STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
LIE LIE BOYFRIEND
Good day ma'am. I don't know where you can post this or if you have an answer for me.
I just found out that my tear rubber boyfriend lied to me about his career. A very unnecessary lie in my honest opinion. The relationship barely kicked off and I've discovered a lie already.
I wouldn't have known if I did not snoop. He kept on defending his lie until I confronted him with irrefutable evidence. I'm not claiming to be a sinless, perfect person but there's something about lies.
Lies are like the parents of many other vices. Apart from this lie, he is largely a nice, warm, fun, loving person. He respects me, my choices and decisions.
With this discovery, I doubt if I'd ever be able to believe his past, present and future gists.
*Have you never lied before?...Not saying he is right oh,just asking!
*Have you never lied before?...Not saying he is right oh,just asking!
Awon eyan Pinochio
ReplyDeleteOoorrr.....somehow even in marriage you guys would lie to each other no matter what, but if you can't take his lies please let it go.
ReplyDeleteI died at tear rubber lol 😂.
ReplyDeleteWell as long as he is into something legitimate then talk to him about it and find out why he lied, perhaps he was trying to impress you. Ensure you talk to him about how much lies ruin a relationship and why you don’t want it to be the foundation for your new romance.
If this one lie you’ve discovered is a deal breaker then just walk away before you’d continue to use it against him in other issues that may arise.
Doppelganger as Agony Aunt. You make so much sense with your advise on Chronicle.
DeleteStella!Your response is epic.
ReplyDeleteIs he making money?
ReplyDeleteThats d most important, leave his lies abeg
Is it always about money?!?!!!! My goodness what about integrity/character??? Get the eff out of here with this money crap and make your own money!
DeleteIf he is an assassin thief as long as he makes money abi? Weh done
DeleteChronicles folder don dry trutru....
ReplyDelete#double-mtcheeeeewww to the poster!
NEXT!!
Did he lie that he was a driver with the UN whilst he works at Lagos state civil service?
ReplyDeleteD fuckery hasn't started anyway, maybe he was just testing d waters.
I have issue with someone that will lie over something as minor as a career Coz it will birth many major lies in the future. I mean when someone lie by upgrading a career eg saying you are a doctor when you are a receptionist. I can deal with someone that lie to downgrade heir career eg you are an engineer and tells me you are an elementary school teacher, Coz I will feel u just don't want to catch a gold digger lol
ReplyDeleteMy husband lies for a living, he lies unnecessarily and expect me to believe him when big issues come up. Remember when we came home for Christmas, and there was no bottle water at home. I wanted to go out go buy some, he said I shouldn't worry, that he will go get a few bottles from the guy across the road. He went and filled the empty bottles with pure water and put them in the fridge. I didn't notice this initially, let's say I didn't pay attention, till I opened another bottle but didn't hear kim noise. You know that click sound when you open a brand new bottle. I said to him, haaa how come I didn't hear any sound, I looked closely and realised that the bottle was filled to the brim which is a bit weird. They don't fill up their bottles that way and that definitely confirmed my worries. I asked if he's sure the guy he bought the water from, did't fill these up from tap water, he said no. He was defending them till one small voice said to me ' girl, you sure this isn't your husband's handwork?' I asked so many times if he was the one that filled up the bottles, he denied several times, before agreeing to filling them up with satchel water. The truth came when he saw I wasn't taking it anymore, but he spinned the whole thing around, and said he thought I knew he filled them up. What the fuck? and you watched me rant and accused the innocent seller of what he didn't do (I didn't go confronting the seller, only home rants). The guy has lied so many times about stupid things but this water one took the biscuit home, and he claimed to be a man of God. I don't believe anything that comes out of his mouth again. I'm afraid I will believe an outsider first before him. To be honest, this affected the love I have for him.
DeleteWhen you keep lying especially over things that don't really have repercussions per say, how do you expect your partner to trust you. How do you also expect to enjoy a relationship when there is no trust.
Lies in an early relationship especially in an aspect such as career is a No No. Poster, let it slide for now, but be cautious he might be hiding other things.
DeleteYour husband own na follow come.
DeleteIts in him like Peak.
Oh dear!@ anon 16:09, I really empathize with you. Trust is very essential in a relationship. You can only pray that he changes cos you are stuck with him. I really don't know why some guys derive joy in telling lies. Poster, you just need to be careful to know if he is a chronic liar or its a one of thing in packaging himself to you. If a chronic liar just retrace your steps jeje. All the best.
DeleteHahahaha, laugh don tear my belle, abeg Stella this is a stress reliever right here, ewo
DeleteWhat was he trying to prove please? Asin he filled the bottle with water? I don laugh today
It is well poster.Maybe he is intimidated by you. Not justifying his lies but you need to find out why and his motives behind it. Make una sort it out
ReplyDeleteThe heading made me to laugh. It is bad to start a new affairs with lies because it will continue like that.
ReplyDeleteSince you have discovered, leave him and look for someone but let your heart be strong because men are liars
And this is a chronicle?? Smh
ReplyDeletePoster you are telling us that your tie rubber boyfriend bu onye ntu onu???? Lol
ReplyDeleteAnd you doubt if you will ever believe him again because me and you know that na isigbugo onwe gi maka na I'm sure you have started believing him again.
NNE you will always believe so hapu this thing ina ako maka na obu asi ocha....
Lol
Shebi Simi sing say "lie for me if the truth will hurt"
What am I even saying... Let me come and be going
He lied over his career...sister run...maybe na armed robber self...or all this useless yahoo boys/men or fraudsters.... Abeg run
ReplyDeleteOkada driver?
ReplyDeleteI hate liars. personally that will be a deal breaker for me. If you can't be honest about what you do for a living then what else are you lying about?
ReplyDeleteMy guy has done all and all, but he doesn't lie. If he says no, then his no is no.
ReplyDeletejust say youve not caught him.He cant do all n all but dont lie.
DeletePlease forget that your Linus Mba of a boyfriend but if he is Rich you can manage him because broke guys also lie.
ReplyDeleteso people see no issue with someone lying very early in a relationship. must you wait for this to become a full chronicle?
ReplyDeleteEveryone has lie one way or the other.
ReplyDeleteSo chill dear poster...
Everyone is now claiming to be saints because they lie differently!
Delete... we've all lied no doubt, but some blatant lies can resurrect Lazarus for the second time.
ReplyDeleteAn exterminator will say "Lies are like cockroaches, if you find one be sure theres plenty more around a corner"... he was partially right.
The sad thing is its a new relationship & a single lie discovered is enough to create a doubt in every truth!!!
It depends on what he lied about and why, that is what you should find out. If he is doing a genuine job but not earning as much as you expected, then you can decide if you still want him in your life. Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteIt depends on the subject matter o that made him lie, how sure are u that the next tear rubber won't be their coach. As far as his good side is more than the bad side abeg manage him and make him to see reasons why he shouldn't lie to u.
ReplyDelete...abi poster, the guy dey sell palm oil come lie to you say he dey work for oil company?
ReplyDeleteor.
he dey sell stockfish come lie to you say he dey into stock exchange ?
I don't like lying and people lying to me especially when its not necessary. But a woman told me that a man in love can lie to you because he does not want to hurt you.
ReplyDeleteIf you cannot swallow the pill then have a chat with him.
I think lying is the perquisite for other vices.
ReplyDeleteAnyone that lies can steal, cheat and or commit other atrocities.
Talk to him, tell him to be real. NO FORMING OF WHAT HE'S NOT.
For every lie , there is always a lie to back it up.
Hope you know that?
If you do not mind staying in that type of atmosphere, then good luck.
You guys are giving advice and didn't ask what's the lie. Maybe he told her he was just a Yahoo guy by profession but she found out he was an armed-robber or ritualist. Everything is a profession in this naija.
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ReplyDeleteWell, I think this union, relationship or marriage needs some understanding. If you find they listed qualities in him, then you can still make him. There is always a reason for everything. If he truly fits into the qualities listed, then his lie may be a quest to impress you out of what he might not have at present. However, lies should not be justified. Talk to him about what you don't like and him being free and straight to tell you things the way it is. If you find him wanting beyond your expectations again, then you can go off the edge.
ReplyDeleteRemember ,no body is perfect. We all have also lied at some point in time to those who trusts us. If it was a thing of the eye for an eye, then none of us will have an eye by now. If you find true love in your heart for him, give him a chance, bare your minds to each other, this fosters knowledge, understanding and love required to make a true relationship healthy.
There is no perfect relationship anywhere, if you find one close to being perfect, especially if the guy or girl is humble enough to accept blame and courageous enough to make things right, then, God in heaven has not only remembered you, but has blessed you here on earth.
Hmmm, i remember my EX Fiance, He is based in Turkey and initially when he asked me out he told me he works in a company where they produce and sell security doors and i believed him without thinking twice, not until a month after i started noticing that hes always saying i'm at home anytime i ask of his where about then i summoned the courage to ask him what he truly does for a living, then he confessed he's a YAHOO BOY i was so angry because i wouldn't have dated him if i knew from the start that he's into such. I even reported him to his MUM the woman had to say "KO MEAN OWO OYINBO NI" dat day i died nd woke up again,he promised me he was going to stop the Fraudulent Act after so much wahala from me nd we did Introduction, two days after the intro this guy was with a lady in an hotel,the lady called to inform me, i still wonder how she got my number and the guy beats me like hell it was only God that saved me because it wasn't easy for me then all bcos i didn't wanna be put to shame on my street bcos everyone knew about the intro the guy is a bastard cheat as in he cheats like mad nd sends money to different girls like father Christmas,he lives his life basically on IG,FB MESSENGER,SNAPCHAT nd WHATSAPP dat he even asked my best friend out nd he taught that one would not tell me. i had to pick raise from the whole shit when he infected me with Staphylococcus and he still cheats like mad till date,i do not envy anyone hes dating right now cos shes also in for the guys family wahala nd the mums oju aiye, awon iya oko bornvita, she's only concerned about the gifts i get for her and quickly supports her son even if he cheats nd beats me nd clearly at fault, nd he once told me that it was his Dads 3rd wife that killed his dad at 54years i just hope he doesn't let affliction rise the 2nd time. Ladies Beware of who you date!!!
ReplyDeleteChoi
DeleteExactly my story...and thankfully you have a good girlfriend... my useless friend went ahead and slept with him under my nose
Lessons learnt
The fact that he beats you alone is enough to leave ah ahnnn. How do people open their eyes to marry someone that is already beating them even before marriage...it boggles the mind.
DeleteWe thank God you have seen the light. Please never ever ever ever get back with him. Dont listen to fear of getting old, family pressure, loneliness and decide to "manage " him. There is someone out thre better for you. A word is enough for the wise.
if he accepted that he was wrong and sincerely has being trying to make up for it, give him a chance. Forgive him and talk it straight with him,to be real, to be self to you. It's not always justifiable to use a slag hammer to kill an ant over issues that if weighed could be trival. Well, it's your personal issue that has become public, opinions will differ about your response, but you have the final say. Apply morals to you decisions if you still love this guy, for all have lied at some point in time too.
ReplyDeleteLying about your career is major...am sure there are other lies yet uncovered....can’t believe people here are making it sound like u should just overlook it....be careful and get out fast if u are not comfortable before you get so entangled in love......avoid stories that touch the heart in future
ReplyDeleteExactly. The earlier the better. Aren't you glad you guys are not married?
DeleteThey are always nice. There are way too many men out there to be accepting lies in the beginning. Men who lie are a HUGEEEEEEEEEE NO. All these women talking will tell you that a lot of the men who lied to them early on were bad news later on.
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