STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DESPERATE AND NEEDY..
Good day Stella, I want you to share my story in chronicles.
I am a 25 year old lady, working in the hospitality industry and I am doing well for myself, the last child in a family of 5.
My story begins this way, my last boyfriend broke up with me 2 years ago, he said I was too needy emotionally and I am overly jealous and he couldn't continue the relationship. I have been single since then, fast forward to recently, there’s this guy(Dave) I have known for a while, 7 years now, we weren’t really talking just a few hi hi on whatsapp.
Most of my friends are in a relationship and that really affects me, especially when I see their profile pictures, status and updates, it makes me so sad and angry, I usually fight it by immersing myself in work, that still didn’t work, it really got me to a depressed state.
Recently I found myself watching Dave's status, pictures and I just started falling for him, I sent him a message and we got talking, messages became frequent and it felt so good. I stylishly asked if he was in a relationship, he said no, mind you we don’t leave in the same state. I became so into him that I found myself always wanting to talk to him, like every second literally. I fantasize about him all day, already seeing myself as Mrs Dave.
As a lady, I gave him all the green light to just ask me out, I said everything, he still didn't say the word, I summoned the courage and asked if he would like to date me, he was a little hesitant but I was persuasive, he eventually said he would think about it but in my head we are dating, I know he likes me so much but I am already in love with him.
Here's my problem, I did a bit of thinking , Dave hardly initiates a conversation, I do most of the talking, phone calls, sometimes when I call he doesn't answer, he comes up with excuses like "I was with my boss" "I was in the bathroom" . I think I have a problem and I don’t know how to solve it. Whenever I am with my phone, I always want to have a conversation with him, just want to always be close to him, sometimes, I send messages and it takes him a while to answer, I will just be sending till he responds.
My ex called me "needy" I think I am, I think I am just too desperate to be in a relationship, BTW Dave already asked if we can have sex, normally, I should be upset but I am not, I should be mad at him and even delete his number but I still didn't. I think I am the one in love with him and he just wants to eat the cookie because I was the one that made the move, which I feel I shouldn't have at all, I gave him all the green light and he didn't ask me out till I forced him.
Stella, I need help, how can I stop being needy, how can I stop wanting to be loved and be in a relationship. Should I slow down with Dave or take the risk, I have a conference in his state and he already told me to spend the period with him, I know he wants sex. My head is actually exploding, my fellow BVs, I need help, somebody please talk some sense into me.
Please share.
I am a 25 year old lady, working in the hospitality industry and I am doing well for myself, the last child in a family of 5.
My story begins this way, my last boyfriend broke up with me 2 years ago, he said I was too needy emotionally and I am overly jealous and he couldn't continue the relationship. I have been single since then, fast forward to recently, there’s this guy(Dave) I have known for a while, 7 years now, we weren’t really talking just a few hi hi on whatsapp.
Most of my friends are in a relationship and that really affects me, especially when I see their profile pictures, status and updates, it makes me so sad and angry, I usually fight it by immersing myself in work, that still didn’t work, it really got me to a depressed state.
Recently I found myself watching Dave's status, pictures and I just started falling for him, I sent him a message and we got talking, messages became frequent and it felt so good. I stylishly asked if he was in a relationship, he said no, mind you we don’t leave in the same state. I became so into him that I found myself always wanting to talk to him, like every second literally. I fantasize about him all day, already seeing myself as Mrs Dave.
As a lady, I gave him all the green light to just ask me out, I said everything, he still didn't say the word, I summoned the courage and asked if he would like to date me, he was a little hesitant but I was persuasive, he eventually said he would think about it but in my head we are dating, I know he likes me so much but I am already in love with him.
Here's my problem, I did a bit of thinking , Dave hardly initiates a conversation, I do most of the talking, phone calls, sometimes when I call he doesn't answer, he comes up with excuses like "I was with my boss" "I was in the bathroom" . I think I have a problem and I don’t know how to solve it. Whenever I am with my phone, I always want to have a conversation with him, just want to always be close to him, sometimes, I send messages and it takes him a while to answer, I will just be sending till he responds.
My ex called me "needy" I think I am, I think I am just too desperate to be in a relationship, BTW Dave already asked if we can have sex, normally, I should be upset but I am not, I should be mad at him and even delete his number but I still didn't. I think I am the one in love with him and he just wants to eat the cookie because I was the one that made the move, which I feel I shouldn't have at all, I gave him all the green light and he didn't ask me out till I forced him.
Stella, I need help, how can I stop being needy, how can I stop wanting to be loved and be in a relationship. Should I slow down with Dave or take the risk, I have a conference in his state and he already told me to spend the period with him, I know he wants sex. My head is actually exploding, my fellow BVs, I need help, somebody please talk some sense into me.
Please share.
*WHAT!!!!
what kind of desperation and lack of self respect is this?...My dear you need to stop this at once!!1...Infact i dont know what to tell you
Cut ties with Dave today.
ReplyDeleteStop being desperate
Control your emotions
A worthy man will come
By the time dave finish fucking you ehen ya toto go dey show signal Green light..
DeleteAt 25, so desperate for a man. why? Nawa o. Why don't you focus on building your career atleast, in the process of that you will surely meet young eligible men. Improve on your social life, go out with your girlfriends.
DeleteMust you be in a relationship at all times. I don't just get some women. When this guy chops and cleans mouth now they will say men are SCUM.
I had to go back to check your age again.I am 34 years, single , not in any relationship.I hope God gives me my own man someday in fact soonest but i am not desperate at all.If it please him that i would be Mrs somebody someday so be it, if otherwise....anyhow.
DeletePoster needs therapy, she has daddy abandoment issues, either she had a father who was absent or one who showed no love hence she desperately needs a man's attention positive or negative to feel validated. She will cook, clean, bribe, blackmail, cry, threaten to harm herself just to have and keep a man.
DeleteShe needs therapy to help her address the root cause of her issues and find a healthy way to deal with it, if nor she will keep making the same mistake
Go for counselling my dear. You can't do this on your own, and get to the root cause. You never jam all these 419 and Badoo guys na why you dey still yarn dust. In a nutshell, desperation doesn't pay. Work on your self esteem and learning to be happy with yourself. Embrace God. Nuff said.
DeleteWith the way you're going,he will not only turn you to "onye no nso?" but also to his ATM
DeleteShe needs help and fast. Go for therapy. This gum body is as a result of childhood defect.something happened during her childhood or development age.and she has not let go.
DeleteYou need to be by my side, so that I can be slapping you when you want to disturb him, this guy just wants to sleep with you and he doesn’t even have to lie or woo you.
DeleteAunty delete his number from every place you have saved it and watch... it’s time for him to do the chasing if not move the hell on before you end up more prescious years on a man who doesn’t care
Poster you have read it all however I will add my few cents. Go ahead and date or dickmatize Dave and enjoy it but but but be prepared to discover certain heart breaking secrets about him that has caused him to hold back. And if you do discover those secrets, you know you enjoyed the dickmatization and no strings attached. For those saying she is missing something in her life like the love of a father, a father's love is so different from being in a relationship or being gbenshed pls dont compare this. A father's love cant give you companionship like a lover does biko.
DeletePoster do what you have to do, protect your heart and bring us more chronicles later for there will surely be a rejoinder. Besides is it their ponyor, abegi.
Me I am here looking to be dickmatized as I am so horny, the love of my life is somewhere better appear now and handle this ponyor like only you can do what no man can do.
This sounds like a mental health issue.
DeleteWhat did I just read?...
ReplyDeleteA young girl throwing her self on a man that does not send her?...
In this age and time?..
The only people you should be doing these things to are men that has something to offer you not some riff raff like that your Dave!..
Nne,delete the guy’s contact from your phone!,.
He obviously has someone he is dating!,..
Work on your self!..
Look for men from a zodiac sign like Scorpio and cancer!...
They are the kind of people that like your type!...
Where u go hide?
DeleteSmall girl dey worry her head. Na too much sex cause'am.
Not even dating sef, poster Dave is married, just cut off, before your heart scatter into pieces.
DeleteWelcome back Linda... .
DeletePls, delete Dave number, he will use you and dump you.
Be wise
Lol but you're cancer right? Scorpio men are useless
DeleteYayyyy..u are back. 1000 kisses for you.
DeleteChronicles hasn't been the same without you.
Chief linlin Nwa 042 ibem 😘😍
DeleteYaay! Chronicles, infact Sdk blog has never been the same since you went MIA my Queen and boss chic! Welcome nwanne madu💋💋
DeleteAll hail the Queen 🙌. Na you biko any time, any day
DeleteFirst of all, this is perfect normal behavior. What you have is a crush. Don't be sad about it. It shows you have the capacity to love and your heart is doing the right things. Now get your brain involved too. The guy has indicated he's simply not that into you. Go out and find another
ReplyDeleteNormal kor, she's drank horny goat weed tea.
DeleteBlackberry stopeeeeeeet 😂😂.
DeleteBlackberry 🙆🙆🙆
DeleteTgis BB you get mouth
DeleteDave would bang you to high heavens and leave you desperately looking for more. If you’d agree with me you’d know that men in relationships would hardly agree and say yes when asked if they are in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteYou want to sleep with him, ensure to use protection and don’t expect commitment because he has shown you he is not interested in that. Stop using other people’s watch to check your time, you don’t even know the shit most of these people in relationships you admire are going through. There’s an adage “sha ma dupe ti e” be thankful for what you have, ask God to give you what you want and you may just be surprised you’d meet someone good during your conference. You may not be needy, you’ve just been falling for the wrong type of men. Stop chatting with Dave and block him off but if it’s sex you want then do it the right way and protect yourself. Dave has a serious chick or he is married because I’m sure he’d meet you at your hotel, he won’t invite you to his place.
You are full of wisdom
DeleteIf i were you I'll hold off having sex with him, and watch how things play out, but i know you will still go on and have sex with him, then you'll realise afterwards that he was not that into you.
ReplyDeletePoster, i think you are just horny and need to get dicked real good.
DeletePresident general of desperate girls association! How can you ask a man out? Like igbado the guy? And he said he will think about it? See me shaming on your behalf ,you are desperate and he knows it. He will just fuck you and dump you!
ReplyDeleteDon't visit him
As in ehn, no decency at all
DeleteHahahaha... The yeye guy even told her he will think about it😂 Uwa emebisigo
DeleteLol Amanda Favour,no be small 'ngbado', ife n'eme n'uwa.
DeleteEzigEz I'd think about it. Smh
Delete*ezigbo I'd think about it
DeleteYou need a hobby you can channel all your love, time and attention to. Get a puppy or two. Join a group. Travel. Get busy! You are lucky Dave isn’t the mischievous type because he would have overused your body and soul by now. Remember that you’re a woman and by default na dem suppose rush you not the other way around.
ReplyDeleteNoooo, she will fall in love with d puppy n start carrying it to work.
DeleteB.B. you’re crazy I swear 😂😂😂😂
DeleteI even skipped the part of him already asking for sezzz😂😂😂
Girl, stay woke! You’re the baby of the house so I don’t get where this love and attention starved behavior is coming from.
Lmao blackberry😁😁
Delete@ivannah, dude has seen free congo to shine
Lmao... am very booless at the moment I will be +1 in few days I get depressed sometimes wishing I was in a r/ship with someone I love and love me in return but I won’t do what u are doing Never... baby girl u will b fine leave that guy don’t chat him or call him cos he his not just into you...
ReplyDeletevery soon u will be very happy
Your bodycount go plenty oh, chai... Fuck boys go like you well well
ReplyDeleteNigerian women between the ages of 23 to 27 are the biggest mumus to ever step foot on this planet! {I've noticed that about 90% of all chronicles are written by women within this age group}.
ReplyDeleteThese women mostly reek of desperation!
I can't even fully blame them, when society dictates that they must be married before or by 25!
Poster, I'm not a psychologist but did something happen to you when you were a child? I know a friend like you and I haven't been able to help her. We all need love and care but one should be able to love his own company. When people are the way you are, people will run away. Please maybe you should give this Dave a break although I know your heart really want to be with him.
ReplyDeleteEhya...
ReplyDeleteI think you are just naturally clingy.
But you need to find a man who loves clingy women. That Dave ain't for you.
And stop pressuring yourself unnecessary.
How can you be so desperate and obsessive to the point of asking a man out?
ReplyDeleteGo fuck him so that your body will cool down. Na wa
My dear, you are fine. Nothing is wrong with you. Can I tell you something. Please learn to love yourself more. Self love is key. Start spoiling yourself with good cloths and perfume. Always look breath taking in your own ability. Those people you mentioned there do not love you. When someone loves you it takes little or no effort to reciprocate.
ReplyDeleteDave have seen your desperation and he is trying to take advantage of you. Sex does not mean love.
You want ya tohtoh pounded?
ReplyDeleteNa dat Dave go do am waka
And you go born dat baby oo
No suffocation
I know ur body will not rest until Dave spermatize you.
ReplyDeleteThis ur clingy attitude is another form of skoin skoin.
SPERMATIZE??? LOLZ
DeleteYes o, spermatize her privates with akamu bendel.
DeleteIt is dickmatize, BB 😁
DeletePoster, gbesh him and receive sense. Enjoy!
Spermatize is when they don't use condom, dickmatize is with condom.
DeleteBlackberry kuku kill me.
DeleteMadam pls, leave that guy alone! God will send to you your husband, just focus and trust God, soon your husband will come looking for You!!!
ReplyDeleteIt's possible your upbringing has left you with a deficiency, dunno if you can work through it on your own, but not a bad idea to talk to a psychologist
ReplyDeleteDear, dont try it at all. When you go for the conference in his state, ignore him, dont stay in his place. he just need sex from you. dont be needy, stop all that nonsense, your own man will surely come and dont force yourself on any man
ReplyDeleteShe doesn't have any conference! Shame didn't let her tell is she wants to go and receive Dave's dick. Nne carry enough hotel money cos Dave won't let you stay at his place, his wife and kids are home.
DeleteLmao @18:46
DeleteMy dear you need love and that shows desperation. Instead of putting your head in your job, try and go out after work. Go to cinemas etc and enjoy your self.
ReplyDeleteLove will find you when you least expected. Leave Dave alone. Dave is not single
My
The problem with these kind of people is that they will never take your advice, rather they'd go ahead and do that thing they have in mind.
ReplyDeleteWhat happened to you? Why are you needy and clingy? Did you loose someone close to you? Not an excuse but its a starting point. But this is not healthy at all. You will get into a big mess. If you continue like this.
ReplyDeleteIts not a sin if you are not in a relationship and nothing is wrong with you because others are getting on with relationships.
Build yourself and make yourself ready. You need to see a doctor or a psychologist/counsellor. Or go for counseling where you know you will get good help. But this certainly is not good.
This used to be me. Started from when I was a teenager. I just couldn't understand why guys were not asking me out. So I wrote to our neighbors' sons. Don't know how the letter got to my Mum. The beating eh! Fast-forward to later in life. Of course the guys came calling but none was talking marriage. I got pregnant and got married to one but divorced later with 2children. Back to letter writing to my neighbor-a Pastor. The embarrassment when he came to talk to me and advise me never to write such letter to a man again! Did that stop me? For where! but next time I didn't write but actually asked the guy out over phone. He lived in another state. I gave money, I gave sex, I gave everything. He made me believe he was also in love. After 2years relationship I lost a family member and the loss moved me close to God. My life changed and one day I just realized I was being used. Poster please get close to God. I am married today to a man that wooed me for a very long time before I said yes. See how he adores me till date!
ReplyDeleteThe best advice. There is a void and you are looking to fill it and that is why you are like this.
DeleteNever fill this kind of void with human relationship or you will always be mistreated. Get to know God more,give your life to Christ,find some work to always do in the church. Combined with your work,you won't know when this disease is healed. I also was like this.
Jeze it is time for women t not equate sex with love. if you are horny and want to sleep with the guy do that and move on. There is nothing even wrong in fantasizing as long as you know what is real! I was had such a crush on my client as in massive crush o. Every night his name was the last on my lips. I dressed to kill every time we had a meeting. But guess what i was so professional he had no idea sef. u know y cos i knew i was just fantasizing to pass away time!
ReplyDeleteNa man de chase woman and even if the woman wan do the chasing, make sure that after a short while, he done collect the baton from you. If he doesn't, find your way.
ReplyDeleteThis talk of loving one's self is real. Not to console you sha but your friends might be having their own relationship struggles but won't say anything to you.
Instead of you to be envious and bitter, be happy for them and remove your mind from finding a man real quick. This will curb your desperation.
Trust me, most guys will find you needy and clingy when they don't love and want to be with you as much.
I thank God that you were at least able to appraise your stand with this guy. Stay away from him!
Mrs.. DAVE WANNABE🤡
ReplyDeleteDon't worry I have reserved a space on SDK for your next chronicle crying that Dave broke your heart into pieces after eating the cookies you shamefully offered him oooo.
Don't come telling us men are evil meanwhile your mother and father didn't raise you better to love yourself and be chaste.
I can't believe such desperation. Be yourself or visit. Psychologist.
🚶🏽🚶🏽🚶🏽🚶🏽Walking out majestically from daughters of Jezebel 🚶🏾♀️🚶🏾♀️🚶🏾♀️
Change your name,your comments defines you as child of doctrine and not child of God.
DeleteThis lady realises her weakness,all she wants is solution and not condemnation. If you don't know what to say,please shut your mouth. Be compassionate,it is one of the things that should qualify you as a child of God.
love your response
DeleteYou have a problem poster!
ReplyDeleteWhy do you feel jealous and fall into depression just because your friends updates their Facebook and WhatsApp status?
You have to pray against and deliver yourself from the spirit of jealousy.
You are insatiable, you are desperate and also very controlling. You want people to do things your way.
Why are you throwing yourself to Dave... Someone that probably have a girlfriend/wife. You are falling in love with him, just by seeing his picture. The guy will soon gather mind and travel all the way to where you are; he will then have sexual intercourse with you and dump you like a piece of rag, then you will go on social media and start screaming the infamous line of, men are scum.
You will seek for sympathisers and you will forget to take responsibility for your actions.
You better take a deep breath in and out, work on your self-esteem and confidence. Face your job and keep looking good, the right man for you will come your way before you know it; just make sure you recognize him when he comes knocking on your door.
I was once like this. I got married and the man show me pepper cos he knew how clingy I was. Any little argument, he will reject food, move out for days and even months. I got tired of begging and I DECIDED enough is enough.
ReplyDelete1. Talk to yourself babe. Own your happiness
2. Find a hobby and be involved
3. Cast your care on God, He truely cares
4. FORGET about Dave and any relationship for now UNTIL you are in a better place emotionally. God gat you Sis!
Note: I'm still married to the same man, and he still thinks am cheating cos I DONT
need his permission to be happy again
This is exactly my story...lets talk. I need a friend.
DeleteOMG!!! Pity dating!!! The guy pities you that's why he agreed. Plus you'd be free extra fuck. What is wrong with you?! Did you lack love as a child. Godforbid! And here I am thinking I am needy because I want to talk to my boyfriend just once a day. He feels talking everyday is unnecessary especially if we texted in the day. Me I don't like texting at all. So we try to alternate and sometimes I beat myself up for wanting to talk to him when it's texting days! Sorry I just deviated. But seriously girl what is this nah?! Please take pride in yourself. You won't die if you don't date him. You seem really immature for a 25 year old. If a 19 year old girl wrote this, I might let it go but 25?? Mba!!! I think the problem is that you have a lot of free time. Anytime you find yourself enthralled with him(which apparently is everytime), pick a book and read, watch CNN(trust me you will be sad in secs) or go out. Respect yourself and your future partner. The funny thing is that when your cerebral cortex rearranges itself, you would be digusted by yourself in future. You won't even imagine you let yourself loose because of a POS that did not value you. Any way do better. I'm slightly younger than you and I understand that it can get lonely sometimes but remember pictures are not realities, they are just a snapshot in time. Besides I have a boyfriend and I still get lonely from time to time and also I get quite sad for no reason once in a while too. So really it's not about boyfriend.Live your life! The best is yet to come, man or no man.
ReplyDeleteYou are same as poster but just that she is better. How? She realises she has a problem and aired it for counselling but in your case,you have not realised it.
DeleteI pray you will be humble enough to advice your yourself and pick the best advice up there.
Love and kisses.
Honestly 16:19, your relationship is worse. WTF is texting days?
DeleteLmao!!! See you people. I am the anon 16:19. Same as poster? Then I definately did a terrible job communicating. I did not chase my boyfriend, he chased me for 4 years. I don't like texting, he does, he is not a talking person,I am. We as in the both of us decided we would text and call depending on our schedule for the day. I said nothing about the state of my relationship. So how you guys deciphered that my relationship is better or worse I have no idea. Boyfriend that has been begging me to marry him for the last 19months. Boyfriend and his family that have introduced themselves to mine and is eager to set wedding but I am peristent that I want to be done with grad school first. Our relationship is long distance and he has begged me countless times to move to his State for grad school and I have said no countless times because long distance relationships suit me. Hmmm! This is why it is not good to assume. Next time ask me to clarify one or two things before going on to comment. I think I am clingy when I am "can we talk instead of text", my mans thinks I need to be more "woman" and loosen up and do some lady like things whatever that means. Guys calm titties.lol @your relationship is worse and she realizes she has a problem. I am 100% my I have got love on my side. Kisses y'all
DeleteDo you know that you have a bigger problem than the poster of todays Chronicle. You are in a relationship where u have to seek permission to call and have dictated calling and texting days. My dear relationship without communication is not a relationship. Na wa o. I go call my man some days i no fit call but text and he is in a relationship with who? As God he is. I can only respect his work hours after that nothing else.
DeleteDo you know that you have a bigger problem than the poster of todays Chronicle. You are in a relationship where u have to seek permission to call and have dictated calling and texting days. My dear relationship without communication is not a relationship. Na wa o. I go call my man some days i no fit call but text and he is in a relationship with who? As God he is. I can only respect his work hours after that nothing else. nne you never find man when u do he won't treat you like trash with time table.
DeleteI'm sorry I have to agree. Wtf is texting days. That he wants to marry doesn't mean he loves you. Maybe it's marrying day
DeleteAnon 18:25 Texter. Many men have done what you wrote up there and still turned out to be fraudsters. You may think the guy is abovr board but texting only in a relationship is not normal. When a guy loves you, he'll always want to hear your voice. Better snoop and don't be taken by surprise
DeleteLol!! It's me again! The poster 16:19 @anon 18:58 who knows maybe its marrying day, you never can tell. Maybe he loves me, maybe he does not. Again you would never know. @flamboyant bv if you call how he treats me trash and I feel this way then maybe somewhere deep down I am masochist and I love to be treated like trash. Maybe this is the version of love I like and enjoy. So It's okay as long as I am not experiencing a reduction in my quality of life and not sending y'all chronicles. Oh we communicate honey and that's why we decided on doing things the way we do it. I actually suggested we do it this way. Like I said I despise texting , that probably flew over your heads.If he treats me like trash then I am loving it. Let it continue as it is. Concentrate on the Chronicle sender who is in a dilemma. Nekwe Nigerian women talking about relationships lmao. A society that pays bride price and thinks the man is the "head of the home" and the woman is the neck lmao!!! Let my trash be. I definitely fair better with my own trash taking and loving it than the cock most of you take in the name of marriage or relationships.We would all be fine. Smiles!
DeleteTexting days means there is a routine. Why you gonna stick to a routine when you are so much in love.
DeleteWho is even counting how many times you all call each other? Almost like a sex time table. Very strange something.
@iphie dearie but some couples have sex time table nah. The same way people have food time table or just visiting time table. Is routine bad? They have reached a middle ground nah. Me I don't see how what they are doing makes her like the poster. My own is actually the opposite, I hate talking on phone and my fiance knows this. We are always texting though and we skpe sometimes too but if I am not seeing your face, then I don't want to talk. My fiance usually texts first and then he would ask if I am less busy or at home and then he would call me on skype. I don't understand what is strange really. Some people just like routine in their lives. Some couples even make time table for who is going to cook and clean. How is that so different? Love or not some people need routine especially if you people are no longer in the early stages of the relationship. Abi am I missing something about this comment? Me I don't see anything wrong. She didn't say she or the man were struggling to keep the relationship or she was unhappy in the relationship. She said she feels clingy when she deviates from their agreed routine. I really don't think it's strange. Every couple does what works best for them. Some couples have joint account and some don't. I am strongly against joint acct and my fiance wants joint acct, only for people to be telling him what you guys are telling this poster, that it is strange, she doesn't love you, she doesn't want the marriage to last, she has money she doesn't want you to know about etc but every body has conveniently forgotten when I was working and he was in school and I was taking care of him with my money. Poster of comment you better do you ejo. As long as you are happy. Don't let these comments get to you jare. Routine is not bad and your compromise is valid.
DeleteWhat sort of useless relationship is that? Texting days kwa! And it’s even long distance relationship!! Forget all that he wants to marry me bullshit, I am sure he has other babes that call him during your useless texting days, he is controlling and manipulative!! A man who loves u would want to hear your voice everyday, you are stilll a kid and won’t understand
DeleteYours is worse o. What’s texting days
DeleteChai! Lmao!
DeleteDear Poster
ReplyDeleteHow was the relationship with your dad ? Was he there for you emotionally? How was childhood? I just want to get to the root of the problem. I am not interested in bashing you and cannot call you needy and desperate just because one guy called you that years ago and you started calling yourself that.
Your desire to be in a relationship is normal, every woman desires that especially the tough cookies on this blog so nothing is wrong with you. A lot of women have also made the first move and asked a guy out, it still does not make you needy or desperate but here is the fact, be careful and recognize that some women are late bloomers in relationship meaning they get a lot of attention when they are older as opposed to when they are younger so do not force it if it is not what you want else the relationship will leave you doubting yourself more than ever.
You will meet a man when you least expect it and that man will court you, love you, love your neediness and all , there is someone for somebody out there.
Don't let the opinion of a many years ago relationship affect your thought process but keep working on yourself and you will meet your king and you will know what love is.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Don't I just love u? Poster,pls take this advice.
DeleteXoxo Mystery, wisdom will not kill you.
DeleteKing xoxo for president 👏 You’re a woman of wisdom.
DeletePoster, allow these words to soak in and try to assimilate it all.
Best advice ever seen on This blog!
DeleteBest advice ever
DeleteI love this
See the way you are rushing Dave? give your self a little worth, your self esteem is Zero, at least you have a good job,thank God for your life,some of your friends will be praying to have your kind of job or you think everyone has it all, do you know their struggle?because they update happy moments online doesn't mean all is well with them, ask yourself if giving yourself cheaply to Dave is what you really want, get hold of your self and stop lusting after someone that doesn't give a damn about you, I hope you receive sense and cut off with him immediately before you weep bitterly.
ReplyDeletei typed something really long and harsh just now, but we all make mistakes so i will erase it.
ReplyDeleteYou need to delete his number, and give yourself time to discover you.
Take up a project, start learning a new skill.
Something that will occupy your time, so that you stop being so disgustingly needy and desperate.
I am already irritated and I'm not even the guy, so imagine how he must be feeling.
You always typing something harsh and rude despite all the corrections you get to change your manner of approach. Hope you are not like this in real life?.
DeleteDear Poster, Dave must be married or in a serious relationship. He only wants sex and he is not hiding it. The fear of STDs should scare you sef. He isn't really interested in you.
ReplyDeleteLove yourself and move close to God.
Exercise, dress well, be happy, smile and hang out more often and the right person will come your way. The one that loves your "clinginess".
Having a feeling to be in love and to be loved is normal but its mere stupidity to throw your self to a man that does not have any feeling but lust for you.
ReplyDeletePoster, be happy for your friends' relationships and wait for your turn. Yours will eventually come. But you have to work on your emotional loneliness by loving yourself more and having high self esteem not pride. Meditate, read , talk to your self when the urge comes.
Dave, is not interested in you but only after your body. Do you hear me? So, don't accuse him of dumping you after enjoying your cookie because he would definitely drop you like trash and you're much more than that. Give your self brain.
Delete him from your heart straight into the recycling bin. You're strong and capable. Be positive and allow God to help you to be connected to your real man not fake one.
Desperado. You can travel and get “down” as much as you like. Indulge girl!!!!
ReplyDeleteWhen you get back and he totally blocks you from his life, please don’t send in another chronicles of how he used and dumped you though I’m sure that your brain will reset properly after that.
babe slow down. we all get that rush in a new relationship but sadly in your case the guy is not into you. if he was he would have been the one asking trust me...to find out why you are the way you are just look back on your childhood. were you deprived of attention as a kid? what was your relationship with your parents? not all lastborns were pampered..channel your energy to doing other creative things so you learn to be happy with yourself and enjoy your singleness.good to be in a relationship but if you have non yet learn to be happy. the disadvantage of your kind of person now is that guys will take a lot of advantage and you might end up being rejected for being too clingy again.. i pray you are able to work on your self and find love again. as for this dave FORGET HIM AND DELETE
ReplyDeleteforgot to add ALOT OF PEOPLE FAKE IT ONLINE, SO ENVY NO ONE
ReplyDeleteJust sleep with dave with protection, your body will come down....
ReplyDeleteIt begins with loving yourself and knowing that your worth is far above rubies..Only few men will take you serious in this part of the world when you throw yourself on them.
ReplyDeleteWhy feel sad that your friends are in a relationship? You are stealing todays happiness by allowing the "supposed " happiness of your friends make you sad.
Why not be happy for the things that are working in your life & watch other things fall in place.
Good luck in your search for love.
Poster get a hold of your self and kill that connection between you and Dave. You are a good lady that wants love and is ready to love with her life staked on the line and its not bad. Just know Dave is not the right man. And learn how to be strategic when it comes to you showing your feelings. Because some men won't be as merciful as Dave who is trying to turn you down and still take advantage of you. Most men will lead you on and useless you. They will turn you into an emotional, psychological and physical wreck (turn you into a damaged goods).you feel you are depressed?,trust me by the time they are done with you a mad woman will be far better than you. Hold your heart for the right man. Love your self the more and keep up the success and achievement. No man is worth it. We men will slow you down and destroy every thing good in you and turn you into a beast.
ReplyDeleteToh! Nick yaff said it all
Delete@Anon This is not normal, Its creepy.
ReplyDeletePlease enroll for a higher course in Hospitality since its your field... It will take your mind off these things.
Don’t call Dave again. I repeat, Don’t call Dave.
my dear am a victim,run for your dear life.we used to be close friends,he bouhgt me suprise gift,i fel for him and he got me pregnant ,my worst night mer.we got maried and that is the root of my dipression
ReplyDeleteDear poster nothing is wrong with you, u just need a companion, but definitely with the wrong person. Remove your mind from him, learn to love yourself more so you dnt become sad thinking no one loves you. Love will find you when u least expect it. Please love yourself too much mbok.
ReplyDeleteThis Dave guy would fuck u and leave u. I know u won’t take any advice here and u would still sleep with him but use a condom. If I were u I would painfully let him go cos it’s better u don’t have sex with him nd keep ur pride than do it with him and he dumps u.. he just wants to sleep with u, he has someone that means a lot to him
ReplyDeletePoster you have read it all however I will add my few cents. Go ahead and date or dickmatize Dave and enjoy it but but but be prepared to discover certain heart breaking secrets about him that has caused him to hold back. And if you do discover those secrets, you know you enjoyed the dickmatization and no strings attached. For those saying she is missing something in her life like the love of a father, a father's love is so different from being in a relationship or being gbenshed pls dont compare this. A father's love cant give you companionship like a lover does biko.
ReplyDeletePoster do what you have to do, protect your heart and bring us more chronicles later for there will surely be a rejoinder. Besides is it their ponyor, abegi.
Me I am here looking to be dickmatized as I am so horny, the love of my life is somewhere better appear now and handle this ponyor like only you can do what no man can do.
Cut all ties with Dave. He does not want you. Not every guy must want you. Just as you dont want to be with all men, not all men will want you for more than sex. These women that you are envying, half are miserable and sharing their boyfriends with other women. How do you stop being needy? Give yourself time off relationships, LOVE YOURSELF AND YOUR COMPANY. love is beautiful and when you are not desperate, the right one will find you. Your present attitude will however frustrate a good man because you have nothing to offer but neediness and neediness is irritating to everyone not just us men.
ReplyDeleteLearn to love yourself! By yourself and then no one will treat you like an option as Dave is treating you. Your first boyfriend was probably suffocated with the neediness and ran for air. He was smart. No one wants to be another's all in all, that is not a position for a human to occupy. Love yourself and you will be fine. How can you do this? With some deep reflection, alone time and serious prioritizing of your growth as an individual.
We all need love and attention. Relationship without communication is dead I advice you let Dave be because he is not interested.
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