the baby is weaned. Another reason I was told was that our mothers had many native and effective methods of preventing pregnancy which are not known to our generation. Could these be the reasons?
They had better be the reasons because I don't believe our men whose hustling and stress have trippled due to the economy love 'knacking' more than the men of those days. Hahahaha.
What could be the cause of my observation up there? Is child spacing good or bad?
Mama Tee
This your post seem judgmental today oh madam! In this new generation most women marry later than our forewomen, most of the women know to make sure Hubby is good before getting pregnant and once settled they have all the kids bang bang bang so they can focus on a career etc... it’s a modern world let everyone do as they please mbok
ReplyDeleteOh shut up! How is she judgemental? A simple write up where the writer didn't uphold or oppose. Very neutral and is left for us to give our opinion has turned to judgemental. Hiss
DeleteIdiot her write up is judgemental nobody has to agree with it dumb dumb 🙄
DeleteIf not for my husband, this one wey I born don do.
ReplyDeleteI didn't have it easy while pregnant. I thought they said one will forget all the pain, I am yet to.
I hail those who didn't space their children.
My baby girl is like a battalion. Imagine adding another battalion to her now. I go just die
This poster is just jealous of those that gives birth regularly. Maybe she has secondary infertility msscheew
DeleteHaaa,una go dey alright, jealous me?
DeleteLike you've mentioned in your post, in those days they had plenty wives so it can't be the men of this time like sex pass them. It's not even about liking sex oo. As I'm here noe my daughter is 1 year 4 months a.d I'm thinking of having another child. I want to give birth and get over this thing once and for all😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteI deliberately refused to space, need to get child bearing done so I can go back to working. most organisation don't give good maternity leave and the thought of returning to work after 3months no just gel
ReplyDeleteI'm here to learn...oya ooooo mothers who were successful in spacing should come out
ReplyDeleteApart from family planning,what else is done...if it is the herbs,biko tell us which ones
Getting ready ooo
Child spacing is good. Cos it helps the woman to regain her strength well. But these days, women want to give birth to all their kids fast and concentrate on their career or business.
ReplyDeleteMy parents space us so much
ReplyDeleteLike 4 years differences
But me, if by God's grace I get preggy
After 1year of birthing the twins,I will do another one and close the chapter.
"When by God's grace" not If**
DeleteThanks Anonymous 13:32
DeleteWhen ohhh
Nothing like "if" my dear.
DeleteEasier said than done ...olori
DeleteOlori when the twins come I will definitely remind you say we dey wait for the next babies "twins again 😜" ooooooo
DeletePaw-paw seed is a natural contraceptive for women .Just eat it raw like that.
ReplyDeleteFor those trying to conceive,soursop leaves is the answer.Get the leaves with the tiny stem,cook for 45mins and take morning and night for atleast three months.It is also a serious sperm booster for low sperm count .
But you have to detoxify your system with bara and pap water.
Do this and testify.
Fyi,,men can also take bara and the pap water to clear out infections and dead semen cells atleast for a week.it is taken once a day cos it purges.
Please who knows the yoruba name for sour-sops
DeleteAll this iya alagbo won't know this ohh
Shandy Sleeps please do you know??..... Thanks.
Another name for Soursop pls.
DeleteThanks for this. Pls explain the procedure and dosage of this bara and pap water. Thank you once again.
DeleteTTT wife
Awon ti DIY family
DeleteWhen taking all this concoction remember you have a liver.
DeleteWhen taking all this concoction remember you have a liver.
DeleteShandy, please what is this bara? Is it a leaf, plant, stem.. ? Elucidate Biko.
DeleteShandy, please what is this bara? Is it a leaf, plant, stem.. ? Elucidate Biko.
DeleteThanks so much shandy sleek😘😘😘
DeleteNow I know and it has other health benefits
It works for diabetes and cancer too
Child spacing is good and help the woman recover her body before the next but in a case a lady gets married late(in her 30's) she would want to rush the number of kids she wants so her body will rest. Child spacing is a choice sha.
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ReplyDeleteValid points, I believe in child spacing of atleast 3yrs but it depends on the woman and what you can handle.
A woman's age is also a huge factor. If you go married in your 20s, you can decide to leave even 4/5yrs space. But if you got married in your mid to late 30s you may not have that luxury, you may want to rush and finish up before you enter your 40s because mid 40s the pregnancy is regarded as high risk etc.
Mid 30 is even high risk
DeleteChild spacing no concern me. With God by my side,na every year I wan born. In 3years I should be done with child bearing by the special grace of God Almighty
ReplyDeleteThis one in my area has 5 kids and heavily pregnant with another one, they wear rags even to church. Husband is okada rider. Where they live looks like rat house, no toilet, no bathroom, no kitchen. They dug a hole in the back of the house where they poo and also bath at the back of the house. Wife sells little soup ingredients in front of the house. I see this woman and shake my head, she looks so exhausted and weak. I forgot to add that two of her siblings also live with them. One is in Jss1 and the other is in ss1. Those ones serves as househelps, hawking vegetables. Oh their story is very long. I wonder why they can't pity the poor kids and stop having more. In the nearest future, some of the kids will end up as househelps and boy boy somewhere, some may get unwanted pregnancies and marry anyhow while the some of the males may become kidnappers and armed robbers. Don't ask me what their tribe is.
ReplyDeleteSome of them may become rich footballers or medical doctors too..
DeleteAnonymous 12:53 you are evil.see how you are already cursing the future of the children. God will not let their children go through what they went through.
DeleteThis one in my area has 5 kids and heavily pregnant with another one, they wear rags even to church. Husband is okada rider. Where they live looks like rat house, no toilet, no bathroom, no kitchen. They dug a hole in the back of the house where they poo and also bath at the back of the house. Wife sells little soup ingredients in front of the house. I see this woman and shake my head, she looks so exhausted and weak. I forgot to add that two of her siblings also live with them. One is in Jss1 and the other is in ss1. Those ones serves as househelps, hawking vegetables. Oh their story is very long. I wonder why they can't pity the poor kids and stop having more. In the nearest future, some of the kids will end up as househelps and boy boy somewhere, some may get unwanted pregnancies and marry anyhow while the some of the males may become kidnappers and armed robbers. Don't ask me what their tribe is.
ReplyDeleteChild spacing is good but the complications that arise with some of this family planning methods is what prevents most people from doing it. Some women bleed so much, others get fat, others develop fibroids, I even hear some family planning methods causes cancer. Our men too don't like wearing condoms even the unmarried ones hate it talkless of married ones. So they keep doing it and getting pregnant anyhow. In my aunty's chemist, plenty married women come for D and C and abortion pills and injections. She makes a hell lotta money through them and she is good. She is a nurse in general hospital
ReplyDeleteI'm having all my kids within five years.... Talk and get tired
ReplyDeleteI need to get my grove back...
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ReplyDeleteMama tee I have been waiting for this topic. My own body is touch and catch. If I smell sperm, I will get pregnant. Two failed iuds, only injection work for me but I almost died of when I used it
Lols @ staircase
ReplyDeleteI used breastfeeding as my child spacing. It worked for me. When I stopped breastfeeding, my period will start and then I will take in
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ReplyDeleteSome people are very selfish. They take decisions that end up affecting other people around them.
ReplyDeleteI don't have anything against people refusing to space, but when in a professional environment you go on mat leave and come back pregnant, you're just a terrible person, especially if you are taking advantage of a multinational that has no policy against things like this.
You team members will now be doing their work and your own for up to 2years, because they are trying to keep space for you when you come, so management doesn't notice the gap and employ someone to fill that role.
It happened in my office, and I already work in a high stress role. My team member went on mat leave, and came back pregnant. Before she even went on the my leave, she was always sick, with a difficult pregnancy, so she was out of the office a lot.
My manager trying to be nice kept saying we had to cover her lapses, until she went on Mat leave. Only for her to come back, and not up to 3months sef she was showing big tummy, and we had to go through the same thing again.
It just made me conclude that I don't blame companies that sometimes don't take women for certain roles, or have policies that prevents employees from going for mat leave within a year after coming back from one. it is because of things like this.
No one cares about the decisions you take, as long as they don't affect the people around you.
Am Learning Oh
ReplyDeleteOk noted
ReplyDeleteMama Tee your write-up sounds so judgemental.
ReplyDeleteYou forget that in those days, people got married at a young age and had all the time in the world to space. You don't expect a woman who got married at 35 to space her children for 3 or 4 years when it would get difficult for her to get pregnant.
Also, most women nowadays are career women and want to give birth to all their kids and stress themselves for a few years and then do a permanent family planning. After which they focus solely on work instead of birthing and getting stressed every few years.
In conclusion, whatever choice a woman makes does not warrant condemnation as we don't know what they are going through.
Mind your own business.
After waiting for two years to have my first baby, I don't need spacing. My baby girl is ten months and I just found out two days ago that I am pregy again. I couldn't be more happier.
ReplyDeleteAfter waiting for two years to have my first baby, I don't need spacing. My baby girl is ten months and I just found out two days ago that I am pretty again, I couldn't be more happy.
ReplyDeleteAfter waiting for two years to have my first baby, I don't need spacing. My baby girl is ten months and I just found out two days ago that I am pregy again. I couldn't be more happier.
ReplyDeletecongratulations. ....that's the best thing after waiting so long.
DeleteToo much ira otu these days?
ReplyDeleteBut it looks like what this lady wrote is the reverse.
Abeg what is "bara and sour soup"?
ReplyDeleteSoursop is a fruit. As for bara,I don't know.
DeleteGo to herbs sellers,and tell dem u wnt to buy bara,it look like a very big grape and it hav seed inside like melon,u will cut it like six pieces and use omi dun to cook it,den start drinking it,u can get omi dun frm yoruba pple selling pap,jst tell dem to gv u omidun,it cleanse away infection and u will go to toilet frequently wen taking it.
DeleteI spaced my kids with 2years just like it is with my siblings,we start trying from 19-20months
ReplyDeleteMe I just want to have two kids and that's it. Once I drop this one , I will face my life biko. The whole process is not easy jare..
ReplyDeleteWhen you are younger spacing is acceptable. You can’t be 35 and space your kids. Imagine spacing 2-3 years by the time you are done you will be 45 with 3 kids.
ReplyDeleteMama Tee I always assumed you were older. I guess not.
nice topic..weldon ma
ReplyDeleteNa pikin dey rush us. I offload all at once and rest biko
ReplyDeleteI have been Trying to convince for four years plus now,when God answers me,I am giving birth yearly except I have multiples.I am an only child,I was lonely growing up so I'm going to have two or three kids by his grace.If you have MONEY and good support system,carry Go.See mercy Johnson
ReplyDeleteI Used breastfeeding and it has worked for me. I have 3kids. Now am done with child bearing so I need to do something . Just don't know the best option.
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