Hmmmm s this enough reason to seek for a divorce???
Isaac, an Economics graduate, said he was no longer interested in the seven-year-old marriage, blessed with two children.
According to him, Oyindamola, who also has a B.Sc in Economics, is fond of disobeying him.
“Throughout the years after our marriage on March 20, 2011, my wife always disregard my instructions. I kept telling her things I don’t want repeatedly, but to her, I complain a lot and she more often than not went against my words,” he said.
He also claimed that she closed down the shop he rented for her after a year because she wanted a government job.
“My wife said she doesn’t want to be self-employed that she wants a government job. She turned down all my reasonable offers. But I know it’s an excuse to display her laziness.
“I have lost trust in her, Oyindamola is no longer my friend; please separate us,” he pleaded.
Oyindamola, 40, who did not deny her husband’s claims, said he misunderstood her intentions.
“All I wanted as a graduate was to work in a government organisation. The shop my husband got me, I appreciate it, but it wasn’t challenging enough. I just really wish to work in a government establishment,” Oyindamola said.
She explained that she does random jobs that earn her money, “but Isaac is the one who fends for my two kids and I. My husband is trying; I still want to be in this marriage. I don’t want to divorce my husband. Please, I pray for settlement.”
The presiding judges, Mrs. E.E Amuka-Pemu, Mrs. Yetunde Ogundo and Mrs. N.M Fashanu, advised the couple to maintain peace and adjourned till August 16.
from thenationonline
Uhm!!!
ReplyDeleteI don't know what they are going through but one thing I know is 'respect is reciprocal'.
I hope the man is not trying to suppress her. I also hope the wife is not disrespectful.
They should just sit down and deal with the issue that is bringing war. Maybe she doesn't like the business.
Seems you didn't read, you just jump to post.
DeleteEve the wife admit to what the husband is saying.
Seems you didn't read, you just jump to post.
DeleteEven the wife admit to what the husband is saying.
11:15 wife didn't admit to disrespect. She admitted she doesn't want to do shop owner
DeleteDon’t mind them! You will go to school and they will marry you and now put you in a shop. Soon he will be the same person to complain about male customers and accuse them of being her boyfriends. In this day and age where work is hard to find, if she wants to use her certificate and she has the opportunity to; why not let her? Majority of men that do this do it to keep their wife powerless. They feel she would have certain connections their that she wouldn’t have in customer/seller situation. Also, the shop he opened for her, he can always close it if they have a misunderstanding in the house but he can’t collect her government job from her. He said “disrespect”, I even thought he was going to say she shouts and claps on his head while insulting him everyday. Why can’t he respect her wishes too regarding what she wants to do for a living? What happened to supporting your spouse’s dreams?
DeleteDon't mind some men that want woman to be a doormat. I just started a relationship with one after enough beginning, I finally came to visit. If my phone ring na wahala. I pick calls trouble,WhatsApp messages he'll say my boyfriends are disturbing him . He talks to me as if am a child . I realised he wants a modern slave as a wife. I wasn't even bordered doing house chores for him but de way he talks to me is not how I wish to be talked to by a man I want to spend the rest of life with. So I wake o
DeleteIs it a shop or a shanty does the shanty even have an umbrella shade her from the sun the woman is lazy Kor nonsense at least the woman went to school have a little sense and know what she wants Nigerian marriages are just like bondages
Deleteshe has used her hand to scatter her home.
ReplyDeleteOga pls pardon her and give her one more chance for sake of the children. Perhaps she might turn a better wife.
ReplyDeleteEeyahhhh. Husband please forgive her and take her back
ReplyDeleteNo spark again . Madam if you can't submit, no need to be in the marriage.
ReplyDeleteexatly, if u cant submit to a man better remain for ur papa house, some women cant be loyal just bcus they earn more or they have admireres outside...
DeleteWhat if the man is provocative 🤔🤔🤔🤔
DeleteSubmissiveness isn’t in the way of career abeg! It’s not as if she’s abandoning a shop to become a stripper. At least he knew she went to school and she’s also a graduate when he married her. She just might not like the “mama so so and so’s shop” scenery. As a good and educated husband, can’t he support his wife’s career aspirations too? He sounds like a nagging kinda man to me
DeleteBut the move worked didnt it? She promised to change after the guy jolted her with the threat of divorce
ReplyDeleteEhya! Mr husband wants to run from responsibilities.
ReplyDeleteIt’s better dey divorce. Cos when he start betting her Na una go still complain. Divorce in peace and start your life again bro
ReplyDeleteAs in bet naija and naira bet. Is either their kiosk is not far from your house or you are a staker. Gbera gbera gbera
DeleteAppreciate the little things you have, why not manage the shop first and still be applying for a government job? Nawa o
ReplyDeleteShe did for a year but didn’t like it, she said it wasn’t challenging enough for her. Why force a grown woman into a career they don’t want?
DeleteYour husband wants a divorce you,you are asking the court to "force" him to stay with you. Till he starts pummeling you na then your eyes go clear.
ReplyDeleteI’m telling you tho! That man sounds like someone who can graduate into that o. Hmmmm
DeleteThe husband should allow her do the govt work if she is able to secure the job.
ReplyDeleteShe may not love trading or been self employed.What if he sets up a business for her and she can't account for thes whole thing?
Thank you. Some people think it's ok to insists on a career path for their wives. It's not ok. She's not a kid. She said she appreciates the shop. She didn't say it's making lots of money. I knew a guy that wanted his lawyer wife to stop her job and manage his business. She went to school for law for so many years and you want to take that away just like that
DeleteThat’s how my dad insisted that my mum stop her work to come work in his office. Something she built herself from scratch and was yielding profits. They had back and forth arguments for a while and even family meetings etc until my mum gave in. She did it fir a while and was bored because she just sat in the office, my dad still controlled everything except he now had more time to “flenjour” around all in the name of traveling for business meetings. My mum did grunt work and depended on him for money because he supposed she didn’t need to get paid as that will cut costs and he could be giving mum money for the home from his pocket anyways -when my mum could have been handling her business and bringing in the profits to join my dad’s profits too. It was as if the switch was used to confine my mum in one place while my dad travelled all over the world doing God knows what. The business was suffering due to excessive spending on my dad’s part (business you can conclude over the phone, my dad will decide to travel all over the place and use his downtime to explore new cultures, places and sceneries) and my mum’s accounting background couldn’t even help because it would turn into “how can you ask me how I’m spending my own money that I work hard for? Is it not for the family too? etc as if part of her job wasn’t to make sure business is making profit instead of loss. He just wanted her to waive a magic wand and forget the fact that his excessive spending was draining the company account. I guess he was enjoying too much to notice. My mom got tired of arguing and started another business on the side from the money off the lease because she had leased her previous one and the lease hadn’t ended yet. Dad complained but mom said that’s what brings her joy and she’s not abandoning his business, she’s just starting her little one too since she has nothing else to do apart from the accounting aspect which he’s not allowing her to do properly anyways. Dad would make jest of her business calling it mushroom, pet project etc. when his business hit hard times due to unnecessary spending, it was mom’s “mushroom” business that came to the family’s rescue. A lot of Nigerian women have different variations of stories like this where their husbands try to control them by controlling their careers, although a lot would not dare say it out or admit it for fear of retaliation or being called names by the society. If the wife doesn’t agree, she would be called disrespectful, disobedient, unappreciative, bad wife etc. It’s all a means to control. If you don’t want a wife that is career-minded and works, you should have married an illiterate then or at least one who didn’t go to university and doesn’t already have some form of career path. That man up there has more to his sleeve, the shop and even the divorce threat is meant to control the woman. If she stays in that marriage, she might be the one running for help in the future. At least my dad didn’t threaten divorce, he wasn’t even forceful about my mum’s move; he just used family meetings to pester her and when she decided to start another business later, he at first complained but didn’t try to get her to shut it down and it became a saving grace for the family several year later.
DeleteDivorce her pls, its better before DV sets in.
ReplyDeleteI hope the man will have mercy on her seems she doesn't want the marriage to be dissolve; I guess she is ready to respect him
ReplyDeleteShe want a government job because she knows that even if she doesn't go to work, she will always receive her salary. How can you close down a business you can build to your own taste and be independent and be crying for a government job? Everybody knows how they work, they go to work anytime and anyhow they like. Divorce and leave in peace
ReplyDeleteYour ignorance of government work is factory fitted and extral ordinary like Zeeworld. Chai
DeleteI don't think these two should be together any longer because they see life from very different perspectives. Except they both make an effort to meet each other half way, one or both of them will remain unhappy!
ReplyDeleteSo is she his child that anything he says must go in that way. Marriage is a partnership it is not a parent/child relationship. There is no boss. Why can they not rent out the shop and the woman go get a job with the government if that is what she desires. Marriage does not stop you from having your own personal ambitions and desires in life. At 40 she still has a lot of living to do and should be able have some personal achievements of her own.
ReplyDeleteGBAM!!
DeleteYou said it all
DeleteApparently, some men think a woman personal sense of fulfillment doesn’t count once she’s married to them..
ReplyDeleteThank God I married a different breed..
My husby like respect ehn, sometimes I'm mad and I give it to him hot
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