Hmmmmmm,I really dont blame her cos a lot of people got burnt towing this route the man is bringing her way.......what do you say?ever happened to you and you got burnt?
Friday, August 24, 2018
Marriage And Finances.....
Not everyone likes to know they will be sharing their hard earned monies with their new spouse when they Marry........................
Hmmmmmm,I really dont blame her cos a lot of people got burnt towing this route the man is bringing her way.......what do you say?ever happened to you and you got burnt?
Hmmmmmm,I really dont blame her cos a lot of people got burnt towing this route the man is bringing her way.......what do you say?ever happened to you and you got burnt?
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Call off the wedding please..
ReplyDeleteI watched a programme where they live in the US and the man is a foreigner from the Caribbean's. He got green card through the wife. They are just doing okay, living in a one bedroom flat, the lady is in nursing school studying and working also, the guy too is doing an okay job. They both put money together to pay bills.
DeleteMeanwhile this guy is paying for a nice 3bedroom flat in Jamaica for the mother and sister, he sends them money monthly, he will send them big plasma screen TV that they don't even have in their own house. He hardly buys anything for the wife, even the engagement ring she wanted, he claimed he cant afford it and got smthn cheaper.
His sister was coming to visit them in the US he told the wife a day before and she found out he paid for the sisters ticket to US. The wife was angry that in their two years of dating that she always visited him in his country, he never payed her ticket once.
Some men if you don't put your foot down, you will continue to work like a slave while him and his family enjoy the money.
Gbam
DeleteYou do realise the money he sents to Jamaica is a stipend judging by the currency . Just saying
DeleteStipend indeed yet he does not buy anything for his wife.And nobody is saying he shouldn't take care of his family but at least take care of your home too.
DeleteThis reminds me of an uncle I met on one of the SnM. Lazy dude who lied about his career claiming to be in a business whereas he's a sit at home dude living off his siblings, even lied to this relatives that he's a contractor where as nothing. Thank God for my snooping prowries. the little time I spent with him was unpleasant & stressful Jesus!
DeleteMtsheeeeew
I run a business while he does nothing and willing to do nothing. I sat down one cold morning and looked at myself through the mirror and asked myself some pertinent questions, I had to borrow myself fresh brain and end the courtship, to think we were planning marriage this is how I would have walked into that marriage blindfolded all bcos a sister want to marry SMH.
Who will be feeding the family me? While he does what? nothing! Or seat at home father.
Ladies,
Don't ever settle for less📢
& say NO to long distance relationship 📢📢
Anonymous 18:12, it's the Dominican Republic, not Jamaica. The programme is 90 days to wed. That guy and his family are up to no good. Chantell needs to borrow some brain and divorce his selfish and greedy ass
DeleteJust tell him to buy house for his parents with his money if u don't want him using part of urs or are u against that too???
ReplyDeleteIt's only people that don't have parents that sacrificed for them or people that are outrightly wicked that would expect someone not to take care of their parents
Haa. See the man's plans abeg.
DeleteNobody is saying he should not take care of his parents. The problem is that he’s planning to use her money to take care of them. They’re not married yet and he’s already planning what her money will go towards once they get married. If a woman did this now, people will call her a gold digger. How can you be planning to build a house for your parents with your wife’s money? Is she even sure he lives her like this or it’s just the extra money he tends to gain from her after marriage? Didn’t a similar thing happen to yesterday’s chronicle poster’s sister? Except they weren’t married yet and he dumped her with pregnancy when she lost her job
DeleteThis Eka Joy sef🙄
DeleteEka Joy made the most sense here
Deleteplease, do u have a beta understanding of d post?
Deletebiko!!!try n read again n again; digest thoroughly b4 u comment
she neva said or wrote dt d guy shldn't spend 4 his family....
d said guy sef is fond of claiming no kudi,owo,ego,money...
Deletey is he even hiding it sef in d first place?
DeleteThe faster you call it off the better for you...That man is a gold digging bastard.....God forbid....On top my hard earned money....Chukwu ajuuuuuuu
ReplyDeleteBut you won't see anything wrong if he decide to use his own money to buy properties for your parents?
DeleteSky, yes I wouldn’t see anything wrong with it because he would be doing it of his own free will. If he uses all my money to take care of his parents, what will I use to take care of mine? Plus, how is this even a thing for goodness sakes? How can a responsible man be eying his wife’s money to build for his parents? Must he build if he doesn’t have the money yet? He was even planning on how To spend her money without her consent, she actually found out because she overheard his conversation. That man is an irresponsible, calculating gold digger. She needs to run far before she becomes a perpetual chronicler in her marriage. That man definitely had more upbhis sleeves too.
DeleteSky Laundry abeg use your wife's money and build estate for your father and mother. Keep your own money in your pocket as a smart guy that you is.
DeleteAfter all, your father and mother trained her too abi?
But a responsible lady would expect a man to build for her parents? Abeg leave matter..as e dey sweet woman, na so e dey sweet man.
DeleteWhich women do you know are waiting on their hind legs for their husbands to build houses for their own parents??? Seriously? Lollll
DeleteDude upgrade your circle of acquaintances.
You can't be wallowing with worms and expect to soar with eagles.
You can equally tell him you wanna buy a property for your parents too, and wanna save for an investment.
DeleteHe is marrying her because she's financially stable, he says especially when the money is for his parents, what happens if she doesn't have a job anymore, will he still support her to set up or acquire something for her parents,someone should kindly refer her to yesterday's chronicle, as for my money and my DH's money, they all belong to my account. 😁😁😁😁
ReplyDeleteEverybody go into relationship or marriage for one or more benefits..
DeleteThere is no issue with your money being his money. The issue here is not discussing with you before discussing with his parents.
ReplyDeleteAnd please do not talk about love if you can't share the least of your resources with someone.
Love is not selfish.
Love means sacrifice and if you are not ready for sacrifice, do not marry only to pack it up.
Is the person worth the sacrifice? That is d question women who sacrifice their life to save man should be asking themselves. Love is not selfish and love is not foolish either.
Delete15:43..God bless you.
DeletePlease watch 'Acrimoney'.
DeleteThis money thing is always an issue in marriage. I believe in sharing but this one up here no follow, he sounds like someone dat will have a joint account with his wife and spend 70% without telling her! I always prefer d man richer abeg, i no want ds kin trouble
ReplyDeleteThank God you have a preference..respect the man's preference too. He prefer the woman richer. Live and let live.
DeleteIf he prefers the woman richer then he is a lazy man.I am not against both of them putting resources together to build their home BUT for the man hoping he will use the woman's resources to build a house for his parent wont work.She does not have parent too?He should use his own money to take care of his parent.
DeleteUna never marry, una don already start to fight over moni issues. Na this leg nama go carry climb mountain?
ReplyDeleteKiikiiiiiiii I earned more was miss independent before I noticed most of his income was going to side chicks not even his parents or relatives.
ReplyDeleteNa so I turn Mrs dependent sharply. .so tey I no fit even buy cotton buds with my money
If side chic gets 150 k I write a new business proposal for 450k lool
Cunny man die cunny man Bury am...my kids have more than enough to live on..in these Buhari times I and side chic will suck you dry till you turn to kpanla and your wandering dick decides to settle down. ..
Sharp woman!
DeleteBased on this your comment the Catholic Church will pray that your soul will be accommodated in the purgatory when you have passed on. Chinwe Uban
DeleteAnon 15:44 I love you 😘😍👏💯
DeleteYour own case is reasonable...I won't support a cheating spouse and I'll do same thing if I were in your shoes.
DeleteChinwe pray tell what does your comment mean I'm not Catholic
DeleteThis one is hard
ReplyDeleteMy husband's money is my but my money is my money
ReplyDeleteGot it?????
Lols...*singing* 🎤🎸🎷🎼 your money, your body na my own.
DeleteHaha marriage marriage you have to compromise
ReplyDeleteThe man should buy his parents a house before getting married. How can he even say that?, goshhh!!!!!
ReplyDeleteAll the unmarried or those having marital issues are the ones chanting call it off
ReplyDeleteOnce a girl is not married, she does not wish another girl to marry; why?
Once a girl is not a virgin, she persuades others to lose it; why?
Once a girl has aborted, she wants every other girl to do same; why?
You see them persuade like their lives depend on it being done.
You dey mind dem
DeleteSky go and find somewhere to sit abeg!you are obviously broke that's why this post is paining you. Why will you plan to finance your parents house with the hope of other burdens resting on me without my consent. Oshisco pataki
DeleteExactly what I had in mind, if his not a broke ads gold digger, this post for no dey pain am reach bone marrow.
DeleteI’m married and I’m advising to call it off fast!!!! That man that has already budgeted somebody else’s money even without her consent is a gold digger and not a responsible man at all. No woman will be fulfilled with a man who uses a woman’s money to provide for his parents. His pride should not let him even consider that route to start with. Even his parents should discourage such if they’re decent people. But then, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree........
DeleteLollll, does 17:48 sound like someone who has 2 naked coins to rub together.
DeleteAlways sounding so hungry and thirsty.
Stupid 20:08, you think it's by coming online to hype? That's why you will always be disappointed...oga eme gi vuum na anya!
DeleteLolll, the hungry scrawny soul still came back to insult his forbears!!!
DeleteLmaooo.
Me I use my internet time wisely.
I can't insult you.
You are beneath me.
He should use his money n do d purchase.
ReplyDeleteUntil ur account red, such men won't stop using style to collect from u.
I am telling you o. Wicked Man.... .
DeleteSome times men have a way of making plans with a woman's money.Thank God,he said it ahead of time.Let he learn to look years ahead,many of them live for the day.When a man tells you to contribute by running day to day expenses,while he takes care of rent and projects,he could buy that house without your knowing.
ReplyDeleteWhy would he take such a decision without discussing it with her? What kind of mentality is that? How about her own parents?
ReplyDeleteI do think think she has a roblem with taking care of his parents but it's the sheer entitlement of the eholw idea. Sounds like she won't have a say in that house.
The only problem I see here like you stated is not discussing the matter with the lady before telling his parents.
DeleteSee as shame leave Sky dey catch me. So you can boldly use your wife's money to build for your parents? Dude you are shameless.
DeleteMy husband can not build for my parents oh, I won't allow it.Why should I? Very ridiculous!!
Tomorrow when she ridicules you and your parents you will be wondering why when you sold yourself cheap.
I'm on this Table somehow. No strength to type abeg
ReplyDeletePlease come and gist us na.... Amebo na work 😀
DeleteGod will help our marriage, but man are d the head,woman are just helpers
ReplyDeleteLemme go anonymous I have never and will never tell any man I am dating or getting married to how much I am worth I have millions stacked in two fixed accounts I have a reasonable sum in my savings for my upkeep I drive a 2010model car I bought myself but still bill my man like madt I rather use my money for my family and friends than for a man biko
ReplyDeleteWhere you see money? My friend go and drink your garri and stop daydreaming
DeleteIm not this anon 15.57 but our stories are very similar, you people think everyone coming on SDK is poor. Liven up.
DeleteI also have inherited money, I have millions in fixed deposits and treasury bills. These are mostly from property sale and rents from our family property we all inherited. my father was wealthy. This is asides my 9/5 job.
My fiancé knows nothing about this, I live a simple life, live well but not flashy. I learnt my lesson the hard way when I told an ex about this money and he kept bothering me to borrow him for business. This guy had another girl he wanted to marry in US and used my money for his business there. By the time my family got wind of this, he sold his car and returned my money if not they threatened with police. I was just 21 still in school and gave a man 5m. stupid me
Since then men don't know my worth, my fiancé still sends me money when my salary is finished, pays for my dstv and sends me credit. When we get married I don't plan to even tell him, or just lie the money is like 3m. Let a man know your worth and they wont do nada for the home.
Even my sister is experiencing this, after the man pays rent and pay school fees, he expects her to feed the home alone, clothe the kids,pay bills, buy diesel, up to the extent she hardly can buy nice things for herself. This expenses you think are small adds up, food stuff, diesel, car maintenance, SMA, diapers, toiletries, school supplies, snacks aren't cheap.
I got advice here where I was told to either get a new email for my investment or set a reminder and delete statement on maturity date.
16:20 😁😁😁...
Deleteanon 16:20 I guess poverty has dried up your brain you think everyone is here for Giveaway?btw I will be 29this year had my first degree 2011 and another 2016 mind you I didn't inherit anything from anyone.jelous lowlife
DeleteI almost supported the lady but on a second thought, I remembered that ladies do this everyday and everywhere to their husbands and fiance and nobody complains. Why can't it be both sides?
ReplyDeleteI tire o! Is it not here we read how men are buying properties for ladies both home and abroad? And a man wanted to same thing yet he is being crucified.
DeleteSky biko let's hear word like you won't be angry if your woman made plans with your money without your knowledge or even discussing it with you
DeleteSky where did your dignity wander off to?
DeleteLater una go dey weep like babies say una wife no dey respect una.
Oya na go and sell your birthright, Uncle Esau
Ladies do it too and nobody raises eyebrows. Why can't it be both sides? Let's not be quick to judge. What is good for the geese, is good for the gander!
ReplyDeleteMarriage o... Reason why that "I am not yet ready for marriage" guys quickly get ready once they see a well to do Lady. Nne be careful with him, you seems to be the helper he has been praying for. I like his sense of remembering his parents sha, but julu ajulu.
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing wrong with it..ladies shines teeth and opens jar when they see a loaded man too.
DeleteYeah good thing he remembered his parents but how dare he plans on his fiancee's income without telling her? Why can't you buy your parents a house without getting her involved or save till you are able to afford it?
DeleteAbegiii,I can't deal. Men like these are only after one because of financial stability, thief.
Hmmmm I ended a relationship because of ish like this. The man said I had the right to spend MY money on my family without informing him first. MY money not money he gave me oh! Broke ass man. Mschew.
ReplyDeleteA man that wants peace in his house should understand that if he makes $70k and his wife makes $115k, the total money in the house is $70k not $185k. It's trouble planning with a woman's money, just trouble.
ReplyDeleteThis is savage, saw it on another blog on this same topic.
Settle your parents and siblings before marriage. Then render help once in awhile. They trained you. Yes it is their responsibility. Parents should stop overbearing influence on their children. Once married, they should understand that it is two strangers with two different backgrounds struggling hard to make things work. I love you to share my resources with you but not with your parents/siblings. I will support and help but it will not be an obligation.
ReplyDeleteThank you for saying my mind.
DeleteMen are wicked and let me tell you why.I forgot what I wanted to say.
ReplyDeleteLol...werey!😁
DeleteMan makes $75k pre-tax. She makes $115k pre-tax. They are both poor and should combine their incomes to stay afloat. Not kneeling down for the traditional wedding is showing that she has no respect for the man. Tinubu, El Rufai, etc bowing to Buhari or Kings/emirs does not mean they need anything from them just respect of their position.
ReplyDeleteDunno why y'all like feeling like what u are not. How's someone that makes 115k a year poor? That's over 9k a month. And u call that person poor?
DeleteJust shut the fuck up. It's not like u are Dangote's child. Rubbish upon ingredient
Yes 9k pre-tax is poor. Take it or leave it. You are probably converting it to naira. That's the problem
DeleteEka Joy. You are extremely rude and crude. 16:57 did not insult you. Why the insult? Not everyone is stricken by poverty or can identify with it. Dangote is not the only rich person in Nigeria, but you wouldn't anything about that would you? Swine.
DeleteIt's a big fat lie, 9k pretax is not poor. Goan sit down jare. What is the poverty line for US thst you are coming here to yarn balls. Rest abeg. We don see u wey dey earn 50k per month
DeleteLol. @Eka Joy. 9k is a lot of money for you is another person's night in a club. The person's night in a club can be Dangote's suya money. Water get levels. Stop crying more than the bereaved. The person didn't insult you but it seems that frustration is worrying you.
DeleteMoney will always be an issue in many marriages where it's a business venture and not a partnership venture like God ordained it. The truth is what is the husband's is the wife's and vice versa. The two shall become one and everything is one including money,materials,loses and gains. But what you have in most marriages is two selfish people trying to outsmart each other in taking their money. The story given there is wrong in all angles. The guy is stupid,selfish,inconsiderate and a gold digger. He is thinking of using what is meant for the two of them for his own benefit alone. I have been married for almost 20years and I can tell you that everything I own belongs to US....properties,cars, investment and business carries both our names. I feel like crying when I hear husband and wife argue about whose name should be on a property document. It's so embarrassing. Let me state here that the first good sign of a marriage that will be successful is when you start behaving like you are one. You buy a property or something valuable and you just put your spouse's name on the document without even asking him or her. Nothing is more reassuring by the actions of oneness. Ladies especially feel their money is theirs but that's because they know the married someone they can't trust and the are in the marriage just to Carry the MRS title.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha, it’s really act like one! It’s like you’ve never met Nigerian men
DeleteYou obviously have some points..
DeleteToo many red flags. How can you not know your fiancé is the one supporting his parents? Secondly buying a house is not a small venture so him planning to buy one even with his money is something i should know. Thirdly discussing your finances with his parents makes me wonder what else he is telling people. Again too many red flags, makes me feel uncomfortable
ReplyDeleteThe guy did wrong
ReplyDeleteHe's not married to her yet and he has concluded that the wife to be money is theirs, gold-digger...
ReplyDeleteThe man should better buy the house for his parents before the marriage, my money is my money, my husband's money is our money, I can help him or loan him if he wants.
ReplyDeleteLols..wehdon. You don enter one chance.
DeleteMy own is my boyfriend should do and marry me so I can use his money to buy my mum a car. He earns more than I do. So I'm just waiting for the wedding.
ReplyDeleteThat's not bad, if it works for you, it can as well work for anyone else whether man or woman.
DeleteHahahahahahahaha
ReplyDeleteYam never done, e don dey plan how to chop am. Hahahahahahahahahahah 'sharp' guy!
The moment this babe loses her job(God forbid) n war be dat o. Mr hubby wey dey use harmonica sing for am go feed am raw ata rodo sauce.
The issue is not buying house for parents etc. The issue is you are already making plans without the others person's buy in or input.
Hubby hasnt bothered to ask of buy in, because nigga don't really don't care.
After he purchases the house, there will be other properties, school fees, cars etc to buy and they must all come from her money. Otherwise madam go hear wien.
Even when a woman marries a richer man, doesn't she 'work' for the money? Spreading legs 360 degrees,even when she doesn't want to all in a bid to keep the man happy, cleaning house, birthing kids, nursing nanny, etc etc.
This one, what is he bringing to the table apart from a limp dick like overipe plantain and greedy aspirational already drawing e scel sheet of how they will buy his parents a house. Her own parents nko? Na umbrella go be their shade???
Beware of gold diggers o, they will suck you dry and bounce you when they've gotten as much as they can.
You and ground zero will now be embracing yourselves with love.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏you have a way with words! Love you already
DeleteShe is almost Oga Ruben Abati
DeleteChinwe Uban