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REASONS FOR STOPPING CHURCH

Good day Stella,

You asked on Sunday SP who is not going to church and why.
Well,I haven't been going to my church for over a month now.Before I stopped,I have been feeling uneasy about how things are done in my church. I have been a member since 2009 but relocated two years ago to another state.

 The way things are done here is actually different from what I have seen in other branches I had previously attended .I am over worked,we practically have programs everyday in church that ends late,Sunday service ends 2-3pm and I work in a bank.I don't have time for anything,after work,church activities.I was asked if i would handle house fellowship on Saturdays,and I said I can't yet I was forced to.I asked to drop the fellowship for choir practise but I was told I can't drop anything in the house of God.I love serving God but I don't want to do full time ministry.

 If I miss any,I am usually told that if my work stops me from attending church programs, I should quit the job.No free will giving,it is target giving and is usually higher depending on your job type.It got so worse that I didn't have savings and constantly struggle to send money home.I dare not fall sick,when I do,I am told that I allowed the devil into my life.I started to speak out,I talked about helping those who are not working, I talked about visiting members because we want to know about their challenges not because we want them to increase their givings or tithe,I was termed rebellious.

I love giving, I am a faithful tither but I don't like being enforced to give beyond my desire, I should be motivated to give more and not forced to. I get insulted when I give less than the target I was given.My Pastor doesn't even know by job role,my family challenges ,my career aspirations but pesters me when I fail to meet up with my givings target. I have failed to help families and friends because almost all my salary goes to my church target. My fiancé attends same branch with me and when I told Pastor about his intentions, I was summon to the headquarters. I was told we can't marry cos he doesn't give much in church,does not dress fancy, my job is more stable than his(he lost his job and started his own business which is already doing well),and might be after me because I work in a bank .

This is someone that met me when I was jobless.He pays for my hair,gives me transport fare and feeding when I started working newly and still does, made sure everyone he knew opened an account with me(I started as a marketer and my church members refused opening account stating they don't like my bank).He goes to my place and do my laundry and cooks(he is a chef)when i am at work because his job was flexible then and i close late most times and work Saturday and Sundays at times especially when expecting auditors.The Pastor told me told me to stop seeing him and if am eager to marry,they could arrange someone for me,I told him,its not like we are rushing to get married now ,we are both building our careers and businesses (I also do catering services,liquid soap).

We know how important finances is in marriage.l continued going to church although we saw less cos of my job and his new business,but we make out time to talk and plan for our future. I don't feel fulfilled,most times our prayer point is all about the targets we are giving and then evangelism.No one is asking how you are really doing?i am on probation at work cos i am not meeting up with my target,they know i work based on target and have never asked if i met my target this month or not.My guy is the quiet type,he gives what he wants to give so they rarely bother him since they know he is not doing something big.He hasn't forced me to go back to the church, he still goes.

He said I should do whatever makes me happy.My former Pastor came to see me and said I can go to any other branch if I don't like my current one.I can't do that,the branches here is 5,we all meet at our headquarters church at least once a month ,its a small state and everybody knows everybody.I didn't deliberately stop church.i closed late and couldn't attend weekly service,then the weekend,i travelled for a job and that was how a leader called and insulted me that i am feeling so big to attend church and what i sent for my target was too small.he said he is aware of how much i was paid for the job i went for so i shouldn't give him any excuse.I just stopped going.

Talks are already going round that maybe my pastor offended me,maybe my leader offended me,maybe because they asked me not to marry my guy,maybe because I am making so much money and I feel I have arrived( I am a contract staff oh and my salary is 75k a month).All these while that i have not been going,they still send messages asking for recharge card to me(blocked the number),one of the members even came to my office to collect money for program.Are they asking me back because am going the wrong way or cos of my giving?i am not offended by the words of any leader,i just think things should not be so.i don't want to be in a place,where i can't obey their rules ,i know the anointing can work for one and i also know it can work against one.

I love the church but I don't like my branch.

 

*Jesus!!!